Revolutionise Your Love Life

In this warm, candid and deeply human conversation for the Revolutionise Your Love Life podcast, I speak with couples therapists and relationship coaches Matt Albiges and Rebeca Pereira about what it really takes to create a lasting, loving romantic relationship. We explore their own love story, from meeting on an NLP training course and later “bumping into” one another on the London Underground, to the deeper inner work that helped them become not just partners in love, but partners in purpose.What I found so moving about this conversation was their honesty. Matt and Rebeca speak with real tenderness about the places where they have had to grow: slowing down, speeding up, learning to feel safe, honouring protective parts, understanding masculine and feminine energies, and making time for play, humour, intimacy and presence. Their relationship is not presented as perfect. It is something alive, conscious, intentional and lovingly tended.This episode is a beautiful reminder that love can become a place of healing, growth and joyful partnership when both people are willing to meet themselves, and each other, with courage, curiosity and care.Key Takeaways1. A good relationship is created, not simply foundMatt and Rebeca remind us that love does not flourish by accident. Like any meaningful area of life, relationship requires attention, learning, humility and practice. If we believe that the “right” relationship should always feel easy, we may miss the deeper invitation to grow.2. Inner work changes the whole relationship dynamicRebeca speaks powerfully about learning to recognise her own trauma responses and protective parts, rather than acting from them unconsciously. Matt shares how he had learned to detach and “zone out” in a previous relationship, and how Rebeca helped him reclaim playfulness, confidence and emotional presence.3. Curiosity is one of the great medicines of loveRather than assuming they know what the other means, Matt and Rebeca ask questions. “Can you help me understand?” becomes a bridge. Curiosity softens defensiveness and helps partners come back into connection.4. Humour can heal when there is enough safetyTheir relationship is full of laughter, but Matt wisely offers a warning: humour only works when it comes from warmth and respect. In a painful or disconnected relationship, humour can easily become sarcasm, dismissal or mockery.5. Intimacy needs both togetherness and spaceOne of the most striking parts of the conversation is their commitment to both closeness and individuality. They make time for dates, museums, long lunches and playful moments together, while also honouring separate bedrooms, solo interests, friendships and time apart. There is enough space for each person to breathe, and enough devotion to keep choosing one another.Reference Material Mentioned Aligned With Love: Matt and Rebeca’s relationship coaching and couples therapy work can be found at alignedwithlove.net. Their work includes the Relationship Breakthrough Programme and resources for couples and individuals. (Buzzsprout) Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Matt Albiges: Matt’s book is listed on Amazon as Should I Stay or Should I Go?: From Relationship Clash to Clarity in 5 Simple Steps. (Amazon) About Matt Albiges and Rebeca PereiraMatt and Rebeca are couples therapists and relationship coaches based in London. Together, they help couples and individuals transform relationship difficulties into deeper connection, clarity, passion and love through their work at Aligned With Love. They are the hosts of The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Matt & Rebeca, and Matt is the author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?: From Relationship Clash to Clarity in 5 Simple Steps. They have also been featured in broadcast and print media, including the BBC.About Your HostI married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unravelled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. 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In this special episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is interviewed by Matt about a new paradigm in dating and relationships, and what it really takes to choose and create “the relationship of your life”. Heather shares her own turning point, from being a long-time psychotherapist who still found love elusive, to doing Calling in “The One” herself after a lonely Valentine’s Day in 2016. Together, they explore why awareness alone is not enough, how core beliefs like “I am alone” quietly shape your choices, and why healing your inner “young self” stops you turning partners into parents. They also discuss Heather’s work in Conscious Uncoupling, and how to end relationships with dignity, stability and as much peace as possible, especially when children are involved. More support and resources can be found at Heathergarbutt.com.Key takeaways Awareness isn’t transformation. Knowing your patterns helps, but change requires tools, practice and support so you can behave differently when you are triggered. Core beliefs drive your love life. Beliefs like “I am alone” can make you miss love, help and connection even when it is offered, and can keep you over-functioning in relationships. Chemistry can be a clue, not a sign. Intense attraction often pulls you towards what is familiar, including emotional unavailability and old heartbreak patterns. Heal the “young self” so you stop dating from childhood needs. When your inner child is driving, you can unconsciously try to make a partner into a parent, which damages intimacy and can tip into power and control dynamics. Conscious Uncoupling creates a calmer ending and a better future. The goal is to reduce competitiveness and blame, stabilise emotionally, clear the air where safe, and build workable agreements, especially for co-parenting. Mentioned in the episode Calling in “The One” (Katherine Woodward Thomas) Conscious Uncoupling (Katherine Woodward Thomas) Eight Dates by John & Julie Gottman The Five Love Languages (love languages quiz) About Matt:Matt Albiges is a qualified therapist and relationship expert who uses techniques including coaching and NLP. He describes being motivated by “that moment” when a client commits to turning their relationship, and life, around. His work is shaped by his own journey through challenging relationships, followed by a deep dive into understanding what makes relationships work. He has also worked extensively in organisational change, and notes that many common challenges are mindset-based, which informs his relationship work.About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.See all podcast episodes here.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt sits down with Marina Love, a solution-focused hypnotherapist who works with high-achieving, self-aware people who look “fine” on the outside but feel overwhelmed, stuck or emotionally drained on the inside. Together they explore why relationships can start to feel like hard work when your life is ticking along, and how chronic low-level stress quietly pushes the nervous system into survival mode. Marina explains how fight, flight and freeze show up in everyday relating, why the brain becomes hypervigilant and obsessive when it senses threat, and how small, practical steps can rewire the brain towards calm, connection and emotional presence. More resources and episodes are available at Heathergarbutt.com.Key takeaways Coping isn’t the same as calm. Stress can build slowly as a “low hum” under life’s demands, leaving you surviving rather than thriving, even when everything looks OK on paper.  Survival mode makes love feel threatening. When the nervous system is overloaded, the brain scans for danger, reads meaning into tiny cues, and can turn partners into “intimate enemies”.  Fight, flight, freeze shows up in relationships. Arguments, withdrawal, people-pleasing, avoidance, overthinking and emotional distance often map directly to threat responses, not “personality flaws”.  Your brain can’t tell imagination from reality. Under stress, the mind creates scenarios, then the body reacts as if they are true, fuelling adrenaline, cortisol, guilt and shame.  Small actions change the chemistry. Practical, manageable steps build momentum and dopamine (reward and progress), reduce cortisol, and help the thinking brain come back online, improving communication and connection.  Mentioned in this episode Solution-focused hypnotherapy (future-focused, practical, nervous-system calming work)   The role of dopamine (progress/reward) vs cortisol/adrenaline (stress response)  About Marina:Marina Love is a solution-focused hypnotherapist supporting high-achieving, self-aware clients who feel capable externally but internally overwhelmed, stuck or emotionally depleted, often noticing the impact most strongly in relationships. Her work is grounded in neuroscience, nervous system regulation, and practical steps that help clients move out of survival mode into a calmer, more energised and emotionally present way of living, without needing to revisit the past. About Heather:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.See all podcast episodes here.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is joined by Catalina, a psychotherapist from Romania who supports survivors and thrivers of narcissistic abuse. Together they explore what it takes to rebuild trust after coercion and gaslighting, and how to date intentionally so you do not repeat old patterns. Heather shares the core principles of Calling in “The One” and Conscious Uncoupling, including why the first relationship to strengthen is the one you have with yourself, how to discern safely (especially online), and why going slowly is not caution, it is wisdom. Find more support and resources at Heathergarbutt.com.Key takeaways Go slowly and date from your adult self. After abuse, the nervous system can confuse intensity with connection. “Chemistry” can be the ignition of an old pattern, not a green flag. Discernment is a skill. Watch behaviour, not promises. Notice how someone treats service staff, how they speak about ex partners and family, and whether their values actually match yours. Know what you want, and how you want to feel. Focus on character and values (kindness, respect, trustworthiness, warmth), not surface traits. Beware love bombing. People who have been starved of safety and tenderness can be especially vulnerable to fast praise, fast intimacy, and big future talk. Do your emotional work first. Without healing, “gut instinct” can be pulled by familiarity rather than truth. The work is to become grounded, resourced, and sovereign. About Catalina:Catalina is a Romanian psychotherapist specialising in individual and group work, with a particular focus on helping women and men recover from narcissistic abuse. Her approach is deeply compassionate, practical, and rooted in restoring voice, safety, and self-trust so survivors can move from coping to thriving.About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.See all podcast episodes here.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt speaks with Prem Glidden, coach and author of Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love and Be Loved, about what it really means to become available for love. Together they explore how early-life messages like “I’m not lovable” can quietly shape adult dating and relationships, why “chemistry” can sometimes be a trauma signal rather than a soulmate sign, and how living from possibility changes what you allow, what you choose, and what you can receive. Prem also shares her own story, including meeting her beloved Bob and marrying at 67, as proof that it is never too late to create a relationship that feels safe, real, and deeply nourishing. (More resources and support can be found at Heathergarbutt.com.)Key takeaways Availability starts with you. If you want love that is steady and secure, the first relationship to strengthen is the one you have with yourself. Treat your inner parts gently. Trauma responses are protective. When you meet them with compassion (not force), you stop being run by old patterns. Do not outsource worthiness. Looking to a partner to prove your value turns dating into quicksand. Self-trust is what creates solid ground. Let truth lead, not the “high”. That rush of intensity can be familiar dysfunction. Slow down, discern, and choose from your wisest adult self. Love is co-created. Healthy relationships are built through communication, repair, respect, and shared responsibility, not perfection. About Prem:Prem Glidden is a Calling in The One coach and one of the first certified True You coaches trained by Catherine Woodward Thomas. She helps people graduate from old stories that keep love at a distance and step into a life led by aliveness, agency, and self-trust. Prem is the author of Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love and Be Loved and shares her work at premglidden.com.About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.See all podcast episodes here.

