Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

What if dating success had less to do with luck… and more to do with negotiation?In this episode, Bela Gandhi sits down with negotiation expert Kristen Prinz to reveal how understanding your needs, setting boundaries, and advocating for yourself can transform your love life.Whether you're dating after divorce, feeling stuck, or ready to find love again, this conversation will help you stop settling and start creating the relationship you truly deserve.👉 Apply to work with us:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact🌐 https://www.smartdatingacademy.comKristen's website: https://www.prinz-lawfirm.com/Pre-order Kristen's book: https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Negotiation-Shift-Matters/dp/1399832409/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=AUTHOR&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SXXhMeK-iH4yKHrx_BoWxw.GzA2czqZss9itoPteaBJUF-CXW1VNg3gyaz0ttWipI0

In this eye-opening episode, Bela Gandhi sits down with relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about boundaries, self-worth, and why high-achievers often struggle to find love.If you are dating after divorce, feeling burned out, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people, this episode will shift everything.You will learn how to stop overgiving, raise your standards, and finally create the healthy, balanced relationship you deserve.👉 Apply to work with our dating coaches: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact🌐 https://www.smartdatingacademy.com

In this heartfelt episode, Bela Gandhi sits down with relationship expert Robin Ducharme to talk about forgiveness, emotional availability, and how to break free from toxic relationship cycles.You will learn:• How to heal after unhealthy relationships• Why forgiveness unlocks emotional freedom• The power of saying “I’m sorry” in love• How to stop over-functioning in dating• What it means to be an elevator personIf you are dating after divorce, heartbreak, or burnout, this episode will change how you approach love and healthy relationships forever.Apply to work with our dating coaches:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactWebsite:https://www.smartdatingacademy.comWebsite: https://realloveready.com/Real Love Ready on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realloveready/Robin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robinducharmeofficial/Robin's book: https://geni.us/RealLoveReadyBook

Dating after 50 can feel intimidating — especially if you’ve been out of the dating world for years.Maybe you're divorced.Maybe you're widowed.Maybe dating apps feel overwhelming.But here’s the truth: some of the healthiest and happiest relationships actually begin in midlife.In this episode, Smart Dating Academy founder Bela Gandhi shares the mindset shifts and strategies that help singles successfully navigate dating after 50, dating after divorce, and online dating in midlife.If you're wondering how to approach dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, this episode will help you date with confidence, clarity, and optimism.In this episode you’ll learn:• The biggest mistake people make when dating again after a long relationship• Why the midlife dating pool is stronger than most people think• How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns• Why online dating feels overwhelming — and how to approach it differently• Why chemistry isn’t always the best indicator of compatibilityIf you’re ready to date smarter in midlife, Bela is also hosting a live workshop:Dating During Midlife and Over 50 Love Lab👉 Register here:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/lovelab-dating-during-midlifeLove does not have an expiration date — and your best relationship may still be ahead.

Are hidden self-worth patterns quietly sabotaging your love life?In this powerful episode, Bela Gandhi and Dr. Amanda Hanson explore how childhood conditioning, emotional availability, and nervous system patterns impact dating, relationships, and finding healthy love.If you are dating after divorce, feeling stuck in unhealthy attraction cycles, or ready to find love again without settling, this conversation will help you shift from overgiving and burnout to confidence and alignment.You will learn how self-worth, inner child healing, and emotional awareness directly influence who you attract and how you build lasting relationships.👉 Apply to work with our dating coaches: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactWebsite: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com

Feeling anxious about dating? You are not alone.In this episode of The Smart Dating Academy Podcast, Bela Gandhi sits down with therapist Kevin Mimms to unpack dating anxiety, emotional availability, and how to calm your nervous system so you can find love again.If you are dating after divorce, newly single, or simply exhausted by modern dating, this episode gives you practical tools to feel confident and grounded.You will learn:• Why dating anxiety happens• How to regulate your nervous system• How to stop avoiding and start building confidence• What emotional availability really looks like• How to create healthy relationships without settlingReady to work with a relationship coach?Apply here: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactVisit us: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com

In this episode, Bela Gandhi is joined by Dr. Justin Garcia, Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute and author of The Intimate Animal, for a fascinating conversation on modern dating, emotional availability, and healthy relationships.They explore why humans crave both intimacy and novelty, how sex influences connection, why dating apps feel overwhelming, and what actually helps high achieving women and men find love again without settling.This episode blends research, compassion, and real life dating wisdom you can actually use.Apply to work with our dating coaches:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactWebsite:https://www.smartdatingacademy.comPurchase Justin's book:https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Animal-Science-Fidelity-Live/dp/0316594032

Healing your past changes how you show up in love.In this episode, Bela Gandhi talks with Laura Day, NYT bestselling author of Prism and celebrity 'intuitive': Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future, about emotional patterns, intuition, and why awareness is the key to healthier relationships.They explore how unresolved experiences shape dating choices and how real transformation begins with understanding yourself.This episode is for anyone ready to stop repeating old patterns and start creating relationships with clarity and intention.👉 Apply to end frustration and loneliness -- learn our framework and get mentoring to find love:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactLaura's website: LauraDay.comLaura's book: https://www.amazon.com/Prism-Seven-Steps-Transform-Future/dp/1954118708Laura's IG: @lauradayintuit 

What if love does not look the way you imagined, but feels better than you ever expected?In this Smart Dating Academy Podcast episode, Bela Gandhi shares Elayne’s inspiring journey from dating confusion to a healthy, committed relationship.This conversation explores: Dating tips for professionals Emotional availability in real relationships Why unexpected love is not settling How to find love without compromising your values If you want to find love again with confidence and clarity, this episode will stay with you.Apply to work with our dating coaches:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactWebsite:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com

How Monica Broke Her Dating Patterns & Found Real LoveIn this inspiring episode, Bela talks with Smart Dating Academy client Monica Campbell, who shares how she moved from dating the wrong people to attracting a healthy, emotionally available partner.You’ll hear the shifts that changed everything, from breaking old patterns to using the Dating Funnel to date with clarity, confidence, and joy.If you’ve ever wondered whether love is still possible for you, this episode is your reminder that it absolutely is.Apply to work with Bela and our coaching team:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactLearn more: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com

Dating again after a long marriage can feel overwhelming.In this inspiring conversation, Bela talks with Jeannette, a Smart Dating Academy client who rebuilt her life after divorce.She shares how she healed, learned confidence, and by working with SDA, found a healthy relationship later in life.If you want hope and practical wisdom about dating after divorce, this episode is for you.👉 Work with our coaches:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact

What happens when you’ve tried everything to find love and decide to go big?In this heartwarming and hilarious episode, Bela Gandhi talks with Lisa Catalano, the woman who rented 12 billboards in San Francisco to find her husband. They explore what inspired her to take such a bold step, how the world reacted, and what she has already learned about confidence, courage, and connection!✨ Whether you’re dating after divorce, in midlife, or just feeling stuck. This conversation will remind you that it’s never too late (or too bold) to find love.🎯 Apply to work with our dating coaches: smartdatingacademy.com/contact

Let’s be real: dating in today’s swipe-right world can feel like a game you didn’t sign up for. Between ghosting, mixed signals, and second-guessing your own needs, it’s easy to wonder: Am I doing this right?In this empowering episode, I sit down with Dr. Jeanne Michele — relationship specialist, psychologist, and author of The Infidelity Cure — to talk about what it really means to date and love authentically. Jeanne brings her signature blend of heart, wisdom, and straight talk to help us see dating not as a performance, but as a mirror — a reflection of who we are, what we want, and where we might be holding ourselves back.Together, we dive into: The difference between dating and relationshipping — and why both matter in building healthy love How to have Courageous Conversations that honor your needs without pushing love away The subtle ways we betray ourselves in relationships (and how to stop repeating old patterns) Why dating is one of the best mirrors for self-awareness — and how to use it for growth How to stay open-hearted in love while still protecting your truth and boundaries This conversation is an invitation to approach love with courage, compassion, and clarity. Whether you’re single, dating, or redefining what love means to you, Jeanne’s insights will help you stop settling, start honoring yourself, and finally create the kind of authentic connection you deserve.🎧 Tune in now and learn how to bring more authenticity and joy into your dating journey.  💌 And if you’re ready for personalized support to make dating feel fun, empowering, and successful, reach out to us at Smart Dating Academy. Our expert coaches can help you build the confidence, clarity, and strategy you need to find the love you deserve.  Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

ating fatigue is something almost every single one of us has felt at some point.  Maybe you've been dating for what feels like a century -- maybe you're exhausted by the dating apps (which can feel like "Human EBay"), endless small talk, or the emotional ups and downs of trying to find “your person"; if so this episode is for you! Bela Gandhi sits down with Smart Dating Academy coach Ilene Collins to unpack one of the most common — and overlooked — challenges in modern dating: dating fatigue.Ilene has been a powerful SDA coach for five years and has been a repeat voice on the podcast - responsible for MANY client success stories!  This episode will give you a sneak peek of how Ilene met her husband Mark (broke every SDA rule, haha!) and help you see how two people that are different religions, races and careers can build a happy life together!  And, Ilene brings both her personal experience and coaching expertise to the conversation, sharing how to spot the early signs of burnout and the mindset shifts that can make dating fun again. Together, Bela and Ilene explore what’s really behind dating fatigue — from unrealistic expectations to dating on autopilot — and how to reset your energy, focus, and optimism.You’ll learn: Why dating fatigue happens (and how to know when you’re in it) The biggest mindset mistake that keeps people stuck in frustration - and the BEST mindset reset (you won't want to miss this because it is POWERFUL) How to take a healthy break — without giving up on love How to meet people in real life    How to make a GREAT first impression Practical steps to make dating feel joyful, not draining What it means to date with intention and curiosity Whether you’re new to dating or you’ve been at it for a while, this episode will help you find your spark again and remember that dating can actually be exciting, fulfilling, and full of possibility.✨ Ready to fall back in love with dating?Reach out to Smart Dating Academy for expert coaching, personalized strategy, and support that helps you meet amazing people — without the burnout. Visit SmartDatingAcademy.com to learn more.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Dating doesn’t have to feel like the awkward lunchroom of middle school — and in this episode, we’re showing you exactly how to leave that behind. I’m joined by our very own Smart Dating Academy coach, Kathy Citera, who brings her trademark humor, wisdom, and lived experience to the table.Kathy knows firsthand what it’s like to re-enter the dating world — she candidly shares her journey from post-divorce dating at 50 to becoming a coach who now helps others navigate dating with confidence and joy. Together, we talk about how dating can feel less like a chore and more like an adventure.Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why dating feels like “middle school” for so many adults — and how to shift out of that mindset. Post-divorce dating at 50: Kathy’s real-life lessons on rediscovering yourself and dating authentically. How to bring fun, joy, and levity into dating without losing seriousness about your goals. Knowing yourself first: Why self-awareness is the biggest game-changer in dating success. Practical tips to “make dating fun again” — and why having the right mindset can change everything. This is a heartfelt, laugh-out-loud, and refreshingly honest conversation about dating — no games, no gimmicks, just straight talk on how to enjoy the process again. Whether you’re just getting back out there or you’ve been swiping for years, you’ll walk away feeling lighter, more hopeful, and ready to see dating as an adventure rather than a test.💌 Ready to make dating fun again in your own life? Contact Smart Dating Academy today to learn how our team of expert coaches can help you date smarter, build confidence, and finally find the love you deserve. Click here to get started!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

What if the love you’ve been waiting for isn’t about luck, but about alignment?In this episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, I’m joined by therapist Jaime Bronstein. With over 20 years of experience, Jaime has helped countless singles heal and grow!We break down why manifesting love is not about magical thinking—it’s about shifting your mindset, trusting your intuition, and clearing out the fears that keep you stuck - Smart Dating style :)  We dive deep into the process of identifying the negative narratives you’ve been carrying and replacing them with empowering beliefs that attract the right partner—not just any partner.💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:The key steps to manifesting love in an authentic, grounded way.Why healing old wounds and limiting beliefs is non-negotiable for attracting your soulmate.How to connect with your intuition and let it guide your dating decisions.The fear-based “Dating Personas” Jaime sees most often—and how to break free from them.Jaime’s fun acronyms for spotting non-negotiables and red flags so you can date smarter.Why fear and doubt can become a self-fulfilling prophecy in love—and how to stop it.How to know when you’ve truly found your person.If you’ve ever wondered why love feels so hard—or why you keep attracting the wrong people—this episode will change the game. Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

