Sex in Space

On this episode of the podcast, Tim chatted with board certified urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman about all things men’s health, including the health of your penis. Dr. Pearlman specialises in male sexual and hormonal health, and is fellowship trained in male genitourinary reconstruction, male infertility, and prosthetics. Although she is trained as a surgeon, Dr. Pearlman’s primary mission is to educate people on the basics of their bodies, encourage healthy behaviours to optimise health and help people live their most authentic lives. Together, Tim and Dr. Pearlman spoke about:  Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor How testosterone impacts men’s health Her health tip for young men How much growth you can get from penile filler, and why men get it Advice for men looking to get penile filler And more.  You can find more of Dr. Amy here: https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro. 00:55 – What does Dr Amy Pearlman do? 04:35 – Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor.  09:00 – How testosterone impacts men’s health. 16:09 – Why do men get penile enhancement?  24:18 – How much growth can you get from penile filler? 27:16 – What does a ‘normal’ penis look like – does it even exist?  31:36 – Why Dr Pearlman doesn’t start the conversation talking about penis size.  33:34 – Does filler show up more when the penis is flaccid or erect?  39:39 – Advice for men looking to get penile filler. 42:40 – What makes Dr Pearlman’s practice different.  46:59 – Where to find more about Dr Pearlman. -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Jocelyn Silva to talk all things sexual shame. Jocelyn grew up in a conservative, Spanish-speaking Catholic home in Los Angeles, California. She attended Catholic school, went to weekly confession, and dreamed of becoming a nun at 16 - her entire world revolved around faith. But that faith also taught her to see her body and desires as sinful, leaving her ashamed and feeling disconnected from herself. When she was 18 and had sex for the first time, this sent her on a different journey. By 21, Jocelyn was a sex educator. She earned a degree in Gender and Women’s Studies, ran a sexual wellness boutique for 4 years, and later completed her Master’s in Social Work. Over 15 years in this field and now 6 years coaching women, men, and couples, she’s learned that our sexuality is not something to be ashamed of – it’s where our power lives. Together, Toshi and Jocelyn discussed:  Jocelyn’s journey from wanting to be a nun, to becoming a sex expert How she unlearned sexual shame (and how you can too) Tips for feeling more confident speaking your desires in the bedroom Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip (and it’s not communication) How Jocelyn reconnected with her faith The conversation you need to be having early on in your relationship Find more of Jocelyn here: https://www.jocelynsilva.com/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro  00:46 – How Jocelyn's life plan went from nun, to sex expert 02:42 – Jocelyn's journey unlearning sexual shame 04:34 – The early messages around sex that follow us into adulthood 06:27 – Tips for unlearning sexual shame 11:56 – How to feel more confident expressing your sexual desires as a woman 18:37 – Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip 22:04 – What Jocelyn learned from being a cheater 24:33 – How to sit in discomfort  32:08 – How Jocelyn relearned faith 34:55 – Why you need clarity before a sexual experience  38:22 – The conversation you should have early on in your relationship 41:45 – Where to find more of Jocelyn Silva -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Sanja Zündorf, the founder of entzück dich selbst. For a long time, Sanja thought she was the only woman who masturbated – it wasn’t something she spoke about with her friends, even though they were very open in talking about sex. She began researching this topic in 2019 and realised how many women know very little about their bodies, as well as how many women are ashamed of masturbating, and the way they masturbate. Sanja found in her survey that rubbing against pillows was a very popular method of masturbation but also associated with a lot of shame. Her mission is all about destigmatising masturbation and one of the ways she does this is by designing and selling a collection of sex toys specifically designed for pillow humping.  In this episode, Toshi and Sanja spoke about:  Practical tips for how you can start to feel less shame about masturbation Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act How the language we speak can shape our feelings towards our bodies and pleasure And why your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!).  Find Sanja and her work here: https://entzueckdichselbst.com/de Check out Sanja on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/entzueckdichselbst/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro. 00:58 – Who is Sanja and what does she do?  01:51 – What makes Sanja’s sex toy different to others on the market?  04:09 – Unpacking shame: Sanja’s early relationship with masturbation. 06:54 – How Sanja helps others feel okay about self-pleasure. 08:49 – How to feel less shame about masturbation. 11:35 – Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act. 14:42 – What do people think of pillow humping saddles?  21:06 – Why this sex toy is a self-love statement. 22:24 – How our language can contribute to our shame around masturbation.  30:09 – The importance of teaching kids the anatomically correct terms for their body parts 31:20 – Where you can see the saddles in person.  35:59 – Is using a phallic toy feminist?  39:12 – Your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!). 45:15 – Where you can find more about Sanja and her work (and how you can participate).  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Hollie McNish, an award-winning poet, writer and performer. Together they had a conversation Hollie’s latest book, ‘Virgin’. It's a six-letter word that holds such incredible power - the power to pressure, to judge, to harm, to praise, to profit, to punish. But virginity is also just a concept, a label that has been pressed upon people for centuries in numerous cultures worldwide. In ‘Virgin’, Hollie McNish unpicks the role this word has played in her own life, as well as others. 00:00 – Intro  01:04 – Who’s Hollie McNish? – Why you need to know!  01:41 – What inspired Hollie to write ‘Virgin’?  05:29 – What’s virginity got to do with purple carrots?  08:22 – The problem with ‘body count’.  12:54 – What does it mean to be sexy? 28:16 – How media shapes the way we think, feel and see the world.  34:11 – We can stop apologising!  41:07 – Social media’s not all bad – here's why.   45:43 – The ways we make love in real life.  49:25 – Time to get comfortable talking about sex, and why.  56:21 – Where to find Hollie and her work.  Check out Hollie here:https://www.holliepoetry.com/https://www.instagram.com/holliepoetry/?hl=enFind 'Virgin' here:https://www.bookbaruk.com/product-page/virgin-by-hollie-mcnish-----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Willis Austin Chimano, known simply as Chimano, is formally a key member of Africa’s biggest band Sauti Sol. Hailing from Nairobi Kenya, Chimano, through the frequency of grace, love and discernment now embarks on a solo career designed to set the world on fire through his music, product lines and advocacy.  Chimano is celebrated for his deep baritone voice, dynamic stage presence, and distinct fashion sense. His first solo EP "Heavy is the Crown" highlights Chimano's vocal prowess and his ability to blend different musical styles, including pop, soul, and electronic influences. The EP has been well-received by fans and critics alike, noting Chimano's bold step in expressing his individuality and exploring new artistic territories.  Chimano is known for his bold fashion choices, often seen in flamboyant and stylish outfits that challenge traditional norms. He has been an advocate for self-expression and individuality, inspiring many fans to embrace their unique identities. In a landmark moment for his personal life and the LGBTQ+ community in Kenya, Chimano publicly came out as gay in 2021. His openness about his sexuality has been a significant step toward breaking down barriers and challenging societal norms in a region where LGBTQ+ rights are often underrepresented. Chimano's influence extends beyond music. His advocacy for self-expression and his courage in sharing his personal journey have made him a role model for many. Through his solo work, he continues to inspire and entertain, leaving a lasting impact on the African music scene and beyond. Find more of Chimano here: https://www.willischimano.com/ Check him out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willis.chimano/?hl=en We asked Chimano which song he’d like us to play alongside this podcast episode. Here is ‘Beautiful Day,’ his song of choice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DICz0wi8RU  Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro 00:36 – Who is Chimano?  01:54 – Being a part of Sauti Sol  04:15 – Chimano’s experience of coming out publicly 12:40 – Rethinking his identity as an artist 21:13 – The importance of a positive mindset and how to achieve it  26:43 – Reflecting on your Chimano’s childhood relationship with music 34:30 – Chimano's message to young queer people in Africa 37:29 – What’s next for Chimano 42:23 – Outro -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Issy from Our Streets Now to talk about why showing Adolescence in schools isn’t a good idea – as well as some alternatives. Our Streets Now is a UK based organisation that is looking to end public sexual harassment. It was founded in 2019 by two teenage sisters, sharing how they experienced the world as young women. They spoke about feeling afraid walking home at night. About being harassed in their school uniform. About how their lives were restricted by the fear of public sexual harassment. And about how this was an everyday reality for millions of women, girls and people of marginalised genders up and down the country. They began a petition to make public sexual harassment (PSH) a criminal offence. Within 100 days, that petition had over 100,000 signatures. It now sits at almost half a million. It caught the attention of local media, then national media, then policymakers at the heart of government. And, in 2023, the five year campaign to make PSH a crime was a success.  Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 00:55 – What is Our Streets Now and what do they do? 03:20 – All about the workshops run by Our Streets Now about sexual harassment 07:06 – How different genders respond differently to these workshops 10:23 – How to get students involved in difficult conversations about sexual harassment  13:43 – What do young people want to know?  18:40 – How we are all part of the problem 25:24: The ‘little and often’ approach – and why it’s so useful 26:54 – Should Adolescence be shown in schools as a learning resource?  31:14 – The alternative to showing Adolescence in schools 34:25 – How can parents and carers support these conversations?  