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I am a firm believer that we all have trustworthy intuition. You might be more or less skilled at using and trusting your intuition. I believe it's some part gift and some part skill. In this episode, I share some working definitions of intuition different ways intuitive information comes in to your awareness several stories of my journey with trusting and following my intuition practical advice for discerning the difference between anxiety and intuition using body signals to determine if something is intuition or bias some journal prompts for connecting with your intuition Important Links Hire me as your Digital Doula! Sage Mama Maternity - comprehensive digital doula program that gets you practical advice and education for healthy pregnancy, birth preparation, postpartum planning and newborn care. www.stefaniemelo.com/sage-mama-maternity-a Prenatal Nutrient Supplementation I've built a shopping cart for well-researched, sustainably sourced and safety tested vitamins, probiotics and omega 3 fatty acids. I also added four different protein powder options in case you're like me and struggle to get between 70-100 grams of protein a day.  I highly recommend clicking "create loyalty order" instead of add to cart. This way you get all the products you want each month. You'll also get different free gifts with purchase for orders over 100 and 200. Additionally, for each loyalty order you'll earn 10% in your first 3 months and 20% thereafter.   Prenatal Supplements The Secrets of Healthy Pregnancy Birth & Postpartum Learn how to reduce your own risks in pregnancy and birth. Improve fetal development and support postpartum mental health. Free class: https://stefaniemelo.com/secrets Breastfeeding Troubleshooting Guide Free interactive guide to direct you to your next right step in regards to milk supply, milk transfer and problems that might arise such as slow infant weight gain. https://stefaniemelo.com/page/lactation-support   Virtual Lactation Support If you need help, get help. Waiting always makes it worse. https://stefaniemelo.com/page/free-breastfeeding-troubleshooting-guide   Infant Massage Infant massage has profound research on the benefits to mom, baby and other caregivers. We're talking physical benefits and emotional benefits. https://stefaniemelo.com/page/infant-massage-online          

If you are someone who is pumping, nursing and your baby is getting a bit older, they are likely going longer stretches of sleep at night.    That first night baby sleeps longer, and so do you. . .is glorious   Consistently missing that feeding time or pumping time will cause most people to lower the milk supply.    Dive into the info on maintaining milk supply and navigating your unique path.   If you're breastfeeding and need support, book a consult   If you're pregnant and want expert guidance for all four trimesters, join me in Sage Mama Maternity.   Learn more about reducing these risks in The Secrets of Healthy Pregnancy Birth & Postpartum. This is a free three part on-demand video series to help you optimize fetal development, reduce birth and pregnancy risks and support maternal mental health. You can start implementing changes as soon as you watch the videos. See you there!   Sage Mama Maternity is your one-stop-shop for Prenatal, Birth, Postpartum, Breastfeeding and Newborn Care. Let's make sure you take steps in early pregnancy to reduce your risks and improve your baby's health. I want you to be equipped with the most evidence-based practices and connected to your mama intuition. Let me help you move forward to optimize your prenatal care and support you on this unpredictable journey. Sage Mama Maternity      

Prenatal Nutrition isn't about fat or calories.   It's about balanced blood sugar, macronutrients, fiber and micronutrients necessary for fetal development and reducing maternal risks.   Learn more about reducing these risks in The Secrets of Healthy Pregnancy Birth & Postpartum. This is a free three part on-demand video series to help you optimize fetal development, reduce birth and pregnancy risks and support maternal mental health. You can start implementing changes as soon as you watch the videos. See you there!   Sage Mama Maternity is your one-stop-shop for Prenatal, Birth, Postpartum, Breastfeeding and Newborn Care. Let's make sure you take steps in early pregnancy to reduce your risks and improve your baby's health. I want you to be equipped with the most evidence-based practices and connected to your mama intuition. Let me help you move forward to optimize your prenatal care and support you on this unpredictable journey. Sage Mama Maternity     Favorite Resources:   Real Food for Pregnancy https://amzn.to/4cxkkVe   Real. Food for Gestational Diabetes https://amzn.to/3ZChgQf   Not Pregnant Yet? Real For for Fertility https://amzn.to/4kKZlRe   Book Your Fertility Consult with Stefanie https://stefaniemelo.com/page/fertility

The Doors Open Soon for Sage Mama Maternity! Be the first to know when the doors open, get exclusive bonuses and discounts by joining me in The Secrets of Healthy Pregnancy, Birth and Postpartum. It's free and going to give you information that you likely don't know about how to reduce risks for you in pregnancy and birth, improve fetal development and support your postpartum mood. It's free, but it's only available for a short time register now! www.stefaniemelo.com/secrets Make your registry work for you! Buck cultural norms around postpartum, we get terrible results in the USA so let's ditch the status quo and upgrade the baby registry, baby shower and mother blessing so that it actually supports biological norms for you and baby and your mental health. You can dive deep into this in The Baby Registry Expert Guide, a one hour in-depth class and PDF guide for just $25. This investment could save you hundereds of dollars and lots of tears: https://stefaniemelo.com/page/babyregistry

Obstetricians aren't the only option, in fact they aren't even the best option for all women.    In this episode we talk about  Different care providers, education, certification and practices Different models of care Summary of a Cochrane Review on different Care Models 10 Questions to Ask Yourself as you choose your provider.   Join the waitlist! Doors Open in November for Sage Mama Maternity To kick it off, I'll be hosting the Secrets of Healthy Pregnancy, Birth and Postpartum be sure you're on the waitlist! Priority Waitlist  

First Trimester Ultrasounds are Iconic.   It's exciting, maybe nerve-wracking depending on your history, they can be really helpful tools and in some cases harmful.   In this episode we'll talk about  the best timing of a first trimester ultrasound,  what your practitioner is looking for  what you're looking at if you get to see the screen and  different indications for use.       Join the Workshop Series: The Secrets of Healthy PRegnancy, Birth and Postpartum Doors open in August for my new Digital Doula Support Program and I'm kicking it off with tons of great information and inspiration for your pregnancy journey. Join the Workshop      

It's the first question everyone has for you, "When is Your Due Date"? Pregnancy is 40 weeks, right? Maybe your partner is confused that you are 4 weeks pregnant on the day you missed your period. What if your periods are irregular?  Let's talk about all things Due Dates   You can purchase the products I mentioned at this link Vitamins  Be sure to use coupon code SHAREYL for 10% off your first order of 50PV or more   Learn more about using Essential Oils in Pregnancy with my class  Sage Mama Oils 101     Get on the List Doors open in August for my new Digital Doula Support Program  Digital Doula Interest List

