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What happens when your family life changes dramatically while living far from home? In this heartfelt and deeply honest episode of Expecting Expats, we sit down with author, speaker, and founder of Ignite Spark, Louisette Winkel, to discuss one of the most challenging topics many families face: navigating separation and divorce while raising children abroad.As an expat mother of three, Louisette shares her personal journey of moving from the Netherlands to Germany, building a new life abroad, and later facing an unexpected separation. Through her story, she offers powerful insights into resilience, personal growth, and creating a healthy co-parenting relationship that keeps children's wellbeing at the centre.Together, we explore how expat parenting can become even more complex during major life transitions, especially when you're far from your usual support systems and navigating different legal systems, languages, and cultural expectations.This episode is filled with practical advice, hope, and reminders that even in life's most difficult moments, it's possible to create stability, connection, and a new vision for your family.In this episode, we talk about:* Navigating separation and divorce while living abroad* How expat life can add additional challenges to co-parenting* Supporting children through major family transitions* Creating a new family structure after divorce* Why personal growth is essential during difficult seasons of life* Helping children feel safe and heard during change* The importance of communication and collaboration in co-parenting* Finding community and rebuilding your support system as an expat parent* Creating new family traditions and redefining what family looks likeKey Takeaways for Expat Parents✨ Children need honesty, reassurance, and stability during periods of change.✨ It's okay to acknowledge your own grief while still supporting your children.✨ Co-parenting works best when parents focus on what they can control and keep their children's needs at the centre.✨ Building a new version of family life takes time, patience, and flexibility.✨ Seeking professional support, such as family or play therapy, can make a huge difference during transitions.Our Favourite Expat Parenting Tips from This Episode:* Keep communication open and age-appropriate with your children.* Involve children in conversations about new family routines when possible.* Inform schools and caregivers about major changes happening at home.* Lean on your community and ask for support when you need it.* Focus on creating a sense of safety and consistency for your children.* Remember that healing and rebuilding take time.A Reminder for Every Expat ParentSeparation and divorce are never easy, and navigating them while living abroad can feel especially overwhelming. But this episode is a powerful reminder that there is no perfect way to move through difficult transitions.With patience, support, and intentional communication, families can find a new rhythm and create a version of expat family life that still feels loving, connected, and secure.Whether you're currently navigating separation, supporting a friend through it, or simply looking for expat parenting tips and insights into building resilient families abroad, this conversation offers compassion, practical advice, and hope.Because sometimes the greatest gift we can give our children is showing them that even in difficult seasons, families can adapt, heal, and grow together.Connect with Louisette WinkelBook: Flip Your ScriptInstagram: @ignitespark4u Website: https://www.ignitespark4u.com

Summer has officially arrived, and for many international families, that means a season filled with sunshine, travel plans, school holidays, and a healthy dose of chaos. In this special catch-up episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ sit down for an honest conversation about what life looks like right now as moms raising children abroad.From summer bucket lists and family traditions to the realities of traveling with kids and attending weddings with little ones in tow, this episode is a reminder that expat parenting is often a balancing act between creating magical memories and simply surviving the logistics.CJ shares exciting personal news as she completes her couples therapy training and prepares to open her own practice supporting international families and couples in Frankfurt. Amanda opens up about the anticipation—and anxiety—of a summer packed with family adventures, including a formal wedding with two energetic boys.Together, they reflect on the changing seasons of expat motherhood, the freedom that comes as children get older, and the importance of embracing both the beautiful and messy moments of expat family life.In this episode, we talk about:* Creating summer bucket lists and family traditions* Managing the end-of-school-year chaos as an expat family* Travel hacks for long journeys with kids* The realities of bringing children to weddings and special events abroad* Finding time for yourself during motherhood* Embracing the changing stages of parenting as children grow* Building community and support while raising a family overseasOur Favourite Expat Parenting Tips from This Episode:* Create a simple family summer bucket list with experiences everyone can enjoy.* Lower the pressure and focus on connection over perfection.* Travel days are easier with snacks, screens, and realistic expectations.* Remember that children are allowed to be children—even at fancy events.* Give yourself permission to enjoy this season of life and say yes to a little fun.A Reminder for Every Expat ParentIf you're feeling both excited and overwhelmed by summer, you're not alone. The pressure to make magical memories while managing work, travel, and everyday parenting is real. This episode is your reminder that there is no perfect way to do summer or parent abroad.Whether you're planning adventures, visiting family, or simply trying to survive the school holidays, we hope this conversation makes you feel seen and supported.Because expat family support starts with knowing that other parents are navigating the same joys and challenges right alongside you.We'd Love to Hear From YouWhat are your family's summer plans? Are you already in holiday mode? Send us a voice message on Instagram—we'd love to hear your stories and may even feature them in a future episode of Expecting Expats.Happy summer from our family to yours!Podcast recommendations:Molly’s morning meditationsLink to Amanda’s website: www.mindfulmamafrankfurt.comLink to CJ’s webside: www.worldsapartcounseling.com

Have you ever found yourself standing in a crowded hallway, desperately searching for a missing shoe while one child refuses to get dressed, another is asking a thousand questions, and you're already late? If so, you're not alone.In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ dive into what they're calling "hallway claustrophobia"—that overwhelming feeling that seems to strike during family transitions, especially during hectic mornings, school drop-offs, travel days, and bedtime routines.Together, they explore why these moments feel so intense, how overstimulation affects both parents and children, and why these everyday challenges can feel even bigger when you're navigating expat family life. From managing the emotional load of parenting abroad to handling transitions in a new language and culture, this episode is a reassuring reminder that you're not failing—you're simply human.Amanda and CJ share honest stories from their own experiences with expat parenting, discuss how stress and sensory overload impact the nervous system, and offer practical strategies for staying regulated when family life feels chaotic.Whether you're newly abroad or have been living overseas for years, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, validated, and equipped with a few new tools to navigate the everyday challenges of expat motherhood, expat parenting, and raising children far from home.In This Episode, We Discuss:* Why mornings and family transitions can feel overwhelming* The science behind parental overstimulation and transition fatigue* How moving abroad impacts stress levels for parents and children* Why kids often struggle with transitions and routines* The connection between time pressure, sensory overload, and emotional regulation* Practical ways to manage overwhelm during busy family moments* The importance of repair after losing your patience* How to create more calm and connection during daily routines* Why self-compassion matters in expat family lifeExpat Parenting Tips from This Episode:* Slow down when possible—everything is not an emergency* Notice signs of overstimulation before reaching your limit* Take a breath or step away briefly when emotions start rising* Prepare for transitions by giving children advance notice* Remember the HALT check-in: Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired?* Focus on repair rather than perfection after difficult parenting moments* Give yourself grace—raising a family abroad comes with unique challengesResources Mentioned* Good Inside Podcast with Dr. Becky* Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya ChemalyConnect With UsHave you experienced "hallway claustrophobia" or another version of transition overwhelm? We'd love to hear from you.Share your experiences, questions, and favorite expat parenting tips with us. Your stories help strengthen the expat family support community we're building together.If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another parent who might need the reminder that they're not alone.Because parenting abroad is hard—but you don't have to do it alone.

In today’s episode of our Expat Experts Series, Amanda and CJ sit down with Seli Jacome —a birth and postpartum doula, lactation consultant, and former Frankfurt resident who flipped the script on expat family life four years ago by relocating her trilingual family to Valencia, Spain.If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to move out of Germany, or how to navigate the vulnerable phases of expat motherhood while building a business from scratch in a brand-new country, this episode is a must-listen!🎧 Key Takeaways from the episode: * The Search for Slow Living: How the desire for green space, safety, and a slower pace of life drove Seli's family to move from Germany to Spain.* Embracing Multi-Cultural Identity: Seli discusses navigating her family's unique German, Korean, Mexican, and British roots within expat parenting.* The "DIY" Approach to Expat Parenting: How Seli spotted a massive gap in the Spanish postpartum healthcare system and created her own international community groups (including a massive secondhand kids' market in her garden!).* The Mental Load of a Third Language: The exhausting reality of managing pediatric appointments, school systems, and daily life when navigating your third language.* Germany vs. Spain: A fascinating comparison of school flexibility, healthcare structures, and why Seli’s family swapped German structure for Spanish sunshine and a slower pace of life.* Navigating Big Moves with Teens & Newborns: Seli’s firsthand expat parenting tips on moving across Europe with older children and a 7-week-old baby in tow.📝 Other Episode Highlights🌍 A Truly Global Family BackgroundSeli is half-German and half-Korean, married to a man who is half-Mexican and half-British. Together with their three kids, they speak English, Spanish, and German at home. Despite deep roots in Germany, Seli opens up about never feeling like she 100% fit in—and how that ultimate search for belonging led them to the colorful, diverse expat bubble of Valencia.🛑 The Shock of Spanish Bureaucracy & HealthcareThink German paperwork is tough? Seli shares hilarious and stressful stories of navigating old-school Spanish paper trails. She also breaks down the cultural shocks of expat motherhood in Spain, where the cozy German Hebamme (midwife) home-visit culture doesn't exist, forcing new moms to navigate postpartum care entirely differently.💼 Finding Your Niche in a New MarketWhen Seli arrived in Spain, she realized local mothers return to work much earlier (around 4 months) compared to Germany, leaving a massive lack of expat family support for postpartum care and community playgroups. By embracing a "Do-It-Yourself" attitude, she successfully rebuilt her doula and education practice to serve the international community.⭐ Connect with Our Guest* Find Seli here:* www.21doulaservice.es* 21doulaservice_selijacome❤️ Enjoyed this episode?If you found Seli’s expat parenting journey inspiring, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode filled with real, raw stories and practical expat family support.Podcast recommendations:Neuroshambles

