The Finding Peace Podcast

In this short episode of Finding Peace, host Troy L. Love shares a personal story of lying awake, flooded with shame and intense emotions, and introduces a trauma-informed tool called containment. He guides listeners through a simple visualization—naming feelings, placing them gently into an imagined container, and choosing when and how to return to them—emphasizing that containment is self-compassion, not suppression. The episode offers a practical way to pace emotional processing, honor your limits, and return to connection and repair when you have support and capacity.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Welcome to Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast with Troy L. Love. In this episode Troy shares a personal story of his abandonment wound being triggered at an event, and how the rhythm of pendulation—moving between felt pain and safety through connection—helped him slowly find relief and grounding.   Troy offers a short, trauma-informed practice to notice uncomfortable sensations, briefly touch the wound, and return to a sense of support. The episode emphasizes that healing is messy, happens through connection, and that you are worthy of love and belonging.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help you stay present when emotions run high. In this episode, host Troy L. Love guides a short orientation exercise (the 5-4-3-2-1 practice) to gently bring attention back to the present and support nervous system regulation. Through a brief in-session example with a client, Troy shows how naming neutral sensory details can shift the body from activation toward safety, helping listeners find calm, connection, and belonging one moment at a time.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

In this episode, Troy L. Love shares a raw personal story of a panic attack that reconnects him to childhood wounds, showing how transference and the inner critic can amplify shame. He reframes peace as the capacity to feel without collapsing, to stay connected, and to return to ourselves after being triggered, offering practical, trauma-informed guidance on responding with curiosity rather than self-judgment.     https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools for moments when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs support. In this episode, host Troy L. Love shares Sarah’s story to illustrate how healing attachment wounds can feel unfamiliar and even threatening — growth often registers as danger before it feels like freedom. Learn brief, actionable practices to stay grounded, notice discomfort without reacting, and teach your nervous system to tolerate calm so peace can become a new normal.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast presents practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. In this episode, host Troy L. Loved explores identity confusion—how trauma and survival roles (the politician, the martyr, the judge) shape who we become—and shares personal stories and the example of "Jason" to illustrate how we adapt by taking on roles. Troy invites listeners to slow down, notice the shadows of shame, ask, "Who do I have to be to stay safe?", and gently reclaim their true self by creating internal and external safety. For more resources, visit FindingPeaceConsulting.com.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools you can use when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs support. In this episode Troy L. Love shares a powerful ninth-grade story to show how shame started as protection, then explains the "shadows of shame" (the Judge, the Royal, the Politician, the Martyr, the Impotent One, and the Rebel) and offers practical steps—externalizing these voices, asking what wound they protect, thanking them, and choosing self-acceptance and compassion—to build shame resilience and find belonging   Previous Episode on the Shadows of Shame: https://thefindingpeacepodcast.podbean.com/e/the-shadows-of-shame-are-lousy-cheerleaders/ https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of Finding Peace explores how controlling behaviors often develop as nervous-system coping strategies rooted in attachment wounds. This episode reframes control as information, offers simple questions and a practical practice to trace behavior back to unmet needs, and invites compassion over shame as the path to healing and safety.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of Finding Peace offers short, trauma‑informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explores how childhood experiences can teach us to bury anger, the cost of suppressing emotions, and the difference between self‑control and self‑regulation. He explains how anger is a signal that something matters, why regulation must come before responsibility, and offers gentle practices and questions to help you move from restraint to safety. Choose compassion over control and remember you are worthy of love and belonging.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Troy L. Love uses a personal wisdom-teeth story to expose the ‘martyr’ voice that drives overgiving and self-sacrifice. He explains trauma-informed boundaries as nervous-system–aware limits that protect connection without abandoning yourself.   This short episode offers practical reframes and simple phrases to challenge beliefs like “rest must be earned,” helping you set limits that honor your capacity, worth, and relationships.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. Hosted by Troy L. Love, this episode explains why arguments often aren’t about the issue at hand but about nervous system survival. Using the metaphor of relationship "BRPEx"—Blame, Rescue, Protest, Escape—Troy shows how fight-or-flight responses shut down thinking and why logic doesn’t land when safety is gone. He teaches simple steps to pause, name emotions, empathize, and regulate so connection can restore clarity. Choose connection first, slow the spiral, and learn how safety brings the thinking brain back online.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and motivation fades. Troy L. Love explains how chronic procrastination and emotional flatness can be nervous-system protection—called freezing—not laziness, and invites listeners to reframe self-judgment into curiosity about what needs are being protected. Learn simple steps to honor stillness, tend attachment wounds, and create safety so you can move forward with more peace and connection.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Host Troy L. Love explores how growing up with unpredictable anger trains the nervous system to stay on guard, and why hypervigilance is an adaptive response rather than a flaw. He offers a simple, trauma-informed grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1) and compassionate reframing to help the body learn to relax safely and find more peace, joy, and connection.     https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Host Troy L. Love shares a personal teenage story to explain how our nervous system uses fight, flight, freeze, or fawn to survive. He reframes these reactions as learned survival strategies—not identities—and shows how shame loses power when we listen to our body with curiosity. This short episode offers simple, trauma-informed tools—breathing, grounding, and self-compassion—to help you respond differently in moments of activation and move toward more peace, connection, and belonging.   pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools to help you when emotions run high and your nervous system needs support. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains why “calm down” often backfires, how shame and threat escalate activation, and invites a simple replacement: ask, “What would help my system feel 5% safer right now?” Learn practical, relational strategies—breath, grounding, naming feelings, reaching out—that invite safety, connection, and the eventual emergence of calm.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in everyday life—short episodes to support you when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs grounding. Host Troy L. Love guides listeners toward more peace, joy, and connection, one moment at a time. In this episode we explore the "window of tolerance": the zone where the nervous system can handle life without becoming overwhelmed. Learn how to notice signs of going above (anxiety, panic, reactivity) or below (numbness, shutdown), why the body is always asking "Am I safe?", and how simple curiosity and awareness can widen your window, build capacity, and help you return to connection with kindness.