You're a go-getter, excited about you're suddenly hit by First Trimester Fatigue. In this episode we talk about the  Three Causes of First Trimester Fatigue Four Products to Help with First Trimester Fatigue Six Tips to Make First Trimester Fatigue more manageable You can purchase the products I mentioned at this link Prenatal Energy Boosters Be sure to use coupon code SHAREYL for 10% off your first order of 50PV or more Learn more about using Essential Oils in Pregnancy with my class  Sage Mama Oils 101 Get on the List Doors open in August for my new Digital Doula Support Program  Digital Doula Interest List

There is so much data on the benefits of doula support in labor.  It truly is powerful .   However, even families who hire doulas miss out on the holistic long term benefits of doula support for the first, second, third and fourth trimester.    Navigating pregnancy and postpartum in our current system with only prenatal care is a major factor in increased birth risks.     It's disheartening as a doula to witness clients undermine their goals during pregnancy and postpartum. Registering for products that are harmful for infant development Agreeing to cervical exams that are unnecessary and risky Lifestyle choices that increase risk of serious complicaitons Introducing practices that undermine their breastfeeding goals The truth is pregnancy, birth and postpartum are a bit of a wild card---but not as much as we've been led to believe.  There are specific reasons women don't meet breastfeeding goals, why more and more women experience hypertension and gestational diabetes, reasons why they have precipitous labors.  So many of these reason can be avoided with support of an expert.   Your wonderful OB or midwife doesn't fill this role, their job is limited in it's scope.  Like most professions, it's hard for providers to stay up-to-date on the peripheral research in their field.   That's where I come in - I am a professional member of Evidence Based Birth with the latest data on Vitamin K, water birth, and so much more. I've also invested my time and money to have helpful information on complicated lactation, oral tethers, reflux, fertility nutrition, pregnancy nutrition and. hormonal health.      Click here for the Supplements mentioned in the podcast, use code SHAREYL to get 10% off your first order.  Set up a monthly order and save 24% on each order.     The biggest problem is that women, mothers, dads, grandparents, friend and family do not know what the evidence shows is the safest, so we jsut assume that "more technology" equal better results.  If you want to avoid this mistake: learn the evidence with me as your Digital Doula   If you live in the East Valley of Phoenix and are looking for a Newborn Care Specialist or Night Nanny, work with me: East Valley NCS     If you are expecting, join me in Sage Mama Maternity.  Blending evidence and intuition is the key to experiencing a postitive pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Join Sage Mama Maternity            

This is the primary mistake that I see expecting families make when seeking care and support for pregnancy and birth.  You can avoid this mistake when you understand what Evidence Based Care looks like, and as a result you'll improve your chances of personalized, safe care for you and baby.    Obstetric Care has practiced on women in the US for around 200 years and in that time we have learned that practicing X-Rays on pregnant women is not safe Prescribing Thalidomide caused birth defects Using Cytotec on a woman with previous cesarean can be deadly Episiotomy causes unnecessary damage to mother with infrequent benefits Hand washing reduces the spread of infection Inducing labor increases risk for cesarean in first-time mothers Twilight sleep prevents mothers from bonding post-delivery  Yes, of course we need some level of experimentation when it comes to science and the practice of medicine.  For example, epidurals allow women to be awake when baby is born, and to bond with baby post-cesarean.  Epidurals began being used because an anesthesiologist decided to try it out on a patient. However, most women and partners do not realize that the majority of interventions in pregnancy and birth are not offered AFTER the evidence is solid, it's being gathered with each family.  The problem is most assume that for low-risk pregnancy, working with an obstetrician is the safest. The data shows that midwifery care is the safest for low risk pregnancy, and that referral to an obstetrician when risk or need arises leads to better outcomes for moms and babies.   The biggest problem is that women, mothers, dads, grandparents, friend and family do not know what the evidence shows is the safest, so we jsut assume that "more technology" equal better results.  If you want to avoid this mistake: learn the evidence with me as your Digital Doula   If you live in the East Valley of Phoenix and are looking for a Newborn Care Specialist or Night Nanny, work with me: East Valley NCS   If your baby is already here and you need help navigating all of this, work with me virtually -- join the waitlist   If you are expecting, join me in Sage Mama Maternity.  Blending evidence and intuition is the key to experiencing a postitive pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Join Sage Mama Maternity            

Interview with former clients Devin and Katie   This episode is full of wisdom from first time parents Devin and Katie.  I was honored to be their newborn care specialist for five months.  Devin and Katie are an incredible couple who allowed me to serve them and guide them through common and not-as-comon challenges with a newborn including newborn sleep patterns oral tethers strong let-down reflex  mild infant reflux and gas the learning curve of normal newborn development postpartum anxieties finding their own path forward as new parents I found working with them to be an absolute pleasure as they were excited to learn from my experience with open minds and hearts. Being able to facilitate and honor their attachment to their son, allow them much needed rest and support baby to sleep in developmentally appropriate ways was a joy.   If you live in the East Valley of Phoenix and are looking for a Newborn Care Specialist or Night Nanny, work with me: https://stefaniemelo.com/ncs If your baby is already here and you need help navigating all of this, work with me virtually -- this course is coming soon If you are expecting, join me in Sage Mama Maternity.  Blending evidence and intuition is the key to experiencing a postitive pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Join Sage Mama Maternity

On this episdoe I am honored to interview Sheetal on her experience working with me as a Newborn Care Specialist. Sheetal experienced a pregnancy complicated by gestational hypertension, placental insufficiency, IUGR, a 6 week hospital stay, premature delivery and a NICU stay for her son. I had the honor of working with Sheetal, her husband, newborn son from the time he came home from the NICU throughout most of their first year as parents.  Her story is so important to hear because most of us will experience unexpected, even undesired turns on our pregnancy, birth, postpartum or breastfeeding journey.  She bravely shares about her experiences highlighting the importance of -focusing on her own health during pregnancy -healing and recovering from the challenges -navigating postpartum anxiety -lactation in the NICU -fortified breastmilk I'm so honored to have worked with her family and that she took the time to be a guest.  I know you'll love this episode.   Ready to have the ongoing support of a digital doula?  Join me in Sage Mama Maternity and book your free consult today. Sage Mama Maternity  

Interview with my first client as a Newborn Care Specialist   Pilar is a mom of 5 who hired me to take care of her triplets for the first several months.    In this episode we talk about:    How every baby is different and every child is different. The challenges for older children welcoming new babies. Why sleep training wasn't for Pilar. Creating helpful rhythms. How things are different with multiples. Accepting help as a mom of newborns. How much of motherhood is a mental game.  Other benefits of having an NCS. The value of a holistic approach to newborns and the family. The intelligent design of babies   To learn more about my services as a Newborn Care Specialist click here   Join Sage Mama Maternity   My comprehensive prenatal & postnatal education and support program makes me your digital doula and allows you access to everything you have the right to know about: pregnancy birth postpartum newborn care infant feeding All that expertise that Pilar referenced?  It's exactly what you get when I am your Digital Doula.   BOOK MY FREE CONSULT  

Top tips for holidays and travel, as these are major temporary upheavals to routines. Make sure you're on the the waitlist for my new program for working moms...the doors are opening soon.  Link to TSA information Link to La Leche League information for storing milk during travel Link to La Leche League Safe Sleep 7   

The doors are opening in December to my new program for working, expecting moms.  Get on the waitlist NOW so that you are first to know all the details.  A a member of the waitlist, you'll not only get exclusive bonuses you also get a once-in-a-lifetime discount! Head to www.stefaniemelo.com/waitlist  In Episode 30 Annie Roo, wraparound doula, and I discuss the most common myths we encounter with clients throughout pregnancy, birth, postpartum and breastfeeding. These are very common myths in our society, and as evidence based & intutive moms and doulas we know that they are myths.  However, it's not common knowledge in the general public, even amongst obstetricians, pediatricians and grandparents.  Not understanding these myths can have severe consequences: such as elecrolyte imbalance in babies, dehydration, failure-to-thrive and can also lead to problems like clogged ducts, mastitis and cessation of lactation, birth trauma and unnecessary medical interventions. Join our sometimes sassy conversation as we bust up myths that are harming moms and babies. To join Sneeze Pee No More head to https://annieroo.com/page/spnm and use the coupon code STEF2024 for 50% discount. 

Cloth Diapering isn't as complicated as you might think it is. It's also not as gross as you might imagine. Learn in this episode  3 Major Motivations for Cloth Diapering 3 Main Styles of Cloth Diapers How to Wash Cloth Diapers What to do about Diaper Rash How to Handle Hard Water What other accessories you need for cloth diapers Make sure you head to the episode notes on my website for all my favorite recommendations. Services > Stuff As important as diapers, clothes and car seats are what baby needs is a mom who is doing well physicaly, emotionally and mentally.  Baby gear doesn't give you peace of mind or support in the middle of the night--no matter how good the marketing is. Learn how to build a baby registry that has YOU as mama, set up for success.  Prioritize the services and projects that make life simple and offer you the hands on and emotional support needed to take care of your newborn well. Register for our next event here: https://stefaniemelo.com/events Saturday, March 16 at 9:30 Ducle Vida Coffee 610 N Alma School Rd Ste 12 Chandler, AZ 85224   Don't live in Phoenix?  I got you!  Get all my personal recommendations for cloth diapering products by heading to the show notes on my websites.  https://stefaniemelo.com/page/episode-29  

In this episode, I talk about the importance of responding to baby's cues in terms of Biological development Fostering secure attachment Cultivating mental well-being We also discuss the importance of being aware of your own attachment styles and emotional triggers.  You can learn more about attachment styles from Robyn Gobbel A human baby's design is GOOD and its capacity for adaptation is incredible.   Preparation for parenthood ought to include preparing the physical environment, preparing your mind by understanding infant development and needs as well as preparing emotionally for the intensity of newborn life.  I can help you with all of this. To learn more about how to create a baby registry that sets you up for success join me in Chandler, AZ on March 16 at 9:30 a.m. at Dulce Vida Coffee - Register for Free I share more about newborn cues, communication and soothing techniques in Infant Massage & Newborn Care for Sage Mamas and Papas.  You can get access to both of those in Sage Motherhood Mentorship my comprehensive program to guide you through pregnancy, birth and postpartum.  Use the link to book your free consultation to see if I am the Mama Mentor for you. For additional resources: head to my website        

I recently attended a birth that was vastly longer than any other I supported.  Throughout the 57 hours of support I offered to mom; I observed, remembered and learned important lessons that I think can help an expecting a parent. In this episode I talk about: The value of well-rounded childbirth education. Ways a doula can make for a positive birth experience. The value of rest in early labor. When an epidural is a great idea. Avoiding trauma when you deviate from the birth plan. The power of mindset in labor. Sign up for our Expert Baby Registry Class at Dulce Vida Coffee on March 16.   Book your free consultation call with me         

In this episode you'll get to hear from Ashley Goddard, the Yogi Birth Doula.   We discuss how yoga saved her life when she discovered it decades ago.  How yoga supported not only her pregnancy, but also her birth and postpartum.     We discuss the myths and realities of the pelvic floor and how yoga can support pelvic floor health.    Ashley shares tips on getting started with yoga even if you're totally new to it, and how the breathwork of yoga practice is a powerful tool for your labor and delivery. — I was obsessed with learning in my first pregnancy, determined to have the homebirth of my dreams.  12 years, 5 home births  and 30 births attended I am here to support you at the highest level to have the childbearing year that dreams are made of.  Join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship and I'll personally walk you through the process. 9 months of 1:1 support (and for your partner too!).   Let me save you all the research and help you connect to your intuition while understanding the evidence so that you can head into your birth from a place of confidence while navigating postpartum with ease.   Sage Motherhood Mentorship https://stefaniemelo.com/page/sage-motherhood-mentorship If you're terrified of the birth process or struggling with anxiety, start using my prenatal affirmations today Cultivate a Birth Mindset That Delivers https://stefaniemelo.com/page/prenatal-affirmations Ready to have a baby, but maybe your body doesn't see to agree?  I'm a CMM trained Fertility Massage Specialist.  I can help you get closer to your baby dreams. Fertility Support https://stefaniemelo.com/page/fertility-consult Breastfeeding may be the biological norm, but that doesn't mean it's easy.  Let me help you troubleshoot to preserve your lactation goals. Lactation Support https://stefaniemelo.com/page/lactation-support  Expecting  in the Phoenix area?  I'd love to be your night nanny! Newborn Care Specialist https://stefaniemelo.com/page/ncs — Connect with Ashley Goddard Ashley is a Phoenix based birth doula, childbirth educator and prenatal yoga instructor.  She provides compassionate, evidence-based care for your prenatal and birthing journey. Ashley is a mom of an adorable 3 year old son and a good friend.    Connect with Ashley on Instagram https://instagram.com/theyogibirthdoula   Work with Ashley https://theyogibirthdoula.com —

In this episode, I share with you all about working with a Newborn Care Specialist is like.  From what a NCS is trained in, what our our role is, what types of tasks we do.   I also dive into what it's like choosing an NCS and why this is such an incredible resource for families. I also talk about the difference between a Night Nanny and Newborn Care Specialist. What an NCS does for baby, for mom, for the family. How the NCS can support new parents transition into family life. Coaching parents on evidence-based newborn care with an emphasis on bonding and attachment. Looking for a Phoenix area Newborn Care Specialist?  Fill out an inquiry form  

"I was completely unprepared, blind to the other birth that was happening; the birth of myself as a mother." - Kimberly Ann Johnson In this episode we discuss the time, energy and financial investment that goes into preparing for the birth of your baby, but generally little attention, time and investment is given to support the (re)birth of the expectant woman as a mother. This episode is full of practical considerations ot ensure as a mom you are prepared emotionally, mentally and physically so that your emergence as a mother is nourishing and supported. As a mother, everything changes and that includes you.  It's not that the old you is dead, its that you've been reborn and your priorities are different, your body is different, your thoughts are different, how you spend your time is differenrt, your needs are different.  I want you to feel emotionally, physically and spiritually supported so that when you birth your baby and metaphysically birth a new version of you; you feel grounded, supported and capable of getting whatever it is that you need.   To get access to the Post Partum Vault, join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship  

Let's talk about the pressures of society that make moms think they need to start fresh with eating, exercise, habit and self discipline goals just because it's January. This Episode is brought to you by Sage Motherhood Mentorship Instead of looking at the Gregorian calendar to determine where our intentions and energy go, instead let's look at the ebbs and flows reflected in the seasons, lunar cycle, menstrual cycle and childbearing year. In this episode you'll learn how to best maximize your energy and intentions in the first, second, third and fourth trimesters.  You'll also learn how to tap into similar flows if you are not pregnant and not menstruating and how to do it if you are menstruating. More than likely, you find yourself enjoying a little more cozniness and sleep right now, it's probably NOT the time for you to jump back into the gym and eat 14 salads a week.  I'll help you learn how to listen to your body for what it needs and respond to that. Looking to get support in your first trimester?  Join me in First Trimester Mamas, it's a free Facebook group and we are starting a 5 day challenge to help you boost your prenatal nutrition in very practical and achievable ways. In your second or third trimester?  Let me help support you holistically with pregnancy, birth, postpartum,  and newborn care educaton.  As well as 1:1 and group support to help you have an experience that is enjoyable and peaceful.  Join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship Want to learn more about my passion for the childbearing year and my vision for moms?  Listen to Episode 1 (scroll to bottom) and Episode 12 Postpartum or Struggling with Infant Feeding?  Reach out (even if you are supplementing or using formula exclusively, I can help) book at Consult now.  Finally, if you find yourself struggling or unsure if how you feel is normal, please take the Edinburg Postnatal Depression Scale

DHA is a crucial nutrient for pregnancy health, infant brain development, maternal mental health and reducing the risk of preterm birth.   DHA is easily obtained by consuming 2-3 servings per week of cold-water, fatty fish.     Vegan, Vegetarian and Low-seafood diets are ineffective to provide mom and baby with enough DHA for optimal fetal and maternal health.     One of the best things you can do for your pregnancy, birth and postpartum is to consume a whole foods diet; and supplement for places where your diet may not be sufficient.   When looking for a DHA supplement, make sure the company has been tested for heavy metal and PCB contaminants, that the supplement also contains EPA and look to see how much (if any) VItamin A is added to the supplment.   The DHA I take click here use code SHAREYL for 10% off your first order (50 minimum)   My other favorite prenatal supplements: click here Join First Trimester Mamas   Have me in your pocket for pregnancy & postpartum in Sage Motherhood Mentorship   Preparing your mindset for motherhood is a POWERFUL tool, get started with my prenatal affirmations.

You're Pregnant!  Now What?   In Episode 21, I've got five first-trimester tips to help set you on a path of evidence-based wholistic prenatal care.   In this episode we talk about making peace with your emotions during pregnancy, and my favorite tool for supporting emotional well-being in motherhoood Guided Journals   We discuss the importance or prenatal nutrition and I share my favorite multivitamin that I used in my last three pregnancies.   I share some nuanced ideas on keeping your pregnancy a secret or sharing your pregnancy during the uncertain first trimester.   I share why it's important to do your own research in the first trimester and find out how to get evidence based care.   Why more pregnancy tests probably aren't going to be helpful   And I offer a special invitation to my new private facebook group for First Trimester Mamas where you can get education and emotional support during this special time – even if the general public can't know you're expecting yet.    As always, I'd love to have you grab my Prenatal Affirmations to help support a positive mindset for pregnancy, birth and beyond.   If you are looking ot have a natural in hospital birth, home birth or out of hospital birth, check out The Road Not Taken, its a masterclass designed to help you understand the state of maternity care and how to envision and achieve the birth of your dreams.   Then join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship for prenatal coaching, childbirth education, postpartum preparation and newborn care education.  Its a blend of self-paced learning & one-to-one support that begins in the second trimester and continues through the end of the fourth trimester (12 weeks postpartum)

In this episode I share 20 things I am grateful for as a Sage Mama   Episode 9 with Shannon Smith The Road Not Taken Masterclass Lactation Support Infant Massage Postpartum Planning Sage Motherhood Mentorship Head over to the episode page for a list of the many resources I mentioned in the episode: Episode 20

