The Session with Tom Russell

The Session: Help for BullyingPsalm 138:7, “Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life. You stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes; with your right hand you save me.” First, let’s define bullying. Tom, how do you feel about this, from www.stopbullying.gov:  Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior by one person or group toward another, involving a real or perceived power imbalance, and repeated over time.In today’s world, bullying is not just physical, but psychological, and on-line.  Links to some of what we share are included in the notes below.2019 statisticsBetween 1 in 4 and 1 in 3 U.S. students say they have been bullied at school. Many fewer have been cyberbullied. In one large study, about 49% of children in grades 4–12 reported being bullied by other students at school at least once during the past month, whereas 30.8% reported bullying others during that time.Defining "frequent" involvement in bullying as occurring two or more times within the past month, 40.6% of students reported some type of frequent involvement in bullying, with 23.2% being the youth frequently bullied, 8.0% being the youth who frequently bullied others, and 9.4% playing both roles frequently.2024 statistics WHERE ARE THEY?The Monique Burr Foundation for Children is an organization that offers evidence-based bullying prevention and education programs.  They report:About 19.2% of students aged 12-18 enrolled in grades 6-12 experienced bullying nationwide during the 2021-2022 school year.13 million students will be bullied in the US this year.  1 in 3 will be victims of cyber bullying.160,000 students miss school daily for fear of being bullied1 out of 4 children are bullied over their lifetime (US Dept. of Justice)Every 7 minutes a child is bullied on a playgroundBetween 50% and 77% of students report having been bullied Of teachers, 25% see nothing wrong with bullying and consequently intervene in only 4% of bullying incidents85% of bullying is not responded to appropriately or at allFor more info, go to https://mbfpreventioneducation.org WHAT IS THE IMPACT OF BULLYING?Victims often suffer academically and from long-term psychological effectsBullies often go on to commit crimes – former bullies have a 4-fold increase in criminal behavior by age 24Both victims and bullies may later become depressed or even become suicidalAfter interviewing 41 school shooters in 37 incidents, the Secret Service found that 2/3 had been bullied, and their attacks were motivated by a will to seek revenge.Core Biblical PrinciplesInherent Worth: Recognizing that every person is made in the image of God and deserves respect.Defending Others: Encouraging children to step in safely, as standing up for the vulnerable reflects biblical justice.Healthy Boundaries: Balancing grace and forgiveness with clear limits against abusive behavior.   Practical Steps for PreventionEstablish Safe Environments: Teach youth groups and schools to prioritize healthy relationships over mere rule-compliance.Empower Bystanders: Train youth to refuse to give a bully an audience, include isolated peers, and notify a trusted adult.Use Structured Programs: Implement dedicated frameworks like The Protectors Faith-Based Anti-Bullying Program or explore advice from Christian Bullying Prevention by Jeff Veley.  Do you need help addressing a specific type of bullying (verbal, physical, or cyberbullying)?How do I protect my kids from school bullies?Jeff and Terra Mattson are Christian Parenting spokespeople, and cohosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast.  They suggest parents use the green light, yellow light and red light method.More info is at https://www.christianparenting.orgTeach that friends or people are greenlight are very safe. Yellow light just like on the highway are questionable and not totally safe. Use with caution. They are people that would be questionable.Red light would be people who are absolutely not safe and you should stop immediately.Parents should check after school if something has changed, if you can open that door, you can ask them an important question, “Is this a relationship? Is this a situation where you need some help?Scott’s “rubber meets the road” question:  What are some things parents should look for in their children to raise concerns that they might be a victim of bullying? A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Session: Helping Children Adjust to the Stress of a New Teacher or School.Joshua 1:9 (NIV) "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God."Take Time to Talk to ThemAs you help them prepare for a season of change, take time to talk with them about how messy change can be. This most certainly includes grieving the loss of past relationships. Often called peer priority, children struggle because their peers are a priority and they are losing them.Be PreparedPlan ahead some fun things they can invite others to do or talk about in order to make friends. But as they arrive at school, they may find that everyone else already seems to know each other. They might find they feel shy in the moment. Or maybe, they try to be friendly but the kids around them are shy.Tom’s Important Suggestions:Take your child to school and have them tour it if that’s possible. Or tour it as soon as it is possible.Find out if there are summer activities or extracurricular, activities like soccer, swimming, a local church, where your child can make friends before they enter the classroomPray with your child and help your children feel comforted about the changeScott’s thought:·       Celebrate every success in the transition!Monitor Your Child’s Feeling LevelMajor changes like a new school can leave our children, fearful, disappointed, sad, and concerned.Coping with the new school can also cause them to be wiped out physically. Normalize for Them This ExperiencePoint them to Christ.  As you do so will require more patience than usual. Being willing to hear them and extend grace will reassure them you’re present, God is present, and they are loved even if they’re struggling to feel it.Normalizing it also includes telling your children when you may have struggled with a new situation when you were a child A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: 8 Simple Steps to a Lifelong Marriage Genesis 2:24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”Housekeeping: How to become a Friend of the Session, book release update     ·  Build and maintain a solid foundation in ChristA recent Harvard study shows that attending worship weekly reduces the likelihood of divorce by 57%     ·  Spend Regular Time in PrayerResearch by David Stoops found couples who pray together have less than 1 percent chance of divorce.     ·  Speak Highly of Each OtherMake a regular habit of saying positive things about each other. Also avoid negative comments about each other.     ·  Enjoy Regular Time Together Spending time together causes a natural byproduct of closeness     ·  Forge an Unrelenting Commitment to Each OtherFrom day one, realize that divorce is not an option. A Christian marriage is a covenant between a husband, a wife, and God.     ·  Keep strong boundariesKeeping marriage intact often means needing to protect it from outside influences. This means both spouses avoid situations where integrity could be compromised.     ·  Humbly Serve Each OtherEmploy the “others first mentality!”     ·  Own your struggles and get helpGo before the Lord asking Him for help. Help to be what He has called you to. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: 5 Important Fundamentals of Strong Marriages, from The Gottman Institute    Genesis 2:24, "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."Research shows that the primary keys to staying married are not about avoiding conflict, but about building positive emotional habits, managing conflict constructively, and actively choosing the relationship. The top five actionable things that significantly increase your probability of staying married include: Maintaining the "Magic Ratio": Couples who experience a ratio of at least five positive interactions for every one negative interaction during normal daily life are highly likely to have lasting marriages. This means building an emotional bank account through small compliments, expressions of appreciation, and inside jokes. Turning Toward Bids for Connection: In relationships, a partner makes "bids" when they reach out for attention, connection, or a response (e.g., pointing out a bird or sharing an interesting thought). According to The Gottman Institute, couples who stay together respond positively and lean into these bids 86% of the time, compared to 33% for couples who divorce. Avoiding the "Four Horsemen": Research shows you can predict divorce with scary accuracy if you allow four toxic communication patterns to take root: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Contempt—such as eye-rolling or mocking—is widely recognized as the single biggest predictor of relationship failure. Prioritizing Shared Time and Experiences: Research indicates that couples who engage in regular, dedicated date nights and invest in shared social and religious activities report significantly higher marital quality. Shared couple time reinforces your identity as a team rather than just two individuals co-existing. Accepting Influence and Tolerating Imperfection: Lasting relationships are built on compromise and accepting that most marital problems (about 69%) are perpetual issues rooted in personality differences. In heterosexual relationships specifically, research highlights that men who allow their wives to influence them and actively work to compromise have notably happier marriages.  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Importance of LaughterProverbs 17:22: A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.Joyce Meyer writes in her article, “The Benefits of Laughter!”, “Laughter is so important! It’s the outward evidence of inward joy, and it is proven to make you feel better. The joy of the Lord can ease any emotional and physical pain and bring you a new level of satisfaction in life.”It has been said that laughter is like internal jogging, and I think that is so true. Laughter improves emotional and mental health, it lifts our spirits, and it dispels worry. It’s almost impossible to be anxious and laugh at the same time. This is why we would be wise to express joy in laughter every chance we get.Laughter helps in the battle against anxiety, fear and worry. It also helps in the battle against stress, which is the body’s response to what the mind is thinking.Therapeutic Benefits of Laughter in Mental Health: A Theoretical Review, from the National Library of Medicine Laughter is a strategy that has physical, psychological, and social impact in relationships improving health, ultimately improving the quality of life.Laughter has a positive effect on the mental health and immune system.Laughter reduces the stress making hormones found in the blood stream. This helps the impact on your health.Laughter impacts cortisol, epinephrine, and dopamine levels.Laughter releases endorphins- happy cells. If laughter isn’t a “normal” part of us, how do we find it?  Watch squirrels act squirrely out our office window?  (no….no, I haven’t done that….)How do we change a culture of battle or sadness to a culture of laughter in our home? A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Children of Divorce, an Overview of Research and ArticlesMatthew 19:14, “Let the little children come to me.”Children of divorce, living in two households face complex emotional, relational, and spiritual challenges. The Emotional ImpactThe impact of two houses has a direct hit or impact on the child’s security and stabilityThe impact of two houses also causes a grieving process of the loss of having two biological parents in their houseChildren also feel torn between both houses. They fear showing allegiance to one. Parent may hurt the other parent.Children off, so feel hesitant and fearful of sharing their feelings in the two households because of the ramifications that could happenOften times children do not want to alienate the parent that appears to be hurt or could be hurtThe impact of divorce and two houses on a child relationship with GodChildren can struggle with issues a prayer, trust, and why did God allow this to happen to their family?Coparenting Strategies for HealingIt is important for split families to focus on grace, forgiveness, and the child's well-being. Todd Taylor writes in his article, the Secret to Success in Christian CoparentingChristian parenting in a split-home environment requires focusing on grace, forgiveness, and the child's well-being. The cornerstone of successful Christian co-parenting is always prioritizing your child’s physical and emotional well-being.DLM Christian LifestyleDaniel Maritz in DLM Christian Lifestyle states that broken families lead to broken societies Focus on the Family, One Child Two Homes, elaborates on the problems, children faceThey live a life of constant transition.Life has two sets of parents, two groups of siblings and two different beds. It means switching between different rules and routines and having two homes yet often feeling as if he were not a part of either.Parents are often unaware of the stress a child endures when he’s shuffled between two homes.Children crave