In this heartfelt episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is joined by Cătălina Popoveniuc, a Romanian psychotherapist with 23 years of experience supporting survivors and thrivers of narcissistic abuse. Catalina shares her own lived journey from surviving a narcissistic family system and multiple narcissistic relationships to reclaiming her voice and building a life that feels bright, free, and fully hers. Together, they talk candidly about the realities of gaslighting, cultural stigma, and the practical steps that help someone move from confusion and fear into safety, clarity, and self-trust, so thriving becomes possible.Key takeaways Gaslighting is designed to fracture reality. Catalina shares how prolonged gaslighting can leave someone doubting their perception and sanity, even years later, and why naming it matters. Empathy without boundaries can be exploited. Both Heather and Catalina discuss how caring, empathic people are often targeted, and why early boundary-setting is not harsh, it is self-respect. Safety first, then strategy. Catalina emphasises planning: legal advice, therapeutic support, and a trusted network before leaving, especially when the risk of escalation is real. Post-separation abuse is a real risk. Leaving is not always the end of the manipulation, which is why specialised support and informed legal guidance are essential. Thriving means rebuilding identity. After abuse, many people do not know what they like, need, or want. Healing includes rediscovering preferences, strengths, work options, and a future that feels life-giving. About Cătălina:Cătălina Popoveniuc, a psychotherapist specialising in individual and group therapy, with a particular focus on supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse - both women and men.With 23 years of experience working with people, she has developed a deeply human,compassionate, and supportive approach, grounded in empathy and genuine respect for each person’s path.For Cătălina, it’s essential that every client feels heard, seen, and understood.About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

A hundred episodes in, and their hearts are full. To celebrate this milestone Heather is joined by her dear friend Monica, who turns the tables and is host for the 100th episode of Revolutionside Your Love Life. They look back at the most transformative themes, the letters you have sent, and the shifts that happen when we treat ourselves with care and choose love from our adult self. They talk about power and control dynamics, why chemistry alone can mislead us, and how visioning and conscious uncoupling open space for healthy partnership. Heather shares what this work has changed in her, the mission that keeps the fire hose of purpose flowing, and a simple message for anyone who feels hopeless about love. It is never too late, and you are enough.Key takeaways The relationship with yourself is the foundation. How you speak to yourself, tend to younger parts, and set boundaries shapes every choice you make in love. Discernment over chemistry. A lightning bolt can be an old pattern re-igniting. Ask, do I feel safe, seen and at home. Watch whether words and actions match. Name your vision and let it guide you. Get clear on values, lifestyle, and how you want to feel five years in. Choose slowly with support from trusted friends or a coach. When it is not working, end well. Conscious uncoupling protects children, communities and your future heart. Favour resolution, clear boundaries and adult-to-adult dialogue. Hold a bigger mission for love. Visibility takes courage, but sharing real tools and stories helps more people find warm, mutual and lasting relationships. About Heather:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.About MonicaMonica Douglas is a spirit-led relationship coach, interfaith minister, and founder of the Wild Wisdom of Relationships framework. With over 25 years of experience, she supports heart-led individuals to heal from heartbreak, reset their relationships, and thrive in love. Her work integrates ritual, coaching, spiritual practice, and tools like her Wild Wisdom Oracle cards and relationship cycle quiz.