What happens when you stop putting pressure on every date and start living like “Vacation You”? For Colleen, it changed everything.In this episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, I sit down with Colleen Sarihan, whose journey is a reminder that love can show up when you least expect it—and often in the most magical ways.Colleen first heard me speak at a women’s networking event (hosted by my good pal Anna Valencia, who is now City Clerk of Chicago). During Q & A - someone started their question by saying, "I swear, there are ZERO good men left in Chicago. Every time I leave Chicago, I meet guys everywhere!" I told her that something must be shifting inside of HER that makes her more open & receptive when she LEAVES Chicago -- that it's not a "no guys here" issue! You could hear a silence fill the room. Little did I know that a certain audience member, Colleen, was intently listening to this answer, and it shifted her mindset that DAY. Fast forward a year: Colleen had just lost her job, her landlord was selling her condo, and she had bought a one-way ticket to Rome. With no expectations and nothing to lose, she decided to fire up the dating apps—simply to enjoy good food and new company. That’s when she met Vaibhav on Hinge - and was CONSCIOUS about bringing "vacation Colleen" to the date! A year to the day after their first date, they were married—followed by a beautiful summer celebration blending Hindu and Western traditions. You need to hear the whole episode to hear how magical this whole story is!   Today, Colleen and Vaibhav are the proud parents of two wonderful children, after navigating IVF together, and their love story is proof of what can happen when you stay open, playful, and true to yourself.💡 Inside this episode, you’ll hear: How Colleen’s “Vacation You” mindset shifted everything in her dating life. The role spontaneity and curiosity played in meeting her husband. Why their love felt easy from the start—without the games or drama of the past. How embracing uncertainty led to adventure, commitment, and eventually, family. Colleen’s journey is a beautiful reminder that so much can change when you give yourself permission to live fully and trust the process. Who knows? Your own “Vacation You” moment might be right around the corner.Need help with getting your mindset into 'vacation me?!" Are you ready to invest in yourself as Colleen and so many others have to find love? You have two choices: Do nothing, and have no new results :( Join our "Dating During Midlife and Over 50 Love Lab" -- GREAT choice to dip your toe back into the water! Click HERE to get more info and get your spot -- it's ONE WEEK FROM TODAY!!!  Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Ready to finally understand the cosmic blueprint of your love life? In this episode of The Smart Dating Academy Podcast, Bela sits down with celebrity Vedic astrologer and relationship coach Carol Allen to reveal how ancient astrology meets modern relationship science—helping you find (and keep) the love you deserve.  Blending the ancient wisdom of Vedic astrology with modern relationship research, Carol reveals how understanding your astrological chart can help you find your soulmate, deepen an existing relationship, or finally break free from love patterns that have been holding you back. From compatibility and timing to the little-known astrological “red flags” to watch for, this conversation will inspire you to stop leaving love to chance—and start aligning with your romantic destiny.Carol has been featured on E!, EXTRA, Dr. Drew’s Lifechangers, and in Chicken Soup For The Soul and Woman’s World. She’s the author of Love Is In The Stars – The Wise Woman’s Astrological Guide To Men, and her work has helped thousands discover the power they have to attract, enhance, and sustain great love.What you’ll learn in this episode: How Vedic astrology differs from Western astrology—and why it can be a game-changer for dating The “astrological timing” secrets that can make finding love easier Compatibility factors that go beyond sun signs (and what to avoid!) How to work with your chart to heal old patterns and attract better relationships Why love isn’t just fate—it’s also about the actions you take Learn a bit about Bela and her husband Andy's love stars in this episode Don’t wait for the stars to align by accident—let Carol Allen show you how to make them work for you. Click the link to book a session: https://carolallen.isrefer.com/go/wgr/bela/Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Have you ever had that gut feeling about someone—but ignored it? Or maybe you felt a deep soul pull toward someone who later broke your heart? If so, this episode is for you.In this soulful and eye-opening conversation, Bela sits down with Nikki Novo, a bestselling author, proud Cuban-American, and master intuitive who’s known for helping people create purpose-driven lives by reconnecting with their inner knowing. Nikki is the creator of the Soul-Led Living podcast, and her work has been featured everywhere from Oprah Daily to Cosmopolitan.Nikki’s journey from fashion editor to spiritual teacher began with a love story that didn’t go the way she planned. But through heartbreak, she found healing—and discovered that your intuition might just be the most powerful dating compass you’ll ever have.In this episode, you’ll learn: The difference between following your heart and intuition What “dating intuitively” really means—and how to start doing it Why heartbreak can be the beginning of your spiritual awakening How to spot the difference between fear and true intuition What a soulmate is (and what it definitely isn’t) Whether you’ve lost faith in your gut, are craving deeper connection, or are just curious about soulmates and signs, this episode will help you slow down, listen up, and lead with truth.🎧 Hit play to find out why the best dating strategy might just be… your intuition.Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I’m so excited to share this week’s powerful story, featuring a journey of resilience, radical self-growth, and finding remarkable love later in life. In this unforgettable episode, you’ll meet our client Shari—a vibrant, creative powerhouse who, after divorce and two breakups with the same man, rewrote her love story at 64.Yes, you read that right. Three chapters. One love. Two rounds with Smart Dating Academy.  And a lot of healing in between.Shari’s story is full of heart, humor, and deep wisdom about what it takes to truly attract the right partner—and how to recognize your person even when life throws curveballs (and maybe even a little divine intervention).We talked about:💔 Life After Divorce & Starting Over:After 24 years of marriage and being the first in her friend group to divorce, Shari felt completely untethered. Can you relate to that “lost at sea” feeling? She shares how she built a new life piece by piece, starting with getting back to work and rediscovering who she was outside of being a mom and wife.🛠️ Doing the Work—For Real:Two breakups with Dave were the wake-up call she didn’t know she needed. Shari went all-in on self-growth: Smart Dating Academy, therapy/EMDR, dating with intention, and more!  She dove into creativity and travel, realizing that independence is a muscle that needs to be exercised.🔁 When He Came Back (Twice!):Every chapter with Dave came with its own set of lessons. The first time was magical but emotionally stuck. The second was deep but still misaligned. The third? That’s where the transformation happened. For both of them. Dave realized his issues, and was now doing his work too.❤️ What Made the Third Time Different:The universe got involved (seriously—wait until you hear about all the serendipitous sightings), and this time, it was different. With honesty, clarity, and deep commitment to each other’s growth, they reunited—this time forever. No games. No guesswork. Just mutual respect, love, and a whole lot of laughter.🎯 Relationship Lessons You’ll Take Away: Why “the work” matters before and during a relationship What it looks like when a man is truly ready and what he is willing to do How to have the hard conversations without blowing things up The importance of tone, timing, and knowing when to pause Why traditional therapy is powerful—and why your partner should be doing it too Shari’s story is a story for anyone who thinks it might be too late, or too hard, or that they’re too much. Her journey reminds us that healing is nonlinear, love can evolve, and when two people are truly growth-minded, the possibilities are… well, remarkable.Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

We’ve all been there—betrayed, blindsided, or just broken open by love gone wrong. But what if your biggest heartbreak could lead you to your biggest breakthrough?In this rich, soul-stirring conversation, Bela sits down with Arielle Ford—bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and modern-day love alchemist—to talk about her first novel, The Love Thief. Part spiritual romance, part thriller, this story takes readers on a wild emotional ride through heartbreak, karma, and ultimately, deep healing.With her signature wisdom and warmth, Arielle opens up about the real-life inspiration behind the book (yes, some of it really happened), how her own journeys through India shaped the mystical elements of the story, and why she believes healing our hearts is the ultimate act of self-love.Whether you’re recovering from a relationship that shook you to your core—or you’re simply craving a juicy, wise read that blends love with spiritual insight—this episode will crack your heart wide open in the best way.💥 In this episode, you’ll hear:🫶 How The Love Thief was born from experiences with heartbreak🧠 The psychology behind why smart women fall for narcissists and sociopaths🚩 Red flags to watch out for in love—and how to stop ignoring them🌍 What Arielle discovered on her spiritual journeys through India🔮 Why Arielle says "you should ALWAYS listen to Bela!"🎭 Why happiness might be the wrong goal—and what to aim for instead🎶 What love actually is - and isn't!   ✨ Plus: how you can rewrite your love story, one conscious choice at a time.Whether you’ve been burned by love or you’re finally ready to turn the page on a painful chapter, this conversation is your reminder that you can rebuild—and you don’t have to do it alone. Arielle shows us that heartbreak isn’t the end of your story…it might just be the beginning of your most powerful transformation yet - and that you should enlist the help of Smart Dating Academy to help you along the way!Here is a link to the pre-sale of Arielle's book so you can redeem the bonuses! https://www.arielleford.com/the-love-thief/Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

💌 Ghosting, Modern Dating & Advice You Actually Need with Meredith GoldsteinLet’s face it—dating in the digital age is a wild ride. One minute you’re vibing in the DMs, the next… they vanish into thin air. If you’ve ever wished for a wise older sister (with a killer sense of humor) to decode modern love for you, this episode is it.In this honest, hilarious, and totally validating convo, I sit down with Meredith Goldstein—beloved Boston Globe advice columnist and author of the “Love Letters” column and podcast—to unpack the messy, magical, and maddening ways we fall for each other in today’s world.Meredith has been answering love and relationship questions for over 15 years, offering grounded, compassionate advice that makes you feel seen. Her memoir, Can’t Help Myself, and YA novel Chemistry Lessons prove she knows a thing or two about both heartache and humor.In this episode, you’ll hear us dive into:👻 What ghosting really says (and how to stop blaming yourself)📝 The behind-the-scenes of writing a wildly popular advice column💡 Why your questions—no matter how “silly” they seem—deserve to be heard🦠 The emotional complexity of pandemic dating, and what it taught us about connection  🤝 How empathy can be your secret weapon in dating (yes, even when you’re pissed)Whether you're in the dating trenches, trying to figure out where it all went wrong, or just love a good love story, this episode is a balm for your heart—and a laugh-out-loud reminder that you are not alone.🎧 Press play and get ready for some refreshingly real talk about love, loss, and everything in between.Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

What if flirting wasn’t awkward, dating didn’t feel like a second job, and attracting love could be playful and powerful?In this episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, I sit down with the dazzling Lauren Frances, and let me tell you—she brings the magic. From the moment she opens her mouth, you’ll understand why she’s been dubbed The Flirt Fairy by Victoria’s Secret and The Doctor of Love by EXTRA. Lauren knows how to light up a room—and more importantly, how to help you do the same in your love life.We get into it all: how to flirt without feeling fake, why boundaries are the ultimate aphrodisiac, and how to gracefully exit the “situationship spiral.” If you’ve ever felt like your romantic GPS was off, Lauren’s loving (and hilariously spot-on) advice will have you re-routing with a smile.What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to make flirting fun again (yes, it’s a skill—and yes, you can totally learn it!) Why flirting is less about seduction—and more about connection What a Love Magnet Makeover is—and how it can help you glow from the inside out   The politics of dating: how to read signals, set standards, and navigate modern romance like a pro   How to avoid relationship ruts and start attracting high-quality connections   If you’ve ever felt like dating was more stress than sparkle, this episode will remind you that love isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being playful, powerful, and totally aligned with who you are. You’re not too late. You’re not too much. You’re just getting started.Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