stability. In its absence, they may become territorial about their belongings and their space. Their “things” become their security.Ways to help children of divorce living in two separate homesThe major challenge is in having consistent rules between the two houses.It’s about making it safe for the children to talk and be heardIt’s about providing as much stability as possible.It’s about security and consistency in their lives A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Giving our Children Tough LoveRomans 8:38–39, "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."Emotions, Teens, and HormonesEmotions can be very tumultuous for a teen. Emotions for teenagers can be like unto the life interruption that pre menopause, menopause, and a midlife crisis for a manIf the upheaval were strictly environmentally driven, it would be hard to predict its onset.If it’s hormonally driven, it can be very predictable. Reality suggests it is predictable.It has the capability of changing a person’s attitude. An attitude is the total of what a person’s thinking and feeling. When you put it together, you have their attitude.The emotional changes coincide with the physical maturation of a teen.Human chemistry goes crazy for a period of time. The chemistry issues also impact a teens, mind and decision-making process.At the age of 13 to 14, boys awaken to a whole New World, and all of a sudden becomes very aware of what he feels. He can be very stressed by social situations and the fear of being ridicule and embarrassed. Adolescent society is dominated by beauty for girls & physical maturation for boys. The girls beauty is scary for boys (TERRIFYING, ACTUALLY...SCOTT)Boys physical characteristics that help in sports intimidate physically immature boys (SCOTT ALWAYS WANTED A 6 PACK)Physical strength in boys facilitates the bully into hurting the weaker boysThe junior/senior prom is dominated by the fear of rejection reaction and ridiculeThe fear of going to school due to harassment and humiliationOur memories of teen life for our children and us…OH, NOW YOU’RE MEDDLIN’!Have a New Kid by Friday, by Kevin LehmanKevin promotes tough love by letting our teen children know if they are disrespectful to us that we are less cooperative. A great example would be you were disrespectful to me, so I am not taking you to your friend’s house tonight.Reality TherapyReality therapy was created by William Glasser to help troubled teens.Similar to Kevin Lehman, reality therapy lets teens learn on their own. We allow life to teach them and not be the heavy ourselves. A great example is if they need to be ready to catch the team bus to one of their sporting events, but they’re poking around and not motivated to get there on time, we allow them to miss the bus.ANY FINAL THOUGHTS FROM DR. DOBSON THAT YOU STUDIED OVER THE YEARS? A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Importance of Dad in the Home - a Collection of Tom’s View on DadsLuke 22:41-44: "He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, 'Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.' An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him. And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground." From Manhood JourneyThe biblical role of a father extends beyond biology, including stepdads, mentors, and spiritual leaders who invest in others’ lives.Scripture calls fathers to lead spiritually, model Christlike love, and be encouragers in both words and actions.From Focus on the FamilyThe Significance of a Father’s InfluenceOur culture seems to place little value on the role of fathers. I see evidence of this everywhere, from pop culture and media to government policy.  Dads bring positive benefits to their children that no other person is as likely to bring. They provide protection and economic support and male role models. They have a parenting style that is significantly different from that of a mother and that difference is important in healthy child development.David Popenoe, Life Without Father,  Dads tend to stress rules, justice, fairness, and duty in discipline. In this way, they teach children the objectivity and consequences of right and wrong. They give kids insight into the world of men.82% of studies on father involvement and child well-being published since 1980 found “significant associations between positive father involvement and offspring well-being…” Paul R. Amato and Fernando Rivera, “Paternal Involvement and Children’s Behavior Problems,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 61 (1999):In an analysis of over 100 studies on parent-child relationships, it was found that having a loving and nurturing father was as important for a child’s happiness, well-being, and social and academic success as having a loving and nurturing mother. Kyle D. Pruett, Fatherneed: Why Father Care is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child,Dr. Pruett states, “positive father care is associated with more pro-social and positive moral behavior in boys and girls.” Pruett, 2000, p. 52. This is borne out by research from the University of Pennsylvania which indicates that children who feel a closeness and warmth with their father are twice as likely to enter college, 75 percent less likely to have a child in their teen years, 80 percent less likely to be incarcerated and half as likely to show various signs of depression. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Defeating Alzheimer’s (from Defeating Dementia, by Dr. Furman)I Corinthians 6:19-20, "Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies."Start with the name. How did we come to calling it Alzheimer’s?7.4 million adults suffer from Alzheimer’sJan’s storyThe Notebook with James GardnerThose who suffer from Alzheimer’s lose:memoriesfellowship with Godchildhood loss of marriage memories of datingvaluable relationships Millennialshave parents and grandparents that may be showing symptoms of Alzheimer’s Symptoms losing car keysgetting your cell phone out but forget whycalling someone and forgetting whydriving somewhere that you frequently go to and forgetting how to get thereHistorically it was believed that Alzheimer’s was inherited. 2 Genes showed evidence that made it appear to be inherited. Beta Amyloid and long proteinGenes are only 5% responsible 3 Healthy Preventions of Alzheimer’s Healthy eating vs. bad eatingHealthy eating was 40% less likely to get Alzheimer’sExercise vs. not those who exercise were 48% less likely to get Alzheimer’s Those who ate well and exercised were 67% less likely to get Alzheimer’s than those who did not do both Weight those who were overweight doubled their chances of Alzheimer’s. Those who were obese increase their odds 3xsHealth of the arteries is vital for blood flow to the brain Taking care of the heart is taking care of the brainWeight health effects our immune health A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Faith of our Founding FathersYou shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you." Psalm 128:2Patrick Henry Famous for “ Give me Liberty or give me death”He was a member of The House of Burgesses First Governor of the Commonwealth of VirginiaThe Commonwealth of Virginia traces its roots back to the church of England, which was predominantly a Christian churchSaid, “There is a just God who presides over the destinies of nations.”“An appeal to arms and to the God of Hosts is all that is left us.”o   “It cannot be emphasized too strongly or too often that this great nation was founded, not by religionists, but by Christians… not on religions, but on the Gospel of Jesus Christ.”John JayFirst chief justice of the Supreme CourtPresident of the American Bible Society, in 1816He strongly advocated for our country to have Christians in public office o   In a 1816 letter, Jay explicitly connected national well-being with Christian leadership:  “Providence has given to our people the choice of their rulers, and it is the duty, as well as the privilege and interest of our Christian nation, to select and prefer Christians for their rulers.”o   “The best of all possible worlds depend on the general diffusion of the Bible.”Samuel AdamsOften referred to as the "Father of the American Revolution," he was a staunchly Calvinist, practicing Christian who viewed the revolution as a defense of Christian libertiesSaid, “Religion and good morals are the only solid foundations of public liberty and happiness.”While Gov. of Mass. in 1795, Adams said this in a Thanksgiving proclamation:  “It is therefore recommended… to set apart a day for solemn thanksgiving and praise, that with one heart and one voice the good people may express the grateful feelings of their hearts… and also that we may then unite in most humbly offering our prayers and supplications to the great Lord and Ruler of Nations.”Benjamin RushA signer of the Declaration of Independence, a physician, and a civic leader. He uniquely blended Enlightenment thinking with traditional faith, even advocating heavily for the use of the Bible in public schools.An active Presbyterian, Rush wrote, “The only foundation for a useful education in a republic is to be laid in religion. Without this there can be no virtue, and without virtue there can be no liberty.”He also advocated Bible-centered learning:  “The Bible… should be read in our schools in preference to all other books.”Also said, “Christianity is the only true and perfect religion… and… it is friendly to liberty and the rights of mankind.”Rev. John WitherspoonAn ordained Presbyterian minister and president of Princeton Univ., who signed the Declaration of Independence. He was the only clergyman to sign the declaration.In a 1776 sermon, he said, “He is the best friend to American liberty who is most sincere and active in promoting true religion.”George WashingtonThe Commander of the Continental Army and the first U.S. President maintained a lifelong affiliation with the Anglican (Episcopalian) church. Throughout his writings, he frequently credited "divine Providence" for the nation's survival and successHe was shot four times in the French and Indian war and the bullets went through his coat, but never hit himTwo horses were shot out from under him.His hat was also struck by enemy fireHe wrote to his brother after the chaotic battle, and said that he only survived because of Divine ProvidenceHe was first to sign The Constitution of the United States of AmericaWashington said, “It is impossible to govern the world without God and the Bible.”Thomas Jefferson          Said, “I am a real Christian, that is to say, a disciple of the doctrines of Jesus.”Benjamin Franklin          Said, “I believe in one God, Creator of the Universe. That He governs it by His Providence.”  Faith in the Founding of OhioChristian faith was a foundational pillar of Ohio’s early settlement, providing structure, community, and moral direction for the pioneers carving communities out of the frontier.As white pioneers moved into the territory, they faced significant hardships, and the church quickly became the central hub for stabilizing community life. Methodism emphasized a personal, practical Christian experience that resonated deeply with frontier farmers and eventually outpaced other Christian groups in the state. Manasseh Cutler-Minister, Congregational minister, scientist and political leader, who helped draft the Northwest Ordinance of 1787.  Secured provisions for public education, religious freedom, and a ban on slavery in the territory.He said, “The Divine counsels… give us just ground to believe that one great end God had in view in the discovery of this American Continent… was that a new Empire should be called into being.”Also, “It is not possible… that human laws… can be adequate substitutes for religion… Freedom… cannot be enjoyed without virtue, nor can virtue be maintained without religion.”Rufus Putnam, known as the “Father of Ohio”.  Founded Marietta in 1788, the first permanent American settlement in Ohio.  He helped design and fund a Congregational church in Marietta, and helped form a Bible Society.Edward Tiffin, Ohio’s first governor, was a Methodist pastor and politician.  He often preached while in office.He believed in evangelism:  “The situation of the Indians… might be considerably ameliorated by the propagation of Christianity among their various nations… the blessings of Christianity [should] be propagated among the heathen.”Thomas Worthington, major advocate for Ohio statehood.  US senator, later Ohio governor.  Served as vice president of the American Bible Society.  Helped write Ohio’s constitution, which says it is the right of all people to, “worship Almighty God according to the dictates of conscience”His family helped establish Methodist worship spaces.Influence on Education and SocietyEarly Ohioans did not just form congregations; Christian faith heavily influenced early education and community outreach. Many of Ohio's historical colleges and learning institutions were founded by Christian denominations.CNN does not promote the idea that George Washington was an evangelical or traditional Christian in the modern sense. Instead, network coverage and analysis on the topic typically point out that many historians dispute the claim that the US was founded as a Christian nation, and note that Washington's actual religious beliefs were more aligned with 18th-century Deism.They did post how they believe President Trump dissed George Washington A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Faith of our Founding FathersYou shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you." Psalm 128:2Patrick Henry Famous for “ Give me Liberty or give me death”He was a member of The House of Burgesses First Governor of the Commonwealth of VirginiaThe Commonwealth of Virginia traces its roots back to the church of England, which was predominantly a Christian churchSaid, “There is a just God who presides over the destinies of nations.”