In this heartfelt conversation, host Heather Garbutt welcomes coach Jessica Yip, a Calling in The One and True You Coach who helps high-achieving people trade old stories for living, breathing love. Jessica shares the belief that shaped her early life, 'I am alone', and how integrity, self-responsibility and learning to receive transformed her dating and her partnership with Trevor. Together they explore slow, conscious dating, repairing family bonds, practical communication, and the everyday negotiations that make real love feel safe and alive.Key Takeaways Integrity as wholeness: Alignment between values and behaviour creates the conditions for healthy love. Walk your talk in every relationship, including family. From chemistry to choice: Notice overgiving, rescuing and low standards. Believe people when they say they are not available. Date slowly and test for consistency. Heal the root to change the fruit: Naming early beliefs like I am alone and speaking honestly with family can release lifelong patterns and expand capacity for intimacy. Live your life fully: Claim the place, creativity and community that are true for you. Alignment magnetises compatible partners. Relationship is a practice: Agree workable systems for contact, chores and sleep. Ask for help, receive it, and communicate preferences without blame. About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.About Jessica:Jessica Yip is the coach for hardworking people who feel like they’ve ticked all the success boxes in life but are aching for more love and joy.As a leading Calling in “The One” Coach, and now as one of the first certified True You Coaches personally trained by Katherine Woodward Thomas, Jessica helps clients graduate from old stories and painful patterns that keep love at a distance. She brings over a decade of experience blending transformative coaching, somatic attunement and relational skill-building to help you reconnect with your aliveness, agency and power to create healthy relationships, meaningful experiences, and the delicious life and love you’ve always longed for.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt welcomes relationship and self-awareness coach Lisa Hawkins to explore the idea of the “picker” - the often unconscious part that chooses romantic partners. Through candid life stories, Lisa illustrates how chemistry can be a signal of familiarity rather than health, how covert and overt abuse can masquerade as niceness, and why building a steadier inner compass matters. Together they offer practical ways to tune into intuition, track red flags, and let the adult self lead so love becomes honest, respectful and safe.Key takeaways Chemistry is not always compatibility. Heightened euphoria often reflects familiar dysfunction rather than true fit. Calm evaluation over time gives clearer answers. Match words with actions. A healthy picker notices when promises and behaviour diverge, and treats repeated mismatches as red flags. Journal to trust your intuition. Writing down early signals and reviewing them later helps reveal patterns that the heart may prefer to overlook. Do not carry the whole relationship. If one partner holds all the emotional labour, accountability and repair, the bond will tilt toward resentment and harm. Let the adult self choose. Practices such as brief meditation on “What do I feel, what do I need?” and parts awareness help ensure younger survival strategies are not driving the car. About Your Host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Lisa Lisa Hawkins is a relationship and self-awareness coach, and the founder of Consciously Awake Counseling. For over 26 years, she’s been passionate about the human experience – why we love, how we connect, and what gets in the way. She works with both men and women to awaken the part of themselves that already knows how to love deeply, freely, and consciously.Through spiritual inquiry, emotional accountability, and her signature Pause Method, Lisa helps people question old beliefs, shift their patterns, and create authentic relationships – starting with the one they have with themselves. Her work is about truth, healing, and connection at a higher level.Whether you’re navigating love, healing from heartbreak, or learning to trust yourself again, Lisa brings wisdom, presence, and a deep respect for the human experience.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks with therapist Lou Lachman about how early attachment experiences shape adult relationships and self-connection. Lou shares their history of rotating caregivers within a cult, how that fracture in attachment led to people-pleasing and self-erasure in love, and the practices that now support authentic relating. They discuss the fawn response, learning to speak needs without fear, parts work, and becoming your own “marriage arranger” so choices come from an adult, regulated place rather than from younger parts.Key takeaways: Early attachment informs both how we connect to others and how we connect to ourselves. Repairing self-attachment requires time, practice, and compassionate awareness. The fawn response looks like saying whatever keeps the peace. It prevents truth, blocks differentiation, and slowly erodes intimacy. Parts work helps identify the age and need behind a reaction. Lou’s Heart Holding practice meets that part with reassurance, which creates space for adult choice. Be your own marriage arranger. Choose partners who align with your values, help you feel larger and steadier, and can tolerate ordinary conflict. Healing is amplified in community. Small, facilitated circles provide co-regulation, shared courage, and faster integration. About Your Host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Lou Lachman Lou is accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and accredited by the EFT and Matrix Re-imprinting Academy. She first trained in Core Process Psychotherapy, a Buddhist Psychology based training. She has over 30 years of experience in counselling and psychotherapy, having worked with people in hospitals, doctor’s surgeries, agencies, prisons and private practice. She has also trained and practised as an addiction counsellor.They value their personal recovery from attachment trauma as a core credential alongside formal training. Lou calls their approach Embody Freedom, blending parts-informed practice with body-based healing. They facilitate intimate healing circles and one-to-one work. Lou has this great ebook resource for you here: https://energycounselling.co.uk/heart-holding-reassurance/ This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

