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Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal — 165 episodes

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#158 What Actually Changes When Healing Is Happening

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#157 Boundaries That Heal vs. Boundaries That Punish

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#156 Anger After Betrayal — What It Really Means & How to Work With It with Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCPS

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#155 Resolving the Push-Pull Dynamic of the Trauma Bond with Dr. Nima Rahmany

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#154 Healing Fatigue After Betrayal: When You’re Both Just Tired

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#153 Staying or Leaving After Betrayal — Discernment for Both Partners

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#152 The Individual Healing That Saved Our Marriage with Chance and Crystal

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#151 Why Apologies Aren’t Enough to Heal Betrayal Trauma

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#150 What Accountability Actually Means After Betrayal (And What It Doesn’t)

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#149 The Inner Child Model™: Understanding Pain, Behavior, and Healing with Dr. Eddie Capparucci

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#148: Don’t Forget the Children: Betrayal Trauma’s Impact on the Family System

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#147 We’re Both Grieving — But Not the Same Way: How Couples Navigate Grief Together After Betrayal

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#146 Grief After Betrayal: What Men Lose—and Why It Matters for Healing

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#145 Nutrition, Trauma, and Recovery: Using Food as an Ally, Not Another Battleground with Dr. David Wiss

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#144 When Love Becomes a Threat: How Betrayal Rewires the Nervous System—and What Helps

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#143 Staying When You’re the Only One Doing the Work — with Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC

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#142 Why Your Body Doesn’t Trust Yet (Even If Your Brain Wants To)

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BONUS Episode Rise, Renew Restore: A Transformative Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica

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#141 When “We’re Still Together” Isn’t the Same as Healing

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#140 Can You Really Heal After Betrayal?

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#139 Renewed Commitment — Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal

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#138 Trauma Triage: What Couples Need in the Early Days After Betrayal

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#137 Looking Back, Looking Forward: A Special Episode About Transition & Growth

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#136 Emotional Recovery in Relationship Repair

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#135 Healing Is the Gift You Give to Yourself (and Everyone You Love)

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#134 Supporting Children Through the Holidays After Betrayal

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#133 Meeting Your Betrayed Spouse in the Mess: Empathy, Patience, and Presence Through the Holidays

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#132 When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace

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***BONUS EPISODE*** Rooted & Rising: A New Space for Women Healing After Betrayal

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#131 When Healing Feels Exhausting

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#130 Honesty After Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Lying and Rebuilding Trust

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#129- Can We Dream Again? Finding New Hopes After Betrayal

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#128- Acceptance vs. Resignation When Choosing to Stay

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#127- When Choosing To Stay is Healthy vs Unhealthy

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#126 Small Ways To Rebuild Trust

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#125 An Invitation for Men: Step Into Whole Body Healing

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#124 Breaking Shame, Building Connection: Chandler Rogers on Recovery & The Relay App

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#123 Disorganized Attachment – The Push-Pull Chaos

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#122 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

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#121 When fear of abandonment meets betrayal: How Anxious Attachment amplifies the pain

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#120 Moving Toward Secure Attachment After Betrayal

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#119 How Family of Origin Shapes Our Relationships Before and After Betrayal

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#118 From Victim to Survivor to Thriver: A New Path for Both Partners After Betrayal

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#117 Relational Injustice: Who breaks and roles in rebuilding

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#116 Partner-Sensitive Recovery: The Missing Key to True Intimacy with Stephen Thomas

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#115 Rebuilding After the Fall: The Path of Shame Resilience

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#114 Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After Betrayal

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#113 Nervous System Safety After Betrayal: How to Rebuild Trust in a Traumatized Relationship

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# 112 Rediscovering Self After Betrayal with Isy Williams

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#111 Love Bombing: How to Recognize It, Protect Yourself, and Break the Cycle

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#110 Learning Vulnerability: Letting Your Spouse Know You After Betrayal

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#109 Why Isn't She Healing Yet: 3 Myths Men Need to Unlearn with Luke Gordon

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#107 Triggers Aren’t Setbacks — They’re Invitations to Heal

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#108 How to Heal When Your Spouse Isn’t Doing the Work

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#106 Why Should I Validate Something I Don’t Even Agree With?