“An appeal to arms and to the God of Hosts is all that is left us.”o   “It cannot be emphasized too strongly or too often that this great nation was founded, not by religionists, but by Christians… not on religions, but on the Gospel of Jesus Christ.”John JayFirst chief justice of the Supreme CourtPresident of the American Bible Society, in 1816He strongly advocated for our country to have Christians in public office o   In a 1816 letter, Jay explicitly connected national well-being with Christian leadership:  “Providence has given to our people the choice of their rulers, and it is the duty, as well as the privilege and interest of our Christian nation, to select and prefer Christians for their rulers.”o   “The best of all possible worlds depend on the general diffusion of the Bible.”Samuel AdamsOften referred to as the "Father of the American Revolution," he was a staunchly Calvinist, practicing Christian who viewed the revolution as a defense of Christian libertiesSaid, “Religion and good morals are the only solid foundations of public liberty and happiness.”While Gov. of Mass. in 1795, Adams said this in a Thanksgiving proclamation:  “It is therefore recommended… to set apart a day for solemn thanksgiving and praise, that with one heart and one voice the good people may express the grateful feelings of their hearts… and also that we may then unite in most humbly offering our prayers and supplications to the great Lord and Ruler of Nations.”Benjamin RushA signer of the Declaration of Independence, a physician, and a civic leader. He uniquely blended Enlightenment thinking with traditional faith, even advocating heavily for the use of the Bible in public schools.An active Presbyterian, Rush wrote, “The only foundation for a useful education in a republic is to be laid in religion. Without this there can be no virtue, and without virtue there can be no liberty.”He also advocated Bible-centered learning:  “The Bible… should be read in our schools in preference to all other books.”Also said, “Christianity is the only true and perfect religion… and… it is friendly to liberty and the rights of mankind.”Rev. John WitherspoonAn ordained Presbyterian minister and president of Princeton Univ., who signed the Declaration of Independence. He was the only clergyman to sign the declaration.In a 1776 sermon, he said, “He is the best friend to American liberty who is most sincere and active in promoting true religion.”George WashingtonThe Commander of the Continental Army and the first U.S. President maintained a lifelong affiliation with the Anglican (Episcopalian) church. Throughout his writings, he frequently credited "divine Providence" for the nation's survival and successHe was shot four times in the French and Indian war and the bullets went through his coat, but never hit himTwo horses were shot out from under him.His hat was also struck by enemy fireHe wrote to his brother after the chaotic battle, and said that he only survived because of Divine ProvidenceHe was first to sign The Constitution of the United States of AmericaWashington said, “It is impossible to govern the world without God and the Bible.”Thomas Jefferson          Said, “I am a real Christian, that is to say, a disciple of the doctrines of Jesus.”Benjamin Franklin          Said, “I believe in one God, Creator of the Universe. That He governs it by His Providence.”  Faith in the Founding of OhioChristian faith was a foundational pillar of Ohio’s early settlement, providing structure, community, and moral direction for the pioneers carving communities out of the frontier.As white pioneers moved into the territory, they faced significant hardships, and the church quickly became the central hub for stabilizing community life. Methodism emphasized a personal, practical Christian experience that resonated deeply with frontier farmers and eventually outpaced other Christian groups in the state. Manasseh Cutler-Minister, Congregational minister, scientist and political leader, who helped draft the Northwest Ordinance of 1787.  Secured provisions for public education, religious freedom, and a ban on slavery in the territory.He said, “The Divine counsels… give us just ground to believe that one great end God had in view in the discovery of this American Continent… was that a new Empire should be called into being.”Also, “It is not possible… that human laws… can be adequate substitutes for religion… Freedom… cannot be enjoyed without virtue, nor can virtue be maintained without religion.”Rufus Putnam, known as the “Father of Ohio”.  Founded Marietta in 1788, the first permanent American settlement in Ohio.  He helped design and fund a Congregational church in Marietta, and helped form a Bible Society.Edward Tiffin, Ohio’s first governor, was a Methodist pastor and politician.  He often preached while in office.He believed in evangelism:  “The situation of the Indians… might be considerably ameliorated by the propagation of Christianity among their various nations… the blessings of Christianity [should] be propagated among the heathen.”Thomas Worthington, major advocate for Ohio statehood.  US senator, later Ohio governor.  Served as vice president of the American Bible Society.  Helped write Ohio’s constitution, which says it is the right of all people to, “worship Almighty God according to the dictates of conscience”His family helped establish Methodist worship spaces.Influence on Education and SocietyEarly Ohioans did not just form congregations; Christian faith heavily influenced early education and community outreach. Many of Ohio's historical colleges and learning institutions were founded by Christian denominations.CNN does not promote the idea that George Washington was an evangelical or traditional Christian in the modern sense. Instead, network coverage and analysis on the topic typically point out that many historians dispute the claim that the US was founded as a Christian nation, and note that Washington's actual religious beliefs were more aligned with 18th-century Deism.They did post how they believe President Trump dissed George Washington A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Impact of Media on AmericaWe Set out to Examine What Impacts the World View of Americans TodayMatthew 5:14-16 "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.The Impact of National News on SocietyControversy and Media: Some critics, such as those from the Media Research Center, argue mainstream media overlooks or negatively covers "passionate Christian enthusiasm" while focusing on controversies. (SCOTT: IF IT BLEEDS IT LEADS)Disclaimer: This summary is based on search results and reflects a range of studies and perspectives on the impact of Christian-oriented news, media, and ideological views in the United States.National news in America profoundly shapes public opinion, drives political polarization, and impacts mental health, with over 50% of adults believing it misinforms them. While it highlights national issues, it often triggers anxiety through negative coverage and fosters "us vs. them" mentalities that hinder political. Key Impacts of National News on America:Polarization and Distrust: National news often intensifies political divides, with viewers of slanted, partisan media (e.g., Fox News) often having warped perceptions of opposing viewpoints and key issues like inflation or crime. (FROM SCOTT:  REALLY?  JUST FOX NEWS?  ABC, CNN AREN’T SLANTED & POLITICAL?)  Only 23% of Americans believe national news organizations care about their audience's best interests.  (FROM SCOTT:  THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT THE AUDIENCE’S BEST INTEREST.  THEY CARE ABOUT MAKING MONEY FOR STOCKHOLDERS & SERVING THEIR POLITICAL BENT)Mental Health Consequences: Consistent exposure to negative news, which dominates headlines (especially in politics), can spark "fight or flight" responses, increasing anxiety and depression. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session:  The Impact of Media on AmericaWe Set out to Examine What Impacts the World View of Americans TodayMatthew 5:14-16 "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.Does Social Media Help or Hurt America?  From Ron Sellers at  Grey Matter Research and Infinity 1,000 American evangelicals protestants surveyedFifty-eight percent of evangelicals believe social media is more harmful than helpful, while 42% say the benefits outweigh downsides. The top reason this group cites for distrusting social media is content that is harmful to Christians (34%). This includes material that is unsafe, sexualized, worldly, hateful, and/or negative.  (FROM SCOTT:  HOW ABOUT INFO THAT IS A LIE OR INACCURATE?)More surprising is how little difference there is between the two groups when it comes to social media habits. Among those saying social media is more harmful than helpful, 94% still use it at least monthly.96% use social media.The most popular social media platforms among evangelicals are Facebook (with 81%visiting at least monthly); YouTube (71%); Instagram (45%); and TikTok (35%).  (FROM SCOTT:  THE TIK TOK ONE SCARES ME. WHY ARE WE USING A PLATFORM OWNED BY CHINA, A NATION THAT HATES US & WANTS TO DESTROY US?)Evangelicals are more likely than the average American to use Facebook (81% vs. 68%), and slightly less likely to use YouTube, Pinterest, Snapchat, and Reddit. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Impact of Media on AmericaWe Set out to Examine What Impacts the World View of Americans TodayMatthew 5:14-16 "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.Religious Radio Across America, from the Pew Research Center The project took place over the last year and analyzed 440,000 hours of radio broadcasts in July 2025 with over 5,000 adults in the survey. Those questioned were asked about their experience listening to Religious content on the radio.Key findings in the Pew study:45% of Americans listen to Religious programming on a regular basisMost religious radio stations describe evangelism as part of their missionThe survey revealed that adults ages 18–29 account for 87% of online religious audio streaming, while also demonstrates the format’s broad appeal across generations. Notably, 65% of adults aged 50–64 also listen to religious content online.Approximately 37% of religious stations focus primarily on music, 35% emphasize talk programming, and 28% maintain a more balanced mix of the two.According to the survey of U.S. adults, most listeners do not cite news and politics as a primary reason for tuning into religious audio programming. Only 14% of listeners say keeping up with current events is a major reason they listen, though 40% say it is at least a minor reason.Issues that people listen for, according to the survey:The economy, crime, and immigration — issues that consistently rank among the most important concerns in national surveys of Americans.Two social and cultural issues: abortion and LGBTQ rights.President Donald Trump, former President Joe Biden, the Republican Party, and the Democratic Party.Modern-day Israel and the Palestinian territories, including references to the war in Gaza.98% of the U.S. adult population lives within range of at least 1 religious radio station18 to 29-year-olds represent 87% of online religious streaming Summary:45% of Americans listen to religious radio that have a evangelism focus18 to 29-year-olds represent 87% of online religious streaming. 65% of Americans 50 to 64 listen to religious radio.Two social and cultural issues discussed on religious radio was abortion an LGBTQPresidential differences A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: For a Successful Marriage, Avoid “The 5 R’s”!  From Focus on the Family.  Here’s the link to the full article, if you want to read more:For a Successful Marriage, Avoid These 5 Rs - Focus on the FamilyRomans 12:18  “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”1.    RejectionSomething happens or is said, done, not said, or not done that results in a spouse feeling rejected.  2.    ResentmentResentment is any negative emotional reaction to what you think was said or done, or not said or not done.3.    ResistanceResistance is putting up walls and cutting off communication and relationship. Resistance is being shut down emotionally and relationally to someone.The solution: Engage. What emotions are you avoiding? Make eye contact, have conversations. Consider getting clear by saying, “The story I’m making up in my head about ________ is _______________.”4.    RevengeRevenge is the attempt to get even. Revenge is taking advantage of a situation or setting up an opportunity so another can feel the rejection you felt. Examples include. Revenge is the attempt to get even. Revenge is taking advantage of a situation or setting up an opportunity so another can feel the rejection you felt.5.    