Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler

My Love is Blind Season 10 Pre-Reunion Breakdown.Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Reattach Course: https://payhip.com/b/rdBRF00:00:57 Alex00:03:23 Ashley00:08:16 Chris00:09:36 Jessica00:12:02 Connor00:14:17 Bri00:16:55 Devonte00:19:25 Brittany00:21:17 Jordan00:22:29 Amber00:22:49 Mike00:23:45 Emma00:26:11 Kevan00:29:19 Tyler 00:30:30 Keya00:32:01 Vic & ChristineThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The Disempowered-Man and Entitled-Woman dynamic is a problematic  pair, where the man sinks into a powerless role and the woman takes over. The masculine frame has broken down. The woman tries to become the man she wanted from the beginning.The catastrophic breakdown of relationships and family in America is layered. One of the major issues is the absence of healthy, present father figures. Men without role models to help guide how they lead themselves and the family has left an enormous void. We also have social-cultural issues such as media glamorizing divorce; weaponoization of the legal system; pedastalizing the woman’s experience, while dismissing and degrading the man’s experience — and more.If you’re caught in this dynamic and you need help breaking and correcting this pattern as an individual or couple, complete my interest form. From there, I’ll reach out to schedule a consultation.👉 Interest form: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08LWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/⏰ Timestamps:00:05:48 Intro to the Disempowered Man & Entitled Woman00:10:13 Red Pill Rabbithole00:11:41 Drained but can’t complain00:15:35 Where does this dynamic come from?Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This is about the Overfunctioner-Underperformer Dynamic, where one partner consistently carries the majority of the load, while the other partner fails to show up in a way that truly progresses and deepens the relationship.We’re not blaming the person “doing less” or sympathizing with the person “doing more” — I’m pulling the veil back so you can see the inner workings of what’s happening in this dynamic and I’m giving solutions for what to do about it.Mentioned videos —8 models for Self & Relational Development: https://youtu.be/tLHS3kaacgoSER Model: https://youtu.be/mOwCXoETFxc👩🏾‍🏫 Conflict in Couples Workshop: https://taylorchandler.as.me/schedule/7f693168/?appointmentTypeIds[]=88471947👉 Interest form to work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L💻 Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/⏰ Timestamps:00:00:38 What are Relationship Dynamics?0:02:37 The Capacity Problem00:04:28 Three domains of capacity00:11:24 Solutions for the O-U DynamicThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

You know I love talking about Attachment! This is a major key to unlocking yourself and your relationships. Mastering my Attachment Style was a big part of my journey. I’m grateful for all I learned and how much it helped me.For a few years of my practice I almost solely helped people shift from insecure to secure attachment. I even had a group class called Reattach. Now YOU can do Reattach at your own pace. You can get the class and the exercises that have helped hundreds of people get a grip on their attachment and make positive changes.Head to my website to grab it and if you need additional help, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me through my interest form or email: [email protected]👉 Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/👉 Interest Form: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L⏰ Timestamps:00:00:40 What is an attachment style?00:02:06 My therapy journey with attachment 00:06:25 The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic00:10:00 Cycles of learning but not actingThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Hey y’all, I’m giving my foresights on what I think we’re going to see this year of 2026 in the dating and relationship lane. Just my thoughts! I’ll give a brief overview in the beginning of what we’ve seen in recent past.Check out the timestamps for the points and click the link below if you’re interested in working with me:👉 Interest form: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L⏰ Timestamps:00:01:17 What we’ve seen in the recent pasts00:09:32 What’s coming down the pipeline00:09:45 Polarized Daters00:12:02 Echo chambers up, engagement down00:15:28 Turning away from relationship influencer culture00:27:42 Sharper discernment00:28:37 A return to courtship00:39:46 Learning and un-learningThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The final part of the Renewal of the Mind Series — Mindset. I’m talking about 5 core aspects of Mindset in a way that makes it easy to understand and take action on. The more positive core aspects you have, the higher quality of life you will have — and when you maximize those positives, it gets even better. In this lane of personal and relational development, you get better options (so you’ll marry better), you’ll be more likable, better energy… an overall high vibe. Everyone wants it and when you set your mind to it, you’ll get it.