Why Are We Whispering? With Jennie Guay

This episode is a powerful and deeply important conversation. Joining host Jennie, is Gabrielle Vega. Her story is currently featured on Netflix and the documentary is called 'The Predator of Seville'. As a newly graduated High School student, on a gap year trip with other recent high school graduates in Spain, 19 year old Gabrielle was drugged and raped by her tour guide. A man that was trusted with her care and safety. A wolf in sheep clothing.What followed for Gabrielle, wasn't just the trauma and PTSD from being raped, but the heavy realisation that she was not alone...that the man who attacked her had raped many other women and girls over the course of many many years. Sadly, one girl lost her life. Where many would step back and retreat, Gabrielle chose to step forward. She took on the Spanish judicial system in pursuit of justice, not just for herself, but for every survivor who had been silenced, overlooked and fear mongered. She spent years of her life fighting to have this monster be held to account for his crimes against women. Gabrielle "won". The serial rapist who targeted her and changed the course of her life and the lives of countless others', was found guilty.Shockingly, he walks free; never spending a day in jail. in this episode, Jennie and Gabrielle talk openly about that journey; navigating the rape reporting process, the realities survivors face within the judicial system and the broader issues surrounding support, advocacy and action.This is an emotive, and powerful episode and shines a bright light on the dark corners and failings of our "judicial" systems globally. You can find Gabrielle Vega on:Instagram: @gabriellevega.jpg Netflix Documentary: Watch The Predator of Seville | Netflix Official SiteYou can find Jennie Guay on:website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @whywhisperpodcast @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach and @whywhisperthewholestoryBook: Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends: Amazon.co.uk: Guay, Jennie: 9781919623108: Books Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it really take to break free from relationships that quietly chip away at who you are?In this powerful episode, host Jennie sits down with Dr. Sherrie Campbell, a licensed psychologist, bestselling author, and a leading voice on emotional survival and personal transformation. Her work shines a light on the hidden toll of controlling, manipulative, and abusive relationships...the kind that leave you doubting your instincts, silencing your voice, and questioning your own reality.Drawing from her latest book, 'You Are Home', Dr. Sherrie shares a path forward for anyone who feels stuck, small, or disconnected from themselves. This conversation dives into how to rebuild self-trust, set boundaries without guilt, and rediscover the inner strength that may have been buried for years.But this isn’t just about healing. It’s about transformation. It’s about learning how to feel safe in your own skin again, how to stand firmly in your truth, and how to step into a version of yourself that feels grounded, seen, and unapologetically powerful.This episode is your invitation to come home to yourself.You can find Dr Sherrie on:Website:Yorba Linda Counseling and Therapy, Psychologist in Yorba Linda, CA, California - Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D.Instagram:@dr.sherrieBook: You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety eBook : Campbell PhD, Sherrie, Macaluso PhD, Nadine: Amazon.co.uk: Kindle StoreYou can find Jennie Guay on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @whywhisperpodcast, @jennieg_premierdivorcecoachBook: Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends: Amazon.co.uk: Guay, Jennie: 9781919623108: Books Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

More and more people are beginning to look inward and acknowledge something that, for a long time, was ignored or pushed aside; their past. We’re seeing a real shift, where individuals are starting to recognise how unresolved trauma shows up in their present-day lives. Whether that’s through relationship struggles, patterns of self-sabotage, challenges with self-worth, or even the way we parent, there’s a growing awareness that our past experiences don’t just stay in the past...they shape who we are today.And that awareness is powerful. It’s an important first step.But here’s the thing- it’s only a portion of what’s actually required to change your circumstances. Because identifying the source of your trauma doesn’t automatically heal it.On this weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by Robert Brennan, on the the UK's leading mindset specialists and trauma recovery coaches. He works with people not just to understand their past, but how to HEAL it. Robert and Jennie explore what it really means to draw a line under trauma. They answer confounding questions that so many have like "How do you actually heal the wounds, not just identify them?" and "How do you move forward in a way that feels real, lasting and transformative?You can find Robert Brennan on:Website:Hypnotherapist Harley Street London | Robert Brennan | NLP & HaveningInstagram: @robertbrennanmindset You can find Jennie Guay on:Website:Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parenting doesn’t just shape our kids. It quietly reshapes our friendships too.Today’s episode is a real one. Host Jennie is joined by Sarah Knight, founder of FoundHerFire and host of the podcast It’s Got Pockets, and they get into the messy, often unspoken tension that can creep in when our parenting styles don’t align.Because let’s be honest, friendships can turn into… friendSHITS real quick when you and your friends have completely different views on discipline, screen time, independence, gender dynamics, or what’s “right” for your kids.Sarah and Jennie talk about how these differences don’t just impact our children; they can strain long-term friendships, create awkward school gate dynamics, and even spark quiet competition between parents who actually like each other. So how do we navigate it? Why does parenting bring out this competitive edge in so many of us? And is it possible to stay close to people whose parenting choices you fundamentally disagree with?This conversation is honest, nuanced, and probably going to hit close to home.You can find Sarah Knight here:Website: FOUNDHER FIRE — Sarah KnightInstagram: @foundherfireYou can find Jennie Guay here:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach Book: Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends: Amazon.co.uk: Guay, Jennie: 9781919623108: Books Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a world that feels increasingly uncertain, many of us are running on empty. Burnout has become normalized, even expected, but beneath the exhaustion is often a deeper misalignment. A quiet knowing that something isn’t quite right. That we’ve drifted from ourselves.In this weeks episode, host Jennie Guay is joined by Mary Madeiras. She is a 3x Emmy Award Winning TV Director, whose career bridges the worlds of spiritual transformation and broadcast story telling. Mary is an Advanced Akashic Records Practitioner and the Author of ' The Akashic Way: Living Through the Lens of the Akashic Records.Mary guides people from burnout to alignment, helping them move beyond survival mode and into a life that feels purposeful, grounded, and deeply authentic. A core part of her work is what she calls The Akashic Way, a healing and intuitive framework rooted in the understanding of the Akashic Records, often described as an energetic archive of the soul’s journey.Through the Akashic Way, Mary helps people access deeper insight into their patterns, purpose, and unresolved trauma. It’s not about quick fixes, it’s about gently uncovering the root causes of burnout, reconnecting with your inner wisdom, and realigning with who you truly are at a soul level. Her approach weaves together spiritual guidance, trauma healing, and practical integration, creating a pathway back to wholeness.Jennie and Mary explore what alignment actually means, how healing can unfold during uncertain times, and how accessing the Akashic field can illuminate your inner purpose and support profound transformation.If you’ve been feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you’re ready for a deeper level of healing, this episode is going to resonate.You can find Mary Maderias on:Website: The Akashic WayYou can find Jennie Guay on;Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @jennieg_premierdivorcecoachBook: Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends: Amazon.co.uk: Guay, Jennie: 9781919623108: Books Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this raw and unfiltered conversation, host Jennie Guay speaks with Amit Singh Kalley, expert in online safety and digital harm prevention, to confront the uncomfortable truth: we are handing children devices and internet access long before their brains are ready... and the consequences are devastating.They talk about:The emotional and psychological cost of early device exposureHow unrestricted internet access is impacting children’s sexual developmentThe silent normalization of social media in primary yearsWhy parents, educators, and schools are failing to set boundariesThe addictive design of platforms targeting young mindsWhat we can do now to prevent long-term harmThis isn’t about blame. It’s about responsibility. And also Accountability should you have already given your child access and how you can reverse your decision. Amit and Jennie explore how phones and iPads in formative years are altering attention spans, increasing anxiety, distorting identity formation, and exposing children to content they are neurologically unequipped to process.The question is no longer if screens are affecting our children...It’s - how much damage we’re willing to ignore?If you’re a parent, educator, or anyone who cares about the next generation, this is a conversation you cannot afford to skip.You can find Amit Singh Kalley on:Instagram: @forworkingparentsWebsite: Home - For Working Parents LimitedYou can find Jennie on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach Book: Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends: Amazon.co.uk: Guay, Jennie: 9781919623108: Books Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when the person you once built a life with becomes the person you are divorcing and have to protect your children from both emotionally and psychologically and even energetically. When co-parenting isn't possible, when every exchange feels like a minefield, we are told to "parallel parent". But what does that mean and what does it actually look like when you're dealing with a high conflict personality disordered ex? And how do you stop your children for carrying the emotional cuts and bruises that come with that territory? Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode is psychotherapist, mediator, CEO of Psyched Ventures and the Author of 'Mt Parent the Peacock', Kathleen Saxton. Together they talk about the hidden emotional toll of parenting alongside someone who thrives in conflict, how to protect your children's sense of safety and self and what really happens to kids who grow up with a personality disordered parent. This isn't an easy conversation. But it is an essential one! You can find Kathleen Saxton on:Instagram: @clinicwithk Website: Psyched VenturesBook: My Parent the Peacock: Discovery and Recovery from Narcissistic Parenting: Amazon.co.uk: Saxton, Kathleen: 9781399822596: BooksYou can find host Jennie on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we dive into one of the most talked about topics in health and well being right now - GLP 1s.You've probably heard the names Mounjaro and Ozempic - but what do they REALLY do? What are the myths, and what are the genuine mental and physical benefits behind them.Joining host Jennie to help make sense of it all is Dr. Andre Brittain-Dissont. He has 3 decades of medical experience as a GP, Premier Sports Physician, Occupational Physician, and advanced aesthetics practitioner. Today we are asking: What's fact, what's fiction and what do these so called "miracle injections" really mean for our bodies and minds?You can find Dr. Andre on: Website: About | Oxford Natural Longevity & Aesthetics ClinicInstagram: @oxfordnaturalclinicYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? podcast:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcastYou can follow host Jennie on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UK*the content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for any medical concerns. The hosts and guests are not responsible for any actions taken based on the information shared Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Approximately 1 in 1000 women experience postpartum psychosis. It's a condition that remains largely hidden. rarely openly talked about and is veiled in silence and shame. Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode is Sarah Berry-Valentine. She was that ONE out of 1000. Sarah bravely allows us in to her deeply personal experience with postpartum psychosis following the birth of her first child. Sarah was recently featured in Glamour UK telling her story and has been candidly using her voice to raise awareness, offer hope and understanding, and advocate for better support for women. Her story is raw and powerful and SO needed in a world ( and a social media world filled with influencer mums) that often romanticise motherhood, whilst ignoring its most vulnerable moments. You can read Sarah's feature in Glamour UK here: ‘Did I Eat My Baby?’: A Mother’s Journey Through Postpartum Psychosis | Glamour UKYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? on Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast You can find Jennie on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this weeks episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s been bubbling under the surface for a while now: more and more people, especially Millennials and Gen Z, are choosing to live alcohol-free. Whether it’s for mental health, physical health, or just a change in values, the sober-curious movement is reshaping how we connect, socialize… and yes, even how we date.But here’s the thing, if dating already feels like a weird, vulnerable game, what happens when you remove alcohol from the equation? No cocktails to take the edge off. No “liquid courage.” Just you, your authentic self, and someone else doing the same.Jennie is joined by someone who’s helping rewrite the rules - Helen Masters. She is the co-founder of SoberAF Dating - a platform and community designed to support meaningful connections without alcohol. She’s here to talk about why this shift is happening, what it means for modern dating, sober sex (and why it blows drunk sex out of the water!) and how we can all show up a little more real, one sober date at a time.You can find Helen and SoberAF Dating on:Website: SoberAF Dating – Real Connections, No Shots Required.Instagram: @soberafdating Pre Register for the App HERE: SoberAF Dating – Real Connections, No Shots Required.You can find Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast You can find host Jennie on:Website:Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this weeks episode, I'm turning up the volume on a topic that affects millions of women but is still too often misunderstood: perimenopause and menopause.Joinng host Jennie is Dr. Louise Newson: GP, renowned menopause specialist, author, and leading advocate for changing the narrative around women’s health. Dr. Newson has been instrumental in transforming how we talk about, and treat, perimenopause and menopause.In the UK, there are around 13 million women currently going through perimenopause or menopause. That’s roughly a third of the female population, yet countless women are still struggling to get the support, care, and facts they deserve.In this episode, we dig into what perimenopause actually feels like, how symptoms like anxiety, brain fog, joint pain, and sleep disturbances are often misdiagnosed or dismissed, and why hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can be life-changing.We also tackle one of the biggest myths out there: the supposed link between HRT and cancer. Spoiler alert, research now shows that for most women, HRT is not only safe, but it can significantly reduce long-term health risks like osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, mental health and more. Yet, fear and misinformation still hold too many women back.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating midlife, going through or approaching perimenopause, supporting someone who is, or simply wanting to understand why women deserve better information, better care, and better conversations around menopause.Let’s stop allowing misinformation and fear mongering stop us from getting the right information, learning about what our options and RIGHTS are and getting the medical/health care we deserve! It will SAVE LIVES and help families.You can find Dr Lousie Newson on:Instagram: @menopause_doctor , @newson.health , @balancemenopauseWebsite: Personal: Dr Louise NewsonClinic: Testosterone in WomenPodcast: The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Podcast - Apple PodcastsYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? Podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcastYou can find host Jennie on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UKInstagram: @jennieg_premierdivorcecoach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by renown medium Jessica Lynn. Jessica is someone who walks the extraordinary line between this world and the next. She is a gifted medium who's remarkable abilities have offered comfort, clarity and connection to those seeking messages from beyond. With a deep sense of empathy and spiritual insight, she has helped countless people reconnect with departed loved ones; serving both a guide and a source of healing. Her work has attracted the attention of celebrities, professional athletes, musicians and entrepreneurs and she has been featured on major platforms like The Morning Show, 7News, The Australian, Marie Claire, Mamamania and Body & Soul to name a few. In this powerful and enlightening episode, Jessica opens up about how she first discovered her intuitive abilities, how she receives messages from the spirit world, and what it truly means to connect with energies beyond the physical. We also dive deep into the why behind her work, why she feels called to deliver messages from the other side, and the healing and clarity it brings to those left behind. Jessica shares insights into our collective fear of death, where it comes from, and how reframing our understanding of the afterlife can transform how we live.Whether you’re a sceptic, a believer, or somewhere in between, this episode invites you to question, feel, and expand your perspective on what it means to live… and what it means to cross over.You can fine Jessica Lynn on:Instagram: @jessicalynnmediumship Podcast: Talk Spirit To Me Podcast - Podcast - Apple PodcastsWebsite: Podcast | Jessica Lynne Mediumship You can follow Why Are We Whispering? Podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Living longer isn't the goal - living well is! For too long, women have been told to endure, to push through, to put everyone else first. But perimenopause and menopause aren't the end of vitality - they are the beginning of a new kind of power. On this weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by the brilliant Libby Heath, Chief Vitality Officer at VitalLife. Libby is on a mission to redefine what health looks like and means for women- especially after we enter new chapters marked by perimenopause /menopause and the physical and emotional shifts that often come after spending years putting everyone else first. Throughout this episode, we explore:why so many women only start paying attention to their health in midlifehow menopause can be a wake up call- not just a medical phasethe connection between emotional wellbeing and physical healthwhat it means to build vitality later in life... and why it's NEVER TOO LATE!This is your invitation to take back control - of your mind, your body, and your energy. Not by chasing youth, but by embracing what your body needs NOW. With the right support, knowledge and tools, true vitality isn't a fantasy...it's yours for the taking.You can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is confidence? What does it take to be confident? Can you learn it, or are you born with it? What happens when you lose confidence? Can you gain it back and how would you go about doing that? On the flip side, what is false confidence? How do you identify it and is there a time and place for it? How damaging is false confidence when it comes to leadership?Is confidence a façade? Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode, is Esther Stanhope. She is an award winning author, Ted X Speaker, former BBC presenter and a personal impact expert. Esther provides insight into what it takes to build confidence and what it means to lose confidence after taking a big hit or loss in life. With contagious energy and zest, Esther talks about her own life experiences working with celebrities and high powered corporate executives, and also talks about her own personal journey in building confidence. If you battle imposter syndrome, have a fear of speaking or have social anxiety (heightened by COVID), this is a must listen episode!! You can find Esther on:Website: ESTHER STANHOPELinkedIn:(2) Esther Stanhope, The Impact Guru | LinkedInInstagram: InstagramYou can find Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: InstagramYou can find host Jennie Guay on:Website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode is Leadership Coach and Founder of 'FoundHER Fire', Sarah Knight. From pet peeves around gendered language and leadership to unpacking the fundamental issues we face raising girls in a world that wasn't built for them (let alone set up for them to succeed and flourish), Sarah and Jennie have a brutally honest conversation about their personal and professional experiences navigating the corporate world.Sarah founded 'FoundHER Fire' for women who have the stories, the plot twists and the fire. And, for the women who, as Sarah candidly puts it, " have plenty of fucks to give, but just don't know were to put them".It's not often women can be unapologetically honest about their negative experiences with other female "leaders"... in this episode, Sarah and Jennie go there! This is one conversation every woman should listen to and ask herself, "Am I practicing true leadership,or....leadershiT? ". You can find Sarah Knight on:website: Sarah KnightInstagram: @foundherfireYou can follow the Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast You can find host Jennie Guay on:website: Jg Premier Divorce & Breakup Coaching & Advisory | Step Parenting | UK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger Warning: child sexual abuse, rape, incest and violenceOn this weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by Australia's leading women's trauma therapist and Founder of 'Aaruka Therapy', podcast host and co-author of 'Secret of Surprise', Jessica Ella. Jessica bravely and candidly shares her story of surviving childhood rape and sexual abuse from the age of 3 until 12 at the hands of her father and grandfather. Unwilling to sit in silence, she is on a mission to support and guide as many women as she can towards healing and rebuilding their lives following childhood sexual abuse and trauma. This is a powerful and brutally honest conversation about not only Jessica's story, but the realities surrounding child sexual abuse, generational trauma, the impacts, the warning signs and the high price we pay for silence. You can find Jessica Ella on:Instagram: @iamjessicaellaPodcast: The Trauma Queen Podcast - Podcast - Apple PodcastsWedbsite: Jessica Ella You can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instragram: @whywhisperpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger warning: child sexual abuse1 in 6 children in the UK have been sexually abused90% of child sexual abuse is conducted by someone the child knows30-50% of all child sexual abuse is done by another child - child-on-child sexual abuseAccording to the National Crime Agency and IWF, it's estimated that there are over 830,000 adults who pose a sexual risk to children in the UK aloneAccording to the IWF, since lockdown, imagery of primary school children being coached to perform sexual acts online has soared by more than 1000% in the UK ( yes...1000%) **stats from Rape Crisis UK, National Crime Agency and IWF The prevalence of child sexual abuse is far greater than any of us would like to believe or know. And with kids being given devices and internet access at such young ages now, the predators and paedophiles have easier and more frequent access to our kids. Whilst the very real risks of our kids being exploited online and sexully abused are high, there are things we can do and protective measures we can put in place as parents and teachers to safeguard and prepare our kids.Joining host Jennie on todays episode is former child abuse detective Kristi McVee. Kristi is now a child abuse educator, author and the Founder of CAPE AU. She knows better than anyone what the realities are around child sexual abuse and its prevalence. Jennie and Kristi openly and candidly discuss the risks devices and internet access present to our kids, who the sexual predators/paedophiles are statistically, and what the indicators are that your child may be being groomed or already a victim of sexual abuse.This is an episode that every parent and educator/teacher needs to listen to... our children's safety, physical and mental health, development and futures depend on us knowing more, and doing better.You can find Kristi McVee on:Instagram: @kristimcvee and @cape_auWebsite: CAPE HomeYou can find Why Are We Whispering?Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The terms "toxic" and "Narcissist" have been used a lot recently...especially on social media. These terms are often misused and overused in describing ex-friends or ex-partners who have hurt you or exhibited really selfish or ego-centric behaviour. But, when you have been in the clutches of a true Narcissist or broadline personality disordered person or anyone with a true clinical personality disorder...it's far worse than having your feelings hurt or not having your needs met. To be truly abused by a personality disordered person, causes long term, deep rooted damage to the psyche, nervous system and mental health. Joining host Jennie on todays episode is Dr. Sherrie. She is a licensed Psychologist, specialising in psychotherapy including marriage and family therapy, childhood trauma and personality, or as she describes it, character, disorders. Dr. Sherrie is also the author of several books including "Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members". Jennie and Dr. Sherrie dive deep into the challenges and struggles of parallel parenting with a personality disordered ex, the long term damage a toxic parent has on a child and how to mitigate the risks of that damage. Dr Sherrie shares some tangible and applicable tips and tools on how to have the right conversations with your kids at the right time, and how to protect your own peace whilst maintaining a healthy relationship with your child.You can find Dr. Sherrie on:Instagram: @dr.sherriewebsite: Yorba Linda Counseling and Therapy, Psychologist in Yorba Linda, CA, California - Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D.You can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of us fear death... refusing to acknowledge that we wont live forever. But the irony is that many of us are equally as scared to age both in mind and body. Can we live long lives and still look and feel young?! Host Jennie is constantly on the look out for advice and guidance on how to keep healthy and youthful and find a way to live a QUALITY of life until the ripe old age of 100! Some would say impossible, but not her guest this week. Joining Jennie in this weeks episode is Dr. Dawn Harper. She has been dedicated to health and medicine for the last 20 years. She is the well know presenter of Channel 4's BAFTA winning show 'Embarrassing Bodies' and is the author of 12 books, including her proudest work 'Live Well to 101'. Dr. Dawn shares her secrets of longevity and keys to living a full, healthy life... and it doesn't include some of the things we've been told!You can find Dr. Dawn on:website: DR DAWNInstagram: @drdawnharperBook: Live Well to 101: A Practical Guide to Achieving a Long and Healthy Life: Amazon.co.uk: Harper, Dawn: 9781472248664: BooksYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every 12 minutes someone in the UK is diagnosed with Bowel CancerBowel Cancer is the 4th most common Cancer in the UK1 in 17 men will be diagnosed with bowel cancer in their lifetime in the UK1 in 20 women will be diagnosed with bowel cancer in their lifetime in the UK54% of bowel cancer cases in the UK are preventable. *stats from Bowel Cancer UKIt's Bowel Cancer Awareness week! Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode is Dr Anish Patel. She is a NHS GP and the author of 'Everything You Hoped You'd Never Need to Know About Bowel Cancer'. She is also a Bowel Cancer Survivor and an Ambassador for Bowel Cancer UK. You may have also seen her on Daytime talk show Lorraine and Channel 4's Embarrassing Bodies. Dr. Anisha shares not only her wealth of knowledge and expertise on Bowel Cancer and how we can prevent it, but candidly opens up about her own battle with stage 3 Bowel Cancer.You can find Dr. Anisha Patel on:Website: Dr Anisha Patel | Doctors Get Cancer Too | Medical SpeakerBook: Everything You Hoped You'd Never Need to Know About Colorectal Cancer: A Doctor's Very Personal Guide to Getting Through Sh*t and Beyond: Amazon.co.uk: Patel, Anisha, Dr.: 9781399811132: BooksInstagram: @doctorsgetcancertooYou can contact Bowel Cancer UK here: Bowel Cancer | Bowel Cancer UKYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The ADHD Foundation estimates that 50-75% of women in the UK with ADHD are undiagnosed.Jessica Whalley knows this first hand. She lived with Autism and ADHD for 38 years before she was diagnosed. In todays episode, host Jennie speaks with Jessica, who is the author of 'The Autistic Mom' about her experience and journey with Autism and neuro diversity, as a Mom, but also as the parent of a non-verbal child with Autism. Jessica has recently released her powerful book 'The Autistic Mom', which sheds light on her deeply personal journey and also serves as a practical guide for parents and caregivers. Neurodiversity amongst children is definitely at the forefront of many conversations as of late. There are so many parents who are unsure of how to navigate an ADHD and/or Autism diagnosis...and there are also so many parents who are afraid to even begin to explore the possibility that their child may be on the neuro diversity or autism spectrum .Jennie and Jessica do not shy away from talking about hard truths and controversial thoughts on ADHD and Autism... a much needed conversation in the current climate!You can find Jessica Whalley on:Instagram: @_theaalife_Website: The Autistic MomBook: The Autistic Mom: A guide, advice and memoir of adult diagnosis and/or raising a neurodivergent child.: Amazon.co.uk: Whalley, J.: 9781916572959: BooksYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger Warning: Child rape and sexual abuse/assaultAccording to the latest statistics provided by Rape Crisis UK, 1 in 6 children has been sexually abused.This statistic is of course only representative of the cases of sexual abuse that have been reported. Unfortunately most cases go unreported. Statistics indicate that 40% of adults who are raped will not report. And, unreported childhood cases of sexual abuse and rape are much higher, with statistics indicating that 72% of adults who experienced sexual abuse as a child, did NOT tell anyone or report it at the time of the abuse. Child rape and sexual abuse is something that is far more common and prevalent than anyone would like to admit. But, we simply MUST start admitting it, talking about it, addressing it, not just with each other as adults, but having these hard conversations with our kids.... their futures depend on it. Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode is Nathan Spiteri. He is an actor, writer and producer, and he is child sexual abuse survivor. He has bravely shared his story of child sexual abuse on Ted X and many other platforms, as well as in his memoire 'Toy Cars'. Nathan is the much needed male voice around child rape and sexual abuse. Every time he shares his story and trauma, he is stepping in to be the voice for those (men and boys specifically) that haven't been able to find theirs...yet. You can find Nathan on:Website: Nathan Spiteri Instagram: @nathanspiteri Nathan Spiteri (@nathanspiteri) • Instagram photos and videosBook: Toy Cars: Spiteri, Nathan: 9780645122626: Amazon.com: BooksYou can follow Why are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Addictions, Abuse, Habits, Confidence, Dyslexia, Fears, Phobias, Relationship Issues, Speech Impediments, Past Trauma, Current Traumas, Generational Traumas...What do these things all have in common?These are all areas of people lives, that stop them from getting where they want to be and having the lives they want to have. Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode if Dr. Phil Parker. He is a Psychologist, Author and Certified Master Trainer in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). He has over 40 years of experience working with people who are facing serious life blockers. Combining his study, research and experience in osteopathy, psychology, psychotherapy NLP and Coaching, he has helped make extraordinary changes in countless peoples lives. His work focusses on how the brain-mind-body work together to affect our health and he is very much a pioneer in this field! If you are a loved one if facing challenges that seem insurmountable, and/or other treatments have not worked to heal you/them, this is the episode for you!You can find Dr. Phil Parker on:Instagram: @drphilparkerWebsite: Home - Phil Parker and You can find his books on:Amazon: THE COACH THAT'S ALWAYS THERE: Inner Wisdom Whenever You Need It: Amazon.co.uk: Parker, Dr Phil: 9798393400378: BooksYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

81% of women feel some form of exclusion at work92% of men don't believe that they're excluding women48% of women feel appreciated at work79% of men feel appreciated at work**malealliesuk.co.uk Feminism can be dated back to the 1800's...but we've been fighting for much longer. Whilst some movement has been made, we are by no means close to true equity, even in the most basic of terms. The irony now is that the world we live in today, a world created by men for men, no longer even works for the boys and men it was intended for! So, fellow men, it's your turn now. It's your turn to fight alongside women, in the trenches of gender inequality, violence, disenfranchisement, and bias, to change the socio-economic and political systems you created and founded on misogyny. Your active participation and voice is necessary in order to move our failing society and the systems, institutions and businesses within it, forward. It's time to dismantle and rebuild...together...as a collective. As equals.Lee Chambers joins host Jennie on this weeks episode. Lee is the chief psychologist and founder of Essentialise and Male Allies UK. After a diverse career, from corporate finance to building a tech company, he is now focused on supporting organisations to engage men in inclusion, accelerate gender equity and promote effective allyship. He has been featured on the Startups 100 Index, has received a Great British Entrepreneur Award, and sits on the boards of CMI Women, Regenerage, and the Manchester Metropolitan University Business School.He is a Kavli Fellow of the National Academy of Sciences in the USA - the first Black British scientist to be awarded in its 33-year history, received for his work on health inequalities. He was the UN Women Changemaker of the Year in 2023, and is an ambassador for the UK Government's Lilac Review for Disabled Entrepreneurship. Lee was recenetly listed as Forbes 2025 Changemaker to Watch. He speaks globally on allyship and intersectionality, having taken the stage at One Young World, ChangeNOW and the Bloomberg Global Equality Summit, and is the author of the book, Momentum: Reboot Your Career, Unlock Your Potential. This is polarising, but fascinating topic to say the least! Lee and Jennie dive head first into a raw and open conversation about misogyny, raising boys to be better men and all of our collective responsibilities in dismantling and rebuilding our broken systems. This is a MUST LISTEN!You can find Lee Chambers on:Instagram:@maleallyship Website: Male Allies UK | Your partner in making allyship happen and https://leechambers.orgYou can find Lee's Book on:Amazon.co.uk : momentum lee chambersYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? Podcast on:Intagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger Warning: Infant/baby/child deathGrief is a complex emotion. It can be phased and a process, and can go on for years. For some, grief stays with them for a lifetime; popping in at random times, often throwing them off guard. Similarly, death is one of life's inevitabilities that most of us struggle to reconcile and fear more than anything else.All of this is compounded when it's the death of your child and the grief and pain of losing that child overcomes your entire being...never leaving you...forever yearning to hold and see your child one last time. Joining host Jennie on today's episode is Sabrina Boukhiba. She is a mother, and on 3rd November 2022, she lost her 6 month old son Idris. He died of a rare heart condition. Sabrina very bravely shares her story; opening up about her journey with grief and loss, and all of the ways it has and will continue to impact her life. With the death of her child, Sabrina is now learning to live again. You can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Before the Christmas Holidays, host Jennie Guay was invited on to the Northern Power Women's podcast 'We Are Power' Podcast where Simone Roche MBE OBE, Founder of Northern Power Women, interviews Jennie. Together they tackled some real life sh!t: What if confronting life’s toughest conversations could lead to healing and empowerment? In this powerful episode of the We Are Power Podcast, we sit down with Jennie Guay, host of the Why Are We Whispering? podcast, author of Howie Blend, and a passionate advocate for open dialogue around sensitive topics. Jennie shares her transformative journey, where she turned personal adversity into a mission to amplify voices often silenced by shame. Driven by her experiences, she’s created safe spaces for her stepchildren and others to openly discuss challenging issues like sexual abuse and domestic violence, emphasising the importance of courage and transparency in overcoming trauma.But Jennie’s work doesn’t stop there. She’s also the author of Howie Blend, a children’s book that reflects diverse family dynamics, aiming to promote acceptance and understanding from an early age. As a parent, partner, and professional, Jennie shares how she navigates the delicate balance between her personal and professional life, how she overcame perfectionism, and the power of forming authentic connections.In this episode, Jennie takes us through her journey of creating and maintaining her podcast, and why it’s so crucial to encourage open conversations around difficult topics—especially with children. She discusses the need for children to understand and appreciate diversity, and why these conversations are so important for personal and societal growth.Here’s what we cover in this episode:00:00 – Welcome to the We Are Power Podcast00:46 – Introducing Jennie Guay01:14 – The Why Are We Whispering? Podcast03:59 – The Catalyst for Change06:56 – Creating a Safe Space08:32 – Defining Healing12:49 – Challenges and Triumphs17:54 – How We Blend: A Journey of Diversity22:06 – Balancing Life and Work24:28 – Looking Ahead: Future Projects26:11 – Final Thoughts and FarewellTune in to hear Jennie’s inspiring insights on how facing tough conversations can spark personal and collective change. Learn how her work is helping to break the silence on difficult issues, promote diversity, and empower others to speak their truth. Don’t miss this opportunity to be part of this transformative conversation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

*Trigger Warning: Addiction and Mental HealthAlcoholism and addiction continues to be the theme of the podcast this month.We know alcohol is a drug. We know it's been classified as the most dangerous and damaging drug in the UK above heroine and crack cocaine. And, we know its' destroying lives and families at an alarming rate.But, what many people don't know, is that there is a link between those who have ADHD and alcoholism/addiction . According to Rehabs UK:between 33% and 44% of young people with ADHD experience alcohol misuse or dependencypeople with ADHD are 5-10 x more likely to have alcohol addiction than those without ADHD Research indicates that impulsive and reckless behaviour, as well as high novelty seeking traits, which are common symptoms of ADHD, are high risk factors for substance abuse. And 70% of young adults with both substance abuse issues and ADHD report that they use alcohol or substance as a means to self medicate; an attempt to switch off an over active brain or attempting to slow down racing thought processes. The links and correlation between ADHD and addiction is very much misunderstood and often over looked.Joining host Jennie in today's episode is Harry Martin. Harry is diagnosed ADHD and has battled with addiction most of his life. Harry's experience with substance abuse started as young as 12 years old and carried on into adulthood. Now, in his 30's, Harry is living alcohol free. On this episode, he very honestly tells his story of how having ADHD has a direct correlation to his addiction issues. At the height of his addiction, Harry was homeless and living for his next drink or high. With the support of his mom and wife, and with the birth of his daughter, Harry is now on a path to sobriety. But, it is not without its daily challenges. This episode is raw and confronting. Harry holds nothing back. This is a must listen for anyone with ADHD or similar, battling addiction, and feeling like there's no way to quiet your mind. There is a path forward, and there is support available to you...you are NOT alone. You can follow Harry on:Instagram: @harrymartin2901You can follow Why Are We Whispering on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger Warning: Alcoholism and AddictionIn line with "Dry January" and starting a new year, this episode is a continuation of this months focus on reassessing your relationship with alcohol and shinning a light on the ways we, as a society and the media, normalise and encourage its consumption; bombarding us with toxic and confusing messaging from childhood through to adulthood. Alcohol is listed as the MOST harmful drug (above heroine and crack cocaine), and is destroying millions of lives and families every year; costing the NHS billions year on year and being the biggest cause and risk factor for death, ill health, disease and disability among 15 to 49 year olds in the UK. None of us are in the dark about what alcohol actually is - a drug. Yet, most of us refuse to acknowledge our own relationship with and even laugh off the destructive realities surrounding it. On this weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by Millie Gooch. She is the Author of 'Booze Less' and the Founder of Sober Girl Society. She is also an Ambassador for Alcohol Change UK. Millie has also been sober for 7 years. Millie candidly shares her challenges and issues with her own alcohol abuse and details the realisations that drove her to becoming sober. She talks about the conscious choices she made and continues to make in living life alcohol free. You can find Millie on:Instagram: @milliegooch and @sobergirlsociety You can find Alcohol Support at:Website: Alcohol Change UK charity: Alcohol harms. Time for change. | Alcohol Change UKInstagram: @alcoholchangeuk You can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TRIGGER WARNING: Alcoholism and Death1 in 5 people in the UK are affected by a parents drinking (Nacoa Study)Over 600,000 people in the UK are currently alcohol dependent. Of these, only 18% are receiving treatmentAlcohol abuse is the biggest risk factor for DEATH, ill health and disease and disability among 14 to 49 year olds in the UKIn 2020, there were almost 1 million alcohol related hospital admissions in England; putting a heavy strain on the NHS. Alcohol abuse and consumption costs the NHS an estimated £3.5 billion per year in England and costs an estimated £2.1 billion per year to society as a whole.Millions of children grow up in households where one or both parents struggle with alcohol addition. Often times, the addiction goes hand-in-hand with domestic abuse and child abuse/neglect. This is an ugly reality that so many people want to ignore or excuse away. Many parents carry shame or guilt around their addiction, never facing it head on or fail to see it as dysfunctional, as it's generational trauma passed on. The long term ramifications and impact of alcohol abuse on the family and on society can be catastrophic, and is destroying the childhoods and healthy development of too many kids.Joining host Jennie on today's episode is Jennifer Payne. She is a NACOA Ambassador (National Association for Children of Alcoholics) and the child of an Alcoholic. Jennifer speaks candidly about how her mothers alcoholism consumed her childhood and still affects her life to this day, as well as discusses the complexities around what happens to the mother-daughter relationship when the mother is an alcoholic, and how that can present. Alcoholism caused the deaths of several people in Jennifer's family and she addresses the realities of generational alcoholism and trauma.Many carry shame, guilt and embarrassment around having an alcoholic parent or BEING an alcoholic parent. In sharing her story and being so raw, Jennifer allows others to feel seen and heard. With so many people sharing the same or similar experience with alcoholism, no one needs to feel alone. There is help and support and more importantly, community, through organisations like NACOA.You can find Jennifer here:Instagram: @jen_payne_88You can find NACOA (National Association for Children of Alcoholics):Instagram: @nacoaukWebsite: Nacoa: Helping everyone affected by their parent's drinking - Nacoa Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TRIGGER WARNING: Alcoholism, Mental Health and DeathThere are approx 3 million children in the UK living with and alcoholic parent (Nacoa Study)Kids of alcoholic parent(s) are 6x more likely to witness domestic abuse, 3x more likely to consider suicide, 2x more likely to become an alcoholic (Nacoa Study)Alcohol was named as the MOST harmful drug in a study that ranked 20 drugs in accordance with the harm they cause to othersAlcohol was given a harm score of 72 out of 100 whilst Heroine and Crack Cocaine were ranked a harm score of 55 out of 100 and 54 out of 100January is often the month when many people take a break from alcohol ("dry January"). Some do it to recalibrate after over indulging over the Christmas period and some find themselves really taking a step back and assessing their relationship with alcohol; hopeful for a healthier year ahead. The topic of alcohol and alcoholism is often avoided. Many people laugh off the severity and facts of alcoholism in the UK because many people are too uncomfortable to reflect on their own relationship with alcohol; perhaps out of fear they themselves may have a problem with it. So, we normalise alcohol use - there always seems to be a good reason or excuse to have a drink. But it's never just ONE drink....is it. Alcohol abuse is destroying the lives of children and families across the UK at and alarming rate. And yet, so many of us are still in denial. Sarah Drage is a Nacoa Ambassador (National Association for Children of Alcoholics), a TED X Speaker and Mental Health Advocate. She is also the child of an Alcoholic. Sarah joins host Jennie in todays episode to share her story of growing up with an alcoholic parent, and how it negatively impacted her as a child, teenager and now adult. She details watching her father die of alcoholism and how it ravaged his mind and body, and how it has impacted her mental health and relationship with alcohol. Many of us carry shame and embarrassment around our experience growing up around alcoholics and/or our own relationship with the drug. This episode aims to shine a light on this all too common experience and feeling(s) and take the loneliness out of it. If this sounds like you or your experience as a child of an alcoholic, you are not alone. There are so many people who share your story and are available and eager to help, listen and support. You can find help and support from Nacoa here:Nacoa: Helping everyone affected by their parent's drinking - NacoaYou can find Sarah Drage and her work with Nacoa here: Instagram @sarah_drage You can follow the Why Are We Whispering? Podcast on Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

LOVE....Everyone wants it but how many of us are willing and able to give it in a healthy way? Have the pressures and realities of careers, cost of living crisis, and kids, shifted our perspectives on what's important in a life partner and what we value?Has social media tainted our view and whole belief system on what love actually is, rather than what we think it's supposed to look like to others? What does love TRULY mean in 2024/2025? And why is it so damn hard to find for so many of us right now?!On this weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by Dating and Relationship coach and expert, and Author of "Love is Coming", Persia Lawson. Persia helps answer these questions and more!Jennie and Persia go very deep on how childhood traumas and our own parents relationship carve the neuro pathways which determine who we choose as partners and the terrible behaviours and abuses we will accept. They talk about the impacts that dating apps, social media and the socio-economic changes and pressures have on how we now view and approach love, and provide tools and tactics on how to change the dating and relationship habits that don't serve you. This is a raw, real and painfully honest conversation about why we are so bad at love, and where and how you can begin changing your love course in 2025! You can find Persia on:Instagram: @persialawsonBook: Loving is Coming - How to Find Real Love in a Superficial World: Amazon.co.uk: Persia Lawson: 9781913284251: BooksYou can find and follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instragram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As women, our bodies drastically change several times throughout the course of our lives; puberty, pregnancy, post-pregnancy, perimenopause and menopause. Many of us have a challenging relationship with our bodies and body image at the best of times. But these times in our life can make dressing our bodies especially daunting...sometimes even soul destroying. It doesn't help that each designer and brand seems to have sizing that doesn't match up ( a size 12 in one shop, could be a size 14 in another), and that the changing rooms are built like small sweaty torture chambers with lighting that would make the most beautiful woman in the world recoil. Shopping and and dressing our body shapes, is, for the most part, exhausting and erodes self confidence. For some, the solution is simple - hire a stylist and personal shopper! But of course, for the majority of us, this is a luxury we simply cannot afford. Joining host Jennie on todays episode is Anna Berkeley. She has worked in the fashion industry for 30 years. She was a buyer for Prada, Margaret Howell and Selfridges. For the last 17 years she has worked as a private stylist and body shape expert. Utilizing her in depth experience and understanding of the changing female body, Anna has identified and created the solution for women who struggle with understanding their body shape and how to dress it. She has created the ThinkShape App. It uses body mapping techniques and analysis to help users understand their bodies and what looks good on them without the expense of a personal stylist and appointment. Anna says her mission is to take the anxiety out of choosing clothes by teaching women everything she has learned over many years of styling. Her dream is for women to accept, embrace and honour their beautiful bodies whilst truly