RepeatA toxic pattern is to believe that because you are hurt, you have the right to be unkind and hurtful. Then you hurt someone, and they hurt you, and you are offended, and they are offended, and in that offense both parties deeply dive into the 5 Rs.Coaches FeedbackIf we are intentional in our marriages, we will have less time with or when the five R’s show up.Making your marriage, a priority will also help prevent the five r’s from showing up.Particularly for families with children still at home it is very important to think about what you want your children to think about marriage and what they believe in about marriage based on what they saw their parents do? What do you want your children say someday at your celebration of life? The powerful part of that is when that day comes there is nothing that you’ll be able to do about it. However, today you can write what you want them to say, based on how you manage your own life and marriage.  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Forgiveness versus Unforgiveness, from Dr. Paul Tripp(Ephesians 4:31-5:2)   Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.First, an introduction.  Dr. Paul David Tripp was born in Toledo.  He is a pastor, international event speaker, and author of more than 30 books and video series.  He defines forgiveness in a single, simple sentence: Forgiveness is a vertical commitment followed by a horizontal transaction.  What we are going to share is a summary of several articles and videos Dr. Tripp has done on forgiveness.  His website is Paul Tripp dot com.The Beautiful Power of Relational DebtHolding on to someone else’s wrongs gives us the upper handHolding a record of a person’s wrongs gives us the upper hand in that relationshipThe Dark Unhealthy Benefits of UnforgivenessDebt is power. It protects us in an unhealthy way.Debt is identity. It helps us feel more righteous and mature than the person we’re angry at.Debt is entitlement holding another person. Send against them makes us feel entitled.We can weaponize unforgiveness and use it for our advantageUnforgiveness makes us equal with GodIt is not our job to dispense consequences to those who have hurt usThe Ugly Selfishness of Relational Unforgiveness It has nothing to do with God and loving othersThe Beauty of ForgivenessThe beauty of leading a life of forgiveness shows us how much we have embraced our forgiveness of our sins.The Parable of the Unforgiving ServantAfter pleading with his his master for forgiveness and being granted forgiveness, he goes out and demands repayment from people who owed him. Matthew 18:21-35  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Children of DivorcePsalm 27:10, "Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me"Key Statistics and Findings Relational Wisdom 360Religious Impact: Children of divorced parents are more likely to become nonreligious; 35% of children from divorced families are nonreligious compared to their peers.Adult Faith: Divorce can cause children to feel isolated from their religious communityRelationship Challenges: Children from divorced homes often struggle with fear of failure, abandonment, and conflict.Social & Academic Effects: Children of divorce are more likely to experience lower academic performance, and increased instances of delinquency and substance use.Long-Term Consequences: A 2025 study found that children of divorce had a higher likelihood of teen pregnancy and increased mortality rates compared to children from continuously married parents.Dr. Judith Wallerstein StudyIn a landmark study, psychologist Judith Wallerstein followed a group of children of divorce from the 1970s into the 1990s. She interviewed them at eighteen months, five, ten, fifteen, and twenty-five years after the divorce. The results were:Continued experiencing fear of failure,Fear of losschangeFear of conflictStudy DataThe Center for Economic Studies released the findings of a research project, where they surveyed 5 million children of divorce. Data shows that children of divorced parents have an elevated risk of jail time (40% increase), elevated risk of mortality (45% increase), increased risk of teen birth (60% increase) 9-13% less income Other Important ImplicationsWithout two parents and one of the parents working, children are often times left alone. Their answer to that is to go on social media and other screens for attention and relationshipChildren of divorce are often unable to participate in after school activities What do you want your children to learn about marriage and family?  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session – What is Schizophrenia?1 John 4:1Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.Livingwithschizophreniauk.orgSchizophrenia is an illness affecting the brain and rooted within the biological functions of the brain cells.At some time during their life about 1 in 100 people will suffer an episode of schizophrenia. Schizophrenia occurs in all countries and societies of the world. Schizophrenia affects men and women alike and sufferers come from all walks of life and social backgrounds.It is not multiple personality disorder. That is known as dissociative disorder.  (let’s do quick definitions here for both)Onset:  It tends to strike most often in late teens and early twenties, slightly earlier in men than in women, although late onset illness can occur as late as the 70s. Schizophrenia before puberty is very rare.The word schizophrenia literally means a “fragmented mind”.It is caused by an abnormality in the brain cell of dopamine.This hormone is responsible for thought processes and an excess or shortage can cause thinking to become disturbed.What the evidence shows us is that people with schizophrenia are at considerably higher risk of death by suicide than the general population and are also more at risk of violent behavior and sexually disinhibited behavior. However provided that adequate psychiatric care is provided and good supervision of those in crisis is carried out these risks can be reduced to levels no higher than the general population.The cause of schizophrenia is often times thought to be genetic predisposition and potential complications a childbirth.Schizophrenia is a severe condition in which the sufferer may completely lose touch with reality, become socially withdrawn, be unable to work or study and stop looking after themselves. Their behavior may become bizarre or sometimes dangerous.Other symptoms include delusions (a false) and hallucinations (perception of something not there)(National Institute of Health)  Religious Delusions: People with schizophrenia often experience hallucinations or false beliefs with religious content, such as believing they are God, a saint, or being punished by demons.  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session - The Sandwich Generation & Caring For Aging Parents1 Timothy 5:4: Encourages children to "repay" parents by caring for them.Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—  “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.What is the sandwich generation?The "sandwich generation"—typically adults aged 30–50—faces  immense, often overwhelming burdens, balancing care for children and aging parents.The sandwich generation often times struggles with financial strain, emotional exhaustion, and severe time constraints.Almost one-third of caregivers are in this position.According to Mental Health America, 95% of the sandwich generation reports significant impacts on their lives, including reduced personal time, career conflicts, and, for many, jeopardized retirement savings.  Key Aspects of the Caregiver BurdenFinancial Strain: Sandwich generation caregivers frequently face high out-of-pocket expenses (averaging approximately $10,000 annually) for care, in addition to supporting their own children, which can severely impact long-term financial stability.Time Constraints: These caregivers often spend around 30 hours per week on caregiving tasks, leading to a constant, high-pressure feeling of having insufficient time.Emotional & Physical Toll: The dual responsibility often leads to burnout, high stress, anxiety, and guilt. Women often bear a higher intensity of this burden.Impact on Work: Many, particularly women, struggle to balance careers with caregiving responsibilities.Role Reversal: According to Mental Health America Individuals must navigate the emotional, difficult shift of taking on parental roles for their own parents.  Christian support for the sandwich generation focuses on finding strength through faith, prayer, and community to balance caring for aging parents and children. Key approaches include embracing self-care as stewardship rather than selfishness, setting realistic boundaries, and reframing caregiving as a God-ordained opportunity to serve.Scott Question: Can we define what some of those realistic boundaries might be? (Focus on the Family.)  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Teen Depression - Part 21 Peter 5:6-7, “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” Definition from Bellevue Christian Counseling:Christian teen depression is a serious, treatable clinical condition, not just a spiritual failure or phase. Biblical support emphasizes that depression is a journey, not a permanent identity, offering hope alongside professional clinical counseling. Emotional changesBe alert for emotional changes, such as:Feelings of sadness, which can include crying spells for no apparent reasonFrustration or feelings of anger, even over small mattersFeeling hopeless or emptyIrritable or annoyed moodLoss of interest or pleasure in usual activitiesLoss of interest in, or conflict with, family and friendsLow self-esteemFeelings of worthlessness or guiltFixation on past failures or exaggerated self-blame or self-criticismExtreme sensitivity to rejection or failure, and the need for excessive reassuranceTrouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering thingsOngoing sense that life and the future are grim and bleakFrequent thoughts of death, dying or suicideBehavioral Changes from Mayo Clinic - Watch for changes in behavior, such as:Tiredness and loss of energyInsomnia or sleeping too muchChanges in appetite — decreased appetite and weight loss, or increased cravings for food and weight gainUse of alcohol or drugsAgitation Slowed thinking, speaking or body movementsFrequent complaints of unexplained body aches and headaches, which may include frequent visits to the school nurseSocial isolationPoor school performance or frequent absences from schoolLess attention to personal hygiene or appearanceAngry outbursts, disruptive or risky behavior, or other acting-out behaviorsSelf-harm — for example, cutting or burningMaking a suicide plan or a suicide attempt Teen Depression Treatment, from Pax Renewal CenterTeens who receive counseling that integrates both their emotional needs and their spiritual development show remarkable resilience that goes far beyond what traditional therapy alone can provide.Christian Treatment Helps Teens Realize What They Are Putting Ahead Of GodPeer Priority (This sounds familiar….)Academic Success Romantic Relationships Teen Social Media CultureExamples Of Helpful Scripture For Depression “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39"Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die. Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you." Psalm 143:7-8"Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—  my Savior and my God!" Psalm 42:11 A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Teen Depression1 Peter 5:6-7, “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” Definition from Bellevue Christian Counseling:Christian teen depression is a serious, treatable clinical condition, not just a spiritual failure or phase. Biblical support emphasizes that depression is a journey, not a permanent identity, offering hope alongside professional clinical counseling. Emotional changesBe alert for emotional changes, such as:Feelings of sadness, which can include crying spells for no apparent reasonFrustration or feelings of anger, even over small mattersFeeling hopeless or emptyIrritable or annoyed moodLoss of interest or pleasure in usual activitiesLoss of interest in, or conflict with, family and friendsLow self-esteemFeelings of worthlessness or guiltFixation on past failures or exaggerated self-blame or self-criticismExtreme sensitivity to rejection or failure, and the need for excessive reassuranceTrouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering thingsOngoing sense that life and the future are grim and bleakFrequent thoughts of death, dying or suicideBehavioral Changes from Mayo Clinic - Watch for changes in behavior, such as:Tiredness and loss of energyInsomnia or sleeping too muchChanges in appetite — decreased appetite and weight loss, or increased cravings for food and weight gainUse of alcohol or drugsAgitation Slowed thinking, speaking or body movementsFrequent complaints of unexplained body aches and headaches, which may include frequent visits to the school nurseSocial isolationPoor school performance or frequent absences from schoolLess attention to personal hygiene or appearanceAngry outbursts, disruptive or risky behavior, or other acting-out behaviorsSelf-harm — for example, cutting or burningMaking a suicide plan or a suicide attempt Teen Depression Treatment, from Pax Renewal CenterTeens who receive counseling that integrates both their emotional needs and their spiritual development show remarkable resilience that goes far beyond what traditional therapy alone can provide.Christian Treatment Helps Teens Realize What They Are Putting Ahead Of GodPeer Priority (This sounds familiar….)Academic Success Romantic Relationships Teen Social Media CultureExamples Of Helpful Scripture For Depression “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39"Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die. Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you." Psalm 143:7-8"Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—  my Savior and my God!" Psalm 42:11 A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: When Your Spouse is Unfaithful - Part 2Psalm 51:10-12, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”After The Affair - 10 Steps Toward Healing, from Leslie Vernick1. Does the spouse who committed adultery take ownership and repent for his or her choice without blaming? 2. Is there a willingness on the part of the adulterer to do the work of self-examination to understand better what happened and look at the deep heart issues?3. Is there genuine sorrow for the pain he/she has caused the spouse? 4. Is the adulterous spouse willing to sit with his/her spouse and really listen to the hurt and heartache over this and show compassion, empathy and care no matter how long it takes?5. Is the injured spouse willing to forgive even if right now he/she doesn’t know how to do that?6. Is the injured spouse willing to take a hard look at ways he/she may have contributed to neglect in the marriage or other unresolved problems that created emotional distancing to develop?7. Is the injured spouse willing to be honest with her feelings of sadness, hurt, anger and do the hard work to work through them and move past them?8. Is the injured spouse willing to acknowledge the positive changes his/her spouse is making toward rebuilding trust and healing the marriage?9. Is the couple able to tolerate that the healing process goes in fits and starts; it isn’t a smooth ride?10. Is the spouse who committed adultery willing to be patient with the process as his/her spouse struggles to let it go, gets retriggered with old memories or current reminders, or can’t immediately feel trust or warm feelings for his/her spouse? Hope Restored Focus on the Family A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: When Your Spouse is UnfaithfulPsalm 51:10-12, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”Forgive with intelligenceYour spouse cheated. Your trust for them has nearly diminished and there's good reason for that. So, you must act accordingly.The reason why you're looking for ways to forgive your spouse is because your mind isn't allowing you to.It's playing scenarios in your head of them doing it again and it pains you.Does investigating your spouse make you a bad person?If your spouse gave you reasons to be weary of them? No. They broke your trust. All bets are off.If they lied and betrayed you, why should they get the privilege of being trusted immediately? They committed the ultimate love crime.  And let's face it, some cheaters just get better at hiding it once they've been caught. Worriedlovers.comBefore proceeding, you should look for evidence of genuine “godly sorrow” (2 Corinthians 7:10) as opposed to the “worldly sorrow” which simply says, “I’m sorry I got caught.” A key indicator of a godly sorrow would include a willingness on the part of your spouse to talk with a marriage counselor who can assess his vulnerabilities, as well as the weaknesses of your relationship.Confront HonestlyThat’s because you need to meet this challenge from a position of strength and self-assurance.When you’re ready, arrange a time to sit down and talk with your spouse. Choose a private meeting place where you know you won’t be interrupted. Approach the subject honestly and straightforwardly. The crisis in your marriage is emotionally charged but stay calm and cool. To achieve this, most people need to write out what they are going to say.Often it is necessary to do a more formal intervention, where several people show up to confront the offending spouse at a designated time without his or her foreknowledge. This formal intervention should not be confused with that of individual people confronting your spouse over time.Prayerfully consider who these people might be and meet with them together ahead of time so that you can explain your situation and provide them with the important facts. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Impact of Sleep on Our Mental HealthMatthew 11:28-30 – “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Sleep, Body and BrainWe spend approximately a third of our lives asleep.Sleep is an essential and involuntary process, without which we cannot function effectively. The body’s fuel is sleep. Without proper sleep, our minds begin to slow, unable to operate at their full potential. This happens until the mind becomes so deprived of the rest it needs, it breaks down. And without the commander-in-chief acting accordingly, the rest of the body pays the price.It is as essential to our bodies as eating, drinking and breathing.Sleeping helps to repair and restore our brains, not just our bodies. During sleep we can process information, consolidate memories, and undergo a number of maintenance processes that help us to function during the daytime.Poor sleep over a sustained period leads to a number of problems which are immediately recognizable, including fatigue, sleepiness, poor concentration, lapses in memory, and irritability.There is no universal answer to the question of how much sleep a person needs. This varies from person to person. What is important is that people respect themselves enough to find out how much sleep they need and ensure that they achieve it.The amygdala is in charge of our emotional responses. But to do its job correctly it needs us to sleep, because that’s the time it’s allocated to process emotion.The prefrontal cortex, does as well. The prefrontal cortex does a lot of impressive things. One of which is being “the voice of reason” to our emotions (aka putting the brakes on our amygdala when it’s being a diva). The prefrontal cortex helps control our impulses, attention, inhibition, emotion, and complex learning. HelpsSleep should get as much attention as depression and anxiety prevention gets.People with insomnia are 10 and 17 times more likely than those without insomnia to experience clinically significant levels of depression and anxiety, respectively. (National Library of Medicine)Helpful Sleep Strategies from Mayo Clinic Manage WorriesTry to resolve your worries or concerns before bedtime. Jot down what's on your mind and then set it aside for tomorrow.Stress Management might help. Start with the basics, such as getting organized, setting priorities and delegating tasks. Meditation also can ease anxiety.Sleep killer 1: Anxiety - Compounding the problem is the fact that a lack of sleep can also worsen any anxiety you may be experiencing. (Gale.com)It shows the importance of managing and working on your anxiety very important.The Grateful Exercise Progressive Muscle StrategyWriting Down The Important things You Will Try To Remember Through The NightStick to a sleep scheduleSet aside no more than eight hours for sleep. The recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours. Most people don't need more than eight hours in bed to be well rested.Go to bed and get up at the same time every day, including weekends. Being consistent reinforces your body's sleep-wake cycle.If you don't fall asleep within about 20 minutes of going to bed, leave your bedroom and do something relaxing. Read or listen to soothing music. Go back to bed when you're tired. Repeat as needed, but continue to maintain your sleep schedule and wake-up time. 2. Pay attention to what you eat and drink A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Important Marriage TipsColossians 3:13-14 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”From Focus on the Family, these tips:Do Make Jesus The Center of Your Marriage.Don’t Embrace UnGodly TrendsEphesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."Ephesians 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."Be Quick to Listen, Not Quick to Get AngryJames 1:19  "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."The Communication Highway is vital here.Do Use Your Words to Encourage, Don’t Use them to Harm or Manipulate James 3:8 "But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison."Celebrate Each otherDo Be Willing to Forgive, Don’t Hold Grudges I Corinthians 13:5 "It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."“The Best Marriage Advice I have Ever Heard”, From Cara JoinerIn Scripture we find that forgiveness is an action made in the midst of negative feelings, making it a beautiful expression of love.Stay Emotionally ConnectedRomans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."I Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."Forgiveness. Healing, Prayer and Scripture Fuel Emotional Connection Physical intimacy ( Bedroom Olympics 😀)It is an essential aspect of a passionate marriage. In Song of Solomon 1:2, the Bible celebrates the physical union of husband and wife: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth – for your love is more delightful than wine.” Investing Time And Effort Maintaining physical intimacy – from caring hugs to satisfying sex – helps keep the passion alive in your marriage. Make physical affection a regular part of your daily routine. Hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle.Gottman’s Marriage TipsTurn Toward Instead of Away: Respond positively to small bids for connection (e.g., a glance, a touch, a question) rather than ignoring them.Nurture Fondness and Admiration: Regularly express appreciation and respect to build a positive, supportive environment.The Magic Six Hours: Dedicate 6 hours per week to your relationship, including parting, reunions, admiration, affection, and weekly dates.  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Important Marriage TipsColossians 3:13-14 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”From Focus on the Family, these tips:Do Make Jesus The Center of Your Marriage.Don’t Embrace UnGodly TrendsEphesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."Ephesians 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."Be Quick to Listen, Not Quick to Get AngryJames 1:19  "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."The Communication Highway is vital here.Do Use Your Words to Encourage, Don’t Use them to Harm or Manipulate James 3:8 "But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison."Celebrate Each otherDo Be Willing to Forgive, Don’t Hold Grudges I Corinthians 13:5 "It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."“The Best Marriage Advice I have Ever Heard”, From Cara JoinerIn Scripture we find that forgiveness is an action made in the midst of negative feelings, making it a beautiful expression of love.Stay Emotionally ConnectedRomans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."I Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."Forgiveness. Healing, Prayer and Scripture Fuel Emotional Connection Physical intimacy ( Bedroom Olympics 😀)It is an essential aspect of a passionate marriage. In Song of Solomon 1:2, the Bible celebrates the physical union of husband and wife: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth – for your love is more delightful than wine.” Investing Time And Effort Maintaining physical intimacy – from caring hugs to satisfying sex – helps keep the passion alive in your marriage. Make physical affection a regular part of your daily routine. Hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle.Gottman’s Marriage TipsTurn Toward Instead of Away: Respond positively to small bids for connection (e.g., a glance, a touch, a question) rather than ignoring them.Nurture Fondness and Admiration: Regularly express appreciation and respect to build a positive, supportive environment.The Magic Six Hours: Dedicate 6 hours per week to your relationship, including parting, reunions, admiration, affection, and weekly dates. To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: It’s not normal!Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."Every February, Tom & Scott celebrate “Love Month”. Mostly because Valentine’s Day is also Tom’s Anniversary (celebrating 51 years this year!). We also this to celebrate God’s gift of marriage, and to encourage you in your marriage.Not much in the notes this time, just 7 “It’s not normal” thoughts from marriage coaches Tommy and Dianne McCollister:It’s not normal to not have intimacy for weeks It’s not normal to neglect emotional connection It’s not normal to consistently feel unhappy in your marriage It’s not normal to always prioritize parenting over your partner It’s not normal to avoid spending quality time together It’s not normal to prefer work over your home It’s not normal to have nothing to talk about with your spouse Here’s the link to the YouTube video Tom and I talked through on these 2 episodes:https://youtube.com/shorts/ufVHSRSx32E?si=f9IVAjRwW_bz5WkK If your marriage is full of these “It’s not normals”, get the normal back in your marriage by contacting Tom today. Thanks for listening!  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: It’s not normal!Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."Every February, Tom & Scott celebrate “Love Month”. Mostly because Valentine’s Day is also Tom’s Anniversary (celebrating 51 years this year!). We also this to celebrate God’s gift of marriage, and to encourage you in your marriage.Not much in the notes this time, just 7 “It’s not normal” thoughts from marriage coaches Tommy and Dianne McCollister:It’s not normal to not have intimacy for weeks It’s not normal to neglect emotional connection It’s not normal to consistently feel unhappy in your marriage It’s not normal to always prioritize parenting over your partner It’s not normal to avoid spending quality time together It’s not normal to prefer work over your home It’s not normal to have nothing to talk about with your spouse Here’s the link to the YouTube video Tom and I talked through on these 2 episodes:https://youtube.com/shorts/ufVHSRSx32E?si=f9IVAjRwW_bz5WkK If your marriage is full of these “It’s not normals”, get the normal back in your marriage by contacting Tom today. Thanks for listening! To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Marriage Habits of Millennials, Gen X and Gen ZPsalm 145:1-5I will exalt you, my God the King; I will praise your name for ever and ever. Every day I will praise you and extol your name for ever and ever.Great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; his greatness no one can fathom. One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts. They speak of the glorious splendor of your majesty—and I will meditate on your wonderful works.Ages:Baby Boomers: Born 1946–1964 (Ages ~60-79)Generation X (Gen X): Born 1965–1980 (Ages ~45-59)Millennials (Gen Y): Born 1981–1996 (Ages ~29-44)Generation Z (Gen Z): Born 1997–2012 (Ages ~13- University of Southern CaliforniaKey Differences in Summary: Baby Boomers: Optimistic, tradition-focused, post-war prosperity. Gen X: Independent, pragmatic, cynical, bridging eras. Gen Z: Digitally fluent, diverse, experience-driven, socially conscious.Purdue UniversityThe Encouraging Data PointsYouth Engagement: Younger generations (Gen Z, Millennials) are showing increased commitment to Jesus, Bible reading, and church attendance, particularly younger men.Spiritual Curiosity: There's a noted rise in spiritual openness and interest not seen in past years.Global Growth: Christianity continues rapid growth in Africa and globally, with fewer atheists worldwide.  Barna GroupBaby Boomers (1946-1964)Marriage as Norm: Grew up with strong societal pressure to marry, resulting in the highest marriage rates.High Divorce Rates: Their era normalized divorce, leading to the highest divorce rates among generations, with rates rising with age. (Scott finds this interesting)Interracial marriage wasn't legal nationwide until 1967.Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.High Satisfaction: Studies suggest Gen X couples report the highest marital satisfaction. Millennials (1981-1996)Delayed Marriage: Married later and less frequently than prior generations, with lower overall marriage rates.Cohabitation & Trial Runs: Increased cohabitation before marriage, viewing it as a practical step.Diversity: More open to interracial and interfaith marriages. Generation Z (1997-2010)Continued Delay: Following Millennial trends, they are postponing marriage and other milestones.Lower Marriage Projections: Expected to have even lower marriage rates than Millennials.Authenticity: Value authenticity and are open to diverse relationships (interfaith/interracial).  Key TakeawaysShift from Institution to Partnership: Marriage is increasingly seen less as a societal requirement (Boomers) and more as a personal choice for fulfillment (Millennials/Gen Z).Financial & Practical Focus: Gen X prioritized affordability, while Millennials and Gen Z focus on experience and value, even in weddings.Evolving Definitions: Acceptance of cohabitation, interracial, and interfaith marriages has grown significantly from Boomers to Gen Z. Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.High Satisfaction: Studies suggest Gen X couples report the highest marital satisfaction. Millennials (1981-1996)Delayed Ma A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Marriage Habits of Millennials, Gen X and Gen ZPsalm 145:1-5I will exalt you, my God the King; I will praise your name for ever and ever. Every day I will praise you and extol your name for ever and ever.Great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; his greatness no one can fathom. One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts. They speak of the glorious splendor of your majesty—and I will meditate on your wonderful works.Ages:Baby Boomers: Born 1946–1964 (Ages ~60-79)Generation X (Gen X): Born 1965–1980 (Ages ~45-59)Millennials (Gen Y): Born 1981–1996 (Ages ~29-44)Generation Z (Gen Z): Born 1997–2012 (Ages ~13- University of Southern CaliforniaKey Differences in Summary: Baby Boomers: Optimistic, tradition-focused, post-war prosperity. Gen X: Independent, pragmatic, cynical, bridging eras. Gen Z: Digitally fluent, diverse, experience-driven, socially conscious.Purdue UniversityThe Encouraging Data PointsYouth Engagement: Younger generations (Gen Z, Millennials) are showing increased commitment to Jesus, Bible reading, and church attendance, particularly younger men.Spiritual Curiosity: There's a noted rise in spiritual openness and interest not seen in past years.Global Growth: Christianity continues rapid growth in Africa and globally, with fewer atheists worldwide.  Barna GroupBaby Boomers (1946-1964)Marriage as Norm: Grew up with strong societal pressure to marry, resulting in the highest marriage rates.High Divorce Rates: Their era normalized divorce, leading to the highest divorce rates among generations, with rates rising with age. (Scott finds this interesting)Interracial marriage wasn't legal nationwide until 1967.Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.High Satisfaction: Studies suggest Gen X couples report the highest marital satisfaction. Millennials (1981-1996)Delayed Marriage: Married later and less frequently than prior generations, with lower overall marriage rates.Cohabitation & Trial Runs: Increased cohabitation before marriage, viewing it as a practical step.Diversity: More open to interracial and interfaith marriages. Generation Z (1997-2010)Continued Delay: Following Millennial trends, they are postponing marriage and other milestones.Lower Marriage Projections: Expected to have even lower marriage rates than Millennials.Authenticity: Value authenticity and are open to diverse relationships (interfaith/interracial).  Key TakeawaysShift from Institution to Partnership: Marriage is increasingly seen less as a societal requirement (Boomers) and more as a personal choice for fulfillment (Millennials/Gen Z).Financial & Practical Focus: Gen X prioritized affordability, while Millennials and Gen Z focus on experience and value, even in weddings.Evolving Definitions: Acceptance of cohabitation, interracial, and interfaith marriages has grown significantly from Boomers to Gen Z. Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.High Satisfaction: Studies suggest Gen X couples report the highest marital satisfaction. Millennials (1981-1996)Delayed Ma A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Psychology of Eating                 Cliffnotes.com   Why, When, and How Much Humans EatDo you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (I Corinthians 6:19-20)The psychology of eating is a multidisciplinary field that explores the complex biological, psychological, social, and cultural factors influencing why, when, and how much humans eat. The psychology of eating goes beyond simple hunger to address learned behaviors, emotional triggers, and environmental cues that shape our relationship with food. Environmental cues happen when people are more likely to eat in the presence of an environmental cue that others did too. Also, participants were more likely to choose a snack that was consistent with the choice of others.Examples include having a snack because someone else in the house is having one. The power of suggestion.Key Factors in the Psychology of EatingEmotional Eating: Many people use food—often high-fat, high-sugar "comfort foods"—to cope with emotions such as depression, stress, sadness, boredom, anger, or loneliness. This provides temporary relief but can lead to cycles of guilt and overeating.Mindless Eating: This occurs when individuals eat without paying attention to their body's hunger and fullness signals, often while distracted by activities like watching TV or working.An example; I always eat pizza while watching footballSocial and Environmental Influence: Eating behaviors are heavily influenced by social settings, cultural norms, and marketing. People often eat more in the company of others or are influenced by the eating habits of romantic partners.Food Preferences and Conditioning: Personal history, childhood experiences, and learned associations (e.g., associating specific foods with celebrations or comfort) significantly shape what we choose to eat. Biological and Neurological Factors: Hormones like leptin and ghrelin regulate physical hunger and satiety, while the brain's reward system can drive cravings for calorie-dense foods.Mood and Nutrition: The relationship between food and mood is a two-way street. A nutritious diet, rich in fruits, vegetables, omega-3 fatty acids, and essential vitamins, can improve mood and mental health, while poor dietary choices can exacerbate feelings of stress and depression. Why You EatUnderstanding why you eat produces the potential to manage your weight and mental health better. •Some people eat because they enjoy fixing themselves a snack and looking forward to eating it.•Some people like eating because it makes it gives them an adrenaline high while preparing it. When We EatPoor Choices: People eating late often choose higher-calorie, less nutritious foods, and emotional eating increases when tired, adding excess calories.Increased Calorie Intake: Late-night eaters often consume hundreds more calories daily, which drives weight gain. Portion SizeThe National Library of Medicine suggests that it can increase weight gain. However other factors are related.Family GeneticsSize  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: ShopaholicsI Corinthians 10:13 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."The psychology of shopaholism is rooted in the temporary relief and emotional highs that shopping provides, which can be a coping mechanism for stress, low self-esteem, or feelings of powerlessness. It's a behavioral addiction.Psychological driversEmotional regulation: Shopping can be a way to soothe negative feelings like stress, anxiety, sadness, or anger.Sense of control: For those who feel a lack of control in other areas of their life, shopping can provide a sense of power and autonomy.Highs and lows: The release of endorphins and dopamine during a purchase creates a temporary "high" or sense of gratification. However, this is often followed by feelings of shame, disappointment, or guilt, which leads to a cycle of seeking the rush again.Self-esteem and validation: Compulsive buying can be a way to seek validation or improve one's self-image and sense of importance through material possessions.Perfectionism: Some individuals may shop compulsively to achieve an imagined sense of perfection, believing that certain items will make them more complete. Comorbidity Other disorders could be happening at the same time.Behavioral patternsPreoccupation: Individuals become preoccupied with shopping and making purchases, sometimes to an obsessive degree.Impulse control issues: A key feature is difficulty resisting the impulse to buy, even when they know it's a bad idea.Secrecy and guilt: They may hide their purchases from friends and family and feel a significant amount of shame and guilt after shopping sprees.Escalation: The behavior can escalate into financial, emotional, and relational problems.To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

You start 2026 as an engaged person.  First, congratulations!  But now there's lots of things to start doing.  We talk through that on this episode of The Session.  Please forgive me (Scott), the notes from the episode have vanished into the ether world of my laptop, and I can't find them anywhere.  So listen close!  ;)  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

Sorry, no show notes here. Just Tom and his kids talking about what it was like to grow up a Russell, and the Christmas/family traditions that shaped them.To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

