This Delicious Life™ - Self-Kindness, Less Servitude & Permission to Re-invent

Kristen Noel knows about divorce. She, like so many of us, has experienced it twice. But she took it to the next level by becoming a certified intuitive divorce coach. As women tend to slog through, and beat themselves up while pushing to get to the other side of something as painful as divorce, help is available and deserved. It's not your fault you want to move on. You are not selfish or self-centered. You are not burning down the castle of dreams. You have decided you are complete with this marital scenario and want different. Our society makes it hard for women to move on. There has to be a host of reasons, and for some of us, there are. But for others, it's no longer a fit. But what about the kid? Oh my God, how could you? The guilt, the shame, all the stuff. That's what Kristen works through in a gentle but firm way in helping women navigate a "smart divorce" with an "evidence bank" of wins. Her evidence bank concept was so aligned to my Delicious Life (and I adore her as a friend) I had to bring her on to the show to share with my "sandwich generation" listeners that there is a path through divorce that makes it a bit easier. Like life has its ebbs and flows, so does divorce, and it's in the waiting periods, after the dust settles that the doubts and feelings come in. Join us as we talk about how women may give the marriage a second chance (but usually change their mind and are back for coaching round 2...)and also, what Kristen does for fun and her self care. I want anyone listening here to understand, through divorce, one still can have self-kindness and love, even when it seems like the world is shifting off its access. Dinners with friends, and beach days, and walks in the park, all teach you that random self-kindness that you find when its all said and done is now a part of who you are. How we treat ourselves in the trenches, is how we can treat ourselves outside of them. Kristen has a process to bridge the gap between strategy and self-care with the women she coaches and that couldn't be more delicious. You can find her at https://intuitivedivorce.com My Live Your Delicious Life newsletter is on fire these days - dropping the mad self-kindness tips and tools for all areas of your life. Highly recommend a join so you don't miss my live Exhale events, as well as more podcast guests!  

New here? Start with this one. This is my story — and probably a little bit of yours too. At 44, I was a single mom with two kids, no savings, and everything to prove. So I did what so many of us do - I worked harder, gave more, pushed further. I overworked. I overpleased. I said yes when I meant no and kept producing results to prove I was worthy, capable, enough. And then my body said: not so fast. The panic attacks started. Not as a breakdown - as a message. My nervous system was waving a white flag, telling me I had been last on my own list for so long I had forgotten I was even on it. So I started small. I looked at trees in the sunshine. I danced in my apartment. I laughed with friends. I started stealing tiny moments back for myself - what I now call Delicious Moments. This is that story. And if you're in the messy middle right now, running on empty, holding everyone else together - this one is for you. Start here. 🌻 Loved this episode? Join Live Your Delicious Life — my free weekly newsletter for women in the messy middle. One story. One act of self-kindness. Every Tuesday. → Sign up here: liveyourdeliciouslife.kit.com.

Take a minute, like give yourself a second to pause, and you may realize you don't want to do something. What? The idea of that is wild to so many of us. Choices? WTF? You have the right to take some space in between shit before making a decision or a move. You can say to yourself and others, let me think on this. That is gutsy and this is what Laura Aura, my guest this week, is all about. What makes her a Delicious guest is she stands for the understanding that what we have and need could be so easily right before us, if we pivot with desire. Ask, what do I want? Again, a big mind blow. Within the desire to have a more peaceful life where we are not running around constantly over performing, there are miracles of uniqueness and acheivements that we didn't even see on our landscape. Those gentle surprises where we say, "I want a peaceful home. I like being home. I like living in this country, or this city." And we don't have to explain why. Laura shares about her book writing journey (something I know quite a bit about as a former book coach) and we talk about the humbling permission to write a book. You will leave this interview on fire, and with a new agency to create deliciously in your life. You can find my newsletter - Live Your Delicious Life - here.  I also am having The Exhale events in June and July which can be accessed through the newsletter. You can learn more about Laura here. As always, rate and review so more women can find us. Thank you!  

Sure, you may have divorced your ex, but you raised kids with him co-parenting for twenty years and then unexpectedly, he dies. A hole is left in your life, but mourning can be complicated, and perhaps your current partner doesn't understand. Or your job doesn't see that as an immediate family member and expects you to show up for your job. What about the grief when you child gets a diagnosis of Autism or OCD and you realize that they will have to work harder than other kids to get through life. Or that it will be more on your plate as a mom, juggling two other kids. Or someone you knew in recovery commits suicide due to addiction, and it hits you square in the heart, but feels bigger than it should? As women, we are navigating so many complex seemingly (to society mourning standards) minor losses and griefs every day, but we are expected to just take them on in our bodies and shoulder forward to all our responsibilities. To even stop for a moment and breathe can seem like too much time in our busy schedules but if we don't face the trauma and pain, we can get derailed in other emotional ways. Speaking today with Krista Hellman, a social worker and founder of the Trauma and Grief Institute in Ottawa, Ontario, I learned a lot about how we need to process attachment and mourning in our bodies. Krista wrote a book about the loss of her dog called Over ther Rainbow: The Love, Loss & Legacy of Your Dog, but it is about more than pet loss. She speaks of how connection can be continued beyond loss. Please rate and review this episode if you enjoyed it.  I have a newsletter, Live Your Delicious Life, where you can learn more about my events, The Exhale: Put Yourself First where we discover ways to bring more Delicious into your life.