understanding what works best for them. You can find Anna Berkeley and the ThinkShape App on:Instagram: @annaberkeleystyling and @think.shape You can follow Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instragram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone has a story. Some stories are filled with joyous childhood moments, teenage achievements and memories of fun family holidays. And some stories are coloured with dark family secrets, abuse and generational traumas. And some stories are a mix of both. Regardless of where your story falls on this spectrum, we all have one thing in common.... our future story. The story that lays ahead of us that has yet to be written and told. And whilst your childhood and past may have been out of your control, your future is yours to create. Someone who has taken her story of pain and trauma and turned it into a future filled with purpose is this weeks guest Dani Wallace. She is a Global Public Speaking Coach and Founder of the Fly Anyway Foundation and the Big Festoon. For the first time publicly, Dani joins host Jennie, to share her story of generational trauma and domestic violence and talk about how her past has driven her towards change and purpose. Dani is a captivating speaker and her story will resonate with so many. This episode is not to be missed!You can find Dani and her Foundation on:Website: IATQB.com HOMEInstagram: @thequeenbeedaniYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today's episode host Jennie is joined by Chartered Psychologist Mark Rackley to tackle online safety, internet access, devices, screen time and social media. More specifically, they impact it all has on our kids mental health and brain development. What are the long term ramifications? For most parents, this is a complex issue which poses many challenges both in the home and schools and amongst peers. Child and teenage Mental Health is declining and suicide rates are rising, and rapidly so. So many parents have their heads in the sand about the correlation between screen time, internet and social media access/exposure and this mental health decline. Dr Mark provides listeners with VALUABLE expert guidance, clarity and advice on this complex issue. Parents: This episode is a MUST listen - we cannot afford to ignore this any longer. Our kids' futures depend on it!You can find Dr Mark Rackley on:Instagram: @drmarkrackley Podcast: I Have Issues, the Mental Health PodcastYou can also follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you've survived your dysfunctional childhood with your toxic mom or dad. Congratulations! But now, you're an adult (perhaps with your own children and partner), and you've decided to go no contact, or have set hard lined boundaries with that toxic parent. What can you expect from that toxic parent as a response? What can you expect from other family members who enable that toxic parent or serve as their "flying monkey's"? OR perhaps you are parallel parenting (as co parenting is an impossibility) with a toxic or personality disordered ex. Do you know how this person is impacting the growth and development of your child(ren)? Growing up with a toxic or personality disordered parent can have massive long term and lasting implications and can have massive impacts on your own romantic and familial relationships, as well as your mental health and self esteem. Do you know how to mitigate the risks of this with your child(ren)?Joining host Jennie on today's episode is UKs top mental health advocate and author of "It's Them Not You: How to Break Free from Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story", Josh Connolly. Together, they candidly discuss the very complex and challenging world of toxic parents and sharing tips and tactics on how to not only navigate it as the adult child of one, but also as the parallel parent of one. Unless you've lived it or are currently living through it, you just DON'T GET IT. Josh and his active work in this space makes you feel seen and heard. Both Jennie and Josh provide the listeners with a sense of understanding through shared experience. If this was/ is your childhood or parenthood experience, this episode is a MUST LISTEN!You can find expert and advocate Josh Connolly on:website: Come Back To YourselfInstagram: @josh_ffwPodcast: 115 MilesYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 in 3 girls don't feel prepared for their first period2 in 5 girls have been shamed or teased because of their period85% of girls have tried to hide the fact they are on their period50% of girls don't know what's happening to their bodies when they get their period60% of girls feel scared and embarrassed when they get their period81% of women feel concerns around their periods are not taken seriouslyThink back to the moment when you first started your period, or learned a bit about puberty and how babies are made. For most of us, these were tough years filled with confusion, angst, feelings of discomfort, nervousness... but also, excitement for what's to come. Whilst we were provided with some education in school and maybe the occasional home about what to expect, unfortunately, for most of us, this time was not met with an abundance of information and facts, so we were ill prepared and left to navigate this on our own.Today, whilst puberty and menstruation and sex are taught in schools to some degree, kids also have the internet. They have iphones, ipads and devices that parents have given them, where, with the stroke of a key, they can find images, videos (many pornographic in nature) and information (or misinformation) on anything and everything related to puberty and sex. Something we didn't have, or if we did, was extremely limited in comparison to today. There are HUGE risks associated with this that parents may not be wise to. On todays episode, host Jennie is joined by Libby Tanswell-Gidney. She is the 22 year old Founder of Ove Care, which is an age appropriate App providing children of all ages with information on puberty and menstruation. Jennie and Libby not only dive into the features and functionality of the Ove Care app, but the ever growing NEED for it in todays online climate. They talk about issues surrounding misinformation and accessibility to dangerous content online, the importance of both girls and BOYS understanding menstruation, fertility and the female body and how parents can utilise the app as a tool to navigate this complex time in their child's life and development.This episode is a MUST listen for parents with pre teen children - boys and girls!You kind find more information on Ove Care here:Website: www.ovecare.comInstagram: @ove.careTikTok: @ove.care You can follow the Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

According to the World Health Organization, 1 in 6 people globally are affected by infertility. Since the 1970's, 8 million babies have been born through medical/fertility intervention. The requirement for fertility treatment is on the rise. And it's not just due to fertility issues with heterosexual couples, rather, in recent years, there has been a steady increase in single people and same-sex couples building and expanding their families through fertility treatment. Regardless of your reasoning for requiring it, fertility treatments are costly, time consuming and physically and emotionally taxing. In addition to the personal challenges that we face during fertility treatment, shockingly 40+ years on, there are STILL societal challenges that many people face; causing intense feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment. Joining host Jennie on today's episode is Natalie Silverman. She is the coFounder of 'Fertility Matters at Work' and the creator and host of ' The Fertility Podcast' which is in its 10th year! Together, Jennie and Natalie tackle many of the taboos still surrounding fertility treatment, including why we still associate it with women only, when there is an equal split of men and women who face fertility challenges/infertility. Both Natalie and Jennie share their own experiences with fertility treatments and the challenges they face(d) and tackle the current lag in workplace understanding and support and the ways in which Fertility Matters at Work are helping companies and organizations catch up in terms of policy creation and implementation. You can find and follow Natalie Silverman on:Instagram:@fertilitymattersatwork and @fertilitypoddyPodcast: The Fertility PodcastWebsite: www.fertilitymattersatwork.com You can find and follow the Why Are We Whispering? podcast on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Confidence and Self Esteem, whilst are crucial components to achieving and feeling happiness, often get over looked in terms of what we teach our children in schools and in the home. We don't tend to focus on HOW to develop confidence and self esteem, rather we mostly assume one should just HAVE it. As a result, many of us grow into people pleasers, or focus on others needs above our own. Which causes deep rooted feelings of loneliness, loss, and uncertainty; unsure of who we truly are and what makes up the essence of us. A lack of or low self esteem is a significant developmental problem for kids currently. According to a recent study, in the US, 80% of kids entering year 1 at school score high on self esteem inventory. By year 5 that starts to decrease significantly down to only 20% of kids scoring high on self esteem and by high school graduation, that number plummets to a mere 5% of kids leaving high school with any semblance of confidence or self esteem. On todays episode, host Jennie is joined by Holly Matthews. She is the founder of the award winning self development brand "The Happy Me Project" and best selling author of "The Happy Me Project: The No Nonsense Guide to Self Belief". Together, they tackle the hard questions of what is contributing to the plummet in children's self esteem, who is responsible for ensuring our kids are taught how to cultivate their confidence and self esteem, and why it is VITAL to our well being and personhood. We are living in a world where false confidence rules and self esteem is virtually non existent. Jennie and Holly bring a no nonsense and real conversation about where we are going wrong with our kids and why we have generations of adults faking their confidence. Follow Holly on:Instragram: @iamhollymatthewsWebsite: I AM HOLLY MATTHEWS – SELF DEVELOPMENT COACH | SPEAKER & FOUNDER OF THE HAPPY ME PROJECTFollow Why Are We Whispering?:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast and @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every 2 minutes, someone in the UK is diagnosed with Cancer.Nearly 1 in 2 people will be diagnosed with some form of cancer in their lifetime.There are currently 3 million people in the UK living with Cancer, and it's anticipated that this number will rise to 3.5 million people by 2025, and 4 million people by 2030.Cancer is on the RISE.But this episode is not about the facts of Cancer. This is an episode about hope, resilience, healing and recovery. Joining host Jennie, is Stephanie Crawshay-Ralston. She is a highly sought after stylist and mother of 3. She is also a former guest of the podcast. Around this time last year, Steph was speaking to us about her recent terminal cancer diagnosis. Her treatments hadn't worked and she was about to embark on experimental treatment It wasn't looking good. She was scare, angry and completely unsure of what her future held. Nearly 12 months later, Steph can now say she is a Cancer survivor!From the feeling she had when she first received her terminal diagnosis, to the devastating affects of her multiple treatments, the affect her diagnosis had on her family and kids, to being at deaths door and coming out the other side, Steph and Jennie have a real authentic conversation about Cancer and all of the ways it touches and impacts your life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The word 'narcissist' is often times over used these days. It's often used to describe ex's who are more than likely just incredibly selfish and ego-centric people. But, what if you are in a relationship with a true clinical Narcissist and/or Personality Disordered person. What if you are truly in the throws of a real trauma bond and an emotionally/psychologically/physically/sexually/and or financially abusive relationship. Would you be able to recognise it? And, if you did recognise it, would you be able to escape it and truly heal from it? In the UK, according to a recent study conducted by Refuge:The police receive a domestic abuse related call every 30 seconds1 in 4 women in the UK will experience some form of domestic abuse in her lifetimeOn average, 1 woman is killed by an abusive partner or ex every 5 days in the UK3 women a week die by suicide as a result of domestic abuseIt takes, on average, 7 attempts before a woman is able to leave her abuser for goodJoining host Jennie in today's episode is Dr. Nae (Nadine Macaluso). After leaving her ex, most will know him as The Wolf of Wall Street - Jordan Belfort, she channelled her energy into becoming a licensed therapist, specialising in trauma bonds, personality disordered abuse and CPTSD. She is also the author of 'Run Like Hell'. Dr. Nae shares her own story of surTHRIVING abuse/domestic violence at the hands of her ex, the complexities around being in a trauma bond with a personality disordered person, how to mitigate the risk to your children and how to heal. This is a powerful discussion, that will provide you will tangible applicable strategies and tips on how to identify if you are in a trauma bond with a personality disordered person and the things you can do to get out and HEAL. You can find Dr. Nae on:Instagram: @therealdrnadineTik Tok: drnaelmftBuy the book in Amazon: Run Like Hell: A Therapist’s Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing from Trauma Bonds eBook : Macaluso LMFT PhD, Nadine : Amazon.co.uk: Kindle StoreYou can follow Why Are We Whispering? on:Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast AND @whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

According to a recent UK Study, 59% of girls and young women aged 13-21 have faced some form of sexual harassment at school or college in the past 12 months. 30% of 16 -18 year old girls say they have experienced unwanted sexually touching by boys at school. Nearly 71% of all 16-18 year old (boys and girls) say they hear sexual name calling towards girls, such as slut and slag, at school on a daily basis. 90% of girls and 50% of boys in secondary school have been sexually harassed by being sent explicit/pornographic pictures and videos to their devices. These stats are just the stats on our children.1 in 4 women will be sexually assaulted/raped in their lifetime. A mere 2 in 100 rapes that are reported will result in a conviction - and 4 out 5 rapes go UNREPORTED; leaving a massive amount of rapists (men) to roam our streets and rape freely .Joining host Jennie on this weeks episode is Emma Kay. She is the Founder and CEO of WalkSafe App. It is the UK's leading personal safety App which combines journey sharing features and national safe space maps. Emma's vision, work and purpose with the WalkSafe App has been and continues to be a much needed literal lifeline for women and school girls, each time we leave the safety of our homes. You can download the WalkSafe App on: WalkSafe+ on the App Store (apple.com)You can Follow the WalkSafe Team and Emma Kay on Instagram: @walksafe.io Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of us grow up wondering who we will fall in love with and marry and the children we may have. But nobody grows up dreaming about having a smooth divorce, parenting alone, having a slick divorce attorney, fleeing an abusive marriage, being a step parent or sharing your kids with your ex's new spouse. This is a far cry from what we envision for ourselves when we are young. For some this is your reality, For others, their inevitable futures.Many things can happen before, during and after divorce. For a small few, it's amicable; co-parenting works and you can both agree you weren't met to be married, but can be friends. For the rest, divorce and what comes after it is not just riddled with complexities, challenges and heartbreak, but in some cases, presents new ways your ex can abuse you (and in some cases, your kids as well).In today's episode, host Jennie, is joined by world leading Divorce Coach and Author Sara Davison. She is a global media commentator on breakups, divorce and domestic abuse. Sara launched Breakup and Divorce Coach Practitioner Accreditation Programmes in 2018 and has founded the International Divorce Coach Centre of Excellence, which now has a coaching community of over 600 coaches spanning across 26 countries and 5 continents.The inspiration behind Sara finding her niche in Divorce Coaching, is her own divorce and the trauma that ensued. Sara has turned her tumultuous experience with her own divorce into supporting thousands of others through theirs and equipping them with the tools to not just survive leaving their high conflict ex, but thrive.Sara and Jennie speak candidly about the harsh realities of the family court system, and what to expect from your "high conflict"/abusive ex's behaviour before, during and after divorce. If you or someone you know are about to embark on the battle of your life, this episode is a must listen!You can find Sara Davison on:Website: Homepage – Sara DavisonInstagram: @saradavisondivorcecoachPodcast: Heartbreak to Happiness Heartbreak to Happiness Podcast Series – Apple Podcasts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger Warning1 in 10 children in the UK experience sexual abuse.*500,000 children are estimated to be sexually abused in any given year in the UK***National Crime Agency**Centre of Expertise on Child Sexual AbuseThis weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by Jeremy Indika. Jeremy Indika is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. His abuse started at age 8. His abuser was a trusted 35 year old male family friend, more specifically, his fathers friend and colleague. Like most paedophiles, Jeremy's abuser hid in plain sight in a profession that provided him access, and that deemed him caring and trustworthy; a nurse at the hospital his father worked in as a doctor. Jeremy was 27 years old when he finally came to terms with his childhood sexual abuse and trauma. And he decided to turn his trauma into something positive. He is a very active Child Abuse Prevention Advocate and is the Founder of 'Something to Say'. Not only does Jeremy share his story on this weeks episode, but Jennie and Jeremy, have a very real, very honest and open (and uncomfortable) conversation about many of the contributing factors that increase your child's exposure and risk to being sexually abused/exploited, including internet access, device use, social circle engagement. They also dive into the role mainstream pornography has taken in increasing the instances of paedophilia and sexual abuse, and our responsibilities as parents and a collective society to mitigate the risks to our kids. With the statics and instances of child sexual abuse on the rise, we have a duty of care to be talking openly about this. Saying it out loud is the first step in tackling and eradicating this (or at the very least, stopping the rise, in its tracks). It's ugly and it's uncomfortable, but we must have the bravery and courage to call this increasing issue out...our children's lives depend on it. You can find Jeremy Indika on Instragram:@jeremyindika@somethingtosayofficialYou can follow the Why Are We Whispering? podcast on Instagram:@whywhisperpodcastYou can follow the making of the docu-series 'Why Are We Whispering?: The Whole Story' on Instagram:@whywhisperthewholestory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 in 8 men get prostate cancer.144 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer every day.500,000 men are living with prostate cancer as you are reading this. Every HOUR a man dies from prostate cancer. If you are over 50 yrs old, or you're black, or your brother or father had it, your risk of getting prostate cancer goes up significantly.In honour of Men's Health Week, joining host Jennie is Celebrity Chef and author, Cryus Todiwala OBE MBE. He is s well known London based Restauranteur and Her Majesty the Queen was a VERY big fan of his cooking, which he did a lot of during her Diamond Jubilee Tour. Cyrus is also a regular on TV shows Saturday Kitchen, Daybreak and on BBC Radio 4.Cyrus also has Stage 4 Prostate Cancer. On today's episode, Cyrus and Jennie talk honestly about how a cancer diagnosis affects men's mental health, and the impact on the family dynamic. Cyrus shares his cancer journey and what symptoms lead to his ultimate diagnosis and encourages ALL men to test regularly and listen to their bodies.If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with prostate cancer, reach our to Prostate Cancer UK for guidance and support: Prostate Cancer UK | Prostate Cancer UKFollow Prostate Cancer UK on Instagram: @prostatecancerukFollow Why Are We Whispering? on Instagram @whywhisperpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you see when you hear the word ' POVERTY'? A war torn country? Starving, unclothed children on the other side of the world? In Manchester, UK alone, nearly half of children under 15 years old are living in poverty. Read that again. We need to really look no further than our next door neighbours to see what poverty looks like and means here in the UK. And most of us have no idea that this a very real reality. We're not talking about kids whose parents can't afford the latest NIKE trainer or summer holiday. We're talking about parents who have to make the decision between feeding their kids at all, or keeping the heating on. Some of the families living in poverty, are generational; passing down substance abuse issues and, general parental neglect, where physical/sexual/emotional abuse is a large part of their family dynamics. But some are people who fell on hard times, in a challenging economy, and simply can't fight their way out without the support of others. Regardless, of how poverty entered into their lives, we cannot ignore that half of children in Manchester alone, are falling through the proverbial cracks. And without the support of organizations such as 'Manchester Youth Zone' and people like our guest today, Heather Etheridge, they will be lost in the ether. On this weeks episode, host Jennie and guest Heather Etheridge, CEO of Manchester Youth Zone, talk about what poverty today actually looks like in the UK; how it it impacts the children in its clutches, the families and the community, long term. Heather candidly talks about her own experiences growing up in a household of abuse and neglect and her own struggles that resulted, and how it connects her to the kids of and her work at MYZ. The work she is doing and the spaces that MYZ are providing to these kids and their families, are not just paramount to their development, but to their SURVIVAL. You can follow Manchester Youth Zone on Instagram: @manchesteryouthzoneYou can DONATE (personally or corporately), Volunteer or learn more about Manchester Youth Zone here: Home - Manchester Youth Zone (manchesteryz.org) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you leave an ex or a marriage that is toxic and abusive, your hell doesn't come to an end if you share children. The next leg of that journey is just beginning. If your ex is toxic, that's one thing, but if you're navigating parenting with someone who also has personality disorders ie: clinical narcissism, borderline personality disorder, etc, it truly is a soul destroying combination. BUT it's not hopeless. There are tools, tricks and, as today's guest describes them, "rules", you can follow to help mitigate some of the negative implications of that ex's behaviour on you and your children. Melissa Porter is the author of 'Mastering the Single Parent Game' and is a qualified Counsellor and Life Coach. After the ending of her marriage and through her experience navigating the dark waters of parallel parenting with a toxic ex, she found her new purpose in helping others through this shared experience. Her book is concise and to the point! And that is exactly how the conversation goes between Melissa and host Jennie on today's episode! We dive into not just tools and rules on parallel/single parenting, but also what to expect from the family court system and the friends and foes around you. If you are thinking about divorce, going through it or coming out the other side and in the throws of co/parallel parenting, this episode is a MUST listen! You can buy 'Mastering the Single Parent Game on Amazon: Mastering the Single Parent Game: Amazon.co.uk: Porter, Melissa: 9781738490417: BooksYou can find Melissa Porter on her website: Melissa Porter - Writer, Property Developer #MelissaPorter #writer #propertydevelopment #porterandsmurfit # (melissa-porter.com)You can follow 'Why Are We Whispering?' on Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Belonging, fitting in, being liked and frenemies. These are the trappings of many girls/women social and friendship groups not just in childhood, but well into adulthood as well. And for many, as you enter parenthood, also the dynamics at the school gates with other parents. This weeks episode, host Jennie, is joined by Comedian, Actor and Writer, Kate-Lois Elliott. Drawing upon her own mothers' experience growing up in a Christian Cult, Kate-Lois identified some glaring similarities between her mums experience in a cult and navigating female friendships from childhood through to adulthood and has channelled that into her comedy acts. Jennie and Kate-Lois talk about how these kinds of group dynamics, specifically amongst girls/women, are toxic and detrimental...but also find the humour in the ridiculousness of it all.You can find Kate-Lois Elliott here: Comedian Writer Actress | Kate Lois Elliott | UKYou can buy tickets to Kate-Lois @ Fringe Festival here: Kate-Lois Elliott: How to Belong Without Joining a Cult | Comedy | Edinburgh Festival Fringe (edfringe.com)You can listen to Kate-Lois on the Diversify Podcast here: Diversify on Apple PodcastsFollow the 'Why Are We Whispering? Podcast on Instagram @whywhisperpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's episode, host Jennie brings two worlds together that wouldn't normally be associated; novel writing and the realities of domestic abuse and coercive control. #1 best selling author Sarah Pearse (The Retreat, Sanatorium and The Wilds) and Sarah Berry-Valentine from Refuge Charity (domestic violence safe haven), came together to develop some of the characters in Sarah's latest novel, 'The Wilds' and the toxic and abusive relationship dynamics between them. Refuge supported Sarah to ensure that the behaviours, psychology and tactics associated with partners and parents who practice coercive control abuse was accurately depicted.1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime2 women are killed every week by a partner in England/WalesEvery 30 seconds, the police are called to a domestic abuse situationUnsure if you or someone you love are in an abusive situation? Here are the SIGNS:Types of domestic abuse:Psychological/emotional abuse: Includes name-calling, threats and manipulation, blaming you for the abuse or ‘gaslighting’ you.Coercive control: When an abuser uses a pattern of behaviour over time to exert power and control. It is a criminal offence.Physical abuse: This isn’t only hitting. He might restrain you or throw objects. He might pinch or shove you and claim it’s a ‘joke’.Tech abuse: He might send abusive texts, demand access to your devices, track you with spyware, or share images of you online.Economic abuse: Controlling your access to money or resources. He might take your wages, stop you working, or put you in debt without your knowledge or consentSexual abuse: This doesn’t have to be physical. He might manipulate, deceive or coerce you into doing things you don’t want to do.Here's a list of questions to help you begin to spot the signs of an abusive partner:Is your partner jealous and possessive?Is he charming one minute and abusive the next?Does he tell you what to wear, where to go, who to see?Does he constantly put you down?Does he play mind games and make you doubt your judgement?Does he control your money, or make sure you are dependent on him for everyday things?Does he pressure you to have sex when you don’t want to?Are you starting to walk on eggshells to avoid making him angry?Does he control your access to medicine, devices or care that you need?Does he monitor or track your movements or messages?Does he use anger and intimidation to frighten and control you?If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then you may be experiencing domestic abuse. You can learn more about author Sarah Pearse here: The Retreat – By Sarah Pearse – Order NowYou can learn more about Refuge Charity and seek help here: Refuge, the largest UK domestic abuse organisation for women Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of us grow up in a household where organised religion was/is practiced. I grew up Catholic; studied and did all of my sacraments, church on Sunday and holidays, and even went to Catholic Primary and High School. But it never really connected with me. Or, I never connected to it. Regardless of what religions or faiths any of us follow or practice, most of us can agree on one thing, and that is that there is something greater than ourselves at play. On today's episode, host Jennie, is joined by Sunday Times best selling author, TV Presenter and Psychic Medium, TJ Higgs. They talk about what it means to be connected to the other side, how TJ connects and interact with souls and spirit, signs and symbols from our loved ones no longer here and our relationship with death and grief. There are many ways to do and experience this life. And whilst many may discount and reject the validity of mediumship, clairvoyance and psychic ability, an open mind and heart should always be kept with matters of spirituality and connectivity... if you're closed off, you may miss the signs and symbols around you and guiding you. You can follow TJ Higgs on Instagram @tjhiggs.medium You can also find her on her website: www.tjhiggs.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse and RapeThe Rochdale Paedophile Gangs made headlines across the UK. There were even a couple of TV dramatizations made, one of which being 'Three Girls'. None of these horrors would have come to light had it not been for one woman - Maggie Oliver. Maggie saved and continues to save thousands of children across the UK from organised paedophile gangs. Child rapists, who are known to police, but many of whom remain walking the streets and preying on children. On today's episode, host Jennie is joined by the courageous Maggie Oliver. She's a former police detective turned whistle blower. During Maggie's time in the police, she uncovered countless cases of paedophile gangs who were systemically targeting and raping children across the UK. Disturbingly, most of these horrific cases were covered up and buried by the police and judicial system in the UK. In order to save these children and future victims, Maggie had to quit her job in the police to blow the whistle on the corruption and neglect within the UKs police force. Maggie tells her story and shines a very bright light on the darkest and dingiest corners of the UK's "law enforcement" system. If you or someone you know is a victim of child sexual abuse, you can contact the Maggie Oliver Foundation for support: The Maggie Oliver Foundation - Helping Survivors of AbuseMaggie's book, ' Survivors: One Brave Detective's Battle to Expose the Rochdale Child Abuse Scandal' is also available on Amazon. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.