Welcome to this festive episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life. Christmas can stir up pressure to couple up, say yes to the wrong person, and slip back into old family roles. In this solo, Heather shares a grounded guide to intentional dating through the holidays, how to spot values you can build a relationship on, and how to stay in your calm, capable adult self at family gatherings. She closes with a simple “family meeting” ritual so the season feels considered, kind, and genuinely joyful.Key Takeaways Do not date to soothe seasonal pressure. Date with the same standards you want to live with in January. Choose calm over chaos. Reliable warmth beats intoxicating drama. Scan for values: trust, respect, follow-through, kindness to staff and family, clean history with exes, aligned life plans. Stay in your adult self around relatives. Do not engage the old child roles. Run a short family meeting so everyone feels seen and Christmas feels intentional. If you are ready to start dating with intention, get your hands on my Delicious Dating Guides and kiss the single life goodbye:https://heathergarbutt.com/kiss-the-single-life-goodbye/About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching. Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtThis podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this rich and practical conversation, success and money blocks coach Shilleen Wilson explores how our subconscious worthiness set point quietly dictates what we allow in love and money. Heather and Shilleen look at why we repeat patterns, how tests show up just before a breakthrough, and the powerful link between safety, savings and secure attachment. You will learn how to set a clear intention, listen to your body, and choose relationships and money goals that honour your values. Expect grounded tools, compassion for where you came from, and permission to be whole and complete as you call in love and prosperity.Key Takeaways You have a subconscious worthiness set point that caps what you allow in relationships and income. Tests often appear just before a breakthrough. Hold your standard and say no to what does not align. Savings map to safety. Build inner safety and you raise your capacity to hold love and money. Think of your emotions as a bank account. Choose partners who deposit, not drain. You are already whole and complete. Start generating the feelings you seek now. Many blocks are inherited. Compassion for yourself and your parents helps to release them. Do the inner work to receive more. Awareness raises your set point. About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout ShilleenAn expert in her field and a multi business owner, Shilleen Wilson is an award-winning Success & Money Blocks coach.Shilleen’s mission is to emotionally and financially empower women, guiding you torid yourself of your invisible money and success blocks, tap into your empowermentenergy flow so that you can live a life of comfort and freedom and inspire thegenerations that followShe guides you to make more money in alignment with how you are made.She addresses procrastination, overwhelm, exhaustion and stagnant income, gets tothe root of your hidden blocks and moves you from a place of stuckness to richempowerment.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this third conversation with Daniel Ryan (“That Family Law Guy”) on Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks to Daniel on how UK family court proceedings affect children during divorce and separation. Daniel describes two common harms: children either knowing far too much about parental conflict or being kept entirely in the dark for months or years. Together they discuss the absence of emotional considerations in legal processes, the limits of current social work input, and orders that unintentionally make children “live out of a suitcase.” They consider better approaches such as collaborative, multi-disciplinary models that put children’s needs first and keep them appropriately informed. Practical guidance is offered for parents on protecting children’s sense of home, continuity, and belonging throughout proceedings.Key Takeaways:Children need continuity and a sense of home. Frequent moves and split days satisfy adults but erode a child’s stability.Appropriate inclusion beats secrecy. Keeping children completely uninformed breeds anxiety and confusion; share age-appropriate updates.Court is one-dimensional. It applies law, not emotion; outcomes often neglect the lived experience of children.Design schedules around the child’s week. Prioritise school routines, rest, friendships, and unhurried time with each parent.Aim for collaborative solutions. Multi-disciplinary, therapeutic approaches can protect children better than adversarial processes.About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Daniel:Dan is ‘That Family Law Guy’. He has worked extensively in both the Family Court and the Civil Court, and has received several awards recognising his work. Dan is a Professional McKenzie Friend and his approach is empathetic and sensitive and his view is that our clients do not come to us in order to leave without tangible change.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, I am joined again by Daniel Ryan where we explore how many fathers are sidelined in UK family courts. Daniel shares how set up and procedure can disadvantage dads, the rise of parental alienation and lawfare, and why children need time rich relationships with both parents. We compare burdens of proof, discuss legal aid disparities, the misuse of police processes, and practical steps fathers can take to protect their relationship with their children.Key Takeaways:Parental alienation is recognised as abuse. It weaponises children and can sever a child’s bond with a good father.Process can become punishment. Allegations that lead to arrest and bail can exclude dads from home, work and children, even when there is no further action.Preparation is power. Detailed timelines, evidence, and a supportive tribe give fathers the best chance to protect meaningful, time rich relationships with their children.About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Daniel:Dan is ‘That Family Law Guy’. He has worked extensively in both the Family Court and the Civil Court, and has received several awards recognising his work. Dan is a Professional McKenzie Friend and his approach is empathetic and sensitive and his view is that our clients do not come to us in order to leave without tangible change.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this episode of Revolutionise your podcast, Heather talks to Daniel Ryan to explore how vulnerable mums are treated in family court, what the court recognises as domestic abuse, and the stark difference between criminal court and family court. Daniel explains coercive and controlling behaviour under the Domestic Abuse Act 2021, the burden of proof on the balance of probabilities, and why hearings can feel like a second ordeal. We discuss safeguarding children, emotional preparation, and how to build practical and therapeutic support through the process.Key Takeaways:Domestic abuse in law, courts recognise physical, verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse, with coercive and controlling behaviour now widely acknowledged.Burden of proof, criminal court needs beyond reasonable doubt, family court decides on the balance of probability, one judge, no jury, which makes proving allegations complex for traumatised mums.Surviving the process, hearings can retraumatise, plan support early, gather your tribe, protect your children with clear, age appropriate communication, and build steadiness between hearings.About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Daniel:Dan is 'That Family Law Guy'. He has worked extensively in both the Family Court and the Civil Court, and has received several awards recognising his work. Dan is a Professional McKenzie Friend and his approach is empathetic and sensitive and his view is that our clients do not come to us in order to leave without tangible change.

In this nourishing episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks with deep mind transformation expert Cathy Hargreaves about what self love really is, how to recognise it, and how to grow it in everyday life. Cathy shares how early messages shape our self worth, why kindness outperforms criticism, and how the smallest acts of care create powerful positive feedback loops. Together they offer simple practices for busy women and men, ways to honour needs without guilt, and a fresh look at boundaries, rest, and celebration. Expect warmth, practicality, and a gentle invitation to treat yourself as someone you love.Key Takeaways:Self love shows in your tone to yourself. Swap harshness for steady kindness and watch confidence grow.The smallest acts count. One glass of water, one early night, one song in traffic, and your nervous system settles.You were born worthy. Unlearn what says otherwise and your gifts flow more freely into work, family and love.About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Cathy:Deep Mind Transformation | Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT) | AdvancedConversational Hypnosis | Energy Practitioner (QRIT)Cathy helps women unlock their inner confidence by clearing old patterns, reconnectingwith their truth, and creating a life that feels light, joyful, and deeply fulfilling. She believeshealing doesn’t have to be heavy or overwhelming - it can be gentle, uplifting, and stillpowerfully transformative.As a trauma-informed intuitive healer, rapid transformational therapist, and energypractitioner, Cathy blends powerful mind work with intuitive guidance to help her clientsfeel calmer, clearer, and more themselves.

In this heartening episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather welcomes relationship and self awareness coach Lisa Hawkins to explore how our bodies guide us in dating. Lisa shares how a calm surface can hide clenched fists and jaw, why the nervous system is drawn to what is familiar, and how to retrain it towards healthy connection. Together they offer gentle, practical steps to build conscious awareness, use journalling and Lisa’s Pause Method, and give yourself space before saying yes to more. They also speak about releasing long held emotion from the body and choosing curiosity over criticism. This is a kind conversation for anyone who wants to date with self respect, steadiness and joy.Key Takeaways Your body tells the truth kindly. Clenched hands and tight jaw can speak louder than a smooth surface calm. Do not book the second date on the first. Give your brain and body time to settle so choice can be clear. Curiosity heals. Journalling, pausing and gentle questions move you from old patterns to healthy partnership. About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Laura:Lisa Hawkins is a relationship and self-awareness coach, and the founder of Consciously Awake Counseling. For over 26 years, she’s been passionate about the human experience - why we love, how we connect, and what gets in the way. She works with both men and women to awaken the part of themselves that already knows how to love deeply, freely, and consciously.  Through spiritual inquiry, emotional accountability, and her signature Pause Method, Lisa helps people question old beliefs, shift their patterns, and create authentic relationships - starting with the one they have with themselves. Her work is about truth, healing, and connection at a higher level.Whether you're navigating love, healing from heartbreak, or learning to trust yourself again, Lisa brings wisdom, presence, and a deep respect for the human experience.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this soulful and enlightening conversation, Heather is joined by nutritional therapist and well-being expert Laura de la Harpe. We dive into the deep waters of midlife transition - exploring the powerful emotional and physiological changes that unfold during menopause and andropause. Together, we uncover why so many relationships falter during these years and how understanding, support, and awareness can turn disruption into growth. Whether you're navigating your own journey or witnessing your partner's, this episode offers real insight, compassion, and practical wisdom.Key Takeaways: 60% of divorces happen during perimenopause – not because love disappears, but because long-held truths surface once hormonal cushioning drops. Men and women both go through hormonal transitions that impact mood, libido, energy, and communication – it’s not just “a women’s issue.” The importance of communication – understanding each other’s experiences can restore intimacy and avoid blame or shame during this life stage. About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Laura:Laura de la Harpe is a Nutritional Therapist with nearly two decades of clinical experience, bringing a clear, compassionate and evidence-based approach to health and wellbeing. After 15 years in corporate IT, she retrained in 2006 and has since become a trusted voice in the media, appearing as a nutrition and wellness expert on BBC Radio, Sky News, BBC News, ITV News and The Victoria Derbyshire Show. She has also featured as Radio 5 Live’s Midnight Expert and presents on Kennet Radio.Laura delivers engaging health and wellbeing seminars and webinars, and is a member of the Institute for Functional Medicine since 2015. Her specialist training includes DNA Life practitioner certification, Metabolic Balance Practitioner and weight loss coaching since 2011. She supports clients with hormonal health, energy, weight management and longevity, pairing practical nutrition with kind, steady coaching.Life has given Laura deep empathy for the midlife journey. She is a mum of three adult children, navigated thyroid cancer in the midst of menopause, separated in 2017, and remarried in 2025. She works online and in person, meeting people where they are and helping them feel better, think clearly and thrive.

In this nourishing episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather sits with Nutritional Therapist Laura de la Harpe to make sense of menopause and perimenopause in everyday terms. They explore common symptoms, why they happen, and the simple, kind choices that help you feel more like yourself. Expect practical food ideas, stress soothing, sleep wisdom and thoughtful guidance on tests, HRT options and relationship tenderness.Key Takeaways: Small daily choices make a big difference. Calmer plates, earlier suppers and a slower start often mean fewer flushes and clearer heads. Gut first. Regular, comfortable bowels support hormones, mood and sleep. Probiotics and fibre rich foods really help. Tender communication keeps couples close. Naming what is happening to your body turns pressure into partnership. About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of ArtAbout Laura:Laura de la Harpe  is a Nutritional Therapist with nearly two decades of clinical experience, bringing a clear, compassionate and evidence-based approach to health and wellbeing. After 15 years in corporate IT, she retrained in 2006 and has since become a trusted voice in the media, appearing as a nutrition and wellness expert on BBC Radio, Sky News, BBC News, ITV News and The Victoria Derbyshire Show. She has also featured as Radio 5 Live’s Midnight Expert and presents on Kennet Radio.Laura delivers engaging health and wellbeing seminars and webinars, and is a member of the Institute for Functional Medicine since 2015. Her specialist training includes DNA Life practitioner certification, Metabolic Balance Practitioner and weight loss coaching since 2011. She supports clients with hormonal health, energy, weight management and longevity, pairing practical nutrition with kind, steady coaching.Life has given Laura deep empathy for the midlife journey. She is a mum of three adult children, navigated thyroid cancer in the midst of menopause, separated in 2017, and remarried in 2025. She works online and in person, meeting people where they are and helping them feel better, think clearly and thrive.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.See all podcast episodes here.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather is joined by webinar expert Paul Jordan to demystify the world of online webinars for coaches, therapists and heart-centred entrepreneurs. With warmth and clarity, Paul shares how webinars can offer a powerful way to build connection, establish trust and gently guide potential clients toward meaningful work. They explore the fears that so many practitioners face – especially around visibility, sales, and tech – and how Paul’s supportive, step-by-step approach helps to turn overwhelm into calm, confident delivery. If you're someone who wants to reach more people without compromising your values, this conversation offers practical insight and deep encouragement.Key Takeaways:Webinars as Connection Tools Paul shares why webinars are especially suited to coaches, therapists and service-based professionals, allowing clients to get a real sense of who you are before ever booking a call.From Overwhelm to Action Many entrepreneurs freeze at the thought of tech and sales. Paul breaks down his practical system for moving through that freeze into structured, supportive action.Selling with Integrity Heather and Paul discuss the mindset shift from “I shouldn’t have to sell” to “I deserve to be paid for the value I offer,” reframing sales as an act of service.About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Paul:Paul Jordan brings over 20 years of expertise in digital marketing and information technology, having worked across diverse sectors including pharmaceuticals, real estate, national security and transport. Alongside this, he’s no stranger to the realities of running a small business himself – which gives him a deep understanding of the challenges that entrepreneurs face when starting from scratch.Paul has a particular passion for helping heart-led professionals who are brilliant at what they do but struggle with marketing. Through his signature online course, one-to-one support and done-for-you services, he guides motivated individuals to market their businesses with confidence, clarity and ease.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this deeply personal and illuminating episode, Heather Garbutt welcomes Melinda Jacobs - a clinical hypnotherapist, trauma-informed coach and spiritual teacher - for an exploration of love, identity, and neurodiversity. Melinda shares her late-in-life autism diagnosis and how years of masking shaped her sense of self, relationships, and nervous system.Together, they delve into the experience of navigating love while neurodivergent, the trauma of not being seen, and the power of attuned partnership. With warmth and insight, they challenge the cultural belief that independence means isolation, and invite listeners to embrace interdependence, self-awareness, and the kind of love that begins with curiosity and compassion.Melinda also shares the therapeutic methods that have supported her healing, especially cellular release therapy, and the importance of shifting inner narratives that echo shame. The episode is a profound invitation to meet ourselves - and each other - with patience, presence, and care.Key Takeaways: From Masking to Meaning: Melinda’s emotional story of discovering her autism diagnosis shines a light on how masking and people-pleasing can fragment identity and disconnect us from our needs. The Power of Presence in Partnership: A single moment of attunement—three gentle options offered by her partner—transformed a near shutdown into a moment of reconnection. Healing the Nervous System: Heather and Melinda explore the physical impact of unprocessed trauma, micro-stress, and how somatic techniques like rocking and breath can restore regulation and calm. About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About MelindaMelinda Jacobs is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Trauma-Informed Health/Life Coach, Spiritual Leader, and Author with over 30 years of experience guiding individuals through life’s challenges—including emotional pain, uncertainty, and inner struggle—into clarity, healing, and meaningful inspiration. Her trauma-informed, spiritually grounded work helps people move beyond subconscious blocks and repeating patterns to reclaim their wholeness and live with purpose.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heart-opening conversation, Heather Garbutt speaks with Lisa Hawkins, relationship and self-awareness coach and founder of Consciously Awake Counselling. Together, they unpack the misconceptions surrounding self-love and explore what it truly means to honour all parts of ourselves—even the ones we’d rather avoid. Lisa shares her personal and professional wisdom on how self-abandonment, often disguised as duty or selflessness, keeps us from authentic connection. She introduces her powerful “pause method,” the importance of having a safe witness to mirror compassion, and the ongoing, evolving nature of loving oneself. The episode is a tender invitation to presence, self-trust, and radical inner care.Key Takeaways Lisa redefines self-love not as indulgence, but as being fully present with every emotion—including anger, fear and shame. They explore how conditioning, especially for women, creates guilt around prioritising the self. Heather and Lisa emphasise the need for modelling and therapeutic support to build lasting self-compassion and clarity About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About LisaLisa Hawkins is a relationship and self-awareness coach, and the founder of Consciously Awake Counseling. For over 26 years, she’s been passionate about the human experience—why we love, how we connect, and what gets in the way. She works with both men and women to awaken the part of themselves that already knows how to love deeply, freely, and consciously.Through spiritual inquiry, emotional accountability, and her signature Pause Method, Lisa helps people question old beliefs, shift their patterns, and create authentic relationships—starting with the one they have with themselves. Her work is about truth, healing, and connection at a higher level.Whether you're navigating love, healing from heartbreak, or learning to trust yourself again, Lisa brings wisdom, presence, and a deep respect for the human experience.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this deeply soulful episode, Heather Garbutt is joined by Monica Douglas—spirit-led relationship coach, interfaith minister, and creator of the Wild Wisdom of Relationships framework. Monica shares her transformational journey through conscious uncoupling after a 27-year marriage and the emergence of new love rooted in presence, ritual, and authentic connection. Together, they explore the sacred power of everyday rituals, seasonal cycles in relationships, and the importance of being in alignment with one’s values, intuition, and spirit. The conversation is rich with imagery, grace, and grounded practices—offering listeners insight and inspiration to lovingly navigate endings, beginnings, and everything in between.Key Takeaways: Monica describes how daily rituals supported her through heartbreak and led her to a flourishing new relationship. The concept of seasonal relationship cycles is introduced as a healing and empowering model. Heather and Monica explore the role of sacred rituals in reawakening presence, peace, and purpose. About your host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About MonicaMonica Douglas is a spirit-led relationship coach, interfaith minister, and founder of the Wild Wisdom of Relationships framework. With over 25 years of experience, she supports heart-led individuals to heal from heartbreak, reset their relationships, and thrive in love. Her work integrates ritual, coaching, spiritual practice, and tools like her Wild Wisdom Oracle cards and relationship cycle quiz.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is joined by coach, speaker and midlife mentor Ali Miles-Jenkins to explore the experience of women in their 60s and beyond. Together, they reflect on the outdated cultural narratives that often leave older women feeling invisible or irrelevant—and how to reclaim power, vitality, and purpose at this stage of life. Ali shares her journey of challenging societal expectations and supporting women to reconnect with their self-worth, confidence and joy. From dancing in nightclubs to mentoring clients through transformation, her message is clear: now is the time to thrive. With heart, humour and honesty, this conversation invites women to redefine what it means to age—on their own terms. Whether you’re navigating a new chapter, reconnecting with your identity, or rediscovering your spark, this episode is a celebration of possibility at every age.About Your Host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Ali:Ali is an award-winning management consultant, coach, trainer and business owner for 34 years.Since 2017 Ali has been championing the age agenda for women and built a community of over 6,000 wonderful women, also delivering a TEDX talk: ‘The Surprising Truth About Women over 50’. She's on a mission to enable women over 60 to be sassy, s*xy and successful, living the amazing lives they so deserve!This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt and deeply practical episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is joined by senior family solicitor Colette Bain. With warmth, wisdom, and sensitivity, Colette shares her invaluable insight into navigating separation and divorce with dignity, clarity, and compassion.Far from the combative courtroom narratives we often hear, this episode focuses on conscious uncoupling—an approach to separation that honours emotional wellbeing, mutual respect, and long-term peace. Colette offers expert guidance on how to build a supportive network ("your tribe"), how to seek out trustworthy advice early on, and why staying out of the “trauma drama triangle” is key.Together, Heather and Colette explore the emotional and practical aspects of separation: from looking after yourself through the process, to working with professionals who match your values, to using SMART targets to reduce overwhelm and stay grounded. It’s an empowering listen for anyone facing a relationship transition—filled with encouragement, honesty, and actionable steps.About Your Host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Collette:Collette is a Partner at Knights in the Family team.  She advises on a wide range of private family law matters including legal issues arising from relationship breakdown (married, civil partnered, and unmarried) including child arrangements, matters relating to nuptial agreements to protect family wealth, and surrogacy. This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this deeply empowering episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt speaks with breakup coach and podcast host Janice Formichella about her personal journey of surviving domestic violence. With honesty, clarity and compassion, Janice opens up about the cycle of emotional, financial, and physical abuse she endured—and how she finally found the strength to leave for good.This episode explores how domestic violence can begin with love bombing, charm and seduction, and slowly escalate into isolation, control and terror. It also addresses the painful realities of victim blaming, the emotional aftermath of trauma, and how survivors can begin to rebuild their lives.Key Takeaways Love Bombing & Red Flags Janice breaks down the early warning signs of abuse, from overwhelming gifts and attention to the subtle erosion of independence and support networks. The Reality of Leaving Janice explains why leaving an abuser is rarely straightforward, discussing financial control, emotional dependency, and social isolation—and offering practical advice for escaping safely. Healing & Reclaiming Power She reflects on her journey of healing, including the role of Codependents Anonymous, trauma therapy, and the joy of finally building a healthy, independent life on her own terms. About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Janice:Janice Formichella is a breakup coach and the host of the podcasts Sex and the Solo Girl and Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. She is passionate about helping people from all backgrounds to beat their breakup, overcome loneliness, and make the end of a relationship the start of a powerful new beginning. She is also a survivor of domestic violence and now uses her story to support others and raise awareness about the harmful impact of victim blaming.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt and courageous episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is joined by Janice Formichella—breakup coach, podcast host, and outspoken advocate for healing after relational trauma.Together, they explore the often-taboo topic of family estrangement. Janice shares her deeply personal story of navigating life after separating from her birth family, revealing the emotional complexity and, ultimately, the liberation that came from her decision.Janice opens up about her upbringing in a strict religious household, the betrayal she faced after choosing a different path, and the years of hurt that followed her efforts to reconnect. Her story is both devastating and empowering, offering insight into the psychological toll of toxic family dynamics—and the strength it takes to walk away.For anyone feeling isolated in their experience or burdened by the shame of choosing distance from family, this conversation is a light in the dark.Key Takeaways:Normalising Estrangement: Janice highlights why family estrangement, though painful, is sometimes essential for safety, growth and emotional health.The Scapegoat Role in Dysfunctional Families: An eye-opening conversation about how family systems unconsciously assign roles, and the psychological toll of being cast as the ‘problem’.A Roadmap to Healing: Janice offers compassionate guidance on how to begin healing from estrangement—including building new community, finding professional support, and trusting one’s decision.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Janice:Janice Formichella is a breakup coach and the host of the podcasts Sex and the Solo Girl andBreakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. She is passionate about helping people from allbackgrounds to beat their breakup, overcome loneliness, and make the end of a relationship the start of a powerful new beginning. She is also a survivor of domestic violence and now uses her story to support others and raise awareness about the harmful impact of victim blaming.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this solo episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, relationship psychotherapist and love coach Heather Garbutt explores the complex inner world of empaths in relationships. Drawing from both professional insight and personal experience, she examines how deeply caring and emotionally attuned individuals can unintentionally lose themselves in love.The episode focuses on the shadow side of empathy—when giving becomes over-functioning, boundaries become blurred, and relationships drift into imbalance. Heather speaks candidly about how these patterns can leave empaths burnt out, unfulfilled, and even vulnerable to narcissistic partners.💬 Key takeways:Recognising the Shadow Side of Empathy Heather outlines the warning signs of empathy becoming self-sacrifice—how the instinct to care for others can turn into emotional depletion and burnout.Understanding the Empath–Narcissist Dynamic Listeners are guided through how empaths can unconsciously attract narcissistic or highly self-focused partners, and what can be done to break this pattern.Reclaiming Self-Love and Boundaries Heather offers practical tools for cultivating self-worth, honouring one’s needs, and stepping into emotionally balanced and fulfilling partnershipsThis is an episode for anyone who has ever cared too much, given too much, or felt unseen in their relationships.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast was brought to you by Boost and Bloom