If you’re done with surface-level situationships and ready for soul-stirring, conscious connection—this one’s for you. ✨In this episode, I sit down with internationally recognized dating and relationship coach Angela Nicole Holton for a heart-opening, no-fluff conversation about what it really takes to attract lasting, authentic love.Angela was named one of Yahoo’s Top 10 Relationship Coaches of 2020 and is the author of “Date Night Ideas for Couples” (endorsed by none other than Dr. John Gray of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus) and “The Secret Method to Conscious Love.” She teaches dating from the inside-out, helping individuals and couples tap into their authentic truth so they can love—and be loved—fully and fearlessly.This conversation will inspire you to ask better questions (of yourself and others), show up with unapologetic authenticity, and date in a way that feels good in your soul.We get into:💫 Why being present matters more than being impressive — and how authentic energy makes you magnetic on a first date.🧠 How curiosity and intentional questions spark real connection — and turn first dates into powerful data collection, not performance.✨ The game-changing role of self-worth in dating — and how doing the inner work shifts what (and who) you attract.  🚩 Why honoring your truth helps you date with clarity — and how tuning into your feelings reveals whether someone truly aligns.  🧘‍♀️ How self-love transforms your dating life — and why the relationship with yourself is always the starting point.Angela's wisdom is deep, soulful, and practical—like having your most evolved, heart-centered girlfriend give you the loving truth.If you’re craving a new way to date—one that feels aligned, conscious, and truly magnetic—this episode will have you rethinking everything (in the best way possible).🎧 Tune in now and get ready to date with more purpose, power, and pleasure.Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Let’s face it—first dates can be awkward. You’re sitting across from someone new, trying to figure out if there’s a spark… while also wondering what the heck to say next. Sound familiar?In this juicy episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Jess Carbino—often dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of the Swipe Right generation.” With a resume that includes time as the in-house sociologist at Tinder and Bumble (yes, really!), and now on her second doctorate in clinical psychology, Jess brings savvy to the world of modern dating.Together, we dig into the art of creating real conversation on first dates—the kind that moves beyond surface-level chit-chat and into connection territory. 💡You’ll learn: Why small talk isn’t actually small (and how to make it meaningful) How to avoid the dreaded interview-date vibe Easy, go-to questions that open hearts and spark chemistry ❤️ What people really want to talk about—and how to listen with intention The surprising power of self-disclosure and emotional availability (without oversharing) Whether you're getting ready for date #1, date #100, or just starting to dip your toe back in the dating pool, this episode is your conversational compass. Trust me—after hearing this, you’ll walk into your next first date feeling confident, curious, and totally in your element.👉 Tune in now and let’s get the convo going!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Let’s be real—dating at any phase can feel like walking a conversational tightrope. How much is too much? What’s not enough?  When should I ask?  What do I say if they ask me about something that I don't want to talk about?  And how do you strike that magical balance between showing up as your radiant, authentic self and still being curious, fun, and engaging?In Part 2 of our juicy conversation, I’m back with the brilliant Lindsay Anderson, one of Smart Dating Academy’s most beloved coaches, and we’re continuing our deep dive into how to absolutely crush it on a first date.We cover:💥 Why “go-to” questions matter—and the one thing they must do if you want real connection🧠 How to prepare (mentally and emotionally) so you don’t blank out or get stuck in small talk🤔 The difference between curious and interrogating—and how to make your date feel seen, not screened🙋 The right questions to ask to delve deeper into this person's background that are CRITICAL to know!    ✨ How to keep the vibe light, flirty, and fun, even when you’re diving into deeper topics🚫 The “date derailers” that can unintentionally kill the spark (and what to do instead!)💬 How to gracefully redirect a convo that’s gone off course🧭 Why self-awareness is your dating superpower—and how to tap into itThis episode is about more than just asking the right questions. It’s about showing up in a way that makes your date want to get to know you - and YOU get to know them by asking and listening for the RIGHT things. It’s about enjoying the moment, being present, and creating space for genuine connection.Because here’s the truth: The best dates don’t feel like interviews. They feel like magic. ✨So, whether you're just getting back out there or want to elevate your dating game, press play now. You’re going to love this one. 💕Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Ever wonder what makes a truly great date, and what are the best questions to ask (and how)? In this must-listen episode (part 1 of 2), the brilliant and longstanding Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson and I sit down to break down the art of dating with confidence, ease, and authenticity. If you’ve ever felt awkward on a date, struggled with what to say or what to ask, or worried about making a lasting impression, this episode is for you! ✨We dive into: The key traits of a great date 💡—and how to show up as your best, most authentic self. How to spark meaningful conversations 🗣️—and avoid awkward silences. The most important questions to ask on a date ❓—and how to ask them in a way that feels natural and engaging. The biggest dating conversation mistakes 🚫—and how to turn them into connection-building moments. If dating feels more stressful than fun, don’t worry—we’ve got you covered. Tune in to learn practical, expert-backed strategies to help you date with confidence and enjoy the process. ❤️🎧 Listen now and transform your dating experience!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Ever ignored a red flag 🚩, hoping it would go away? Or felt blindsided by betrayal? You’re not alone—and it’s time to get real about why we sometimes lie to ourselves in relationships.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jane Greer, a renowned marriage and family therapist, psychotherapist, and author of Am I Lying to Myself? How to Overcome Denial and See the Truth. With decades of experience helping people navigate love, loss, and trust, Dr. Greer reveals how denial and betrayal shape our relationships—and how to break free from patterns that hold us back.We dive into:💡 Why we stay in denial about relationship problems. Whether it’s a bad partner, an unhealthy dynamic, or something we don’t want to admit—Dr. Greer explains why we turn a blind eye (and how to stop).💡 The psychology behind betrayal. How does betrayal happen? And why does it hurt so much? Get expert insight into the emotional impact of broken trust.💡 Red flags you shouldn’t ignore. Learn the subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that signal it’s time to pay attention.💡 How to rebuild trust after betrayal. If you’ve been hurt, is there a way forward? Dr. Greer shares strategies for healing, whether you choose to stay or walk away.💡 Breaking free from toxic relationship patterns. Do you find yourself in the same situations over and over? Here’s how to change your story and start making better choices.If you’re ready to stop making excuses, see the truth in your relationships, and build healthier connections, this episode is a must-listen!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Ever feel like you're giving too much in relationships—and getting little in return? Or struggling to communicate what you truly need? You’re not alone.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Henry Cloud, a world-renowned clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries—a book that has transformed the way millions navigate relationships. With over 20 million copies of his books sold, Dr. Cloud brings deep wisdom (and a dose of humor) to the art of setting healthy limits while still fostering connection.We dive into: Why boundaries are essential for thriving relationships. Whether in dating, friendships, or family dynamics, Dr. Cloud explains why saying no can actually bring you closer to the right people. How to recognize unhealthy patterns. Learn the red flags of toxic relationships and how to break free from cycles that drain your energy. The secret to confident communication. Struggling to express your needs? Dr. Cloud shares simple yet powerful ways to set boundaries without guilt or fear. Dating with emotional intelligence. Discover how self-awareness can help you attract healthier, more fulfilling connections. Overcoming the fear of rejection. Rejection isn’t just about the other person—it’s about how you respond. Dr. Cloud offers a fresh perspective that will change the way you see it. If you're ready to level up your relationships and stop settling for less than you deserve, this episode is packed with actionable insights you won’t want to miss!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

What if you could transform your dating life with just a few mindset shifts and practical strategies?In this episode, I sit down with Nichole Farrow, a renowned relationship coach with over a decade of experience helping singles and couples navigate love with confidence. As a resident expert on BBC 5 Live, Nichole has guided countless people in strengthening their relationships—starting with the most important one: the relationship with themselves.We dive into: Why confidence is the key to dating success. Bela and Nichole break down how self-assurance impacts attraction and gives us real-world strategies to build it. The power of first impressions. From body language to the energy you bring into a room, learn how to captivate your date before you even say a word. Navigating rejection like a pro. Let’s face it—rejection is part of the dating game. But Nichole shares a fresh perspective that will help you bounce back stronger. Dating etiquette that actually matters. Forget outdated rules—Nichole reveals the small yet powerful ways you can show respect and authenticity on a date. Self-awareness & emotional intelligence in relationships. How tuning into your emotions and understanding your patterns can help you attract the right partner. If you’re ready to level up your dating life with expert-backed strategies and a fresh dose of confidence, this episode is a must-listen! If you're ready to change your dating life, message Smart Dating Academy today through its website at www.smartdatingacademy.comReady to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this heart-opening episode, I sit down with the incredible Shelley J Whitehead—a highly sought-after relationship coach who has spent decades helping people heal from heartbreak, refine their relationship skills, and build the love lives they truly deserve.We talked about: How to move forward after heartbreak—the key mindset shifts that will help you heal and open your heart again. Breaking free from past patterns—how to recognize and release relationship habits that no longer serve you. Building confidence in dating—simple but powerful strategies to show up as your best, most authentic self. Navigating the dating world with clarity—how to identify red flags, green flags, and make empowered choices in love. Shelley’s expert advice on attracting the right partner—why self-love is the foundation for a thriving relationship. If you’ve ever felt like love has passed you by or that you keep attracting the wrong people, this episode is for you! Shelley shares her wisdom with warmth, humor, and deep insight, making this conversation a must-listen for anyone ready to embrace love again.Listen now and take the first step toward the love life you deserve!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this captivating episode, I sit down with the incredible Sara Jane Ho—an international etiquette expert, Emmy-nominated host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, and author of the book of the same name. From her early days in Hong Kong to earning degrees from Exeter, Georgetown, and Harvard Business School, Sara brings a wealth of wisdom and charm to the table. Together, we dive into the art of dating with grace, confidence, and authenticity—and why etiquette is about so much more than just which fork to use!We talked about: Why etiquette matters in modern dating. Sara shares her unique perspective on how understanding etiquette can help you foster deeper, more meaningful connections. Spoiler: It's not about being stuffy or old-fashioned—it’s about being thoughtful and authentic. Practical tips for first dates that set you apart. Learn Sara’s go-to advice for making a stellar first impression—from body language to choosing the perfect setting. How to handle rejection with elegance. Let’s face it, rejection is tough. But Sara gives us actionable advice for navigating it with confidence and class, so you come out stronger on the other side. Building self-awareness and confidence. Sara opens up about her own journey and how she’s learned to balance vulnerability with strength. Her story is a testament to the power of self-discovery and self-respect. The surprising link between etiquette and self-love. Did you know that treating others well starts with how you treat yourself? Sara explains how cultivating self-love and respect can transform not only your dating life but every relationship in your life. Tune in to this episode if you’re ready to elevate your dating game, embrace your most confident self, and learn how to "mind your manners" in the most empowering way possible!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this electrifying episode, I sit down with the brilliant Alison Fragale—a professor, distinguished scholar of organizational behavior at UNC Chapel Hill, and the powerhouse author behind the transformative book Likable Badass. Alison brings her sharp insights and relatable wisdom to help us understand the delicate balance between being liked and being respected, and how we can do BOTH to maximize results in personal and professional lives!  Great advice across the board, for life AND love!  We talked about:HOW to be a likable badass!   What the difference is between being likable and being respected—and why you shouldn't have to choose. Practical strategies for showing up confidently without sacrificing authenticity.How to overcome the fear of being judged when speaking up.Alison's personal journey and the inspiration behind Likable Badass.The science of confidence and how small mindset shifts can create big results.Tune into this episode if you're ready to own your space, amplify your voice, and develop your inner & outer "likable badass!"Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Welcome to this week's episode, where we dive into the love story of all love stories! When it comes to finding love, everyone’s journey is unique—but they often share the same ups and downs. This week, I’m thrilled to introduce Lauren, an inspiring woman who went from feeling stuck in her love life to meeting her dream partner. With insights from our coaching team, including the extraordinary Ilene Collins, Lauren’s story proves that love can blossom when you least expect it.Lauren’s transformation wasn’t just about meeting "the one"; it was about becoming the best version of herself first. She embraced her fears, overcame self-doubt, and found clarity in her values—all while navigating the challenges of dating in the modern world.We talked about: Lauren’s Journey: From frustration to fulfillment, hear how Lauren stayed hopeful and open to love. Key Strategies for Success: Learn about the mindset shifts and actionable steps that helped Lauren attract her ideal partner. Overcoming Doubts: How Lauren silenced her inner critic and found confidence in the process. Support Systems: The role of coaching and community in Lauren’s journey. Love in Action: Real-life tips on navigating the dating world with authenticity and grace. Lauren’s story is a reminder that love is out there, and it’s waiting for you to claim it. If she can do it, so can you!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this enlightening episode, I welcome the brilliant Dr. Jenny Taitz—a clinical psychologist, UCLA faculty member, and author of the transformative book Stress Reset. Together, we dive into actionable strategies for managing stress, staying grounded, and transforming your mindset for success in dating and beyond.  She's also the author of one of my favorite books, "How to Be Single and Happy!"   Whether you're navigating the emotional rollercoaster of modern relationships or looking to level up your personal growth, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical tools.We talked about: How stress impacts your dating life and decision-making. Simple yet powerful techniques to reset your mind in moments of overwhelm. The science behind stress and why it’s not just “in your head.” Why self-compassion and mindfulness are key to successful dating. How Dr. Taitz's personal journey inspired Stress Reset. Tune into this episode if you want to feel more confident and centered in your dating life!Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week, I had the privilege of sitting down with the incredible Marilyn Chinitz—a powerhouse attorney with over 40 years of expertise in family law and divorce. Her wisdom, wit, and compassionate approach to navigating life’s trickiest transitions are unparalleled. Whether you're curious about protecting your assets, healing after heartbreak, or setting yourself up for a thriving relationship, this episode has golden nuggets just for you.We talked about: The Art of Resilience: How Marilyn turned decades of challenging cases into a masterclass on thriving after setbacks. Dating After Divorce: Tips for re-entering the dating world with confidence and clarity. The Power of a Prenup: Why these agreements aren’t just for the wealthy—they’re tools for communication and trust. Red Flags vs. Green Lights: Spotting the signs of a strong, healthy relationship. Self-Care in Transitions: Marilyn’s personal strategies for staying vibrant, focused, and fabulous at any age. What steps are you taking to build resilience and confidence in your relationships? Remember, the road to love and fulfillment starts with understanding your worth and protecting your peace.   Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I’m so excited to share this week’s powerful story, featuring a journey of resilience, hope, and finding love again against the odds. In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the incredible experience of one of our listeners who, at 48, faced a life-changing loss: the sudden passing of her husband from a heart attack. Grieving and single for over a decade, she never imagined herself dating again, let alone getting remarried.But everything changed when a friend issued a life-altering challenge: give Match.com a shot for six months. Little did she know that this challenge would lead her on a transformative journey, one that would ultimately bring her to the doors of the Smart Dating Academy.We talked about: Overcoming the Fear of Starting Over: Imagine not dating for over 32 years. How do you even begin to navigate the dating world again? We discuss the struggles and triumphs of re-entering the dating scene after loss. The Power of Support and a Clear Process: Teresa opens up about how the guidance, tools, and support from the Smart Dating Academy helped her identify and attract the right type of partner. Defining What You Want in a Partner: Why is knowing what you want so important, and how can you stay true to that vision? We explore the mindset shifts that made a difference. Taking Things Slow and Building Friendship First: The magic of getting to know someone as a friend before diving into romance, and how this approach created a solid foundation for her current marriage. Using the Marriage Map Tool: Learn about the impact of this tool and how it guided Teresa to determine if her partner, Curtis, was the right match. Teresa's story is a beautiful reminder that love can come back into your life when you least expect it, and that with the right approach and support, you can find a partner who complements your life perfectly.Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I’m thrilled to bring you a special guest this week, Coach and Conscious Relationship Teacher Veronika Amaya. Veronika is a relationship expert with a unique global perspective on dating and connection, and in this episode she will help us uncover the “missing pieces” that can keep us from forming genuine bonds. Veronika has a wealth of knowledge on the emotional nuances that make relationships thrive and offers down-to-earth tips for bridging those gaps to find and maintain meaningful connections.We talked about: How to recognize what’s truly missing in modern relationships and why it matters Simple, practical steps for building deeper connections in a fast-paced world The art of vulnerability, and why it’s often the key to authentic intimacy How cultural perspectives shape our connections and understanding Ways to identify and shift patterns that may be keeping you from feeling seen and understood Veronika is a treasure trove of insights for anyone who feels that their connections could use a little more depth or clarity. She invites us to look within, encouraging a fresh perspective that feels both reassuring and actionable.Website: https://www.veronika-amaya.com/For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Heather's Journey to Self-Love and Self Discovery - What I Learned at Smart Dating AcademyFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I’m beyond thrilled to have Dr. Nadine Macaluso (Dr. Nae, as I call her!). on today’s episode! Dr. Nae’s story is nothing short of jaw-dropping — she was married to The Wolf of Wall Street himself, Jordan Belfort. But this conversation isn’t just about her past; it’s about her incredible journey of survival, healing, and growth. Dr. Nae has taken what she’s learned from that chapter of her life and is using it to help others break free from toxic relationships and trauma bonds (she went back to school and got her doctorate as part of her journey to help herself and others).We had such an amazing chat, and I know you’re going to love it! Dr. Nae has been through it all, and she’s come out the other side stronger, wiser, and ready to share her insights on how to stop repeating old patterns and start thriving in healthier relationships.We talked about:Her experience with trauma bonds and why we keep picking the same type of partnerHow to break free from unhealthy patterns and build a stronger sense of selfWhat it really takes to heal after trauma and thrive in love againWhy choosing healthier partners isn’t just about avoiding red flags, but learning to trust yourselfThe power of resilience and how to bounce back from hardshipI can’t wait for you to hear this episode! Dr. Nae’s story is powerful, and her advice is game-changing if you’ve ever struggled with toxic relationships. If you love the episode, please subscribe, rate, and share it so we can keep bringing you these incredible conversations!Website: Drnae.comFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this heartwarming love story episode, I sit down with our beloved client Tara, an accomplished attorney from Chicago, who shares her incredible journey of love and self-discovery. Tara's story begins in a traditional household, where arranged marriages were the norm, and she herself entered one that didn't quite work out. However, through her resilience, career-focused mindset, and our Smart Dating work together, Tara redefined what love meant for her, and found a relationship that truly aligned with her heart.We dive deep into the challenges she faced, the lessons learned, and how she overcame cultural expectations to create her own love story. We talk about: The emotional and mental complexities of arranged marriages and why they may or may not work for everyone The importance of being open to growth and self-awareness when navigating relationships How a career-driven woman can balance love, self-worth, and ambition without compromising on any Strategies Tara used to stay resilient and open to love after her marriage didn’t work out How mindset and support can help you attract the right relationship Whether you've had an arranged marriage experience, are navigating modern dating, or just love a good love story, Tara's journey will leave you feeling inspired, hopeful, and ready to take control of your own relationship destiny.Ready to rewrite your love story? Tune in to this episode and learn how you can find your own version of love, no matter where you start. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave us a review if you enjoyed Tara’s inspiring journey!For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Title:  Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for TODAY with Dr. John GrayI couldn't be more excited to have Dr. John Gray, who wrote one of the most well-known and trusted relationship books of all time: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (the #1 bestselling book of its decade).  We had such a good chat that you're going to love; John lost his loving partner of decades and has found love AGAIN!  We talked about love, loss, new love, and getting the BEST out of your partner - whether your relationship is brand new or decades old.  He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People.We talked about: How he got over his wife of 34 years' passing and how he found love again What the biggest change in relationships is since he wrote his first book What the difference is in what men need and women need in a relationship Enlightened sexuality and what it means Why men need to reconnect with their masculine side and women with their feminine side How to have a happy relationship Can't wait for you to listen to and LOVE this episode!   If you love it, please subscribe to our podcast, and feel free to give it the top rating so we can keep it going for you!   For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I am super excited to have Todd Baratz as a guest on the podcast. Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approaches to mental health and relationships have established him as a leading figure.   We talked about: His new book "How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind" Reframing how we approach relationship issues How to deal with breakups The difference between cultural diagnoses and true toxic traits What "hurt potential" is, how it can impact new relationships, and what we can do about it How to craft a "relationship contract" The first step we can all take today to improve our relationships This episode has so many great take-aways to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships. It all starts with developing more self-awareness and getting to know ourselves on the inside.   In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness.  Website: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsenseNew Book: How to Love Someone Without Losing Your MindFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Guest: Jill Foos, National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBHWC) with a rich background in psychology and functional medicine health coaching.This week, we come to you with one of your favorite things to hear because it's HOPEFUL, a Smart Dating Academy real-life love story. Jill was a coaching client who found the lid to her pod and started her own business. Jill met her husband at a young age and they eloped to get married and had 5 kids. Jill started seeing the red flags early on, and that they were on separate pages just a few years into the marriage, but they stuck it out for 24 years and eventually got divorced.Jill and Bela met in 2018 when she wasn't dating yet. She knew she needed help getting back into the dating world and decided to start working with SDA. Lindsay and I helped Jill figure out what characteristics and traits she SHOULD BE looking for in a partner to make her happy -- vs. the standard "checklist" women often use!   After setting up her dating profile on the apps, Jill really embraced the whole process and dated for about 18 months.   What was her 'last first date'?  A wonderful set-up date by a friend with a man named Noah. She immediately liked Noah during their first date because he made her laugh. This was during Covid, so they kept it slow and got creative with their dates.After about 6 months of dating, Jill moved a block away from Noah and half a year later her lease was up and she moved in with Noah. They have been in a relationship for 4 years now and are still going strong. The relationship feels easy and their blended family, which includes both of their kids, Jill's ex-husband and his new partner, gets along well and spend holidays together.  And Jill started a new career as well, as one can when they have happy love!  She is now a dedicated National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBHWC) and the founder of Jill Foos Wellness. She's helping women and look better at all ages, but especially during midlife.I hope that you are inspired by Jill's story. She felt like her life was shattered, but she built it back up step by step and is now in a better place than ever. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week on the podcast, I have the absolute pleasure to interview Elizabeth Earnshaw, a renowned Gottman therapist and bestselling author (she has a new book coming out in September!) who is the owner of a thriving family and marriage therapy practice. She is known for her popular Instagram account @lizlistens and has been featured in the New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, and more.  Elizabeth and I delve into various crucial topics concerning relationships and stress management. We talk about: What a healthy relationships is and what kind of stressors are faced by couples and singles How to recognize and address stress in relationships, both external (work, family) and internal (relationship dynamics) What "stress spillover" is in a relationship The significance of emotional regulation in conflict resolution and the importance of taking pauses during heated moments The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse in relationships Recommended strategies like to de-escalate conflicts and regain composure before addressing issues The importance of early stress recognition to prevent conflicts from escalating The need for self-awareness in maintaining healthy communication Elizabeth shares such valuable insights and this is a must listen if you want to focus on managing stress and fostering healthy communication in relationships.Website: elizabethearnshaw.comThe Balancing Act | Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT | SubstackFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week, I welcome Natalie Lue to the Smart Dating Academy podcast. She is a boundaries and relationship coach and the creator of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, BaggageReclaim.com. Natalie helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically.We talk about: The impact emotional baggage has on relationships The connection between emotional availability and people-pleasing behavior The significance of boundaries in personal growth and relationship dynamics Learning to say no and setting healthy boundaries Recognizing and addressing emotional baggage to avoid repeating negative patterns in relationships Prioritizing self-respect, self-acceptance, and making decisions that align with one's true self to foster healthy and fulfilling relationships This episode is a must listen if you would like to establish healthy boundaries and cultivate meaningful and genuine connections in romantic relationships AND personal relationships.Blog: www.baggagereclaim.co.ukWebsite: www.natalielue.comFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week, I'm so excited to introduce my friend and former client, Stacy Katz to the podcast. Stacy is a sought after mindset coach who helps women create more Relaxation and Power with her R.E.L.A.X Mindset Method. Her approach is rooted in real-world experience, making it bothrelatable and actionable. She has over two decades of experience in mindset and peak performance. She has guided C-level executives and leadership teams inside some of the biggest global brands like HP, Verizon, Spotify and more. In this episode Stacy and I explore how you are going to get more relaxed and more powerful in dating and in your entire life.We talk about: The concept of limiting beliefs and how they affect our results in and out of the dating world How we can transform limiting beliefs and non-useful thinking What it means to “listen for the gold” on a date and how it can create deeper connections and make others feel safe and supported in relationships. How Stacy became to focus on being Relaxed and Powerful How someone should begin the practice of developing compassionate self-forgiveness, especially if they’ve had tough dating experiences How focusing on internal alignment and being psychotically optimistic can positively impact dating and overall life experiences Stacy is offering a special gift to the listeners of The Smart Dating Academy podcast:An Energy Audit to help you understand how different aspects of your daily life and routine either contribute to or deplete your energy levels. This is a key first step in creating your Relaxed and Powerful Life. Go to www.stacykatz.com to get your gift!For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I had the absolute pleasure to have a conversation with the amazing Vienna Pharaon about how breaking family patterns can liberate the way we live and love.Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for over fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice, Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. She has beenfeatured in The Economist, Netflix, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, amongst others. Her book "The Origins of You" is a National Bestseller.We talk about: Why we adopt and adapt to family's beliefs and behaviors The difference between belonging and fitting in How origin wounds, such as prioritization and belonging wounds, can impact relationships and the ability to trust others  How we can heal from these origin wounds and break free from unwanted patterns Why tolerating discomfort and taking risks are necessary for change and empowerment. You will learn so much from Vienna about the impact of attachment, authenticity, and family dynamics on relationships and how origin wounds can shape our behaviors and choices in relationships. This is a must listen if you want to heal and break free from unhealthy patterns and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Website: https://viennapharaon.comInstagram: @mindfulmftWhat is Your Origin Wound? Quiz: https://1wsm6geg69z.typeform.com/to/d981R7ClFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Bela has a wonderful conversation with Relationship Maven Dr. Abby Medcalf. She is a psychologist, author, podcast host and TEDx speaker who has helped thousands of people think differently so they can create connection, ease and joy in their relationships (especially the one with yourself)!With over 35 years of experience, Abby is a recognized authority and sought-after speaker at organizations such as Google, Apple, AT&T, Kaiser, PG&E, American Airlines and Chevron and she’s been a featured expert on CBS and ABC news, and has been a contributor to the New York Times, Women’s Health, Psychology Today, Well+Good and Bustle.They talk about: The number one problem in relationships (and it's not what you think!) The importance of identifying and clarifying your own needs and standards in a relationship What trust in a relationship is built on  What boundaries should be based on how to communicate them EFFECTIVELY Collaborative questions can deepen understanding and connection in conversations Giving others the benefit of the doubt and seeking clarification before making assumptions This is a must listen if you want to gain invaluable insights and guidance to improve your relationship and create more fulfilling connections with your partner. Dr. Abby is truly a gem!Website: https://abbymedcalf.comNewly Released Book: Boundaries Made Easy; Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and JoyFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week we welcome Dr. Heidi Brocke to the podcast and you will LOVE the gems that she will drop on us! Dr. Heidi Brocke is a Toxic Relationship Awareness & Healing Specialist. After spending 14 years in an extremely emotionally and narcissistically abusive relationship she broke the chains and turned her past into her passion. She’s an international keynote speaker, recipient of Empowering Women in Business of The Year award by Inspiring Lives Magazine, and has been featured in both Forbes and Time Magazines for the dedication given to her clients and for her work in the toxic relationship area.We talked about: Spotting a Toxic Relationship (and wait til you hear her 'unconventional' checklist) Trusting Your Gut (your internal alarm system!) Understanding Emotional Abuse (it can be very sneaky) Taking the Time to Heal What to Do When Children are Involved Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing YOU Reaching Out for Support Dr. Heidi wonderfully highlights the importance of recognizing and addressing toxic relationships. This is a must listen! Trust your instincts, take care of yourself, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. You’ve got this!Website: www.coachingwithdrheidi.comFor more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactFollow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/