Sideways

What does a feeling of emptiness really mean? Does it indicate there's something seriously wrong, or can it be a point of punctuation and a sign you need a reset?We also discuss paper planes, whether giraffes are good at maths, and feel grateful for footballers and trees.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

Delivering bad news is something most of us find difficult, so you might find these tips on how to do it successfully quite useful.We also explore the dangers of having an Only Fans account if you work in education, hear about a missing giraffe, and complain about World Cup kick off times.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about what happens when you allow your care for other people's emotional wellbeing to overshadow the need to take proper care of yourself.There's also a lot of clothing related content, for some reason.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about how to avoid unhelpful and disrespectful remarks to people in recovery, many of which say more about the person asking than they do about whoever happens to be the object of their enquiry.A buffalo receives a reprieve due to his resemblance to a US president, and a wheelchair user gets an unwelcome shock, almost literally.I got the title of the episode wrong in my recorded introduction so, sorry about that if you feel you've been misled.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about how some of us make less effort when we think our contribution won't be noticed.A man turns up in A&E with an unexploded bomb stuck in an unusual place, we discuss strange eating habits, and Martin gets a bit annoyed both about the sound quality of his recording and the way that tunes of hymns change when he is least expecting ithttps://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing the modern dating phenomenon that involved sudden revulsion at someone with whom you had been experiencing a romantic spark. I offer some theories about why it might have more to do with you than you realise.We both remember disappointment at a fancy dress competition, reminisce about the Caroline roadshows of the 80s and, after a strong start, I disappoint again in the lyric quiz.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're discussing the benefits of physical touch, and why it can be such a useful component of recovery and good mental health more generally.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism.A woman employs a counterintuitive way to address her debilitating anxiety, and I get angry about hot cross buns.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about a less well-known  form of body dysmorphia.A man wakes up coloured blue and can't understand why, and there are despicable practices at the camel pageant.  https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives.A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee, there's underwear that measures 'flatus', I get the ick about something I can't recall, and there's more gratitude than you can shake a stick at.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing.A professional fighter gets his hair punched off, I witness a live drug deal whilst walking home from the shops, we display a pathetic level of knowledge about American sport, and wonder if the best place to find love might be along the aisles of a supermarket.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do.We're recording on the first day of February which reminds of of violent traditions from childhood, and Martin has a story about physical assault with an unusual weapon.We're back in our traditional roles this week which, in my case, inevitably includes a predictably poor performance on the lyric quiz.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term recovery for dependent drinkers is not comparable with short-term behavioural programmes that appear to have similar aim but, in truth, diverge enormously.We also hear about a man who chose an unusual disguise after wrongly being accused of a heinous crime, wonder about the wisdom of old men sporting ponytails, and remember the days when the GP would suggest you had a smoke to get rid of your chesty cough.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance.There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing worst in the lyric quiz.There is also a single uttering of the f-word so, if you're easily offended, you might be better off with 'The One Show'.Happy New Year.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about expereinces that move you unexpectedly. I offer the example of a key change in a James Taylor song that moved me before realising that it doesn’t have a key change in it at all. It was the introduction of the string section at the beginning of the third verse which got me, but it's still a valid example I reckon.In other news,  Martin is still struggling with Christmas, there are literal hair-raising tales about riding a rollercoaster, and a woman gets a worm in her eyelid.This vaguely festive episode is our last one of the year, so we’d also like to take this opportunity to thank you for listening and wish you a happy and peaceful festive season whether you’re observing Christmas or not.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're discussing an effective antidote to anything that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, overwhelm or sadness.Martin suggests some world records we can have a crack at, and there's some hygiene talk that involves dangerous soap and whether it's right to multitask whilst taking a shower.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience severely tested.In other news, a bold double bluff doesn't work out, there are alarming developments on the toothpaste front, and we present a gratitude sandwich.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the target of the explanation.A plane is grounded as a result of flatulence, there's a squirrel on wheels, Martin frightens small children, and we debate the wisdom of letting a delivery driver use your toilet.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional challenges.We also feel grateful for seasonal joy and being fed. There's some other nonsense too but I can't remember what it was about and I have a client in 10 minutes so I don't have time to check, and I've just realised that I haven't been including the normal intro with birdsong and all that paraphernalia. I'll do better next time.Also, here's a link to the type of video we mention in relation to body doubling on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ex_bNIFR1Ahttps://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

We're back!This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling behaviour in a relationship.There's a new quiz, we're both surprisingly grateful for getting older, and some monkeys display questionable behaviour involving fermented fruit.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing the red flags you might come across when you work with a sponsor in one of the fellowships and what you can do about it if it happens.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about why curiosity is important and how we, sometimes inadvertently, prevent ourselves from exercising it.We hear about famous people carved from vegetables, and a man gives police an unwelcome gift when they put him under arrest.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about how we forget most of what we learn and consider  ways of improving retention.Some friends, having messed with hallucinogens, mistakenly believe their companion to have died, and an elephant pops into a shop for some snacks.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about how we get in our own way by making things too complicated and failing to establish helpful strategies for getting stuff done.I nearly burn myself alive with a BBQ, we ponder on what might make it worth being airlifted off a mountain (twice), and we're grateful for the same thing for different reasons.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about how to avoid putting barriers up to prevent our own progress and how small incremental improvements add up to a lot.There's also a man who gets shot by his dog, and gratitude for longevity and pizza ovens.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about the early developmental experiences that might have a significant impact on your ability to establish and sustain relationships.There's also a cautionary tale about carrying glazed windows on your head down Mill Street.Apologies if the episode sounds a bit rough around the edges but we recorded it late, I'm trying to upload it before my first client, and I haven't even had a shower yet.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we discuss the perils of slipping on fruit, fear of vending machines, and the joy of greenhouses and short trousers.If that weren't enough, we devote the more serious segment of the episode to a discussion on ways to deal with destructive criticism and the behaviours that can replace it toward much happier outcomes.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week Martin has some wisdom related to the classic film, 'Citizen Kane'.It's the first episode we've recorded while sitting in the same room for five years and, frankly, it was disturbing.There's all the usual fun and frolics including the prematurely announced death of a Bulgarian footballer.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about how to keep your composure when someone tells you that Charlie Chaplin films are funny.A mother steals ice cream from her child, who then gets the police involved, and a snake takes part in a heist and slithers off with some CBD oil.Basically, it's more of the usual fare and, quite honestly, you'd be disappointed if it wasn't.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about ways of boosting your brain so that you don't find it as hard to remember who had the best selling single in 1974 (Mud - Tiger Feet) and you can manage to churn out a podcast on a Sunday afternoon.We also discuss the merits of a good apple, reminisce about reading maps, and I'm grateful for plasters.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're investigating the circadian rhythm, cyber-farting, big bags of flour, and the joy of early morning light.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about how much of our communication relies on what we do with our bodies.There's all the usual guff but I can't be more specific than that because I'm in a rush.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing a neuropsychological condition that prevents individuals from expressing and identifying emotions.We wonder why so many sports have what appears to be an unnecessary dress code, and wonder whether organisers had their priorities right when they allowed smoking and drinking in their events during the 80s whilst insisting the players wore specific clothing.There's also an obese hedgehog who had to be put on a diet to protect him from predators.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're discussing the things that make us feel wistful and sentimental, even though they often have no intrinsic value other than the sentiment we attach to them.Martin's discovery of a business selling diapers for festival goers makes us think about the difficulties of relieving yourself in a crowd. A man takes his pet turkey for a run, and I do appallingly on our weekly quiz.Happy New Year.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're discussing the benefits of living alone, especially for those in early recovery.Over a cup of masala chai (me) we also cover shopping from bed (Martin), fake parades, how to stack the dishwasher, and whether it's OK to hide from carol singers.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're discussing the unattractive emotion we feel when we covet something we see in someone else.There's also chat on modern art, speed dating, having a cockroach named after you, and the wisdom of putting a chocolate orange in a pie.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing how we develop the core beliefs and values that provide direction for the way we live our lives, and consider the experiences that cause them to shift over time.Martin celebrates another sobriety anniversary, we wonder about the merits of taking a bath with some apples, and whether it's OK to keep a big lottery win to yourself.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing how your face conveys messages you'd sometimes rather it didn't.Martin reveals a curmudgeonly attitude toward the clocks changing, there's a case of mistaken identity involving the Northern Lights, and I get woken by a bump in the night.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're discussing the joy that can come from refusing invitations and staying home to look after yourself by doing whatever makes you feel good.A man sees a member of the royal family moonlighting in a UFO,  we agree that putting dogs in clothes is bad behaviour, and find gratitude in the radio and attending a funeral.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

We're back.This week, along with the usual inane chat, we're discussing why we might change our minds and differentiating between the healthy and not-so-healthy reasons for doing so.There's unrest at a Chinese zoo, a new quiz that I do as badly at as the last one, and we disagree over petty theft.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, for our final episode before a summer break, we're talking about how we block our own or others' genuine feelings so that we don't have to face the reality of our emotions.We'll be back in September. Have a good summer (or winter, depending on where you are in the world)https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're discussing 'breadcrumbing', a close relation of 'ghosting'. A man finds himself in the midst of an earthquake at a most inopportune time, and Martin has some wonderful news which is not overshadowed by my gratitude for a handful of radishes.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about our personal experiences of addiction and depression and the anhedonia that accompanied them.We also hear about a woman who can tell the outcome of sporting events simply by throwing asparagus into the air.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about the importance of appropriate personal space.We also cover urinal etiquette and good manners when driving through a traffic contraflow.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about dealing with shyness. Are you born like it? How does it differ from introversion and social anxiety? Can you do anything about it?We also discuss attitudes to small talk and feel grateful for self-discipline and passing places on narrow country lanes.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about burnout. Why does it happen and what can we do to prevent it?Martin has news of World War 3, we wonder about post-apocalyptic football, and I become frustrated at next door's cats using my raised beds as a toilet.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about why we sometimes feel out of our depth without much evidence in support.I do some research on mangoes, a man wears inappropriate footwear that causes him no end of problems while metal detecting, and Martin experiences some auditory recall for which he is grateful.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about the importance of being your true self, whoever that is.Neither of us bothers to look out for the Northern Lights but we both feel enthusiastic about the idea of cuddling a cow. Martin remembers being shamed for coming last and we wonder if it’s ever OK to cheat on a test.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about why it's unhelpful to always think about things in terms of good and bad without anything in betweenA man has an unusual emotional support animal stolen,  we debate the merit of putting vegetables in cakes, and Martin is grateful for big parking spaces.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about how we prepare ourselves emotionally for challenging situations.We hear about a man who goes to great lengths to avoid getting wet, I upset the Irish with my poor attempt at an accent, and Martin feels grateful for an excited hug.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at [email protected] again for listening, we really appreciate it.