In this deeply honest and thought-provoking episode, Heather is joined by the wonderful Chris Wong—a father of two, licensed therapist turned leadership coach, podcast host, and an advocate for men's emotional wellbeing.Together, they delve into what it really means to be a man today—far beyond the stereotypes. From the pressures of being the protector and provider, to the quiet epidemic of emotional isolation, this conversation is a compassionate invitation to rethink masculinity.💬 Key Takeways:Men and Identity Loss: Chris shares powerful insight on how men often tie their self-worth to their careers, leading to crisis and confusion when work changes or ends.Emotional Isolation in Marriage: We unpack how many men make their partner their sole emotional outlet—and why this dynamic often leaves both partners unfulfilled.Breaking the Silence: Chris speaks to the desperate need for safe, non-religious men’s groups—spaces where men can speak openly, vulnerably, and without judgement.Chris brings the perfect mix of insight, warmth, and groundedness that makes this episode such a gift—whether you’re a man, you love one, or you’re raising one.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.About Chris: Chris is a father of 2, a podcast host, and business owner who lives outside Boston, MA. He has worked in the nonprofit and healthcare sector for more than 15 years.  Chris began his career working as a licensed therapist and transitioned into Learning and Development. He also built a Leadership and Organisational Department from the ground up - including formal mentorship and leadership development programs and led organisational projects. Chris founded Leadership Potential, where he partners with new nonprofit executives to confidently navigate chaotic transitions and create high performing cultures to get things done.  This involves working with nonprofit leaders around executing strategic plans as well as addressing challenges such as conflict resolution, culture enhancement, board engagement, building influence, and fostering inclusive work environments.   Chris serves on the board of a foundation and the board of a nonprofit and also co-hosts the podcast, “The Art and Science of Difficult Conversations”, where he helps people master difficult conversations in all domains of their lives.