What happens when you’re raising children in a country completely different from your passport culture? In this episode, Amanda and CJ explore the beautifully complicated reality of expat parenting and raising Third Culture Kids (TCKs). From blending holiday traditions (think Danish elves, St. Nicholas, and Santa Claus all competing for airtime) to navigating identity, belonging, and the ever-changing meaning of “home,” this conversation dives deep into modern expat family life.Amanda and CJ share honest stories about expat motherhood, cultural confusion, and the emotional challenges that come with raising globally mobile kids. Whether your children are fluent culture-switchers, “look-alike” TCKs, or simply obsessed with German bakery pretzels, this episode offers reassurance, laughter, and practical insight for parents building lives abroad.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re doing this whole international parenting thing “right,” this episode is packed with relatable moments, encouragement, and thoughtful expat parenting tips. Most importantly, it’s a reminder that while raising TCKs can create complicated identity questions, it also gives children extraordinary adaptability, empathy, and resilience.Key Takeaways* What is a TCK? A Third Culture Kid (TCK) is someone raised outside their parents’ passport culture, blending their home culture with the culture of their host country to create a unique “third culture” identity shared by many internationally mobile families.* The “Look-Alike” vs. “Non-Look-Alike” TCK Experience Amanda and CJ discuss how children who physically resemble the dominant culture of their host country are often expected to fully understand the language and social norms—creating a unique layer of identity pressure many expat families experience.* Redefining the Meaning of Home In both expat motherhood and broader expat family life, “home” often becomes less about geography and more about relationships, routines, and emotional connection.* The Hidden Superpowers of TCKs While global mobility can bring challenges like transient friendships and identity struggles, TCKs frequently develop remarkable emotional intelligence, cultural adaptability, communication skills, and resilience in uncertainty.* The Importance of Expat Family Support Raising children abroad can feel isolating at times, which is why strong community, honest conversations, and reliable expat family support systems are so important for both parents and kids.Book recommendations:​Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds​Rage becomes her: The Power of Women’s Anger, by Soraya Chemaly Podcast Recommendations: Disengaged, by Leah Harding

In this episode of Expecting Expat, we dive into the wonderful world of expat parenting and explore the joys and challenges of raising multilingual children across cultures. Whether you're navigating expat family life or seeking expat parenting tips, this episode offers practical insights and heartfelt stories about fostering language skills and cultural identity abroad.We discuss various language strategies, including one parent, one language, minority language at home, context switching, and more. Hear real stories from parents balancing multiple languages at home, managing language loss, and creating meaningful expat family support networks. Learn how your children’s multilingual development can become a gift of access to culture and media, and discover tips on maintaining language skills across generations, connecting with grandparents, and embracing the beautiful complexity of expat motherhood.If you're raising multilingual kids in a foreign country or simply curious about how language shapes cultural identity, this episode is packed with relatable experiences and advice. Join us for an inspiring conversation about the unique expat family journey of language, culture, and connection.Podcast recommendations:Real survival stories (by Noiser) The Daily (by The New York Times)

✨ Episode SummaryMoving abroad is exciting—but it can also feel isolating. In this episode of Expecting Expats, we sit down with Amy Fletcher, founder of Speak Easy Sprachschule in Frankfurt, to explore how language learning can become a powerful tool for building community, confidence, and connection.Amy shares her journey from the U.S. to Germany, how she built a community-centered language school, and why integration is about so much more than grammar and vocabulary. From the challenges of feeling “like a beginner again” to the magic of forming friendships through shared learning, this conversation dives deep into what it really takes to feel at home abroad.💡 What We Cover* Why 87% of expats experience isolation—and how to overcome it* The idea of “invisible anchors” and what we lose when we move abroad* How language learning can feel humbling, frustrating, and empowering* Why community is just as important as conjugation* The role of confidence and mindset in learning a new language* How social events (like art meetups and casual conversations) accelerate integration* The impact of AI and language apps—and why they can’t replace real connection* What it’s really like to run a business as an expat in Germany🧠 Key Takeaways* Language learning isn’t just about words—it’s about belonging* Feeling like a beginner again is part of the process (and it’s okay)* Connection builds confidence, and confidence builds language skills* You don’t need perfect language skills to start building community* Sometimes the best step forward is simply showing up🗣️ Memorable Quotes“Learning a language is an infantilizing process—you feel like a child again.”“The language is almost the conduit—it’s how friendships are formed.”“Community starts with connection… sometimes with a single hello—or hallo.”🌍 About Our GuestAmy Fletcher is the founder of SpeakEasy Sprachschule in Frankfurt, a language school focused not just on teaching languages, but on creating meaningful social connections for expats. Through community events, conversation-based learning, and a welcoming environment, Amy helps newcomers feel at home in Germany.Find out more about SpeakEasy here: speakeasy-sprachschule.de 🎧 Podcast Recommendations from This Episode* Coffee Break German – great for beginners (A1–A2)* Warum Nicht? (Deutsche Welle) – structured learning for beginners* Easy German – ideal for intermediate learners (B1–B2)* Fest & Flauschig – for advanced learners (C1+) who want real, fast-paced German* Sweet Bobby – a gripping storytelling podcast* Molly’s Mornings – mindful reflections and daily rituals💬 Final ThoughtBuilding a life abroad takes courage—but it doesn’t have to be lonely. Whether it’s through language, shared experiences, or simply showing up, connection is always the first step.

📝 Episode DescriptionIn this special 6-month anniversary episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda shares the birth story of her first child—an unexpected and unplanned C-section that changed everything.Recorded during C-section Awareness Month, this honest conversation explores the realities of expat motherhood, navigating pregnancy and birth in a foreign healthcare system, and what happens when birth plans don’t go as expected.Amanda opens up about her experience with prodromal labor, a stressful hospital induction, and ultimately a traumatic birth that led to postpartum PTSD. Through it all, she reflects on the emotional impact, the challenges of expat family life, and how this experience shaped her journey into becoming a childbirth educator and doula.This episode is raw, real, and an important reminder that every birth story matters—and that support, preparation, and advocacy are key in expat parenting.⚠️ Content note: This episode includes discussion of birth trauma and may be triggering for some listeners.💬 What We Talk About* Celebrating 6 months of Expecting Expats 🎉* Amanda’s pregnancy as an expat in Germany* The challenges of preparing for birth abroad* Navigating language barriers in birth classes* Prodromal labor and the emotional toll of “waiting”* A chaotic lead-up to labor (including illness and unexpected events)* Hospital experiences and feeling unheard during labor* The reality of an emergency C-section* Birth trauma and postpartum PTSD* Struggles with early bonding and recovery* The importance of expat family support during postpartum* How Amanda’s experience shaped her work supporting other families🌍 Key Takeaways for Expat FamiliesAmanda’s story highlights important lessons for anyone navigating expat parenting and expat family life:* Birth rarely goes exactly as planned—flexibility is essential* Understanding the local healthcare system can make a huge difference* Advocacy matters: knowing your options and asking questions is key* Postpartum planning is just as important as birth planning* Emotional recovery deserves just as much attention as physical healing* Building a strong network of expat family support can be invaluable💡 Expat Parenting Tips from This Episode* Don’t over-schedule the postpartum period—leave space to recover* Prepare mentally for multiple birth scenarios, including C-sections* Consider hiring a doula, especially when navigating birth abroad* Take birth classes in a language you fully understand* Trust your instincts—but also prepare how to advocate within the system* Seek professional support if you experience birth trauma🤍 A Note from AmandaThis story is shared with honesty and vulnerability to help other women feel less alone. Whether your journey into expat motherhood is smooth or complicated, your experience is valid—and support is always available.🎧 What We’re Listening ToThis week, we’re both hooked on:Real Survival Stories – gripping, real-life survival experiences with a surprisingly soothing narrator.📌 Connect With UsIf this episode resonated with you, share it with another expat parent or leave us a review—it helps more families find support and community.

