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The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast
by Katrin Berndt
You're in a good relationship with an amazing partner, yet your jealousy, anxiety, and constant overthinking gets in the way of your enjoyment. Instead of living your best life, you're stuck stalking, controlling, blaming, judging, comparing, and showing up as your worst self... This is the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast. In this space, we get what it's like to have a crazy, grumpy girlfriend brain. To make up scenarios that hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret your partner in all the worst ways. To want to punish your partner for things they haven't even done. To always be prepared, just in case something goes wrong. But this is also a space where we learn how to manage that crazy brain and all those triggering emotions with curiosity and compassion. Being a secure girlfriend is not something you're either born with or without. It's a skill that anyone can master at any point in their life. You are a Secure Girlfriend in the making. Let's get to wo
Episodes
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113. Why You Should Aim for Girlfriend Excellence (Over Mediocrity)
"I just want to feel better." Sound familiar? Then you're a lot like my clients who struggle to dream big and go after their fullest potential. In this week's episode, I talk about the benefits of setting big goals, aiming high, and deciding to transform your life completely rather than just...
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112. What If It Turns Out I Was Right to Be Anxious?
I'm not taking any prisoners in this week's episode. It's time we have a serious conversation about "What if I'm right to be anxious and jealous?" I have a very firm belief about this thought and looking back at your past self, with 20/20 hindsight. I decided very early on in my journey that I...
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111. When Changing Your Thoughts Just Isn’t Working
Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions. So if you want to change, you need to change your thoughts. Simple enough, right? Well... wrong. It CAN be that simple in very rare cases, but most of the time it requires a lot of hard work. And that's the hard work we are...
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110. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn't Listen To: PART 2
Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with. The advice we talk about in this episode is not objectively good or bad, but from the perspective of being a grumpy girlfriend…
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109. Stop Hugging the Cactus: When Your Thoughts Are Causing You Pain
Are the certain topics in your relationship that just keep causing you pain? Frustration? Anxiety? All you want is for reality to be different than it is... because YOU ARE RIGHT. Your thought is true. And reality is just not playing along. In this week's episode, we talk about hugging the…
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108. Triggered? Listen to This
This is a guided coaching episode that I recommend you listen to if you have been triggered by something in your relationship. The goal of processing a trigger like this is to flush the fight or flight response out of your system so you can access your intelligent brain again. We don't want to...
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107. The Power in Being the Problem
Have you ever thought that your partner is the problem in your relationship? That their behavior is the problem that needs to be solved? Then this is the episode for you. We are never more disempowered than when we give someone or something else in our lives credit for being the "problem"......
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106. Obsession vs. Love w/ Ron Cecil & Daniel Penner Cline
Do you ever feel obsessed with your partner? Does it feel good... or not so much? Could it even become unhealthy if it goes on for too long? A while back I got a question from a girlfriend who struggled to differentiate between her feelings of love and what felt like an unhealthy obsession. So...
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105. After All I've Done for You!?
You've heard of people pleasing... saying yes to things you don't want to say yes to in order to manipulate people's thoughts and feelings about you. But what about retrospective people pleasing? In this week's episode, I dive into one of the biggest grumpy girlfriend red flags that I see when...
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104. Boundaries: A Grumpy Girlfriend Guide
No one has missed the importance of setting boundaries in life in order to stay safe and sound. But for a lot of grumpy girlfriends, this is an area of confusion, frustration, and trouble. Is it possible to set too many boundaries? Tune in to this week's episode to learn about what boundaries…
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103. Why Wanting to See It Coming Is Ruining Your Relationship
Is your brain constantly looking for signs that your relationship is about to end? Are you on high alert for signs your partner is cheating on you? No matter what your partner does, do you always interpret their actions in the worst possible way? Then this episode is for you. How to Stop Being...
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102. Stuck in Indecision? Create a Decision Container!
Spinning in indecision is the best way to waste time in your life and relationship. Yet we spin in indecision and struggle to make decisions because we are so afraid of making the wrong choice and wasting time. Ironic, huh? If you are struggling to make a decision in your relationship right now,...
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101. 23 Thoughts to Make 2023 Your Least Grumpy Year Ever
Who we are, what we struggle with, and how we feel depends on the thoughts we think. So the only thing standing in between you and the girlfriend you want to be are the thoughts you repeatedly think and believe. Here are 23 thoughts for you to practice believing and finding evidence for in order…
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100. The Life of a Grumpy Girlfriend Boyfriend: Listener Q&A w/ Sonny
What is it really like to be the partner of a grumpy girlfriend? Pure misery? Or not so bad? Well, if you ask my boyfriend, it was a walk in the park. 'Cause he had no idea I was being grumpy, to begin with. To celebrate episode 100, I invited my boyfriend Sonny to join me and answer your most...
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99. How I Overcame Anxiety & Stopped Overthinking: WWNPD?
A few years ago I was diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I've struggled with anxiety a lot as an adult. But... today, I don't struggle with anxiety anymore. I don't struggle with overthinking. In today's episode, I share with you the thought exercise or the tool that I used to...
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98. When to Change the Circumstance
Week in and week out, we talk about thought work, processing your emotions, and adjusting the way you think about things in your relationship. This week, we are going to talk about situations when you might not want to do the thought work! There are certain situations where you actually want to...
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97. Real Talk: How I Feel About My Relationship After 48h On TikTok
Phew. I have been feeling so overwhelmed and sick of relationship content on social media these past few days (weeks) that I just needed to come on here and vent to you guys. If I'm feeling this way and I'm not even struggling in my relationship, I can just imagine how it must feel for you.…
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96. What Will Other People Think?
Do you ever get into arguments with your partner about things they should or shouldn't be doing because you worry about what other people will think? Then this episode is for you. Without being fully aware of it, other people's opinions play a huge role in our relationships, what we are okay…
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95. 7 Relationship “Truths” That Fuel Your Anxiety
It's time to dive deep into relationship truths and assumptions operating in our subconscious minds. These truths were made up to create false safety and control in monogamous relationships, but what they're really doing is just fuelling your relationship anxiety. How many of these 7 "truths" do...
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94. How to Fix Your Problem With Intrusive Thoughts
Intrusive thoughts are the worst. They just pop up out of nowhere and ruin your mood completely. I know you've tried not to think about the thoughts when they pop up, I know you've tried to police your brain... it just doesn't work. In this week's episode, I share my take on the "problem" with...
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93. Let's Practice Getting Cheated On
Welcome to your worst nightmare. In this week's episode, we are going to walk through the experience of finding out your partner has been cheating on you and see what happens. A lot of girlfriends ruin their good relationships because of the fear they feel about getting lied to and cheated on. So...
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92. Fictional Coaching: Movie Night at Jack & Christine's
Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during the evening. Listen to this episode to learn how I…
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91. Wanting Something vs. Having a Manual for Someone
We're allowed to want things from our partners and relationships, and we can be sad if we don't get them. But we also shouldn't have a manual for our partners and base our emotions on what they do or don't do. What exactly is the difference? In this week's episode, we dive deeper into Wants vs....
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90. Fast Forward & Let It Go
Have you ever gotten upset about something in your relationship and later realized that it wasn't even a problem, to begin with? You're not alone. I myself had an experience just like this a few weeks ago. In this week's episode, I share the concept I call "fast forward and let it go", which…
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89. Why We Prefer Fate, Intuition, & Gut Feelings Over Choice
Do you ever wish that your gut would just tell you what to do? Do you ever put your life in the hands of “fate” rather than making a decision? Do you ever refer to something being a need and therefore out of your control rather than asking for what you want? Then you're a completely normal human...
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88. Help! My Partner Has a Manual for Me!
Are there certain things your partner wants or needs you to do, and if you don't do them correctly they get upset? Then chances are your partner has a manual for you. And the tricky part here is that if you think they shouldn't have a manual for you and you think their manual for you is making…
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87. Your Partner's Only Job
What's your partner's job in your relationship? Is it to make you feel good? Keep you safe? Share all the daily chores? When we have a long job description for our partners, it makes it difficult for them to do everything right and thus making it difficult for us to be happy. We often judge the...
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86. When You Want Your Partner to WANT to Do The Thing
Are there things in your relationship you want your partner to want to do, but they're just not that into it? Maybe they are happy to do it just to make you happy, but that's not what you want. Ugh, so frustrating. In this week's episode, I break down the key reasons you want your partner to want...
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85. "I Have No Reason to Feel This Way"
"I have no reason to feel this way" is one of the most common sentences I hear from grumpy girlfriends all the time. We look at our partners and how they act and compare those circumstances to our thoughts and feelings... and get an error message. It just doesn't add up. In this week's episode, I...
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84. 3 Choices Girlfriends Need to Make to Be Happy
What if we could boil down girlfriend happiness to three key choices you need to make on a daily basis? That's what I did in this week's episode. If you make these choices consistently and you practice genuinely believing in them, you will be able to finally enjoy your good relationship. Schedule...
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83. How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Partner’s Ex
Are you struggling to let go of and move on from your partner's ex? You're not alone. The ex-issue is an extremely common source of grumpiness for a lot of girlfriends and in today's episode, I'll break it down for you. You might think that your unique ex-cocktail of information is the worst-case...
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82. The "Logic" of Being Grumpy Towards Other Females in Your Partner's Life
Have you ever thought that you need to be grumpy, negative, and rude towards other females in your partner's life just to not give your partner any ideas? That perhaps, if you were to be kind, open, and positive you would be giving your partner the green light to "go for it"? Most of us don't...
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81. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn’t Listen To
Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with. When you're not 100% happy in your relationship, most advice is simply to "dump them", but for those of us who realize that we…
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80. Are You Blaming Your Partner for Your Boring Life?
Do you easily get resentful or upset when your partner is spending time with friends or on hobbies they enjoy? Do you feel lonely and attribute that to your partner not spending enough time with you? Then you might be guilty of blaming your partner for your boring, unfulfilling life. In this…
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79. From Panic to Peace About Open Relationships with Former Client Katharina
This week, we are joined by my former client Katharina who came to me 9 months ago and wanted help processing her emotions and gaining clarity surrounding a pending open relationship with her boyfriend. In this conversation, we dive into the changes she has made, what she has learned through...