19. The Power of Kangaroo Care & Infant Massage  History of Infant Massage Infant Massage Research Kangaroo Care Kangaroo Care Research Where to Learn Infant Massage Cultural Traditions with Infant Massage Indian Massage African Massage Russian Massage Infant Massage Benefits for Baby: Faster weight gain Improve cardiac and respiratory output Better sleeping patterns Release of hormones for food absorption and digestion Skin stimulation Improvement of muscle tone Enhanced neurological development •Improvement of sensory awareness Provide a special communication/development of non-verbal communication Promotes self-esteem and respect Infant Massage Benefits for Parents: Parents feel more confident in their ability to read baby's cues The parent's ability to soothe and meet baby's needs A parent's healthy self-esteem as baby responds, validating their skills and role as parents Increase the parent's confidence to follow their intuitive sense The release of hormones from the mother to nurture the baby Enhance communication and respect Infant Massage as a family tradition Can be a time for parent and child to communicate in a relaxed and playful manner Special time between father and child Assist older siblings to welcome a new baby to the family through their participation in giving a portion of the massage with appropriate touch/pressure; learning to understand the baby's needs, and by their receiving an age appropriate massage to decrease incidence of possible jealousy Infant Massage Benefits for Society These may promote, or encourage: Secure, healthy attached children May help reduce child abuse by reducing parental stress. May prevent sexual abuse by teaching consent and bodily autonomy May help to prevent IPV later in life due to secure infant attachment.   Kanagaroo Care Parents should be seated comfortably in a quiet, dimly lit room with some privacy. Position the baby, dressed in diaper on your bare chest for a minimum of 20 minutes. For warmth, you can cover the baby's shoulders and back with a blanket, as long as their chest is skin-to-skin with yours. Always be sure that any blankets are away from your baby's face. This bonding time can be experienced by parents of any sex. If kangaroo care is performed around feeding, place the baby with the non-breastfeeding parent after the feed. Kangaroo Care Research Gene Anderson, Pioneer of Kangaroo Care Research in USA Physiology and research provide overwhelming evidence that kangaroo mother care is not only safe but superior to the use of technology such as incubators, Depriving babies of skin-to-skin makes alternative stress pathways in the brain, which can lead to ADD, colic, sleep disorders among other things." KanGURU: Susan M. Ludington, PhD, CNM, FAAN is a CNM who has tested Kangaroo Care's use as a treatment to improve cardiopulmonary stability, decrease apnea and bradycardia frequency, improve sleep, reduce agitation/irritability, reduce pain, and enhance maternal and paternal attachment/interaction with the infant, and maternal stress. Is your baby already here?  Learn Infant Massage with me!  Infant Massage Online with Stefanie Melo Still expecting?  Learn Infant Massage with me through  Sage Motherhoood Mentorship  

I believe … medicine alone will never fully address and support the holistic needs of women, therefore… I encourage women to not only use prescriptions but also to address their mental and spiritual health through lifestyle and therapy   Medicine addresses our chemistry, our microbiome and can offer incredible results; however most circumstances that can indicate medication also respond quite well to a holistic approach. For example Gestational Diabetes responds to nutrient dense foods, herbs, exercise and on some level: mindset. And PUPPPs may respond to lifestyle changes like reducing harsh chemicals in skin care products, essential oils, masques, etc.  Utilizing herbs, plants, oils, homeopathy, nutrition, meditation, exercise, prayer, mindfulness, healthy boundaries may also produce highly impactful results. Possibly keeping open your options for a intervention-free birth. This is part of my mentorship program, helping you understand different approaches for your holistic well-being and then you decide the path for you, but it's hard to use a natural approach if you aren't aware of it.   Let's go mama: let's let medicine have its place and let holistic care be your "north star" because that status quo isn't good enough for you. Sage Motherhood Mentorship offers: Pregnancy Education Childbirth Education Postpartum Preparation Newborn Care Infant Massage 1:1 Mentorship  Desiring the highest level of perinatal support? > Book a consult to join Sage Motherhood Mentorship  Looking for birth affirmations or shifting your thoughts around pregnancy and birth? > Get Prenatal Affirmations Longing for a homebirth or VBAC?   > Check out The Road Not Taken  Need Lactation Support? > Lactation Support Consultation  Looking for Postpartum Support? > Postpartum Planning Session Struggling with newborn colic, sleep or bonding? > Join me in Infant Massage

Tips for Postpartum Recovery with a Toddler Communicate with your toddler. Practice Empathy Prioritize Connection with your toddler Practice maximum toddler effort Ask for help Look into the Montessori approach to foster appropriate independence for your children. Postpartum can be peaceful and beautiful and honestly so much fun with a toddler in tow.  However, that peace comes from cultivating it and preparing yourself and your environment for a peaceful transition. Recovery on it's own is so counter-cultural, so if you would like help with this, please book a consultation with me.  We'll look at your unique circumstances so that you can cultivate a soft landing for your family's expansion. https://stefaniemelo.com/page/postpartum-consult This is part of what we do in Sage Motherhood Mentorship, which is my program for the childbearing year.  Not only do you get prenatal education, birth preparation, postpartum planning and newborn care you also get to learn about infant and parent bonding and attachment in my infant massage course.  I support you through dozens of pre-recorded classes and a one-to-one mentorship hybrid. I'm so happy for you and your growing famiy and I'd love to support your transition learn more about Sage Motherhood Mentorship Remember to grab my favorite resource Prenatal Affirmations to strengthen your mindset for birth and motherhood.  

1. What makes lactation cookies so special 2. Who should and should not utilize lactation cookies 3. Why I generally am not a fan of lactation cookies (even though they're delish!)   Book your lactation support call with me LACTATION SUPPORT   I'd love to have you grab my free prenatal affirmations to support you in moving towards this birth mindset that delivers.  Techniques and tools that will help you manage your anxiety and hold yourself in birth in a way that feels really good.   PRENATAL AFFIRMATIONS     Ready to be radically resourced during your childbearing year?  Work with me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship, I'll support you to create the mindset, emotions, physical space and practical support for a year that feels sacred and transformative even if you experience anxiety.   SAGE MOTHERHOOD MENTORSHIP   Connect with me, this is the best place to get your consult set up.   DM me on  INSTAGRAM    Connect on  TIKTOK                 

Anxiety in Pregnancy is incredibly common. Anxiety in pregnancy has been on the rise the past few years. Anxiety in pregnancy makes sense when you consider how unpredictable the childbearing year is. There are so many resources for coping with anxiety and managing it well. I'd love to have you grab my free prenatal affirmations to support you in moving towards this birth mindset that delivers.  Techniques and tools that will help you manage your anxiety and hold yourself in birth in a way that feels really good. Ready to be radically resourced during your childbearing year?  Work with me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship, I'll support you to create the mindset, emotions, physical space and practical support for a year that feels sacred and transformative even if you experience anxiety.   Prenatal Affirmations Sage Motherhood Mentorship DM me on Instagram Connect on Tiktok 