👉 Work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L⏰ Timestamps: 00:04:44 Mindset00:15:25 Benefits of the Right Mindset00:30:29 Talk about the 5 Core AspectsThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Part 2 of the Renewal of the Mind Series — Mind Control. I’m expanding on this principle: the quality of your thoughts directly affects the quality of your life. Mind control is a skill that is more important now than ever (if you don’t do it, someone else will do it for you). I have 3 mechanisms for you to activate to heighten your degree of influence over your life. ⏰ Timestamps: 00:56:00 Thoughts are running us00:08:56 Mind Control is a skill00:10:30 Awareness is the starting point00:13:35 Living beneath you00:22:15 Three Mechanisms to ActivateThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This is for people who are determined to separate from the noise and shift to a higher level. In this episode, I’m talking about Identity, the foundation of a Renewed Mind. As we grow, we have to keep upgrading our system — and the internal system is where it all starts. This is the first of a 3-part series. Next up is Mind Control and Mindset.⏰ Timestamps:00:02:09 Principle: Quality of Thinking Determines Quality of Life00:05:30 Identity00:12:45 Transcending Group Identity00:15:07 Supporting Bible Verses00:30:25 Roots and Fruits⏯️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=glHH9JBbo_I&feature=youtu.beThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

If you’re a man or woman intentionally dating or want to start dating that way, this one is for you. Rather than focusing on how rough it is out there, let’s talk about what you can do to make it a whole lot better. I’m also sharing a bit about what started my  journey to intentional dating (which takes about the first 8 minutes).FitnessPurposeSpiritual DisciplineSexual DisciplineLifestyleRelationshipsPetsHomeTimestamps:00:03:08 Dating in Atlanta and transitioning to intentional dating00:10:22 Eight Areas of Focus for Serious Dating00:12:00 Fitness00:14:20 Purpose00:17:44 Spiritual Discipline00:20:41 Sexual Discipline00:24:05 Lifestyle00:28:00 Relationships00:31:42 Pets00:33:03 HomeThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I have a major update for you. I know this isn't going to fly with some people, and I've wrestled with this myself, but I know what I need to do. I'm ready to share it with you.In this video, I'm talking about:1. The answer to your pain (relational wounds -- from family, marriage, exes)2. Restructuring my business3. JesusThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I illustrate the over-functioner/under-performer dynamic. These are high-effort people who get low returns in their relationships. The markers of the dynamic are clearly laid out as well as the consequences of allowing this problem to persist. I share about my over-functioning past and how I changed in order to get what I give in relationship.Prepared Coaching Interest Form: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08LPrepared Guide:  https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08LTimestamps:00:03:30 Introduction to the Over-functioner / Under-performer Dynamic0:04:00 Marker #1 -  “This relationship will fall apart”00:04:23 Marker #2 - You’re drained00:05:19 Marker #3 - When they pull away, you give more00:09:49 Marker #4 - You’re managing, not partnering00:10:54 Marker #5 - You negotiate your needs00:14:23 When the problem persists00:18:31 Solving the problemThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I’m not here to talk celebrity gossip — I’m here to talk principles.In this episode, I use Cardi B and Offset as a case study for real-life relationship patterns: cheating, accountability, influence, and responsibility. Their story reveals what too many couples go through privately — how we hurt each other, react, and try to rebuild trust in the aftermath.We’ll explore three key interviews:1️⃣ Offset on Joe Budden — how he avoids the drama but misses key accountability.2️⃣ Offset on Keke Palmer — where he finally owns his selfishness and the impact of cheating.3️⃣ Cardi B on Jay Shetty — her reflections on depression, accountability, and faith after betrayal.Along the way, I connect this to principles I’ve shared before in my episode “A Vital Conversation About Responsibility and Accountability.”We’ll talk about how both people influence the dynamic, why accountability matters more than blame, and what it really means to operate with emotional maturity in love.This is for people who really care about handling the complexities of relationships.Episode - A Vital Conversation About Responsibility & Accountability:ON APPLE-- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundaries-grace-with-taylor-chandler/id1540127181?i=1000722804709ON SPOTIFY-- https://spotify.link/aHcOC3DhOXb👉 Share with someone who’s growing & cares about accountability (or should care)⬇️ Want to work together?