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The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss — 240 episodes
Loss 66/101: Loss of eyesight: Yahya Pandor
The Grief Toolshed: Telescopic Tree Pruner - find your sharp people
The Grief Toolshed: Swiss Army Knife - using the tools of self-awareness
Graveyard Musings: Wolvercote, Oxford (grave of JRR Tolkien - author of The Lord of the Rings)
The Grief Toolshed: Compost - it's all about balance (& worms)
The Grief Toolshed: The Spade - let's dig deep into grief
Introducing... The Grief Toolshed
New Year, New Loss, New Schedule
Chris & Claire's Chatty Christmas Catch-Up 2025
Australia Update 2: Time flies. And more flies.
Australia Update 1: Distracted by kookaburras
Chris & Claire chat Oz, mini mics, Bin Chickens and a special form
Loss 65/101: Loss of a friend: Hannah Rumsey
Behind the Scenes: How I make a podcast
BLOG REWIND: My Why: Accepting a life I don't want
Let's Chat... Finding hope as a widow (Rachel Powell)
Loss 64/101: Loss of a wife: Richard Smith
The (even more) Silent Why (& the Mediterranean Sea)
Let's Chat... Where does the love go when someone dies (with David Kelly)
Loss 63/101: Loss through chronic illness and lupus: Olivia Abousaid
Chris & Claire's top takeaways from 20 years of marriage
BLOG: My Why: How to build mental muscles when you’re feeling weak
Loss 62/101: Loss through menopause: Diane Danzebrink
Let's Chat... The Adventure of Grief (with Bianca Neumann)
Loss 61/101: Loss of possessions: Naomi Westerman
Let's Chat... Writing and running through grief (with Justin Creps)
101 LOSS COUNTDOWN: 60 down, 41 to go
Let's Chat... How Covid-19 changed death rituals (with Natasha Mikles)
Loss 60/101: Loss in happy life transitions: Bex Eyles
Chris & Claire's Reflections on Christmas & New Year
The (even more) Silent Why (& a storm)
Chris & Claire's Chatty Christmas Catch-Up 2024
Loss 59/101: Loss of a police career and self-worth: Ken Anderson
Let's Chat... Grieving out loud on social media (with Rebecca Feinglos)
Loss 58/101: Loss through precocious (early) puberty: Dannie-Lu Carr
BONUS EPISODE: My talk on grief and hope for All Souls' Day
Loss 57/101: Loss of a husband to suicide while pregnant: Rachel Hart
The (even more) Silent Why (& a forest walk)
Loss 56/101: Loss in the role of a Police Chaplain: Jared Altic
BLOG: My Why: Is grief selfish?
Turning August from bitter, to sweet
Loss 55/101: Loss through a bad/complex death: Kay Backhouse
Graveyard Musings: Moorslede, Belgium
Let's Chat... Life in a hospice (with Maddy Bass & Kay Backhouse)
Loss 54/101: Loss through addiction: Lisa Newman
BONUS EPISODE: Loss 53/101 Part 2: Jonathon & Laura Burns on alopecia, dating and hope through ill health
Loss 53/101: Loss of hair through alopecia: Laura Burns
Loss 52/101: Loss of life for a cardiac surgeon: Mark Field
Loss 51/101: Loss of a dad ('that I don't know if I loved'): Thea Rickard
Graveyard Musings: Llanfair Talhaiarn, Wales
101 LOSS COUNTDOWN: 50 down, 51 to go
Loss 50/101: Loss of a left arm and shoulder: Stephen Downes
Navigating Mother's Day when you're childless... again.
BLOG: My Why: You're not the only one
Let's Chat... Adding colour to funerals (with Jen Watson)
Loss 49/101: Loss of life in an Emergency Department: John Cronin & Catherine Fowler
BLOG: My Why: The story of Herman
New Year, New... Herman!
BLOG: My Why: Know hope
Hopelet 5: Cherish your hope
Hopelet 4: Letting hope be your guide
Hopelet 3: When your hopes are high
Hopelet 2: When your hope is weak
Hopelet 1: When your hope is small
Comfort on Christmas Day
The (even more) Silent Why (& a bleak midwinter piano)
Chris & Claire chat Christmas and Childlessness
BLOG: My Why: Christmas, friend or foe foe foe?
What's on the podcast this Christmas and New Year?
Loss 48/101: Loss through anorexia & orthorexia: Julia Trehane
Let's Chat... Funeral Directing (with Adrianne Hickey)
BLOG: The One Where we say goodbye to Matthew Perry (aka Parasocial Grief)
Loss 47/101: Loss through cumulative grief: Jeanette Koncikowski
BLOG: My Why: Meet my frenemies, the clouds
PODCAST UPDATE: Going fortnightly
Let's Chat... Grief and belief (with Matt McChlery)
Detecting Loss in Detectorists: A British comedy observed
Loss 46/101: Loss through disenfranchised grief and childlessness: Jody Day
Let's Chat... Parenting as a widowed parent (with Jeanette Koncikowski)
The (even more) Silent Why (& Welsh waters)
August can be tricky, so I'm doing it differently this year
BLOG: My Why: Seeing my first dead body
Let's Chat... How to handle grief in the workplace (with Samantha Langford)
Come for a walk around a natural woodland burial site: The Eternal Forest in North Wales
BLOG: My Why: Big wave grieving - how to survive
Wales, work experience, bitey flies, chips and Dave
Let's Chat... Funeral Celebrants II (with Sarah Boalch)
Graveyard Musings: Tyne Cot & Ypres, Belgium
The (even more) Silent Why (& birds)
Loss 45/101: Loss through a late diagnosis of ADHD: Margaret Reed Roberts
Let's Chat... ADHD (with Ned Hallowell)
BLOG: My Why: We’ve all got triggers, but did you know you have glimmers too?
Loss 44/101: Loss through autoerotic asphyxiation: Samantha Langford
Let's Chat... National Child Abuse Prevention Month and Shaken Baby Syndrome (with Michelle Fishpaw)
BLOG: My Why: Accepting a life I don't want
Thank you for not being silent
BLOG: My Why: What happens if I let go?
Loss 43/101: Loss of life for a Funeral Director: Jonathen Harty and Chris Lord-Brown
Navigating Mother's Day when you're childless
Loss 42/101: Loss of possessions in a house fire: Harry Kind
BLOG: My Why: Is there hope in every season?
Let's Chat... Living with loss (with Peter Ellis & Katrina McNamara)
Loss 41/101: Loss without a body: Lisa Kolb Ruland
BLOG: My Why: Let's be love
BLOG: My Why: The season of February
101 LOSS COUNTDOWN: 40 down, 61 to go
Let's Chat... Grieving brains (with Mary-Frances O'Connor)
Loss in Ted Lasso: A sports comedy observed
PODCAST UPDATE: The Silent Fri-days
Loss 40/101: Loss of dreams: Sheridan Voysey
BLOG: My Why: The season of January
Another new year? Why?!!
'Help me find what I need!'
Finding comfort at Christmas
Let's Chat... Food and grief (with Lisa Kolb Ruland)
BLOG: My Why: The art of making everyone welcome
Loss 39/101: Loss of riding a motorbike: Mark Riddles
BLOG: My Why: The season of December
Loss 38/101: Loss of a reality: Mary Turner Thomson
PODCAST UPDATE: The Why Silent?
BLOG: My Why: The season of November
Loss 37/101: Loss through sexual grief: Edy Nathan
Grief in Ghosts: The BBC sitcom observed
Let's Chat... Understanding ourselves better through the Enneagram (with Lori Alcorn)
BLOG: My Why: Hermontage II
Loss 36/101: Loss of a young granddaughter: Greg Williams
BLOG: My Why: Are you lonely?
Loss 35/101: Loss of photos: Chris & Claire Sandys
BLOG: My Why: The season of October
Loss 34/101: Loss of health and life in paediatric patients: Hui-wen Sato
BLOG: My Why: 1 year in: how I created a podcast
Let's Chat... Returning to work after pregnancy loss & infertility (with Jackie Mancinelli)
BLOG: My Why: Feeling the funeral feelings
A funeral observed: Chris & Claire Sandys
BLOG: My Why: Grief is on the heir
Loss 33/101: Loss of a Queen: Chris & Claire Sandys (and friends)
BLOG: My Why: Thank you, Your Majesty
Let's Chat... Back to School Pain (with Elizabeth Leon)
BLOG: My Why: The season of September
Loss 32/101: Loss of physical ability after a stroke: Peter Ellis
BLOG: My Why: A Sky Full of Scars by Coldplay (& Claire)
Let's Chat... Funeral Celebrants (with Evelyn Calaunan)
BLOG: My Why: Why is asking for money so hard?
Loss 31/101: Loss through parenting a child with Angelman Syndrome: Vlad Korotkov & Irina Karaseva
BLOG: My Why: Is your grief soft or spiky?
101 LOSS COUNTDOWN: 30 down, 71 to go
BLOG: My Why: The season of August
Loss 30/101: Loss through Young-Onset Dementia: Jennifer Bute
BLOG: My Why: It's not Me vs You
Let's Chat... Environmental and Ecological Grief (with Dr Kriss Kevorkian)
BLOG: My Why: My biggest fan
Loss 29/101: Loss of a sister to brain cancer: David Richman
BLOG: My Why: Griefstroke - symptoms and remedies
Loss 28/101: Loss through art and the death of a cartoonist: Carol Tyler
My Why: Catch-up, cancer, chemo and eyebrows with Katie Joy Duke
Let's Chat... End of Life and Grief Coaching (with Lis Whybrow)
BLOG: My Why: The season of July
Loss 27/101: Loss of a young father and husband: Clarissa Moll
BLOG: My Why: Sunshine doesn't fix everything
Loss 26/101: Loss of a daughter in a school shooting: Mick North
BLOG: My Why: Living in the good ol' days
Loss 25/101: Loss of a professional accreditation: Lis Whybrow
BLOG: My Why: Garden ramblings
The Podcast Show 2022: London, baby!
BLOG: My Why: The season of June
Let's Chat... Police Chaplains (with Jared Altic)
BLOG: My Why: Hermontage
Loss 24/101: Loss of life for a murder detective: Steve Keogh
BLOG: My Why: Disappointed with life
Loss 23/101: Loss of a husband and best friend: Sasha Bates
My Why: Overview of The Silent Why podcast
Loss 22/101: Loss of a 22-year-old son: Grant Morgan
BLOG: My Why: The season of May
Loss 21/101: Loss of childhood: Alicia Williams
My Why: National Infertility Awareness Week
101 LOSS COUNTDOWN: 20 down, 81 to go
BLOG: My Why: Think or swim
Let's Chat... Self Awareness (with Katie Elliott)
BLOG: My Why: God: heartless or heartbroken?
Loss 20/101: Loss of veterans to suicide: Shaun Johnson
PODCAST UPDATE: The Silent Wife
BLOG: My Why: The season of April
Loss 19/101: Loss of a newborn baby: Elizabeth Leon
Graveyard Musings: Gloucestershire, England [Part 3]
Loss 18/101: Loss of a full term baby: Katie Joy Duke
Graveyard Musings: Gloucestershire, England [Part 2]
Loss 17/101: Loss of multiple pregnancies: Lori Alcorn
Graveyard Musings: Gloucestershire, England [Part 1]
Loss of a baby: Series Intro
BLOG: My Why: The season of March
Let's Chat... PTSD (with Dr Colleen Crary)
BLOG: My Why: To every thing there is a season
Loss 16/101: Loss of self through parenting a young child with cancer: Diana Tohar
BLOG: My Why: Warning: No trigger warnings
Loss 15/101: Loss of a dream career: Maurillia Simpson
BLOG: My Why: Without a Claire in the world
Loss 14/101: Loss of a pet: Chris & Claire Sandys
BLOG: My Why: How to talk to the grieving
Loss 13/101: Loss of a family: Alina Mavis
BLOG: My Why: If hearts were on sleeves
Let's Chat... Mortality (with Sue Brayne)
BLOG: My Why: Permission to grieve
Loss 12/101: Loss of a species: John Platt
BLOG: My Why: Living in the bittersweet
Loss 11/101: Loss of worldly beauty: Virginia Solomons
BLOG: My Why: When did we all get so fearful?
PODCAST UPDATE: The Silent Why in 2022
BLOG: My Why: Know hope
Hopelet 5: Cherish your hope
Hopelet 4: Letting hope be your guide
That weird time between Christmas and New Year
Hopelet 3: When your hopes are high
Hopelet 2: When your hope is weak
Hopelet 1: When your hope is small
BLOG: My Why: A weary world rejoices
Chris' loss of Christmas Spirit
BLOG: My Why: Christmas: friend or foe foe foe?
101 LOSS COUNTDOWN: 10 down, 91 to go
BLOG: My Why: What's the worst thing about grief?
Loss 10/101: Loss of a young son: Anna Whiston-Donaldson
BLOG: My Why: Where's the rest?
Loss 9/101: Loss of skin: Assya Shabir
BLOG: My Why: Flipping the script on comparison
Loss 8/101: Loss of being a daughter: Melissa Bright
BLOG: My Why: Meet my friend, the Moon
Loss 7/101: Loss of a dad: Hannah Moger
BLOG: My Why: Lost inside: Where am I? (my experience with PMDD)
Loss 6/101: Loss of a brother to mental illness: Trevor Griffiths
BLOG: My Why: Hello Darkness, my new friend
Loss 5/101: Loss of a front tooth: Emily Rodger
BLOG: My Why: The Autumn Fall
Loss 4/101: Loss of a right arm and shoulder: Dan Richards
BLOG: My Why: Guard your heart, not just your hair
Loss 3/101: Loss of fertility: Chris & Claire Sandys (Part 2)
BLOG: My Why: What is loss?
Loss 3/101: Loss of fertility: Chris & Claire Sandys (Part 1)
Loss 2/101: Loss of both parents to dementia: Katie Elliott
Loss 1/101: Loss of a marriage: Sue Brayne
What's your Herman?
Introducing The Silent Why...