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The Anxious Love Coach
by Natalie Kennedy
Here we talk about relationship anxiety and upgrading love partnerships-- how to go from DOUBTING your relationship to LOVING it and gushing about your partner.
Episodes
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Why I Wish I Settled Sooner: A Love Letter to the Woman on the Fence
What if the fear of making the wrong choice is actually worse than making it? Natalie is back after a long hiatus with a raw, personal letter to the woman on the fence — the one stuck in endless "what if," comparing good enough to an illusion of perfection. She shares her own story of years…
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Overcoming sex anxiety with Shayna Hiller Revisit
If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, Shayna Hiller, who is a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher....
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You don't need to convince yourself to stay
Do you feel like there's a lot of mental gymnastics to relationship anxiety work? Does this feel overly complicated? Let's take a step back from the details and acknowledge the bigger picture. The work here is to develop faith and trust in yourself. You can't think your way out of a feeling...
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Don't lower your expectations, drop them entirely!
Is it possible to be with one person for life and still feel something deep and warm between you? I'm sharing stories and wisdom from a 43‑year warm, loving marriage. Are you stressed by wanting things in your relationship to be equal and fair? What if doing more at home or in the relationship...
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Preserving your connection by protecting your individuality
Sharing our "come to Jesus" difficult discussion this week. On: incompatability that surfaces while married, negotiating differences and wants, and how not martyring yourself and nurturing your individuality is key to staying connected. Upcoming: Both Feet In, my signature relationship anxiety...
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Postpartum rage
A postpartum fight with my husband leads to some excellent healing and bonding. There is a power to forgiving ourselves, and our partners. This does not condone what happened or open ourselves up to being hurt again, but transforms that energy into clarity, love, and peace. Forgiveness emphasizes...
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Projection
Sometimes the thing we fixate on in our partners is actually something we do, too. What if we responded to our partners the way we want them to respond to us? Magic could happen. Many of my episodes use my personal stories as reference for lessons and teachings, and today's episode is no…
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When you disagree on "values" - a fight we had this week
What do you do when values or visions clash? Can you reconcile? Can you "go along" without abandoning yourself? In this episode I opened up about a fight P and I had this week, yayyy! And how we kinda got back on the same page. Links: As of 7/11/26: The new community, Both Feet In, is where you...
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How having grace helped us survive the first year of parenthood.
Parenthood has been a SEASON. In this episode, I shared how having grace for your partner is essential in a marriage, and what that looks like — and how those with rOCD might desperately have a tough time both giving and receiving it. UNWAVERING: A Year to End the Drama in your Relationships…
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Girltalk: sisterhood keeping you humble in your marriage
In this episode, my friend Cherry and I talked about a recent conversation where she humbled me in my marriage and how INCREDIBLY helpful it is to have sister roles like that in your life. Cherry also shares how to make bomb a$$ friends. Links: Patreon - support my work and come pick my brain...
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What to do if your guy doesn't have his sh*t together
This question came from my Patreon and I want to talk about it! If your guy is in his 20s and figuring himself out and you're feeling anxious about it... you're not crazy. Here's why and what you can do about it. Patreon - pick my brain monthly and get discounts on (almost) everything Unwavering…
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IG Live: How to get your guy to stop watching porn
In this episode I share a personal story with my husband's porn usage, what to do if your partner's usage bothers you, how I see porn now, what makes it worse, and how to get him to want to stop. Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships You'll get: Access to…
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What to do with ROCD breakup urges
Hey! In this episode I shared my story with breakup urges in my relationship with my now-husband and partner for 14 years. Boy do I know the panic of the thought "BREAK UP!" I also shared how I stopped experiencing these altogether, and how you can work with me in 2026. Join me for the entire…
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Relationship Anxiety is Victim Consciousness
Hot take: relationship anxiety is the fear of being "stuck" or powerless. There's no shame in falling into the trap of thinking we'll be victims to the circumstances in our lives— but once you see it... you don't have to choose it. You can choose to stay empowered no matter what your decision is....
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How to resolve the "should I stay or should I go?" conflict
This is an IG LIVE - you can watch it here Tension of Opposites has been closed and discontinued. Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a...
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End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss
End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss In this episode, I bring one of my dearest friends and mentors, Stefi Preiss, to discuss a practice that helped me step out of relationship anxiety and commit to my partner (now husband and daddy to my baby!) with my whole heart. We discuss what a...
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The birth of my son-- and death of my brand.
Hi podcast listener! I'm back with a fresh episode after having a baby boy. This episode includes my birth story (which went tremendously well), as well as some changes I'm making moving forward, including to the title of this podcast. Work with me 1:1: Tension of the Opposites has been closed…
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Listen to this if your partner watches porn Revisit
A question we've had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode…
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The "Trust Your Gut" Debunk with Chelsea Joy Horton Revisit
When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement...
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Why reassurance seeking is not free (and what to do instead) revisit
There are hidden costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you're addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for...
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Sex anxiety: when you don't feel like having sex revisit
I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom. Links: Register for the Sex Anxiety Clinic Live on Saturday August 29 at 2 PM PST…
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How to know if you're in a toxic relationship revisit
How does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you're in a toxic or abusive relationship. In this episode, I lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations...
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"Settling": The word that destroys great relationships Revisit
Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In...
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Self-pleasure as the path to sexual awakening with Luci Lampe Revisit
I am thrilled to welcome back Luci Lampe, a dear friend and mentor. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually. I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure...
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How illusion is ruining your sex life and attraction Revisit
My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage? Warning: I'm about to...
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To be free from anxiety, get comfortable with disappointment. Revisit
I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so. Links mentioned: Email List - Stay in touch Get my "list of 20 things to rule out before...
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The Importance of Separateness in a Relationship Revisit
I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and...
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How I Broke Free From Relationship Anxiety Revisit
After years of having doubts in my (then) 4-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving. Email List - Stay in touch Get...
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Worried people are judging your relationship?
In this episode: I'm going on maternity leave. Please send me your favorite episodes — I'll be re-purposing them over the next 6 months. A story about a viral reel that was grossly misinterpreted by both men and women, and how it was intended to be received — as well as how and why the...
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How to bring out the best (and worst) in men
Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward. I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony…
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"My partner just doesn't care"
This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations! Btw— happy 100th episode!...
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The moment I committed and never looked back
Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief. Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th -...
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What if it's not relationship anxiety but really my intuition telling me this isn't right?
I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself. You'll learn: What intuition is and isn't The false dichotomy you might…
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When your partner is socially awkward
Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly. Links: Join Tension…
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Partner not listening to you? Do this...
Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing. If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so here Join Tension of Opposites Every Saturday from July 11 through August...
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How to be his lover, not his mother
This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it! Join Tension of Opposites Every Saturday…
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The tough love I needed in my relationship anxiety journey
I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not...
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93: Do you want to break up or fight right before your period?
Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is...
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92: "What if I want kids and my partner doesn't?"
In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core...
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91: The Uncertainty of Babymaking
After a few-months long hiatus, I'm happy to share what I've been up to: settling down and starting a new life. In this episode, I share some of my own humbling realities and observations of trying to conceive. Do with them what you want. I hope you find them both reassuring and illuminating.…
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90: A Source of Your Relationship Anxiety
This episode is a recording of an impromptu Instagram Live I did last week. If you can see this pattern in yourself, you can also find freedom! Work with me: Next Patreon Community Call: Friday, June 7th at 8am PST. The call will last 2.5 hours. We will have an embodiment practice with Chelsea...
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89: How illusion is ruining your sex life and attraction (and what to do about it)
My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage? Warning: I'm about to...
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Overcoming sex anxiety with Shayna Hiller Revisit
If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name…
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87: Reclaiming softness in life and partnership with Jessica Fawn
An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to present to you this episode with Jessica Fawn, yoga and...
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86: How to Build a Career in Anxiety Work with Chelsea Joy Horton
If you've experienced profound healing and liberation from relationship anxiety, you may have felt the desire to pass this transformation on to others. If that's you, you're going to want to give this a listen and hear what it's like to be on the other side as a practitioner, and what it takes to...
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85: Thoughts on ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)
Two things are true: 1) I am unqualified to speak on ERP and OCD and 2) I am sharing my thoughts about ERP for those that still want to hear them even though I am unqualified. What is ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)? How helpful is it for those with relationship anxiety? What are its…
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84: Sex and communication tips from Aunt Diane
My beloved Aunt Diane sent me some tips and I don't gatekeep. Listen up! Get a personalized video response: wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a...
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83: How to stop comparing your relationship
Hey! I'm testing out a new mic, so bear with me. 😉 If you tend to compare your partner to other people in real life or online, this episode is for you! I used to struggle with this a lot, but these tools have become second nature to me now and both my husband and I are much happier and more in...
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82: Ever wish you were in a relationship with someone else?
So many clients of mine feel ashamed when they experience a crush while in partnership. It's a highly charged, delicate topic! You're not alone, and you're not a bad partner. If you've experienced this, I'd like to give you some tools to navigate it ethically while also honoring your humanness....
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81: May I tell you about my miscarriage?
Trigger warning: this episode is a story. It is chock-full of triggers, pain, grief, mentions of death, blood, and gore. If you've experienced miscarriage and there are some sore spots and tenderness, I might wait until you've gotten enough support to grieve before listening to this. In this...
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Here we talk about relationship anxiety and upgrading love partnerships-- how to go from DOUBTING your relationship to LOVING it and gushing about your partner.
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The Anxious Love Coach is created and hosted by Natalie Kennedy.
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