👉 1-on-1 interest: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/jqyMCsr3 👉 Couple interest form:https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/DcaoHcan 🙌🏾 Donate to my channel: https://cash.app/$taychand(So I can do this content more often) 🤝 My links: https://linktr.ee/iamtaylorchandler (https://linktr.ee/iamtaylorchandler)#CardiB #Offset #Cheating #Relationships #Love #ModernLove #Accountability #emotionalintelligence 00:03:46 What is a principle?00:05:40:00 Responsibility & Accountability (linked in description)07:55:00 Offset Cheating & Cardi Behaving Poorly00:09:04 Relational principles & intro to context12:03:00 Some principles seem to contradict15:01:00 Context makes things grey00:20:23 Joe Budden x Cardi B00:25:16 Chaotic environments00:27:53 Flip asks Offset how he handles difficult things (Cardi)00:36:57 Keke Palmer x Offset00:42:22 Jay Shetty x Cardi B00:49:00 Summary of Offset & Cardi B’s interviews & my perspective00:53:18 Men cheating, relationships ending, and women’s accountability00:57:11 Parallels to normal life00:57:42 Infidelity breaks trust, deal with the underlying issue00:58:37 If your partner cheats, DO THIS01:01:55 Keep your private life PRIVATEThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I’m sharing one of the most important models in self and relational development — the Perception–Reality Model — and connecting it back to the SER Framework.The P-R concept is a simple, powerful, and a major key to understanding why conversations turn into conflict and how to avoid it.Bottom line is...Perception is not reality. What you see, feel, and believe is shaped by your vantage point. That matters — but it’s not the same as truth. When your perception and reality are out of balance, chaos shows up in your interactions. Learning to check your perspective and expand it creates space for clarity, understanding, and healthier connection.Then we zoom out to the SER Framework — Self-Esteem, Energy, and Responsibility — the foundation for becoming an attractive match and increasing your quality of life as an individual.👉 Previous Episode --  Models for Self & Relational Development --Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundaries-grace-with-taylor-chandler/id1540127181?i=1000729702954Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kjxKHyBXLgqsWdaM8wohP?si=6b464a06105d4f8d👉 Download the model library here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IHPp0mPhKisLmyHdqNtEHufxEdiTyVWvgmAQ08pXm28/edit?usp=sharing👉 Share the episode and support the channel if this work has helped you!Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

In this episode, I’m breaking down four key areas every woman needs to get right — fitness, friendships, media, and attitude.These aren’t random tips — they’re about how you show up in your life, your relationships, and your community. From the way you take care of your body to the energy you bring into your friendships and conversations, everything you do leaves an impression.We’ll talk about:Why fitness isn’t just about looks, but about health, confidence, and longevity.How your circle influences your mindset and relationship success.The subtle ways media shapes your values and self-image.The role your attitude plays in how you’re perceived — and how you connect with others.If you’re ready to elevate your standards, build self-awareness, and take ownership of the energy you bring to the world — this one’s for you.Listen now, reflect, and take notes — these four areas will tell you exactly where to start.Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

In this episode I walk through 8 practical models I use as a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. These frameworks are designed to help you evaluate yourself and your relationships, make better decisions, and get real results.Each model gives you a simple way to understand patterns, improve communication, and take action. If you’ve been stuck repeating the same problems in your life or relationships, these models will help you see the issues clearly and know what to do next.What you’ll learn:-Ability–Willingness Model: How to identify the real barrier to change-Energy Matrix: Managing your energy so you don’t burn out or overreact-Passive–Aggressive Communication Model: Where your communication style lands and how to adjust it-Chicken–Egg Dynamic: Breaking cycles of blame in relationships-CCC Model: Diagnosing the root of a problem (Character, Contingent, Circumstantial)-Authentic Self vs. Image Gap: Why the gap between who you are and what you project causes stress-Masculine–Feminine Polarity Model: How energy dynamics shape attraction and conflict-Time–Cost Model: Why delaying conversations makes problems more expensive to fixThese are not abstract theories. They’re practical frameworks I use with clients to improve their personal growth and relationship health.👉 Download the free guide with all 8 models here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IHPp0mPhKisLmyHdqNtEHufxEdiTyVWvgmAQ08pXm28/edit?usp=sharingThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The longer you wait to address problems in your relationship, the higher the cost to solve them. Just like ignoring the “check engine” light on your car, avoiding issues in your marriage or dating life only leads to bigger breakdowns later.I explain how preventative maintenance can save your relationship before it’s too late. By paying attention to early warning signs and being proactive, you not only protect your relationship — you actually increase your peace, energy, trust, intimacy, and long-term satisfaction.We’ll cover 3 key areas every couple needs to maintain to avoid unnecessary conflict and future regret:How We Communicate – Avoidant, anxious, or aggressive styles that escalate conflict instead of resolving it.Where We’re Going – Aligning goals, values, and vision for long-term compatibility, not just short-term chemistry.How We Got Here – Accountability and taking responsibility for your impact on the relationship.If you want to build a healthy, lasting relationship, this episode will give you tools to recognize problems early and address them with honesty and maturity. Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, preventative maintenance is the key.💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why small problems compound like debt if ignoredHow communication patterns impact long-term intimacyThe difference between chemistry and compatibilityWhy accountability is non-negotiable for marriage successPractical steps for maintaining trust, peace, and emotional connection📌 Want to work with me as a couple? https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/DcaoHcan🌐 More resources: https://linktr.ee/iamtaylorchandlerGottman 4 Horsemen: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Are you growing as a person but feeling like you’re growing apart from your partner? In this video, I break down the High-Low Dynamic—what happens when someone with high self-esteem, high energy, and high responsibility (High SER) pairs with someone who is struggling with low self-esteem, low energy, or low responsibility (Low SER).I’m Taylor Chandler, a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. Using my SER framework, I’ll explain why this dynamic creates tension in relationships, dating, and marriage—and what you can do about it.We’ll cover:-Signs you’re in a High-Low relationship-How the H-L dynamic starts-Two paths forwardThis advice applies whether you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or married. My goal is to help you become the best version of yourself and build the best possible relationship.If you’re ready to do the work—individually or as a couple—use the link below to apply for a consultation.👉 Work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/jqyMCsr3👉 More tools + writings: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Responsibility is the “R” in my SER framework — and it’s one of the keys to a better life and higher attraction. In this video, I break down the gigantic miscommunication showing up in almost every couple, tell you the crucial difference between responsibility and accountability, and what makes taking responsibility so hard (especially in relationships). If you want to build better character and a healthier relationship, this one’s for you :)03:30 Difference between Responsibility and Accountability05:50 A Couple Problem10:30 Responsibility and accountability go together14:54 Who is worth coaching?15:20 The relationship between responsibility and control17:04 Which direction am I going?24:17 Over-burdened with responsibilities30:17 Enabled, coddled, misinformed 34:40 America the land of the free37:45 Human nature to find fault38:52 Which came first, the chicken or the egg?45:41 It’s really your fault55:22 What I’m seeing in session55:55 Society does not delude men about responsibilityThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Higher quality relationships start with your energy. Simple shifts improve your life and attract the RIGHT people. In this episode, I give you 3 Markers & 3 Pathways to Higher Energy. 08:28 The invisible thing going on all the time11:57 What do we need to know?19:45 The minority is interested in Better17:20 Three markers and three pathways17:36 Marker #1: Attitude22:24 The way you move towards partnership27:12 Handling setbacks, stop being a victim, move on35:42 Marker #2: Mindset43:08 Marker #3: Consistency44:52 Judgment 46:55 Three Pathways47:05 Pathway #1: Audit51:25 Pathway #2: Consumption54:54 Pathway #3: Pro-social behaviorsThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The majority of people who want  relationships say there aren't enough good people to date and marry. I agree. In this episode I talk about what to do about it.02:00 Scarcity of attractive matches in the dating market06:55 Biological imperatives ??09:08 The truth of the minority011:07 A dangerous move13:28 Who is pursuing?15:22  I would never! Who would ever?19:33 Is this really why you’re single?20:45 Are you over-inflated? 23:40 The truth is high energy28:00 Most people have fundamental issues28:50 Prenups33:38 Breakups37:15 Delusions of thinking you’re a great persons41:04 Different kinds of relationships43:20 The competition in dating46:09 Supply and demand46:45 Good people and popularity54:45 How low self-esteem shows up01:03:00 Irrational emotionThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Welcome to Phase 2! The goal is high level self-development and high level relationships. Most people want it, only a few actually do it. But it's available to EVERYONE.In this episode I explain the framework we'll be working out of for the foreseeable future.Timestamps are approximate:02:30 Regrouping from Phase 1 and years of this work03:45 From business school to therapist school, shoutout to Dr. Erika Grafsky08:30 Lunch with Marissa Layton in Atlanta10:30 The broader relationship conversation11:50 People who cannot or will not change for the better should be left behind14:50  Be free from the ones who won't listen and don't care16:10 The inherent value of every human being17:50 People who value growth20:44 A human architect and thought models22:25 Winner winner25:35 My definition of an attractive match27:45 Are you going to do something about it or not?29:35 Doing 'white people stuff'31:25 Life-oriented results32:05 Christianity and God are not synonyms32:35 Fakers35:35 Building yourself is a process and the ones who build are the best matches36:12 Why we are the best matches36:44 Self-esteem, Energy, Responsibility37:05 Where do you fall on the spectrum?40:30 Too easy and dumb to be negative42:00 Scarcity in the dating market44:40 'I'm not there yet'47:30 Be honest and willing49:00 Most people are not attractive matches51:00 No one in their right mind would choose certain people53:20 Becoming attractive54:15 Wealthy is more than money55:20 No competition for high energy57:40 Let's win01:00:00 My goal01:01:15 People confusing each other because they have different goals01:02:45 How to think for great relationships01:04:00 If you learn what I teach you, you will win01:07:00 Listening to people who aren't really trying to help you01:08:10 Working with couples who want to be highly synergistic 01:09:10 Some couples are just incompatible01:11:00 Understand how individuals work together, should you cut your losses?01:11:30 Prepare when you're single so you save time01:13:45 An attractive match is everybody's type01:15:15 Everyone wants to marry the same type of person01:17:10 'How do I become a marry-able person?'01:18:40 Attractive matches and physical qualities01:19:50 Attractive matches do tend to look better01:22:50 My aligned audience and ideal client01:23:20 Self-actualization and relationship actualization01:24:40 Minor leagues and major leagues01:28:15 People whose purpose includes being single01:29:00 I don't think relationship people are better01:30:30 The disempowered man and the entitled woman01:34:50 I do too many disclaimers01:37:00 New interest formPlease leave a Review and Rate the podcast!I've changed a lot on my website - check it out here: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/iamtaylorchandlerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The Season 12 Finale! Let's bring everything from these past few months together.I planned on going over just a few notes to wrap the season, but I was in the zone and we got a lot more out of this. Discussing the importance of bringing humanity and decency back to relationship conversations, while also making clear distinctions between high-value behavior and low-value behavior and the outcomes that come with the respective mindsets.Few keywords for the episode:-Two types of people in the world: the responsible and the irresponsible-Importance of principle-driven behavior and decisions-Disliking Black People being unequal to calling out “bad behavior”-Eliminating dead weight from your life-Intro to my frameworks on individual and relational development (Phase 2)Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

We’ve had years of polarizing relationship content and we need to get clear on how to move forward.In this episode, we dive into the key differences between pro-social and anti-social people, exploring where these traits stem from—specifically the aspects of someone’s upbringing. We discuss the importance of aligning with pro-social individuals to foster positive change in relationships and families. References:https://www.statista.com/statistics/205097/percentage-of-poor-black-married-couple-families-in-the-us/#:~:text=U.S.%20poverty%20rate%20of%20Black%20married%2Dcouple%20families%201990%2D2023&text=In%202023%2C%206.5%20percent%20of,line%20in%20the%20United%20States.https://blackdemographics.com/https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.htmlThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Let me check myself, help you check yourself, and try to keep us balanced! In this episode, we're highlighting the issues of Radical Red Pill ideology, which is a response to problematic Radical Feminism ideology.Let's make an effort to stay sane, stay reasonable, see the value in both sides, and use critical thinking to make responsible decisions for ourselves and our relationships.Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I think the whole episode is more interesting than just the Main Points! Here are the 5 Tips for Moving Forward with the Mission, 5 Markers of the Inferior Man, and everything else in between.Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This short episode is part of a longer episode (about 1 hour). I edited this down to my first 5 tips to help us stay focused as we move forward with this work.Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Western culture has emphasized work and de-valued relationships. The impact on women is significant. Women who want marriage and family are over-burdened and under-prepared for what relationships take to thrive. Let's talk about the issues. If you want solutions, join us at workshop Saturday, Feb. 22nd 2025: Industrious Woman Workshop: RegisterThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This season is about making clear distinctions between who is who. Who can progress forward with us and who is going in a different direction.Here are 5 Markers of the Inferior ManThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Last Call for Women! Examining social and cultural issues preventing women from getting the relationships they want. We're talking about the breakdown of the nuclear family, the echo chamber reinforcing faulty thinking, rejecting accountability, and cult-like thinking.The Industrious Woman Workshop - Saturday, February 22, 2025 from 11 AM - 1 PM ESTRegister: https://TaylorChandler.as.me/?appointmentType=73712513Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

-Overview of Marriage and Divorce Stats-Making sense of the Numbers-Why Black Women's Numbers Look Different From Everyone Else?-Body and Attitude FactorsReferences:https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesityhttps://blogs.cdc.gov/nchs/2024/03/15/7567/https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.htmlhttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4850739/#T1Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Prioritizing Money over godly principles has put relationships in chaos - disordered and dysfunctional. Finances are seen as the root of stability rather than a solid family structure. Let’s discuss the spiritual issue of disordered relationships with money and how it impacts people, specifically women.Let’s work together: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Distinguish between Leading vs. Controlling vs. Condescending4 Points about Leadership4 Ways to Make Leadership BetterInterested in working together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Instead of New Promises in the New Year, I’m challenging you to BREAK old ones.Happy 2025!SUBSCRIBE TO YOUTUBEThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

For women facing tough internal conflicts and for men who seek to understand women better.01:50:00  Be Present03:10:00 Balance Desire and Good Stewardship03:42:00 Missed Opportunity06:48:00 Continuous Progress07:43:00 Michelle’s Review09:05:00 Investing in Yourself is Attractive11:44:00 What do I pray for?16:41:00 Men & Your Accomplishments21:13:00 Do I work on this or wait for better?23:03:00 When the honeymoon endsThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

An informal Q&A from my porch!Married Men Flirting, What is Cheating?, Bad Relationships with a Family Member, Do I Need to Change My Tone?,  Open Relationships, She’s Great and I Don’t Trust It, Dating Outside Your Circle01:16 Married Men Flirting01:38 Micro-Cheating04:40 Bad Relationship with Sibling06:07 Should I Change My Tone?14:36 My Husband Has A Problem With My Tone21:14 Gaslighting with Calm Tone24:44 Open Relationships26:25 I Don’t Know How to Express Myself27:43 She’s Great. Is She Putting On An Act?30:40 Can It Work with Someone Who Has More Than You?Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Giving you tools you can begin using ASAP at The Attachment Workshop! Listen in to some questions sent in on Instagram Live.Workshop is Sunday, Oct. 13 at 11 AM EST or Monday, Oct. 14 @ 6 PM EST. You choose your day!2 hour workshop for $15 (10% the price of a 1-on-1 session)Click here to RegisterThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating.If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist!03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure07:32 Couple-Work 09:16 Boundaries15:21 Attunememt17:43 Distance19:19 The End of Negotiations22:26 Make Believe23:34 All That Time Wasted26:27 Trauma Histories27:17 Cycles28:12 Halt - Get HelpThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

For single people who want to vet better! Ask THESE 5 questions to get a better idea of who you're dealing with and if they're worth your time.5 Questions you NEED to Ask Before Date 305:51 Social Media is a circus08:18 “I’d Rather Be Single”18:21 What Are You Looking For?20:15 Hedging Your Bet24:52 Do You Want Kids?31:04 First Class vs. Economy Dating36:00 “I Want Kids, but Only with the Right Person”37:36 When Did Your Last Relationship End?40:51 How Did Your Last Relationship End?46:11 What Has Your Experience Been of Me So Far?Pop the Balloon show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USOQid7YJ2sThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Can Women and Men *really* be friends? Should you even have opposite-gender friends if you’re in a romantic relationship?04:37 Will I do paid matchmaking?07:02 Free Coaching and Free Therapy - Sessions will be made public (https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/pLCXjOMz)08:46 Can women be friends with men?17:13 Context, Nuance, and Rigidity20:13 Context of Male Friendships24:44 How I Think Women Should Handle Male Friends33:17 Picking Up New Opposite-Gender Friends41:23 You Look Like a Mark42:38 Have a Conversation with Your Significant Other58:24 “My baby mama hates me and I deserve it. How do I create a better co-parent situation?”1:01:28 “What dod you do when you acknowledge your bad behaviors and still commit to the relationship, but the victim is not being graceful or is having a hard time forgiving?”Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The last 5 questions from my Live Q&A00:38 Communication Skills06:30 “Should I date someone I’m not physically attracted to?”10:10 Look Better15:16 How does Taylor deal with negativity online?18:38 How to deal with the condescending nature of the question “Who Hurt You?”21:37 Navigating STI/STD conversations in dating?Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Be sure to follow on Instagram @iamtaylorchandler to participate LIVE and submit questions!How to stay hopeful and optimistic while dating?Social Media DetoxGet clear on your Values and what you wantBeing a Serious Person when DatingPhysical Appearance - Show up ReadySerious CommunicationKnow your Strengths and Weaknesses“I keep giving grace and they don’t give grace in return”“How much time to spend before commitment?”“How do I deal with a breakup?”Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Manage the conflict between wanting a relationship while having fear of becoming too attached, or attached to the wrong person!At the end of the episode I give you 4 things you may want to consider when determining if the person you’re dating is worth the investment.04:27 What does it mean to become “Attached”?06:00 Your Attitude About Attachment09:00 Fear of Becoming Dependent / Losing Yourself09:41 Interdependency 10:57 Willing and Open13:46 Comment: “Vulnerability and Attachment is seen as weakness”18:21 “I will stay single forever”21:10 When Attachment really IS Weak22:08 Good and Bad Managers24:00 Do it Anyway and Do it Responsibly Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Let's Review! Attachment is a Major Key for Better RelationshipsYour Attachment Style helps you understand how you relate to others, what your triggers and blindspots are (and why), and gives you a map to what you Need to feel safe and happy.Everyone has either an Insecure style or a Secure style.Insecure Attachers struggle with maintaining healthy relationships due to excessive anxiety and/or avoidance.The goal is to Shift to Secure attachment where you can have solid, lasting relationships. First and foremost, your relationship with yourself will improve as you get a better grasp on your emotions and thoughts. Then, you’re able to engage with others in new, healthier ways.Pioneers of Attachment Theory: Mary Ainsworth and John BowlbyVolume 1 of Bowlby’s Attachment Trilogy: https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Loss-Vol-John-Bowlby/dp/0712674713Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally!It makes it even MORE difficult when you’re not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you’re abstaining.Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, and hopefully it is also helps men understand what questions to ask, where women are coming from in general, and how to navigate the conversation betterThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give!Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with.Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION.I’m highlighting 5 ways YOU can reciprocate in a relationship so you can check how well you’re doing with things you can directly control TODAY.References:Obesity data: https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.htmlhttps://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/obesity-and-african-americans#:~:text=How%20Does%20Obesity%20Affect%20African,women%20are%20overweight%20or%20obese.Infertility: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/infertility/conditioninfo/common#:~:text=About%209%25%20of%20men%20and,States%20have%20experienced%20fertility%20problems.&text=In%20one%2Dthird%20of%20infertile,problem%20is%20with%20the%20man.Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About ItWhat is DARVO?DENYATTACKREVERSEEffects of DARVOResist DARVOReferences: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims.Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics!-There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference.-Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in order to set yourself up for the man you’re looking for.-Men can be giving out way too much of themselves to others in an effort to be helpful and provide. However, this leaves him drained and unavailable for the woman he really wants. Listen in on what he can do about that.-While you’re single, how can you spend time most effectively?-In order to have space for a new person, you’ve got to get rid of the old. Let’s talk about letting go, forgiveness, and those tricky ‘soul ties’ that may be holding you back.Let’s work together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents.You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father.It’s common to have conflicted feelings.You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their experiences and feeling the pain of how their experiences have negatively affected the way they related to you.Or you may be less conflicted and more enraged. You want them to feel what you feel.Or you might be less enraged and more disconnected. The anger became too exhausting.Regardless of where you are now, I hope this episode gives language and validity to the anger associated with having parents who did not parent you in a way that gave you that you needed emotionally.**At  around minute 15:00 I should have included the BOOMERS with Gen X'ers1-on-1 Interest Form - CLICK HEREThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them.For example -You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering.A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter.A spouse who treats you like a stranger._One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distinction between Role and Relationship so that you are better able to locate where your negative emotions are likely coming from.I will also give you l ideas about how to resolve this problem!Thank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics:Including -Serious DatingWhat does it meant to be “Exclusive”Passport brosHow to soften your communication“What do you bring to the table?”Toxic friendsEffort in datingDefensivenessVettingWhy people lieRelationship goalsCasual physical intimacy*Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support! Work with me: Interest FormWebsite: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler