Get Sexy with Shari

What if your genitals were never just physical, but a gateway to deeper connection, aliveness, and even consciousness?In this episode, I sit down with Simon Paul Sutton to explore the true power of being comfortable with your own sexual center and the power of self pleasure.Because instead of feeling, we’ve been conditioned to perform in the bedroom.This conversation is a deep dive into what happens when you move beyond technique, beyond pressure, and start relating to your body as something alive, intelligent, and deeply powerful.I don’t just guide this conversation. I also open up about my own experiences with dating, vulnerability, and the moments where I catch myself disconnecting from my body.In This Episode, We Explore: Why your genitals are not just physical, but an access point to deeper awareness and connection The difference between performance-based intimacy vs. embodied intimacy How conditioning and shame disconnect you from your natural pleasure response The overlooked power of softness, slowness, and subtle sensation Why many people are chasing intensity instead of true aliveness The pressure on men to perform—and how it impacts both partners  How your body communicates through sensation, energy, and presence Why real intimacy starts with honest communication and emotional safety The role of your inner patterns (inner girl/boy) in intimacy and dating Personal Shares From Me In this Episode: My own experience of dating and going into my head instead of my body The moment of realizing: “There’s attraction… but no safety” How lack of clarity creates tension and disconnection in intimacy The courage it takes to ask: “What is this actually?” My growing compassion for men and the pressure they carry to perform Why I believe true intimacy requires both safety + self-expressionKey Takeaways Your body is not a tool—it’s an intelligent system of sensation and awareness Pleasure expands when you shift from doing → feeling The real power of your genitals lies in connection, not performance Slowness and presence unlock levels of intimacy most people never reach  Communication is what allows your body to fully relax and open🔗 Connect with Simon Paul Sutton:Follow Simon on Instagram: @simonpaulsuttonCheck out all of his Events here: https://simonpaulsutton.com/Let’s Stay Connected→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

You don’t need to fix your sex life — you just need to expand it. In this episode, Shari dives into what it really means to broaden your sexual range: moving from performance and people-pleasing into authentic exploration, curiosity, and connection. She shares vulnerable personal stories (including her journey with anal and kink) and offers tangible tools to communicate, de-armor shame, and turn on curiosity as your compass. 🎧 The free Cosmic Menu of Pleasure is available around the 7th of November. Drop me a DM on Instagram with "MENU" or email me on [email protected] to be the first one to receive it.Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: 💋 The real reason many women feel “numb” or disconnected from desire 💋 Why curiosity is more powerful than confidence in bed 💋 How communication creates deeper erotic safety 💋 A free tool — The Cosmic Menu of Pleasure — to map your desiresConnect with me on Instagram: @shari.vandecraenFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Most people think being a better lover means learning new positions, lasting longer, or performing better. But the truth? Epic lovemaking starts long before you’re naked.In this solo episode, Shari takes you back to a moment that changed everything — a conversation in a sun-soaked jungle cabin in Nicaragua that sparked the very idea for this podcast. When a fellow traveler asked her, “What would you tell me if I wanted to be a better lover?” … she realized it’s not about technique. It’s about connection — with yourself, your body, and the person in front of you.Inside this juicy, heart-opening episode, you’ll learn: ✨ Why being an epic lover begins with how you love yourself ✨ The 5 bodies that come together during true intimacy — physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and spiritual ✨ How to communicate your desires and create emotional safety in bed ✨ The secret to rewiring shame around your genitals and feeling confident in your pleasure ✨ Why following the path of pleasure leads to more connection, deeper orgasms, and pure embodimentThis isn’t about performance. It’s about presence. It’s about bringing your full self — body, heart, and energy — into every moment of intimacy.So if you’ve ever wondered how to become a more connected, magnetic, and unforgettable lover… this episode is your invitation to slow down, feel more, and fall back in love with your own body.---LINKSI have 2 coaching opportunities open starting as of mid-November: send me an email with your desire to [email protected] and let's see if there is a match.If you're interested in the course on How to Pleasure the Penis, click here: https://sharivandecraen.plugandpay.nl/checkout/secrets-of-sensual-touch---Connect with ShariFollow @shari.vandecraen on Instagram for sensual tools, embodiment practices, and weekly turn-on inspo. Listen to more episodes, explore workshops, and download your pleasure guides at → www.sharivandecraen.comFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Most of us grew up learning that sex was either dangerous, shameful, or mechanical. But what if sex could be healing? Empowering? A path to deep embodiment?In this powerful episode, Shari is joined by Dr. Saida Désilets, a pioneer in feminine embodiment and sexual sovereignty, and Aaron Michael, co-founder of Suction Sex and Embodied Love University, to explore the truth about the kind of sexuality education we actually need.Together, they unravel the myths around “normal” sex, break down the difference between friction sex vs. suction sex, and invite us into a new paradigm of relaxed arousal, co-regulation, and embodied love.You’ll learn:Why most sex education is missing the most important piece—pleasureThe mechanics of suction sex and why it leads to deeper intimacyHow to move from stress or numbness into turn-on through your breath and bodyThe difference between sexual literacy, sexuality education, and sexual embodimentWhy your body deserves to be led by pleasure, not pressureA powerful guided practice to help you feel connected to your heart, genitals, and nervous systemThis isn’t just another conversation about sex. It’s a reclamation of your erotic power, your body’s wisdom, and your right to feel fully alive.🔗 Mentioned in This Episode:Embodied Love University – Free Foundational Videos: https://www.embodiedloveuniversity.com/Follow Dr. Saida Désilets on Instagram: @drsaidadesiletsFollow Aaron Michael on Instagram: @suctionsexLet’s Stay Connected→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen → Website: www.sharivandecraen.com⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review—it helps more women find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

What does it take to stop abandoning yourself and start living from desire?In this juicy episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with the radiant Nadine Hamilton — a VITA-certified sex, love & relationship coach and somatic sexologist whose erotic aliveness practically drips through the microphone.Together, we dive deep into:Why intimacy begins with YOU (and how self-pleasure sets the tone for everything else)The hidden ways people-pleasing sneaks into sex and loveA simple 3-minute practice to reconnect with what you really wantHow longing can become pleasure instead of painThe power of one-way touch and devotional intimacy in relationshipsAnd — in true Get Sexy with Shari style — Nadine guides us through a luscious “Honeypot” practice to drop into your body, stir up your erotic energy, and taste what happens when you give yourself permission to want.This conversation is an invitation to stop apologizing, stop performing, and step into the juiciness of your own desires.🎧 Listen now and get ready to drip with honey.Resources & Links:Connect with Nadine on Instagram: @iamnadinehamiltonNadine’s Website: bloomwithnadine.comNadine’s Podcast: The SensuousFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

What does it really mean to be embodied?In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with the radiant and wise Amanda Biccum—my own teacher and co-founder of Temple of Radiance—to unpack the five bodies every woman holds: the mental, physical, emotional, energetic, and spiritual. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, “in your head,” or like something is missing from your self-care routine… this conversation will light a fire under your ass and inside your heart.Together, we explore how embodiment isn’t about doing more, but about being deeply aware and deeply present with what’s already here. Whether you're craving more aliveness, deeper intimacy, or a stronger sense of self—this episode is your invitation back home.Amanda also guides you through a mini embodiment practice you can do right now to drop into your body and feel your own presence on a whole new level. In this episode, we explore:What the term “embodiment” really means (and how we misuse it)The difference between looking embodied and being embodiedWhy the emotional body is the secret to your magnetismHow to access your energy body and use it in intimacyHow spirituality and sensuality are linked in the fifth bodyTips to navigate the awkwardness when you start to changePractice inside:Stick around until the end for a powerful drop-in guided by Amanda to bring you back into your body, your breath, and your truth. It’s short—but potent.Connect with Amanda:Instagram: www.instagram.com/theamandabiccum/Temple of Radiance: www.instagram.com/templeofradiance/  Don’t miss out:If this episode lit something up in you, please rate & review the podcast—it helps other women find this work.Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I’m joined by Erotic Blueprints™ coach and sex, love & relationship mentor Sarah Ward to bust one of the biggest myths about desire: 👉 If you’re not in the mood, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It might just mean you’re speaking a different erotic language.We unpack the 5 Erotic Blueprints™ — a revolutionary framework created by Jaiya - that helps you understand your turn-ons, overcome shame, and stop expecting yourself (or your partner) to fit into a one-size-fits-all sexual script.What We Dive Into:Why your sex drive might feel “off” — and why that’s totally normalThe 5 Erotic Blueprints™: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky & ShapeshifterHow partners with different blueprints can stop clashing and start connectingWhat it really means when you shut down, feel too much, or feel not enough in bedHow to feed your own desire so you’re not waiting for someone else to turn you onWhether you’re single, in partnership, or somewhere in between — this episode will leave you feeling seen, turned on, and empowered to explore your pleasure in a way that actually works for you.🔗 Resources & LinksTake the free Erotic Blueprints™ quiz: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=1043477&opid=4 Follow Sarah Ward on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sarahward.co/Love this episode?Leave a quick review — it helps the podcast grow and reach more women who are ready to feel sexy, magnetic, and deeply turned on in their own bodies.And don’t forget to subscribe — next week’s guest is going to blow your mind in all the right ways.xoxo ShariFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

In this raw and radically honest episode, I sit down with conscious dating and empowerment coach Alexa Lynn to explore how to date with intention, embodiment, and confidence—even in a world that constantly rushes us into the next thing.Together, we unravel what it means to pause after a breakup, stop being the CEO of the story factory, and let your authentic woman drive the car instead of the people-pleasing “nice girl.” We also explore the powerful R-B-D-S-M framework for clear, sexy, and safe communication before becoming intimate.And yes—there’s a pre-date pleasure ritual to help you shift from “Will they like me?” to “I am the prize.” You’ll want to try this one.🔥 In This Episode, We Cover:Why healing after a breakup is a sacred responsibility to yourself and your next partnerHow to stop repeating old patterns and start dating from a place of truthAlexa’s signature R-B-D-S-M tool to have intentional, magnetic conversations about intimacyThe difference between a “nice girl” and an authentic womanA sensual embodiment practice to ground into your worth before a dateConnect with Alexa Lynn🔗 Website: www.notanicegirl.com 📸 Instagram: @alexalynncoaching💌 Let’s Connect:Follow me on Instagram: @sharivandecraenWant to work with me or explore my courses? Head to www.sharivandecraen.com⭐ If You Loved This Episode…Please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with a friend who needs this. Your support helps the podcast grow and keeps these powerful conversations going.Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

In this intimate episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with one of my Tantric Teachers and Communication Queen Arja Hendrikx to talk about one of the most important (and most avoided) skills in intimacy: speaking up in the bedroom.We dive into why so many women stay silent during sex, how to express what you want without killing the mood, and why real pleasure starts with honest, embodied communication. You’ll walk away with practical tools, mindset shifts, and maybe even the permission you’ve been waiting for.Whether you're in a long-term relationship or newly dating, this episode will help you feel more confident, connected, and deeply met in your intimate experiences.🔥 In This Episode, We Talk About:Why so many women fake pleasure—and how to stopHow to communicate before, during, and after sexSpeaking up without being “too much” or “too needy”Using body language when words feel hardHow your desires can be sexy, playful, and clearTurning communication into connection (and foreplay!)Connect with Arja:Connect with Arja on Instagram for her latest offerings and courses: @arja_hendrikx or via ww.instagram.com/templeofradiance/Let’s Connect:Follow me on Instagram: @sharivandecraenWant to work with me or explore my courses? Head to www.sharivandecraen.comIf You Loved This Episode…Please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with a friend who needs this. Your support helps the podcast grow and keeps these powerful conversations going.Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Welcome back to Get Sexy with Shari — the podcast that turns you on to the life, love, and sex you actually crave.In today’s juicy episode, I sit down with erotic ecstasy and sex & relationship expert Leen S to talk about long-term love, polarity, emotional safety, and what it really means to stay sexy and connected — even when your partner isn’t “doing the work.”Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off… or you’ve been told you’re “too much”… or you’re just tired of doing all the emotional labor — this episode is your permission slip to drop the pressure and come back home to your body.We explore:What to do when your partner isn’t growing with you (without nagging or shrinking)How to inspire change in your relationship through embodiment, not forceWhy polarity (Alpha & Omega energy) is the missing link in long-term attractionThe power of slow, sacred sex — and how to unlock your cervix for cosmic pleasureWhat it means to become your own best mother, father, and loverPS: stay tuned until the end where Leen guides you through a gorgeous embodiment practice to feel your Alpha and Omega energies inside of you.Connect with Leen:🌹 Instagram: /www.instagram.com/leen.s.coaching/ 🌹 Join her program “Unstoppable Lovers”: a 4 months deep and sexy journey for couples: https://leen-s.com/unstoppable-lovers/🌹 Catch her free free masterclass for couples “Deeper” : https://leen-s.com/deeper/ 🌹Sensational Love Night - a tantric date night for couples: https://leen-s.com/sensational-love-night/Want more? Here’s how to dive deeper with me: Feel alive and turned-on by embracing and awakening your sensual side through “Sensual Reclamation for just 21 euros: https://www.sharivandecraen.com/sensual-reclamation Let’s stay sexy together.Leave a review, share the love, and tag me on IG @shari.vandecraen when you listen — I LOVE hearing your takeaways.xoxoShari 💋Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

In this powerful first episode, I pull back the curtain on my own sensual awakening—how I went from shame, disconnection, and performative sex… to full-body pleasure, body confidence, and unapologetic turn-on.I share the real, raw moments that changed everything:The day I realized I’d lived 27 years in my body without knowing what that actually meantWhy I used to fake orgasms (and how I stopped performing)How slowing down through self-pleasure became a doorway to reclaiming my feminine powerWhat it really means to become a sensual woman—one who leads with embodiment instead of approval-seekingAnd why you’re not broken—you’ve just been taught to disconnect from your bodyIf you’ve ever thought “something’s wrong with me” or “I should just try harder”… this episode will hit you straight in the soul.💋 In this episode, you'll learn:Why your body isn’t the problem—the pressure isHow to begin feeling sexy again, without needing to “fix” yourselfThe truth about performance vs. presence in intimacyHow self-pleasure can reconnect you to your truth, your power, and your voice🔗 Links & ResourcesFollow me on Instagram: @shari.vandecraenVisit my website: www.sharivandecraen.comExplore your Sensual self with just 21 euros: www.sharivandecraen.com/sensual-reclamation🎧 Subscribe & Leave a ReviewIf this episode stirred something in you, please take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share with a friend who needs to hear this. This is how we unleash a generation of turned-on women together.Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Most women feel pressure when asked what they like in bed—because they don’t actually know. In this episode, I share eye-opening insights from 20 women about why communication in the bedroom feels so difficult. We’ll unpack where we really learn about sex (hint: it’s not what you think it is), how to start discovering your turn-ons.And in true Get Sexy with Shari-style, we'll end with a gentle pleasure practice to find pleasure in non-genital areas of your body. You can only ask for pleasure when you truly know what it is that you want. So let's get to it.JUICY SHOW NOTESSign up to the waitlist for Pillow Talk: www.sharivandecraen.com/pillowtalkFollow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraenFollow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radianceVisit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com