Wild Sobriety
by Mary Wagstaff
Wild Sobriety is your weekly touchpoint of remembrance — a return to your body, your truth, and your pleasure.This podcast is for women ready to release alcohol — not because something has gone wrong, but because she feels a deeper whisper asking her to come home.We go beyond alcohol, removing distortions that keep us stuck, and reclaiming the authentic self beneath over-functioning and people-pleasing. Expect radical reframes, mindful embodiment episodes, short meditations, and conversations that bring you closer to your truth: a woman who is both wild & divine.
Episodes
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I’m Back — And We’re Talking About the Part of Addiction Nobody Talks About
Stop Drinking and Start Living: I'm Back — And We're Talking About the Part of Addiction Nobody Talks About I'm back! After taking a much-needed break, I'm returning to Stop Drinking and Start Living with a broader perspective on sobriety, addiction, family recovery, and what it means to truly...
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You Are Further Along Than You Think & Life Update
What if you’re not behind at all, but just overcomplicating what already works? This episode reframes change, sobriety, and wellness by cutting through noise and returning to a simpler truth: you already have access to what you need. You’ll hear how devotion, not more information or effort…
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Is God Calling You To Sobriety?
Sobriety is your birthright. God didn't create you to alter yourself. The only alteration required is remembering who you are, both holy human and divine. It's the right of passage most Women never received, and in fact, alcohol has limited the privilege in our lives of being able to know God...
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Calm The Urge To Drink-Soft Whisper Reiki Meditation For Self Compassion
A gentle companion to support you in releasing, finding relief, and coming home to yourself. Please like, subscribe, and share! Thank you. For more info about my work and services: https://marywagstaffcoach.com
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The Missing Piece Of Self Compassion That Will Change Your Sober Journey
In today’s episode of Wild Sobriety, I’m talking about what I believe is the most overlooked—and most crucial—piece of sustainable sobriety and feminine healing: radical self-compassion. After years in the self-development and coaching world, I’ve noticed something that quietly keeps women stuck:...
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Your “Priorities” Are Driving You to Drink - Try This!
The start of a new year often comes with reflection, intention-setting, and pressure to get everything “right.” For many women, that pressure quietly shows up as overwhelm — and eventually as the urge to drink, numb, or escape. In this video, I explore how the way we approach priorities…
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What's Missing From Your Dry January
✨ Beyond Dry January is now open. A private 6-week experience where we anchor your sobriety into devotion, embodiment, and deep self-trust. More Info & Register Here: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/invest/p/beyonddryjan On today’s episode, I’m talking about the one thing that’s usually missing…
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From Hot Mess To Radical Forgiveness With Essence Turner
In this episode I sit down with Essence Turner, Self Love Coach, to talk about self-worth, healing, and finding your true purpose. We dive into her personal journey from the underground of exotic dancing, drinking and instability to radical forgiveness, healing and serving others. Essences shares…
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The Work Is Always Working : Live Coaching! Celebrating your wins, evolutionary sobriety
What if nothing is actually going wrong? In this episode, I’m unpacking a truth that has completely changed how I move through sobriety, business, money stress, emotions, and even embarrassment: the work is always working — either for you or on you. We talk about getting out of your head…
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Client Spotlight: 1,000 Days Alcohol Free With Nicole
Hey friends, today’s episode is extra special—I’m sitting down with Nicole, a former client and now a true inspiration, as she celebrates an incredible milestone: 1,000 days alcohol-free! We get real about the ups and downs of her sobriety journey, the grit it took to keep going, and how life has...
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From Darkness to Light: How the Solstice Inspires Feminine Healing and True Sober Living
Sobriety and feminine living meet the magic of the winter solstice in this episode. I’m diving into what the solstice really means for those of us longing to live through the lens of love, and how this dark, quiet time of year in the northern hemisphere is actually the perfect invitation to slow...
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Blindspot #5: Quitting Drinking Means Something's Wrong (5-Part Series)🌹
We unpack the fifth blind spot that keeps women stuck with alcohol: the belief that seeking support means something is wrong, rather than a powerful up level. We show how to replace isolation and shame with evaluation, evidence, and celebration so alcohol becomes irrelevant. • reframing sobriety…
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Blindspot #4: Why You Should Stop Reading Quit Lit (5-Part Series)🌹
I used to think if I just read one more book or listened to one more podcast, I’d finally “get it.” But all that information kept me busy instead of free. In this episode, I talk about the hidden blind spot of overconsumption—why filling your brain with recovery content isn’t the same as changing...
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Performance Mode
If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious,...
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Blind Spot #3 Stop Fighting Cravings - Do This Instead (5 Part Series)
You can quit drinking and still feel like you’re battling yourself all day. In this episode, I talk about the blind spot most women miss — the power of self-talk — and how the words we use can either fuel cravings or dissolve them in seconds. I share how I learned to stop fighting my mind and…
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Failure Tolerance
In this episode, I get real about what failure tolerance looks like for women who keep trying to quit drinking or make big changes in their lives. I share how repeated attempts—even when they feel disappointing—are actually proof of your resilience and belief that something bigger is possible....
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Blind Spot #2 Quitting Is Making It Harder To Not Drink (5 Part Series)
The hardest part isn’t pouring the last drink — it’s learning how to live well without needing one. In this episode, I share why “just quit” often fails and how a commitment-first approach makes sobriety simpler, softer, and actually sustainable. Instead of fighting cravings, I walk you through…
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BONUS You Don’t Need To Be An Alcoholic To Quit Drinking
This bonus episode is a truth-telling moment — the conversation I wish someone had given me during the 20 years I wanted to quit drinking but didn’t know where to turn. If you’ve been stuck between two awful options — white-knuckle sobriety forever or resigning yourself to drinking because…
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The Real Problem Isn't Your Drinking (It's This)
What if quitting drinking isn’t actually the real problem? In this episode of Wild Sobriety, I share how I stopped making alcohol the center of my life — and started focusing on what actually mattered: learning to handle real life without needing to escape it. I talk about how changing my...
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The Real Cost Of Sobriety Nobody Talks About (and Why It’s Easier Than You Think)
If you’re waiting for sobriety to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever. I say that not to discourage you — but because the moment you stop chasing the quick fix is the moment real freedom begins. There’s always a cost: either the short-term comfort that keeps you small, or the long-term peace that...
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Blindspot #1: Why Avoiding Alcohol Keeps You Stuck (5-Part Series)🌹
This is Part 1 of a 5 part series: The 5 Blindspots Secretly Sabotaging Your Sobriety. I share the three key reasons why distraction and replacement don’t lead to lasting change. Discover how to confront your beliefs, meet your real needs, and break free from the exhaustion of avoidance. Join me...
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Stop Asking 'Am I An Alcoholic?' - Ask THIS Instead
If you're a woman over wondering "Am I an alcoholic?" - you're not alone. This is the question that keeps so many of us stuck in shame, confusion, and endless Google searches at 2am. In this video, I'm sharing the truth about labels, the spectrum of alcohol use, and why the question itself might…
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Why Anxious Attachment Makes You Drink More (And How to Break the Cycle)
Hey beautiful Warriors of Love, it’s Mary — and this week’s episode goes deep into something so many of us experience but rarely name out loud. Have you ever noticed that even when you’re usually grounded, there are certain relationships or moments that throw you off balance — where you start...
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Your Future Is Riding On It , New Chapter, Life Update
To all my Warriors of Love — this is for you. After a break for integration and creation, I’m back with a brand-new title, a new direction, and a new way for us to connect. Wild Sobriety is expanding to YouTube — not as a performance, but as a deeper conversation. In this episode, I share why I...
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How to Support a Loved One Through Addiction (Without Losing Yourself) with Amber Hollingsworth
What happens when your sobriety collides with a loved one’s addiction? In this episode, I talk with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth about how to support someone struggling without enabling, the truth about boundaries, and how to protect your own wellbeing in the process. What happens…
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Why You Should Stop Chasing Solutions
Calm isn’t just a mood—it’s the baseline your body must return to if you want to break free from the cycle of drinking. When you’re stuck in overwhelm—overthinking, overworking, and over-giving—your nervous system never resets. That constant stress is exactly what makes pouring a glass of wine at...