Susan Landers, M.D. tells us that perfectionism comes from our childhoods. Be good girls. Play well in a group. Don't be too bossy. Or if we didn't get the mothering or love we needed, then we try and receive that unconditional love by the praise we get from society.  A lot of working moms fall into the perfectionist trap because they feel like they have to do all the things perfectly from work tasks to the birthday parties. And of course social media has made this worse. Susan talks about going from a 80 hour job in the NICU with three little kids to identifying her burn out and making changes in her professional life to better enjoy life more deliciously. She learned to block out time just for herself to do what she wanted on her calendar whether it was take a walk or call a friend. In fact, she admits that she has experienced burn out twice in her career  -  the second at age 62. She also breaks down the Eisenhower Matrix which identifies what in your life is urgent, or what you can delegate or get rid of.  Without a tool like this, we can think its all-important and lose our perspective in the weeds of responsibility. Susan admits she was 50 years old when she learned how to say no. And silencing the inner critic, setting boundaries and practicing self-compassion is the key to get out of the perfectionism trap. Susan has a wonderful Substack Mom's Matter. She has written several books and we discuss Good Enough is Your Super Power: Overcoming Perfectionism for Women by Silencing Your Inner Critic and Settting Boundaries on the show. Enjoyed our interview and the podcast as a whole? Please rate and review as that helps us get the word out to more "sandwich generation" women. I also have a newsletter liveyourdeliciouslife.kit.com. Join our community for a wealth of information and events.  

How many of you are willing to walk away from a toxic job, pursue a passion project and be in naïve optimism while you do it? I know from my personal perspective, we tend with our careers or how we lead our kids to be in hard love, or face reality. Or we work ourselves to the perfectionist bone, having zero fun while we strive to "get it right." But with Dr. Vicki Johnson, she gives a solid sell on the idea of optimism, but also chipping away at projects with high effort. This in itself will lower the potential of being a perfectionist. She provided so many insightful takeaways in our interview, especially coming from a place where she juggled jobs, side hustles (built her platform ProFellow) and young kids, all crammed in a small apartment in San Francisco. Currently she lives in Bend, Oregon and has recently published her book, Pitch Your Potential: The Formula for Winning Dream Jobs, Awards, and Elite Opportunities.  Would you like to be a part of the Delicious Life community where we are building events and connections? Please join me at liveyourdeliciouslife.kit.com where you can download for free my PDF Seven Acts of Self-Kindness. If you enjoyed today's podcast, please rate and review. It helps us to get the message out that we don't have to be burned out exhausted women to achieve dreams and goals.

You would think with all the fancy initials after De Shell's name, we would be talking about female leadership, or coaching but that is not what this podcast is about. In fact, if you stay in the interview for at least 22 minutes, De Shell will mesmerize you like she did me. She will lull you into belief you deserve a gentle life and no longer need to feel like you are drowning inside. De Shell and I had a shared language of leaning deliciously into our expansion of self-knowledge in an area that is not necessarily to our professional advantage. Why not? Who told us that is not beneficial? The system, that is who, and its all a bunch of lies. How you feed your soul is how you show up everywhere in your life, including how you self-serve. For De Shell this was yoga. She learned after decades of practicing asanas  that the lifestyle is so much biggest than exercise. As a life long learner, she wanted to do something deeper that helped her calm down. What it meant for the mental and energetic and emotional space. She signed up for a teacher training which also  gave me permission to validate my desire to take a yoga teacher intensive one day because I too have been doing yoga my whole life thinking I want a better understanding of what's deeper. I have learned more than ever lately, if you just stay in child pose your whole time, it is okay. Why can't we do something just to learn? Why are we always in the hustle? Women always need an outcome, but what if the outcome is it feels good and you are curious. I share with De Shell I found out a lot of what I believed in, what I felt I had to prove, was a lie. She nailed in on the head when she said, it's the overfunctioning. The badges we think we need to win, and the conditioning to place more value on what we do versus who we are. Women who don't have self-trust use the real masculine language and think "if I could just…", but at the same time, it's magical thinking to say we don't need to make money. There is a happy medium. De Shell works with a lot of women on boards with high position, and she thinks of herself a decade ago. She would defend the lies based on how she defined herself. Self-care for example, relaxation versus rejuvenation. You don't rest when you die! You need to nap on a hammock! Stop trying to think looking good is self-care! De Shell takes off into the mountains, and travels alone. She doesn't want to be concerned with what you want to eat and what activity you want to engage in. She wants to rejuvenate! In the Fun Segment she suggests: 1.        Journal by candlelight, do yoga poses, sink into oracle witnessing and reflecting on becoming.  2.        Go on trips on your own and make discoveries. 3.        Eat at new places and savor what's local. What's the story behind the food? 4.        When you travel, see how the poor and impoverished live beyond your resort parameters. 5.        No schedule, no check in. 8 hour book days. If you loved our podcast, I would love to have you as part of our Delicious community by joining at liveyourdeliciouslife.kit.com If you want to learn more about the work De Shell is doing, check her out at https://leveragingtruth.com

