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The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast — 188 episodes
Sex Addiction damage to the Couple needs proactive Repair
Got to, got to start to like myself; even to Love myself
Sex Addict - You really are not as bad as you think you are
Sex Addict - Does life keep changing you!
Sex Addict....more of this thing called Life Stage Changes
Sex Addict - Self soothing through Life Stage changes?
"No way - I would never trash my own 'Values' over trivial conflicts - would I?"
Sex Addict - "I am not a Passive-Aggressive by my behaviours!" - Part 2
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Sex Addict - "I am not a Passive-Aggressive by my behaviours!"
Sex Addiction may mean the true YOU never fully evolved and got ambushed
As a sex addict - do you really know you?
The world's finest Apple - who me?
Sex addicts - say it all in poetry!
"Cheeky Brain - What do you mean you were offline when I did...."
NARCISSISM versus EMPATHY
Sex Addict - you're so Narcissistic!
Sex Addict - are you genuinely at 'ACTION' - on the 'STAGES OF CHANGE'?
What's love got to do with it - Sex Addict?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): What's that!
Sex Addiction partner, you are so childish!
Sex Addict - I said "I do", but you didn't...
So partner - is that really how I chose you?
Partner - "How come I chose you as my Partner?"
Sex Ed from 'Peers, Banter & Porn' is very common and normative
Sex Addicts - women do it too - and maybe with increased SHAME!
Men & porn - tut, tut, tut. Women & romantic novels - what's the problem!
Sex Addict - you determine Sobriety perimeters
Sex Addict - fight right battles or plead 'Conscientious Objector'
Sex Addict - Asian "Shame" is different to European "Shame"
Sex addicts have low self esteem & self worth
Sex addiction beckons for some men who can't fit the version of 'Man-liness'
Sex Addict - has society straight jacketed you - so you turn to self-soothing
Sex Addict - stand up the real authentic you!
Sex Addicts - Big up the women
Sex Addicts - What does it mean to be a man?: Conversations (2)
Sex Addicts - What does it mean to be a man?: Conversations (1)
Sex Addiction does not make me a Narcissist!
Sex Addiction before you even gave permission!
Childhood stuff of Sex Addiction
Children and Sex Addiction - Surely not! (Part 3)
Children and Sex Addiction - Surely not! (Part 2)
Children and Sex Addiction - Surely not! (Part 1)
Sex Addict and effective Communication - do you know these truths?
Sex Addict - The Body tells the truth, more than the trained Brain
Compromised brain communication filtering in Sex Addicts
Not about the nail in my head - men in the dog house!
Sex Addict - 'Communication' is like a tandem bicycle wheel
Effective Communication with you is broken - Sex Addict
Help me see what I cannot yet see
All change - the rug is being pulled again
Couples See-saw of life
Stubborn as a mule - you are - with your Sex Addiction
Repairing the Couple after Sex Addiction damage (Continuation)
Relationship "Pinches" & "Crunches" that hurt (Part 2)
Relationship "Pinches" & "Crunches" that hurt
A Sex Addict's view of relationship highs & lows
Sex Addict and partner choice - same for us all
Sex Addict: "I chose you, then (nearly) destroyed us"
Sex Addiction does serious damage to the couple
Sex/Porn/Love Addiction counselling is specialised Therapy
Sex Addict - first learn Intimacy, Sensuality & Romance, before sex
EMDR for Sex Addicts with unresolved childhood issues
Sex Addiction: Repairing the damaged couple - The Change Process
Repairing the damaged couple post Sex Addiction
HOOK UP CULTURE: The Testosterone trap - facts
HOOK UP CULTURE: The Science and more facts (2)
HOOK UP CULTURE: The Science and more facts
Sex Addicts - Sex Ed that 'Porn & Peers' didn't teach you (3)
Sex Addicts - Sex Ed that 'Porn & Peers' didn't teach you
'Take Homes' for young Sex Addicts (1)
Sex Addicts Relapse Prevention Plan & you are almost there!
Sex Addict - the end is nigh - Don't take your foot off the gas
Sex Addict - plan for lifelong success - not watching for Relapse in the rear view mirror
Sex Addict - Recovery work does not have to be for life, but....
Sometimes you have to just R.U.N for your life - from Sex Addiction
"You're such a liar brain": Who, me? Sex Addiction?
Sex Addicts - your brain is not always your best friend
Negative Core Beliefs sabotage Sex Addiction Recovery
Those with Sex Addiction - Cognitive comes before the behaviour
Triggers are potholes for Porn Addicts
Triggers may be an ally, not a foe - Sex Addiction clients!
Triggers don't play fair in the Sex Addicts world
Sex Addicts - turning off Fight/Flight/Freeze response - ain't an option
More Neuroscience from some very clever clogs - for Sex Addiction folks
Sex Addiction Neuroscience stuff - lush knowledge!....I think!
Brain stuff - that isn't boring for the Porn Addict
Attachment Styles is a big deal in Sex/Porn/Love Addiction
Love Addicts hate themselves - but don't tell
'Insecure Attachment' = Detachment, Rejection, Loss, Let go of - to Sex/Porn/Love Addicts
Sex/Porn/Love Addiction is used to meet depleted Core Emotional Needs
The antidote to Narcissism for Sex Addicts, is Empathy
Narcissistic - who? Not me! - just because of sex Addiction!
SHAME + NARCISSISM = SEX ADDICTION
"SHAME on you" - are particularly triggering, toxic & impactful words to Sex Addicts
Scapegoating can go on for only so long - folks with Sex Addiction!
Don't forget the partner - in the Sex Addiction Recovery Journey
It isn't all about me - this thing of Sex Addiction Recovery
Give back control brain: Then I won't need porn Addiction
Some replacement positive self-soothing Hamster wheel tools for Sex/Porn Addiction
Enhance sobriety by knowing which "Stage(s) of change" you are at in your Sex/Porn/Love Addiction Recovery
Sex & Tech - Slippery slope that ends badly for those with Sex & Porn Addiction
Porn & Sex Addicts re-wire their brain - a little at time
Why those with Sex Addiction are willing to risk such "Harmful Consequences"
"Objectification" is not (for Porn Addicts) about noticing the person, but about....
Porn-Blockers won't stop Porn Addiction viewing, but are essential
Psychosexual issues set up for those with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Many women (worldwide) became addicted to Sex & Porn during covid-19 lock down
"Pinches & Crunches" in Relationships trigger escape into self-soothing with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Couples Counselling at the right stage in the Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery journey
A female client’s "Goodbye letter" to Porn, Sex (or was it more love Addiction)
Society has a view about those identified with Sex, Porn, Love addiction - which mostly is not accurate
Sex, Porn, Love Addiction individuals have enough self-given labels on their forehead without needing extras from society
Sex, Porn, Love Addiction keeps you in a loop - with unresolved past (t)(T)rauma
Those with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour do not love or like themselves
Templates get set up in early life, setting the stage for self-soothing & later on Sex, Porn, Love Addiction enters the stage
Childhood development holds the clues to tracking the setting up of Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Coping Mechanisms unveiled: Exploring the Role of Sex, Porn, Love Compulsive behaviour
Sex, Porn, Love Addiction is indiscriminate between Masculinity & Femininity, but women tend....
Opportunity, Trauma & Attachment: Three ways Sex, Porn, Love Addiction are set up
Not a level playing field for the setting up of Sex, Porn, Love Compulsivity
Deal with trauma before a Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme
Porn use can cause Brain damage
Stand up the real you - when Sex & Porn addiction behaviours beckon
True Sex, Porn, Love Addiction sobriety is not until one year from last Acting out! Discuss
We all need a helping hand in life at some point: Sex, Porn, Love Addiction behaviours needs help
I'm worse than others when it comes to Porn recovery: True or False?
Highest download of porn is during office hours: That's crazy!
Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (2)
Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (1)
Women with 10 plus, lifetime sexual partners have 91% higher risk of breast cancer
Early sexual arousal rate will influence later addiction to porn
Males over perceive a woman's sexual interest, when in fact she is just being nice
Men see promiscuity in a female as a deal breaker when seeking a life-long partner
The younger a female experiences arousal, the greater the number of casual sex partners
Around aged 17, six times the number of males become addicted to porn than young females
Relapse prevention: There should be signs of a reclaimed quality life from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction, without shame and with added colour
Carve out your Safety Plan for maintaining Sex, Porn Love Addiction sobriety and avoid Relapse
Sometimes a Sex, Porn, Love Addiction sobriety day requires that you just R.U.N
Don't believe the lie - during your Sex, Porn, Love Addiction thinking Distortion
Negative CORE BELIEFS about self leads to Sex, Porn Love Addiction self-soothing
Trauma related Triggers: Know yours in Sex, Porn Love Addiction Recovery
Even in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction, Change is a process, not a one time event
EMDR is tussling for its turn - in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Work
Changed cognition/thinking is the first step to changed Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Sex and Porn Addiction is not about porn images
Childhood development has got questions to answer when it comes to Sex, Porn & Love Addiction
Attachment style: I'm not Insecurely ATTACHED at all! How dare you suggest so
Attachment Style: ATTACH(MENT) to me, but not too close; closer, but not that close
Give me my Porn: Fight/Flight/Freeze - there are benefits - not!
Narcissism vs Empathy: in Porn, Sex, Love Addiction
SHAME + NARCISSISTIC TRAITS = SEX ADDICTION
Taking Responsibility - for your choices in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction behaviours
Partners of Sex Addicts cry out: ".....and what about me" (the silent partner affected)
Why do I keep going back to Sex, Porn, Love Addiction? (The Pothole you keep on keeping on falling into)
"My word is my bond", unless Sex, Porn or Love Addiction behaviours beckon
Shame on me! ...and curse you Sex & Porn for...
Shame and healing through EMDR
Find your Safe, Calm, Relaxed, Peaceful place when Triggered - as positive self-soothing behaviours
Beware of the Sabor-toothed Tiger response for avoiding Sex & Porn behaviours
The "Action" toward changing Porn behaviours or are you really only at "Pre-Contemplation"!
Porn Addiction: How did Technological Advancement get us here?
Shift your thinking & protect your heart or porn will get you
Harmful Consequences: The heavy cost of Sex & Porn Addiction
"I wish someone would have told me....": Porn is going to rob me of...
Porn-blockers & The Couple Recovery
Relapse Prevention Tools (2)
Relapse Prevention Tools (1)
Undistort your distorted thinking: Porn isn't telling you the truth
Creating new Thinking, then Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Identifying & Managing your Porn use Triggers
Brain & Brain functioning is necessary knowledge in Sex, Porn & Love Compulsivity
"Attachment" knowledge in porn compulsivity is a must for 90% of us
This thing called "Attachment" and its role in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Unmet Core Emotional Needs & unresolved issues drives a person to Porn & Sex acting out
I can't believe I repeatedly trash my "Values" just to get a Dopamine hit from pornography
Depleted Core Emotional Needs leads to filling the void with Porn, Sex or quest for Love & Affection
Shame + Narcissism = Sex Addiction
Delay the need to immediately gratify your desire to Act Out with pornography
Practical tools for Recovery from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing)
Define your Sobriety
12 Steps Support groups
Your Triggers don't come from nowhere!
This is where it starts! - Sobriety - Your Recovery
Potency of a Feeling State - Verses - Why can't I just stop Porn viewing?
Differentiating Between A Compulsion And An Addiction
You Are Not Your Behaviour - when dealing with hypersexualisation
Uncovering the SHAME of Sex, Porn & Love Addiction behaviours behind closed doors