37:41 – Issy's message to young people  39:13 – Where to find out more about Our Streets Now 40:50 – Conclusion  Find out more about Our Streets Now: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/ Our Streets Now support: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/support  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi spoke with Mistress Sofia, the UK’s oldest dominatrix. Together they had a conversation about what it means to be a dominatrix, how Mistress Sofia got into this work, common misconceptions and what she’s learned in her time being a dominatrix. Check out more of Mistress Sofia here: https://www.mistress-sofia.co.uk/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro  00:47 – Who is Mistress Sofia?  01:20 – What does it mean to be a dominatrix? 02:12 – How did Mistress Sofia get started in this work? 04:05 – Why does Mistress Sofia not use the world ‘client’?  05:03 – How do people serve Mistress Sofia?  06:58 – Is Mistress Sofia a sex worker? 08:48 – “I always ask what their kinks are” 10:06 – Caning is not as simple as it looks 12:16 – For new dominatrixes: learn from Mistress Sofia 13:20 – What does it mean to be dominant? 14:58 – Mistress Sofia on confidence 16:24 – “You cannot do this for the money” 17:23 – What does Mistress Sofia love about her job?  19:13 – What is a lifestyle slave? 20:19 – When did Mistress Sofia realise she was dominant?  21:59 – Mistress Sofia’s message to women 23:14 – How does being 75 impact her work? 24:54 – Is seeing a dominatrix while you’re in a relationship considered cheating?   27:00 – Why seeing a dominatrix can be a kind of therapy  29:30 – Navigating shame 33:07 – Final thoughts 34:58 – Mistress Sofia’s thoughts on findoms 36:16 – Why Mistress Sofia doesn’t work with women 36:44 – Goals for the future 37:59 – Where to find more of Mistress Sofia -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to have a conversation with Will Adolphy, a former manosphere insider turned therapist. Will is a psychotherapist, educator, and speaker specialising in men’s mental health, masculinity, and emotional wellbeing. He leads M-Path, delivering talks and workshops to schools across the UK on masculinity, empathy, and the online world influencing boys. Will also hosts regular online parent + staff sessions for anyone interested in understanding the manosphere and how to approach conversations with boys more deeply.  Find him on Instagram @psychwill. Check out Will’s website here: https://www.willadolphy.com/.  Trigger warning: mention of rape, suicide. In this episode, we discuss:  Will’s story: how he was drawn into the manosphere and why online masculinity influencers attract young men. The scale of the issue: why this content is so widespread and influential. Inside the manosphere: Will’s experience with anti-feminist, anti-woke spaces. Engaging young men: how we can create safer, more open conversations about masculinity. A deeper problem: the manosphere as a symptom of society’s lack of support for men. Recovery steps: from self-empathy to accountability partners and honest dialogue. Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 01:02 – Who is Will Adolphy? 03:06 – What drew Will to online masculinity influencers and why are they so appealing to young men and boys? 10:07 – How big is this issue?  12:05 – Will's experience of the manosphere 14:51 – How can we engage young men in this conversation? 17:31 – The manosphere isn’t the problem: it’s a symptom of the problem 19:00 – The difficulty of opening up as a man  21:22 – How was Will impacted by this masculinity content?  26:29 – The importance of having empathy for yourself 28:27 – What created the big shift for Will  33:53 – Will's step by step process for recovery 38:08 – How to find an accountability partner 39:45 – The importance of having open conversations 48:44 – What Will would want his younger self to know 53:34 – How do we become men? 58:36 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this conversation, Daniel Guinness, co-founder and managing director of Beyond Equality, discusses the importance of engaging young boys and men in conversations about gender equality and mental health. He talks about his personal journey into this work, the organisation’s initiatives, and the impact of their programs on the boys and men who participate. Daniel emphasises the need for safe spaces for discussion, the importance of reframing how we see rejection, and advice for men who are trying to make new friends after a move.  TW: mention of self-harm. Check out Beyond Equality here: https://www.beyondequality.org/ Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond_equality  Timestamps:  00:00 - Intro 00:56 – Who is Dan Guinness and how did he get started in this space?  08:28 – What does Beyond Equality do and who do they work with?  12:56 – How do boys and men of different ages respond to these conversations? 15:22 – Working with a men's pie-making group 16:47 – Why you can’t do Beyond Equality’s work via powerpoint or podcast 19:06 – How do boys and men feel about Beyond Equality’s workshops? 24:33 – How societal structures prevent us from connecting with others 25:41 – Talking with boys and men who are resistant to these topics 31:26 – Why it’s a good thing to change your mind 32:37 – What has Dan learned from this work? 39:17 – Advice for young men trying to create friends after a move 46:38 – Reframing rejection for men  50:57 – Dan's message to young men – you're not the only one 52:55 – How you can support Beyond Equality -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode, we were lucky enough to talk with Christopher Stephens and Louise Radnofsky, authors of ‘The Light of Day: The first man to come out at the dawn of gay liberation.’ This book is the story of the first man to come out voluntarily, using his own name, to the entire British public.  Toshi had a conversation with Christopher and Louise about Roger’s story and why he decided to come out publicly to all of Britain, as well as Christopher’s relationship to Roger. They also discussed why so many stories from gay men during this period have been lost, the similarities between the way that society treated gay and blind people at this time, the importance of intergenerational friendships amongst queer people, and Christopher and Louise’s take on what makes a life important.  Find a copy of the book here: geni.us/TheLightOfDay Follow Christopher here: https://www.instagram.com/cwbstephens/ Check out Louise here: https://www.instagram.com/louiseradnofsky/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:45 – Intro to Christopher and Louise 02:36 – What is the book ‘The Light of Day’ about?  05:35 – Deciding on how these stories would be woven together 08:16 – How have people responded to the book so far?  10:40 – Do you know Raymond Gregson or Robert G. Moorcroft?  12:58 – Why have so many stories from gay men during this time been lost?  15:25 – What was it like for Christopher to read letters from Roger after his death? 18:44 – The similarities between society’s treatment of gay and blind people 21:51 – Intergenerational friendships amongst queer people 27:29 – The special nature of this audiobook 30:52 – Why did Roger Butler decide to come out publicly to all of Britain?  36:13 – Why you should read ‘The Light of Day’ 39:49 – Reflecting on changes in law and society when it comes to homosexuality 43:17 – Where can you find a copy of ‘The Light of Day’?  45:26 – What makes a life important?  48:54 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we’re really excited to bring you a conversation with Marco Berger, an Argentinian film-maker, for a conversation about one of his latest works, which is the queer romcom ‘The Astronaut Lovers’.  Together, Tim and Marco discuss why Marco never reads reviews, what it means to follow your dreams, and why he believes cinema is an illusion. They also talk about his next project, his creative process and advice for upcoming filmmakers. Whether you’re a filmmaker yourself, a dreamer, or just curious about queer cinema that challenges norms, this episode is for you. Find more of Marco Berger here: https://www.instagram.com/marcobergercine/?hl=en Explore his films on Mubi: https://mubi.com/en/cast/marco-berger Read about Marco and ‘The Astronaut Lovers’ in The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/mar/26/director-marco-berger-interview-queer-romcom-the-astronaut-lovers  Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer and intro 01:41 – What inspired ‘The Astronaut Lovers’? 07:44 – Why Marco doesn't read reviews about his films 14:02 – Why you should always follow your dreams 16:52 – Why the cinema is a lie 21:56 – Can you separate the artist from the art?  23:37 – Marco's next project 27:07 – All about Marco’s creative process  32:24 – Where can you watch ‘The Astronaut Lovers’?  39:51 – Advice for upcoming filmmakers 45:26 – Final thoughts and where you can find Marco -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Jane and Dr Bonnie Comfort explore what makes love last - from managing desire, resentment, and mismatched expectations to unpacking how porn, childhood, and power dynamics shape our relationships. They discuss why falling in love is easy but staying in love takes daily effort, how to navigate conflict with humor, and what a real apology looks like. Plus, we look at the surprising lessons from ‘Babygirl,’ why people watch porn for more than just pleasure, and whether marriages are truly meant to last. Dr. Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. Her novel, “Denial,” a psychological thriller from Simon & Schuster, was published in eight countries and translated into five languages. As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts like Terrence Real, David Schnarch, John Gottman, and Marty Klein. She currently lives in Portland, Oregon, with her long-time partner, Douglas Covey, MD.Find out more about Dr. Bonnie at http://bonniecomfort.com. Check out her book, ‘Staying Married is the Hardest Part’: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/staying-married-is-the-hardest-part-bonnie-comfort/1146385315  Timestamps 00:00 – Trailer 00:38 – Why falling in love is easy, but staying in love is a daily practice 05:41 – Can you change your partner? 08:07 - Managing different desires  11:51 - How our expectations of sex and bodies are shaped by porn  16:35 - Why do people watch porn?  18:53 - What ‘Babygirl’ can teach us about sex and relationships 21:24 - How to work through resentment in a relationship 24:15 - How do childhood experiences impact our relationships?  28:46 – Understanding power imbalances in a relationship 32:25 - How do you know if a relationship needs work, or is fundamentally broken? 35:14 - This is the formula for a great apology 37:19 - Recovering from affairs in a relationship 39:46 - Are marriages meant to last?  43:18 – Here's something a therapist wants you to know 44:25 - What Dr Bonnie wishes was included in sex ed 46:42 – Dr Bonnie’s sexiest song  47:20 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we had a conversation with Professor Clare McGlynn, a law professor and expert on violence against women and girls, about image-based sexual abuse.  