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#105 How to Stop Arguing with Your Spouse and Break Unhealthy Communication Patterns After Infidelity

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#104 A Powerful Somatic Practice for Healing Partner Betrayal with Stephanie Lynn

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#103 When Fear and Shame Speak Loud, Listen to Your Heart: Healing for Both of You

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#102 Recovery Is a Journey: What Physical Healing Teaches Us About Emotional Repair

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#101 Rebuilding Trust Through Communication—Healing Conversations After Betrayal

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#100 Healing or Hiding? The Difference Between Processing & Bypassing Emotions After Betrayal

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#99 Truth & Compassion: Answering Questions Without Causing More Pain

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#98 Turning Criticism into Connection: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

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#97 Resentment and Bitterness After Betrayal—What’s the Message Beneath the Pain?

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#96 Listening to Heal: How to Restore Connection

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#95 Pain as a Signal, Not a Problem: Turning Pain into Advocacy and Awareness

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#94 Healing the Whole Body Through Brainspotting with Amie Woolsey

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#93 Trust After Betrayal and Abandonment with Valerie Ruben from the Anxiety Recovery Podcast

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Bonus: Rebuilding Us: Navigating Couples Work After Betrayal with Alana Gordon

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#92 Emotional Shields and the Path Back to Connection

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#91 Self-Advocacy in the Aftermath of Betrayal

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#90 Breaking Free from Shame: Embracing Strength in the Choice to Stay

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#89 Rediscovering Ourselves: Healing and Identity Work After Betrayal

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#86 Redefining Growth in the New Year

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#85 The Cornerstone of Relational Repair: Consistency

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#84 Does the Pain Ever End?

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Bonus: Healing Hearts live group coaching

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#83 Healing In Action: Applying Relationship Skills

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#82 Staying Consistent with Your Work: The Key to Relational Repair

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#81 When the Holidays Hurt Part 3: Creating New Traditions that Heal

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#80 When the Holidays Hurt Part 2: Protecting Your Peace This Season

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#79 When Holidays Hurt Part 1: Navigating the Holidays After Betrayal

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#78 Finding Balance: Prioritizing Your Healing in a Challenging Relationship

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#77 When Individual Growth Isn't Enough: Bridging the Gap in Relationship Healing

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#76 Introducing the Renewed Restored Podcast: A Journey of Whole Person Healing with Stephanie

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#75 When You're Not Heard: Minimization's Role in Prolonging Betrayal Trauma

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#74 Staying Steady: Managing Triggers and Shame After Betrayal with Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC

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#73 When Faith Wavers: Understanding the Aftermath of Infidelity

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#72 Confronting Avoidant Behaviors to Move Forward in Healing

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#71 From Shock to Stability: Addressing Current Pain and Uncovering Past Issues

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#70 Forging a New Path: Reconstructing Your Relationship After Infidelity

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#69 Couples in Recovery: Hope For Healing through Intimacy Deprivation and Attachment Wounds with John and Karen Rellos

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#68 Establishing Boundaries and Personal Rights After Betrayal

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#67 Part 2 of Unmasking Abuse: Understanding Overt and Covert Dynamics in Relationships

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#66 Part 1 of Unmasking Abuse: Understanding Overt and Covert Dynamics in Relationships

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#65 Understanding and Overcoming Toxic and Abusive Behaviors with Amie Woolsey

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*Bonus Episode* Revive and Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive

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#64 Markers of Trust

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#63 Navigating Foreboding Joy Together in Relational Healing

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#62 Embracing the Process: Waiting with Purpose in Relational Recovery

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#61 Leading Relational Repair After Infidelity and Betrayal

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#60 Exploring Personal Healing Post-Betrayal and Infidelity

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#59 Navigating Autonomy in Healing

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#58 From Private Pain to Public Reality with Dani Peterson

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#57 The Reality of Timelines in Relational Repair

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#56 Challenging Belief Narratives that Hinder Healing

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#55 Sexual Reintegration After Infidelity and Betrayal with Bonny Burns

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#54 Season 1 in Review and a Bonus Replay!

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#53 Navigating Betrayal with Internal Agency with Natalie Bigler

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#52 Renewed Commitment: Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal

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#51 Timing is Everything: Knowing When to Start Couples Coaching or Counseling

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*Bonus Episode* Family Betrayal Support for Teens and Adult Children

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#50 Empowering the Betrayed: 4 Strategies for Cultivating Compassion When Pain is Met with Indifference

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#49 Beneath the Surface: What’s Really Going on For a Wounded Aggressor

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#48 The Value of Group Support

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#47 Assertiveness in Healing: A Continued Conversation on Navigating Needs Post-Betrayal

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#46 Leaning In After Betrayal

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#45 Exploring Needs in the Aftermath of Betrayal

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#44 Couples in Recovery- Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith

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#43 Markers of Recovery in Relationships

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#42 Integrating Safety and Security in Relational Repair

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#41 Bystander Basics: Tools for Supporting Couples You Love Who Are Navigating Betrayal

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#40 Healing Together: The Path of Mutual Attunement

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#39 Facing Relational Challenges in Later Recovery

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#38 Tips for Supporting Children in the Wake of Betrayal

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#37 Navigating the Unknown: What I Wish I Knew in Early Stages of Healing

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#36 Couples in Recovery; Conversations on Healing with Seth and Megan

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#35 Laying Down the Burden and Finding Joy in the Small Moments

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#34 The Right Fit: Selecting Professionals for your Healing Journey

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#33 Finding Solid Ground: Defining Your Values in the Aftermath of Betrayal

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#32 The Devastating Impact of Betraying Our Core Values in Relationships

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#31 Transparency & Honesty: A Key to Post-Infidelity Resilience

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#30 The Role of Healthy Interdependence in Healing from Betrayal

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#29 Codependent Behaviors

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#28 The Power of the Pen: Journaling Strategies For Healing

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#27 Coping with a Spouse's Resistance to Recovery

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#26 Ten Phrases Keeping You From Developing Empathy

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#25 Defining the Terminology of Partner Betrayal and Early Couples Recovery

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#24 Navigating Grief as a Couple, Part 2

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#23 Navigating Grief as a Couple, Part 1

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#22 Nurturing Your Soul Through the Aftermath of Betrayal

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#21 Empathy in Action: Impact and Restitution Letters

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#20 The Power of Polygraph Examinations in Healing After Betrayal with Wes Burns

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*Bonus Episode* Different Types of Disclosures with Luke Gordon

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#19 Supporting Couples in the Disclosure Process with Luke Gordon

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#18 Formal Disclosure for Couples: Interview with Joshua and Stephanie Hamby

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*Bonus Episode* Healing Hearts Course

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#17 The Power of Empathy with Carol Juergensen Sheets

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#16 Boundaries 101 for Couples with Ashly Leavitt

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#15 Should I Stay? Making Empowered Choices With Kim Brown

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#14 What is Acting in?

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#13 The Cycle of Sexual Integrity Issues

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#12 Stages of recovery for the one with sexual integrity issues with special guest, Luke Gordon

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# 11 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 3: Healing For the relationship

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# 10 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 2: Healing For the one with sexual integrity issues

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# 9 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 1: Healing For the Betrayed Partner

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#8 Trauma Triage

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#7 Viewing Partner Betrayal from the Lens of Trauma

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#6 How do I Understand and Receive my Partner's Emotions?

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#5 What do I do with Strong Emotions?

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#4 What is Betrayal Trauma?

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#3 How do we even begin to heal?

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#2 How couples can move forward after Infidelity and Betrayal

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