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Your Basic Needs Have Changed-Releasing the Need to Belong
Ever wonder why quitting alcohol feels like a full-on identity shift? It’s because sobriety isn’t just about abstaining—it’s about reclaiming the parts of you that got buried under performance, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. In this episode, we explore why alcohol is often just a placeholder...
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How You Know You Don't Have A Drinking Problem
What if nothing’s actually “wrong”—you’re just seeing it from an outdated perspective? In this episode, you'll learn how to interrupt spirals of stress, resentment, or drinking urges without needing to fix anyone else or wait for the perfect conditions. We’ll explore: The mindset shift that...
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The Thing You’re Avoiding About Alcohol Is the Way Through
Freedom from alcohol isn't found in white-knuckling or temporary breaks — it emerges when you stay engaged with the process of transformation. In this episode, I share a powerful moment from a recent family reunion where, for the first time, everyone had shifted their relationship with alcohol....
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"Can't you just have one?" And Other People's Advice You Should Avoid
Ever wonder why “just have one” never actually works? In this no-fluff episode, we unpack the deeper truth behind that tiny phrase—and why your body already knows alcohol doesn’t feel good anymore. If you're tired of the start-stop cycle and craving a way of living that actually supports your...
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The Woman Who Doesn't Need Alcohol
Ever wonder who you’d be without the wine? In this personal and powerful episode, I reflect on how creating a sacred space for women—where we gather weekly over iced tea and flowers—revealed the essence of my own transformation. What started as a dream of women’s retreats manifested in a flower...
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Beyond Boredom: Rediscovering Your Creative Essence
Have you ever caught yourself pouring a glass of wine just because you were “bored”? Let’s talk about what’s really going on underneath that go-to excuse — and why it matters so much to your feminine wellbeing. In this episode, we get real about how our culture conditions women to fear stillness...
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The Mental Load: Why You're Overwhelmed and How to Let Go
Women are wired to handle a lot. It’s our superpower—but it can also be our kryptonite. The mental load we carry—anticipating needs, managing tasks, and caring for everyone around us—can easily become overwhelming, especially during perimenopause and beyond. Takeaways: The mental load is both a...
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Sobriety in Perimenopause: Your Unbothered, Unapologetic Era
Are you wondering why alcohol doesn't work for you the way it used to? Your body might be signaling a profound transformation – perimenopause. As a holistic alcohol coach working with women for over five years, I’ve discovered that this transitional phase requires a sacred pause from alcohol to...
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Why Avoidance Doesn’t Work (And What Does)
✨ Are you avoiding life just to avoid alcohol? In this episode, I share why that strategy will never work—and how to start optimizing the energy you’re already spending so your efforts don’t go to waste. We talk about how to: Stop avoiding people and places just because alcohol might be present…
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Alcohol Isn't The Cause Of Your Hangover & The Cure You Didn't Know You Needed
Hey beautiful listener 💋 This week’s challenge? Throw a better party. Not for your friends—for your life. We’re not talking balloons and cake (unless you want that)—we’re talking energy. Mood. Vibe. Frequency. Whether you’re waking up hungover or just heavy with life, this episode is a big warm...
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Why It’s Already Working Out in Your Favor
You don’t have to quit drinking to start changing your relationship with alcohol. In this episode, I share why the process might already be working in your favor—even if it doesn’t look like it yet. I talk about what’s been helping me lately: from gut health and hormone shifts to the supplement...
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Why It Was Never About The Wine-Attachment vs. Desire
Your craving for alcohol isn’t about the drink — it’s about what you think the drink will give you. Connection. Joy. Freedom. Over time, your brain has fused alcohol with emotional relief, narrowing your perspective. You believe drinking is the only way to get what you want — but it's actually...
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What If Your Rock Bottom Is Just a Whisper...
If you’ve ever thought, “Is this as good as it gets?” or “I don’t want to keep doing this,” this episode is for you. I invite you to consider a radical new idea: What if your rock bottom doesn’t have to be dramatic, destructive, or public? What if it’s just a quiet whisper—telling you that you’re...
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Why you should quit when your up
One of the most surprising and empowering truths in the alcohol-free journey: The best time to change your relationship with alcohol is when you’re already feeling good. If that sounds counterintuitive, you’re not alone. Most of us only commit to change when we’ve hit a low—after a fight, a...
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Why Quitting This Time Will Be Different
I’m sharing about what it actually takes to make a lasting shift in your relationship with alcohol—and why “feeling good” can often be the very thing that triggers a return to old habits. We explore: Why you break your promises to yourself (and how to rebuild trust) What really needs to change to...
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Six Years of Alcohol-Freedom—And How You Can Do It Better
It’s been six years since I took my last sip of alcohol—and not only do I not miss it, I truly don’t want it. In this soul-deep episode, I’m reflecting on what made lasting change possible for me (spoiler: it wasn’t willpower) and sharing the feminine path that helped me create a life so rich and...
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Client Spotlight: 2 Years of Sustainable Sobriety with Bonnie
There is no greater honor than reconnecting with a client years after we’ve worked together and seeing her thriving—more empowered, more present, and more alive than ever before. In this episode, I sit down with Bonnie, a mother of four, a generational cycle-breaker, and a woman who has redefined...
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Relaxation Resistance
Let’s talk about something so many high-achieving women struggle with: relaxation resistance. That underlying belief that if you relax, everything will fall apart. That if you slow down, you're lazy. That your worth is tied to your productivity. This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated…
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The Truth About Mental Health, Sobriety & Embracing The Feminine Way with Andrea Clark
This episode is a special one—I’m sharing an incredible conversation I had on The Truth About Mental Health podcast with host Andrea Clark. Andrea is a former family psychologist who’s pulling back the curtain on the limitations of the mental health industry and advocating for a more holistic,...
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Exquisite Care – The Feminine Way to Sobriety, Deep Nourishment & Expansion Part 3
This week, we’re diving into Exquisite Care, the third principle of The Feminine Way. And no, I’m not just talking about bubble baths and spa days—this is about deep, soul-level nourishment that actually supports your body, your nervous system, and your expansion. We’re still in the vibe of…
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There’s No Rush – The Feminine Way to Sobriety, Slowing Down & Softening Part 2
Let’s start with this: you don’t need me. You don’t need another book, another podcast, another guru telling you what to do. You already have everything you need inside of you. The problem? We’ve been conditioned to search outside of ourselves instead of trusting what’s already there. In today’s...
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Feminine Sobriety Part 1 Finding Safety Within
🔗 Try Magic Mind with 20% off: magicmind.com/maryW20 Last week, we talked about silent sobriety—not as a way to hide, but as a practice of deepening your relationship with yourself. This week, we’re taking that a step further and exploring how to create safety from within—because the first...
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Silent Sobriety
Crush Brain Fog! Do you ever feel the pressure to announce your big life changes? In today’s episode, I’m diving into silent sobriety and silent activism—why sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when we keep it just for ourselves. There’s so much talk about “recovering out loud,”…
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Loosen Your Grip On Trying To Figure Out Alcohol
🔗 Try Magic Mind with 20% off: magicmind.com/maryW20 Today, we’re diving into what it really means to surrender and trust your next evolution. Whether it's shifting your relationship with alcohol, your career, or any part of your life, the key isn’t figuring it out—it’s finding out by loosening...
About this show
Wild Sobriety is your weekly touchpoint of remembrance — a return to your body, your truth, and your pleasure.This podcast is for women ready to release alcohol — not because something has gone wrong, but because she feels a deeper whisper asking her to come home.We go beyond alcohol, removing distortions that keep us stuck, and reclaiming the authentic self beneath over-functioning and people-pleasing. Expect radical reframes, mindful embodiment episodes, short meditations, and conversations that bring you closer to your truth: a woman who is both wild & divine.
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