Sorry, no show notes here. Just Tom and his kids talking about what it was like to grow up a Russell, and the Christmas/family traditions that shaped them.To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Favorite Christmas Story Characters and Favorite Christmas MovieAbove all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 1 Peter 4:8Favorite Characters in Christmas story Heather - I love the shepherds—to think that they were out in a field at night and a host of angels appeared above them—they had to be shaking in their sandals!! And then how they responded is so inspiring—if only we all could go running towards Jesus with their enthusiasm!! 😊Alyx - As someone with an adopted Father, I have always been very fond of Joseph, especially in the story of Jesus’ birth. We aren’t told a ton about him aside from the main deal that he had faith, married Mary instead of allowing her to be shamed, and raised Jesus as his own. I like to imagine him a lot like my very faithful and selfless father who married my mother and raised me as his own. My biological father was in my life when I was a child and my dad always took a back seat, gave my bio dad every privilege and never once complained. But my dad was the one who showed up to every concert, soccer game, bought my favorite ice cream when I cried over a boy and later adopted me as an adult. I always say he is the clearest picture of Christ’s sacrificial love that I could ever ask for and its easy for me to understand how God loves us more because of him! I see his love for me in Christ and in Joseph so that’s why Joseph is my favorite!Amanda - I love the Shepherds in the Christmas story. They were not high status; they were just regular people like us. God chose them to be the first to hear the news. They represent just pure joy and excitement. It's also cool that Shepherds are used as a symbol throughout the entire bible. They forecasted what was to come. Suzannah – the donkey (A woman after Scott’s heart)Kayti – MaryMy Erin – MaryAlysha – MaryAmy - I think the shepherds because they would've never imagined they would be included in such an event. Favorite Christmas MovieEloise at Christmastime. Shocking that an eccentric, nosey little girl obsessed with pink always finds her way to the top of my lists lol.White Christmas x 2It’s a Wonderful LifeRudolph the Red Nosed ReindeerThe Santa ClausMiracle on 34th Street - the original A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: What Christmas Means for Vulnerable Children, from an article by Helen Richardson, Focus on the Family.What Christmas Means for Vulnerable Children - Focus on the FamilyPsalm 103:8 – “The LORD is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.”Ways to make Christmas special for vulnerable childrenBe intentional and proactive. This includes putting time and energy into it.Gifts purchased or made with the vulnerable child in mind has an incredible impactBeing proactive and intentional includes connecting with ministries that are providing Christmas for vulnerable childrenThe extra little bit of time and effort put in makes a huge difference in helping the child feel loved, as well.Meaningful gifts like a child’s Bible or a magazine, put out by a ministry that speaks to children like BrioAsk them what would be a special Christmas present?Facilitate them providing a Christmas for someone who is less often than they areGive them as much ownership of what happens enduring Christmas as possibleHelp displaced, vulnerable children feel more comfortable in a new environmentHelp them see Jesus was also displaced Luke 2:7 and she gave birth to her first child, a son. She wrapped him in a blanket and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the village inn.It’s hard to remember that Jesus was a baby and a child as well as a teenager😊😂Be intentional and proactive about their bedroom The vulnerable child will feel more empowered when the child gets to fix up their room the way he or she wants it for ChristmasTom’s Thoughts There is a theme throughout Helen’s article on acceptance and approval. Make sure they receive presents that are given with them in mind, it be even more special.We were designed to be accepted and improved by God There are core values that we have that can only truly be filled by the presence of the Holy Spirit in us Jeremiah 31:3:  The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying; “I have loved you with an everlasting, love; You with my unfailing kindness!” Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.”  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The Spending habits of Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z.Genesis 22:17, “I will surely bless you and make your descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and as the sand on the seashore.” This verse reminds us that God’s promises are not just for us, but for the generations that follow us, ensuring a legacy that reflects His faithfulness. Ages of the different generations.The Age of Gen X.It is for the people born between the 1960s and 1980s AGES 65 - 85The Age of Millennials.It is for the people born between 1981 and 1996 AGES 29 - 44 The Age of Gen ZIt is for people born between 1997 and 2012 AGES 13 - 28The spending habits of Gen XA Gen X Christian's spending would therefore reflect a blend of generational financial habits and faith-based values. are often characterized by cautious, practical spending habits shaped by major economic shifts they experienced including the 2008 financial crisis.They balance taking care of both their own children and their aging parents They are careful buyers that are brand loyal and very eager to research what they are going to buy They prioritize their spending based on mortgages, health care and retirement They are more likely to research what they buy and are comfortable either online or in a store buying it Gen X spending includes travel, health and beauty products, and household items like pet care and home and garden supplies. They are also high spenders on "recreation durables," such as musical instruments and gaming consoles.  The spending habits of millennialsStudies show that Christian millennials donate significantly more than their non-Christian peers. One study found that Christian millennials give not quite 3 times as much as non-Christian millennials For many Christian millennials, financial responsibility is directly tied to their faith.Many are driven by "others-focused" financial goals, such as providing for family, charitable giving, or serving God with their money.other millennials may be more motivated by "self-focused" goals, such as supporting their desired lifestyle.Focus on intentional spending. • 59% intentionally try to buy from companies that operate in ways they believe honor Christ.48% believe they have a responsibility to spend money with companies owned or operated by Christians.Millennials are more likely to give their donations to grassroots start up ministries and social justice issues rather than tithing to the churchThe spending habits of Gen ZChristian Gen Z show a strong interest in "purpose-driven" purchases that align with their values. While they are price-conscious, they will prioritize spending with brands that demonstrate social responsibilityChristian youth tend to spend their money on experiences rather than tangible itemsExamples include dining out, going to concerts, traveling and other entertainmentGen Z rely on social media for product information and prefer to order onlineThey have had very little experience, going to shopping malls in various department stores to find things. They have been born and raised on the Internet and its capabilities.They are motivated to give 10% however it is often times to an online presence versus the institutional churchMany Gen Z people tend to believe in being a good steward of what they have been given. Christian Gen Z are actively taught to resist materialism and find contentment in God rather than possessions.  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

With the Thanksgiving holiday here, we thought it would be appropriate to discuss gratitude....in our own, quirky way.  The article we used as a basis for our discussion is "7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude That Will Motivate You to Give Thanks Year Round", by Amy Morin.  Here's the link to the full article:7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-RoundHow can you express gratitude to God and to others this Thanksgiving?To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: 5 Ways Your Blended Family Can Find Peace Over the HolidaysMatthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted" As God's chosen, holy, and beloved people, you should clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Verse 13: Be patient with each other, and if you have a complaint against someone, forgive them as the Lord has forgiven you. Verse 14: And above all these virtues, put on love, which binds all of them together in perfect1. Remember the reason for the season. Keeping peace on earth starts with you. As Christians, it’s our responsibility to model Christ to our stepchildren and ex-spouses, especially those who are not walking with the Lord. Romans 14:19 says, “Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification” (NIV).These special days are a celebration of our Lord Jesus Christ, the one who has brought salvation, grace, love, and joy. Are we demonstrating the love of God in our stepfamily? Are we expressing the joy of the Lord? Remember to center your holidays on the right celebration. 2. Honor traditions that your step kids bring and consider new ones. We learned that a new family means doing things a new way. That involves flexibility and open minds. It’s okay to keep some old traditions, but it may be time to create some new ones, too. We asked each of our kids to suggest something they’d like to create as a new tradition. As long as it was legal and not immoral, we agreed.One new tradition sounds pretty simple, but had a lot of impact. We bought matching ornaments for the kids each year and added their names and the year. As each has married, we have carefully packed up their ornaments and presented to them for their first Christmas tree. There are lots of great memories attached to those ornaments.As the kids have gotten older, we have added a new tradition of Thanksgiving Day golf. The boys (since we have more of them) leave the house with my husband, Gil, by 8 a.m. Living in the Northwest, you never know what kind of weather will greet you on that morning. Last year, it was more like ice golfing. We came back with a video of 28-year-old Kyle ice skating in the sand trap as he tried to maneuver his way out. Feet sliding under him, his feeble attempt to escape the trap made us all laugh! As we reminisce around the dinner table each year, that tradition is always brought up.3. Reduce pressure of holiday schedules. So much strife is created by the timing of family get-togethers, but if you look at things a little differently, you can stretch your holiday time and even enjoy it. (As we always say, “Remember, blessed are the flexible, for they won’t snap.”)Consider that your celebration doesn’t need to be on the day of the holiday. Instead, reserve another date close to the holiday for your holiday festivities. Having an “open house” day may work best.4. Don’t hold grudges. Many families trade off each year where kids will be for the major holidays, which can disappoint and hurt feelings. But don’t spend your energy on holding grudges over scheduling chaos. Instead, put your energy into loving them, and enjoy the time you have with them.If emotions run crazy, chances are they are just trying to make all of their parents happy by showing up when asked. The more understanding you have, the more pleasant the holiday will be and the more your kids will look forward to spending time in your home. 5. Don’t forget about your marriage. Take time to check in with your spouse. Sometimes my husband and I will ask one another, “How’s your heart?” Between gift buying, school concerts, dinner parties, scheduling with your ex, budgeting for presents, and getting the oil changed in yo A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: The First Christmas (and other holidays) Without A Loved OneMatthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted"Highlights And Reactions To The First Christmas Without A Loved One from Tom and Scott.It Is Important To Prioritize Your Needs.  Take Time To:WalkNapHave important conversations Take time to have your space.Crying and hugs are to be expected and enjoyed Find new family traditions that help after experiencing lossNew traditions could include cruisesRent a house in a vacation spot for the familyContinue with routine that helps normalize lifeHave your regular coffee time?Continue watching your favorite shows or news on TVPrayingSeeking God And His WordEat healthyConnect with a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time3 Suggestions from the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association 1.    Look to the past. God gave you and your spouse many years together; have you ever stopped to thank Him for this? In other words, don’t let the loneliness of the present crowd out the happiness of the past. iMovies, photo albums2.    Look to the present. All around you are people who are lonely or grieving or discouraged. Ask God to help you reach out and be a friend to them this Christmas. It may be someone you already know—in your church or among your circle of friends. Invite them to dinner; take them to a Christmas program at your church; in small ways let them know you care. They need you—and you need them.3.    Third, look to the future. Jesus came into the world for one reason: to make it possible for us to be with Him in Heaven forever. The more we focus on eternity, the lighter our burdens become. In Christ we have hope, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all” (2 Corinthians 4:17). A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session - The Christian Response to AI The Golden Calf (Exodus 32): While Moses was on Mount Sinai receiving the Ten Commandments, the Israelites created a golden calf to worship, a blatant act of idolatry that angered God.Exodus 20: 3-5 You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the LORD your God am a jealous God.The Setup from Scott: We did some training and orientation to A.I. in the office. Some of us were a little uneasy with it. Including me. My position has been that I would prefer to use the A.I. God gave me…my brain.  Advantages to AITranslating scripture into different languages CBNWhen creative with ethic Christian values, it can be helpfulAI and promote God’s values like compassion and justice, encourage andPromote God’s sovereigntyAI DangersBelieving anything that would distort God’s plan or will in this worldAvoiding any form of worship or unmerited importance that would be more important than our GodUnhealthy dependence on AIAI becomes an unhealthy control over society  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

Sorry, no show notes for this one.  This is the conclusion of a two-episode conversation I had with my daughter, Erin about her daughter, Allison.  My hope is that our conversation raises awareness about just how truly beautiful and special kids with exceptionalities are, and that they have a role in our world today. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

Sorry, no show notes for this one.  This is the first of a two-episode conversation I had with my daughter, Erin about her daughter, Allison.  My hope is that our conversation raises awareness about just how truly beautiful and special kids with exceptionalities are, and that they have a role in our world today. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session:  Helping the Pastor’s SpouseLord of peace, may You give our pastor(s) and their families peace at all times and in every way (2 Thess. 3:16). Support your spouse without beingthe assistant pastor.1.   Be a loving, supportive spouse2.   Do not neglect the training of your children.3.   Take care of your home.The Unique Challenges·  Living under constant scrutiny·  Unrealistic expectations·  Perfect social behavior·  Thorough knowledge of the Bible·  Attendance at all meetings·  Ready entertainer·  Spiritual giantThe Unique Circumstances·  Limited finances·  The demands of church members·  Loneliness·  Absent Spouse How to Succeed As a Pastor’s Spouse·  Love and accept yourself.·  Concentrate on being the best you can be.·  Have realistic expectations of yourself.·  Build your own spiritual life.·  Work on self-improvement.·  Love and accept your spouse.·  Try to understand your spouse’s ministry.·  Decide on what you are comfortable doing in your church.  A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: Celebrating the Success of your Pastor 1 Timothy 5:17 (NIV): “The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching.”Celebration suggestionsWrite a letter. Handwritten is best! For example:  We are grateful for your leadership and the love you show through your service. May God continue to bless you and your ministry. Your dedication to the Lord's work touches our hearts. Thank you for being our shepherd and always guiding us towards God's love.It would be very important to celebrate your pastors, preaching style and the enthusiasm and love that they present God’s word in.Another example, if your pastor helped you or someone else you know:Thanks for your help with [specific action or situation]. I really appreciate all of your hard work. You've been so helpful with [specific action or situation]. Thanks Have a church potluck in their honorPossibly have people lined up ahead of time to honor the Pastor after the mealIt is possible to have no cards at each table setting that would say one thing I appreciate about the Pastor is…Start a prayer chain of having people sign up to pray for the pastor(s) for a week. Start an email chain of celebrating the pastor all month. Maybe talk to the church office manager about sending out emails to the church.Other Ideas:Through the years of ministry, the pastor suffers from the spiritual attacks by the enemy on their emotions and well-being. It is important to encourage them in their life outside of leading the church. We should encourage them to take care of themselves and acknowledge the success of their family and their life.Let them know what a great job they’ve done in their marriageEqually important is to let them know how great they have been as a parentFind something that is special in them to acknowledge and celebrate. As an example. Your pastor may have a great way of greeting you that is heartwarming. Take time to acknowledge that.Let them know that they do a great job of leadership of the staff and church membersIt might sound odd, but celebrate them by sending them on a sabbatical? A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: A Pastor’s Struggles Part 2“7 Struggles of Ministry That Aren’t Talked About Enough” by Stephan CoteYou Have Doubts About GodDoubting Thomas wanted evidence for his beliefs. He was known for I won’t believe it unless I see the Neal ones in his hands and put my fingers into them and place my hand into the wound in his side. (John 20:25) Sarah didn’t believe she could get pregnant, Mary, mother of Jesus, doubted an angel (Luke 1:34)Confusing devotion in vocation you allow your job is a pastor take over your personal devotional life. Your time in the Bible is more for a Bible study or sermon than it is your own charging of your battery.Pastoral Stress Levels Are Off The Charts 75% of Pastor’s report being extremely stressed or highly stressedTight finances, emotional turmoil, and long hours are all stress factors for the Pastor.  Carrying a stressful load that was not yours in the first place.Pastors Find It hard to deal with the 3’ G’s:  Girls, Gold and Glory 57% of pastors and 64% youth pastors report porn use. Affairs, both physical and emotional, Accountability partners, and computer filters are very important.Feeling AloneEasy pray for the enemy when you find yourself low and in a dry spirit to stay.  Support groups or counselor or mentor or a coach can be very helpful. To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: A Pastor’s Struggles Part 1Psalm 119:130 “The unfolding of your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple.”“A third of pastors who leave ministry cite burnout, conflict with church”: Study from Christianpost.comReasons Pastors, Leave The MinistryAround one-third of pastors who leave the ministry cite burnout or conflict with the church as the reasons, according to a study by Lifeway Research. 18% in 2021 cited conflict for their reason to leave the church. Look at how four years has made an incredible increase in leaving the ministry40% of respondents cited change in calling as the cause of their departureOf those who reported conflict as a reason for leaving 45% of respondents reported experiencing significant conflict during the final year they served as pastor. Among former pastors, 87% faced “conflict at some point in their last congregation,” with 56% experiencing it over proposed changes and almost half (49%) saying they experienced a “significant personal attack” as a result.Lifeway also reported that, despite leaving the position of pastor, 53% of respondents said that they continue to work in ministry, though in a different capacity.To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

Excerpts from: What does the Bible teach us about bullying?  From Neal Hardin Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image,  in the image of God he created them;  male and female he created them. Bullying happens more frequently than you might think. According to the American Medical Association, by the time students finish school, nearly half of students have been bullied at one point or another. What is Bullying? Researchers who study bullying cite three common characteristics of what makes an act bullying:·  Bullying is intentional and tries to cause harm or distress to the victim.·  Bullying occurs between two students who have different degrees of power.·  Bullying happens repeatedly over a period of time. There are three types of bullying that occur:1.    Physical: Hitting, kicking, spitting, tripping, pushing, breaking someone’s things, rude gestures2.    Verbal: Teasing, name-calling, threats, inappropriate sexual comments, taunting3.    Social: Leaving someone out of a group on purpose, telling others not to be friends with them, publicly embarrassing them, spreading gossip or rumors about someone. How should Christians respond to bullying?How does God call us to respond if we are being bullied or we see someone else being bullied?1. If you see something, say something.Reporting bullying to the proper authorities is one of the most important strategies we can use to prevent further bullying. Twenty-eight percent of students grades 6-12 say that they have been bullied at school. Yet only 20-30 percent of those who are bullied actually report when they are bullied.[5] As How should Christians respond to bullying?How does God call us to respond if we are being bullied or we see someone else being bullied?1. If you see something, say something. 1.    Reporting bullying to the proper authorities is one of the most important strategies we can use to prevent further bullying.2.    Twenty-eight percent of students grades 6-12 say that have been bullied at school. Yet only 20-30 percent of those who are bullied actually report when they are bullied. ** Something extremely important to remember is that it isn’t tattling to report bullying. Understand who you are in Christ You need to know that you are special to God and created in his image withimmeasurable worth and value. (Psalm 139:13-18) it’s okay to stick up for yourself if you are bullied.Sticking up for yourself may be difficult to do, but if you are able to stay calm and respond in a loving manner, then you have every right as an image-bearer of God to defend yourself and speak the truth. You are worth being defended. Reach out to those being bulliedLastly, we need to reach out to those being bullied. One of the best ways we can do this is to befriend them and invite them to hang out with us. Not only will this make them feel loved, accepted, and less alone, it also acts as a deterrent to bullying. Bullies are much less likely to pick on someone if they are in a group of friends than if they are alone.To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com

The Session: 7 Essentials For Grandparenting Your Grandchildren, from Focus On The Family1. Understand Your Impact PotentialGrandpa or grandma, you are second only to parents in your potential to influence your grandkids spiritually.If you haven’t thought about your impact potential before, you’re not alone. Many Christian grandparents are missing important opportunities because they haven’t seen the possibility—nor the responsibility—that grandchildren bring. We rightly see parents as first both in responsibility and potential to impact the spiritual growth of children.2. Clarify Your RoleWhether we are one of six or by ourselves in this spiritual‐impact role, the mandate is clear: passing on faith to our grandkids is our duty before God! He commands us to teach two generations, not just one.3. Model a Life of GoodnessIf we have been obedient followers of Christ, it only makes sense that in the grandparent years, we are more like Him than we have ever been. Rather than becoming more cynical and cranky, we ought to become more gracious and godly. Doing so is vital: our children and grandchildren will largely base their impression of Jesus upon what we show Him to be through our daily lives. Don’t ever underestimate the fact that how you live your life will impact your grandkids. (Phil’s funeral)4. Create Great Relationships With the ParentsParents are the doorkeepers of the relationships with the grandkids, as they should be. But that relationship door sometimes slams in the face of grandparents. Divorce slams it. Political differences slam it. So do different spiritual paths. It’s slammed by wrong decisions, unkind words said in anger, or overreactions—sometimes by the parent, sometimes by the grandparent.5. Balance Grace and TruthWe best represent Jesus to our families when we balance grace and truth. John 1:14 describes Him as “full of grace and truth.” It really means “full of grace and full of truth;” He was the complete embodiment of both. 6. Adapt to Your Grandkid’s World (This should sound familiar)Last week when she came to visit, I told her, ‘if you can’t put your phone down, I’m taking you home!’ And a few minutes later, I caught her playing again—so I took her home.”That grandma thought she was doing a good thing by being strict with her granddaughter, but I’m pretty certain she injured the relationship instead. You see, she wanted the little girl to enter “grandma world”—sit at the kitchen table, and talk over tea. What if she would have said instead, “Help me learn about this game that you like to play so much on your phone, and then afterward, let’s sit at the table and just talk?” The granddaughter would have felt honored, the relationship preserved, and the two of them would have enjoyed tea together There is no greater focus for the second half of life than that!7. Find Your Greatest Life PurposeThere is no greater focus for the second half of life than that! Life’s greatest purpose is simple: to see our descendants in heaven. To reach Tom Russell, please call 419-709-8447, email Tom at [email protected], or visit his website at https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com