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Nobody Is Doing It Right — 278 episodes
You’re Not Seeking Connection; You’re Seeking Transformation
Let Yourself Be Unrealistic
Your Certainty Might Be Standing in Your Way
Alignment Feels Like Nothing
Aiming Low Won’t Protect You From Shame of Failure
If It Requires You to Over-Function, It Doesn’t Flow
What You Don’t Actually Want Won’t Be Easy to Keep
The Proof You’re Waiting for Can’t Exist Without the Action Taken to Create It
Risk Being Disappointed
You Struggle to Trust Others Because You Don’t Trust Yourself
How to Start Being Authentic
Why You Don’t Feel Desirable
There’s No Answer They Could Give You That’ll Satisfy Your Core Wounds
Simplicity Is the Solution to Self-Sabotage
The Less You Do, the More Incapable You’ll Feel
Let What You Want Find You
Your Fear of Being Annoying Is Holding You Back
Your Fear of Rejection Is Leading to Self-Abandonment
Deep Dive: Self-Trust
When You Don’t Value Yourself, You Overvalue Those Who Don’t Value You
The Desire to Escape Will Always Be There
You’re Not Scared of Succeeding; You’re Scared of Sustaining Your Success
Deep Dive: Intuition
Let Yourself Yearn
Perfectionism as Protection
TikTok Live: Contentment vs. Complacency, Recent Lessons, Conditional vs. Unconditional Love
Don’t Be Too Precious About Your Work
You’re Looking in the Wrong Places for What You Want
Ominous Positivity
The More You Want It, the More Time It Will Take
Is Life Too Heavy, or Are You Just Better Able to Carry Its Weight?
Are You a Bad Person?
Your Avoidance in Relationships Might Be the Same Kind You Experience in Your Creative Practice
Settling for Less Than What You Want Is Ruining Your Self-Trust
To Move Forward, You Sometimes Have to Move Backward
You Don’t Want Them, You Just Want to Practice Devotion
You Know What to Do, Even When You Don’t Know What to Do
Are You Just Using Them to Forget Yourself?
Stop Deciding That Good Things Don’t Happen to You
Maybe This Is Their “Normal”
How I Work Through Burnout and a Loss of Motivation
The Disillusionment of Having What You Said You Wanted
Thinking You Can Know Everything Before You Start Is Self-Deception
The More You Resist It, the More You’ll Fear It
Let Yourself Be Rejected
Your Need for Validation Is Ruining Your Self-Trust
You Have to Mean It
Don’t Confuse the Dream for the Fantasy
Not Trying and Not Getting Will Feel Worse Than Trying and Not Getting
Scarcity Is a Sign They Aren’t Meant for You
Do Too Much
Stop Wasting Your Time Worrying About Timing
You Are Receptive of What You Think You Are
The Fear of Being Seen Taking Things Seriously
Where to Find What You Truly Want
You Won’t Get What You Want if You Aren’t Willing to Want the Sacrifice That Comes Along With It
Stop Using All-Or-Nothing Thinking to Sabotage Yourself
Enjoyment Is a Skill That Needs to Be Practiced
What if You Were the Only Person You Had to Impress?
Effortlessness Isn't a Virtue
What You “Shouldn’t” Do Is Exactly What You Need To Do
You're in a Situationship With Yourself
Your Rigidity Might Be Causing Your Burnout
Maybe You Don't Like Yourself Enough
Sink Your Teeth In: Why You Should Be Self-Indulgent
There's a Reason You Keep Going Back
You’ll Figure It Out Because You Always Do
The Practice Is the Point
Don't Stay Loyal to the Image They Have of You In Their Mind
You Have to Do It Before You Are It
You Saw Them As You Wished They Were
When You Aim Low, You'll Get Exactly What You Aim For
Your Discomfort With Waiting Is Probably Making You Self-Sabotage
Your Fear of Being Seen Trying Is Probably Making You Self-Sabotage
Stop Trying to Fix Yourself by Fixing Others
You Have to Let Yourself Look Ugly to Reach Your Full Potential
Self-Doubt Is a Luxury You Can't Afford
You're Going to Have to Risk It
You Don't Fear Failure, You Fear the Shame You Know You'll Put Yourself Through If You Fail
You're Abandoning Yourself for a Version of Them That Doesn't Exist
Vulnerably Expressing Yourself Shows You That You Deserve to Be Heard
Using Self-Sabotage as a Way to Maintain Control
The Way You Treat Yourself Changes the Way You See Yourself
You'll Never Have Your Life Together...And Maybe That's Okay
Why Do You Resist the Things That Want You?