In this episode, we discuss: What image-based sexual abuse is and why you should use this term rather than ‘revenge porn’ Who is impacted by image-based sexual abuse The role of Google and tech platforms in the rise of deepfake sexual abuse Where to seek help if you’re a victim, and what you can do if you’re worried someone might share your nudes Why deepfake detection tools work better on images of men And what you can do as a listener to support this work  Clare McGlynn is a Professor of Law at Durham University in the UK, with expertise in the legal regulation of sexual violence, pornography and online abuse, particularly cyberflashing and image-based sexual abuse (taking, creating and sharing intimate images without consent). She works closely with policy-makers, victim-survivors and the voluntary sector to shape law and policy reforms, as well as with social media and other companies to improve their policies. In 2020, Clare was appointed an Honorary KC (King’s Counsel) in recognition of her work championing women’s equality in the legal profession and shaping new criminal laws on extreme pornography and image-based sexual abuse.  Find more of Professor Clare McGlynn here: https://www.claremcglynn.com/ Find her on social: https://bsky.app/profile/claremcglynn.bsky.socialhttps://www.instagram.com/claremcglynn_/https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-mcglynn-32b898238/Check out the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign here: https://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/new-campaign-experts-call-for-image-based-abuse-law/ Sign the petition to stop image-based abuse: https://chng.it/dgY7sbkqTP  Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer  00:27 – How Clare McGlynn got into this work 01:50 – Revenge porn vs image-based sexual abuse 03:10 – Who is most at risk? 04:11 – The invisible threat of image-based sexual abuse 06:01 – What laws are in place to protect against this?  08:33 – How tech platforms have contributed to the rise of deepfake sexual abuse 12:10 – The conversations we need to be having with young people 13:55 – About the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign 16:33 – What to do if you’re a victim of image-based sexual abuse 18:40 – Why have we been so slow to address this issue? 21:12 – What Clare wants you to understand about image-based sexual abuse 23:27 – Why we should stop calling it ‘deepfake porn’ - and what to say instead 27:00 – Why deepfake detection tech works better on images of men 30:18 – What you can do as a listener to help support this work 31:31 – Positive accomplishments in this work 33:09 – Do this if you’re worried someone might share your nudes 34:59 – Conclusion  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate Muir is a women’s health expert and campaigner, documentary maker, and author of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’, as well as groundbreaking books on the menopause and the pill. We had a conversation about: Why HRT has such a bad reputation - and why it's actually a wonder drug for womenTips for advocating for your health needs with a doctorVaginal estrogen, and why it's like Chanel for your vulvaAdvice for regaining sexual confidenceWomen and wine (and Kate's personal story)How age bias impacts womenAnd more. The smart guide that every midlife woman needs to read … ‘A midlife crisis is a magnificent moment, and nobody should miss out on it. We need to reframe this time of questioning for a new generation of women who want to revive and thrive for longer. We must reclaim the midlife crisis from madmen with red sports cars - and make the space our own.’  Kate’s investigations into women’s health ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause’ and ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Pill’ are out in paperback. She pitched and produced two award-winning menopause documentaries, ‘Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause’ and ‘Sex, Mind and the Menopause’ for Channel 4 current affairs, which ignited a massive menopause conversation in the UK. Her most recent documentary was ‘Pill Revolution’ investigating contraceptive chaos. Kate was chief film critic of The Times for seven years, and is the author of three novels. She is an expert public speaker on women’s health, the menopause and contraception, and an activist for The Menopause Charity.  Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ Grab a copy of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ which is out TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/books/How-to-Have-a-Magnificent-Midlife-Crisis/Kate-Muir/9781398525504  Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer 00:43 – Who is Kate Muir? 01:32 – Kate’s latest book: ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ 05:27 – Why does HRT have such a bad reputation? 08:35 – What you really need to know about HRT and its long-term health impacts 13:30 – Tips for advocating for your needs with a doctor 16:34 – Vaginal estrogen: Chanel for your vulva 21:33 – How to regain sexual confidence 23:04 – Why testosterone is so important for women 26:30 – Digital detox 29:50 – Women and wine 34:47 – How is divorce connected to perimenopause and menopause?  38:09 – How age bias impacts women 43:07 – Kate’s psychedelic adventure 49:56 – Final message  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with some of the team behind the TikTok account, Sex Ed for Guys. Sex Ed for Guys is a sex ed project by Colby College students researching privilege at elite all-boys schools. Toshi spoke with two Colby students – Christopher and Conor – and Professor Adam Howard, who are all involved in the project.  Together, they had a conversation about: How the project started and who it reaches What their creative process is like, and the research that informs each video What kind of response people have to their content The real-world conversations sparked by the project How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere Adam Howard, Ed.D, is the Charles A. Dana Professor of Education and Chair of the Education Department at Colby College. For over two decades, Howard has researched elite schools around the world, peeling back the layers of how privilege works through their daily practices, relations, structures, and policies. Employing a collaborative approach in most of his major studies, he teams up with privileged young people to make insider’s knowledge of how privilege works within elite schools more evident. Find Sex Ed for Guys on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedforguys Check out more about the research here: https://privilegedbrotherhoods.org/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer 00:59 – Introducing the team behind Sex Ed for Guys 02:41 – What is Sex Ed for Guys?  05:45 – Who is watching Sex Ed for Guys?  07:50 – What kind of response is the team getting to this work?  09:40 – What is the process to creating these videos?  13:13 – The video about female pleasure that got the channel shadowbanned 17:13 – Some favourite videos from the channel 21:52 – How these videos create real life conversations 26:20 – How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere 29:22 – Why Sex Ed for Guys is so accessible for young people 34:06 – Biggest learnings from this project -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Remy Tucker is the founder of On the House, an organisation that is working to ensure that every woman has access to period products. They achieve this by providing free, sustainable sanitary pads, funded through their unique advertising model.   Remy leads On the House with a deep commitment to women's health and marketing innovation. As a former midwife, she has firsthand experience with the challenges women face in accessing essential menstrual products. This understanding sparked her desire to find a sustainable solution that would make these products available at no cost.  On the House combines Remy's healthcare background with her marketing expertise to create a unique business model. By integrating advertising directly onto the product packaging, On the House provides free menstrual products while generating revenue. This innovative approach does more than solve a problem—it transforms the way solutions are delivered.  Driven by a genuine passion to make a difference, Remy is dedicated to empowering women through accessible healthcare solutions. On the House is not just a business; it’s a reflection of her commitment to positive change, providing essential products one box at a time.  Check out On the House here: https://onthehousegroup.com/  Together, we spoke about: What On the House is and how free pads are funded through ads Why Remy started On the House Why taking free period products helps everyone How the system actually works – and where you’ll be able to find these period products How you can support Remy’s mission and help end period poverty  Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 00:25 – What is On the House? 01:08 – What motivated Remy to create On the House? 05:29 – Remy’s advice for anyone wanting to start a business 07:17 – How On the House donates to charity – while giving away free period products 09:29 – What kind of products are On the House offering? 10:45 – How does the system actually work?  12:51 – Why you should take free period products, even if you can afford them 14:15 – What kinds of brands are supporting On the House? 16:58 – Remy’s biggest challenges so far 19:52 – When and where is On the House launching? 21:24 – What are some of Remy’s biggest wins so far? 23:27 – What you can do to support On the House 25:06 – Who does period poverty impact? 28:28 – Remy’s final message to listeners 29:23 – What other businesses have used this model before? 31:56 - Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners. Please use your discretion. In this episode, Tim spoke with Jayneen Sanders about body safety education. Jayneen Sanders (aka Jay Dale) is an experienced author, publisher, elementary school teacher, mother of three and an active advocate for Body Safety, Gender Equality and Respectful Relationship Education being taught both in homes and in schools. She is also lead author of Engage Literacy published by Capstone Classroom, and has had published over 130 stories for children. Jayneen feels passionately that we can do so much more to keep our children safe by teaching them age-appropriate and empowering prevention education. Jayneen is a strong public advocate for children’s safety, education and empowerment.  You can follow her on social media channels to access important news, development and resources. In this episode, we cover:  Why teaching kids about body autonomy and consent from an early age is essential Why you shouldn’t tell your children to keep secrets – and what to say instead How to identify signs of grooming Protective strategies to keep your kids safe from groomers The role parents and caregivers play in preventing abuse through open, ongoing conversations Practical tips for starting body safety conversations  Check out Jayneen’s books here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk Download her free body safety posters here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk/collections/posters/Body-Safety+Consent Find Jayneen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Timestamps:  00:00 – Trigger warning 00:19 – Trailer 00:47 – Who is Jayneen Sanders and how did she get involved in this work? 08:08 – The role of parents in teaching kids body safety education  10:29 – How have attitudes towards this topic changed over time? 14:27 – What is a groomer, and how can you spot one?  19:30 – How body safety education prevents abuse 24:22 – Why parents need to stop using the word “secret” - and what to use instead 27:38 – How does pornography and tech impact children? 30:15 – Which children are most at risk of sexual abuse?  34:21 – How conversations can help prevent abuse 36:43 – Top tips for having the body safety talks with kids 40:39 – What kind of topics do Jayneen’s other books cover? 45:25 – Where can you find Jayneen’s books and free resources?  46:54 – Jayneen’s final message to parents 48:15 – Outro -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TRIGGER WARNING:  This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners, including mention of suicide, sexual assault, child sexual abuse material and torture. Please use your discretion. If you are in any need of help or support, please contact one of your country’s sexual abuse support organisations – they are there for you.    We are dedicating our 100th episode to the work of the phenomenal Michael Sheath. We had a really important conversation with Michael that – amongst other things – covered the need to call out the relationship of online pornography with sexual offending.   Since 1987, Michael has been dedicated to working with child sexual abuse offenders, beginning his journey as a probation officer and later becoming the Principal Practitioner at The Lucy Faithfull Foundation – a charity devoted to preventing child sexual abuse. His critically acclaimed work with male survivors of sexual abuse at HMP Blakenhurst earned him the prestigious Butler Trust Award in 1997.   Michael’s passion for understanding people's stories has resulted in a powerful and significant book, a collection of five theatrical monologues that delves into the human impacts of child sexual abuse, trauma, and the often-overlooked effects on secondary victims like the families of offenders. All these narratives are told from the perspective of those directly affected. Michael's own story is pretty compelling. In this episode, you'll hear from him about his very impactful work in a profound conversation that shines a light on this ever-critical issue.  In this episode, we cover:  Michael Sheath’s journey into working with child sexual abuse offenders The difference between contact offenders and online/download offenders How pornography shapes harmful sexual behaviours The link between online pornography and child sexual abuse How sex offenders feel about their behaviour The psychological impact of this work on professionals – and how they deal with it Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’ Buy Michael's book from Amazon UK, or get it direct from the publisher here.All proceeds will go towards Children Heard and Seen, a charity which supports children with a parent in prison.  Timestamps:  00:00 – Trigger warning and intro 01:37 – How Michael Sheath got involved in this work 07:55 – What's the difference between a ‘contact offender’ and a ‘downloader/online offender’? 16:54 – The influence of pornography on young people’s sexual behaviours 20:01 – How legal porn sites suggest problematic content, and why that’s an issue 25:39 – The role of porn in child sexual abuse 31:16 – Why people use porn and how these sites keep you hooked  34:12 – How do some sex offenders feel about their behaviour? 37:32 – Navigating the consequences of being a child sexual offender 39:17 – How do sex offenders feel towards the victims?  45:24 – How Michael manages his mental health working in this industry 50:00 – About Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’ 54:20 – We need sex education that’s not pornography 55:20 – What’s next for Michael Sheath?  57:07 – Conclusion  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this episode, Toshi spoke with sociologist Dr. Amy Blackstone about the childfree choice. Amy is a childfree woman who wrote the book, ‘Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family & Creating a New Age of Independence,’ which explores the history and growing movement of adults choosing to forgo parenthood. Amy has shared her research on the childfree choice in The Atlantic, Washington Post, Huffington Post, on the Katie show, and other venues. Amy’s teaching and research interests include the sociology of gender, work, food, families, and healthcare. She has served as a consultant on workplace sexual harassment cases, and her research on this topic has been cited in the New York Times, USA Today, BuzzFeed, TIME, NBC News, and other outlets. She is passionate about food and has taught the Sociology of Food at UMaine and in Italy. In this episode, we cover:  Dr Blackstone’s personal journey to being childfree What the science says about ‘maternal instinct’ How gender impacts the experience of being childfree Some of the reasons people decide to be childfree How childfree individuals contribute to future generations in ways beyond parenting Find Dr. Amy Blackstone at her website: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/ Grab a copy of ‘Childfree by Choice’: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/childfreebychoice Listen to her podcast, ‘Nevertheless, Persisting’: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/neverthelesspersisting  Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer 00:34 – Intro  00:58 – Did Dr Blackstone always know she wanted to be childfree? 06:28 – Does science support the idea of ‘maternal instinct’?  08:54 – What's the difference between being ‘childfree’ and ‘childless’? 13:44 – How do men and women experience being childfree differently? 17:13 – Why do people decide to be childfree? 20:01 – How childfree people shape future generations 26:28 – How have people’s attitudes towards being childfree changed over time? 29:05 – Pros and cons of being childfree 34:55 – Do childfree people regret their choices? 40:35 – What should young people know about being childfree? 44:33 – Dr Blackstone’s final message for listeners 45:42 – Where to find Dr Blackstone and her work -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: mention of suicide in this episode.  This week, Tim had a conversation with social scientist Dr Julie Carpenter, where they explored emotional attachments to AI and the future of human-AI relationships.  Dr. Julie Carpenter is an award-winning researcher in the field of human-technology interaction whose work investigates the dynamic interplay between technology and human identity, social relationships, and connection.  Her recent book, The Naked Android: Synthetic Socialness and the Human Gaze, explores the narratives people construct about AI and robots, their expectations of robotic behaviour, and how these cultural beliefs influence the design and use of real-world robots. She is a Research Fellow in the Ethics + Emerging Sciences Group, a non-partisan organization dedicated to examining the ethical, social, and risk implications of emerging technologies. In this episode, we cover:  How our emotional attachments to pets can help us understand the way we might bond with AI  The difference between AI and robotics  Real-world examples of how people have formed emotional attachments to military robots The ethical concerns surrounding human-AI relationships How our perspective of different brands can impact how we use AI What people are looking for when it comes to intimate AI relationships And Dr Carpenter’s thoughts on the future of AI Find Dr Julie Carpenter here:  Website: jgcarpenter.com Bluesky: @jgcarpenter Mastodon: https://fediscience.org/@jgcarpenter Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer 00:55 – Who is Dr Julie Carpenter? 08:13 – How we form emotional attachments with pets, and how this relates to AI  11:36 – What is the difference between AI and robotics?  15:58 – Stories of emotional attachment to military robots 25:14 – A short message from Sex in Space 25:27 – Dr Carpenter’s thoughts on human-AI relationships 29:49 – How brand association changes the way we use AI 31:39 – What are the risks when it comes to using AI?  35:21 – Ethical considerations of AI relationships 45:41 – What are people looking for with intimate AI relationships?  49:27 – Exploring consent when it comes to AI  55:01 – Is Dr Carpenter optimistic about the future of AI?  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Dr. Jane Cherrington spoke with Cindy Gallop about MakeLoveNotPorn Academy. Cindy has 35 years of experience in brand building, marketing and advertising, and in 2009 at TED, launched MakeLoveNotPorn.tv – ‘Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.’ Since then, she’s turned MLNP into the world’s first human-curated, user-generated social sex video sharing platform, socialising sex to promote consent, good sexual values and behaviour.  MakeLoveNotPorn Academy, the subject of today's episode, is an aggregator hub for the best of the world's sex education content all in one place, searchable by age appropriateness, cultural sensibility, and personal comfort level. The Academy's goal is to be a platform and directory for all the brilliant sex educators currently blocked, censored and de-platformed everywhere, to make their work more accessible to parents, teachers, children, young people, everyone. The Academy will be 100% human-curated: human eyes will vet every piece of content pre-publishing to ensure it's safe, educational, non-judgemental and fact-based.  In this episode, we cover:  What MakeLoveNotPorn Academy is Why this platform is so important Who it’s for (parents, kids, adults, teachers)  What resources you’ll be able to access on MakeLoveNot PornAcademy How sex educators will be able to use the platform How MLNP will make money What you can do to contribute towards this project Find Cindy Gallop here: https://cindygallop.com/ Check out MLNP Academy: https://www.mlnp.academy/ Find the email template for Masterclass here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hSJQb8LXtZvKYQ29kk-Jv5IrHt5merfqn6RQvCNbTsE/edit?usp=sharing Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:43 – What is MakeLoveNotPorn Academy?  09:22 – What are the criteria for educators on MLNP Academy? 12:44 – How sex educators will be able to use the platform 16:30 – Who is sponsoring this project?  19:38 – Why MakeLoveNotPorn is such a great name 23:59 – It’s about the people who get it  26:36 – How much money does MLNP Academy need to raise?  29:51 – How will MLNP Academy make money?  