Choosing a school is one of the biggest—and often most emotional—decisions in expat parenting. In this episode, Amanda and CJ dive into the realities of navigating school choices while raising kids abroad, especially within the context of expat motherhood and expat family life.With millions of families living outside their home countries, the question of local vs. international school is more relevant than ever. But beyond academics, this decision touches on identity, belonging, language, and your child’s long-term development.What We CoverIn this episode, we explore:* The pros and cons of local vs. international schools* How school choice impacts your child’s identity and cultural connection* The role of language in expat family life and long-term integration* Practical considerations like cost, commute, curriculum, and teacher turnover* The emotional side of decision-making in expat motherhoodWe also share personal stories from raising children in Germany and the very real pressures that come with making “the right” choice for your family.Expat Parenting Tips from This EpisodeIf you’re currently choosing a school abroad, here are some key expat parenting tips we discuss:* Think beyond academics: Schools shape values, identity, and social skills* Consider your child’s temperament: Will they thrive in a new language environment?* Ask the right questions:* What language(s) are used in teaching?* How does the school support non-native speakers?* What’s the teacher turnover rate?* Look at logistics: Where do classmates live? How easy are playdates?* Plan for the future: Will this school support potential moves to another country?Supporting Your Expat FamilyThis episode highlights the importance of expat family support—from teachers, schools, and fellow parents. Whether you choose a local or international path, having a supportive community can make all the difference in your child’s experience (and yours).Join the ConversationWe’d love to hear from you:* How did you choose a school for your child abroad?* What factors mattered most to your family?* Do you have any advice for other expat parents navigating this decision?Send us a message or connect with us on social—we’re building this space together 💛🎧 Mentioned in This Episode* “Unpacked” podcast – on navigating expat life during crisis* “The Psychology of Your 20s” – insights on identity, attachment, and more

Starting daycare abroad can feel overwhelming — especially when you’re navigating a new system, a new language, and a new culture at the same time. In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ talk about one of the biggest milestones in expat family life: starting Kita (daycare) in Germany.From confusing application portals to the emotional rollercoaster of the settling-in period, this conversation covers the practical realities and the emotional side of expat parenting when your child enters childcare in a new country.Whether you’re pregnant, waiting for a daycare spot, or already in the middle of the process, this episode is packed with honest stories, helpful insights, and real-life expat parenting tips.🇩🇪 What we talk about in this episode* How the German Kita system works* Why you may need to apply for daycare while still pregnant* Different childcare options (Kita, Tagesmutter, kindergarten)* What the Eingewöhnung settling-in period is really like* How long the adjustment phase can take (and why it’s hard to plan around)* The emotional side of daycare for parents — guilt, relief, and everything in between* Why childcare is especially important for expat family support* How sibling spots and networking sometimes help you get a place* What to look for when choosing a Kita* How daycare culture in Germany differs from other countries🌍 Expat parenting reality: Doing it without family nearbyFor many families abroad, daycare isn’t just helpful — it’s essential.
Without grandparents or relatives nearby, childcare providers often become a key part of your expat motherhood and expat parenting journey.Amanda and CJ share their own experiences raising kids in Germany, including:* Finding childcare without local family support* Balancing work, identity, and motherhood abroad* Feeling guilty even when daycare is the right choice* Why high-quality childcare matters so much for expat families❤️ The emotional side of starting daycareStarting Kita isn’t just a logistical step — it’s a huge emotional transition.In this episode we talk about:* The first time leaving your baby with someone else* Feeling ready to work again but also sad* How the slow German settling-in process can help both parents and kids* Why the transition can be harder for expatsIf you’re in the middle of this stage, you’re not alone — and this episode is here to give you reassurance, perspective, and practical expat parenting tips.📚 Recommendations from this episode* Book: Your Competent Child by Jesper Juul* Podcast: The Worldschooling Podcast🎧 About Expecting ExpatsExpecting Expats is a podcast about expat motherhood, expat parenting, and expat family life — the real, honest, sometimes messy experience of raising children abroad.We talk about pregnancy, parenting, relationships, identity, and building a support system far from home.If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with another expat parent who might need some expat family support today.

In this episode, Amanda and CJ explore the significance of attachment styles in early childhood and adult relationships, particularly for expat families. They discuss how early attachment shapes emotional stability and learning, the implications of the still face study, and common misconceptions about attachment. The conversation delves into the four adult attachment styles, the impact of moving abroad on attachment, and practical tips for new parents to foster secure attachments. They emphasize the importance of communication, repair in relationships, and creating stability through routines and rituals.Podcast recommendations:The Mel Robbin’s Podcast: Why do I love the way that I love? The 4 attachment styles explained: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3MC7N7rJW2KHoHdSQgmnCx?si=i7ioP_ddTSGBW68NSq3fTw Dybdepsykologi: https://open.spotify.com/show/10J3TORvJKFMANnCHrimKd?si=qu9aTy2FQNypOC2HuYaI1w

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the often misunderstood topic of perimenopause, a phase that affects millions of women globally. They are joined by Dr. Colette White, a clinician specializing in women's health, who shares her insights on the challenges women face during this transition. Dr. White emphasizes the importance of awareness and education regarding perimenopause, highlighting that symptoms can begin as early as the mid-30s and can include mood changes, sleep disturbances, and physical discomfort. Despite the prevalence of these symptoms, many women feel unprepared and unsupported due to a lack of information and stigma surrounding the topic.Dr. White discusses her personal journey through motherhood and perimenopause, illustrating the unique challenges faced by expat women navigating healthcare systems in foreign countries. She stresses the importance of seeking evidence-based support and encourages women to document their symptoms to better communicate with healthcare providers. The conversation also touches on the misconceptions surrounding hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the benefits it can offer, dispelling fears and promoting a proactive approach to managing health during this life stage. Overall, the episode serves as a valuable resource for women seeking clarity and support during their perimenopausal journey.Link to Dr. White’s website: https://www.menocare.de/ Find her on instagram: @menocare_dePodcast Recommendations:​Unpacked with Anna & Emma: Episode 14, The Magic Formula for Thriving abroad: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6PLm1K0soaAuB8FYNH3Z5r?si=tqmxEN_HTTS7U5s9inq2Sw​Wiser than me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus: https://open.spotify.com/show/3zaHNdVeLiqOSXwxdoWcij?si=iKdJTD83RYWt8n_mGrPOZw​How to Fail by Elizabeth Day: https://open.spotify.com/show/4m7U7kNne0iu35HK571Ui8?si=Kzg847O9TOCtciKzFuPuMg

In this episode, Amanda and CJ explores the significant decline in sex among couples after having children, highlighting the various factors contributing to this change, including fatigue, caregiving demands, and shifts in couple dynamics.Takeaways* A lot of studies show that couples' sex life tends to decline after having kids.* Fatigue, sleep disruption, and caregiving demands contribute to this decline.* Change in roles and less couple time affects intimacy.* As much as 60% of married couples report a decrease in sexual frequency after having kids.* 30% say that sex has become less satisfying in the last five years after having kids.* The decline in sexual frequency is a significant issue for many couples.* Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy.* Couples need to find ways to reconnect after having children.* Communication is key to addressing sexual satisfaction.* Support systems can help couples navigate these challenges.Podcast Recommendation: Motherhood Sessions: 2 Years Without Sex : https://open.spotify.com/episode/4oQ1SbW6yVw6ILUhixUeOs?si=m0Nn1kC5RraRBG6mYl2bRA Book Recommendation: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ explore the profound identity shifts that accompany motherhood, particularly for those parenting abroad. They discuss personal experiences, the evolution of relationships, the importance of community support, and strategies for reclaiming one's identity amidst the challenges of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes that while the journey can be difficult, it ultimately leads to personal growth and a new understanding of self.Takeaways* Becoming a parent reshapes your identity in profound ways.* Motherhood abroad adds layers of complexity to identity shifts.* It's common to feel a sense of loss regarding your old self.* The transition into motherhood often involves grief for your previous life.* Community support is crucial for navigating motherhood.* Reclaiming your identity is a step-by-step process.* Relationships with partners and friends evolve after having children.* Self-care practices, like meditation, can help in the transition.* Understanding that motherhood is an evolution can provide relief.* You're not alone in feeling lost; it's a shared experience among mothers.Podcast recommendation: This is Actually Happening (by Wondery)Book recommendation: Boy mom (by Ruth Whippman) Link to the podcast episode referred to: https://open.spotify.com/episode/26KSGRz0cYTubqqnp366d5?si=UynpSCuUS3ycpPzBhmursA

Amanda and CJ discusses how their New Years ritual unfolded and how they feel about the wish they are responsible for (listen to the holiday special episode for context). CJ also shares her considerations regarding having another child.Podcast recommendations:Dr. Death (from Wondery)A Little Bit Culty The Daily (from New York Times)

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the complexities of maternity leave, discussing the pressures of productivity, cultural differences, and the often invisible labor involved in new parenthood. They share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of self-care, community support, and reframing expectations around maternity leave as a time of transformation rather than a break. The conversation highlights the need to recognize the value of care work and the unique challenges faced by new parents, encouraging listeners to give themselves grace during this significant life transition.Podcast recommendations:Unpacked - with Anna & Emma Pink pill rx

In our first Expat Experts episode, we interview Annie Ueyama, cofounder of FitnessWerkstatt and extensive expertise in pre- and postnatal fitness. We discuss the often-overlooked topic of pelvic floor health. We explore the importance of pelvic floor training for women at all stages of life, the impact of pregnancy and aging on pelvic floor health, and the benefits of postpartum rehabilitation programs. Annie shares her personal journey as an expat and how sports have helped her build community across different countries. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness and proactive care for pelvic floor health, as well as the importance of developing a good relationship with one's body.Takeaways* Pelvic floor health is crucial for women of all ages.* Over one in three women over 55 experience urinary incontinence.* Pelvic floor training is standard care in some countries.* Annie's journey highlights the importance of sports in building community.* Pregnancy and aging significantly impact pelvic floor health.* A healthy pelvic floor supports core stability and overall well-being.* C-sections still require pelvic floor training and care.* It's never too late to start training your pelvic floor.* Understanding your body is key to maintaining pelvic health.Podcast recommendations: ​Pink pill RX: episode 40, Midwives, witches and Nazis ​Mel Robbins’ podcast ​Pelvic floor connection

In this episode, Amanda and CJ reflect on their personal journeys over the past year, discussing the challenges and triumphs they faced. They share a special ritual for setting intentions for the new year, emphasizing the importance of reflection and gratitude. The conversation delves into the power of manifestation and the significance of rituals in marking time and creating a sense of grounding, especially for those living as expats. They conclude with thoughts on their aspirations for the upcoming year and the importance of community and connection.Takeaways* Reflecting on the past year is essential for personal growth.* Setting intentions for the new year can provide clarity and direction.* Rituals help mark time and create a sense of grounding.* Manifestation can be a powerful tool for achieving goals.* Living intentionally can enhance the quality of life.* Gratitude is crucial in recognizing our privileges.* Being an expat presents unique challenges and opportunities.* Community and connection are vital for support.* Writing down wishes as if they are already true can aid in manifestation.* The journey of parenting is filled with ups and downs, and reflection helps navigate it.A special thanks to @thatglagowwitch for the inspiration!

CJ and Amanda shares their personal experiences and best tips for building your community abroad. Here’s the main takeaways: 1. Put yourself out there — community starts with brave first stepsBoth hosts emphasize that building a village doesn’t happen passively. You need to take initiative:* Say yes to “blind-date” coffees* Join meetups (e.g., InterNations, “new to Frankfurt” events)* Attend language classes or pregnancy/parent groups* Accept invitations even when it feels awkwardAlmost every friendship they formed began with taking a small social risk.2. Shared experiences create the strongest connectionsThe transcript shows that community abroad often forms fastest around common life phases or needs, such as:* Being new to the country* Learning the language* Having pets* Pregnancy classes or young-kids groups* Being an international living far from homeThese “we’re all in the same boat” situations naturally bring people together and make it easier to bond deeply.3. Build both international support and local integrationA balanced community abroad includes:* International friends who offer emotional familiarity, understand holidays, and “adopt” you like family* Local connections that help you integrate, navigate bureaucracy, learn the language, and support your kids in schoolEven though connecting with locals can be harder (language barriers, established circles), both hosts agree that learning the local language and making some local ties helps you feel truly rooted.Podcast links:Mel Robbins Podcast Episode 283- It's Not You: The Real Reason Adult Friendship is So Hard & 3 Ways to make it easier: https://open.spotify.com/episode/55RjbE6ffgz4hcsLnOkNW5?si=bc14dc28aab744aa

Amanda and CJ checks in, with a surprise recording from thanksgiving morning, where they talk about the different holiday traditions and why they find it important to keep them going, while living abroad. They also share what they are grateful for, and invite all their listeners to do the same.Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

In this episode of Expecting Expats, CJ and Amanda share their weekend experiences, discuss the complexities of family life, and delve into their breastfeeding journeys. They explore the emotional and physical challenges of breastfeeding, the societal pressures surrounding it, and the importance of support systems for new mothers. The conversation also touches on cultural differences in breastfeeding practices and the resources available in Germany to assist mothers in their breastfeeding journeys.Resources:Le Leche League The Womanly art of breastfeeding Your baby’s microbiome Podcast recommendations:Therapy Talk (Johanne Svensson)The Longest Shortest Time podcast (by Hilary Frank)

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ welcomes back Kari to share her recent birth story of baby number 3! Kari discusses her experience giving birth to her third child, Solveig, where she barely made it to the hospital, and didn’t have time to get any pain medication. The conversation touches on the logistics of managing multiple children, answering work emails while having contractions, and the emotional aspects of childbirth, and the importance of advocating for oneself.

CJ and Amanda share the funny, shocking and emotional cultural surprises during their pregnancies in Germany. Podcast recommendations: The Positive Birth Story Podcast

In this episode, CJ and Amanda get personal—sharing the winding paths that brought them to Germany and the unexpected turns that shaped their lives as expat parents.

In this special episode, CJ and Amanda sit down with Kari, the original co-host of Expecting Expats, to reflect on her journey and share the reasons behind her decision to step away from the podcast.

After a long pause, we’re thrilled to relaunch the podcast with fresh energy, deeper conversations, and a brand-new co-host. In this heartfelt episode, CJ returns to the mic to reflect on life’s big transitions—from growing families to shifting careers—and introduces Amanda, a doula and fellow expat parent, who brings her own rich perspective to the show.

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ discussed a book that CJ has read describing all the cool medical facts on what happens to mom‘s bodies after birth… From lowering cancer rates to growing part of your brain! tune in today ☺️ like and subscribe!

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ chat about keeping the intimacy with your partner alive after having two kids! Tune in today and subscribe @expectingexpats

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ, discuss how their identity has changed, either for the better or worse after having two kids and living abroad. Tune in and subscribe to @expectingexpats !

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ discuss how their holidays went and how difficult they were with sick kids. Tune in today for the update and subscribe to @expectingexpats !

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ, discuss more on their New Year’s resolutions, and what they’re planning on doing with their families while living abroad! Tune in today and subscribe to @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ discussed their New Year’s resolutions, both personally and professionally. Tune in today to hear what they’re planning on changing in the new year! @expectingexpats

In this episode, Kari and CJ, discuss their plans for Christmas, traditions they plan to have, and traveling with two! Tune in today and subscribe @expectingexpats!

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ, discuss how they’re handling maternity leave with two kids! Tune in and subscribe today @expectingexpats

In this week’s episode, Kari and CJ discussed the first few weeks with having two kids - dealing with postpartum mental and physical changes While having a toddler to look after! Tune in today and subscribe @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, CJ tells us her birth story when delivering her son, Oscar. Tune in to hear the highs and lows, and how CJ found out she had a boy! @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, Kari tells us about her birth story with Ragnar and having a vaginal birth, after her C-section with Dagny. Listen in to hear the ups and downs, and the funny points in between. Tune in today and subscribe to @expectingexpats

In this week’s episode, CJ and Kari are in their late third trimester and giving us an update! They dive into if they’re trying to naturally induce, how they’re preparing, and how they’re feeling! Tune in and subscribe today @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, we chat about what’s in our hospital bags and how we are better preparing for our second time in a German hospital (e.g. snacks!). Tune in today and subscribe! @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, CJ and Kari, discuss how to keep an emotional and romantic connection with your partner while having a little ones. Tune in and subscribe today! @expectingexpats

In this week episode, CJ discusses her preparation for baby number 2. We dive in to questions on what we learned in our past deliveries and what to do with your other kid during the birth - especially when you’re living abroad and no family near by. Tune in and subscribe today! @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ are joined by a special guest, Amanda Graybill, founder of Mindful Mama Abroad. Where we discuss the Gentle Birth Method and going over all questions on it. Find Amanda and her courses through her website at https://www.mindfulmamafrankfurt.com and follow her on Insta @mindfulmamaabroad.

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ discuss how Kari is preparing for a VBAC (vaginal birth after C-section) - we discuss the course Kari took and also what the hospital in Germany recommends. Tune in and subscribe today! @expectingexpats

CJ and Kari will be on holiday for the next two weeks. We look forward to seeing you all in the next weeks with lots of new content!

This weeks episode, Kari and CJ discuss the updates in their pregnancies and how they’re feeling in their third trimester. Tune in today and subscribe! @expectingexpats

This week, CJ and Kari have Jessica on the podcast where they chat about expat friendships and what they mean. Jessica is soon to be leaving Germany - so this episode is all about life long friendships! Tune in today and subscribe at @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, CJ and Kari, discuss, postpartum depression - including the symptoms, the causes, where to find support, preventative measures, and how your family and friends can support. Trigger warning on death. Tune in to this very important episode!

And this weeks episode, CJ and Kari discuss how they dealt with body changes during their first and their second pregnancy and after. Did they have a deadline to bounce back? Did they worry about the major body changes before getting pregnant? Tune in today to hear what they have to say! @expectingexpats

And this weeks episode, CJ and Kari, discuss the different parenting styles that we see on social media, read in books, and also what are parents did. Tune in today to see what CJ and Kari think! And subscribe to @expectingexpats

In this weeks episode, Kari and CJ, discuss the updates in their second trimester and their recent travel abroad with or without their little ones. Tune in today and subscribe! @expectingexpats