Over the last decade of coaching women, speaking to women, and my own personal experiences, our most fraught constructs are time and money. So many of us have these old money stories we have brought into adulthood and we are almost paralyzed by conversations and transparency with money, nevermind having fun with it to de-stress and be expansive. Meghan Dwyer, a certified Financial Planner, and podcast host of Money Isn't Scary, joined me to talk about money. Why can't we love money and be proud of money, and also be intentional with it at the same time? What would it feel like if we were in our joy with money and created fun with money? What if you created a fund to do something guilt free for yourself?  Whether you are a mom of little kids navigating Disneyland, or a solopreneur looking at your bottom line for Q2, the money we have can be a representative of our inner worth. Instead, how about we have inner worth and self-trust and let the money follow suit! I find that money becomes a barrier for women, and we have a hard time being transparent with money because we think we are bragging or making someone else uncomfortable. When instead, we could be helping another woman be less alone with her money stress and instead see abundance! We give some Delicious Fun Money Tips on the show! Listen in to learn how to: Save up $20 a week for a fun account.  Check your bank balances each week instead of being ruled by fear Take the emotion out of communication with money using AI. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it, rate and review.  I would also love if you could come join my Delicious Life community through my newsletter at https://liveyourdeliciouslife.kit.com where I will be sharing weekly tips on how to have more random acts of self-kindness in your life.

You know that dream you have to write a book? The one that shows up uninvited while you're in the shower or staring out the window on a Tuesday?  Once it hits, it won't go away. I got to talk about that dream recently, and why the women who have the most to say are so often the ones who keep waiting to feel ready. Samantha Hawley invited me onto her Beyond Awareness podcast, and honestly, it became one of those conversations I didn't want to end. We talked about what's actually in the way of your book.  It's trust. Trust in yourself, your story, and the version of you that already knows what she wants to say. But in order to have that trust, you need to give yourself those little delicious moments in other areas every day or you are going to continue giving your energy away to everyone else, and not have any left for your creative freedom. We also got into identity shifts, why perfectionism is just fear wearing a blazer, and why writing the book you have right now is what shapes you into the writer you'll be in five years. The woman you want to be with a voice, a passion and purpose... not minimized by all the areas of your life pulling at you (that can make a false sense of importance.) I felt this podcast episode with Samanta was so delicious that I built a whole This Delicious Life™ episode around our conversation. In this honest and frank interview, you will learn: How to know if you have a book versus just a complaint dump. How a book can help you put voice to your feelings. You'll receive guidance on how to stop clinging so tightly to your book ideas. I wrote one book on permission and then at the guidance of a book professional, evolved it to something more akin to this brand. I tossed that book and wrote a new one, and then found a book agent because the newest book was more aligned to the joy and purpose that was bubbling out of me. We can wear our book journey lightly, not like some mission we can never get done. We can let expand and flow, and how you do time in your life is going to dictate how you find time to be in the book process. Listen to, Subcribe and rate Samantha's Beyond Awareness podcast. And of course, do the same for This Delicious Life™ so we can grow! I would also love if you could come join my Delicious Life community through my newsletter at https://liveyourdeliciouslife.kit.com where I will be sharing weekly tips on how to have more random acts of self-kindness in your life.    

On today's episode, I chat with Lauren Young Durbin, a Career Strategist for Midcareer Women. She is dishing out the goods for all of us who are thinking about our next career move. While a lot of advice is floating out there in this category, what I found unique about our talk is what a straight-shooter Lauren is. Some of the takeaways right at the top of the talk include gems like: -       Your vision might not be your vision. It might be someone else's you adopted. -        We are the biggest wardens of our careers. -       Start by thinking bigger and then think bigger than that. Lauren lived the advice she coaches. She was struggling in a job working 60 hours a week with two neurodivergent twins, while also building her own business. She straddled as long as she could, and finally left her job to focus on her business. The end product? She was no longer upset or crying herself to sleep. When we get the hit to make a career shift, it can be scary to make the move and the leap but the benefits are vast when we listen to what our soul is telling us. Then how about when we think we want to do something that is more out of the box than what we have been doing? We get to make that gradual shift and it's  not a complete toss it over. We can lean into both and observe what we are trying to make work and ignoring the signs. We think since we are already doing everything for everyone, the idea of doing seven companies seems implausible and we limit our expansion. Lauren says we need to think out of the box – we can demolish the box or expand it since we created it in the first place. And wouldn't it be nice if we could vision board all the time with all the crafts and glue? With four-year-old twin boys Lauren doesn't have time to do the visualization she wants to do and pepper the walls with vision boards, so she takes time during the day to visualize and think about what she wants. Ask yourself if something is important, and if you discover it isn't, let it go. Just make room for what your vision truly is. And the truth is, many women just need to re-configure how they are showing up for themselves at their job, and want to stay. They stay at the company and get promoted, perhaps, because they don't know what that transition is yet. Lauren's Delicious Advice?  Light one of the 50 candles you have from Ross, and do the small things for and only yourself. Who is Lauren? Lauren Young Durbin, Esq. is a career strategist and founder of Tyche Career Coaching, where she helps midcareer professional women stop spinning and start moving. Her specialty? Helping high-achieving women figure out what's actually wrong, how to fix it, and what they want to do next—without burning everything down in the process. A licensed attorney (JD, New York Law School) and proud Wellesley alum, Lauren has made four career pivots herself, from legal publishing to litigation support to contract management to coaching. She's been the woman in the wrong job, the toxic environment, and the "this looks great on paper but I'm dying inside" situation. Multiple times. She figured it out. Now she helps other women do the same. Lauren is known for her direct approach, sharp questions, and zero tolerance for the corporate lies that keep smart women stuck.

I spent the last eleven years happily thriving as a book coach. I built that career through networking near and far, and I did all the stuff - the webinars, and the funnels and the 30 day challenges, lives, you name it, I tried it to find the people who needed me and my style of coaching. What I also was doing in all that time was meeting so many incredible women from all walks of life who were passionate about businesses, or ideas, brands and concepts, but we also talked about their kids and their parents. I spent a lot of small circle conversations chatting about the way we live our lives, and the desire to have more. To lighten the load of responsibility but still be connected to love. What I found with most of the women I met was they didn't know how to find their self-esteem without controlling, managing, knowing and understanding where their life was headed, so they felt safe. To be in the middle of a transition created a lot of fear and self-judgment. "I should've known better." "I should've seen this coming." What about looking at the fact that what has been growing has happened right in the middle of what you were accomplishing and is now being called to attention... especially if you gave yourself the bandwidth and ten minutes to stop and recognize the new calling. We look as women to the problems, and not the potentials. We are built to solve problems for everyone we love, and in our companies and professions. So it is natural to believe when we are calling to pivot that this is a problem. What if it is a calling to be bigger than you even dreamed you could be? I had to share with you my season I am in today. Realizing the career that brought me the stuff was also part of the new beginning. It's a wave of growth and opportunity not cut and dry. Be in the open spaces and look at what you launched and did as part of the bigger picture of your delicious life.

We don't need to be fighting over pies as women. We can just make more pie. Younger women get this, banding together with their small group of women who can be their confidants and friends, and those who have achieved top leadership roles often credit this small group of confidantes, friends, or business partners for their success. The smart money is not fighting anyone, but being yourself and being good at what you do.  Co Founder of Take the Lead Gloria Feldt shares with This Delicious Life that there is an "infinite pie" for us as women. This mindset comes from her from her book, Intentioning: Sex, Power, Pandemics, and How Women Will Take the Lead for Everyone's Good, which emphasizes limitless resources and the need for women to redefine power positively as the energy to improve life for themselves and their community. To me this sounds like a very succinct definition of the "divine feminine." Alongside stepping into a leadership role at Planned Parenthood at 54, Gloria has won many accolades -Forbes 50 over 50, Glamour Magazine's Woman of the Year, Vanity Fair's Top 200 Women Legends, Leaders, and Trailblazers. So I got right into asking what changed in her career after winning awards. How did they increase her own personal worth and what did it mean to women who were not winning awards? She said for her "basically nothing changes" professionally as a result. The value of these accolades lies in their ability to help her advance her mission of achieving equality for women, particularly in leadership, power, and pay. It's not a place for women to be more competitive but add more places at the table for every other woman. No one has the golden ticket! Which goes back to the infinite pie! There are not scarce resources! We don't have to fight over crumbs although we have been socialized to believe this narrative. Gloria suggested that many women are choosing entrepreneurship over the corporate world to create their own culture and flexibility, despite having to work harder. She noted that the number of people starting businesses is now almost equal between men and women. She also emphasized the importance of encouraging women to "think bigger" about their business ventures to shift the culture surrounding money and power. Gloria concluded by stressing the necessity of having more women in AI leadership to prevent the technology from programming existing cultural biases. Gloria's Delicious Takeaways: Have authority and agency over your own body. Earn your own money (and at least have a baseline to support you and your children if you need to.) And get involved in AI!    

Courtney Reimer podcast notes: Stop trying to be like everyone else is an underlying theme in my Delicious conversation with journalist and podcast expert Courtney Rhymer, who previously worked with Meghan Markle on her Spotify podcast Archetypes. She now helps aspiring podcasters with her business Sounds Great. And did you know MTV had radio? If not, don't feel bad. Even people in the building didn't know.  But Courtney worked for them converging words and audio back in the day. In our talk, which is a master class in podcasting,  the idea of "Let Your Freak Flag Fly" when getting on the microphone is not going to be found in your everyday homogenized advice.  (And just to join in the mind think, I kept our blooper style moment in the beginning.) Don't follow trends. We are all getting exhausted as consumers of content, especially with podcasts, when influencers are telling us how to accomplish the perfect metric "like them." If you are not your authentic self, truly why bother? Someone is always going to have more numbers of followers and listeners but you get to be you on the microphone. It's your space. When I told Courtney I worried about hogging the microphone with guests, she reminded me people tune in because they are my audience. I get to hold as much space as I want to. She offers real high-level advice for newbie podcasters (or even people like me who have already had a podcast and are on their second one) such as Use Your Existing Skills and don't feel like everything is an exhausting learning curve. If you have a story to tell, stop "shoulding" all over yourself how to do it. If you don't want to do video, then don't.   Also, if you agree to be on a podcast, help promote it! Don't be lame and not share the good with your people because you just dropped your own webinar. Courtney's Delicious Takeaway: She is doing "morning pages" with "scalding hot" black coffee. Morning pages, inspired by Julia Cameron's book The Artist's Way, allow you to "get the gunk out of your head in whatever form it comes through the pen" without worrying about sentence structure. Courtney Rhymer's upcoming podcast is tentatively titled Talk the Talk. (and we need to hold her to it!) Learn more about her work here - https://www.soundsgreatstrategy.com/about-courtney-reimer And if you're craving something delicious for yourself—like finally writing your book and finding your voice—check out my Book Clarity resource: From Overwhelmed to Organized. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share This Delicious Life™ so we can keep spreading permission and pleasure around the globe.