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78. Your Capacity to Have 2.0: Jealousy Edition
It's time to revisit the topic from episode 12, which is your capacity to have. This time I want to talk about it from a jealousy perspective and how our limited capacity to have actually increases our jealousy and makes it a lot harder to overcome it. If you've ever thought that "everything…
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77. Grumpy Girlfriend Turned Relationship Coach with Former Client Allison Anderson
I have a special treat for you this week! Tune in to hear the story about my former client Allison Anderson who went from being a grumpy girlfriend herself, struggling with her partner's drinking habits, to becoming a certified life and relationship coach! We talk about the before and after, what...
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76. How to Act Normal While Processing Jealousy
Okay, so you know you're supposed to process and allow the emotion when it enters your body so you don't freak out and take it out on your partner... But how the heck do you process the horrible feeling of jealousy in your body without your partner noticing something is wrong? In this episode, I...
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75. The Most Common Mistake My Clients Make
In this episode, I share the most common mistake that my girlfriend clients make when they first start working with me. This progress hack is also something you can practice on your own when coaching yourself. You'll never be able to guess what it is! Schedule Consultation:...
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74. Non-Judgmental Observation 101
Our human brains have a habit of labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong, great or stupid. This is a very useful feature in a lot of situations, but when it comes to personal development, it can often get in the way of the progress we want to make. This week's episode talks about...
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73. High Quality Thoughts
The quality of your thoughts will determine the quality of your life and relationship. If you are thinking really low quality, complaining, grumpy, indulgent thoughts... well, that will be reflected in your results. In this episode, I offer you some high-quality thoughts to think that will help…
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72. The Recipe for Changing Your Life
I always thought that "changing your life", "going after your dreams"... and "not giving up" was so abstract and vague. I kinda got it but mostly I didn't get it at all. Until I found this life-changing recipe that explains it all so clearly. Our goals and dreams are just some simple math…
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71. 5 Simple Self-Coaching Mind Games to Play
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by all the work you "should" be doing on yourself in order to improve? You're not alone. In this episode, I share 5 simple, fun mind games you can play on yourself in order to practice self-coaching. I have been doing these exercises for years now and they really help...
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70. The Fear of Not Finding Out
Do you fear not finding out that your partner has cheated on you? Or lied to you? Why is that? Not knowing something doesn't hurt. Not finding out about it isn't painful. So what is it we are actually so afraid of? Tune in to this week's episode to learn how you can shift the way you think about...
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69. "I don't know, I just can't"
Ready for some tough love? It's time for you to stop abdicating responsibility for the choices you are making in your life and relationship. Saying "I don't know", "I just can't", or "It's not working" is your brain's way of not having to own the results you're creating. Instead, start making...
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68. The Manual
The time has come for The Big Manual Episode! This is one of my favorite relationship coaching topics because when I learned about manuals, my entire life changed. It truly changed how I thought about and showed up in my relationship and I'm very excited to share it with you today. We cover...
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67. Listener Q&A: Is Polyamory More "Enlightened"?
Time for some listener coaching! As always when I coach and answer questions, I have to make some assumptions that might not be 100% true for the person who wrote the question. But without those assumptions, it's very challenging to give any kind of advice. So remember that as you listen to the...
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66. Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain
Being dumped, cheated on, and/or lied to is painful. Horrible. We don't want to experience it if we don't have to. But there is a huge difference between the clean pain that is expected and appropriate when shitty things happen to us, and the dirty pain we pile on top of it. Tune in to this…
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65. "Partners Shouldn't Cheat" & Other Painful Lies
One of the most common answers when asking what the meaning of life is, has to be "to be happy", right? So many of us go through life searching for the external circumstances that will provide us with 100% happiness. But that hunt for the impossible actually decreases the positive and increases…
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64. 30 Going on 13: Becoming a Teenager Again
The level of comfort we feel in the relationship context is completely based on our past experiences, coping mechanisms, and strategies. As we became emotionally and sexually active, we learned what to do and how to do it in order to feel safe and secure. But what happens when those learned...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
You're in a good relationship with an amazing partner, yet your jealousy, anxiety, and constant overthinking gets in the way of your enjoyment. Instead of living your best life, you're stuck stalking, controlling, blaming, judging, comparing, and showing up as your worst self...
This is the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast.
In this space, we get what it's like to have a crazy, grumpy girlfriend brain. To make up scenarios that hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret your partner in all the worst ways. To want to punish your partner for things they haven't even done. To always be prepared, just in case something goes wrong.
But this is also a space where we learn how to manage that crazy brain and all those triggering emotions with curiosity and compassion. Being a secure girlfriend is not something you're either born with or without. It's a skill that anyone can master at any point in their life.
You are a Secure Girlfriend in the making.
Let's get to wo
HOSTED BY
Katrin Berndt
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