In this heart-opening episode of Revolutionise Your Relationships, Heather dives deep into the world of childhood wounds and how they shape our adult lives. From the moment we are born, we begin forming beliefs about the world and our place in it—beliefs that are influenced by the care, attention, and emotional security we receive as children.But what happens when those early adaptations no longer serve us? When the beliefs we formed as children hold us back from the fulfilling relationships and self-worth we deserve?In this episode, Heather explores how these patterns manifest in our adult lives—whether it's self-doubt, people-pleasing, or difficulty setting boundaries. Heather discusses the physiological and emotional impact of unresolved childhood wounds and, most importantly, how we can start the healing process.You’ll walk away with practical tools to recognise and transform old belief systems, cultivate self-compassion, and step into a more empowered, authentic version of yourself. Healing is possible, and it starts with awareness and intention.💫 Are you ready to let go of the past and embrace a future that truly belongs to you? Key Takeaways:The Origins of Childhood Wounds – How the care we received as children shaped our deepest beliefs about love, relationships, and self-worth.Breaking the Cycle – Identifying the unconscious patterns we carry into adulthood and how to rewrite our internal narratives.Practical Healing Strategies – Techniques to shift limiting beliefs, cultivate self-compassion, and create new, healthier ways of relating to ourselves and others.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.

In this eye-opening episode, Heather Garbutt sits down with Janice Formichella, a breakup coach and podcast host, to discuss the concept of Breakup Brain—the temporary cognitive and emotional chaos that follows a breakup. Drawing from psychological studies and personal experiences, Janice explains how heartbreak can literally lower IQ, impair decision-making, and leave individuals feeling lost and confused.Heather and Janice explore the physiological and emotional aspects of breakups, highlighting the fight-or-flight responses, emotional regression, and brain fog that many people experience. They discuss the crucial role of self-care, routines, and sleep in regaining clarity, as well as practical tools like journaling, alarms, and structured planning to help manage daily life.Janice shares her personal journey through divorce and how she rebuilt her life, ultimately finding empowerment in solo living. She also provides expert advice on the No Contact rule, how to manage emotions during a breakup, and why seeking professional support can be a game-changer in recovery.Key Takeaways: Understanding "Breakup Brain" and its similarities to "Mommy Brain." How breakups temporarily lower IQ and impair decision-making. The impact of heartbreak on identity, self-esteem, and mental health. The importance of "No Contact" and setting boundaries for healing. Practical strategies to overcome confusion, panic, and brain fog. How to embrace singlehood and build a fulfilling life after a breakup.

In this inspiring episode, Heather Garbutt, a love and relationship coach, sits down with Alyssa Dineen, a published author and dating expert, to discuss how to navigate life after leaving a toxic relationship. Alyssa opens up about her personal journey of separating from her narcissistic husband and finding love again through therapy and online dating. As the founder of Style My Profile, Alyssa combines her 25+ years in the fashion industry with her expertise in the dating world to empower clients to succeed in online dating. From crafting compelling profiles to finding authentic connections, Alyssa provides actionable advice for anyone seeking love and confidence in the modern dating landscape.

In this engaging episode, Heather Garbutt, a relationship and personal development expert, hosts the esteemed Dr. Trish Leigh. As a cognitive neuroscientist and coach, Dr. Leigh specialises in helping individuals overcome anxiety, internet addiction, and compulsive behaviours. The conversation explores critical topics such as the impact of porn addiction on marriages, the science behind dopamine dependency, and how technology can be used to heal the brain. Dr. Leigh shares her hopeful and empowering approach to helping individuals live their most authentic and fulfilled lives, offering actionable insights and cutting-edge solutions.

In this heart-centred podcast episode, Heather Garbutt, a leading love and relationship coach, warmly welcomes Adele Currin, a transformational relationship and communication coach. Together, they explore Adele’s journey from conscious uncoupling to her inspiring work in helping couples and individuals build authentic and fulfilling relationships.This engaging conversation dives into the challenges couples face, particularly those disillusioned by traditional therapy. Heather and Adele discuss the transformative power of addressing deep-seated beliefs, developing emotional literacy, and practicing self-compassion. Adele highlights actionable strategies like daily practice, accountability, and effective communication to create lasting positive change.Listeners will discover compassionate guidance and practical tools to take responsibility for their emotional well-being, paving the way for deeper, healthier, and more connected relationships.Whether you're looking to rebuild intimacy in your relationship or seeking tools for personal growth, this episode offers valuable insights and inspiration.

In this heartfelt episode, Heather warmly welcomes Sue Ritchie, a holistic health and fertility specialist and the award-winning author of "Love Your Gut." Sue shares her inspiring journey of overcoming Hashimoto's disease through exploring gut health. She passionately discusses the profound connection between gut health, emotional well-being, and fertility. Sue highlights the impact of modern lifestyle choices on our health and the importance of self-care. Her story is a beautiful reminder of the power of holistic practices and mindful eating in nurturing our bodies and enhancing overall well-being.

In this episode, Heather connects with Adele Currin, a transformational relationship and communication coach, about the profound dilemma of whether to stay in or leave a relationship. Adele shares her compassionate approach to guiding clients who feel trapped and confused, emphasising self-compassion, emotional regulation, and personal growth. She introduces foundational steps like understanding feelings and needs, releasing limiting beliefs, and creating a fulfilling life. Adele's holistic coaching, grounded in real-life experiences, empowers individuals to make informed decisions, fostering healthier relationships and a deeper connection with their true selves.

In this heart-centred episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and relationship coach  Eva Andriessen share transformative success stories from their clients. They discuss the profound impact of self-trust, emotional healing, and authentic communication in building healthy, committed romantic relationships. Heather and Eva highlight the importance of overcoming past traumas and limiting beliefs to open oneself to love. The episode also promotes their upcoming "Calling in the One" group coaching program, inviting listeners to embark on their journey towards finding true love. About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heart-centred episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and guest Eva Andriessen explore the profound differences between wish lists, goals, and intentions in the realm of love. They emphasise the importance of setting intentions aligned with one's true self, rather than superficial desires. The discussion delves into how past emotional wounds can hinder healthy relationships and highlights the journey of self-discovery as crucial for attracting authentic love. The episode also introduces their upcoming eight-week course, "Calling in the One," aimed at guiding participants towards personal growth and relationship readiness, fostering a supportive community.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heart-centred episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and her guest, Eva Andriessen explore the profound themes of body image and self-acceptance. Heather shares personal anecdotes and insights, emphasising the importance of loving oneself to attract healthy relationships. Eva discusses the significance of body positivity, sharing transformative client stories that highlight the journey towards self-love. Together, they underscore that true attraction stems from self-acceptance and inner love, encouraging listeners to embrace their bodies and foster genuine connections.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heart-centred episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and relationship coach Eva Andriessen guide listeners through the transformative "Desire" workshop. They help individuals define the qualities they seek in a partner, set clear intentions, and explore self-development. Emphasising self-love and the importance of releasing toxic relationships, Heather and Eva encourage listeners to build supportive connections and embrace their full energy and enthusiasm. The episode concludes with an invitation for listeners to share their journeys and insights, fostering a community of growth and love.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and guest Eva Andriessen explore the insidious nature of gaslighting in relationships. They delve into how this manipulative tactic distorts reality, leading individuals to doubt their own feelings and perceptions. Through compassionate dialogue, they highlight the dynamics of power and control, the devastating impact on self-esteem, and the importance of recognising the signs. Listeners are encouraged to seek support, reconnect with their true selves, and embrace the journey towards healing and self-empowerment, reminding them of their inherent worth and the possibility of loving, healthy relationships.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and relationship coach Eva Andriessen explore the intricate phenomenon of love bombing. They offer compassionate insights into recognising this manipulative behaviour, often disguised as intense affection. Heather and Eva stress the importance of self-awareness and setting healthy boundaries to protect one's emotional well-being. Through their empathetic discussion, they empower listeners to discern genuine love from deceitful tactics, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships. The episode concludes with an invitation to join their course, "Desire: A Path to True Love," aimed at cultivating strong, respectful romantic connections.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and guest Eva Andriessen explore the profound impact of loneliness on love and relationships. They offer compassionate insights and practical advice for navigating feelings of isolation, especially during emotionally charged times like Christmas and New Year's. Heather and Eva distinguish between loneliness and solitude, emphasising the importance of inner connection and self-love. They introduce their upcoming eight-week course, "Calling in the One," designed to help participants overcome loneliness and build fulfilling relationships. Listeners are encouraged to seek support and take proactive steps towards love and connection.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt, a relationship coach and psychotherapist, and guest Eva Andriessen, a relationship coach specializing in narcissistic relationships, delve into the complexities of narcissistic abuse and control. They discuss various types of narcissists, emotional manipulation tactics like gaslighting, and the importance of setting boundaries. Emphasizing the power of ignoring narcissists to diminish their control, they also highlight the necessity of strong support systems. The episode offers practical advice for reclaiming one's true self and navigating the healing process after narcissistic abuse, encouraging listeners to seek help and prioritize their well-being.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," hosts Heather Garbutt and Eva Andriessen explore the critical topic of toxic relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic behaviour. They illuminate the emotional and psychological toll these relationships can take, emphasising that feelings of fear, obligation, or guilt are red flags. The discussion covers the spectrum of toxic behaviour, the challenges empaths face, and the importance of recognising and addressing these unhealthy dynamics. Heather and Eva passionately encourage listeners to seek support, build self-awareness, and prioritise their well-being, reminding everyone that they deserve a loving, supportive relationship.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and guest Eva Andriessen, explore the intricacies of relationships with narcissistic individuals. They provide compassionate insights and practical strategies to help listeners navigate toxic dynamics, emphasising the importance of recognising narcissistic traits and emotional manipulation. The episode offers empowering advice on setting boundaries, protecting oneself, and documenting experiences to counteract gaslighting. Heather and Ava aim to inspire listeners to reclaim their power, fostering healthier, more fulfilling love lives through understanding and self-empowerment. About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this heartfelt episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt and health coach Kim Rahir explore the profound importance of self-care for women. They delve into the intricate balance between physical and emotional well-being, highlighting how societal roles can obscure personal needs. Kim shares her journey from journalism to health coaching, emphasising the necessity of understanding one's true self. Heather reflects on her own self-care evolution, underscoring the value of small, manageable changes. Together, they advocate for creating space for self-reflection, seeking support, and embracing interdependence to foster a healthier, more fulfilling life.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt welcomes resilience and performance improvement expert Hilary Briggs. They discuss the challenges of overwhelm, resilience, and self-care in work, life, and relationships. Hilary shares her journey of overcoming a severe Achilles injury and emphasizes the importance of resilience in managing stress. The conversation highlights how overwhelm can impact physical and emotional well-being and underscores the necessity of self-care for maintaining healthy relationships. Dr. Peter Nixon's stress and performance curve is also mentioned, illustrating the effects of stress on performance and well-being.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this enlightening episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," host Heather Garbutt converses with trauma therapist Sandra Maiorana about the transformative power of understanding and integrating the languages of the brain, heart, body, and spirit. Sandra shares her personal journey and the creation of her heart-led program, emphasising the importance of acknowledging emotional pain as a path to healing. They explore how trauma manifests in the body and the significance of addressing emotional distress for holistic well-being. Sandra also introduces her nine-month program, which equips coaches with trauma-informed skills and promotes profound personal growth. The episode concludes with a heartfelt exchange of gratitude and an invitation for listeners to share their takeaways and engage with the community.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

In this engaging episode of "Revolutionise Your Love Life," Heather delves into the thoughtful process of conscious uncoupling. She expertly unpacks the emotional journey of separation and divorce, highlighting the significance of self-care and recognising personal triggers. Heather's professional yet approachable demeanour shines as she guides listeners through healing from past hurts and building robust relationship skills for a brighter, post-uncoupling future.About The Host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years, first as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Arts Therapists.This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.