We have the power in numbers as women, at 51% of the population, to stop accepting being underpaid, undervalued and underestimated. Then we can strategically move forward. Attorney and founder of The Justice Department JJ emphasized that emotion is not strategy and advised women to be strategic, especially during times of emotional intensity like perimenopause and menopause.  Women are also starting more businesses at a record number and are about to control most of the money in a great wealth transfer. We are getting better and wiser in our 40's and older, peaking professionally and personally. JJ opened the Justice Department seven years ago to advocate for female founders to position themselves in business "to come on y'all, get rich". Her philosophy centers on being strategic, urging women to accept reality and then strategically plan their moves, rather than accepting defeat. She shared an anecdote about a woman who was overwhelmed at home with her young boys and husband. The husband texted her complaining about a lack of toothpaste, which led JJ to ask if the woman just buys the toothpaste and lets him complain. When the woman affirmed, JJ told her, "Then you're part of the problem," emphasizing that the woman was enabling the situation and not choosing her life. She asserted that partners are equals and told another story from law school where her boyfriend claimed he couldn't do dishes well, to which she pointed out how sad it was that he could get into Cornell Law School and law review but couldn't wash a dish. JJ is a single mother shared who chose to raise her twins on her own because she never wanted to get married, she didn't want any of the people she was dating in the music industry to be the father of her children, and she didn't want to co-parent. She knew she had more financial resources to focus on the quality of time with her children while working full-time. She noted that being a single mother means she is making 100% of the money and providing 100% of the care, which means she can't get things done as quickly as she wants. Her support system includes her New York friends who never married or had kids and a mom group she formed later. JJ's Delicious Takeaways:  Meditation, and exercise.   Time with friends for mental health breaks. She allows herself to watch an episode of a show during the day without guilt once every six months. JJ has an upcoming book!  The working title is "Ask For It: Choose Your Life or It Chooses You." The central advice is that women have the ability to choose their lives, and if they feel "underestimated, underpaid, and undervalued," they need to think about their contribution to that and understand that they are the solution. You can reach out to JJ at https://www.thejusticedept.com/jennifer-justice And if you're craving something delicious for yourself—like finally writing your book and finding your voice—check out my Book Clarity resource: From Overwhelmed to Organized. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share This Delicious Life™ so we can keep spreading permission and pleasure around the globe.

In this episode of This Delicious Life™, I sit down with Hailey Rowe to talk about what actually burns women out in entrepreneurship, why perfectionism quietly kills joy, and how doing less not more is often the thing that finally works. Let's call it: most women aren't bad at business -  they're just drowning in advice. Hailey is a marketing and sales strategist and LinkedIn lead generation expert who supports women entrepreneurs who are capable, driven, and secretly exhausted by trying to keep up with every marketing trend, funnel, and "must-do" strategy. Together, we dig into why overwhelm isn't a personal failure. It's the predictable result of too many options and too much pressure to be everything at once. We talk about how planning a wedding cracked open unexpected lessons about boundaries, collaboration, and decision fatigue and why personal life and business are never actually separate. How you move through your relationships, your time, and your energy is how you move through your work. This conversation also reframes sales not as begging or convincing, but as a collaborative, grounded conversation rooted in trust. We explore why commission-based work messes with women's nervous systems, why business has natural ebbs and flows (even when no one talks about it), and why running back to old strategies you hate during a dip is usually fear, not intuition. At the heart of it all is this truth: you don't need to be perfect to be credible. You don't need to hustle harder to be worthy. And you don't need to burn yourself out to build something meaningful. You also get to do something else at any time because we don't have to be defined by one title or expertise. Success and fulfillment can come from adapting and growing into financial security and peace. Growth that doesn't cost you joy. Because a Delicious Life and a delicious business should actually feel good to live inside. Hailey's delicious tips include: She loves to journal for personal reflection. She loves to exercise. She sings in two wedding bands! Connect with Hailey Rowe: ·       Free Weekly Planning System (you'll actually use): https://haileyrowe.kartra.com/page/planning ·       Website: https://www.haileyrowe.com ·       Podcast: https://anchor.fm/health-coach-nation And if you're craving something delicious for yourself—like finally writing your book and finding your voice—check out my Book Clarity resource: From Overwhelmed to Organized. If this episode made you feel relieved, seen, or slightly called out, please rate, review, and share This Delicious Life™. Permission spreads faster when we say it out loud.

In this deeply intimate episode of This Delicious Life™, I sit down with Jessica Langer—a woman who knows what it means to listen for life's quiet click. Jessica jokes that she feels "not in her skin" 23 hours a day, but for one hour, something clicks. That click comes from speaking desire out loud… and then listening. Just three weeks after opening her vintage designer consignment shop, Sisterwife, Jessica's beloved father was murdered in a workplace shooting. The shock of that loss collided with motherhood. She was raising twins at the time, and life did not pause. Nine months later, she found herself pregnant again.  We talk about grief, destiny, and the idea of a "soul swap": how one soul leaves and another enters, and how astrology has helped Jessica make meaning of mortality, growth, and this lifetime's correction. Astrology, for her, is not prediction, but permission. Today, Jessica blends astrology with style, intuitive listening, and storytelling, drawing on decades of hearing the stories we carry in our clothes and now guiding individuals and couples through their natal charts. This conversation is art. It is magic made by two people opening their mouths, listening deeply, and telling the truth about the human condition. Living a Delicious Life means being honest about what you want without calling it selfish. (And no, it is not selfish to go to the Korean spa in the middle of the day.) Jessica's Delicious Takeaways: Desire must come first. Instinct is the spark. Pay attention to what unfolds on the way to your intention. Say your name out loud. Own who you are. You don't have to be just one thing. Everything you are belongs. Even technology (yes, ChatGPT!) can help you connect your many selves. Learn more about Jessica's work: www.youandmeastrology.com www.sincerelysisterwife.com And if you're craving something delicious for yourself—like finally writing your book and finding your voice—check out my Book Clarity resource: From Overwhelmed to Organized. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share This Delicious Life™ so we can keep spreading permission and pleasure around the globe.

What can I say about my conversation with actress, CEO, wellness speaker, meditation teacher and mom Gwendolyn Osbourne? Delicious. And why? Because it was an unvarnished, honest and deep dialogue about what we do as women to live our best lives, even when we have divorces, and children to raise, and sordid childhoods that force us to grow up sooner than planned. We can't blame any of it from holding us back, and Gwendolyn and I spent a lot of the interview talking about how we think, and stress and breathing. In fact, she introduced a fabulous metaphor of the various cupboards that make up our brain. We only know one cupboard when we have been opening it for so long, and then we decide to take a closer look at what's in that cupboard, and we may no longer like what we see. So we learn to create and open another cupboard. Which isn't always easy, but it can be delicious when we know life on the other side has personal and professional freedom. Practicing self-forgiveness is essential especially as moms and women who run businesses, brands and are artists. It allows us to be grounded. We have so much power as women in our 40's and 50's, and it is our responsibility to tell the young women in their 20's what we didn't know – how much power you have. As we come from the times of the Cosmopolitan Quiz (how to please your man… egad), we get to look back now and see that we were so externally focused, when the insides are what matter. Gwendolyn had an incredible arc from the the longest-running woman of color model on a game show (The Price is Right) to being in the wellness space. We also talk about one of my favorite topics, which is single parenting and co-parenting because it can be complex, and alienating in society, but also a place where we find strength we didn't know we had and grow. Join us and please don't miss Gwendolyn in Tyler Perry's season 4 of All The Queens Men! Find Gwendolyn on https://www.instagram.com/itsgwendolyn/

I decided to record this episode when I felt discombobulated. I have been feeling a variety of states of being lately, and my awarness of them is an interesting place to be in itself. To accept and appreciate I may be a little depressed, or feel a but emotional, and not have to be some kind of Warrior Queen all the time is... well, refreshing. And to say it to a friend or a partner, and not worry they will think I am not losing my stronghold in the world as an all-doing, all the time, rainmaker. It's exhausting, and I am exhausted more now than I ever have been, but for good reason. The work I am doing in my professional and personally life takes deep embodiment, and a consciousness that requires more emotional transparency and the waves of being in midlife, menopausal, half empty-nesting and reflecting a lot on how I got here. But I digress, because this episode is about the days we are happy, the days we have a UTI, the days we are sad. And we can be all those parts, and no longer have to be an automaton to please the people around us, or think because one minute we are feeling sick, we are losing our stronghold on our life advancements forever. It's an out of body experience to hear yourself say something like, "I think I'm a little depressed." Because then you can stop pretending, take off the mask and get some help. This episode is for all of us women who want to be in the labyrinth of life, the delicious ups and downs. The grump at 10 AM, the pleased at 12 PM, the tired at 3 PM and the elated at 6 PM. All of it, because we filter a lot through us emotionally all day long. How are we supposed to be one note? If you enjoyed this stand a lone pod I would love to know more topics you want me to talk about in a delicious life. I have a book coming out in 2026 and I want to be sure I cover a lot of what women need guidance on in making their days a bit sweeter and juicier. Drop me a DM on IG https://www.instagram.com/kimoharacoach/ or email me at [email protected]. 

I had the pleasure of sitting down with Lauren Eckstrom, co-founder and co-CEO of Inner Dimension Yoga alongside her husband, Travis Eliot. While Lauren is an accomplished yoga teacher, teacher-trainer, and certified mindfulness meditation instructor with retreats offered all over the world, what struck me most during our conversation was her devotion to daily intention and disciplined choice. Lauren goes to bed around 8:30 p.m. and rises before 5:30 a.m. to make space for movement, meditation, and reading. She lights a candle and offers a prayer for the day, grounding herself in the deepest intentions of her heart. Even while leading a company and managing a team, she protects the intentionality that guides her life. Our conversation spanned many ideas about what it means to build a Delicious Life™, but we kept returning to one essential theme: deciding what truly matters each day, and breaking the addictive cycle of being "too busy," especially when parenting is part of the equation. So how do we stop being handcuffed to our calendars and reclaim the playful, nourishing parts of life? Listen to Lauren share how aligning your energy, even in small increments, can transform your impact and the way you show up for the people around you. We can be beacons of light, not overextended and exhausted. Lauren has trained in somatic trauma therapy, relational mindfulness, and Buddhist contemplative psychotherapy. She has written about yoga and mindfulness for Yoga Journal, MindBodyGreen, The Huffington Post, and other leading wellness publications. You can find her at  https://www.instagram.com/laureneckstrom/ If this conversation resonates, please like, review, and share the podcast, along with all the episodes featuring extraordinary women so we can all lean further into a more Delicious Life™. We deserve it. Want to know more about me? https://www.kimoharaauthor.com  

I met Shaheen when she was on a women in business panel two years ago speaking about her work as a lawyer with start-ups with her firm Esse Law. But I found the serendipity of how she ended up in this direction in her career fascinating – it took several side roads -  she passed the California Bar – then veered into a musical career for a decade, and then when performing at a friend's launch party, veered back into law, specifically helping women founders, where she has been for 15 years. I loved the weaving journey of  her life, and felt she would have a lot of wisdom to share about her development of self-trust, especially as a South Asian woman who had no example before her to lean on when going for music. It wasn't the safe route, and so her mind did try and negotiate with her – maybe she could be an attorney for musicians? Maybe go to graduate school for music because she was a good student? She dove in and lived the varied and often challenging life of an artist. When it came time for that dream to end, her music was heard all over the world. She now has a firm where she helps women founders understand what it is like to be the only woman in the board room, and to get over their imposter syndrome. But to also understand this is a hard gig to found any company. She also juggles as a working mom with her kids so important to her (like so many of us). Um. But recently a friend of mine who is a formal, a former as I call, recovering attorney. Okay. I like that. That's a good term. That's a good term. Um, turned kind of like coach facilitator. Now this was one of her dreams. Um, so she finished her season as an attorney and she's switching into this new season. Recently, she has been exploring what the next phase will be, when the kids go off. What will all that space feel like, and I applauded that she spent time with women she calls her "coven" to spend time on the beach with crystals and a candle, meditation and journaling. It was just two hours of being back in herself and it made a huge difference to listen to the thoughts. She admits, it was the first time in five years since she deeply exhaled. From that time, she has moved a little slower and invited women to her house to do the time together to exhale.   Shaheen has a Substack – Beyond the 2% - which you call the playbook for women founders who refuse to wait their turn.  Please subscribe and share especially if you are a woman founder! Why not leave these lovely guests a review and a rating? It only takes a minute to give a click for the time they spent giving their life hacks so you can have a more delicious life! If you want more of me and my writing, please subscribe to my Substack on permission and living a delicious life as well at https://igiveyoupermission.substack.com You can also find me on Instagram @kimoharacoach and on my author page at kimoharaauthor.com.    

I was feeling not so great. It was one of those weeks that had a fair amount of emotional turmoil. I had hung in there, but now, on a Friday, the pall of a light depression was seeping in. Like, this is it? Just jockeying from one challenge to the next? I was going to plop on the sand on Venice Beach with my books and cocoon into myself, when I saw the storms and low tide had dumped a ridiculous amount of trash on the beloved beach. As I walked around it, I wept. I mean, like I was emotionally moved at the plastic lids and take out containers that we just dump as humans into our beautiful bountiful ocean. I thought, I will just take a swim and give back to the ocean, and apologize, and in the midst of doing so, a literal trash bucket was vomited out of the ocean to me on the sand. I put it there, with the intention to fill it and when I finished my swim, another woman had started to fill the bucket. What then took place was nothing I could have predicted to bring my mood up, or have me feel like I mattered in this world. Take a listen and be inspired by how small actions like sitting on the beach, or walking away for a beat from the strains of life can reground you and re-remind you that there is community and joy awaiting.   Why not leave this podcast a review and a rating? It only takes a minute to give a click for the time they spent giving their life hacks so you can have a more delicious life! We get the message out to more women who need to give themselves 10 minutes of a break so they can be more in their bodies and believe they deserve joy! If you want more of me and my writing, please subscribe to my Substack on permission and living a delicious life as well at https://igiveyoupermission.substack.com You can also find me on Instagram @kimoharacoach and on my author page at kimoharaauthor.com.  

Join me for a delicious conversation that could change how you live your life with the incredibly happy, early-rising founder Suze Yalof Schwartz of Unplug Meditation (with a brick and mortar in LA and an app). Suze created the meditation app for herself originially so she could find ten minutes to meditate and have time for her. Then of course, since what she needed so many other people needed, it has taken off. Unplug provides meditations and in house sound baths and yoga in Los Angeles. It also offers meditation training in its ten minute style (which aligns with my delicious life mantra of finding little joyful moments to improve your quality of life) Suze talks about her journey into meditation from someone who used to never have time to do anything for herself. We tell ourselves lies as women. We think really nasty thoughts about ourselves a lot. Once we see that to be true, we can work to quiet those voices and make our brains work for us in ways that feel happy, healthy and joyful. We discover we have more brain space to do what we want. What lights us up. What keeps us healthy and fit. I think you are really going to love this conversation and it may make you think about releasing some of the thoughts and actions that bring you down, and lean into what feels good. Suze Yalof Schwartz is the Founder and CEO of the Unplug Meditation App, and the world's first drop-in secular meditation studio, Unplug in Los Angeles. She is also the author of Unplug: A Simple Guide To Meditation for Busy Skeptics and Modern Soul Seekers.  Prior to this, she was a fashion editor and "makeover guru" working at Vogue, Elle, Marie Claire and Glamour Magazine with regular appearances on GMA, The Today Show, CBS Early Show, and more. You can read my Substack on permission and living a delicious life as well at https://igiveyoupermission.substack.com You can find me on Instagram @kimoharacoach

Kara Duffy knows what she is getting herself into. As a business coach extraordinare to women who are continually juggling families and businesses and having little time to themselves, she is about to have her first kid.   She says that women don't need their power or self-worth from anywhere outside of them. It's the outside forces that have made them doubt. We were born inherently with an intuition and a knowing we can listen to. She gives most of her coaching clients permission to do what they intuitively are thinking they should do or try or implement. Without questioning themselves. It's all about the permission to pause, and take risks and not care what other people think. She speaks about women sometimes needing to see a vision before they'll believe it. She encourages women to  believe it first and create from there. She is an example of that with three businesses. Tune in to hear what she thinks about vision boards and her advice on finding those delicious life moments.  Who is our Guest? Kara Duffy is an entrepreneur, business coach & consultant who uses her Have It All Method™ to help business owners become Extraordinary CEOs and organizations to scale. She's worked with over 100 businesses and brands across the world to show them how business can be more successful, more fun, and more impactful. Her unique background from streetwear, skateboarding, and saving misfit product categories means she knows how to build something from nothing and where to borrow from best practices for your unique business. Her other businesses include media company Powerful adies and fashion brand Olivet.

Melissa Meyers is busy and beautiful at 60. She is the Glow Girl, writing a successful lifestyle blog. She is committed to her health with a long list of supplements for good health. She has battled with the idea that she has to be everywhere for everyone as a mother and a business owner. She recently tried meditation so she could watch her wiggly mind keep talking to her. She understands the importance of the pause, the sun on your face and the earth under your feet but it has taken her time to learn. She shares about having a cup of coffee and birdwatching in her bacyard, and taking a month off to enjoy her summer. When we have been used to being do-ers our whole lives, it is an art to learn how to have small delicious moments just for us. Join us as we navigate an organic conversation about our ambitions as women and how to carve out those special moments. Who is our Guest? Melissa Meyers is the Founder and Creative Director of the inspirational lifestyle blog, The Glow Girl. An LA-based social media influencer and content creator, she has over 20 years of editorial experience covering beauty, fashion, wellness, and travel. Melissa shares her best tips, tricks, and product picks to help women over 40 live a cleaner and more enhanced life. Since moving to LA from NYC 10 years ago, she adopted a healthier lifestyle, eventually switching all her beauty, personal care products, and foods to cleaner options after experiencing some health issues. Melissa has appeared as a lifestyle expert and contributor for Access Hollywood Live, NBC Today and Weekend Today in New York, New York Live, Better.TV, Fox Good Day New York, and others. She is regularly featured on Who What Wear and in 2019 they coined her "the most stylish 54-year-old on Instagram." She has also been in People, People StyleWatch, Huffington Post, Hamptons Magazine, Pure Wow, Busbee Style, and many other publications. She is a sought-after podcast and webinar guest, sharing her journey and expertise on living clean. Subscribe to her newsletter with incredible tips on fashion, make-up and wellness! https://theglowgirllife.com  

Join host Kim O'Hara and Riveter founder Amy Nelson as they talk about the demands on women in the "sandwich generation." Amy sees how women struggle with thinking they are enough because they can't be enough for everything they demand of themselves. Add in perimenopause and menopause which has been hardly talked about until now. We were advised to death on having babies and pregnancy but that is a short period of time compared to the decades we experience huge changes in our minds and bodies. Amy shares that while she doesn't have a lot of time for her right now with four kids and building her Riveter brand back up after Covid made her go on line, she is very aware that she needs time for date nights and also solo time with one of the kids at a time. While she would love to play tennis, she knows that season will come. In other words, in order to have little moments of peace and joy, the delicious moments don't look the same for every woman, but what is important is the conciousness and awareness of its importance.   She makes sure she gets enough sleep and lifts weights. If the house isn't clean, or everything is in order, it's more important to be happy. Who is our guest? Educated as a lawyer, Amy wrote a column for Forbes, hosted an iHeartRadio podcast, and practiced litigation. In addition to raising $30 million in venture capital to grow The Riveter, Amy has been published broadly including in/on outlets including Newsweek, The TODAY Show, Refinery29, Buzzfeed, The Washington Post and The Seattle Times. She has spoken across the world on many stages, including Fortune's Most Powerful Women, Cannes Lions, and SXSW. Amy is also an outspoken advocate for criminal justice reform as a victim of civil forfeiture who weathered a four year DOJ investigation into her husband's business activities. Amy speaks to her community of over 500,000 on TikTok, Instagram and Twitter daily. She is a mother of four daughters aged 11, 9 8 and 6.