Choline falls into the B family of vitamins, though it doesn't have a "b" name like b12, b9, etc. More about choline: Choline in mom: builds cell membranes supports nerve function DNA synthesis cell messaging fat transport and  metabolism in mom Choline for baby Builds the nervous system,  Brain development, especially the hippocampus and memory health Placental health Positively impact life-long gene expression.   Choline works in tandem with omega-3 fat, DHA and enhances how DHA is incorporated into the cells.  Choline rich foods tend to also be high in DHA   Risks of not enough choline: 94% of pregnany women in the USA do not consume enough choline. Deficiencies are clearly linked to neural tube defects & cleft palate. Optimal choline levels are linked to prevention of preeclampsia Our bodies do not produce enough choline for essential functions, therefore we must get it through diet (or supplementation if Vegan). Recommendations: Current research shows the amount of choline consumed in pregnancy should be closer to 930 mg per day. For women with MTHFR gene mutation, choline needs to be substantially higher than 450 mg.     Foods Rich in Choline: visit the page for episode 14   The standard recommendations do not lead to pregnancy, birth, infant or life-long health.     This is why I offer prenatal nutrition inside of Sage Motherhood Mentorship.  I'm shortening the learning curve of a whole foods approach to health and offering specific information for pregnancy and lactation.     You deserve the best and so does your little one.   You won't get it from the standard of care.    Check out The Road Not Taken: my masterclass on taking a different approach to birth, and why it's an uphill battle to get a natural birth in the hospital.  Links The Road Not Taken Pregnancy Nutrition in Sage Motherhood Mentorship Real Food for Pregnancy * Real Food for Gestational Diabetes * Real Food for Pregnancy, by Lily Nichols National Institutes for Health * I am an Amazon Associate and may earn a commission on products you purchase through this link at no additional cost to you.  Thank you for supporting my small business.

    Meeting Your Breastfeeding Goals 1. The Milk Suppy Equation Sufficient glandular tissue + Functioning hormones and hormone receptors + adequate, frequent, effective milk removal + intact neural pathways and ducts = healthy milk supply.    2. Infant Communication Understand infant cries, body lanaguage & respond appropriately.   3. Variables   Not all bodies work the same, Your support system impacts your experience Values impact your choices.   4. Evidence Based Breastfeeding Goals Exclusive breastfeeding until 6 months and showing signs of readiness Nursing until 2 years and mutually desirable, globally 4 is the common age of weaninag Introduce solids at 6 month and when showing signs of readiness, without reducing milk intake.   Create your goals with these four factors in mind, then adjust as necessary. As you prepare yourself for the type of birth you desire, make sure to head over to PRENATAL AFFIRMATIONS   Are you looking for a VBAC or Homebirth?  Prepare yourself with my masterclass  THE ROAD NOT TAKEN   Want the highest level of support for pregnancy, birth and postpartum?  Book your free consult with me and see if Sage Motherhood Mentorship is right for you.  BOOK A CALL   Are you looking for a VBAC or Homebirth?  Prepare yourself with my masterclass  BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT  

A vision for mothers, babies, fathers, partners and community around the childbearing year that shakes the status quo. There is a lot to consider when pregnant and welcoming a new baby, and it goes far beyond the technical & physical aspects like getting on a prenatal vitamin, choosing a provider and researching car seats.   It even goes beyond hiring a doula, taking childbirth education classes and reading a breastfeeding book. What you actually need To have an experience that you look back on with fondness and gratitude instead of relief is to be emotionally, physically, mentally prepared & supported.   Our society is pretty okay at preparation, but lacking in support and we often forget that our emotional and mental health is more important than the physical experience, because eventually pregnancy ends but our emotions & thoughts are still there. My vision that shakes the status quo is:   Wise, intuitive, healthy and confident mamas Healthy, happy and developmentally supported babies. Partners who are open to nuance and complexity and prioritize the health of their relationship with a mama who is rapidly changing. Dads, Parents see the importance of  forming healthy attachments and understand how to do that. Siblings to witness this transformation in mama and still feel loved, accepted and significant. Extended family who LISTEN to mama. A community that is so good that every mama has multiple people offer to coordinate meal drop offs, and help around the house for the first six weeks.   My vision is for you to be radically resourced throughout the childbearing year.    Does this vision speak to you?  Do you desire a childbearing year so good you can't help but talk about it?  Book your free consultation with me today.  https://calendly.com/stefanie-melo Working on shifting your fears around birth & baby?  Get your prenatal affirmations PDF + Audio recordings now https://stefaniemelo.com/page/prenatal-affirmations Thinking about a natural birth? Join me in my masterclass designed to help you see the need for your vision and tap deeply into the desires and emotions that will get you there. The Road Not Taken https://stefaniemelo.com/landing/the-road-not-taken-in-motherhood Curious about Sage Motherhood Mentorship? Get all the details here: https://stefaniemelo.com/page/sage-motherhood-mentorship Connect with me @sagemotherhood on Tiktok & Instagram