32:58 – Cocomelon for sex ed 34:05 – Agents of Ishq 35:20 – What can you do to help? 36:49 – Help us get Cindy Gallop on Masterclass  38:18 – MLNP operates in the market of human happiness  40:33 – An quick note from Sex in Space 40:49 – Outro -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr Brian Willoughby, a Professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University and a research fellow at The Wheatley Institute. Dr. Willoughby is considered an international expert in the field of couple and marital relationships, sexuality, and emerging adult development. Together, Tim and Dr. Willoughby discussed the facts around porn exposure in kids and teens, and shared practical tips for parents to help them navigate having these conversations with young people.   Find out more about Dr Willoughby here: https://fhssfaculty.byu.edu/directory/brian-willoughby  Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 02:09 – How Dr Willoughby got started studying pornography 05:32 – What are some of the reasons young people are being exposed to pornography? 10:35 – Porn chats with kids should be about ‘when,’ not ‘if’ 13:36 – Two key pieces of advice for parents 17:44 – What are the messages young people are getting from watching porn?  22:32 – The difference between porn consumption for young people today compared to older generations  24:03 – The importance of monitoring and open communication 25:47 – When to have these conversations, and what to say 27:51 – Using teachable moments 29:19 – What resources we’re still missing 33:25 – Is there a place for pornography use in a relationship?  35:56 – Viewing pornography use as a risk in the same way we view alcohol consumption 40:33 – The benefits of talking with kids about pornography 43:44 – Dr Willoughby’s #1 piece of advice for parents 44:56 – Recommended resources + filling the education gap 48:08 – Where to find more of Dr Willoughby 49:03 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi had a conversation with Victoria, a former escort who is the president of UTSOPI in Belgium, which is the Belgian Union of Sex Workers. Together, they had a conversation about the way that Victoria views sex work as a social service, something that’s not just about physical intimacy but is very connected to human emotions and is effective at combating loneliness. Toshi and Victoria also discussed the stigma that is still associated with sex work, why you should be hugging the people in your life, and the difference between loneliness and being alone. Related links: https://www.utsopi.be/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro 02:35 – Only 10% of sex work is about sex  07:27 – How clients responded when Victoria quit sex work 09:08 – The difference between loneliness and being alone 10:09 - The benefits of sex work on emotional health  12:26 – How Victoria came to see sex work as a social service 17:25 – Human connection is important in every job 18:33 – What Victoria learned from sex work 20:26 – The stigma still associated with sex work 22:23 – How sex helps Victoria stay young 24:10 – Why you should be hugging the people in your life 25:17 – Victoria's own experience as a client of sex work 30:09 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode, Toshi had a conversation with David Jay, who is the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education network, which is the world’s largest online asexual community. Together, they had a conversation about the experience of being asexual and the expectations that society has around sexuality, as well as how David has redefined relationships and intimacy as an asexual person. They also discussed three-parent families and the importance of building a community of care, and finished the conversation talking about why conflict is actually a really good thing.Find AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) here: https://www.asexuality.org/en/ Find David's book, Relationality: How Moving from Transactional to Transformational Relationships Can Reshape Our Lonely World, here: https://amzn.asia/d/f7Z2uVq  Timestamps:   00:00 – Intro 01:26 – What does it mean to be asexual, or ‘ace’?  03:26 – What is compulsory sexuality? 04:39 – David’s experience as a young ace person 06:32 – How society has different sexual expectations for different bodies 08:15 – The impact of asexuality on how David sees relationships and intimacy 11:12 – The benefits of having intentional friendships 13:33 – Why you should be thinking about creating a community of care 16:35 – What it’s like to be in a three-parent family 19:44 – Two things you can learn from this podcast 23:01 – Advice if you want to be more intentional in your friendships 24:24 – Why being asexual is so liberating 26:39 – What David would have wanted his younger self to know 28:20 – How the ace community has changed over time  33:04 – Why relationships with others are so important 37:19 – Why conflict is a really good thing 39:34 – David’s message to ace listeners 40:43 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we’re re-releasing one of our most popular podcast episodes – a conversation with 72-year-old OnlyFans sex worker, Michelle Hardenbrook. Jane chatted with Michelle about how she got started in the industry at the age of 55, how she educated herself about sex and intimacy, as well as Michelle’s thoughts on penis size, shape, and confidence, how to experience orgasm after prostate cancer, and advice for any listeners who are wanting to understand sex work better.  Find Michelle here: https://www.instagram.com/terrytowngal1951/?hl=en Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:39 – How Michelle got started in sex work at the age of 55 04:43 – Practical tips for managing finances as a sex worker 07:31 – Michelle’s transition to working online and building an audience 13:02 – Michelle’s role as a mentor and the value she brings to other sex workers 14:23 – Michelle’s thoughts on pimps in the industry 16:35 – Michelle’s life lesson: don’t panic 18:15 – How Michelle educated herself about sex and intimacy 20:31 – Michelle’s experience with vibrators  23:30 – Michelle’s response to unsolicited images 25:29 – Michelle’s thoughts on pen*s size, shape and confidence 28:20 – The impact of aging on libido and sexual experiences 30:42 – How Michelle helps clients who have had prostate cancer 34:18 – Advice to listeners who don’t understand sex work 35:52 – Michelle's advice for new sex workers 38:31 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re re-releasing another of our podcast episodes. This time, we’re revisiting a conversation that Jane had with Vanessa Hamilton, a sexuality educator and founder of the education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’. Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, she is a parent of 3 teens and is an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Vanessa has immersed herself in helping parents, teachers and health professionals understand human sexuality and, specifically, how it relates to children. Together, she and Jane spoke about the key topics parents should address with their kids about sexuality education, including consent, pleasure, and pornography. Vanessa provides strategies for tackling uncomfortable situations and gives examples of how to use teachable moments with young people, as well as providing a script for responding when a child asks how babies are made.  You can find more of Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:49 – How Vanessa ended up in the sexuality education space 03:26 – The scale of the sex ed gap within adults 04:48 – The impact of confidence on having sex ed chats 05:47 – How to talk with young people about sending nudes 07:18 – Vanessa’s take-home message to parents 08:50 – When should you start thinking about having conversations with your kids about sexuality?  09:42 – Why your tone is more important than what you say to a child 10:13 – What topics you should be covering with your kids (and why saying something is better than saying nothing) 12:47 – The majority of parents support this education  13:38 – Why Vanessa doesn’t like the term ‘sex ed’ (and what she uses instead) 15:20 – Reframing how we think about pleasure 17:01 – How consent is part of our everyday experiences 19:59 – How to explain how babies are made 23:35 – What are the contributing factors towards teen pregnancies?  24:46 – What kids are learning about sex from pornography 26:36 – Why Vanessa wrote her book ‘Talking Sex’ 29:11 – How to respond when you encounter an uncomfortable situation with your child 31:10 – How to practice having conversations about sexuality 32:22 – The barriers for male parents having these kinds of conversations 34:14 – Examples of how to use teachable moments with your kids 38:15 – Make yourself the adult that your kids can come to 39:56 – Why it’s important to give young people a framework to think about pornography 42:10 – How to respond if you think your child has seen inappropriate content online 43:21 – How to get a copy of Vanessa’s book ‘Talking Sex’ 44:23 – Vanessa’s book on consent for parents and teachers 45:05 – Just get started: it’s easier than you think 45:39 - Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week here at Sex in Space we’re re-releasing one of our episodes from 2023. In this podcast, Jane had the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Laurie Mintz, an author, therapist, speaker and emeritus professor, to talk tips for a better sex life. Dr Laurie is more than qualified to speak on this topic, as the author of two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship. These books were written with the aim of empowering women sexually and they both have published studies demonstrating that readers enhance their sexual functioning.  Dr Laurie aims to provide scientifically accurate, sex-positive information to enhance female pleasure. She gives presentations and workshops to professionals and lay audiences, and has a TEDx talk that’s received more than 2.5 million views.  Together, she and Jane spoke about what causes women to have low libidos, the two types of desire (and why you should know them), what the orgasm gap is and why it exists, the truth about sex positions, the issue with penis-size jokes and practical takeaways for a better sex life.  Find Dr. Laurie’s website here: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Watch Dr. Laurie’s TEDx talk here: https://youtu.be/oD2ja2BT-0E?si=e_qwyGySYx7GXRWg Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro 03:15 – Why Laurie wrote her first book 04:53 – What causes women to have low libidos?  07:31 – The two types of desire (and why you should know them) 09:10 – Why we need to rethink the way we talk about sex 14:59 – How reading Dr. Laurie’s book can improve your sex life 17:04 – Shame and sex are enemies 18:44 – What inspired Dr. Laurie to start educating about the clitoris 20:37 – What is the orgasm gap and why does it exist? 23:03 – The need for porn literacy 25:19 – Why sex ed in the Netherlands is so effective 26:42 – The truth about sex positions 29:53 – Why women have pain with penetration (and what you can do about it) 32:50 – Why do women fake orgasm?  34:42 – The issue with slut-shaming and penis size jokes 36:07 – What does it mean to be sexually active? 37:37 – Dr Laurie’s communication tips 41:34 – Why it’s important to learn how to pleasure yourself 43:53 – 12 commandments for a better sex life 46:05 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – thirteen of our top tips from experts on how to have a better sex life. We’ll cover things like how you can use responsive desire to feel aroused – and why taking time to build arousal is so important, how to bring variety into your sex life, advice on how to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner, and more.  