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains how stress, trauma, and shame differ, using a real-life story to show how mislabeling feelings can keep our nervous system stuck. Learn how to recognize the "judge" of shame, ask what wound is being triggered, and use simple practices—naming shame and refusing to honor it—to begin healing and reclaim a sense of safety, worth, and belonging.

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast focuses on practical, trauma-informed tools to calm the nervous system and create real change. Troy L. Love explains why insight alone often isn’t enough — safety must come first so new learning can stick. This episode offers a simple, body-first approach and a micro-practice: when you notice a repetitive pattern, ask, “What might my nervous system be trying to protect me from right now?” The episode guides listeners toward building safety, softening shame, and returning to curiosity and connection.

Welcome back to the Finding Peace Podcast—and welcome to a new season. If you’ve been walking alongside us for a while, thank you. Thank you for listening, for doing the work, and for being willing to sit with conversations that are meaningful, vulnerable, and sometimes uncomfortable. Last season, we moved slowly and intentionally through the Finding Peace Worksheet, exploring awareness, patterns, attachment, and the wounds that often keep us stuck. That work still matters, and there’s no rush to complete it. Healing is not a race. This season, we’re shifting gears. These episodes are shorter—about 10 to 15 minutes—and focused on practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in your real, everyday life. Each episode introduces one core idea, practice, or tool you can try immediately. Some will help regulate your nervous system. Some will support healthier responses in relationships. Some will help you get out of your head and back into your body. Others will help you reconnect with the parts of you that feel exhausted, guarded, or quietly longing for more. The intention is simple: Not just insight—but integration. You don’t need to overhaul your life. You don’t need to become someone else. You don’t need to be fully healed to experience peace. What you do need are small moments of intention, consistency, and compassion—right in the middle of life as it is. Whether you’re listening between sessions, on a walk, during a commute, or in a rare quiet moment that finally belongs to you, this season is designed to meet you where you are. Let’s get practical. Let’s get honest. And let’s keep finding peace—together

Host Troy L. Love sits down with James, a social worker who shares his journey from childhood abandonment and family wounds to grief after the death of a beloved stepfather. They explore how anger, betrayal, addiction, faith, and self-compassion shaped his healing. Through candid conversation, James describes steps toward peace — setting boundaries with inner judgment, choosing faith over the numbing rebel, and using hardship to grow, serve others, and reclaim safety and purpose.   Thanks to the Artists from Artlist and Storyblocks for the background music. 

In this episode of the Finding Peace podcast, join us as we delve into an inspiring conversation with Sam, a man in recovery who is striving to change his life. With 18 months of recovery under his belt, Sam reflects on his journey towards better self-care, revealing his struggles with taking time off work due to deep-seated fears of rejection and being expendable. Together, we explore the roots of these fears, tracing them back to influential moments in his life and unveiling the shadows of the judge, martyr, and politician that have shaped his beliefs. As Sam opens up about the emotional wounds and expectations that have followed him since childhood, he discovers empowering insights and ways to challenge the narratives that have held him back. This heartfelt discussion offers listeners a window into one person's fight for self-acceptance amidst pressures for perfection, while encouraging us all to embrace our worthiness and prioritize self-care in our daily lives.   Thanks to the United States Marine Band and the following Artists from Artlist and Storyblocks Flint – Sunmonth, Daniel Pratt - Honest Thoughts cinematic-drama-sad-piano-and-clouds-of-strings-SBA Adam Dib - Up in the Sky Tomáš Herudek - Sound of Something Horrible Inon Zur - Searching in Shadow Shahead Mostafafar - Golden Diamond   Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue as performed by the United States Marine Band on July 10, 2018. This file is a work of a United States Marine or employee, taken or made as part of that person's official duties. As a work of the U.S. federal government, it is in the public domain.

Join Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love in this emotional episode of the Finding Peace podcast as he welcomes Dee, a therapist battling her own shadows of betrayal and shame. Together, they journey to uncover the barriers keeping Dee from finding peace and connection. Through a heartfelt discussion, they explore the intricacies of betrayal trauma, the shadows of judgment, and the weight of family shame. Dee opens up about her fear of being invisible, her desire for legacy, and the protection shields she conceived as a child to survive neglect and betrayal. As the episode unfolds, Dee uncovers her wisdom and light, embracing her true power, and embarking on a cathartic bonfire ritual to release the burdens she carried. Experience the uplifting transformation as she finds her path to joy, love, and authentic self-acceptance. Troy guides Dee to challenge her limiting beliefs, dismantle her shadows, and reconnect with clarity and self-care, offering profound insights for listeners on their own journey to healing. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a doorway to true strength and joy.

A brief update on the status of the Finding Peace Podcast and a discussion on Positive Affirmations. 

In this episode of the Finding Peace podcast, host Troy L. Love sits down with his friend Al, who bravely steps into the healing seat to confront past wounds and discover his self-worth. Al opens up about his struggles with unemployment, feelings of inadequacy, and the deep-seated wounds of loss, rejection, and abandonment that have plagued him since childhood. Join us as we delve into Al's emotional journey to rewrite his narrative, challenge the voices of judgement and fear, and find his purpose amid the chaos. Listen in as Al explores the powerful stories he tells himself, learns to let go of the shadows of shame, and embraces the pathway to joy, love, and connection. Gain insights from the transformative work on the podcast and feel inspired to embark on your own journey to find peace. Al's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the profound impact of choosing one's own way, despite the odds.

Welcome to another insightful episode of the Finding Peace Podcast with your host, Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love. Today, we are joined by a special guest, Justson, a multifaceted individual known for his voice acting, D&D dungeon mastering, and his work at Amazon. In this episode, Justson opens up about his struggles with self-love, feelings of unworthiness, and addiction. He shares his journey of finding peace and clarity in life and his challenges in loving himself. Troy and Justson delve deep into core beliefs, attachment wounds, and the impact of feeling unloved and unseen. Listen in as they explore the possibility of finding self-worth and experiencing unconditional love. This heartfelt conversation sheds light on the importance of connection, integrity, and small daily practices that can lead to profound changes. Join us in this touching and transformative episode as we navigate the complexities of self-worth and the path to finding peace.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

In this episode, Troy introduces his dear friend Abigail, a life coach certified in breath work, doing fantastic work with women with attachment wounds. Abigail opens up about her struggles with speaking her truth and the physical manifestations of her anxiety. Through an insightful conversation, Troy helps Abigail uncover the deep-seated wounds of betrayal and abuse and the limiting beliefs that have held her back. Together, they explore the shadows that cloud Abigail's self-perception and work through the powerful Finding Peace process to clear them out. Abigail learns to trust herself and embrace her truth, leading to a profound sense of peace and empowerment. This episode is a testament to the transformative power of self-awareness and the importance of rewriting our inner narratives.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast   Special thanks to Storyblocks for the background music.    https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Welcome to a special episode of the Finding Peace Podcast with your host, Amazon bestselling author, Troy L. Love. In this episode, we meet John, a former band member who struggles with authenticity, self-worth, and honesty in his relationships. John shares his journey of dealing with rejection, abandonment, and betrayal, and how these wounds have shaped his self-perception. Through a Christian perspective, Troy helps John explore his deepest fears and guides him towards self-acceptance and healing. Join us as we dive into an emotional conversation about the power of rewriting our stories, overcoming shame, and finding the courage to live authentically. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the pathways to joy, love, and connection.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast   Special thanks to Storyblocks and https://artlist.io/ for the background music. 

In this heartfelt episode of the Finding Peace Podcast, host Troy L. Love introduces his dear friend, Rafael, an accomplished architect and father of two. Rafael shares his journey of overcoming intimacy avoidance and the challenges of exposing his authentic self without fear of criticism and shame. Join them as they delve into Rafael's struggles with vulnerability, the impact of his past, and a recent breakthrough conversation with his former spouse about planning a trip to Europe. Discover how Rafael navigates the shadows of his past, learns to speak his truth, and steps out of the box to embrace joy and authenticity in his life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with insights on breaking free from limiting beliefs and finding true peace and connection.   Thanks to Storyblocks and Artlist.io for the background music.  

Welcome to this episode of the Finding Peace podcast. Today, we introduce you to Daniel, a new friend who courageously shares his journey with us. Daniel has been struggling with patterns of self-sabotage, impacting his financial stability and personal well-being. Join us as we delve into Daniel's experiences and explore the attachment wounds that have shaped his life. This episode offers profound insights into how our core beliefs can drive self-destructive behaviors. Daniel's story is a testament to the power of vulnerability and the importance of rewriting our narratives to foster joy, love, and connection. Hosted by Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love, this episode sheds light on overcoming the shadows of shame and finding peace within ourselves. Please tune in to hear how Daniel identifies and confronts his attachment wounds, paving the way for a more fulfilling and peaceful life. Don't miss this heartfelt and enlightening conversation on the Finding Peace podcast.   Special thanks to the musicians at https://artlist.io/ for their background music. https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast   

Welcome to this episode of the Finding Peace podcast! Join Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love as he sits down with Carlos, a past participant in the Finding Peace retreat. Carlos shares his inspiring journey of self-discovery and growth, revealing how he has managed to maintain a positive path despite life’s challenges. In this episode, Troy helps Carlos navigate the Finding Peace worksheet, exploring the roots of his anger and the stories he tells himself. Carlos candidly discusses his struggles with reacting aggressively, especially in family situations, and how these reactions are linked to past wounds of neglect and rejection. Through a powerful and emotional conversation, Carlos learns to identify and challenge his core beliefs, replacing them with affirmations of his true worth. Discover how Carlos plans to face future challenges with newfound optimism and tools to maintain peace and connection in his relationships. Tune in for an episode filled with insights on rewriting personal narratives, healing from past wounds, and embracing the journey toward joy, love, and connection.   https://blog.pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

www.findingpeaceconsulting.com We all have painful events in our lives that can lead to depression, anxiety, addiction, or broken relationships. But here's a secret: it's not about what happened to us that causes suffering; it's the stories we believe about ourselves. Join us as we shine a light on how to rewrite our stories, avoid the shadows of shame, and travel along the pathway to joy, love, and connection. It's the Finding Peace Podcast with your host, Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love. In this episode, Troy welcomes Robin Smith, a Marriage and Family Therapist, who shares his journey of overcoming financial stress and balancing legacy beliefs with his financial sovereignty. Robin opens up about his experiences, including the inner conflicts between his past and present self and how he navigates these challenges within his family dynamics. As they delve into the Finding Peace process, Robin explores the various protective parts of his psyche, uncovering deep-seated wounds and core beliefs. Together, they work through these layers, finding clarity and healing. This episode is a powerful testament to the importance of self-awareness, courage, and connection on the path to inner peace. Whether dealing with financial stress, relationship challenges, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself, this episode offers valuable insights and practical guidance. Tune in and discover how to transform your pain into a source of strength and joy.   Follow Robin Smith on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube  or https://www.robinsmithshow.com/   Special thanks to the amazing artists from https://artlist.io/ who provided the background music.

Welcome back to another episode of the Finding Peace podcast after a brief hiatus. In this emphatic episode, we delve into the concept of whether everything that happens to us is for our good. Sometimes life presents us with seemingly awful circumstances, often uttered at funerals and making it difficult for people to find comfort. However, this catchphrase can have profound meanings when carefully pondered. This episode shares a story about a Chinese wealthy man who experienced several turbulent events. The tale highlights the profound truth that what might initially seem bad, could turn out to be a blessing in disguise. If we can lean into the discomfort of these situations, perhaps we can see these events unravel into something good. However, it's not always easy to accept these situations with grace. This episode brings to light the struggles we might face when faced with adversity, and the importance of not succumbing to our doubts and fears. Recognizing that personal growth often comes from our lowest moments can act as a soothing balm in our difficult times. What if every rejection, setback, or failure was truly meant for our own good? Could we develop a more open-minded perspective when faced with disappointment? This thought-provoking discussion aims to challenge listeners to see these possibilities through a different lens. The host also highlights an insightful analogy about what to do with the 'poop' of life. We can isolate it, ignore it until it's unbearable, or we could use it to enrich our lives, the same way farmers use manure to fertilize their crops. It attempts to illustrate how personal growth can blossom from our darkest moments. Finding Peace podcast invites everyone to share their thoughts about the lessons they learn from the messiness of life, reassuring everyone that they are indeed loved and worth it. It's a journey, and we all share our unique path in it.

This emotional episode follows Mary Douglass's compelling journey of healing, self-discovery, and finding peace amidst life's trials. Raw and unfiltered, the narrative begins with a devastating heartbreak, which compels her on a transformative journey of self-realization and healing. Through confronting past traumas and deep-set insecurities, she embarks on an inspiring journey of self-growth, ultimately reclaiming her self-worth and independence. Set in a spiritual retreat in Prescott, Arizona, she defies her initial skepticism and uncertainties to give herself a chance at healing. The episode paints a vivid picture of her journey, encompassing moments of vulnerability, laughter, tears, and friendships formed as heartache steadily gave way to self-love. Interspersed with personal experiences and reflections, the story unfolds her battles with challenges such as parental divorce, personal heartbreaks, and the death of a loved one. Each struggle brings her closer to inner peace and self-love, presenting an unfiltered view of resilience, strength, and the enduring human spirit. Bearing witness to her journey, we understand her transformation from a woman weighed down by self-loathing and shame to embracing her wounds as stepping stones to self-love and healing. By the end of her journey, she emerges beyond shame, no longer a casualty of failed relationships but a strong, independent woman unafraid of love or companionship. This episode is a testament to the power of accepting oneself, underlining the belief that everyone, despite their insecurities, deserves peace and attracts a nourished, compassionate, and healing life.   Learn more about the Finding Peace Retreat at www.findingpeaceretreat.com 

In this powerful life testimony, Troy shares his struggle with addiction — an ordeal that not only threatened to destroy his marriage, relationships, and spirituality but also his consciousness of self. Battling shame and deep feelings of unworthiness, he paints a picture of the struggle that comes when one is fighting an addiction. Unexpectedly, he found that sobriety didn’t automatically translate to happiness. Instead, it opened floodgates to suppressed emotional wounds — rejection, neglect, abandonment, loss — which he had numbed over the years with his addiction. Confronted with all this unresolved pain, he grappled with enormous bitterness, resentment, and anger, pushing him close to a suicidal abyss. Troy discovered attachment wounds in his pursuit for help, which sparked a transformation. The newfound clarity helped him realize that these wounds were the root cause of his emotional honesty. He started cultivating healthier responses when dealing with rejection and abandonment, improving his relationships and actions towards his loved ones. On this journey, he developed the Finding Peace process and workbook — a methodology to heal the pain inside and refrain from causing misery and heartache to others. In this transformative journey, attending a retreat was integral. Its unconventional and interactive approach to learning deeply impacted him, finally leading him to open a private practice and convert his experiences into a full-time practice. He extends an invitation to the ‘Finding Peace Retreat’ for those weighed down by rage, resentment, worry, or depression. He encourages those struggling with attachment wounds to experience a novel and creative approach to learning and finding peace amidst their challenges. As he concludes, he shares insight on the importance of rewiring our internal narratives from negative to positive. The speaker urges us to fight the 'I'm not enough' mindset, and instead, he relentlessly emphasizes the immense capability and endurance we have as individuals.   Learn more about the Finding Peace Retreat at www.findingpeaceretreat.com  

Get ready for Season 5 of the captivating Finding Peace podcast hosted by Troy Love. After a successful and enlightening Season 4, where individual participants were guided through the enlightening Finding Peace worksheet, the plan for the upcoming season has been set. Witnessing the personal growth and self-discovery of participants as they connect with their inner truth and light was an incredibly inspiring experience, reinforcing Love's belief that all individuals possess innate love and light. If you've been moved by the podcast's core message and would like to be a part of the upcoming season, we're more than excited to extend the invitation your way. As a guest on the Finding Peace podcast for Season 5, you will have the opportunity to walk through the valuable processes of the Finding Peace worksheet. By visiting findingpeaceconsulting.com/podcast, you can send in your application - simply scroll to the middle of the page and click the "Yes, I'm in" button. Participate in this enlightening journey and contribute to the heartfelt stories that unveil the hidden love and light in us all. We look forward to reviewing your application and potentially welcoming you to Season 5 of Finding Peace podcast. Remember, you are always worthy of love and belonging.

In this podcast episode, Troy Love walks Daniel through the Finding Peace Worksheet where Daniel delves into personal experiences and emotional wounds. Daniel discusses his struggles with feeling disconnected from his family of origin, particularly his father, following his parents' divorce. He shares his feelings of neglect and abandonment, which have contributed to a core belief that he's not enough. These beliefs have affected his relationships, causing insecurity and the fear of being a burden to others. Daniel also reflects on how these wounds have impacted his marriage and family life. Troy helps Daniel identify the inner critical voice, the "Judge" that constantly berates him, and the "Martyr" that drives him to please others to avoid abandonment fears. They engage in exercises to confront and disarm these inner voices, ultimately empowering Daniel to reclaim his self-worth and heal his emotional wounds. The episode highlights the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and personal beliefs and the process of addressing and transforming these internal struggles.   https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

The issue that Sher would like to find more peace and joy about revolves around her daughter's constant requests for financial assistance. Whenever she receives a text or call from her daughter, it triggers anxiety, fear, dread, and sadness because it usually means her daughter needs money. This situation has created a lack of peace for Sher for a long time because it reminds her of her childhood experiences of poverty, neglect, and abuse. Sher's daughter's addiction and her requests for money bring up deep-seated wounds from her past, including feelings of abandonment, neglect, and not being good enough. She sees parallels between her daughter's behavior and her own experiences growing up, leading to betrayal, loss, and abuse. Sher also shared that her daughter had gone missing for several years while battling addiction, which added to her emotional turmoil. Seeing her daughter's name on her phone triggers these painful emotions, and the core belief that gets activated for Sher is that she is not good enough. This belief stems from her childhood experiences of feeling unloved and unwanted, as she was adopted at a young age without anyone fighting to keep her. The emotions that Sher experiences in response to her daughter's messages are primarily sadness and fear. She used to provide her daughter with financial support to ease her discomfort, but she realized she was doing it to soothe her emotions rather than address the underlying issues. Now, she's trying to establish boundaries and have conversations before providing financial assistance, but it remains challenging. Sher's struggle with her daughter's situation also leads to shadows of shame, including feelings of rebellion, self-criticism, and powerlessness. The presence of grandchildren in the equation makes the situation even more complex and emotionally challenging for her.

In this conversation between Erika (not her real name) and Troy Love, Erika discusses her struggle to relax and rejuvenate. She acknowledges the pressure to work constantly and the fear that taking time for herself will lead to more work piling up. Erika is also aware of her inner shadows, like the judge and the martyr, who constantly criticize and pressure her. Troy encourages Erika to start with small increments of time for self-care, even just five minutes, and to fiercely protect that time as non-negotiable. The conversation ends with Erka acknowledging her need for this time and her commitment to incorporating it into her routine despite the discomfort it may initially bring. Overall, the discussion highlights the challenges many individuals face in balancing work and self-care and the importance of permitting oneself to prioritize personal well-being.

In this emotionally charged episode, the host welcomes John, a man who has been grappling with a deep-rooted fear of losing everything, including his family, due to past choices he's made. John bravely takes listeners on his personal journey of confronting his shadows of shame and connecting with his wounds of rejection and abandonment from his childhood. Through therapy and introspection, John begins to understand that his fear is tied to his past, and he's been projecting those old feelings onto his current life. As he faces his shadows, he starts to unravel the root of his fears and makes a profound connection with his new truth. John learns to embrace self-compassion and forgiveness, recognizing that he is worthy of love and happiness despite his imperfections. This newfound understanding shifts how he views his relationships, particularly with his family, as he becomes more open and honest with them.   **Key Points:** - John grapples with a deep-rooted fear of losing everything due to past choices. - He confronts his shadows of shame and connects with past wounds of rejection and abandonment. - Understanding the root of his fears helps him let go of unnecessary distress. - John embraces self-compassion, forgiveness, and his new truth. - His relationships, particularly with his family, strengthen as he becomes more open and honest.   Additional Music provided by Artist.io with artists:  ElevenTales - Slow Tides Michael Vignola - Calling for You Katrina Stone - Digging Tunnels Aija Alsina - Sunrise

Ally has a kind, approachable demeanor. Using a client-centered approach, Ally fosters a safe environment to help clients decrease stress, release belief systems and trapped emotions that no longer serve them, and embrace their new truths. Ally utilizes a holistic approach to wellness. She has over 14 years of experience as a social worker, educator, published author, energy healer, retreat facilitator, and certified life coach. For more detailed information about Ally's services, please visit her website, chronicwellness.info.

In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Kyle, a remarkable individual who has embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing after enduring years of bullying in high school. Kyle opens up about his experiences, discussing the emotional toll it took on him and the destructive coping mechanisms he developed as a result. Kyle shares candidly about the ways he tried to numb the pain, revealing the detrimental impact it had not only on himself but also on the people he loves. Recognizing the need for change, he sought out healthier strategies to find greater peace, joy, and self-acceptance in his life. One tool that proved instrumental in Kyle's healing process was the "Finding Peace" worksheet, a valuable resource he discovered along the way. He discusses how he utilized this worksheet to confront the deep-rooted issues stemming from his bullying experiences. Kyle explains how the worksheet helped him explore and process his emotions, offering a path toward healing and personal growth. Throughout the interview, Kyle shares the pivotal moments and insights that led him on his transformative journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, vulnerability, and seeking support from loved ones and professionals. Listeners will gain valuable insights from Kyle's story, as he imparts wisdom and practical advice for anyone facing similar challenges. His journey serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of self-acceptance. Tune in to this empowering episode to hear Kyle's powerful story of overcoming bullying, finding inner peace, and embracing a life filled with joy and self-acceptance. If you haven’t taken the Free Finding Peace Challenge, go to https://findingpeaceconsulting.com/five-day-challenge/   A special shout out to Artist.io and the amazing musicians who contributed to the soundtrack for this episode: The Dream of LifeSémø, Yoed Nir NarcissusMaya Belsitzman & Matan Ephrat King's RequiemAlon Peretz Mountain of Doomby Amit Weiner By the Riverby Mattia Vlad Morleo Stargazingby Livingrooms Driving Homeby Noam Zaguri   

Jenny Kempton is currently finishing her Master’s degree in Social Work at ASU and has her bachelor's in Child Development. She has facilitated several Finding Peace book groups and social groups and has worked with clients in her internships with this model. In all these capacities Jenny finds joy in being with others on their healing journeys. Her interests in the field are trauma work and expressive arts therapy. Jenny and her husband have four kids and enjoy going on adventures and watching movies together.   Join her as she faces her Shadows of Shame in this episode of the Finding Peace Podcast. Thank you also to Artlist for all of the background music we used in this episode.  You can learn more about them here.   If you haven't signed up for the Finding Peace Five-Day Challenge...it's free.  You can do so here: https://findingpeaceconsulting.com/five-day-challenge/

In this Season of the Finding Peace Podcast, we are changing things up. During each episode, we will interview a courageous person who has signed up to be what has lovingly been called the Healing Seat.  Together, this person and I will walk through the Finding Peace Worksheet.  You can get your own copy of the Finding Peace Retreat when you sign up for the FREE Finding Peace Five-Day Challenge.     In this episode, we listen to Jules share her story of rejection, betrayal, and abandonment and help her to begin changing the narrative around her Shadows of Shame®. 

Stay tuned for the next season of the Finding Peace Podcast! Episodes launch in May 2023.

Jonny Porter is the owner of These Guys, a marketing firm based in Arizona. In addition to running the firm, Jonny is also the host of a popular morning talk show on KBLU AM 560, where they cover politics, local issues and current events. Before starting These Guys, Jonny gained valuable marketing experience as an independent rapper navigating the music industry. Despite not having a formal degree in Marketing, Jonny learned the skills and knowledge necessary to succeed in this industry as a rapper. Jonny has been working in marketing for 15 years and is proud of the work his done to grow the business. In Jonny’s spare time, he enjoys reading and spending time on his mom’s little farm hidden in the woods of Payson, Arizona.

Gary van Warmerdam is the creator of PathwayToHappiness.com, an interactive website with lessons for changing beliefs that drive negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. In 1994, due to his own unhappiness with work and emotional drama in his relationships, Gary became motivated to learn about how his beliefs affected his emotions and decision-making. He studied extensively with Dr. Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements (a favorite of Oprah Winfrey) and other best-selling books. Gary realized that with a proper approach, he could gain greater control over his mind and emotions. With practice, he developed the power and the freedom to choose the peace and happiness he was seeking. Educated and experienced as an engineer, Gary brings a common sense approach to changing beliefs, emotions, mindfulness, and living in greater happiness. Since 2001 Gary has been lecturing, leading retreats, and coaching individual clients so they can live happier lives. His methods are not limited to a particular philosophy or approach, but are based on careful observation and getting practical results. You can explore more of Gary's work at his website www.PathwayToHappiness.com which has extensive free material and online courses for changing beliefs, emotions, and creating better relationships.

Sirena Andrea (pronounced Sir-Rain-A) is a Master Storyteller specializing in helping women become the authors of their own stories through the ancient and powerful process of healing through storytelling so they can find their true voice and live more empowered lives. She is the Director and Creatrix of the YoniVerse Monologues a powerful Storytelling & Trauma Release Program that has reached thousands throughout the Bay Area with sold-out performances every year featuring true life stories told by the courageous women who have lived them. Here is how you can find Sirena: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0G_BeqgHNlSlztmaVzIuOA/featured https://www.facebook.com/sirena.andrea.10/  

Join me for Episode 10 of the Finding Peace Podcast with Nikki Eisenhauer.  Nikki is a Professional Psychotherapist, International Life Coach, Yoga Teacher, and Host of the podcast, Emotional Badass: Where Moxie Meets Mindful. In 2017, she launched the podcast to spread healing, empowerment, and hope to Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), Empaths, survivors, and seekers worldwide. Drawing from her experiences as a survivor of childhood abuse and the years she spent as a psychotherapist and life coach, she's mindfully designed the show to be the emotional education many of us crave. She truly believes in the power of healing. When we heal our wounds, let go of what doesn’t serve us, and embrace transformational self-care, we can live a life of purpose, peace, and connection. As we each step up to do this healing work—through the butterfly effect, —we change the world.

Today's guest on the Finding Peace Podcast is Joel Green.. Joel is CEO of Pro Level Training, the National Director of Nike Sports Camps, a former professional basketball player, and a renowned motivational speaker. After retiring from his career in professional basketball, Joel Green founded Pro Level Training (PLT), which has become a 7-figure company. In addition to running PLT, Green is also the National Director for Nike Sports Camps as well as an accomplished speaker. He was honored to speak to thousands and deliver his own TED Talk.  Joel Green’s unique differentiator in business and as an individual is his ability to see life objectively from multiple vantage points. Unfortunate circumstances as a youth helped to groom and refine Joel into adulthood. Growing up in an abandoned home and seeing both sides of life has really helped him to connect with people over time.   A thought leader in the motivational category, Joel Green has a B.A. in Psychology from Rider University, which has helped to fuel his ambition to inspire others. He has developed a reputation for personal excellence and motivational talks that contribute tangible advice for attaining desired goals. Many of the messages he has delivered are conveyed in his first book, Filtering: The Way to Extract Strength from the Struggle, due to release this fall.   In addition, Green is a professional sports and fitness model and actor, and he has been featured in commercials, ads, and on television. Most recently he was the face of Cheez-It crackers Celebrity Crunch Classic campaign, in which he was solely featured on millions of snack boxes.  Green is known for setting very ambitious goals for himself, most recently his own challenge of reading 30 books in 30 weeks. He has unflinchingly put in 18-20-hour workdays with great joy to make his dreams a physical manifestation. He attributes his work ethic to his unwavering faith and his passionate desire for excellence – both of which have allowed him to overcome many difficulties and life challenges. Learn more about Joel Green at http://www.joelbgreen.com/. Follow him on Instagram and LinkedIn.   

Rose Ann was a successful C-Suite Executive and ministry leader in the church. She was a working mom of four and a social drinker. Over the years, life’s stresses and a difficult marriage created an environment where her alcohol usage increased significantly. Her health and emotional well-being suffered greatly. After the collapse of her marriage, her drinking further escalated, and she felt like a fraud to God and the Church.    She made several attempts to control it only to lose control later again. AA was not the right fit for her.  She had already submitted to God and didn’t want to call herself an alcoholic.    When the COVID-19 pandemic hit, she enrolled in a coaching program to put alcohol aside for three months. Her experience was extremely transformational, and she recognized God’s instruction embedded in the entire process. She identified what alcohol had stolen from her life and understood God had a better plan for her. Rose Ann felt called to document what she learned with a daily devotional so others can experience God’s promises through scriptural instruction with hope and a better plan for the future.   You can get a copy of Rose Ann’s book, The Plans He Has For Me: A 12-Week Daily Devotional for Freedom from Alcohol, by clicking here.    When you purchase the book, you also get free access to a private Facebook group with other like-minded individuals taking the same challenge and supporting each other.   You can also download the Kickstart Method for Alcohol Freedom for free at www.theplanshehasforme.com.   Check out Rose Ann's Before picture: