Go Coach Yourself!

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this 2026 Summer Short, Ryan and Vic unpack the phrase “a change is as good as a rest,” shared by Phil’s British nana, and discuss how change can sometimes be as restorative as taking time off (without ignoring real burnout). Vic shares a career story from early retail management: after repeatedly turning around failing stores, she felt disengaged and considered quitting. Instead of doing this she redirected her energy and found meaning and inspiration in a different place.Ryan and Vic also share small everyday versions of “change,” like switching tasks, taking a walk, or changing scenery, and offer reflection questions for listeners to go deeper.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!When was the last time life completely ignored your carefully crafted plan?In the first Summer Short of 2026, Ryan and Vic return to the podcast with a story about one of life’s most frustrating realities: things don’t always go the way we expect.Ryan shares the story of relocating from the United States to Spain, a move that took months of planning, paperwork, and preparation. With visas approved, flights booked, and a new life waiting on the other side of the Atlantic, everything seemed to be falling into place.What followed was a whirlwind of airport navigation, pharmacies in a new language, unexpected setbacks, and the realization that even the best plans can unravel in an instant.Together, Ryan and Vic explore:Why setbacks are often a normal part of any meaningful changeThe difference between planning for uncertainty and preparing for supportHow human connection helps us navigate difficult momentsWhy reaching out can be more powerful than solving the problemThe small and large ways we lean on our people when life gets messyReflection QuestionsWhen things go off the rails, who is the person in your life that’s always just a text away?What helps you recognize that it’s time to reach out for support?Mentioned in this EpisodeGo Coach Yourself: Understanding Who Your People AreSummer Shorts are bite-sized episodes featuring a story, a lesson, and a few questions to help you reflect on your own life.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What does it actually mean to live a good life? Not an impressive one, or a productive one — but a genuinely good one?In this episode, Ryan and Vic revisit a framework that sits at the heart of Ryan's Ignite the Spark program: three research-backed foundations that consistently predict deep, lasting life satisfaction. They're not what most people expect. And chances are, at least one of them has been getting less attention than it deserves.Together, Ryan and Vic walk through what the research says — drawing on the Harvard Study of Adult Development, Self-Determination Theory, and the work of researchers like Emily Esfahani Smith and Dacher Keltner — and then guide listeners through a structured reflection exercise to assess where they actually stand across all three foundations right now.This is the episode to return to whenever life feels a little off but you can't quite name why.Resources MentionedThe Good Life Check-inThe Power of Meaning by Emily Esfahani SmithDacher Keltner's research on aweThe Harvard Study of Adult Development Self-Determination TheoryIgnite the Spark — Ryan's 8-week life design cohort program — [link]Referenced EpisodesPurpose: Define, Discover and Live Your WhyHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Go Coach Yourself! welcomes Andy Storch! Andy discusses his mission is to get the most out of life and inspire others to do the same. This episode is for anyone looking to powerfully align their work with personal strengths and values. From battling imposter syndrome to building a personal brand, Andy's insights will challenge and motivate you.Andy is an author, speaker, consultant, coach, connector, and facilitator specializing in helping organizations improve engagement and retention by teaching employees to own their careers and achieve their goals.Andy is also the author of the book Own Your Career Own Your Life and the host of two podcasts, including The Talent Development Hot Seat and the Own Your Career Show as well as the founder and host of the Talent Development Think Tank Conference and Community. Don't miss out on becoming proactive and intentional in crafting the future you deserve!Learn more about Andy:https://andystorch.com/Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andystorch/Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What helps people feel more connected over time?In this episode, Ryan and Vic revisit a theme from season two and take it deeper. Inspired by the Gottmans’ questions for emotional intimacy, they explore what it looks like to keep getting to know someone, even when you already know them well.Together, they reflect on trust, vulnerability, shared dreams, personal values, love, and relationship fears. What unfolds is an honest conversation about being seen, feeling enough, remembering the small things, and why deeper connection is something we practice, not something we arrive at once.This one is a real-time model of what it can look like to ask better questions and stay curious with the people you care about most.In this episode, Ryan and Vic talk about:Why emotional intimacy needs ongoing attentionThe difference between surface conversation and deeper connectionHow trust is built through curiosity, care, and positive intentThe values they learned from family and still carry forwardWhat quality time actually means in different relationshipsSmall gestures that make people feel seen and cared forTheir biggest fears in close relationshipsWhy these kinds of questions matter in friendships, not just romantic partnershipsReferenced in this episode:Season 2 episode: You Don’t Know Me Yet: Questions to Build Real Connection with Someone Else75 Insightful Questions to Deepen Emotional IntimacyListener reflection:Who in your life would you like to know more deeply right now?Pick one question and ask it.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Most of us are taught to chase things—roles, milestones, achievements—without ever naming the experience we’re actually trying to have.An emotional goal flips that script.When you know how you want to feel, it becomes easier to:make decisionsadapt when things changerelease outcomes that don’t fully materializeand still feel fulfilledBecause the feeling—not the thing—is what you were after all along.Join Vic and Ryan as they talk about how to find and lock in an emotional goal. they share personal stories, a framework to get you started and practical tips to bring it to life.Resources:The Emotional WheelHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What actually makes a life incredible?Not big moments.Not Instagram highlights.Not achievement for achievement’s sake.In this episode, Ryan and Vic unpack what they really mean by “build the incredible life you deserve” — and why it has far more to do with foundations than outcomes.If your life were a house… which part of the foundation is cracking?In this episode, we explore five core building blocks:1. Purpose – Direction, Not Pressure2. Relationships – Belonging Takes Intention3. Joy & Play – Not a Reward, But Fuel4. Growth & Learning – Stay Open5. Alignment & Integrity – The Tension You Feel Matters—Reflection Questions from This EpisodeWhat are you optimizing for right now: performance, approval, or meaning?Who do you feel most yourself around?Who knows what you’re actually carrying?What did you used to do just because it made you feel alive?Where are you leaking energy?What small boundary would bring you relief?You don’t need to overhaul your life.Pick one foundation.Choose one small action.Just start.🎧 Listen now on our website or wherever you get your podcasts.Prior GCY Episodes MentionedGet Unf*cked: Your Are Not a Problem to Fix  (A companion to this episode)Purpose: Define, Discover and Live Your WhyThe Energy Between Us: What Makes Relationships Meaningful with Susan ClarkLet's Talk About Our Boundaries!External ResourcesThe School of Joy (schoolofjoy.co)Ingrid Fetell Lee’s TED Talk, "Where Joy Hides and How to Find It" and book Joyful Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Somewhere along the way, many of us learned to interpret discomfort, confusion, or lack of momentum as proof that something is wrong with us.In this episode, Ryan and Vic challenge that assumption.They unpack what it really means to get unfcked* — not by fixing yourself, but by recognizing when you’re simply under-resourced, not broken.Together, they explore three core elements that are often missing when life starts to feel heavy or stuck:Clarity – not certainty or a 10-year plan, but orientationDirection – movement without needing to feel “ready”Autonomy – the right to want what you want without justificationYou’ll hear personal stories, coaching reflections, and practical reframes to help you stop diagnosing yourself as the problem — and start asking better questions about what’s actually missing.In this episode:Why confusion and discomfort are not character flawsHow the “fix yourself” mindset quietly runs the self-help industryThe difference between being broken and being under-resourcedWhy motivation follows action (not the other way around)What autonomy really costs — and why it’s worth itReflection questions from the episode:What are you assuming is a personal flaw that might actually be a missing input?If you didn’t need to be sure, what would you try?Where are you living someone else’s version of “enough”?If you assumed you weren’t broken, what would you stop apologizing for?Key takeaway:You don’t need fixing.You need support, space, and permission to listen to yourself.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Vic and Ryan kick of Season 3 of Go Coach Yourself! They look back at the 2025 Season 2 and tease what is coming in 2026. They touch on Heated Rivalry, both the TV show and the books, their amazing 2025 guests, how they will double down on the tagline for 2026 and extend an invitation.Their invitation: We want hear from you. We are looking for folks who want be coached, folks who want hear their issue or their challenge or their successes talked about. We want answer your questions and help you get unfucked to build the incredible life you deserve. So reach out. You can send us a text message directly via the link below. You can reach out to either of us on LinkedIn or you can email us at [email protected]:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Every year, the holiday season invites us into a strange mix of celebration, reflection, chaos, joy, expectation, and—let’s be honest—just trying to keep it together long enough to coast into January with our sanity intact. So this year, Go Coach Yourself! is offering a little gift: The 12 Days of Coaching, a playful redux of the classic “12 Days of Christmas,” reimagined as a short, daily burst of leadership wisdom to close out the year strong.Instead of partridges, pear trees, and various types of birds no one actually wants, each day brings a micro-practice designed to help leaders reset, re-center, and re-enter the new year with intention. Think of it like a tiny advent calendar for your leadership brain—no chocolate, but way more satisfying.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, Vic and Ryan tackle the common urge to fix people's problems rather than hold space and truly listen. Dive into the reasons why jumping into fixer mode doesn't work and hear about the importance of holding space and providing support without solving. Learn why your well-intended advice might backfire and how to create meaningful connections. This episode has practical tips and empowering questions that help you show up in a way that supports and doesn't solve. Links to articles:HBR - What Great Listeners Actually DoPsychology Today - How Unsolicited Advice Harms Your RelationshipsHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself! hosts Vic and Ryan answer four reflection questions to close out the year meaningfully. They explore overcoming challenges, building or breaking habits, feeling proud, and strengthening relationships by looking back on their year and focusing in on some key moments. Through personal anecdotes, they touch on themes such as the importance of action over motivation, dealing with physical injuries, improving sleep habits, and reconnecting with past colleagues. They encourage you to use these questions not just at the year-end but any time for personal growth. Four questions:1. What is one challenge you have overcome this year and what did it teach you about yourself?2. What's a habit you've built or broken that has improved your quality of life this year?3. What is a moment from this year when you felt truly proud of yourself, what happened?4. What relationship you have strengthened this year and what made it grow?Two bonus questions:- What's a meaningful act of kindness you've experienced or given recently?- What's one thing you're grateful for this year that you might have taken for granted in the past?Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Have you ever looked at your career and thought, “Does any of this even make sense?”In this episode, Ryan and Vic unpack two common career paths:The portfolio career – built through experiments, pivots, and lots of different chapters.The mastery career – built through depth, focus, and long-term growth in a specific craft or field.Neither is better. What matters is how you understand your patterns, your identity, and the meaning inside your story.Ryan shares his non-linear path across wine, HR, L&D, and coaching as an example of a portfolio career. Vic shares how she built a mastery career in leadership and manager development without a traditional degree, and why experience and curiosity matter just as much as credentials.You’ll hear:Common limiting stories for both portfolio and mastery careers (and how to reframe them).How to spot the patterns that have been there all along, even when your CV looks “messy” or “too narrow.”Why your next move should be driven by identity, not fear.We wrap with practical coaching questions you can use right away to make sense of where you’ve been and what might be next.This episode is for you if:You’ve done a lot of different things and worry you “never stuck with anything.”You’ve gone deep in one area and feel stuck or trapped by your expertise.You’re somewhere in between and just want language and clarity for your journey.Listen in, grab a notebook, and start seeing your career through a kinder, clearer lens.ResourcesGo Coach Yourself! - You Are Not Your Job TitleGo Coach Yourself! - Uncovering Your X-Factor: Conversations on Honesty and Intention with Francesca RanieriHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Are you holding back on your dreams because you're scared of failing or not being perfect? Tune in as Vic and Ryan discuss why starting small, slow, and even scared is the secret to forward momentum. Through personal stories and practical tips to help you take that leap this epidose covers how to get started despite the fear or desire for perfection. Its never too late, you are not too old, you are qualified enough, start slow, start small, start scared, just get started.Links to Previous EpisodesSummer Shorts - This is Goodness in FailureWhy is 'What Do You Want?' Such a Tough QuestionConfronting Your Inner SabateursFinding, Connecting and Nurturing Your Leader WithinHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Whether you're seeking personal growth, career advancement, or creative inspiration, choosing the right coach makes all the difference. Join Vic and Ryan in this episode of Go Coach Yourself! as they navigate the essentials—from understanding your goals, and budget considerations, to uncovering the credentials that matter. This episode offers insights and actionable tips that demystify the coaching process, helping you find that perfect partnership. Links in this episode:What is Co-Acive Coaching, Really?IPEC CoachingHudson Institute of CoachingHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this conversation, Ryan and Vic welcome Susan Clark—founder of heartspark and the creator of Ignite the Spark—to explore what actually makes relationships meaningful. We talk intimacy (beyond romance), why vulnerability creates safety, and how “the energy between us” matters more than hours logged. Susan shares stories from decades of community-building, plus research notes on how friendships form and endure. You’ll hear simple, powerful practices to deepen connection with the people who make you more you.ResourcesConnect with Susan Clark on LinkedinWant to learn more about Ignite the Spark? Let's chat!Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Ever wondered what coaches mean when they say they’re Co-Active? In this behind-the-scenes episode, Ryan and Vic unpack what Co-Active Coaching really is — not as a training manual, but as the mindset that shapes how they coach, lead, and live.They share how they each discovered the Co-Active model (spoiler: it starts with our mutual friend named Lisa), and explore its four cornerstones and three core principles.You’ll also hear how Co-Active has shaped who they are as humans — not just coaches. From learning to stay with emotion, to designing alliances, to trusting the process of change, this episode offers both inspiration and practical insight.Resources mentioned:Learn more about Co-ActiveThe Co-Active Coaching ModelGo Coach Yourself: Building PerspectivesGo Coach Yourself: Leader WithinHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!We’ve all heard it: “Bring your whole self to work.” Or maybe it’s “Show up as your best self.” Lately, though, the conversation has started to shift. Some people are pushing back—saying that maybe your “whole self” isn’t what every space needs. In this episode, Ryan and Vic unpack what’s behind these buzzwords and explore how to navigate authenticity, discernment, and emotional intelligence in real life.Together, they explore the differences between your whole self, best self, and higher self—and what it looks like to choose which version of you to bring forward based on context, safety, and purpose. The conversation moves from the pitfalls of unfiltered “wholeness,” to the exhaustion of trying to be your “best” all the time, to the power of showing up from your higher self—that calm, aware part of you that acts with alignment and service, not ego.It’s a thoughtful, funny, and refreshingly real take on what it actually means to “bring yourself” to the world—and how to do it without losing who you are in the process.Mentioned in this episode:Dr. Victoria Mattingly on authenticity + emotional intelligenceDr. Paige Williams on focusing on your true selfGo Coach Yourself: Self-Awareness, part of EQ (helpful pairing)Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself! Ryan and Vic talk about what it means to build a life you want to share with others. The episode is inspired by Vic's 50th Birthday celebration, where she invited 15 friends from around the globe to spend the weekend in NYC. They emphasize the importance of incremental changes and deliberate choices to align with your values and purpose and share personal anecdotes about significant decisions and daily habits that brought them to where they are now. Recognizing everyone's journey is different, Vic and Ryan encourage listeners to envision their future selves, adopt small, bridge habits, and embrace discomfort as a growth opportunity. Practical steps include a vision exercise and auditing recent decisions.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Join Vic and Ryan as they discuss passion on this week's episode of Go Coach Yourself!  This inspriation for this episode was a recent line of people Vic saw on the street in New York City it prompted the question: what am I so passionate about that I would stand in line for it? This episode is a response to that question.In this episode they dive into what passion is, where it comes from, how you find it and how you nurture it. If you want to find out more about what you would stand in line for and more importantly why - listen in.If you want to uncover your passion and what drives your success check out Ryan's Ignite The Spark series.Mentioned in this podcast episode:Bros, When Will I be FamousLink to previous episode:Building New PerspectivesHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What happens when your job title becomes your identity? In this episode, Ryan and Vic unpack the modern trap of defining yourself by your career — and what it takes to find a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment beyond work.They explore how brand prestige and job titles can quietly shape our self-worth, share personal experiences from Nike, Google, and Amazon, and bring in psychology research that explains why we cling so tightly to professional identities.Listeners will walk away with practical tools and reflection questions to start separating who you are from what you do.In This Episode:Why 70% of people say work is their main source of identityHow “work-role centrality” impacts your confidence and resilienceWhat research shows about the difference between a job, career, and callingPersonal stories of redefining identity beyond corporate prestigeFour reflection tools to expand your sense of selfReflection Prompts:What sentence captures why you do what you do?Which non-work role in your life deserves more of your energy right now?If money and status were off the table, how would you define success?Where does your compass need to point this week to feel aligned?Mentioned in This Episode:Amy Wrzesniewski’s research on “Job, Career, or Calling” (Yale University)Robert Leahy in Psychology Today, "You Are Not Your Job"If you’re in transition:Ryan’s Foundation Series: Being Uniquely You helps you rediscover who you are beyond your job title through a 3-session small group experience. Learn more here →Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What does it really mean to lead with kindness? And how is kindness different from simply being nice—or even from care?In this episode of Go Coach Yourself, Ryan and Vic sit down with friend and colleague Sue Brisbois, founder of Brizboy Works, to explore how curiosity, problem-solving, and kindness intersect in both work and life.Sue shares her philosophy of falling in love with the problem, not the solution, how curiosity can transform constraints into opportunities, and why kindness often requires courage and intentionality. Together, they unpack how environments shape whether kindness can thrive, the tension between command-and-control leadership vs. psychological safety, and why kindness is a conscious choice we make again and again.If you’ve ever wondered how to bring more authenticity, curiosity, and courage into your leadership—or into your everyday interactions—this conversation is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why understanding the problem deeply accelerates finding the right solutionThe difference between being nice and being kindHow curiosity and kindness create conditions for better work and stronger relationshipsThe role of psychological safety in allowing kindness to flourishWhy kindness is a choice we must make with intentionResources & Links Mentioned:Humankind by Rutger BregmanAmy Edmondson’s TED Talk on Psychological SafetyPast Go Coach Yourself! episodes on Values and Self-Awareness Connect with Sue: brizboy.com | Sue on LinkedInHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this summer short, Ryan shares the story of a 400-square-foot cabin in Landers, California that became an unexpected stepping stone to something bigger. What started as a real estate investment and side hustle turned into a transformative experience that ultimately led Ryan and his husband to make an even bolder leap to Spain.Main TakeawaysDreams can evolve and serve as preparation for bigger opportunitiesSometimes the bravest thing is to thank an old dream and step into a new oneAsk yourself: Is this dream still serving your growth or has it become a constraint?Letting go doesn't diminish what something meant to you—it honors itTrust that your dreams are allowed to evolve just as you doReflection QuestionsWhat dream are you holding onto that might actually be a stepping stone to something bigger?If you're feeling torn about letting something go, ask yourself: Did it already give you what you needed?Is holding on keeping you from saying yes to what wants to emerge next?Next Episode Preview The hosts return next week with a full-length conversation with Sue Brisbois about kindness—don't miss it!Note: This marks the final summer short of the season as the show transitions back to longer format episodes.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this Summer Shorts episode of Go Coach Yourself!, join hosts Ryan and Vic as they explore the power of words and how a small gesture can leave a lasting impression. They discuss the importance of being intentional with your words and how they shape future connections and friendships. Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with personal revelations and valuable insights on the impact of what we say. Don't miss out on another enlightening Summer Short!Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this summer short, Ryan shares his journey from avoiding advanced Sudoku puzzles to embracing them, revealing powerful lessons about growth mindset and the transformative power of adding "yet" to our limitations. What starts as a story about number grids becomes a coaching metaphor about moving from unconscious incompetence to conscious competence.Key TakeawaysThe difference between "I can't do this" and "I can't do this, yet"Understanding the four stages of competence and why the messy middle mattersHow missing vocabulary or skills can masquerade as lack of abilityThe power of curiosity over certainty when facing challengesWhy every expert was once a beginner who felt completely lostQuestions for ReflectionWhat have you decided you "just can't do"?What if it's not about talent or ability, but simply about learning the next skill?When you hit a wall, what questions are you asking yourself?Resources MentionedCracking the Cryptic - YouTube channel featuring Simon Anthony & Mark Goodliffe solving advanced Sudoku puzzlesPrevious Episode: The Pistol Squat - Vic's story about overcoming limiting beliefs through actionHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this Summer Shorts episode of Go Coach Yourself! Vic share a personal story about being heckled during a work event and being unable to respond appropriately in the moment.What this story highlights:How reacting without thinking can impact how we see ourselves and how others experience us.Pulling on Viktor Frankl's work of creating space between the stimulus and response, Ryan and Vic talk about how to create space to react intentionally. Reflection questions to consider:How much space are you intentionally putting between the stimulus and the response?If you had total control of your behavior, what would you do differently?Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this Summer Short, Ryan shares a transformative practice that changed how he relates to time and lateness. What started as a simple experiment became a lasting mindset shift that turned everyday frustrations into opportunities.Key Takeaways:Reframe delays and cancellations as "time given back" rather than time stolenTrack how much time you give versus how much you receive to shift from scarcity to abundance mindsetBuild micro-flexibility muscles that help you respond better when life doesn't go to planPartner with time instead of fighting against itThe Practice: For a few weeks, track time given (helping friends, attending meetings) and time received back (early meeting endings, cancellations, delays). Notice how this shifts your perspective from scarcity to abundance.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this Summer Short, Vic shares a powerful story about how journaling helped her navigate a toxic work situation when her intuition was telling her something was wrong, but she couldn't quite put her finger on what it was.What You'll Learn:How to use journaling as a conversation with yourself to unlock insightsThe difference between talking things out with friends vs. writing without filtersKey questions to ask when something feels "off" but you can't identify whyHow to move from awareness to action when you discover uncomfortable truthsQuestions to Explore:What specifically feels off in your current situation?Where do you feel this in your body?When have you felt this way before?What might be happening that's creating this familiar feeling?Whether you're facing a difficult work situation, relationship challenge, or just feeling stuck, this episode offers practical tools for getting clarity and taking action.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this heartwarming summer short, Vic shares how a surprise pottery class organized by her Nike team in Amsterdam became a life-changing experience that shifted her entire perspective on failure, growth, and untapped potential.Key HighlightsThe Surprise: Vic's dream team at Nike organized a pottery "leaving do" as her farewell celebrationThe Challenge: Trying something completely new at 40 years old and embracing the discomfortThe Discovery: Not only did she love pottery, but she was actually really good at itThe Transformation: Five years of pottery practice led to a fundamental mindset shift about trying new thingsHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What if doing something just to prove you can is reason enough?In this Summer Short, Ryan shares the story of how — with no grand plan, no spiritual quest, and no real justification — he decided to walk the Camino de Santiago, a 500-mile pilgrimage across Spain.What started as a personal challenge turned into something bigger: a lesson in trust, a practice of presence, and an invitation to stop needing a reason for everything we do.Together, Ryan and Vic reflect on:The difference between expectations and expectancyWhy “I want to see if I can” might be a good enough reasonHow following curiosity can open doors to a more aligned lifeThis one’s for anyone who’s ever felt the pull to try something bold, even if it doesn’t make sense on paper.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!How a 65-foot evergreen helped us break the rules—and make the right choice.In this Summer Short, Ryan shares a personal story about buying a house that broke every rule on their must-have list—except one. It was the only home that made them feel something.At the center of this decision? A towering evergreen tree, a surprising emotional compass, and the lesson that sometimes the best choices don’t check the boxes—they shift your perspective entirely.You’ll hear how:An emotional goal shaped a major life decisionA backyard tree changed everythingLetting go of “shoulds” led to a sense of peace, creativity, and connectionPlus, Vic and Ryan offer a coaching reflection on how naming the feeling you want can unlock better choices—not just in home buying, but in life.🎧 Listen in if you’ve ever faced a big decision and wondered: Am I choosing what’s right… or what just looks good on paper?Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Vic and Ryan explore how a little bit of woo woo goes a long way. In this Summer Shorts episode Vic talks about how she uses her tarot deck to answer questions and provide guidance on current questions. This episode highlights how tools like tarot can offer new perspectives and validation. Emphasizing the importance of intentional questions and open-mindedness, the episode encourages listeners to seek different sources of information to gain clarity and empowerment in their lives.Listen in for a story, a questions and a bit of woo woo.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What if the life you want is just one small step away?In this short summer episode, Vic tells the story of a single pistol squat that changed her perspective—not just on movement, but on what’s possible when we stop saying “I can’t.”Over two years of slow, steady work led to a breakthrough moment at the gym. But this story isn’t about fitness. It’s about fear, trust, and how our smallest choices can become catalysts for bigger change.Ryan and Vic unpack the deeper message behind this milestone—why waiting for motivation doesn’t work, what happens when we try instead of assume, and how momentum is built one brave act at a time.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!What happens when your body panics, your brain spirals, and your self-talk turns unkind?In this Summer Short, Vic shares a vulnerable (and yes, a little traumatic) story about a failed MRI attempt that led to an unexpected but powerful reflection on the stories we tell ourselves when things don’t go as planned. What begins as a medical mishap turns into a conversation about shame, self-advocacy, and reframing hard moments with compassion.Together, Vic and Ryan unpack:Why our default narrative in a tough moment is often self-blameWhat might shift when we slow down and question that storyHow reframing gives us back our power—without pretending things didn’t hurtHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!This episode is part of Vic and Ryan's Go Coach Yourself! Summer Shorts Series: shorter episodes with off the cuff conversations, where they share a personal story, unpack it and then share their learnings.In this Summer Short episode Ryan shares how going through Ignite The Spark created an opportunity for him to think bigger: about his goals, his career, and ultimately, his life. Spend the next 12 minutes with Ryan and Vic to get a summer dose of Go Coach Yourself!Want to take part in Ignite the Spark? Ryan runs the program for indivudals looking to understand themselves more deeply and uncover what they want. Find out more here.Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!This episode is part of Vic and Ryan's Go Coach Yourself! Summer Shorts Series: shorter episodes with off the cuff conversations, where they share a personal story, unpack it and then share their learnings.In this Summer Short episode Ryan shares how his progression from bird watching to bird noticing sparked a ripple effect involving $624 of peanuts, a board game and more meaningful moments.Spend the next 13 minutes with them to get a summer dose of Go Coach Yourself!Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, hosts Vic and Ryan discuss the concept of the emotional bank account, coined by Stephen Covey in 'The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People' and further explored by John and Julie Gottman. The metaphor illustrates how trust in relationships is built through positive interactions (deposits) and can be diminished by negative ones (withdrawals). They emphasize the importance of everyday small acts of kindness and caution against behaviors that erode trust. The episode offers practical advice on maintaining healthy emotional bank accounts and the significance of sincere apologies in mending broken trust.Trust: A Conversation about Connection EpisodeThe Loneliness Epidemic: Who Americans Spend Time With Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Leaving a toxic job is hard. But leaving a great job? That’s a whole different kind of hard.In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, Vic and Ryan unpack the uncomfortable truth that sometimes, even good jobs aren’t right jobs. They share their own experiences of walking away from solid roles at Nike—not because of burnout, but because of quiet misalignment.From the subtle signals your body sends, to the deeper questions about values, purpose, and authorship, this conversation dives into what it means to honor your evolving needs—especially when no one else sees the problem.They also share powerful coaching questions, research-backed insights, and three practical tools to help you decide if it’s time to stay, shift, or move on.In this episode:Why misalignment is harder to spot than burnoutThe six signs it might be time to leave (without a crisis)A reframe of loyalty and identity at workWhy “fine” is dangerousPractical coaching questions to find clarityReferences:Harvard Business Review: Six Signs It’s Time to Leave Your JobBetterUp: Meaning and Purpose at WorkPsychology Today: Become the Author of YourselfThis links to the following episodes:Go Coach Yourself! - What if Quitting Isn’t Failure?Go Coach Yourself! - From Autopilot to Agency, Dorothy Chang on Living with IntentionGo Coach Yourself! - What If You Had More Agency Than You Thought?Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!How much agency do you have - and how are you using it?In this episode of 'Go Coach Yourself,' certified coaches Ryan and Vic explore the concept of reclaiming your agency to create the life you desire. They delve into the definitions of autonomy and agency, discuss the psychological theories that emphasize the importance of choice, and share personal stories and examples. They offer actionable tips like reframing your thoughts and practicing small acts of defiance. Listen in as they encourage you to recognize your choices and reclaim control in your lives.Ask yourself - Where do I want to reclaim my agency this week?References:Deci and Ryan - Self-Determination TheoryMartin Seiligmen - Learned HelplessnessHarvard Business Review - The Power of Small WinsHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!This Episode Is About Quitting. Stay With Us.We've all heard it: "Keep calm and carry on." But what if pushing through isn’t always the brave choice?In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, Ryan and Vic explore the cultural obsession with grit—and why staying isn’t always strength. They unpack the psychology of sunk cost fallacy, the fear of regret, and the identity crisis that quitting can spark. Then, they share personal stories of walking away from big dreams and how those decisions led to the lives they actually wanted.You’ll hear about:Why we romanticize perseverance—and why that can hurt usThe difference between quitting and choosing againReal-life examples of bold pivots that paid offCoaching tools to help you decide when it’s time to let goReflection prompts + journal questions included.—References:Psychology Today: Recognizing the sunk cost fallacy may help you cut your lossesHBR: How Susceptible Are You to the Sunk Cost Fallacy?This links to the following episodes:Go Coach Yourself: Why is "What Do You Want?" Such a Tough Question?Hosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of 'Go Coach Yourself,' hosts Vic and Ryan discuss the power of believing that No is a complete sentence.  Through personal stories and anecdotes, they delve into the reasons why we find it hard to say no without guilt or justification. The episode includes a discussion on the societal inclination to people-please, and gives practical tips on prioritizing yourself. At the end it concludes with a challenge to practice saying 'no' for seven days to foster self-care and intentional living.Podcast Episodes MentionedValuesWhy is 'What do you want?' so Hard to Answer?Let's Talk About Our BoundariesHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, we do something a little different—and a lot more personal.We each brought surprise questions the other hadn’t seen. No prep. No polish. Just curiosity. What unfolded? A conversation that deepened our connection, revealed things we hadn’t shared before, and reminded us how powerful it is to ask better questions.Along the way, we explore:How a cinnamon chocolate chip cake led to a revelation about assumptions in long-term relationshipsThe surprising science behind why we stop asking deep questions to those we know bestA power outage, a peaceful plaza, and the small moment Ryan won’t forgetThe early influence of Motown, and why Whitney Houston still gets Vic dancingWhat it means to let go of a belief about success—and what opens up when we doTwo podcast recs you’ll want to add to your queue (spoiler: they're both excellent)We also share three practical tips for using questions to deepen your relationships—and a downloadable list of conversation starters to help you get going.This one’s equal parts thoughtful and joyful. We hope it inspires you to pause, ask, and truly listen.🔁 Try This: Ask one person in your life a question you’ve never asked them before. Start small. Be present. And just listen.Tools:Our Question Collection – Curiosity-driven prompts to use with people in your lifeReferences:Unprocessed by Lia Avellino – The raw and real podcast Vic lovesGood Hang with Amy Poehler – Ryan’s latest podcast obsessionIt Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking | Journal of Personality and Social PsychologyWhen familiarity not novelty motivates information-seeking behaviour | Scientific ReportsThis links to the following episodes: Go Coach Yourself! Mastering the Art of Asking Questions - Meaningful Conversations Series – For a deeper dive into the mechanics of powerful questionsHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!Is it possible that life doesn’t come with instructions... but with a studio?In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, Ryan and Vic explore how creative practices like watercolor, printmaking, mosaics, and ceramics hold powerful metaphors for self-discovery, meaningful connection, and living intentionally.Whether you consider yourself “artistic” or not, this episode invites you to think differently about how you approach identity, values, and growth. Because every time you show up to create, you’re also showing up to life.🧠 Topics we explore:What watercolor teaches us about patience and the discomfort of becomingHow Japanese printmaking reflects values, alignment, and daily choicesWhy mosaics help us integrate sharp edges and discarded parts of our storyWhat ceramics reveal about surrender, presence, and letting goThe science behind creativity, neuroplasticity, and emotional health This isn’t just about creativity. It’s about becoming.ToolsCreative Questions for ReflectionReferences:Drexel University: At Any Skill Level, Making Art Reduces Stress HormonesJames Kaufman’s Four C Model of CreativityHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!This week, we're joined by the brilliant Dorothy Chang — executive coach, DEI designer, and advisor to organizations like Amazon, Stanford, and the Chan Zuckerberg Initiative. Together, we dive deep into what it means to live and lead intentionally, the hidden structures shaping our workplaces, and why making conscious choices is so challenging (and so necessary).We explore:Why most of our decisions happen unconsciously — and how to change that.How intentional leaders think differently about problem-solving and decision-making.The power of the "even-over" framework for making aligned choices.What authenticity really looks like in the workplace (hint: it's more complicated than "just be yourself").How individuals and organizations can better align actions with values.Dorothy also shares a practical thought exercise you can use today to reflect on how well your current life matches your intentions. Trust us: you’ll be thinking about this conversation long after it ends.Resources MentionedDorothy Chang's Even-Over Framework (swipe a copy to use for yourself!)Connect with Dorothy Chang and DYYCHANG ConsultingHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this special episode of Go Coach Yourself! join Vic and Ryan as they discuss a fresh approach to manager development with The Manager Lab.  This episode is a different format to their typical episodes with Ryan interviewing Vic and her sharing insights from leading manager development at Nike, Google, and Amazon. They dive into the critical role of managers in organizations and their impact on employee engagement.Vic introduces 'The Manager Lab,' a comprehensive manager development ecosystem designed to build essential skills and foster a thriving manager community. She brings the ecosystem to life and explains why its powered by 1st90 to turn learning into daily practices and habits.Tune in to discover actionable strategies and data-driven insights to elevate the effectiveness of managers in your organization.Learn more about The Manager LabReach out to Vic to discuss how The Manager Lab can help your team - [email protected]:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, certified coaches Vic and Ryan are joined by special guest Francesca Ranieri from Frank Strategy. Francesca delves into her work  helping organizations discover their X-factor and creating authentic workplaces. She also co-hosts the podcast Your Work Friends and shares her expertise on how to instill intentionality into personal and professional life. The conversation touches on the importance of honesty, making intentional choices, and knowing one's true values. Francesca shares her insights on navigating life's transitions, making small steps towards your passion, and the importance of doing the deep work to truly know oneself. This episode is rich with pragmatic advice and personal anecdotes that encourage listeners to lean into who they really are.ReferencesConnect with Francesca on LinkedinLearn about Frank StrategyListen to Your Work Friends podcastThis links to the following episodes:Go Coach Yourself! - Discover Your Success PatternsHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this dynamic episode of Go Coach Yourself!, certified coaches Vic and Ryan walk through a powerful mini workshop that helps you start uncovering your unique Success Patterns—the traits, behaviors, and actions that show up in your best moments.Through a series of guided reflections—from meaningful objects to energizing life stories—you’ll begin to identify what makes you uniquely you. Along the way, you'll gain insights that boost your confidence, fuel your creativity, and strengthen your sense of connection.Grab a journal, hit play, and follow along as Vic experiences the workshop in real time—so you can too.ResourcesDownload: Discover Your Success Patterns workbookWant to go deeper? Learn more about uncovering your Success Patterns in Ryan’s course, Ignite the Spark.Episodes ReferencedGo Coach Yourself! - Building New PerpsectivesHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, hosts Vic and Ryan dive deep into the concept of trust, exploring its significance in various relationships including personal, professional, and societal. They discuss what it means to trust someone, share their personal perspectives, and review research-based definitions of trust. The episode also covers practical tips for building, deepening, and restoring trust when it's broken. Join us for this insightful conversation aimed at helping you build the incredible life you deserve by mastering the art of trust.HBR Article Frances Frei and Anne MorrisTyree Mitchel on TrustHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself, hosts Vic and Ryan discuss the anxiety of feeling stuck without a life plan and introduce three natural cycles as metaphors for understanding and navigating change: the cycles of gardening seasons, the transformative process of caterpillar metamorphosis, and the ebb and flow of ocean tides. They emphasize the importance of working with natural rhythms, trusting internal processes, and personalizing these metaphors to make decision-making easier during uncertain times. The episode provides practical tips for identifying your phase of change and finding peace in life's transitions.References:Lisa Hunefeld - Soul LabDarren Good, PhDDr Terri Egan, PhD - Sync Up LeadershipThis links to the following episodes: Go Coach Yourself! - Change: How to Embrace Transition, Not DisruptionHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

Let us know what you think about this episode or send us an idea!In this episode of Go Coach Yourself, Ryan and Vic interview Keri Harvey, an NASM certified personal trainer and pain free performance specialist. They discuss Keri's journey from Texas to Brooklyn, her approach to fitness, and how she’s living an intentional life. Keri highlights the importance of focusing on inner strengths over aesthetics and emphasizes resetting often, staying grounded through routines, and the difference between living intentionally and perfectly.You can find Keri on Instagram and she works at Form FitnessBKHosts:Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoachingVic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk