Doctor Therapy Mom

Triggers don’t arrive gently. They slam into the moment, hijacking your system before you’ve even had time to name what’s happening. One second you’re fine, the next your body is reacting like it’s been dropped back into an old scene you never signed up to revisit. This episode digs into how those sparks show up — the subtle cues, the sudden shifts, the way your whole system lights up before your brain catches on.Some reactions turn inward: shutting down, shrinking, disappearing into yourself because it feels safer than being seen. Others blast outward: snapping, spiraling, crashing out in ways that look dramatic on the outside but make perfect sense on the inside. Both are survival strategies, both are learned, and neither means you’re “too much” or “not enough.” They’re patterns built from old wounds trying to protect you in the only language they know.This isn’t about excuses or letting triggers run the show. It’s about recognizing the fuse before it burns all the way down. Naming the pattern gives you a chance to interrupt it, redirect it, and eventually rewrite it. You can’t change what you refuse to see — but once you see it, you can start working with it instead of getting dragged by it.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.This episode digs into what actually counts as trauma—and what doesn’t—without the jargon or the dramatics. We break down the difference between big‑T and little‑t experiences, look at how the DSM defines trauma, and talk about why that definition matters more than whatever is trending on your feed.We also get into the way mental health content is being consumed online, how easy it is to absorb half‑true psychology takes, and why the word “trauma” has become so overused it’s starting to lose its meaning. Think of it like the moment everyone decided their ex was a narcissist—same energy, different buzzword.If you’ve ever wondered whether something “counts,” or you’re curious about how to talk about hard experiences without labeling everything as trauma, this conversation brings clarity, nuance, and a little myth‑busting along the way.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Stepping outside isn’t just “getting fresh air”—it’s a full‑body, full‑brain reset that most of us don’t realize we’re starving for. In this easygoing, conversational episode, we explore how the spaces around us quietly shape our moods, our stress levels, and even the way we think. We wander through the calming pull of green and blue spaces, dip very briefly into environmental psychology, and talk about why our minds seem to settle the moment we’re surrounded by trees, water, or even just a patch of grass. It turns out the environment isn’t just a backdrop to our lives; it’s an active player in how we feel day to day.We also share our favorite outdoor spots and activities—the places that instantly make us breathe a little deeper or feel a little more human. Along the way, we touch on the growing interest in nature‑based therapies and why more people are turning to the outdoors as part of their mental‑health toolkit. From forest walks to ocean views to simply sitting on a porch, we look at the small, accessible ways nature can support emotional well‑being, even for people who don’t consider themselves “outdoorsy.”And because we can’t resist a good thought experiment, we even wonder whether our cave‑dwelling ancestors had a mental‑health advantage simply by living outside all the time. Were they calmer, more grounded, or just too busy surviving to spiral the way we do? With Earth Day around the corner, this episode is a reminder that reconnecting with the natural world doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do for your mind is step outside, feel the ground beneath you, and let the world slow down for a moment.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Stress shows up in our lives in ways both obvious and invisible, and in this episode we’re unpacking the full spectrum. We explore acute stress, the kind that hits fast and sharp, and chronic stress, the kind that lingers quietly in the background until it shapes how you think, feel, and function. From the body’s built‑in alarm system to the subtle signs you might be overlooking, we break down what stress actually is—not just what it feels like.We also look at the difference between helpful stress that motivates you and the kind that wears you down. To make sense of it all, we go back in time to the days when being chased by a sabertooth tiger was a very real possibility. That ancient survival wiring still lives in your nervous system, even though your modern “tigers” look more like deadlines, group chats, and overflowing calendars. Understanding that mismatch helps explain why your body reacts so intensely to things that aren’t actually life‑threatening.Finally, we talk about what you can do with all of this information. We walk through practical coping strategies, how to recognize early stress signals before they escalate, and how to support a system that’s doing its best to protect you—even when it overshoots. Whether your stress is loud and immediate or quiet and constant, this episode gives you the tools to understand it, work with it, and move through it with more clarity and control.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.In this episode, we dive into the strange, fascinating world of parasocial relationships — the one‑sided bonds we form with influencers, creators, and even fictional characters. We explore both the positives and the pitfalls: how these connections can offer comfort, community, and stability, but also how they can blur boundaries, distort expectations, and quietly replace real‑life support. From the dopamine hits of interaction to the emotional investment of a full‑blown “relationship,” we unpack why these bonds feel so real, even when they’re not reciprocal.We also look at what people may be missing in their offline lives that makes parasocial relationships so appealing. Loneliness, overstimulation, lack of community, and the scarcity of deep, consistent relationships all play a role. And yes — we talk about the stages: the initial interaction, the growing attachment, and even the “breakup” when a creator disappoints you, changes, or simply stops posting. These emotional arcs are real, and your brain responds to them more than you might think.Finally, we zoom out and compare how older generations experienced parasocial bonds — think radio hosts, TV personalities, and celebrities — versus how today’s always‑on, hyper‑accessible creators create a completely different level of intimacy. With real‑relationship scarcity on the rise and digital connection at an all‑time high, we explore what this means for kids, teens, and adults navigating a world where you can feel deeply connected to someone who has no idea you exist.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.In this episode, we dive into how physical health creates a ripple effect on our mental well‑being—from the food we eat to the way we move our bodies to the messages we absorb from the world around us. We unpack the pressures created by celebrity culture, especially the way thinness is modeled as the “ideal,” and how that shapes our self‑image without us even realizing it. We also revisit the recent debate between Julianne Michaels and a group of body‑positivity advocates, exploring how both sides brought valid concerns, personal experiences, and emotional weight to the conversation. Science matters, but so do the stories and struggles behind people’s beliefs.We also talk about the benefits of nutrition and exercise, not as punishment or perfection, but as tools that genuinely support our mood, energy, and emotional resilience. When we take care of our physical health, our mental health often follows—yet so many of us feel stuck between wanting to feel better and feeling overwhelmed by the noise of wellness culture. We break down what actually helps, what’s realistic, and how to build habits that support both body and mind without shame or extremes.Finally, we look at what younger kids and teens are seeing on social media and how those images shape their sense of worth, identity, and “normal.” From filters to fitness influencers to unrealistic body standards, today’s kids are navigating a world that constantly tells them how they should look. We talk about how to guide them, how to model healthy behavior ourselves, and how to create a home environment where physical health is about strength, nourishment, and self‑respect, not comparison. At the end of the day, caring for our bodies is one of the most powerful ways we can care for our minds—and help the next generation do the same.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Procrastination isn’t just a bad habit — it’s a whole chaotic lifestyle, and in this episode we’re unpacking every messy layer of it. We explore what procrastination actually looks like in real life, from the subtle avoidance disguised as “planning” to the full‑blown last‑minute panic sprint. We also dig into the big question: is it really procrastination, or is something else going on beneath the surface?We break down the mental‑health impact of constantly pushing things off, why some people seem to handle deadlines like Olympic athletes while others crumble, and why procrastination is absolutely not a skill — no matter how good you think you are at it. We talk about urgency, pressure, and the strange way tasks suddenly feel more valuable or doable when the clock is running out. Plus, we explore the theory that some people intentionally wait because they believe they can finish everything in the allotted time… even when that belief is wildly optimistic.And of course, we get into the practical stuff: how to break the cycle, how to stop relying on panic as your productivity engine, and how to build healthier habits that don’t depend on last‑minute adrenaline. If you’ve ever lived in the chaos before the finish line, this episode is your invitation to step out of the spiral and into something a little calmer — and a lot more sustainable.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.In this conversation, we unpack the growing trend of calling every overshare “authenticity,” and why that framing can be misleading. Trauma dumping often gets disguised as vulnerability, but in reality it’s more about unloading than connecting. We explore how sharing deeply personal experiences with the wrong people—or at the wrong time—can leave both sides feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, or even unsafe. True openness requires discernment, not disclosure for its own sake.We also dig into the misunderstood territory of trauma trumping. It’s easy to label it as one‑upping or invalidating someone else’s pain, but the truth is more complicated. Sometimes people respond with their own stories not to compete, but to relate, to say “I’ve been there too.” We explore how this instinct to connect can still unintentionally shift the focus, and why understanding the intention behind it matters.Finally, we look at trauma clumping—the group version of trauma sharing that can feel comforting in the moment but often becomes emotionally draining over time. While there can be a sense of solidarity in gathering around shared wounds, it can also keep people stuck in cycles of comparison, rumination, and emotional fatigue. We explore why these spaces can feel validating yet ultimately harmful, and how to move toward communities that support healing rather than reinforcing hurt.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Women’s voices have always carried power, yet so many of us were raised in ways that shaped how loudly—or quietly—we learned to speak. In this episode, we explore how early messages, family dynamics, and cultural expectations influence the way women show up, advocate for themselves, and claim space in the world. Our conversation looks at the deep connection between upbringing and voice, and how unlearning old patterns can open the door to confidence and self‑expression.We also touch on women’s rights and the social climate we’re living in today, acknowledging the tension without taking a political stance. Instead, we focus on the shared truth that every woman deserves to be heard. We reflect on how women have historically been the ones who build community, keep conversations alive, and create connection even in challenging times. That legacy of social leadership is part of what makes women’s voices so essential.At its core, this episode is about ownership—owning our stories, our beliefs, and the sound of our own voices. We talk about speaking with intention, standing in our truth, and recognizing that every person deserves to have a voice and to be heard. If you’ve ever felt silenced or unsure of your place, this conversation is a reminder that your voice is powerful, needed, and worthy of space.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Situationships have become the unofficial relationship status of Gen Z—messy, magnetic, and maddening all at once. In this episode, we unpack what a situationship actually is: a connection that feels more than casual but never fully steps into commitment. We explore why this label has exploded in modern dating, what makes it appealing, and how the emotional gray zone can feel both safe and confusing. From the thrill of low-pressure intimacy to the comfort of not defining anything too soon, situationships offer benefits that make them hard to walk away from.But with the benefits come real drawbacks. Situationships often create emotional asymmetry—one person usually wants “more,” while the other prefers to keep things undefined. That imbalance can lead to anxiety, overthinking, and heartbreak disguised as chill vibes. We’ll talk about the complexity of feelings that arise when you’re sharing closeness without clarity, how mixed signals become the norm, and why the lack of labels doesn’t mean the lack of impact. And yes, we’ll get into what these dynamics look like in real life: the texting patterns, the almost-dates, the emotional intimacy without accountability, and the constant dance around the DTR conversation.Finally, we’ll explore whether parents should be in the loop about their teens’ or young adults’ situationships, and what healthy communication looks like across generations. Because while situationships may feel like a uniquely Gen Z phenomenon, the emotional patterns behind them are timeless. This episode dives into the psychology, the pitfalls, the quiet hopes, and the unspoken rules of being “more than casual, less than committed”—and why so many people find themselves stuck in the in-between.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek. With Special Guest Dr. Lauren Schellenberger. Learn more about Culver-Stockton College: https://culver.edu/This week on Doctor Therapy Mom, we’re joined by a powerhouse guest: Dr. Lauren Schellenberger, President of Culver‑Stockton College. Together, we pull back the curtain on one of the most emotionally charged and confusing seasons for families—the college search.In this candid conversation, we break down what students want, what parents hope for, and what colleges are really looking for. Dr. Schellenberger brings the rare perspective of someone who has lived all three roles: a college president, a parent navigating the process, and a former student who remembers the pressure firsthand.We explore:How families can approach the college decision with less stress and more clarityWhat colleges value beyond test scores and transcriptsThe surprising disconnects between what students think matters and what actually doesHow parents can support without overwhelmingWhat a college president wishes every family understood before touring campusesThis episode is a grounded, honest breakdown of the college search from every angle—perfect for parents, teens, and anyone trying to make sense of the modern admissions landscape.If you want more confidence, more clarity, and fewer meltdowns during the college decision journey, this one’s for you.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek. With Special Guest Lydia Ahrens.Mean‑girl behavior isn’t just a middle‑school memory — it shows up in classrooms, group chats, workplaces, and online spaces every day. In this episode, we break down what relational aggression really looks like, why it hits so hard, and how it shapes confidence, connection, and emotional well‑being at any age.We’ll explore practical tools for handling exclusion, gossip, and subtle social digs, along with ways to protect your peace without feeding the drama. We also talk about how to stay grounded, respond with intention, and support healthier interactions in the spaces you move through.With Random Acts of Kindness Day around the corner, this episode is an invitation to respond differently, support each other better, and build communities where kindness isn’t the exception but the expectation.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek. Love Language Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-languageIn this episode, we slow down and talk about the kind of connection most of us crave but rarely name out loud: the feeling of being truly seen by the people who matter to us. Through real stories, honest reflections, and a few “what would make you feel…” moments, we explore how love languages shape the way we give and receive care.We look at why certain love languages rise to the top for some of us, what it looks like when those needs go unmet, and how small shifts in awareness can change the emotional temperature of a relationship. This isn’t a checklist or a personality quiz — it’s a deeper conversation about understanding the people you love, and letting them understand you right back.If you’ve ever wondered why you feel disconnected even when someone is “trying,” or why certain gestures land so deeply, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a few gentle nudges toward more intentional connection.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek. Winter has a way of creeping into every corner of life, and with it comes that familiar dip in energy, focus, and overall mood. In this episode, we talk about how those shifts show up in real time — the sluggish mornings, the sudden lack of motivation, the way simple tasks start to feel heavier than they should. It’s an honest look at how Seasonal Blues can take over without asking permission and how normal it is to feel thrown off by the colder months.We also dig into the environmental chaos that makes everything feel more intense. From dramatic temperature swings to long stretches of gray skies, winter has a talent for amplifying stress and draining your reserves. We share personal stories about weather extremes, unexpected cold snaps, and the moments that pushed our bodies and patience to their limits. These experiences aren’t just dramatic — they highlight how deeply our environment affects our mood and functioning.Alongside the stories, we offer grounded, realistic ways to support yourself through it. Gentle movement, nourishing food, warm spaces, and intentional light exposure all play a role in helping your system recalibrate. It’s not about fixing everything at once — it’s about finding small, steady ways to feel more like yourself again, even when Seasonal Blues start taking over.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek. Being noticed sounds simple enough, but the moment someone points out something they appreciate about us, everything inside can tighten. A compliment — even a kind, harmless one — has a way of making us hyper‑aware of ourselves. Suddenly we’re overthinking our posture, our expression, our response, and whether we’re handling the moment “correctly.” It’s a tiny social interaction that somehow feels much bigger than it should.In this episode, we dig into why praise can feel so strangely uncomfortable. From the instinct to deflect or downplay to the awkward pause after “thank you,” we explore the mental gymnastics that happen in those few seconds of being seen. Compliments can feel like a spotlight we didn’t ask for, and understanding that reaction is the first step toward softening it.We’ll also talk about how to receive compliments with a little more ease — without spiraling, shrinking, or scrambling for a joke to escape the moment. Because being noticed isn’t the problem; it’s what we’ve learned to do with that attention. And with a bit of awareness, those moments can shift from uncomfortable to genuinely meaningful.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek. With Special Guests Dr. Kelli Stiles and Dr. Melissa Holt.Inspired by the cozy, open‑door culture of the Culver‑Stockton College psychology suite—where professors literally sit on the couch outside their offices, ready for any student who needs a question answered, a problem unpacked, or simply a moment of connection—Conversations on the Couch brings that same spirit of presence into the podcast world.In this episode, we explore what it truly means to hold space for adolescents and young adults. These years are full of transition, identity‑building, emotional turbulence, and big questions about the future. Creating environments where young people feel seen, heard, and supported isn’t just helpful—it’s essential.Joining the conversation are two remarkable guests:✨ Dr. Kelli Stiles  ✨ Dr. Melissa HoltTogether, they bring clinical insight, lived experience, and a nurturing “therapy‑mom” energy to a discussion about why holding space matters, what it looks like in practice, and how adults—parents, educators, mentors, and peers—can show up with compassion and steadiness during some of the most formative years of life.Whether you’re a caregiver, a student, or someone who simply believes in the power of human connection, this episode invites you to settle in, take a breath, and join us on the couch.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Mentorship is often talked about as guidance, wisdom, or advice — but the truth is, the impact of a mentor reaches far deeper than the words they offer. In this episode, we explore the quiet, powerful ways mentors shape who we become. From the confidence they help us build to the perspective they gently shift, mentors often influence our lives long before we realize it.We’ll look at the moments that stay with us: the encouragement that arrived at exactly the right time, the challenge that pushed us forward, and the steady presence that made us feel capable when we doubted ourselves. These stories remind us that mentorship isn’t about perfection or expertise — it’s about connection, humanity, and the courage to walk alongside someone as they grow.Whether you’ve had a life‑changing mentor, are searching for one, or hope to become that person for someone else, this conversation invites you to reflect on the relationships that have shaped your journey. Mentors don’t just give advice; they leave fingerprints on our lives. And sometimes, their impact becomes part of the story we carry into every new chapter.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.The New Year always brings a certain feeling—part excitement, part uncertainty, part “okay… so what now?” In this episode, we explore that in‑between space where resolutions and goals start to take shape. Not the polished, color‑coded version, but the real version: the thoughts we have about what we want, what we’re tired of, and what we hope might be possible in the months ahead.Instead of diving into rigid plans or dramatic reinventions, we reflect on the small, honest moments that influence the goals we set. The things we want to do differently, the habits we’d like to build, and the gentle shifts that feel more realistic than sweeping declarations. It’s about acknowledging that goals don’t have to be perfect or profound to matter—they just have to mean something to us.By the end, the New Year feels less like a test and more like an open door. A chance to consider what we want more of, what we’re ready to release, and how we can move forward in a way that feels doable. It’s a simple, grounded look at resolutions and goals—without pressure, without rules, and without pretending we have it all figured out.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.The holidays promise magic, connection, and joy—but once the lights dim and the guests leave, many of us are left with an unexpected emotional crash. In this episode, we explore what really happens after the holiday hype fades: the exhaustion, the disappointment, the post‑celebration blues, and the quiet heaviness that can settle in when life returns to “normal.”We’ll talk about the emotional whiplash that comes from weeks of buildup followed by an abrupt return to routine, and why your mind and body may be begging for a slowdown. This conversation offers space to acknowledge the letdown without shame, understand the deeper roots of post‑holiday sadness, and recognize the very real need for rest after so much stimulation.If you’re feeling drained, unmotivated, or simply not yourself after the festivities, this episode offers grounding, validation, and a reminder that recovery is part of the season too.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter 

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Holiday traditions hold a special place in our lives, serving as threads that weave together family, culture, and memory. They can be as simple as hanging stockings or as elaborate as hosting a yearly feast, but each carries meaning that connects us to the past while shaping the present. These rituals remind us of who we are and where we come from, offering comfort and continuity even as life changes around us.At the same time, traditions aren’t static—they evolve with our families and circumstances. Sometimes we create new ones to reflect our values, retire old ones that no longer serve us, or break patterns that feel more like obligations than joy. This flexibility is part of their power, allowing us to honor the past while embracing the future. By consciously shaping traditions, we ensure they remain authentic expressions of love, connection, and celebration.The magic of Christmas, especially, lies in how traditions can be experienced at every age. For children, they spark wonder and excitement; for adults, they rekindle nostalgia and provide opportunities to pass on meaning. Whether it’s baking cookies together, reading stories by the fire, or simply sharing quiet moments of gratitude, these rituals create lasting memories. The true magic isn’t in the perfection of the tradition but in the joy and connection it brings across generations.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.In this episode, the conversation dives deep into the complicated relationship students have with grades. While grades are often seen as the ultimate measure of success, they can also become a source of anxiety, self-doubt, and endless pressure. The discussion explores how the pursuit of perfect scores can shape identity, influence self-esteem, and create unrealistic expectations that may not reflect true ability or potential.Listeners are invited to reflect on the hidden costs of chasing academic validation. From sleepless nights to the fear of failure, the episode highlights how stress around grades can impact mental health and personal growth. It challenges the idea that an “A” automatically equals intelligence or worth, and instead asks whether the grading system is serving students or holding them back.The conversation also touches on the cultural and family pressures that often surround academic performance. Parents, peers, and institutions can unintentionally reinforce the belief that grades define a person’s future, leaving little room for individuality or alternative paths to success. By unpacking these influences, the episode encourages a more balanced perspective on achievement.Ultimately, the message is one of empowerment: grades are just one piece of the puzzle, not the whole picture. Listeners will walk away with insights on how to reframe their relationship with academic performance, reduce unnecessary stress, and focus on growth, resilience, and self-worth beyond the numbers on a report card.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter #parenting #teacher #school #grades

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Birthdays are more than just a date on the calendar — they are markers of our personal journey, reminders of where we’ve been, and invitations to consider where we’re going. In this episode of Doctor Therapy Mom, we’ll explore the deeper meaning behind birthdays and how they serve as milestones in our life chapters. From the innocence of childhood celebrations filled with balloons and cake, to the reflective nature of adult birthdays where we pause to measure growth, set new goals, and honor traditions, birthdays carry a unique emotional weight at every stage of life.Together, we’ll reflect on the joy of aging, not as something to fear, but as an opportunity to embrace wisdom, gratitude, and playfulness. Each birthday is a chance to celebrate progress, acknowledge challenges, and recommit to living with intention.This episode invites listeners to see birthdays not only as parties or milestones, but as therapeutic check‑ins with ourselves. How do we honor the past while welcoming the future? How do we find joy in every age, whether we’re turning 10, 30, or 70? Through stories, reflections, and gentle guidance, Doctor Therapy Mom will help you discover how birthdays can be transformed into meaningful rituals of self‑care, family connection, and personal growth.Because at the end of the day, every candle we blow out is more than a flame — it’s a symbol of resilience, hope, and the joy of living fully in each chapter of our lives.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter #birthday #celebration #birthdaycelebration

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.Gratitude at the Table: Celebrating What Matters Most invites listeners to pause during the Thanksgiving season and reflect on the deeper meaning behind the holiday. Beyond the food and festivities, this conversation centers on gratitude as a powerful practice that enriches our lives and strengthens our connections.With warmth and insight, the episode explores how gratitude can be woven into traditions, family gatherings, and everyday moments. It highlights the ways in which thankfulness transforms challenges into opportunities for growth and brings joy to even the simplest experiences.Listeners will leave with a renewed appreciation for the blessings in their lives and practical inspiration to carry gratitude beyond the holiday table. This is a celebration of what truly matters most—connection, reflection, and the enduring spirit of thankfulness.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter #thanksgiving #gratitude #thankful #family #familytime

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.The holiday season often comes wrapped in more than just ribbons and bows — it carries the weight of expectations. Families gather with hopes of picture‑perfect meals, joyful traditions, and seamless togetherness, but reality rarely matches the ideal. In this episode, Doctor Therapy Mom explores how those expectations can create stress, tension, and even disappointment, while also offering insight into why we set such high standards for ourselves and our loved ones.Together, we’ll unpack the emotional dynamics that surface when family members bring different needs, traditions, and personalities to the table. From managing conflicts to balancing obligations, this conversation shines a light on the ways stress can sneak into celebrations. Most importantly, this episode celebrates the joy that can still be found when families shift their focus from “perfect” to “present.” By letting go of unrealistic ideals and leaning into authentic connection, the holidays can become less about surviving and more about savoring. *Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter #family #holidays #christmas #thanksgiving

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek with special guest Anne VahleLost shoes by the door, homework that seems to vanish into another dimension, throw pillows permanently living on the floor, and half‑drank sodas scattered like modern art installations — if this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. ADHD has a way of turning ordinary days into unpredictable adventures, and sometimes it feels like survival mode is the only option.In this episode, Doctor Therapy Mom teams up with licensed professional Anne Vahle to explore what it really looks like to move beyond just surviving the whirlwind of ADHD and start thriving within it. They dive into the messy realities of everyday life — the forgotten assignments, the endless search for sneakers, the clutter that never quite stays put — while also highlighting the resilience, creativity, and humor that families and individuals bring to the table.Through stories, strategies, and a few laughs, Anne and Doctor Therapy Mom show how thriving with ADHD isn’t about perfection but about embracing the chaos, finding balance, and celebrating small wins. Whether it’s learning to laugh at the half‑finished sodas or reframing the constant motion as energy, this conversation offers both practical insights and encouragement for anyone navigating ADHD.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya Knoverek.You know that moment when you're gearing up for something big — a job interview, a team tryout, a test that actually counts — and you’re trying to keep it cool, but suddenly Anxiety strolls in like it owns the place? No knock, no warning, just vibes and sweaty palms. In this episode, we unpack how anxiety sneaks into everyday situations and makes itself way too comfortable. We talk about the signs (hello racing thoughts and stomach flips), the pressure to perform, and the mental gymnastics we do to keep it together.But don’t worry — it’s not all doom and dread. We also share real, doable techniques to help calm the chaos, from breathing tricks to mindset shifts to the underrated power of a good laugh. Whether you’re stressing over grades, auditions, or just trying not to spiral in the school hallway, we’ve got you.Because here’s the truth: Anxiety isn’t your fault — but managing it is your responsibility. And you’re more capable than you think.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter 

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya KnoverekSuperman wears a cape. You might wear a smile. In this episode, we explore the emotional costumes we all learn to put on—not just for Halloween, but for everyday survival. These masks aren’t made of plastic or fabric. They’re made of perfectionism, overachievement, humor, caretaking, and silence. They’re the roles we play to feel safe, accepted, or in control. And sometimes, they fit so well we forget we’re wearing them.Doctor Therapy Mom invites you to take a compassionate look at the masks you wear and the emotions they might be hiding. Whether you’re the “strong one,” the “funny one,” the “fixer,” or the “flawless one,” this episode gently unpacks the emotional labor behind the performance. We’ll explore how these roles help us navigate life—and how they can quietly exhaust us.But this isn’t about judgment. It’s about awareness. It’s about recognizing the costume, honoring the reasons it exists, and learning how to loosen its grip. Because healing doesn’t mean being unmasked all the time—it means knowing who you are underneath it, and choosing when to show up as your full self.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com#DoctorTherapyMom #podcastclips #podcast #therapy #momdaughterduo #momdaughter

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya KnoverekWhat does it mean to be beautiful — and who gets to decide?In this intimate and intergenerational conversation, we explore how beauty standards have shaped the lives of women across three distinct eras: Coomer, Gen X, and Gen Z. From the quiet rituals of femininity passed down in family bathrooms to the loud declarations of self-expression on social media, this episode unpacks the complex relationship between appearance, identity, and societal expectation.We look at the role models who taught us how to be women — whether through elegance, rebellion, or restraint — and ask what they were really modeling. We reflect on the unspoken rules of being “proper,” “ladylike,” or “presentable,” and how those expectations have evolved, fractured, or persisted across generations. Through stories, memories, and honest dialogue, we examine the mirror between us: the one we hold up to ourselves, to each other, and to the world.This episode is not just about lipstick and legacy — it’s about the emotional labor of being seen, the pressure to belong, and the courage to redefine beauty on our own terms.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya KnoverekIn today’s hyper-connected world, childhood isn’t just lived—it’s broadcast. From toddler dance routines to tween skincare hauls, kids are becoming digital personalities before they even understand what a “like” means. But behind the adorable content and viral moments lies a complex web of ethical, emotional, and developmental consequences.This episode unpacks the growing phenomenon of children on social media and the ripple effects it creates for families, communities, and society at large. What does it mean when a child becomes a brand? How do parents balance sharing joyful moments with protecting their child’s privacy? And where is the line between documenting life and exploiting it?Whether you're a parent navigating your child's first Instagram account, a teacher seeing the effects in the classroom, or simply curious about the cultural shift toward digital childhoods, this episode offers a thoughtful, eye-opening look at the cost of clicks—and the responsibility that comes with them.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctortherapymom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctortherapymom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580613867585Website: https://doctortherapymom.com

Doctor Therapy Mom is hosted by Dr. Angel Knoverek & Victorya KnoverekWant us to talk about something specific? Submit a topic on our website!We all do it—make snap judgments, size people up in a glance, and assume we’ve got them figured out. But what if those quick takes are more about us than them? In this episode of Doctor Therapy Mom, we’re pulling back the curtain on the biases baked into our blink reactions and asking: how much of what we think we “know” is just a reflection of our own experiences?We’re not just shaped by our past—we’re haunted by it in ways we don’t always notice. The way we judge others often has less to do with who they are and more to do with the echoes of our own insecurities, disappointments, and unspoken expectations. Sometimes it’s not about what someone said or did—it’s about what it reminded us of. That time we felt left out. That moment we weren’t chosen. That compliment we never got. Our reactions are rarely just reactions; they’re reflections of everything we’ve carried with us.We also wade into the murky waters of self-talk and perception, questioning whether words of affirmation are truly empowering or just a trendy placebo we’ve all agreed to believe in. We unpack the strange magic of delusional confidence—how it can launch us into bold moves or leave us stranded in our own hype. And we confront the quiet, everyday ways we lie to ourselves: rewriting memories, downplaying truths, and convincing ourselves that what hurts doesn’t really hurt. It’s not always pretty, but it’s real—and it’s happening whether we notice it or not.It’s a real, raw conversation about the way we see the world and the people in it, and how we can start seeing with a little more clarity and a lot more compassion. Because maybe the truth is: we’ve all been judged, and we’ve all judged. And the blink? It’s just the beginning.*Doctor Therapy Mom is intended for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional therapy or mental health advice. If you are struggling, please contact a licensed mental health professional in your area.

We’re diving headfirst into the glittery mess of hopes and dreams—the ones we chase with everything we’ve got, the ones that quietly fade, and the ones that feel a little too much like scratching off a lottery ticket and praying for magic. In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional rollercoaster of ambition: the thrill of achievement, the sting of disappointment, and the mental gymnastics we perform to keep believing in the next big win. Whether it’s career goals, personal growth, or just trying to stay mentally afloat while chasing the next breakthrough, we’re unpacking what it means to dream big in a world that doesn’t always deliver. There’s a little sass, a little soul-searching, and a whole lot of real talk about why we keep dreaming—even when the odds feel stacked.

Friendship isn’t just brunch dates and matching bracelets — it’s one of the most powerful forces shaping our mental health, for better or worse. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the messy, beautiful, and sometimes heartbreaking reality of human connection. From the playground to the group chat, Doctor Therapy Mom explores how we make friends, how we keep them, and how we know when it’s time to let go.We talk about the emotional labor of maintaining relationships, the silent grief of friendship breakups, and the importance of boundaries — even with people we love. Whether you’re navigating childhood cliques, adult friendship droughts, or just wondering why your “bestie” hasn’t texted back in three weeks, this episode is for you.And yes, sometimes you need to tap into your inner toddler, lock eyes with someone and say, “You. You’re my friend. Now come on.” Because friendship isn’t always logical — it’s emotional, instinctive, and deeply human.Tune in for real talk, gentle truths, and a reminder that you’re not alone in the chaos of connection

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, a mother—who also happens to be a seasoned therapist—joins her 21-year-old daughter to unpack the emotional rollercoaster of early adulthood. Together, they explore the messy middle of your twenties: the confusing crossroads of identity, purpose, mental health, and relationships.With candid reflections and compassionate guidance, they dive into the questions that keep young adults up at night: Am I on the right path? What is my purpose? How do I cope with the pressure to have it all figured out? Along the way, you’ll hear everything from therapeutic insights to the occasional confession—like the daughter’s half-serious dream of becoming a country club wife (hey, we all have our coping mechanisms).

Let’s be real: living at home as a young adult can feel like a weird limbo. You’re not a kid anymore, but you’re not fully on your own either. You’re paying your phone bill, applying for jobs, maybe even dating seriously—but you’re still sleeping in your childhood bedroom and getting side-eyes for leaving dishes in the sink. And for parents? It’s hard to stop parenting when your grown child is still in the next room, especially when old habits and expectations linger.This episode dives into the messy middle—where curfews clash with independence, boundaries get blurry, and emotional baggage from both sides resurfaces in the most unexpected ways. We talk about what it means to live together as adults, how to shift from parent-child dynamics to mutual respect, and why communication (not passive-aggressive fridge notes) is key to surviving this season.Whether you’re the parent trying not to hover, or the young adult trying not to lose your mind, this conversation is for anyone navigating the tension, tenderness, and transformation of sharing space while growing up—together.

In this raw and revealing episode, we dive headfirst into the emotional chaos of living online. From cancel culture to identity theft (yes, someone literally stole her name), our hosts unpacks the mental toll of constantly performing for the feed. Social media was supposed to connect us—but somewhere along the way, it became a stage for judgment, comparison, and curated perfection.Whether you’ve been ghosted by the algorithm, dragged in the comments, or just feel exhausted by the scroll, this episode is a reminder: you’re more than your profile, and healing starts when we stop performing and start reflecting.