All Episodes

#173 Betrayed Men: Why Their Trauma Looks Different — and What Actually Helps with Dr. Laney Knowlton

#172 Why the Right Words Aren't Enough: Embodied Empathy in Betrayal Recovery

*** BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: Three Words Every Parent Owes Their Child: "I Believe You" 

#171 Elements of Healthy Relationships in Recovery with Randi Gray

***BONUS: Choosing Different Mini Series: The Conversations I Wish Every Parent and Child Could Have with my 2 Adult Daughters, Mataia and Morgan

#170 "Why It Sometimes Gets Worse Before It Gets Better — And What Actually Helps After Disclosure"

#169 The Spiritual Intelligence Behind Real Change After Betrayal with Dr. Yosi Amram

#168 Apology vs. Amends: Why "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough After Betrayal

#167 Masculine and Feminine: Why Getting the Balance Right in Your Relationship Matters with Tyler Patrick

#166 Why Shame Is the Enemy of Accountability — And What to Do About It with Jacob Fletcher, CMCH, CSAT

#165 The Groundhog Day of Disclosure: Why the Same Questions Keep Coming

#164 The Children in the Room: Navigating Divorce and Betrayal Without Breaking Your Kids with Katie Padilla, Certified Family Law Specialist

#163 Control Isn't Safety: Understanding the Parent-Child Dynamic After Betrayal

#162 When ADHD Meets Betrayal Trauma: Understanding Recovery for the Whole Family System with Monifa Ellis-Addie, LMFT, CSAT, CCSP and Morgan Ellsworth, LAMFT, CCSP

#161 Why Can’t We Connect Deeper? Exploring the Hidden Struggles of Connection After Betrayal

#160 When Your Body Decides the Relationship Is No Longer Safe" Understanding the Nervous System Trauma Loop in Betrayal Recovery

***BONUS EPISODE*** You’re Invited: Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

#159 Why Every Conversation Feels So Hard After Betrayal

#158 What Actually Changes When Healing Is Happening

#157 Boundaries That Heal vs. Boundaries That Punish

#156 Anger After Betrayal — What It Really Means & How to Work With It with Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCPS

#155 Resolving the Push-Pull Dynamic of the Trauma Bond with Dr. Nima Rahmany

#154 Healing Fatigue After Betrayal: When You’re Both Just Tired

#153 Staying or Leaving After Betrayal — Discernment for Both Partners

#152 The Individual Healing That Saved Our Marriage with Chance and Crystal

#151 Why Apologies Aren’t Enough to Heal Betrayal Trauma

#150 What Accountability Actually Means After Betrayal (And What It Doesn’t)

#149 The Inner Child Model™: Understanding Pain, Behavior, and Healing with Dr. Eddie Capparucci

#148: Don’t Forget the Children: Betrayal Trauma’s Impact on the Family System

#147 We’re Both Grieving — But Not the Same Way: How Couples Navigate Grief Together After Betrayal

#146 Grief After Betrayal: What Men Lose—and Why It Matters for Healing

#145 Nutrition, Trauma, and Recovery: Using Food as an Ally, Not Another Battleground with Dr. David Wiss

#144 When Love Becomes a Threat: How Betrayal Rewires the Nervous System—and What Helps

#143 Staying When You’re the Only One Doing the Work — with Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC

#142 Why Your Body Doesn’t Trust Yet (Even If Your Brain Wants To)

BONUS Episode Rise, Renew Restore: A Transformative Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica

#141 When “We’re Still Together” Isn’t the Same as Healing

#140 Can You Really Heal After Betrayal?

#139 Renewed Commitment — Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal

#138 Trauma Triage: What Couples Need in the Early Days After Betrayal

#137 Looking Back, Looking Forward: A Special Episode About Transition & Growth

#136 Emotional Recovery in Relationship Repair

#135 Healing Is the Gift You Give to Yourself (and Everyone You Love)

#134 Supporting Children Through the Holidays After Betrayal

#133 Meeting Your Betrayed Spouse in the Mess: Empathy, Patience, and Presence Through the Holidays

#132 When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace

***BONUS EPISODE*** Rooted & Rising: A New Space for Women Healing After Betrayal

#131 When Healing Feels Exhausting

#130 Honesty After Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Lying and Rebuilding Trust

#129- Can We Dream Again? Finding New Hopes After Betrayal

#128- Acceptance vs. Resignation When Choosing to Stay

#127- When Choosing To Stay is Healthy vs Unhealthy

#126 Small Ways To Rebuild Trust

#125 An Invitation for Men: Step Into Whole Body Healing

#124 Breaking Shame, Building Connection: Chandler Rogers on Recovery & The Relay App

#123 Disorganized Attachment – The Push-Pull Chaos

#122 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

#121 When fear of abandonment meets betrayal: How Anxious Attachment amplifies the pain

#120 Moving Toward Secure Attachment After Betrayal

#119 How Family of Origin Shapes Our Relationships Before and After Betrayal

#118 From Victim to Survivor to Thriver: A New Path for Both Partners After Betrayal

#117 Relational Injustice: Who breaks and roles in rebuilding

#116 Partner-Sensitive Recovery: The Missing Key to True Intimacy with Stephen Thomas

#115 Rebuilding After the Fall: The Path of Shame Resilience

#114 Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After Betrayal

#113 Nervous System Safety After Betrayal: How to Rebuild Trust in a Traumatized Relationship

# 112 Rediscovering Self After Betrayal with Isy Williams

#111 Love Bombing: How to Recognize It, Protect Yourself, and Break the Cycle

#110 Learning Vulnerability: Letting Your Spouse Know You After Betrayal

#109 Why Isn't She Healing Yet: 3 Myths Men Need to Unlearn with Luke Gordon

#107 Triggers Aren’t Setbacks — They’re Invitations to Heal

#108 How to Heal When Your Spouse Isn’t Doing the Work

#106 Why Should I Validate Something I Don’t Even Agree With?

#105 How to Stop Arguing with Your Spouse and Break Unhealthy Communication Patterns After Infidelity

#104 A Powerful Somatic Practice for Healing Partner Betrayal with Stephanie Lynn

#103 When Fear and Shame Speak Loud, Listen to Your Heart: Healing for Both of You

#102 Recovery Is a Journey: What Physical Healing Teaches Us About Emotional Repair

#101 Rebuilding Trust Through Communication—Healing Conversations After Betrayal

#100 Healing or Hiding? The Difference Between Processing & Bypassing Emotions After Betrayal

#99 Truth & Compassion: Answering Questions Without Causing More Pain

#98 Turning Criticism into Connection: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

#97 Resentment and Bitterness After Betrayal—What’s the Message Beneath the Pain?

#96 Listening to Heal: How to Restore Connection

#95 Pain as a Signal, Not a Problem: Turning Pain into Advocacy and Awareness

#94 Healing the Whole Body Through Brainspotting with Amie Woolsey

#93 Trust After Betrayal and Abandonment with Valerie Ruben from the Anxiety Recovery Podcast

Bonus: Rebuilding Us: Navigating Couples Work After Betrayal with Alana Gordon

#92 Emotional Shields and the Path Back to Connection

#91 Self-Advocacy in the Aftermath of Betrayal

#90 Breaking Free from Shame: Embracing Strength in the Choice to Stay

#89 Rediscovering Ourselves: Healing and Identity Work After Betrayal

#86 Redefining Growth in the New Year

#85 The Cornerstone of Relational Repair: Consistency

#84 Does the Pain Ever End?

Bonus: Healing Hearts live group coaching

#83 Healing In Action: Applying Relationship Skills

#82 Staying Consistent with Your Work: The Key to Relational Repair

#81 When the Holidays Hurt Part 3: Creating New Traditions that Heal

#80 When the Holidays Hurt Part 2: Protecting Your Peace This Season

#79 When Holidays Hurt Part 1: Navigating the Holidays After Betrayal

#78 Finding Balance: Prioritizing Your Healing in a Challenging Relationship

#77 When Individual Growth Isn't Enough: Bridging the Gap in Relationship Healing

#76 Introducing the Renewed Restored Podcast: A Journey of Whole Person Healing with Stephanie

#75 When You're Not Heard: Minimization's Role in Prolonging Betrayal Trauma

#74 Staying Steady: Managing Triggers and Shame After Betrayal with Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC

#73 When Faith Wavers: Understanding the Aftermath of Infidelity

#72 Confronting Avoidant Behaviors to Move Forward in Healing

#71 From Shock to Stability: Addressing Current Pain and Uncovering Past Issues

#70 Forging a New Path: Reconstructing Your Relationship After Infidelity

#69 Couples in Recovery: Hope For Healing through Intimacy Deprivation and Attachment Wounds with John and Karen Rellos

#68 Establishing Boundaries and Personal Rights After Betrayal

#67 Part 2 of Unmasking Abuse: Understanding Overt and Covert Dynamics in Relationships

#66 Part 1 of Unmasking Abuse: Understanding Overt and Covert Dynamics in Relationships

#65 Understanding and Overcoming Toxic and Abusive Behaviors with Amie Woolsey

*Bonus Episode* Revive and Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive

#64 Markers of Trust

#63 Navigating Foreboding Joy Together in Relational Healing

#62 Embracing the Process: Waiting with Purpose in Relational Recovery

#61 Leading Relational Repair After Infidelity and Betrayal

#60 Exploring Personal Healing Post-Betrayal and Infidelity

#59 Navigating Autonomy in Healing

#58 From Private Pain to Public Reality with Dani Peterson

#57 The Reality of Timelines in Relational Repair

#56 Challenging Belief Narratives that Hinder Healing

#55 Sexual Reintegration After Infidelity and Betrayal with Bonny Burns

#54 Season 1 in Review and a Bonus Replay!

#53 Navigating Betrayal with Internal Agency with Natalie Bigler

#52 Renewed Commitment: Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal

#51 Timing is Everything: Knowing When to Start Couples Coaching or Counseling

*Bonus Episode* Family Betrayal Support for Teens and Adult Children

#50 Empowering the Betrayed: 4 Strategies for Cultivating Compassion When Pain is Met with Indifference

#49 Beneath the Surface: What’s Really Going on For a Wounded Aggressor

#48 The Value of Group Support

#47 Assertiveness in Healing: A Continued Conversation on Navigating Needs Post-Betrayal

#46 Leaning In After Betrayal

#45 Exploring Needs in the Aftermath of Betrayal

#44 Couples in Recovery- Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith

#43 Markers of Recovery in Relationships

#42 Integrating Safety and Security in Relational Repair

#41 Bystander Basics: Tools for Supporting Couples You Love Who Are Navigating Betrayal

#40 Healing Together: The Path of Mutual Attunement

#39 Facing Relational Challenges in Later Recovery

#38 Tips for Supporting Children in the Wake of Betrayal

#37 Navigating the Unknown: What I Wish I Knew in Early Stages of Healing

#36 Couples in Recovery; Conversations on Healing with Seth and Megan

#35 Laying Down the Burden and Finding Joy in the Small Moments

#34 The Right Fit: Selecting Professionals for your Healing Journey

#33 Finding Solid Ground: Defining Your Values in the Aftermath of Betrayal

#32 The Devastating Impact of Betraying Our Core Values in Relationships

#31 Transparency & Honesty: A Key to Post-Infidelity Resilience

#30 The Role of Healthy Interdependence in Healing from Betrayal

#29 Codependent Behaviors

#28 The Power of the Pen: Journaling Strategies For Healing

#27 Coping with a Spouse's Resistance to Recovery

#26 Ten Phrases Keeping You From Developing Empathy

#25 Defining the Terminology of Partner Betrayal and Early Couples Recovery

#24 Navigating Grief as a Couple, Part 2

#23 Navigating Grief as a Couple, Part 1

#22 Nurturing Your Soul Through the Aftermath of Betrayal

#21 Empathy in Action: Impact and Restitution Letters

#20 The Power of Polygraph Examinations in Healing After Betrayal with Wes Burns

*Bonus Episode* Different Types of Disclosures with Luke Gordon

#19 Supporting Couples in the Disclosure Process with Luke Gordon

#18 Formal Disclosure for Couples: Interview with Joshua and Stephanie Hamby

*Bonus Episode* Healing Hearts Course

#17 The Power of Empathy with Carol Juergensen Sheets

#16 Boundaries 101 for Couples with Ashly Leavitt

#15 Should I Stay? Making Empowered Choices With Kim Brown

#14 What is Acting in?

#13 The Cycle of Sexual Integrity Issues

#12 Stages of recovery for the one with sexual integrity issues with special guest, Luke Gordon

# 11 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 3: Healing For the relationship

# 10 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 2: Healing For the one with sexual integrity issues

# 9 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 1: Healing For the Betrayed Partner

#8 Trauma Triage

#7 Viewing Partner Betrayal from the Lens of Trauma

#6 How do I Understand and Receive my Partner's Emotions?

#5 What do I do with Strong Emotions?

#4 What is Betrayal Trauma?

#3 How do we even begin to heal?

#2 How couples can move forward after Infidelity and Betrayal

#1 Choosing to Stay after Infidelity and Betrayal podcast

Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal