You & All Your Parts
by Laura Lively
Curious about Internal Family Systems and how to consistently work with your Parts in a gentle, compassionate way that helps you feel calmer, happier, and more alive? Listen in as Laura Lively, Certified IFS Practioner, shares tips on building the crucial relationship between Self Energy and Parts.
Episodes
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The Eight C's of Self Energy: Curiosity
In this episode, Laura defines and unpacks one of the Eight C's of Self, Curiosity within the context of Internal Family Systems.
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The Eight C's of Self Energy: Clarity
In this episode, Laura defines and unpacks one of the Eight C's of Self, Clarity within the context of Internal Family Systems.
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The Eight C's of Self Energy: Compassion
In this episode, Laura defines and unpacks one of the Eight C's of Self, Compassion, within the context of Internal Family Systems.
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Introducing Our New Series: Exploring the 8 C's of Self in IFS
Introducing a new series where, over the next few weeks, Laura will explore each of the 8 C's in detail, uncovering their meanings and significance within the context of IFS. From Clarity and Calmness to Compassion and Curiosity, we'll delve into the essence of each C, offering insights and...
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Embracing Appreciation: The Third Key to Inner Harmony
Join Laura as she explores the power of Appreciation, the third of her Triple A's of acknowledging, accepting, and appreciating your Parts. Tune in for insights on cultivating gratitude within yourself and fostering a deeper sense of connection with your inner world.
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Practicing Acceptance: The Second Key to Inner Harmony
While acknowledging that Acceptance may be the hardest of Laura's Triple As, in this episode she shares the importance of accepting your Parts where they are. The behavior your Parts exhibit may not be okay, but they are okay, just as they are. Learn how embracing acceptance of our Parts…
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The Power of Acknowledging Your Parts: The First Key to Inner Harmony
Discover the transformative power of acknowledging your inner Parts in this episode. Learn why validation and acceptance are essential for inner healing and integration. Tune in for practical tips on cultivating compassionate awareness and embracing the diversity within yourself.
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Internal People Watching
Join Laura as she explores the art of internal people watching. She invites you to explore observing your own Parts just like you would strangers in a crowd. Learn how to recognize your Parts and uncover the motivations behind your thoughts and emotions. Join Laura for a playful journey of "Part...
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Can't Find Your Parts? People Watch!
Join Laura in this episode as she addresses a common struggle people new to Parts Work have. Discover the power of realizing you are not your Parts, but rather, they are facets of your being. Learn practical tips, like adopting the role of the Observer, to identify and understand the various…
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Oops! I forgot
In this episode, Laura shares her experience of struggling with reduced productivity in content creation due to life challenges, leading to a critical moment when her Virtual Assistant noticed the absence of weekly content. Amidst inner turmoil and self-criticism, Laura got permission to share…
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Exploring Art Wounds and Healing Through Parts Work
Join Laura in unraveling the mysteries of "Art Wounds," examining how internalized shame stifles creative expression. Discover the transformative power of Parts Work in healing artistic wounds, and let her know if you'd like her to share live arting sessions where you can witness her Parts in...
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A Practical Exercise in Leaving Your Parts at Home
Join Laura for a potent exercise aimed at navigating stress while supporting your Parts. Discover the surprising power of asking your Parts to stay home, providing relief and fostering calm during challenging moments. Embrace the lightheartedness of creating a "Stay Home" ritual, offering your...
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Cognitive Dissonance or Parts?
Join Laura as she explores the blurred lines between cognitive dissonance and our Parts. Discover how understanding your Parts can shed light on moments when you do or don't do things that are good for you and how to approach those warring Parts of yourself.
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What to Do When Your Parts Don't Trust You
Laura normalizes distrustful Parts and shares how patience, empathy, and consistent engagement can foster trust and healing within your inner system. Tune in to explore the process of building self-trust amidst skepticism, and embrace the transformative power of self-discovery.
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Tuning into Your Inner Playlist
Laura explores how your internal Parts might be communicating through song lyrics. Sharing personal anecdotes, Laura reveals how she initially dismissed these occurrences until a specific song lyric unexpectedly resonated with her internal state. You are encouraged to pay attention to song lyrics...
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AFGO: Embracing Growth Opportunities
Join Laura as she introduces the concept of AFGO - Another F-ing Growth Opportunity, that she picked up from other students during her IFS training. Learn how to reframe triggers as opportunities for healing and personal growth, and discover the empowering shift in perspective that comes with...
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Do You Live in Judgy McJudgeville?
Join Laura as she talks about judgment and how it impacts not only our external relationships but also our internal relationships amongst our Parts. P.S. You're not alone if you do live in Judgy McJudgeville.
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Adding “What if….” to your Affirmations
Join Laura for a transformative tip on affirmations that involves a simple addition: "What if..." Inspired by a workshop with Mary Ayers, this technique challenges our tendency to spiral into negative "what if" questions. In today's episode, she invites you to incorporate "What if" into your...
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Affirmations Yay or Nay?
Join Laura as she explores the world of affirmations, those powerful, positive phrases that can reshape our self-perceptions. Notable figures like Jennifer Lopez and Michelle Obama have championed affirmations, highlighting their potential. Delving into her own inner world, Laura reflects on a…
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Feelings vs. Judgments
Join Laura in revisiting her 2023 recommendation of "The Loving Parent Guidebook," a fusion of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and 12-Step wisdom, celebrated for its tips on nurturing dialogue within your inner family. This week she invites you to explore the topic of Feelings vs. Judgments. She…
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Valentine’s Day - What Do Your Parts Think of this Hallmark Holiday?
Laura invites you to embrace your current feelings and reflect on Valentine's Days of the past, from childhood to the present, and society's perception of this Valentine's Day. Get ready to practice Laura's Triple A's – Acknowledge, Accept, and Appreciate – as you dive into the meditation…
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When Coping Skills Vanish: Navigating Life's Challenges with Resilience
Join Laura on this episode as she explores the world of retail therapy and the surprising journey it took her on. From the rollercoaster ride of the second half of 2023 to the disappearance of her trusted coping mechanisms, she shares how she found solace in the unexpected joy of junk journaling....
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Navigating Pain: Harm Reduction, Transfer Addictions, and Retail Therapy
Laura opens up about her personal journey through a season of loss, revealing three essential goals she set for herself: maintaining sobriety in both food and alcohol, and staying connected with her internal Parts. Candidly sharing her experience, Laura reflects on the unexpected role of "retail...
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STERBS and Firefighters, oh my!
Join Laura in this podcast episode, where she unveils the dynamic interplay between STERBS (Short-Term Energy [or Emotional]-Relieving Behaviors) and IFS (Internal Family Systems) Firefighters. Laura extends an invitation, free of shame or blame, encouraging listeners to understand the moments…
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Got Grief?
Tune in to this poignant podcast episode with Laura as she courageously addresses the often overlooked topic of grief. Delving into the Grief Recovery Method, Laura shares her personal journey navigating a season of loss, unraveling three key learnings that emerged from the process. Gain valuable...
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Understanding Your Emotions: Chemically your emotions run through you in less than 90-seconds.
Join Laura in this podcast episode as she unravels Jill Bolte Taylor's 90-second rule of emotion. Laura delves into the concept, exploring how our emotions chemically only last for just 90 seconds, and the power we hold in choosing how to respond to them. Discover valuable insights on emotional...
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Embracing Acceptance: A Journey Through Resistance
Explore the profound importance of acceptance with Laura in this podcast episode, where she delves into the multifaceted nature of acceptance across various healing modalities. From Kristin Neff's Radical Acceptance work and Internal Family Systems, Laura explores acceptance and how it has…
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New Year, New You??
Listen in as Laura talks about how your Parts might feel about New Years. Are they excited or 'eh? Either way, she'll share some of her past New Year's self-reflection exercises and she tells you how to grab her 2023-2024 Parts Work Journal so you too can reflect on your Parts Work journey.
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Happy Holidays to you and your Parts!
Join Laura as she guides you and your Parts through a quick but effective meditation so you can find out how your internal system feels about the holidays. As always, she knows your time is valuable. Enjoy this quick 10-minute meditation that you can use daily on this upcoming holiday week.
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Ever have life kick you in the gut?
Laura pulls back the curtain on her life and her creative process as she shares with you how life has been very challenging and her top tips for staying connected to her own Internal Family System, i.e. her Parts during the last few difficult months.
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An Update on Laura’s Road Rage Part
Laura's has been quite open about her Road Rage Part. Listen in as she updates you on how she's been working with it since it hijacked her back in the summer. She shares what she's learned about why it gets so triggered, and also how she now works with it to avoid being hijacked. Listen in and…
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Can You ”Just Be”?
Laura chose the phrase "Just Be" for her 2023 Word of the Year. She shares with you what came up in her system when she actually tried "Just Being", and what Parts came up when she talked to other Parts Nerds about it. She'll challenge you to notice how your system reacts, and then get curious...
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The Power of Externalizing Your Parts
Externalizing your Parts is a fabulous way to help you unblend from your Parts. Laura shares with you multiple ways you can externalize your Parts, and encourages you to keep trying different methods until you find one that really resonates to you.
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Exploring Inner Critic Sub Systems
Laura makes no bones about the fact that she loves Inner Critics. She knows they are loathed by other Parts in many peoples' systems, which is what makes her love them so much. And to that point, there is rarely JUST a Critic. There are other common Parts that show up with an Inner Critic. Listen...
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Your Part, Like Everyone, has an opinion. It isn’t necessarily a Fact.
Laura shares how shocked she was when she recently realized that her Part's opinions were not actually facts. The Parts were very convinced of what they said, but when Laura could unblend a bit, she could see their agenda. Listen to to see if you have Parts that present information like it is a...
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Can my Parts be OLDER than me?
A question came in to Laura, "How can a Part be older than me?" Listen in as Laura shares her thoughts on why Parts can appear older than we are and she event tiptoes into the arena of guides.
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Have your heard of W.A.I.T. & W.I.T.?
Have you heard of these two acronyms: W.A.I.T. & W.I.T.? Laura thinks they could be helpful to you in life and in your Parts Work journey.
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Are there Common Parts “Everybody” has?
A question Laura gets is "are their common Parts people have?" Laura shares a list of Parts Jay Earley has identified and gives her own take on those Parts. The truth: yes, there are common Parts people tend to have, but how they show up is unique to you and your lived experience.
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We’re Born With Our Parts
Have you ever wondered where your Parts come from? Laura shares that IFS believes we're all born with our Parts and then talks through how some of them get burdened.
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Working Real Time with Your Parts
Being able to work with your Parts as things are happening in your life is where the rubber meets the road in Parts Work. Laura shares with you two examples, one hers, one Liz Gilbert's of working with your Parts in real-time when they become activated. Listen in!
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When You Can’t Make All Your Parts Happy
We can't always do everything our Parts want us to do. This is particularly true when you have two Parts that want diametrically opposed things. Listen in as Laura walks through how she uses her Triple A's of Acknowledge, Accept, and Appreciate to help her listen to her Parts with compassion and...
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You Don’t Have to Act on Every Thought You Have
It wasn't that long ago that Laura learned this truth: you don't have to act on EVERY thought you have. Laura shares this truth but also talks about being hijacked by a Part, because that is a thing that happens. Listen in to learn more.
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Inquiring Minds Want to Know: ”How many Parts do I have??”
A common question Laura gets is "How many Parts do I have?" Listen in for Laura's spin and how even though she has identified over 150 of her own Parts, she doesn't see them every day.
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Love Languages of your Parts
Laura revisit's Gary Chapman's 1992 best-selling book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. She shares that it didn't really resonate with her back then. But now she understands its because her Parts have differing wants and desires and that includes…
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Creating a Safe Haven for Your Parts - a Guided Meditation
Laura shares a guided meditation based on Joanne Twombley's work to help you create a safe haven for your Parts.
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Potato, Potahto - Getting Schooled on the Word “Blending”
After people clapped back at Laura's use of the word 'blending' with a Part, she looked up the IFS definition in her Training Manual. She discusses how after several conversations with people on the topic, they can agree to disagree about what 'blending' means and if it's "good" or "bad."
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Embrace the Blend
Listen in as Laura discusses the magic of blending with your Parts and embracing their energy. Some folks mistakenly think that the whole point of Internal Family Systems (IFS) is to detach from your Parts and live solely in Self-Energy. But that isn’t true. Our Parts, in their unburdened form,...
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The 9th C of Self-Energy
Did you know that IFS has added a 9th C to the list of Self-Energy Qualities? Exciting, right? Tune in as Laura shares with you the two books that have now added that 9th C and when and how that 9th C evaded her recently in her own life.
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Cultivating a Loving Voice for Your Parts
Laura shares how she's been working to create scripts to help people who struggle with speaking to their Parts from a place of love and compassion. She shares how she's faked it until she's made it and wants to help you too! If you have a situation with your Parts that flummoxes you on how to be...
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How Do You Feel About Emotions?
Are you overwhelmed by complex emotion charges that splinter out into ever larger circles or are pages and pages long? So was Laura. Tune is as she shares a simplified version of an emotion chart she found in "The Loving Parent Guidebook" by ACA. She hopes it resonates with you and your system…
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About this show
Curious about Internal Family Systems and how to consistently work with your Parts in a gentle, compassionate way that helps you feel calmer, happier, and more alive? Listen in as Laura Lively, Certified IFS Practioner, shares tips on building the crucial relationship between Self Energy and Parts.
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