Why Avoidants Might Sometimes Prefer Limerence
Don't Abandon Yourself By Over-Empathizing With Others
Don't Romanticize the Work
The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of the Avoidant
The Potential You See in Others Is the Potential You Wish Others Would See in You
Avoidance Is a Sign That There's Something About Yourself You Don't Want to See
When You Expect to Hear "No", You'll Stop Asking For What You Want
This Is Exactly What You Wanted
You Exist Outside of Your Own Head
Making It Easy for People to Have Access to You Isn’t an Act of Kindness
If You Don't Decide on Something, Something Will Be Decided for You
Rest Is a Requirement
For Those Who Feel Behind In Life
Failure Only Exists If You Believe It Does
We Show People How We Believe We Deserve to be Treated
Do You Just Want Them to Disprove the Negative Beliefs You Have About Yourself?
How Self-Sabotage Is Tied to the Fear of Abandonment
Risk Losing Them
Show Yourself Examples of What You Want to Achieve
The Struggling Artist Trope Is Ruining Your Creativity (and Life)
You Have to Accept Before You Can Redirect
Constantly Doubting Yourself Is an Act of Disrespect
Aim for Bad
Don't Make Your Identity Sacred
Maybe It's Difficult Because It's Right For You, Not Because It's Wrong For You
Start Being "Undesirable"
The Main Thing That Improved My Creativity
Don’t Fall In Love With Your Potential Projected on to Them
Let Go of People Who Turn You Into Someone You Don’t Want to Be
It’s Supposed to Be “Boring”
Are You Turning People Into Projects Because You Lack Direction?
The Difference Between Intuition and Overthinking
How to Recognize Your Intuition and Implement It
Things Aren’t as Personal as They Feel
The Answer Is Where the Flow Is
You Can’t Control the Outcome; You Can Only Control the Input
Honour Yourself by Aiming Higher Than You Think You Can Attain
Your “Selfishness” Might Just Be a Form of People-Pleasing
What If There Is No Relief to Be Found?
Putting Yourself Out There Is More About Purpose Than Courage
Don't Confuse Questioning With Doubting
Your Intense Fear of Staying Where You Are Is Probably Keeping You Where You Are
If You Make Seeking Contentment Your Purpose You'll Never Actually Find It
Don’t Look For People Who Bring Out the “Best” in You
You Are Not Who You Once Were
Idealizing Them Will (Probably) Make You Act Inauthentically
Grieving the Life You’ll Leave Behind Might Make You Self-Sabotage
You Won't Assume You’ll Get What You Want if You Aren’t Acting Like the Kind of Person Who'd Have It
Stop Ascribing Intention to Their Actions
Communication Is a Tool, Not a Weapon
It’s Okay to Believe Them
Maybe You’re Not Indecisive; Maybe You’ve Just Gotten More Information
Mistakes Are Inevitable; You Get To Decide How You Feel About Them
Share Your Art by First Turning Inward
You Don’t Have to Be Easy for People to Want to Be In Your Life
Every Time You Don’t Do What You Say You’re Going to Do You’re Sacrificing the Person You Want to Be
Look At Your Timing as an Opportunity to Acclimate
Stop Seeking Yourself In Others
It’s Going to Take as Long as It Needs to Take for You to Learn That Lesson
Consume as Much as You Create
Stop Making Promises You Can't Keep
Is the Effort Worth the Outcome?
You Can’t Be Recognized Without Letting Yourself Be Seen
How to ACTUALLY Validate Your Feelings
Stop Looking At It as “Trying”
You Can't Force Good Things Onto People
Your Creative Drive Is a Part of You That Wants to Be Seen and Heard
Not All Good Things Are Difficult to Attain
Are You Resisting Being Desired?
Do It Badly
You Can Just Decide
Your Ruminating Is Making You Experience the Discomfort You're Trying to Avoid
Your Higher Self Is Still Human
You Can Circle Back Around to It
You Have to Be All In to Expect Others to Be All In With You
If It Was Meant to Be It Would Have Been
You Probably Fear Being Seen By Others Because You Fear Seeing Yourself
There Is Nothing Outside of You That Will Save You From Yourself
Why You Should Attach to Intention, Not Expectation
If It Requires That Much Force, Maybe It's Not Meant to Work
Don't Confuse Structure With Rigidity
It's Okay to Accept That You Were Wrong
You Should Work With Your Weaknesses, Not Against Them
Your Struggle Mentality Is Probably Making You Self-Sabotage
It's Not That They're Amazing, It's That You Expected Them to Be (Thoughts On Limerence)
You Need to Have More Audacity
You're Probably Self-Sabotaging Because You're Romanticizing Your Goal
You've Seen What You Needed to See
What You Truly Want Is On the Other Side of the Discomfort You're Willing to Endure
You're People-Pleasing by Not Letting Them Experience the Consequences of Their Actions
You Probably Lack Confidence Because You Lack Purposeful Intention
Start Taking Yourself Seriously
Self-Sabotage and the Fear of Success
Be Comfortable With Not Knowing
Stop Seeking Your Ideal Self In Someone Else
Thinking In Absolutes Is Probably Ruining Your Life
You Have to Grieve Who You Thought They Were
You Can and Will Figure It Out
How to ACTUALLY Love Yourself
Some Thoughts on the Anxiety of Newness and Change
They Don't NEED to Experience Your Love (Anxious Attachment)
There's A Reason It Isn't Making Sense
You Have to Be What You Want to See
There's Nothing You Could Have Done Differently to Make It Work
What You Need to Happen Will Happen as It Needs To (On Acceptance)
Don't Confuse Your Passion for Your Purpose
Let Go of What You Think Is Going to Save You
Stop Entertaining Your Self-Doubt
Stop Deciding for Others In Your Relationships (Avoidant Attachment Style)
You Can Be Compassionate Without Being Complaisant
You Exist Outside Anyone Else's Perception of You
Make Your Desire Your New Normal
You Have to Just Do That Embarrassing/Cringey Thing
Lean Into Change, Especially When It Challenges Your Identity
You Don't Have to Earn the Right to Feel Good
Why You Should Start Being Inconvenient
Why Avoidants Might Care About You and Still Pull Away
Rejection Is a Good Thing
If You Don't Know What You Want, You'll Accept Whatever You Get
It's About What You Think About What They Think of You
Rambling About Surrendering and Letting Go
Are You Choosing Yourself?
Pivoting Is Painful, But Necessary
Wanting to Give Up Might Be a Sign You're on the Right Path
Do You Show Yourself That You Matter?
Life Is Too Short for Uncertainty
You Are Where You Once Wished You'd Be
Finding Flow State In Your Everyday Life
The Similarities Between Your Relationship with Money and Love
Maybe You Just Want the Struggle, Not That Person or Achievement
What if You Are Good Enough Exactly as You Are?
All You Need to Do Is Show Up
Let People Surprise You
Whatever You Think You Are, You're Right
If They Wanted to They Would?
Choose to Make People Dislike You
It's Not About You, It's About What You Represent to Them
Your Assumptions Are Hurting Your Own Feelings
Don't Give More Than You Want to Give
You're Human and That's Okay!
Accepting Things for What They Are
When Was the Last Time You Congratulated Yourself?
What You Don't Release You Repeat
You Won't Get What You Want Until You're Ready for It
Having Respect for Your Future Self
Resistance Is Revealing
A Compassionate Reframing of Love Bombing
It's Time You Start Risking Vulnerability
Release Desperation by Tapping Into That Feeling
Romanticizing Someone Might Mean You Just Like Yourself
Let Yourself Be Misunderstood
You Have to Become the Person You Fear Most to Get to Where You've Never Been
It Had to Happen That Way
Aim Low and Avoid Disappointment
The Dark Side of Personal Growth
People Pleasing and the Fear of Abandonment
Maybe It's Not a Spark; Maybe They're Just Activating Your Childhood Wounds
Developing Self-Worth and What Self-Love Actually Looks Like
Validation Vampires
Are You Taking Yourself TOO Seriously?
Getting It Done Is Better Than Getting It Perfect
Don't Fall Into the Trap of Trying to Define Yourself
Maybe You’re Not Lazy, Maybe You Just Don’t Like What You’re Doing
The Importance of Taking Up Space
Your Comfort Zone Will Kill Who You Are Meant to Be
How to Get the Courage to Start Expressing Yourself
Why You Shouldn't Take Things Personally
Obsession and What It Might Say About Your Relationship to Yourself
A Realistic Reframing of Manifestation (Spoiler: It all comes back to self-trust)
Fear of Attention and Taking Yourself Seriously
Capitalism Might Be My Villain Origin Story
The Importance of Backing Yourself Up and 4 Ways to Start
Feeling Unseen (+ podcast rebranding)
Do You Feel Like You're Running Out of Time?
When You're Scared to Share Your Art + Updates On My Creative Journey
A Non-Hustle Culture Way to Create Habits and Stick to Them
A Little Life Update (Burnout, Seeking Pleasure, Career Pivots)
Your Art Is Worthy
On Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Them
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Breaks Are Important...Who Would Have Thought?
Some Good News
On Feeling Uninspired
When Things Don't Go As Planned
Motivation
My Writing Journey
Accountability
Procrastination
Bad Habits To Avoid As A Creative
Insecurity
Pivoting In Your Creative Journey
Dealing with Unsupportive Ideologies
Being a Creative Is Hard