Calcium in Pregnancy, Pre-eclampsia & Absorbing calcium   Calcium is a mineral that has a special relationship with Vitamin D. ⁣ Calcium requirements for pregnant and lactating women vary by age. ⁣ If you are 18 or younger and pregnant or lactating you should be getting at least 1300mg ⁣ Ages 19-50 and lactating or pregnant are least 1000mg    Calcium supplementation is indicated for women with a history of high-blood pressure and preeclampsia. Research shows a combination supplement of magnesium sulfate, vitamin d, calcium and zinc significantly reduces blood pressure.  The doses studied were 800 mg calcium,  200 mg magnesium,  8 mg zinc and  400 IU Vitamin D3 ⁣ Your body uses calcium to support: Muscular strength and stamina Bone strength  Tooth Strength ⁣ Excellent Food Sources of Calcium Collard greens 266 mg Broccoli rabe 100 mg Cress, 41mg Kale cooked, 179 mg, Green soybeans, cooked 175 mg Bok choy, 160mg Rhubarb 105mg Broccoli 70mg Oranges 55mg  ⁣ Another important fact with calcium absorption is that you need healthy intestines to absorb calcium, and healthy liver and kidneys to convert calcium from the digestive system to the forms needed to build your body and baby's.   ⁣ Two ways to support your liver:   Reduce exposure to things that damage the liver: Phthalates -2023 study showed that phthalate exposure increased liver enzyme levels, a sign of liver damage Acetaminophen Ibuprofen Alcohol abuse (defined as 1 serving per day for women, 2 per day for men) Synthetic vitamin A  Excessive sugar  sugar, 2023 study showed that phthalate exposure increased liver enzyme levels, a sign of liver damage Parabens, if kidneys are not functioning properly   Action item: ditch commercial skin care and body products as they almost always contain phthalates.    Learn more about ditching harmful products Help your body cleanse from exposures that harm the liver, from Dr. Sara Gottfried   Add bitter vegetables and herbs at every meal for their liver benefit: arugula, dandelion leaves, endive, radish, sage - include these in your 11 servings of vegetables per day count Eat alliums to raise glutathione such as onions, garlic, and leeks. Eat cruciferous vegetables: broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, kale, radishes. Eat the rainbow, every day Add prebiotic fiber, which helps remove BPA in the system, such as asparagus, burdock root, Jerusalem artichoke, jicama, garlic, onion, leeks, unripe (green) bananas, flaxseeds, seaweed, konjac root, and yacon root Spices to reduce inflammation: turmeric, red pepper and chili, black pepper, licorice, clove, ginger, garlic, coriander, cardamom, fenugreek, cumin, rosemary, anise, cinnamon. Consume 4-5 forkfuls of probiotic foods per day: sauerkraut, kefir, and kimchi. Ways to support your intestinal tract: Eat a diverse variety of foods Consume lots of  fruits and vegetables and legumes Eat lots of fruits,  Eat fermented foods for naturally occurring probiotics Consume Prebiotic foods Consume polyphenols Eat Whole grains vs processed grains (some research shows wheat, barley and rye can increase gut permeability–and that isn't a good thing)  Breastfeed for 6 months exclusively Take a high-quality diverse probiotic supplement if health has been compromised  How to support your kidneys Physical activity Manage blood sugar Reduce blood pressure Maintain a healthy weight Improve hydration, 1.5 - 2L per day as the baseline Do not smoke Reduce over the counter medications,  Consider alternatives to the herb kava kava if you have signs of impaired kidney function.   It is my desire to see you have a positive pregnancy, a beautiful birth and a peaceful postpartum.  Nutrition is one of the key elements to those objectives.  This is why I include a prenatal nutrition class in Sage Motherhood Mentorship.  Calcium is just one of many important minerals during your childbearing year, come work with me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship and let's optimize your nutrition so that you can have the childbearing year of your dreams.        Looking for a VBAC or homebirth?  Then you don't want to miss my masterclass The Road Not Taken. It will help you connect deeply with your desired birth and the reasons you want it, as well as help you understand how the current medical model will steer you off of that path.    Don't forget to work on your birth mindset and get your FREE affirmations (PDFs & Audio) including my most powerful teaching on mindset!      

In this episode I dive into one of the most helpful pain management tools in labor: surrender.   I want every mama to embrace birth and all it's complexities because when you are fully present in it, you can come through with so many powerful lessons for your future as a mother.   I share with you exactly how to surrender in birth and tie that wisdom into a fairly challenging morning as a mom with a sick three year old.     Surrender is a powerful tool and when you can surrender and remain calm in a long and strong contraction, you can surrender and remain calm when your three year old is having a tantrum.   As you prepare yourself for the type of birth you desire, make sure to head over to get my FREE Prenatal Affirmations   Are you looking for a VBAC, Homebirth or Natural Birth?  Prepare yourself with my masterclass The Road Not Taken   I am currently accepting just a handful of mamas into my program: Sage Motherhood Mentorship, and am offering some incredible bonuses right now. I can't wait to support you in this journey.  

In this Episode I interview Shannon Smith, CNM.  Shannon was my doula for 3 of my 5 births and an incredible resource in my pregnancy journey.  In this interview we discuss: Shannon's desire to become a midwife and why she chooses to provide hospital-based care. Ideas for how those birthing in hospital can achieve a birth they desire when hospital care is what is necessary. Suggestions for finding a provider who is VBAC supportive Postpartum mental health and resources.   As you prepare yourself for the type of birth you desire, make sure to head over to Prenatal Affirmations Are you looking for a VBAC or Homebirth?  Prepare yourself with my masterclass The Road Not Taken  These both grant you access to Sage Motherhood Podcast Community where you can also grab my special offer: a free 30 minute coaching call! 

In this episode we explore three things that "they" won't tell you about breastfeeding.  A few points of clarification. I 100% support the decision to use formula or donated milk for any reason.   I am a HUGE advocate for breastfeeding because it is almost always the easiest for baby to digest, offers more immune support, bonding opportunities and is better for your hormonal experience and ideally mama's mental health.   The second statement does not apply to everyone.    Breastfeeding is not always easy or come naturally, for most women it's a big effort that pays off in physical and emotional benefits.   However, there are real complications that arise and in this episode we explore some of that with extra focus on the first month and week of baby's life.   We touch on: How our inappropriate expectations and complicate and derail breastfeeding, Why policy changes are necessary to increase breastfeeding rates birth - six months, Three key identifiers of an issue with a baby getting enough milk, The four keys to create a great milk supply,  Guidelines for diapers the first five days of life. Additional signs of issues and when to seek help. Head on over to the Sage Motherhood Podcast Community for early access to future episodes, all of my resources for pregnancy, mindset, birth and motherhood as well as the guide for navigating breastfeeding concerns and access to my offer dropping exclusively to the community.  

In this Episode we talked about how the Montessori approach can strike a balance in the parenting advice out there, while also being radically different. The Montessori approach can simplify your experience as a parent, create security and consistency for your baby as well as honor your intuitive response to the baby while offering opportunities for your baby to thrive and grow.  We talk in depth about The Montessori Floor Bed  …. and how cribs are not helping The Montessori Weaning Table & Baby Led Weaning …..why  this can save you the mess of sensory bins Freedom of Movement in Montessori …. Why you safe safely ditch most of the swaddling gear Routines in the Montessori home …. And how this is better for both you and baby Links Incorporate Montessori into your mothering by working with me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship  Prepare your heart and mind for birth and motherhood with Prenatal Affirmations To learn more about Baby Led Weaning, The Montessori Floor Bed, The Montessori Weaning Table and Freedom of Movement, join The Sage Motherhood Podcast Community  

In this Episdoe we talk about:  What iron does for mom & baby Who is at higher risk for iron deficiency? How much iron do you need?   Best sources of iron Three Ways How to increase iron levels What to look for in supplements        ferrous bisglycinate chelate When to  disregard your doctor or midwives recommendation Looking for more prenatal nutrition considerations?  Buy Real Food for Pregnancy by Lily Nichols, RDN  Join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship. You'll get access to my customers-only prenatal nutrition masterclass, as well as childbirth education, postpartum planning and text/phone support through 12 weeks postpartum Head to https://stefaniemelo.com/page/sage-motherhood-mentorship to learn more  Just looking for prenatal supplement recommendations?  Book your consult call with me today https://calendly.com/stefanie-melo Grab my prenatal affirmations here  

Cultivating a Birth Mindset that Delivers In this episode I talk about how birth is not primarily a physical experience.  A majority of the time when a mama takes a step off of her birth plan, it's not because of a physical problem.  It's most often a mental or emotional challenge that creates the desire or need for intervention. Birth is primarily mental and emotional work. In order to cultivate a birth mindset that delivers you need to do the mindset work.  Become aware of your fears, Become aware of your thoughts, Become honest about your emotions, Become aware of the evidence, Own your agency and actively choose.    Do you want to cultivate a birth mindset that delivers?  Start here https://stefaniemelo.com/landing/prenatal-affirmations with my Prenatal Affirmations A birth mindset that delivers offers so much more than having a positive birth experience.  It's about cultivating a childbearing year that feels really good.  It's about embracing the full-person experience: mind, body, soul.  You are birthing not only your baby, but yourself as a mother.   It's not just about mom and baby's experience, but also your working with your partner family so that you navigate the challenges just as well as you embrace the easy parts.  If you are ready to step in to a positive experience: pregnancy, birth and postpartum, Sage Motherhood is the place for you.  Learn all about it here https://stefaniemelo.com/page/sage-motherhood-mentorship Then book your call with me to get started https://calendly.com/stefanie-melo

Folate & Prenatal Nutrition Folate is a necessary nutrient to sustain a pregnancy and prevent neural tube defects. Folate and Folic Acid work differently in the body, and consuming folate is safer than taking folic acid supplements. FDA currently recommends 600mcg for pregnancy and 500mcg for lactation. Foods based vitamins tend to have higher absorption rates because vitamins, minerals and foods work synergistically.  So "higher" does of synthetic vitamins aren't necessarily "better" LINKS: some of these links are affiliate links  You can shop my recommendations here and when you purchase you'll get access to my prenatal nutrition class which is normally reserved for only Sage Motherhood Mentorship Clients. Click on over to my blog to check out high-folate foods DM me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sagemotherhood Prenatal Affirmations: www.stefaniemelo.com Join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship: https://stefaniemelo.com/page/perinatal-coaching

In this Episode I share  -why there is pushback against natural birth, breastfeeding and other parenting choices -what this can look like -how it harms mental and emotional health for moms -how to navigate the gap between ideals and reality through attachment and detachment I also invite you to take some time to journal or reflect on which way you are prone?  Are you likely to feel defeated in the face of disappointment?  Or are you more likely to become more determined?  Journal about ways this tendency has served you well and ways it's not been helpful.   I invite you to the messy middle where your choices matter, your mistakes are salvageable, your ideals are important but don't define you.   I invite you to Sage Motherhood where we honor, experience and process the full-range of emotions, so that difficult and negative emotions don't railroad you into decisions out of your values. I ask you for a pinch of grace in my delivery, I am not a perfect public speaker or podcast editor. I strive to be kind and inclusive in my language and I welcome dialogue that helps me do that better.   LINKS DM me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sagemotherhood Prenatal Affirmations: www.stefaniemelo.com You can't guarantee your results, and your choices still matter deeply.  I want to invite you to The Road Not Taken in Motherhood: a masterclass for expecting moms looking to have a postive birth experience. https://stefaniemelo.com/landing/the-road-not-taken-in-motherhood Join me in Sage Motherhood Mentorship: https://stefaniemelo.com/phttps://stefaniemelo.com/page/sage-motherhood-mentorship

Show Notes   In this Episode I share  -Why I chose the word Sage for my business -How I define sage motherhood -My beliefs around motherhood, pregnancy, birth, parenting and babies.   We all have teaching, experiences and cultural practices that shape the way we view femininity, menstruation, pregnancy, birth, postpartum, motherhood, marriage and parenting. It's important to understand those influences, unconscious beliefs and how this shapes the way you experience your body and motherhood. I invite you to take some time to journal and reflect on any ways that my beliefs have impacted you, maybe unnecessary cesareans felt like a sting.  It could be my wording, it could be that you disagree based on evidence, it could be because there is an experience you've encountered that triggers difficult emotions. I'm not here to harm any mother, baby or family.  I am here to invite you into the possibility that your emotions, beliefs and experience matter profoundly.  Also, to the possibility that your emotion, beliefs and experience could prevent you from experiencing abundance in different areas of life and motherhood. I ask you for a pinch of grace in my delivery, I am not a perfect public speaker.  I strive to be kind and inclusive in my language and I welcome dialogue that is kind and respectful.   LINKS Follow me on Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/sagemotherhood Prenatal Affirmations: https://stefaniemelo.com/landing/prenatal-affirmations Join The Sage Motherhood Podcast Email list: https://stefaniemelo.com/page/podcast Learn About Sage Mama Maternity (new program replacing the one mentioned in the episode) https://stefaniemelo.com/page/sage-mama-maternity-a

In this episode, I share the first 10 years of my motherhood story, because it shaped my perinatal coaching and parent coaching practice.  I invite you to listen and reflect on ways you see parts of your story in mine and how your beliefs, emotions and experience have shaped your journey.  Content Warning: my story very briefly mentions gun violence, pregnancy loss, suicidal ideation. I'll cover  -how evangelical christianity shaped my view on motherhood -how I became pregnant with amenorrhea due to PCOS -why I decided to homebirth -how I became a birth doula -how lactation issues shifted my physical health -how physical changes and a "crunchy" lifestyle didn't fully address my mental health -why my parenting convictions led me to leave the church -how leaving the church rocked my identity  -how covid changed everything -a glimpse into our 3 months of full time RV travel -how coaching transformed her mental health -the ways in which the church failed me -the ways in which society failed me -the ways I set myself up for feelings of failure as a mother.   Mama, please remember your mental health,  your emotional health and your physical health all matter.  It's important to prioritize all of them, you are just as valuable as your baby and children, and they need a happy and healthy you to become who they are meant to be.  There is no shame in getting help on your motherhood journey. LINKS To see the image of the PCOS Crazy Cycle on my blog,  click here Our Love Story https://youtu.be/hpiy9eZgyF4 Amazon Affiliate Link: The Red Tent Bookshop Affiliate link: The Red Tent Positive Parenting Solutions free webinar.  I recommend the Gold Membership, totally worth it. There is also now an monthly subscription option making this even more accessible!   DM me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sagemotherhood Prenatal Affirmations: www.stefaniemelo.com/