Our experts include: Dr Laurie Mintz: author, speaker, therapist and emeritus professor, whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives. Melody Thomas: creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them.  Dr Ian Kerner: licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Susan Bratton: intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Damian Weatherald: disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, sex educator, and sex toy guru.   Dr Jenn Gunsaullus: keynote speaker, sociologist, sex coach, and author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Suzanne Werder: nurse practitioner from the New Zealand Sexual Health Society. Hollie McNish: award-winning poet, writer and performer. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:36 – How to use responsive desire to feel aroused 01:25 – How to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner 02:06 – Why it’s important to take time to build arousal  03:15 – How to practice self-advocacy in non-sexual situations 03:57 – Why you should embrace laughter in sexual experiences 04:40 – How trying something new in bed can help build intimacy 05:14 – How we can reframe the way we think about condoms 05:48 – Use a hand massage to practice communication 07:02 – Why it’s important to treat others how they want to be treated 07:42 – Why you should be asking questions in bed 09:03 – Why it’s important not to rush into sex 10:54 – How to bring variety into your sex life 13:33 – How to prioritise your own pleasure 14:17 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had a conversation with Ella D’Aloia. Ella is a certified holistic sex coach and therapeutic yoni massage practitioner who specialises in female sexuality. Together, Ella and Toshi spoke all about yoni massage - what it is, what the benefits are, what to expect from a session and how to find the right practitioner. They also had a conversation about how through her intimate and supportive approach, Ella helps women to reclaim their bodies, pleasure and sexuality so they can live a life filled with joy, pleasure and aliveness. Find Ella here: https://www.ella-daloia.com/ Or check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ella_daloia_/ TIMESTAMPS:  00:00 – Intro 00:46 – How Ella got started in this space 02:46 – What is a yoni massage? 05:39 – What are the benefits of a yoni massage? 11:57 – How many sessions does a person need? 14:50 – Is yoni massage sexual? 17:18 – Why you need to do your research into yoni massage practitioners 18:20 – How does Ella create a safe space for clients to feel comfortable? 19:34 – What can you expect from a yoni massage session with Ella?  23:05 – Standout client experiences for Ella 25:44 – What Ella has learned from her work as a yoni massage practitioner 28:57 – Ella's message if you’re feeling hesitant about getting a yoni massage 30:27 – Can you have a yoni massage if you’re on your period? 31:44 – Why it’s so important to be connected to our bodies 33:22 – Where listeners can find Ella and her work 33:55 – Is there a version of yoni massage for men?  35:06 – How you can check if a practitioner is certified 37:12 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Niobe Way about the social and emotional lives of young boys and men.  Dr. Niobe Way is an internationally recognised NYU developmental psychologist who has spent nearly 40 years researching social and emotional development and has found that boys and young men desperately want and need the same thing as everyone else: close friendships. Yet they and we grow up in a stereotyped “boy” culture, one that devalues and mocks those relationships, rather than recognising that they’re necessary for human survival. Her social science research has made her an expert on friendships, loneliness, teenagers, gender stereotypes, masculinity and the roots of violence.  In this conversation, Dr. Way shares insights from her latest book, ‘Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves and Our Culture’. She explains how these “rebels,” as she calls the boys and young men in her research and in her classrooms, teach us about their and our crisis of connection, evidence of which is visible in our soaring rates of depression, anxiety, loneliness, suicide, and mass violence. They also teach us about the solutions to the crisis, which is to care, to listen with curiosity, and to take individual and collective responsibility for the damage we have done to them, to ourselves, and to the world around us. Find Dr. Way here: https://www.niobe-way.com/ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Intro  01:26 – How Dr. Way got started researching boys and their friendships 03:57 – The four themes she learned from young men 10:56 – Close: the movie about boy friendships 12:08 – Which men are most at risk of suffering from this crisis of connection? 16:38 – What Dr. Way means when she refers to ‘boy’ culture 17:20 – Why curiosity is key to connecting with others 21:29 – Dr. Way’s advice for parents 24:06 – The impact of technology and how we use it on ‘boy’ culture 26:07 – How we could change technology to connect better with others 28:15 – Having feelings is normal for everyone 33:41 – Why ‘boy’ culture is not just about masculinity 38:40 – Society tolerates our ‘soft sides’ more when we’re younger 39:37 – What we can learn from listening to children and teenagers 43:02 – Why this book is not Dr. Way’s opinion 45:25 – Dr. Way’s hopes moving forward 49:11 – Why Dr. Way focused her work on boys and young men 50:32 – Where to find more of Dr. Niobe Way 52:54 – Outro -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk again with Kate Muir, a women’s health expert, investigative journalist, documentary maker, and author of books on the menopause and the pill. Together they had a conversation all about the menopause and Kate’s book, Everything you needed to know about the menopause but were too afraid to ask.  Kate and Toshi discussed the difference between perimenopause and menopause, the impact of the menopause on mental and physical health, the role of hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and what young people should know about the menopause.  Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ Check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menoscandal/?hl=en Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:35 – Kate's story with the menopause  03:29 – The difference between perimenopause and menopause 06:56 – The impact of the menopause on physical and mental health 10:10 – How does hormone replacement therapy work for the menopause?  13:24 – Is there a relationship between hormone replacement therapy and breast cancer? 15:39 – Societal attitudes towards HRT 21:34 – The accessibility of health knowledge 23:18 – How women's relationship to menopause has changed over time 25:22 – Why so many women suddenly put on weight in midlife 27:37 – Osteoporosis, bone density and HRT 32:30 – The impact of hormones on Alzheimer's and dementia 36:34 – Why we need to be getting hormones to all those who need it 38:35 – What young people should know about the menopause 40:15 – The rewiring of the brain during the menopause 42:45 – The impact of AI on accessibility of science 45:36 – Kate’s new book, How to have a magnificent midlife crisis  48:07 – Advice to people wanting to support someone going through the menopause 50:30 – Where to find more of Kate’s work 51:28 - Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode, we were joined by Dr David Perl, a qualified expert on limerence. Growing up with a father who survived Auschwitz and a mother facing frustration and anger as a stay-at-home mum, David’s path to success was anything but ordinary. Seeking the approval of his parents, he pursued a career in medicine, graduating from the prestigious University of London in 1984. Exploring various disciplines within medicine, including psychiatry and aviation medicine, he eventually founded docleaf, a renowned Crisis Management and Trauma Psychology Consultancy. Along the way, he acquired expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, counselling, and even earned an advanced postgraduate diploma in Leadership Coaching. However, it was his own personal experience of developing limerence in 2010 that ignited a new purpose for David. Determined to help others impacted by limerence, he founded limerence.net, a platform that includes a supportive forum to aid individuals on their healing journey. Together, Toshi and David had a conversation all about limerence – what it is, who is impacted by it, and ways to deal with it. Check out Dr David’s site here: https://limerence.net/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  02:32 – David's experience with limerence 05:29 – What is limerence? 07:10 – Why do people get limerence? 10:14 – Advice for someone dealing with limerence 11:26 – How can we get over limerence?  13:37 – Limerence and affairs  15:13 – Can limerence turn into love?  16:43 – David’s key tips for getting over limerence  19:47 – Should you tell your limerent object about your feelings? 22:46 – Why self-compassion is so important if you’re struggling with limerence 26:44 – Understanding male and female friendships 32:01 – Limerence is a symptom 33:45 – Where you can find more of David 35:21 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, we were lucky enough to be joined by Amal Awad. Amal is a writer, director and performer, and as a journalist has contributed to publications including The Guardian, The Sydney Morning Herald, ELLE and Frankie. She’s produced and presented for ABC Radio National, and is the author of eight books, both fiction and non-fiction.  Together, Amal and Jane had a conversation about the complexity of the experience of wearing a veil, and the personal and societal pressures that play into this. They spoke about modesty and the policing women’s bodies in society, as well as the contrasts between wearing the veil in the Western world compared to in the Arab world. Amal and Jane also had a discussion about female sexuality and education around sex and bodies. Find Amal here: https://amalawad.com/ Read 'Beyond Veiled Clichés': https://amzn.asia/d/bOs4xPcWatch ABC Australia’s video, Why Muslim women wear a hijab, burka or niqab & the importance of modesty in Islam: https://youtu.be/hkLjExxCQdY?si=piVVLOL-uLBCT5me TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Intro  00:41 – How does Amal’s work connect with Sex in Space?   02:23 – The need for nuanced conversations about the veil 06:51 – Amal’s experience wearing a headscarf 11:22 – The policing of women and their bodies 15:08 – The veil and symbolism 19:16 – The difference between belief and faith 22:57 – Wearing the veil in the Arab world vs the Western world 26:23 – Female sexuality and religion 32:24 – Understanding the lack of education around sex and bodies 35:07 – Different expressions of modesty 38:54 – Why Amal chose to stop wearing the headscarf 43:25 – About Amal’s book: Bitter and Sweet 49:16 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the podcast, we were joined by Arielle Zadok. Arielle is an intimacy coordinator, sexologist and founder of The Sexy Directory, an upcoming sex education platform launching in 2025. When she’s not facilitating intimacy on film and television sets, you can find her leading transformative intimacy workshops and speaking about sensuality, sexuality and intimacy at events. Arielle also hosts and produces Birds & Bees Don’t Fck, a show that normalizes how sex education of the past failed us, and how we all managed to get through that. Each week she brings on a comedian or sexpert for these fun, free flowing, educational conversations. Together, Arielle and Tim had a conversation about the role of intimacy coordinators in film and television, the responsibility of media creators to portray sex and intimacy in an authentic way, what makes a great sex scene, and the impact that misinformation from places like pornography has on real sexual interactions.  Find Arielle here: https://www.ariellezadok.com/ Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariellezadok Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:39 – The state of sex ed 03:53 – Arielle’s early interest in sex and sexuality 08:20 – How Arielle got started as an intimacy coordinator 13:59 – The need to portray intimacy in an accurate way 17:53 – What does a good sex scene look like?  20:12 – Intimacy coordination and kink  23:10 – What Fifty Shades of Grey got wrong about kink  30:18 – Does intimacy coordination exist in pornography?  34:35 – The problem with using porn as a form of sex ed 37:00 – Where we should be learning about sex from 39:05 – How messages about shame and masturbation impact our sex lives 44:13 – Education and The Sexy Directory 49:49 – Where to find Arielle  50:27 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – ten of our top parenting sex ed tips from experts. We’ve spoken with a lot of parenting experts on our podcast over the years and we wanted to put together some of our favourite tips from these conversations. We’ll cover things like how to talk with your kids about consent, masturbation and porn, advice for how you can be the kind of parent your kids feel safe to come to – and why that’s so important – as well as how you can respond, rather than react, when they ask you a tricky question. 00:00 – Intro  00:34 – Make it normal for your kids to talk to you about what they see online 02:07 – Why you don’t want to shame kids for their bodily reactions to sexual content 03:10 – Be the go to place for your kids to learn facts and values, rather than the media/porn 04:06 – Think about helpful sex conversations you've had in your own life 05:27 – Why your tone matters even more than what you say when having sex talks with your kids 06:20 – How to talk with kids about masturbation 06:59 – How to explain to kids how babies are made 09:28 – How to talk with your kids about porn 10:50 – How to teach kids about consent 12:12 – How to respond rather than react when your child asks you a tricky sex question 14:26 – Conclusion   Our experts include:  Cath Hakanson, qualified sexual health nurse, author, speaker and the founder of Sex Ed Rescue. https://sexedrescue.com/ Vanessa Hamilton, sexuality educator and the founder of education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’, with over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse.  https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/ Dr Jane Cherrington, PhD in discursive psychology, with some post-doctoral work around the themes in porn, founder of the Sex in Space Project. https://sexinspace.com/ Justin Hancock, writer/editor of BISH, a trained sexual health trainer, qualified youth worker, and a sex and relationships educator since 1999. https://www.bishuk.com/ Nikki Denholm, director at The Light Project, which aims to equip youth, their whānau and communities to build porn literacy and positively navigate the new porn landscape. https://thelightproject.co.nz/ -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, we were joined by Danielle Broster from the Australian Federal Police. Danielle is a Senior Prevention Officer for their Online Child Safety Team, which she has been a part of for five years. The Australian Federal Police lead an education program called Think U Know, which aims to prevent online child sexual exploitation. Together, Danielle and Tim had a conversation all about sextortion – what it is, who it affects and the warning signs that someone might be a victim, as well as advice for parents on what they can do to help protect their kids against sextortion.  TRIGGER WARNING: this episode discusses topics related to sextortion, online exploitation, and the manipulation of young people. These are sensitive and potentially distressing subjects, so listener discretion is advised. If you find any part of this conversation overwhelming, please reach out to support services if needed. Find Think U Know here: https://www.thinkuknow.org.au/ ACCCE (Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation): https://www.accce.gov.au/ Timestamps  00:00 – Intro  02:33 – How Think U Know started and what they do 04:08 – What is sextortion and who does it target?  11:07 – Do perpetrators follow through with threats?  12:45 – How big is the issue?  15:42 – Advice to help prevent sextortion 20:30 – What conversations to have at what age  22:00 – What are the red flags that suggest someone might be at risk?  23:46 – What empowers young people to report sextortion?  25:46 – Signs someone might be the victim of sextortion  27:58 – Balancing privacy and trust with your child  31:05 – What to do if you find out your child is a victim of sextortion 34:15 – How the AFP is helping prevent sextortion 36:32 – Top tips for both parents and teens  38:05 – Where to find more information  40:57 – How the tech landscape has changed over time  43:57 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by the lovely Teri Hofford. Teri is a body image educator, bestselling author, photographer and TedX speaker who helps people unf*ck their beliefs around bodies and business so that they can move closer to their most authentic selves. We were very excited to have a conversation with her today about all things relating to body image – the meaning that we make out of our bodies and where those thoughts come from, how we can reframe negative thoughts about ourselves, what confidence can look like for different people, and why being curious is so important when it comes to shifting the way we think and feel about our bodies.  Find Teri here: https://terihofford.com/ Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terihofford Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:50 – What Teri does and how she got involved working in this space 03:06 – 5 reasons you look bad in photos  06:50 – Using photography to explore difficult subjects 08:44 – How to change your attitude towards your body 11:10 – Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend  13:07 – 3 steps to reframing negative body talk  16:17 – The impact of asexuality on body image 23:55 – Most common myths about body image + confidence  27:40 – Teri’s project celebrating bodies as they are  30:30 – Body Image Bootcamp: what it’s all about 33:34 – Being able to freely exist in your body 35:10 – Our bodies are a representation of what we feel about ourselves 40:14 – Teri’s message to her younger self  42:16 – Why we have to be intentional to reframe our thoughts about our bodies 45:02 – You’re not as special as you think you are 49:04 – Where to find Teri  50:05 - Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Tina Horn – a writer, educatrix, and media-maker. She is the author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Hachette), a book based on her long-running indie fetish podcast. Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series Safe Sex /SfSx, and the cult detective thriller Deprog; she was also the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two other nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited. Tina has lectured on adult entertainment politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centres all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theatre, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence.  Find Tina here: https://www.instagram.com/tinahornsass/?hl=en Or at her website: https://tinahorn.net/ Timestamps  00:00 – Intro 01:50 – What is a kink?  05:20 – The influence of the internet on our sexual behaviours 07:06 – How would you define rough sex? 08:49 – Our relationship with obsession 14:00 – Connecting to others through sexuality  15:59 – How to bring your desires and fantasies to life 22:02 – Different kinds of foot fetishes 26:50 – Embracing pleasure 29:13 – Places we can learn from  32:36 – Learning about sex from observation and conversations 34:08 – Why are people into that? The cultural investigation of kink.  35:30 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this episode we were thrilled to be joined by Melody Thomas, the creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them.  Together, Melody and Toshi spoke about what she’s learned from her two seasons creating this podcast, how the work has impacted Melody’s own sex life, what she wishes she knew earlier about sex and relationships, and some of the most memorable moments from the conversations she’s had.  Check out The Good Sex Project here: https://interactives.stuff.co.nz/the-good-sex-project-podcast/ Timestamps  00:00 – Intro  00:40 – What is The Good Sex Project all about?  02:09 – How people have responded to The Good Sex Project 03:51 – Melody’s biggest learnings about sex and relationships 07:39 – Advice to feel more comfortable talking about sex 10:05 – Taboos that still need to be broken down 12:59 – Sex advice Melody would give to her younger self  14:31 – How you can prioritise your own pleasure 17:00 – Communication tips 18:47 – Identifying unhealthy relationships 20:20 – Why asking questions is so important 21:55 – The expectations we take from porn 22:57 – How Melody’s sexual experiences have changed over time 24:17 – How sex-negative thinking can impact our physical experiences 26:33 – Where listeners can tune into The Good Sex Project 27:06 – Conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On the latest episode of the Sex in Space podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Anil Padavatan, the Health Programs Lead at GATE, (Global Action for Trans Equality), about trans healthcare. Together, they had a conversation about what trans healthcare is, why and how all kinds of people – not just those who are transgender – access services like puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, they debunked some common myths and misinformation surrounding this topic, and looked at the different ways that families can exist in the world. Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:39 – What is GATE?  01:13 – What does it mean to be transgender?  02:42 – What is trans healthcare?  03:38 – What is gender affirming care?  04:48 – Some examples of gender affirming care 05:18 – Some reasons a person might access gender affirming care  06:09 – Cisgender people also access gender affirming care 08:13 – How do puberty blockers work?  09:37 – Are puberty blockers reversible?  10:41 – When can people use puberty blockers?  13:13 – Risks and benefits of puberty blockers 16:41 – The reality of medical interventions for young people   18:45 – What is hormone replacement therapy and who uses it?  21:34 – Being transgender and fertility  26:23 – What is gender affirming surgery? 27:50 – Who is able to access gender affirming surgery?  30:05 – The facts around gender affirming surgery and regret  34:25 – Different kinds of families  37:42 – Conclusion  Resources:  World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Standards of Care 8: https://www.wpath.org/soc8  Guidelines for gender affirming healthcare for gender diverse and transgender children, young people and adults in Aotearoa, New Zealand: https://patha.nz/Guidelines  Southern African HIV Clinicians Society Gender Affirming Healthcare Guidelines: https://www.sahivsoc.org/Subheader/Index/sahcs-guidelines  Cornell University Public Policy Research Portal, What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?: https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/  GATE Knowledge Portal: https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/  Reaffirming Autonomy of Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents: https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/publication/reaffirming-autonomy-of-trans-and-gender-diverse-children-and-adolescents/  Trans and Intersex Rising Zimbabwe: https://trinrizim.weebly.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours.  Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue.  Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers.  Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/ Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/ Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2 Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work  03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use 06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic?  08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue 10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help 12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you  14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners 16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use  18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents  24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution 27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography 29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people 33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue 35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive  38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast 39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery 40:43 - Conclusion Software mentioned by Dr Hall - Canopy: https://canopy.us/Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/-----------------  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today. Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:26 – Catherine’s background  03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about 06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project 11:37 – How Catherine put the series together 12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys 16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story 18:30 – The impact of social media on boys 21:03 – Problematic male influencers 24:51 – The gaps in education for young people 29:00 – Where young people are learning from  31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships 33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online 37:41 – The importance of honest conversations 40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism 41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’?  43:10 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female.  Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/ Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:40 – What is Men of Steel?  02:35 – How people respond to the experience 03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel?  06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club?  09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand 13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel 15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel 16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years 18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex 22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality  23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel 24:28 – Ticket info  24:42 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important.  Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/  Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro 00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless  01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer?  03:31 – Meeting mental health needs 05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives 06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives 08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives 10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives 11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here 12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle  13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found. Subscribe to make sure you never miss an episode!Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer:Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books. In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life. Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/ Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’ 02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?  04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?  06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms  07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people  11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex   12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body 12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex  14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life 16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact  21:03 – Working out what you want in bed  22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner 26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love  28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values  32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life  36:01 – Summary and conclusion -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.  Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/ Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/ -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.  Together they spoke about:  What burlesque is and what it celebrates Why Verity started Club Burlesque What you can expect if you go to a show The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex  What it teaches us about desire The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality  And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show. Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand. Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/ Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  00:33 – What is burlesque?  02:54 – Understanding eros 03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque 04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque  06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque  07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex  09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire 11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality 14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel  15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side  17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?  18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque 18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire  19:52 – Conclusion    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.  In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:  What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity How to navigate peer pressure Why it’s important to choose your friends well  What Daniel’s work looks like in practice What young people really think about Andrew Tate Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys The realities of young people’s porn use How parents and caregivers can support their kids And why soft skills are so important Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence. By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves. You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/ Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/ Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does  05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture 06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity? 11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from  14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well 17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships  18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops  20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces 30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate 35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme  40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use 48:23 – Why soft skills are so important  51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help  56:44 – Daniel's message for young people  58:32 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:  Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space When we might expect to see regular people going to space The short and long-term risks of sex in space Has anyone had sex in space?  The first married couple in space Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environments  ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.   Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?  02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research 06:23 – Old space vs new space 08:30 – When might regular people have access to space? 11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps 13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space 15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space 17:40 – Why this research is so important  21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?  31:20 – The animals that have mated in space 32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex  34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?  38:01 – Funding research into sex in space  41:30 – The future of space travel  43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?  46:15 – Conclusion   Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here: ASRI: https://www.asri.space/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space  Links mentioned in the podcast:  The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/ SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/ The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.