How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Send us Fan MailMaggie O'Kane is a highly-acclaimed, well respected journalists and documentary filmmaker with a career spanning more than four decades. Renowned for fearless investigative reporting, she first established her reputation covering conflicts across Eastern Europe and the Balkans before becoming one of The Guardian's most acclaimed foreign correspondents. Her reporting from the Siege of Sarajevo during the Bosnian War earned widespread praise for its vivid, compassionate storytelling and won her numerous journalism awards, including UK Journalist of the Year and the Amnesty International Media Award. After moving into documentary filmmaking, O'Kane became Editorial Director of Guardian Films, producing award-winning investigations into war crimes, human rights abuses, violence against women and global injustice. Her films have appeared on British and international broadcasters and have been recognised for combining rigorous journalism with powerful human stories. In recent years, Maggie O'Kane has devoted much of her work to ending Female Genital Mutilation (FGM). She helped lead The Guardian's groundbreaking global campaign against FGM, using journalism not simply to report the issue but to amplify the voices of survivors and frontline campaigners. The initiative highlighted the experiences of women and girls across Africa, the Middle East and migrant communities worldwide, bringing international attention to the issue through documentaries, investigations and public campaigns. Today she serves as Executive Director and co-founder of the Global Media Campaign to End FGM and is also Executive Director of Frontline Ending FGM. Working alongside grassroots organisations across multiple African countries, she champions locally led solutions, supports survivor networks, develops media campaigns and helps strengthen systems that protect girls at risk. Her approach has been widely recognised for placing affected communities, rather than outside organisations, at the centre of efforts to eradicate FGM. Throughout her career, Maggie O'Kane has demonstrated how journalism can do more than inform. By exposing injustice, giving a platform to survivors and helping drive international action, she has shown the powerful role investigative reporting can play in advancing human rights. Her work on FGM stands as one of the most significant examples of journalism being used as a catalyst for lasting social change.Her list of professional accolades, and what she pioneers now.Her backstory and how it all began.Her story of being a "refugee from Belfast"A meaningful coincidence.The most dramatic situations she has been in.How she felt invincible.Why she was familiar with ethnic cleansing from her childhood, so could see through the lies in Yugoslavia.The most terrifying experience of her life.Why she should not have gone back to Belfast, but did 5 years later with her family.The miscarriages she had (5).Her dinner with Peter Mandelson.Her experience with Nelson Mandela.Her experience at a Buddhist retreat.An exclusive and deeply honest reveal.Her incredible work in the FGM world....and what needs to change...But how they are passionately campaigning with a beautiful, celebratory campaign.New laws being passed (albeit slowly)www.globalmediacampaign.org Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailDr Susannah Self is a British composer, conductor and former mezzo soprano whose work spans opera, orchestral music and choral composition. She is a highly successful woman in what is predominantly a man's world. Her compositions garner international acclaim.After an international singing career of more than 25 years, she turned her focus to composition, earning both an MPhil from the University of Cambridge and a PhD in Composition from Birmingham Conservatoire. She originally trained at the Royal College of Music, where she studied singing, composition and conducting, and also received scholarships from the Royal Society of Arts and the Banff Centre in Canada, where she worked with the pioneering composer John Cage. Self has composed four operas, including The Butt, based on Will Self's novel and premiered at the Musiktheatertage Festival in Vienna, and Quilt Song, first performed in Birmingham in 2018. Her orchestral catalogue includes four symphonies, two of which have been recorded by the Moravian Philharmonic Orchestra. Her music has been commissioned by organisations including the Arts Council England, Birmingham Opera Company, Birmingham Contemporary Music Group and the Spitalfields Festival, and is published by Composers Edition. Alongside her composing, Dr Self teaches at Junior Guildhall and has conducted numerous operatic productions. As a performer, she appeared with leading opera companies across Europe, including the Royal Opera House, Glyndebourne, Opera North and the Vlaamse Opera, singing a wide repertoire from Mozart and Britten to Philip Glass and contemporary works. Today, she continues to combine composition, conducting and education while championing new music and opera.Key points of the episode:Her life, composing and life in a man's world.Is her world as glamourous as it looks?How she was originally advised to be an opera singer and why.How employment differs in the UK and Europe and the best way to succeed.What she was like as a little 3 year old girlHow women composers were discouraged.The flow state of composing.The therapy she went through - Jungian style.The delicious response her therapist had to her doubts.Her amazing relationship with her "perfect match" partnerHow composers earn money (at the top)....and not.Conducter - or poet?How she makes a living- the same as the greats..Her sense of and interest in spirituality, but not religion as such.How brave you have to be- self daringWhat she would say to her 3 year old self.See her on her publishers websitesComposers Edition << UKUniversal Edition << ViennaSubstackNext Performances - (Facebook)You TubeSoundcloud (ad free) Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailKathryn Flett is one of Britain's best known journalists, critics and memoirists. In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Kathryn discusses the unimaginable loss of her son Jackson and the long, complex journey through grief that followed. With extraordinary openness, she explores the many different shades of grief experienced by everyone involved, why she initially believed the police officer at her door was "talking nonsense", and why real life bore little resemblance to television, right down to there being just one police officer delivering the devastating news.She speaks candidly about the level of demonstrative love she found herself needing, the well-meaning but often "wrong" ways people responded, and the painful "reconfiguration of the address book" as friendships and relationships changed forever.She also recounts the emotional impact of the inquest, the unexpected shock that followed, and the slow, tentative process of re-entering the world through what she describes as "baby steps". It is an honest, compassionate and ultimately hopeful conversation about surviving the unsurvivable, finding a way forward, and learning to live alongside grief rather than trying to outrun it.Kathryn reflects on the role of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) therapy in helping her process trauma, why she came to see blame as an unhelpful emotion, and the complicated aftermath that follows a sudden loss. A former editor of Arena magazine and a long-time columnist for The Observer, The Guardian and other national publications, she has built a reputation for combining razor-sharp wit with remarkable emotional honesty. She is currently a Daily Mail's TV critic.Key points of the episode:The tragic story of how she lost her son.The different shades of grief experienced by all concerned.Why, when the police came, she did not immediately realise the seriousness of the situation.How she felt the policeman was "talking nonsense"Her treatment of EMDR- "Eye Movement Desensitiving (and) Reprocessing. Why there was only one police officer at the door (unlike on TV)Why blame she felt was an unhelpful emotion.The complicated aftermath.The level of demonstrative love that she needed.The "Wrong" ways people responded.The "reconfiguration of the address book."The inquest. And then the next shock.The re-entering the world. Baby Steps Check out her TV in the Daily Mail or ...kathrynflett.substack.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailDr Stella Duffy OBE is an existential psychotherapist, award-winning writer, speaker and theatremaker with a career spanning therapy, literature and the arts. Alongside her private practice, she has worked in NHS cancer support, hospice bereavement services and community mental health, helping people navigate life's biggest challenges with warmth, honesty and compassion. Awarded an OBE for Services to the Arts, Stella is also the author of 17 novels, more than 70 short stories and numerous plays. Her doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy focused on the embodied experience of post-menopause, reflecting her passion for exploring what it means to live a rich, authentic and meaningful life. Expect an engaging, thought-provoking evening as Stella shares insights into the human condition, resilience, creativity, and how we can all make better sense of ourselves and the lives we lead.Key Points of the Episode:How she was the first person in her family to finish secondary school!Existential therapy- she practises it- what is it?How she has been in therapy herself 3 times in her life.Her experience with cancer.Her first experience of existential therapy and how she encountered it.Her experience of the self help movement.Her current practise (hint - slowwwwww down!)Why she is such a "doer"Her thoughts on education and its privilege.Her thoughts and statistics on menopause and the importance of supporting women. (an old school view but still very relevant) The problem with current cultural attitudesWhat was really happening during the hunter/gathering period.Her new book.Sexuality and the freedom after menopause.The benefits of an existential outlook on life.A motivational message. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLuke Jennings is the bestselling author and journalist whose self-published Villanelle novellas became the global phenomenon Killing Eve.Originally released as a series of Kindle Singles, Jennings' stories introduced readers to the brilliant and terrifying assassin Villanelle and the intelligence officer obsessed with tracking her down, Eve Polastri. The books quickly attracted attention and were adapted for television by acclaimed writer and creator Phoebe Waller-Bridge. What followed was one of the most successful British television dramas of recent years.Starring Jodie Comer and Sandra Oh, Killing Eve became a worldwide hit, winning major awards and earning a devoted international following. Jennings has described the experience of watching his creation evolve from a self-published passion project into a cultural phenomenon as both surreal and deeply rewarding.His latest book is Killing Eve: Medusa available now - yes Oksana and Eve live on....Long before Villanelle arrived on our screens, Luke had established himself as one of Britain's most respected journalists and critics. He wrote for The Observer, Vanity Fair and The New Yorker, developing a reputation for sharp observation, stylish prose and a fascination with extraordinary people and hidden worlds.His novels include the Booker Prize-nominated Atlantic, as well as a wide range of fiction and non-fiction exploring subjects as varied as espionage, performance, identity, adventure and human obsession. Alongside his writing, he has also been recognised as one of Britain's leading dance critics - having trained as a ballet dancer - bringing the same insight and storytelling ability to the arts as he does to fiction.Today, Luke continues to write, with the world of Villanelle still evolving on the page long after the television series ended. His work combines literary craftsmanship with page-turning storytelling, creating characters who are intelligent, flawed, dangerous and unforgettable.From self-publishing a series of short novellas to inspiring one of the most talked-about television dramas of the 21st century, Luke Jennings' career is a reminder that sometimes the biggest stories begin in the most unexpected places.Key Points of the Episode:Why he self published his new book and how it was noticed by the right person and became a global phenomenon.The tricky, clunky part of publishing and how the market is differentSome of the characters in the book (and who they are a bit like in the real world!)The exciting plotliines discussed.The momentum of his success!The best way to do business meetings!Where to find the book.His books are available on Boldwood Books and Amazon Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailSandra Parsons is a British journalist, editor, author, and qualified yoga instructor best known for her wellness and longevity work, including the book Age Less and the “Ageless Method.” Formerly an editor at The Times, Sandra combines personal experience with modern health science to explore ageing, wellbeing, and lifestyle transformation. After overcoming serious health challenges, she developed a practical approach focused on nutrition, movement, rest, and mindset, aiming to help people improve both vitality and longevity. Her incredible biological ageWhat finally pushed her to changeThe research she has studiedThe incredible results of it.Why smoking is still seen as "cool"How she began to look and feel so much better.Why she (for good reasons) felt she had to carry on working despite not feeling good.The amazing - and most importantly doable discoveries from leading edge science.Seriously... easy and doable!The amazing benefits of fibre, and how it can help us.Where to find fibre easily.(Would you believe fibre is in raspberries?)Small changes is the key........and what they lead to.You can find Sandra on InstaOr.. Grab the book! Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailOn this episode, writer and human rights campaigner Sophie Radice talks about many issues that need a deeper conversation; xenophobia, travel vs escape, identity and how she ended up on court after working in the Jungle in Calais.Her latest novel, The Year of Bad Maps, is a deeply personal and politically resonant story inspired by her solo travels across ten countries and her experiences surrounding the Calais refugee camps, being arrested and put on trial. Blending wit, travel writing and contemporary politics, the novel explores themes of migration, motherhood, friendship, ageism and xenophobia, while asking challenging questions about why movement is romanticised for tourists but criminalised for refugees. The book has been praised for tackling difficult political themes with warmth, humour and humanity rather than polemic.She is a British journalist, novelist and human rights campaigner whose work spans literature, politics, journalism and social justice. Over the course of a varied career, she has written for major publications including The Guardian, The Observer, The Independent, Vogue and The Sunday Times, developing a reputation for intelligent, compassionate writing that often explores identity, inequality and the human stories behind political issues. Alongside her journalism, Radice has spent more than two decades working in communications and campaigning roles for organisations focused on refugee rights, women’s rights and humanitarian issues. She has worked on campaigns involving immigration detention, wrongful convictions and violence against women, and has collaborated with NGOs both in the UK and internationally, including projects in Sierra Leone. She currently works with the United Nations Association UK as Head of Campaigns. Radice is also an accomplished novelist. Her debut novel, The Henry Experiment, received critical praise for its sharp psychological insight and was later adapted into a BBC drama. Her writing is known for combining humour, emotional intelligence and social commentary, often examining the tensions between personal freedom, morality and modern society. Key points of the interview:How she wrote her book about her year off from the point of view of her guides.How her adventure was incredible.........but ended up facing a 5 year prison sentence.The easy emotional bonds she forms with people.Reminiscing on some amazing memories.Dealing with peoples distress who are escaping bad situations elsewhere in the world, and being treated badly here.The questionable meetings she had in Goa, and how she was advised not to travel alone.How freeing it was travelling alone.How the wanderlust did not satisfy her.What she learned about herself.The place she visited that was the most challenging and why.Many profound moments.The court case and what she was arrested for.The court case outcomeGet the book here "The Year of Bad Maps" Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailOn this week's How To Have Extraordinary Relationships, I talk to 'Victoria' about what happened when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She generously offered to come on the show for many reasons; one was to help other people who have cancer and also those around them but the other one is to talk about what many people fear; what do you do when you are told you have a major illness that will involve difficult decisions, surgery, chemo, pain etc and you are alone?She is talking to me anonymously so that she can feel free to talk about everything with deep honesty.When she was diagnosed with breast cancer, her world shifted overnight. Without a partner or close support network around her, she faced the long road of treatment largely on her own, navigating hospital appointments, difficult decisions, and the emotional weight that comes with serious illness.Through surgery, treatment, and recovery, Victoria showed extraordinary courage. She learned to advocate for herself, to sit with uncertainty, and to find moments of light even in the hardest days. Her journey was not just about surviving illness, but about rediscovering her own strength and independence.However it is also about how do you cope when there is no one there for you? It led Victoria to ask herself some various and serious questions; why did she not feel able to ask for help? Why did people not step up for her?She came home, finally, after the end of reconstructive surgery, rounds of gruelling chemo, many night spent tried and alone - there was no party for her, no balloons, nothing (unlike many of the other patients she had met along the way)This led her to take a long, hard, uncomfortable look at herself.....Today, Victoria’s story is one of perseverance and quiet bravery, offering hope to others who may feel alone in their own battles.But it is also a story of how we need people and find the courage to be vulnerable so that people CAN help usKey points of the episode:How the fact that she was alone (but with a full life) and how that became a key part of the story.How deep down she did want to meet someone, but it was not her priority.How she did not think in any way she was a candidate to getting cancer.How she was getting shooting pains in her breast which was not a typical symptom of cancer.The unpleasant tests, and the shock of the diagnosis.How the mammogram originally came up clear.The very invasive operation she had.....Why the word cancer was understandably emotive for her.How she handled most of it aloneHow she has learned that the path is not linear.How she processed her emotions.How she could not plan (which is out of character) as the treatment path is not linear.The financial difficulties she experienced.The ongoing treatment she neededHow brilliant the medical team was- physically, but mental healthcare is needed.How she felt about future physical intimacy.Her life now, and what she is about. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailMelissa Jones is a British novelist, journalist and non-fiction writer known for her intelligent, psychologically rich storytelling. Born in London and educated at Oxford, she began her career in television and journalism before turning to fiction. Her novels often explore complex emotional landscapes and moral ambiguity, with notable works including Cold in Earth, Sick at Heart, and The Hidden Heart of Emily Hudson. Jones has built a reputation for elegant prose and dark, compelling narratives that linger like a half-remembered dream… the kind that taps you on the shoulder at 3am and says, “We’re not done yet.”About Her New Book: Gone For A SoldierPublished in 2026, Gone For A Soldier is a gripping psychological mystery that dives headfirst into the slippery nature of truth and trust. The story follows Maddie, a former writer turned teacher, who claims she has killed a man… except there’s no body, no record of the victim, and possibly no truth in anything she’s been told. As reality begins to wobble like a dodgy pub table, the novel explores deception, identity, and how easily we can hand our sanity over to the wrong person. Dark, unsettling, and quietly explosive, it’s less “whodunnit” and more “what on earth is going on here?” — a psychological maze where every answer raises a more troubling question.Key points of the episode:An elevator speech for her own book.How close it is to her autobiography!A discourse on the writing style and how hard is it to create.Female intuition and how it starts early.How long the book took and why.How the novel covers dangerous relationships and the patterns behind them.A highly original take on a launchThe unexpected joy of teaching.How writing is in the family.How you can get the book.Get in touch:  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailA woman in love. A devastating break-up and heartbreak.And a dog that in his own naughty way kind of saved the day....Sophia Money-Coutts is a British journalist, columnist, and bestselling author known for her witty, modern takes on relationships, manners, and contemporary life. Born in 1985 into the historic Money-Coutts banking family, she was educated at the London School of Economics, where she studied History. She began her career in journalism, working for publications including the Evening Standard, Daily Mail, and Tatler, where she spent several years as Features Director, immersing herself in Britain’s high society.  She has since become a prominent columnist, writing regularly for The Daily Telegraph and contributing to a range of international outlets, as well as appearing on TV and radio. Alongside her journalism, Money-Coutts is a successful novelist, credited with helping revive the modern romantic comedy genre. Her books include The Plus One, What Happens Now?, The Wish List, Did You Miss Me?, Looking Out for Love, and The Right Place, as well as the memoir The Year of the Dog.  Her writing is known for its humour, sharp observation, and candid exploration of dating, friendship, and modern adulthood.With a distinctive voice that blends wit with self-aware charm, Sophia Money-Coutts has carved out a niche as both a social commentator and storyteller, bringing a light, irreverent touch to the realities of contemporary life.Key Points of the Episode:How she was abruptly left "holding the puppy" in a relationship.How she began to wonder what was wrong with her.Dennis (the dog) and his regular escapades.Why Dennis actually helped her at a critical time (in hindsight)The big romantic road trip (with Dennis)How she is a blend of conventional and unconventional.Check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sophiamcoutts/And Substack: https://sophiamoneycoutts.substack.com/And for ger books Google "Amazon Sophia Money-Coutts"Key points of the episode:Her book "The Year of the Dog"The kind of dog she has and his personality.How she met Mike and fell in love - in the setting of Crystal Palace.Her work as a successful journalist and author.How she felt that parenthood and marriage would not happen to her.Why she realised that in hindsight (after therapy) the relationship would not have worked.How she is very happy now "bumbling around" with her dog.Some of the naughty behaviours that Parsons Terriers are know for..How she focusses on humour in her journalism.Check her out:www.instagram.com/sophiamcouttshttps://sophiamoneycoutts.substack.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailDr Lucy Pollock is a British consultant geriatrician celebrated for her clear-eyed, compassionate approach to ageing and end-of-life care. With decades of experience in the NHS, she has guided countless patients and families through the often complex, emotional decisions that come with growing older.She is the author of The Book About Getting Older, a candid and reassuring guide that demystifies later life, and The Golden Rule, in which she explores the ethical and human dilemmas of modern medicine with warmth, wisdom, and honesty. Across both books, Dr Pollock challenges the idea that medicine should always prolong life at any cost, instead championing dignity, autonomy, and meaningful conversations about what really matters.Respected for her humanity as much as her expertise, she has become a trusted voice in reshaping how we think about ageing, care, and the choices that define a good life.Key Points of the Episode:A summary of her two successful books and how they came about.Her manifesto for change and better care for the elderly.The shocking statistic on medication and its problems.The key traits of great geriatric carers."Upward Helicopter" care and the issues with it.The mistakes some doctors make. (from a place of love)Her short experience as a surgeon.The game changing advice that sealed her professional direction.Her experience of a "normal" childhood in Ireland.Her thoughts of AI in medicine.How we are not quite as good at longevity as we thought we are.The history of elderly care since WW2.The sad case of waste in healthcare.Her thoughts on preventative medicine.What elderly people have learned about life.Her fascinating thoughts on assisted dying.....and her thoughts on unassisted dying.Links to her two books here:The Book of Getting OlderThe Golden Rule Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailVinnie Tortorich is an American fitness expert, author, and podcast host known for his no-nonsense approach to health and weight loss. A former elite endurance athlete and Hollywood trainer, he has spent decades helping clients transform their bodies through his “NSNG” (No Sugar, No Grains) lifestyle.He is the author of Fitness Confidential and host of the long-running Fitness Confidential Podcast, where he blends practical advice with straight-talking honesty. Vinnie’s philosophy is simple: cut the sugar, ditch the grains, and take responsibility for your health.Key points of the episode:His odd strategy for book success!The protocol of working with Hollywood celebrities.How he is not angry with people but angry on their behalf!Myths busted.A surprising analogy for weight loss.Why some foods fill you up and some don't.Why vegans get very upset with him.Why modern day food is addictive.The strange objection from most people given modern day time saving devices.The crazy average time per day we spend looking at our phones.His thoughts on intermittent fasting - the good and bad way to do it.Why being on Oprah was a low point!The real reason he does all this. It's poignant.The side effects of weight loss jabs.Reach out for more information here:www.vinnietortorich.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailDr Sian Williams is a Welsh journalist, broadcaster, and Chartered Counselling Psychologist, best known for her long career in British television and radio. She spent over a decade as a presenter on BBC Breakfast and later became the lead anchor of Channel 5 News, building a reputation as one of the UK’s most trusted news faces. Alongside her broadcasting career, she retrained in psychology, earning a doctorate in Counselling Psychology and working within the NHS and private practice to support people dealing with trauma, stress, and anxiety. Her latest book is The Sunday Times Best Seller, The Power of Anxiety: How to Ride the Worry Wave. It’s a practical book about living well with anxiety, recognising and nurturing our unique and powerful sensitivity and learning to understand how anxiety can work for and against us. Because as Jon Kabat Zinn says - we can’t stop the waves but we can learn to surf. Praise for the book:‘As a champion catastrophizer, I can confirm that this book is a godsend’ Dawn French‘A must read and a great companion’ Zoe Ball‘Terrific... If I could eat a book it would be this one’ Derren Brown‘A wise, warm, compassionate guide to living well with anxiety’ Emma Freud‘A chill pill in book form’ Kathy LetteDr Sian now combines both worlds, presenting programmes such as BBC Radio 4’s Life Changing while also writing and speaking on mental health. A rare hybrid of newsroom calm and therapy-room empathy, she’s essentially someone who’s spent a lifetime telling stories… and now helps people rewrite their own.How we all live with anxiety to some degree.How (particularly since Covid) it has been easier to withdraw.The amygdalae and how they operate in the body.Three different types of people and their optimal environments.How self silencing will ultimately damage us.A beautiful thought for the next generation.A story about a drummer in a famous band.How shame and blame have no place in self care and mental health.Why she cut back on the TV work after retraining and the healthy mix she has now.Her breast cancer journey (spoiler alert, happy ending)The 3 C's and their importance.To hear Sian on the radio google "Sian Williams Radio 3, and Sian Williams Radio 4"Her book is available here Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailJessica Pratezina is a coach and speaker who helps people reconnect with their confidence, identity, and sense of freedom. After leaving a strict religious upbringing, she embarked on a deeply personal journey of self-discovery—reclaiming her voice, her autonomy, and her relationship with her own sexuality.Today, Jessica works with clients to break free from limiting beliefs, challenge ingrained narratives, and step into a more authentic, empowered version of themselves—with honesty, warmth, and a refreshing sense of realness.Key points of the episode:What is was like growing up in a "high demand religious group"How traditional Christian groups would not have accepted them as "Christian"....and how they thought they had the "only" truth.The stress of being "different""Benevolent sexism"- and purity culture - and how it hides behind virtue.Her lucky move into Christianity, and why she left it - and her job.The kind of relationships that are fun and desirable to her now.Her dating experiences. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailPhilippe Tahon is a London-based psychotherapist, coach, and author who specialises in transforming people’s relationship with food, body image, and self-worth. Originally from Belgium, Philippe made a bold career shift from running restaurants to becoming one of Europe’s most sought-after therapists, following his own deeply personal journey with weight and self-image. With over two decades of experience, he’s developed a unique, psychology-led approach to weight loss that goes far beyond diets—helping clients address the emotional patterns behind their habits and create lasting change. As the author of Shrink: The Diet for the Mind and host of “Shrink: The Podcast for the Mind,” Philippe blends insight, honesty, and compassion to challenge conventional thinking and help people feel better not just in their bodies—but in their lives. Key points of the episode:The most common problem his clients are experiencing.When he thinks it all began.How he helps people with their anxieties. (Small things)Looking for safety and comfort in all the wrong places.Why is it so important to know the answer to "Who Am I?"His thoughts on AI.Should we play so safe?Reach out online :www.philippetahon.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailJennie Young returns to the podcast for a second time. Jennie is a professor of rhetoric, writer and cultural critic known for her sharp, witty take on modern dating and communication. She’s the creator of the “Burned Haystack Dating Method,” a bold approach that helps people cut through the chaos of dating apps by recognising the hidden signals in language and behaviour. She’s also the author of the new book Burn the Haystack, which turns that method into a smart, practical guide for navigating dating, spotting manipulation, and trusting your instincts in the modern relationship jungle.Key points of the episode:The new book and it's release date in the UK.How the book came about.How her academic specialism lends itself beautifully to dating."Rhetorical patterns", what are they?The definition of "drama" - the correct one.How she became mystified, confused and eventually angry on the dating apps.How all the apps are "gameified"Her "rules" in Burned Haystack - and why.The common dating patterns to avoid and how they are broken down in the book.An example......Partner in crime? Yay? Nay?Walk and a pint in the pub... acceptable?It's a numbers game... is it?Her own experience with her own method."Thinslicing"- what it is.Her coping mechanism for criticism.You can find the Facebook group here. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLouise Chunn is a British journalist, author and former magazine editor best known for her influential career in women’s media. She served as editor of Cosmopolitan UK during the late 1990s, helping shape the magazine’s modern voice around careers, relationships and independence for young women.After leaving mainstream publishing, Chunn founded Welldoing, a platform connecting people with therapists and promoting accessible mental-health support. She has also written several books exploring midlife, identity and modern womanhood, including Welcome to the Jungle, which examines how women navigate the opportunities and challenges of midlife.Today, Chunn is a writer, speaker and advocate for mental health and positive ageing, known for combining sharp journalism with thoughtful commentary on life beyond the traditional career and life milestones.Key points of the episode:Welldoing. What is it?The biggest change therapy underwent and when.What clients are wanting more and more of at the moment.How working life can be amazing, and sometimes can be too much.A new attitude from young people towards work.Her thoughts on later working life and some ideas of great things to do.Her trip to Silicon Valley, and what it taught her.The astounding amount of people that have found a therapist through Welldoing.Some musings on the future.Reach out to learn more on Welldoing.You Tube Channel Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailEvelyn Scott is based in Surrey, UK and works as an academic and women’s health advocate. She has described enduring painful periods and debilitating symptoms since her teens, yet for many years was told such pain was “normal”. She was finally diagnosed with severe endometriosis around age 30. Her diagnosis came after roughly 15 years of mis- or under-diagnosis and medical dismissal of her symptoms. Advocacy, writing & missionEvelyn is the author of A Bloody Scandal, which explores gynaecological disease, the medical treatment of women’s pain, and systemic failures in women’s health care.She appears in media outlets (e.g., the UK press, podcasts) to speak about endometriosis and the lived experience of chronic gynaecological conditions.Her mission is to challenge the narrative that severe period pain is “just something women have to deal with”, and to improve recognition, diagnosis and support for endometriosis sufferers.Why she’s notableEndometriosis affects around 1 in 10 women of reproductive age, and its diagnosis is often delayed. Evelyn’s story puts a human face on the issue.By combining her personal experience, academic background and advocacy, she helps raise awareness about the intersection of pain, gender, and medicine.Her forthcoming book and media presence make her a voice of change in women's health.Key message & takeawayIf you’re experiencing severe period pain, it might not be “normal” — as Evelyn emphasises: persistent pain, repeated crises, or life-limiting symptoms deserve investigation.Endometriosis is not just physical pain — it often impacts mental health, work, relationships and daily life. Evelyn’s journey reflects that broader impact.Raising awareness -changing medical and societal attitudes is essential — Evelyn’s advocacy reminds us of that. Book SummaryThe book is described by its publisher as:“A blistering and explosive investigation into modern day gynaecological neglect and medical misogyny.” Endometriosis Fact- it affects 10% of women. How it suffers from being a “Womens Health Issue”The narrative that “To be a woman is to feel pain”The rebuffs she got from doctors and the frustration it causesThe failings of current sex education.How the pill is not an effective treatmentHer list of symptoms.The lack of research into the histology of the diseaseHow she got diagnosed.Her difficult healing processWhy the traditional treatment does not appeal to many.How Spain is more understanding about issues like thisHow she began to think she was the problem.How she would be hard on herself, but recognises now the value of self care and support.     Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailAnnalisa Barbieri is a British journalist, columnist, and podcaster best known for her long-running Guardian Saturday magazine advice column, where she offers thoughtful, compassionate responses to readers’ personal dilemmas. Known for her warmth, wit, and insight, Barbieri’s writing explores the complexities of family life, relationships, and emotional wellbeing with honesty and humanity.Alongside her advice work, she was for many years the Observer’s “Chocolate Correspondent,” writing engagingly about the craft, ethics, and culture of chocolate. She also hosts the podcast Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri, in which she interviews psychologists, therapists, and subject experts on topics ranging from communication and boundaries to grief and resilience.Annalisa is widely admired for her ability to combine empathy with clarity, helping readers and listeners make sense of life’s emotional puzzles. More of her work can be found on her website, annalisabarbieri.com , and on her podcast platforms.How she likes childrenTime “Ins” rather then “Time Outs”How she discarded the aspects of her own parenting to create her ownHow she has a completely rehashed version of parentingWhy women take the blame for a lot of things in the pastHow it’s never too late to say sorry. And how healing it can be.APPROPRIATE behaviour not obedienceWhy restricting social media access was one of the best things she did for her kidsWhy its necessary to be careful how to talk to children if we want them to know and trust themselves.What her children have taught her.You can see more in.. Guardian Column- Weekend SupplementAnd also from wherever you get your podcasts - search “Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri”  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailViv Groskop is an award-winning writer, broadcaster and stand-up comedian, best known for blending sharp wit with smart cultural insight. She is the author of the bestselling books How to Own the Room and Lift As You Climb, which explore confidence, communication and female leadership through the lens of performance and storytelling.A familiar voice on BBC Radio 4 and a regular contributor to major publications, Viv brings comedy, feminism and fearless honesty together in a way that makes big ideas feel brilliantly human. Whether she’s on stage, on air or on the page, she champions women finding their voice and owning it unapologetically.Key points of the episode:Her definition of an extraordinary relationship.How there are so many varieties of public speaking, and the many things people benefit from and relate to it.How even the most confident people have their "moments"How "ego" gets in the way.How Michelle Obama was the inspiration and momentum for her first book!Michelle Obamas fascinating journey.Why Viv decided to become a stand up comedian....The craft of stand up comedy.The art of not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less!Her experience of interviewing Hilary Clinton.The genius definition of "Happy High Status"Her own measures of success.How to use her teachings from a perspective of self nourishment.Can connection be achieved in a different language?See her on Instagram here: www.instagram.com/vivgroskopJoin her weekly newsletter here: https://vivgroskop.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLucy Sewill is a British portrait and editorial photographer whose work bridges celebrity portraiture, equine imagery, and deeply personal visual storytelling.    Early Life & Health StrugglesLucy was born prematurely, spending early life in an incubator. At age 12, she suffered a serious heart infection and a stroke, which caused months of hospitalization and required her to re-learn how to walk. Over the years she experienced repeated health challenges that remained unexplained until later in life. Photography CareerSewill’s artistic voice is rooted in honest, relational portraiture—she aims to reveal something true about her subjects.  She is particularly known for one-on-one informal portraits of public figures (actors, musicians, broadcasters, politicians) as well as deeply felt projects pairing people with animals.    Her images have been exhibited internationally and she has work in the collection of the National Portrait Gallery (UK).She has also published several books, including Horses & Humans.Another of her interests has been photographing the relationship between people and their pets, such as her Dogs & Their Humans work.   In more recent years, she launched Visible Women, an exhibition and project highlighting representation of women in acting and the entertainment industry.  She also contributes to mentoring, judging, and portfolio reviews for emerging photographers.     Health & Personal LifeAfter years of medical uncertainty, Lucy eventually self-diagnosed (via noticing parallels between her own symptoms and those of a horse she was riding) that she had Cushing’s disease. She underwent pituitary surgery but ended up developing Addison’s disease, requiring lifelong hormone treatment.   Lucy lives in rural England with her family, her horses, and other animals.Horses are a continuing passion and a recurring subject in her work, often serving as a metaphorical or emotional anchor in her visual storytelling. Key points of the episode: How she was photographing famous people and realised only 10 per cent were women and there were only two women out of 30 in British musicians project.How, then she is fighting inequality and invisibility,The relationship she has with her photographic subjects, and why she gravitates towards famous people.How imposter syndrome helped her!Her ongoing health struggles and how her GP described her as "The unluckiest person he knew"How synchroniscitally, she found out she had Cushings disease......and how animals healed her.Want to learn more? www.lucysewill.comInsta: https://www.instagram.com/lucysewill  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailSophie Ziegler is the founder and creative force behind The OTTO Connection, a real-world social community designed to reconnect single people through relaxed, fun, low-pressure events and friendships. After finding traditional dating scenes uninspiring, Sophie launched OTTO in 2022 to build a welcoming space where being single feels vibrant and where people can expand their lives alongside like-minded friends rather than swiping through apps. Today, OTTO thrives as a growing community that champions genuine connection, shared experiences, and joyful socialising beyond the digital dating treadmill. The Otto project, and why it was set up.Why being single can be a good thing!Later life love. What is it?The 80 year olds that fell in love!The odd pressure to be part of a couple.Why accomodating the baggage is difficult.How we can be sideswiped by our hurt young feelings.Drawing for freedom. What is it?Can we make a decicion to love?Self love and self validation.http://www.theottoconnection.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailA subject that has caught the imagination of the nation.Fat Jabs!A special episode with Sarah Vine and Lucy Cavendish, with role reversal - Sarah interviewing Lucy!A fascinating, relatable and insightful conversation.Hello and welcome to the podcast where we talk honestly about weight loss, body image, and everything that comes with it, emotionally, socially, and psychologically.Two brilliant voices: journalist and author Lucy Cavendish, and columnist and commentator Sarah Vine.Together, we’ll be exploring the realities behind the headlines, from the rise of weight loss injections to the lifelong mental load of being overweight, and what it really means to change your body in a world that never stops having an opinion.This is a conversation about more than pounds and calories. It’s about confidence, shame, freedom, identity… and the complicated journey of feeling at home in yourself.Let’s begin.Key points of the episode:The wrongness of fat shaming, including fat shaming of people on jabs.Lucy's theory on when her weight problem started.How people are put on the pill for virtually every reason, and it's connection to weight loss.How modern fashion does not cater for women with shapes."The only thing you can control"How the root of the problem can have started at a really early age.The revelation from her Dr that led her to the fat jabs.The transformations experienced by both of them.An important message from Lucy about this subject.Possible reasons from an evolutionary point of view.How society has changed, but we haven't.How our bodys hormones are very strong drugs.How partly it was an identity shift for Lucy.Lucy's "Sliding Doors" wonderings, if I had found this earlier, would my life have been better?How being overweight can be a kind of "suit of armour"How Lucy's world changed when her doctor recommended Mounjaro.The Webinar Lucy is doing on this - ATTEND HERE Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailEve Simmons is an award-winning journalist, author, and broadcaster known for making complex topics feel human, practical, and refreshingly honest. As co-author of What to Do When Life Fcks Up*, she draws on years of reporting on health, psychology, and wellbeing to offer clear-eyed guidance for navigating life’s messier moments. Alongside her writing, Eve is a familiar media voice, regularly contributing expert insight on mental health and resilience, with a style that blends compassion, credibility, and straight-talk reassurance. Key points of the episode:The book and how it came about.How she lost everything in the space of 2 months.The overwhelming amount of women that had had the same experience.A phenomenon that divorce lawyers are familiar with.How everything fell apart and she had to rebuild over again.Her spontaneous trip to New York and what it did for her.Her experience with anorexia.The benefits of her experiences and what she does now to help others.Her experience of healing.Her explorations of loads of different ways of being.HINT: Choose one that brings the most joy! Her book: What She Did Next- What to Do When The Life You Planned is F**ked Up CLICK HERETik Tok: www.tiktok.com/@evesimmonsjournoInsta: https://www.instagram.com/eviesimm Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailNick Harding is an award-winning British freelance journalist and feature writer known for his engaging, often personal take on health, lifestyle, relationships, science and well-being topics. He regularly contributes articles to The Telegraph, writing about fitness experiments, ageing, food, and everyday life challenges, mixing evidence-based insight with first-person reflection. His work also appears across other major publications and platforms such as Daily Mail and MSN, and he has bylines on a wide range of subjects from scientific explainers to real-life stories that connect with everyday readers. He explores also the world of dating and relationships from the male perspective often with hilarious results!Key points of the Episode:Why it is percieved as being hard for men in dating."Heretopessimism" - what it is.The way dating websites allow you to filter your preferencesThe 3 inch "Chasm of Lonliness!"How people get sucked into negative extreme views (and how it is unnecessary)How general disaffection can be mistaken for mysogyny.The different "rules" of the dating world today.The main complaint of women about men on dates.The importance of same sex friends.His experiment with "Sharon the AI girlfriend!!"How some people cannot distuinguish between the two worryingly. and a funny story.What it's like being married to an alpha woman!Reach out - Google "Nick Harding Telegraph" Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailKatinka Blackford Newman is a London-based documentary filmmaker, author, journalist, and life coach.  She trained with the BBC and has worked on a variety of high-profile factual programmes for broadcasters such as BBC, Discovery, ITV and Channel 4. In 2012, during a personal crisis connected to divorce and insomnia, she was prescribed an antidepressant which triggered a severe adverse reaction.   The experience nearly cost her life and sparked her deep involvement in exploring medication safety.   After a year of intensive treatment and recovery off all the drugs, she began investigating antidepressant side effects and advocating for greater awareness.   Katinka founded Antidepressant Risks, a platform aimed at giving voice to people affected by psychiatric drug harm, collecting stories, and promoting more informed consent in prescribing. She is also a published author: her book The Pill That Steals Lives recounts her ordeal and research into the risks of psychiatric medications.Her work has been featured in national media and was adapted into a BBC Panorama episode titled “A Prescription for Murder”. Beyond her advocacy and writing, Katinka now also works as a mental fitness life coach, helping professionals manage overwhelm, develop resilience, and reclaim direction in mid-life transitions. Throughout her career, Katinka remains committed to telling human stories with empathy, exposing hidden risks in medicine, and supporting people to find agency over their mental and physical health.Key points of the episode:PART 1How, because of her personal development, she kind of became the "poster girl" for a marriage split up. At first.How she started taking sleeping tablets to cope.How she was given a diagnosis of depression and prescribed anti-depressants.......and how she had a rare toxic shock.....and how her mind went into psychosis.How the medical professionals did not entertain the idea that it was the antidepressants that caused it.How it became so desperate she decided to take her life........and what stopped her.The eventual joyful resolution.How she then used her investigative journalist training to change the course of her career.How the drug companies have known for years about this.The unbelievable information she has found out since...How the book was turned into an episode of Panorama.How she was inundated by people who told her their similar stories.How she set up a charity called "Antidepressant Risks"PART 2How she has this knowledge she can never forget and the responsibility she feels.How the transformation was immediate and extraordinary.How it was almost like a rebirth.How there was a lot going on in her personal sphere.How her children know more about drug side effects than most medics!How she has recognised empowering and disempowering beliefs, and catastrophisation in her thinking.How she is now able to consciously change her thought process, and how fear is no longer in it.  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailSarah Vine is a British journalist and columnist best known for her opinion writing on politics, culture, family life, and social change. Over the course of her career, she has written for major UK publications including the Daily Mail and The Times, establishing herself as a prominent and often polarising voice in British media. Her columns are characterised by a highly personal style, combining political commentary with reflections drawn from her own experiences, relationships, and domestic life.Vine is particularly known for her confessional approach to journalism, frequently using her platform to examine issues such as marriage, motherhood, ageing, and female identity in midlife. She has written openly about personal challenges, including her experience of hair loss, treating it not simply as a cosmetic issue but as part of a broader exploration of vulnerability, self-image, and the pressures placed on women in the public eye. By addressing such subjects candidly, she has contributed to wider conversations about honesty and stigma around women’s health and appearance.Alongside personal themes, Vine’s work often engages directly with contemporary political debates, reflecting her interest in conservatism, culture wars, and the shifting nature of British society. Her writing style is direct, provocative, and unapologetically subjective, attracting both loyal readership and strong criticism. Through this blend of political opinion and personal disclosure, Sarah Vine has carved out a distinctive place in modern British column writing.Key Points of the Episode:How she has suffered hair loss her whole life and thinks she is genetically predisposed to it.The difference between wigs and "interlace" systems.How she wants people to understand the issue better and what women (and men) experience.Why she wanted to talk publically about it.The importance of early intervention in hair loss.The emotional impact of her condition.The effect it had on her relationships.The bad choices she made in relationships.The surprising statistic on the amount of woman that have hair loss.The treatment she is having.The desire to simply look "normal" Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailNarelle Chidwick is the creator behind Instagram’s midlife.reallife, where she champions a “live more with less” philosophy focused on mind, body, food & mood for women navigating mid-life. Based in [location unspecified], she blends honest conversation about ageing, lifestyle change and simplifying life with practical 15-minute tips, everyday wins and an inclusive, no-judgement tone. Her content invites followers to treat transitions — whether physical, emotional or environmental — as invitations rather than obstacles.Her journey also includes turning a personal health wake-up (a diagnosis of Osteoporosis in her 40s) into a mission to educate and empower others about bone-health, nutrition, and strength in later-life. With a loyal Instagram following (over 9,000) and a steady stream of posts, reels and reflections, Narelle has built a community of women who want more from mid-life than just “coasting” — they want clarity, vitality and purpose. Key Points of the Episode:How she burned out and realised the importance of stopping and smelling the roses.How we may well be able to "have it all", but not at the same time, unless big sacrifices can be made.Microhabits and Timehopping and the importance of..."Slowgress" and what it is! Her word of 2025.How we should not trivialise whatever is happening to us.The importance of self focus for sure, but without losing focus on the bigger picture.There is no "right way" or "wrong way, just YOUR way....and the word of 2026!The art of decluttering (including your to-do list)Her osteoperosis.The importance of owning the self in good relationship to others.The "Don't Mind" Narrative and what it is.The social impact she wants to continue to have.The reasons that people come to her and her fascination with neuroscience."Neuralaesthetics"- what?!The most important first step.New Year, New You!@[email protected] Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailA laid back pre-Christmas chat with a brilliantly interesting woman...Vanessa Voegele-Downing is a British fashion professional whose journey in style spans decades and continents. She began her career as an international fashion model, walking catwalks and shooting editorial work for major designers and publications. Her early years took her from London to Paris, where she worked with prestigious fashion houses and photographers, gracing campaigns and editorials around the world.Known affectionately as “Mrs V” on her blog The Model Edit, Vanessa blends her life in fashion with lived-in style advice, beauty wisdom, and lifestyle reflections. On her site she shares tales from photo shoots, trend commentary, and her perspective as someone who has seen the industry evolve firsthand.Beyond fashion, Vanessa is a mother of three daughters and a figure in the contemporary style community. Her influence extends into the wardrobes and creative lives of the next generation, including her daughter Zenobia, who has been recognized as a muse and model in her own right on runways and in style features.With roots in modelling and wings in storytelling, Vanessa Voegele-Downing continues to shape conversations about style, self-expression, and the fashion life lived beyond the catwalk.www.instagram.com/themodeledit Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailSam McAlister is a British journalist, producer, and author best known for her work as the interview booker for BBC Newsnight. Over more than a decade at the BBC, she secured many of the programme’s most high-profile and challenging interviews, including the landmark 2019 interview with Prince Andrew about his association with Jeffrey Epstein.A former criminal defence barrister, McAlister moved into journalism with a talent for negotiation, persistence, and building trust with hard-to-reach guests. Her memoir, Scoops: Behind the Scenes of the BBC’s Most Shocking Interviews, published in 2022, gives a candid account of her experiences securing exclusive interviews and navigating the pressures of broadcast journalism.Today, she works as a speaker, consultant, and media strategist, sharing her insight into journalism, negotiation, and crisis communication.Key points of the episode:How she got the man "Formerly Known As Prince Andrew" onto the Newsnight interview that started somewhat of a chain of events....Where it all started, in the earliest days...How her original home was a very limited world.Her former legal background - how she loved the job, but found it professionally arduous.The sartorial vibe she immediately adopted after she left the bar. (and the unconventional reason why)The good working relationship she had with the actress Billie Piper.The massive career choice and dilemma she faced.The fascinating process of writing her book.Her experience with Elon Musk and Julian Assange.How she is an "experience billionaire"The acid test of the groups she chooses to associate with.Her insistance on professional self promotion.Her life now and how full of awe she is at what she gets to do.What she would say to the little girl (her younger self) on Guernsey.The most important relationship in her life.Check out the book and Netflix series - "Scoop" Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailMonique Roffey (born 1965 in Port of Spain, Trinidad) is a Trinidadian-British writer and memoirist whose work spans novels, essays and literary journalism. She studied English & Film at the University of East Anglia and earned a PhD in Creative Writing from Lancaster University. Her novels often explore themes such as identity, colonial legacy, sexual awakening, otherness, and the relationship between people and place — frequently drawing on her Caribbean heritage. Her notable works include Sun Dog (2002), The White Woman on the Green Bicycle (2009), Archipelago (2012) — which won the OCM Bocas Prize for Caribbean Literature — House of Ashes (2014), The Tryst (2017), and The Mermaid of Black Conch (2020), which won the Costa Book of the Year award. She is also a lecturer in creative writing at Manchester Metropolitan University and is active in supporting emerging writers in Trinidad and the Caribbean. Key points of the episode:Mermaids, and when and why they were dreamed up. Hint- it goes back a long way!How she does not always trust her feelings about her new book.How a small indie publisher took her book, and how she crowdfunded the publicity!Her connection to Trinidad, and its problem with femicide.Her current activism.The "Hey!" Festival she co-created and what it is.Her ongoing journey into Tantra and why she did it.www.moniqueroffey.comInsta: @moniqueroffey Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLucy Easthope - The UK's Number One Disaster Recovery Expert!Easthope is one of the UK’s foremost experts on disaster recovery, emergency planning and the long-term aftermath of major incidents. Among her roles, she has been:Professor-in-Practice of Risk & Hazard at Durham University. Visiting Professor (Mass Fatalities & Pandemics) at the Centre for Death & Society, University of Bath.Research Associate at the Joint Centre for Disaster Research, Massey University in New Zealand. Her work spans the real-world consequences of disasters: implementation of recovery, supporting bereaved families and communities, and critiquing the “recovery myth” (the assumption that communities return to “normal” after a disaster) in her academic writing. Major works & impactIn March 2022 she published her memoir When the Dust Settles: Stories of Love, Loss and Hope from an Expert in Disaster, which brings together her experiences with major incidents (including 9/11, the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami, the 7/7 London bombings, the 2017 Grenfell Tower fire and the COVID-19 pandemic) and reflects on what recovery really means. Her work emphasizes how disasters reshape lives permanently, how response must account for human and social dimensions (not just infrastructure) and how voices of impacted people must be heard. From interviews, she speaks candidly about hope, fragility and the human dimension of her work. For example, she says:“I think one of the things is … just take incredible joy from a moment in the day … My work is one of the greatest privileges … just seeing people being great a lot. So that gives me a lot of hope."Lucy and Lucy dive deep into a fascinating conversation here:Key Points of the Episode:How she got into this line of work.A typical week in her life (it won't be like yours!)How she loves advocacy and social media.How there are more emergency planners than you might think!How some disasters are political.The "Reasonable Worst Case Scenario"How there has been an attitudinal shift towards her work.Her thoughts on Grenfell.How she feels like a "Cassandra" or seen as a "Debbie Downer"How her work has been seen as "foresight", not "hindsight"How children respond and engage differently to crisis, and the different help they need.What she has learned.Mental health maintenance and self care."Fallow" time, and the use of it.How a "slump" is a natural part of healing and it to be expected.The difference between "Hope" and "Hopeium"First response to disasters.Potential disasters people worry about.Reach Out To Lucy On:www.whatevernext.infoInsta: @whenthedustsettleslucy Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailJane Thynne is a British novelist and journalist, best known for her historical fiction set in pre-war and wartime Germany. Born in Venezuela and educated at St Anne’s College, Oxford, she worked as a journalist for publications including The Sunday Times, The Daily Telegraph, and the BBC. Her acclaimed Clara Vine series — beginning with Black Roses (2013) — follows an Anglo-German actress drawn into espionage in 1930s Berlin, blending meticulous historical research with compelling storytelling. Writing also under the pen name C. J. Carey, she is the author of Widowland (2021), an alternative history imagining a Nazi-occupied Britain. Thynne’s novels are praised for their atmospheric detail, strong female protagonists, and exploration of politics, culture, and power in turbulent times. How Nazi women are not often talked about through history.How Magda Goebbels went from being a devoted Zionist to a committed Nazi.Her experience of living in "Widowland", and the experience of her researched "Cemetry Women"Why she stopped being a journalist for a while.The sad loss of her husband.How the experience changed her and the way she thinks.How the "Good Cop/Bad Cop" dynamic then changed with her parenting.Some fascinating WW2 history.The only correct answer to the question, "Why do you want to do this job", when being interviewed for the secret services!Why Herman Goerings brother is commemorated as Righteous Among the Nations.A fascinating example of how one mans infactuation with an actress caused thousands to die and affect world geopolitics.All her books are in good bookshops and AmazonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorJaneThynneInsta: https://www.instagram.com/janethynne_cjcarey Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailAdvantages of Age is a UK-based social enterprise and community platform founded by Rose Rouse and Suzanne Noble. Created to challenge the negative stereotypes surrounding ageing, the initiative celebrates the creativity, vitality, and entrepreneurial spirit of people over 50.Through its online magazine, workshops, and community network, Advantages of Age promotes a positive, empowered view of later life. It highlights stories of reinvention, creative expression, and business innovation, showing that ageing can be a time of growth and opportunity rather than decline.The founders bring a dynamic mix of experience to the project. Rose Rouse, a journalist, writer, and poet, has written extensively for The Guardian, The Independent and others, often exploring themes of identity, community, and social change. Suzanne Noble, an entrepreneur and jazz singer, co-founded the app Frugl and later created Startup School for Seniors, helping over-50s develop new business ventures.Together, they’ve built Advantages of Age into a movement that celebrates wisdom, creativity, and resilience—encouraging people to live fully, regardless of age.Key Points of the Episode:How it all began auspiciously in a hot tub.A feast from "Death World"Facebook Live Sessions - live from the hot tub - "Mini Salons!"The enjoyment of connecting people.The problem solving in the community they have created.The negative aspects of aging....and the positive aspects.Sex advice for mature people- and the success of a random Facebook page.How it became a massive podcast that now attracts worldwide experts.The joy of people finding their tribe.The balance of age being significant - with life experience, but not letting it define you.Some things on their bucket lists...The book, "Sex, Death and Inspiring Stories" - available on Amazon.What they would say to their younger selves.Reach out and learn more herehttps://advantagesofageawards.comhttps://suzannenoble.co.ukhttps://presenterly.com/profile/suzanne-noblehttps://www.roserouse.co.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailHannah Betts is an award-winning feature writer, interviewer and columnist across a range of subjects for an array of British newspapers and magazines, principally The Times and The Telegraph. She has been a journalist for almost three decades.After a career as a junior Oxford academic, Betts spent nine years at The Times, writing and editing in a number of guises, including op-ed columnist and Deputy Chief Leader Writer. She went freelance in 2007. Betts’s interests cover all aspects of the zeitgeist: not least, feminism, social and sexual mores, mental health, fashion, royalty, the arts, literature and history.Since July 2021, she has written a popular weekly column for The Daily Mail entitled: “Better…Not Younger”. She is also Senior Contributing Beauty Editor for UK Harper's Bazaar, and has consulted widely in this field. Perfume is her particular passion and expertise.She pens a monthly style column for The Critic, writes internationally for Air Mail, and is a frequent radio and documentary guest.Her interview subjects include Margaret Atwood, Taylor Swift, Jean-Paul Gaultier, Jean-Paul Guerlain and Mona Hatoum. For journalistic purposes, she has played the part of Scarlett O’Hara, Marie Antoinette, a Victorian servant, lighthouse-keeper, dairy farmer, Arctic explorer, red-carpet celebrity, naked diner and ferret handler.In 2019, Hannah Betts was awarded a President’s Medal by the Royal College of Psychiatrists for improving the lives of people with mental illness through her journalism. She is a respected voice on the subjects of depression, sobriety and relationships.Betts is a Londoner with a penchant for blue whippets. Her favourite periods are the 1590s and the 1180s BC.Key Points of the Episode:Her mental health medal and her writings on mental healthHer atheism and her thoughts on it.Why people judged her on writing about depression and the magic of "Dr. Journalism"Why she is a "Born Again Snowflake"!Her famous dog "Pimlico"Why nice woman and gay men are her people!Why her mother stopped talking to her and why.Her thoughts on self love and her therapy.How her and all her four siblings had radically different childhoods.Why there is no "wrong way" to grieve.Her ghost podcast "Uncanny" and her story.The horiffic death of her father.Why she laughed when a Dr. gave her bad news.What she does believe in even though she does not believe in God.Where to find this fascinating lady online.Her podcast links:Ghostshttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0012pcb  Drinkhttps://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1501716010?i=1000672152841  Troyhttps://www.theoldie.co.uk/podcasts/troy-the-cradle-of-a-thousand-heroes-and-heroines [email protected] on hannahbetts.substack.com Follow Hannah Betts on X & Instagram: @HannahJBetts Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailJo Elvin is an Australian-born journalist and editor best known for her influential role as the founding editor of the British edition of Glamour magazine. Born in Sydney, Elvin began her career in journalism in Australia, working for publications such as TV Week and Cleo. She later moved to London, where she established herself in the UK media industry.In 2001, Elvin launched Glamour UK, pioneering the concept of the “handbag-sized” glossy magazine. Under her leadership, Glamour became the UK's best-selling women's magazine, known for its accessible tone, celebrity features, and focus on modern women’s lives. Her innovative editorial approach earned her multiple industry awards and cemented her reputation as one of Britain’s most successful magazine editors.After leaving Glamour in 2017, Elvin became the editor of You magazine, the Sunday supplement of The Mail on Sunday. Beyond her editorial work, she is also known for her charity involvement, witty public commentary, and presence on various media panels and podcasts.Elvin remains a respected voice in fashion and lifestyle journalism, admired for her sharp editorial vision and trailblazing influence on women’s media.How angry she was that she was nearly deported, although there was no legal reason for it.How her desire to be a writer was based solely on wanting to meet pop stars.How it was a relief for her to hear pop stars that she looked up to say they hated high school too!How a comment from a comedian boosted her confidence.How magazines helped her feel what she truly wanted to feel.The success of her magazines about feminism post Sex in the City.How she became institutionalised and was scared to leave magazines........and how she finally took the leap.How she feels bad about some decisions she made.A very cool hashtag she has in Insta!An epic quote she uses daily.Some wisdom garnered from life lessons.Reach out: www.instagram.com/jo_elvin Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailMelinda McDougall is a registered Medical Herbalist (MSc, MNIMH) specialising in women’s health, based in London. She holds a Master of Science degree in Herbal Medicine, where her training included anatomy, physiology, pathology, pharmaceutical medicine, botany, biochemistry, diagnostic skills, and traditional herbal knowledge. Melinda is particularly passionate about supporting women through key life transitions such as menstruation, perimenopause, and menopause. She works holistically, aiming to discover and treat root causes of symptoms rather than merely masking them. She has consulted with women across the UK and internationally, offering support and guidance via an online clinic in addition to her London-based practice. McDougall has also served as Vice President of the National Institute of Medical Herbalists (NIMH), a professional body for medical herbalists in the UK (founded in 1864). In addition to her clinical practice, she speaks at conferences, webinars, and podcasts, especially on herbal medicine and menopause. Before becoming a herbalist, she worked in journalism and documentary-making, a background that she says helped her develop listening skills and the ability to dig into complex issues. Originally from Australia, she now lives and works in London. Melinda’s professional philosophy blends scientific research with traditional herbal wisdom, emphasizing an integrative, patient-centred approach.Key Points of the Episode:How medical herbalism adds a whole new layer to diagnosis and treatment.How we stand on the shoulders of our genius ancestors who worked it all out.How she spotted a massive gap in treatment.How we would not be here without plant medicineHow the menopause can be a loss of some things, but a great gain in others.How many women have patterns that do not serve them, and how to address that.Archetypes and wise women.What young woman are simply not taught (but really should be)Reach out to her here:www.melindamcdougall.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailImogen Edwards-Jones (born June 1968) is a British author, journalist, and broadcaster best known for her sharp, witty exposés of hidden worlds and her bestselling Babylon series.Born in Birmingham, Edwards-Jones grew up in the Midlands and was educated at Malvern Girls’ College before going on to study Russian at the University of Bristol. Her fascination with language and culture led her to spend time in Russia, an experience that would later inspire her first book, The Taming of Eagles: Exploring the New Russia, an account of life in the early post-Soviet years. She later trained in journalism at City University, London, setting the stage for a career that would combine reportage with a flair for storytelling.Edwards-Jones first gained recognition as a novelist with works such as My Canapé Hell, Shagpile, and Tuscany for Beginners. But it was the Babylon series that made her a household name. Beginning with Hotel Babylon in 2004, the books offered an insider’s view into glamorous but tightly guarded industries—from aviation to fashion, restaurants, hospitals, and even weddings. Written with a blend of humour and scandal, and often based on real insider testimony, the series sold over a million and a half copies in the UK alone and was translated into dozens of languages. Hotel Babylon went on to be adapted into a BBC1 drama, bringing her work to an even wider audience.Her writing has also taken a more personal turn. The Stork Club is a candid and moving account of her own experiences with IVF treatment, while The Witches of St Petersburg draws on her love of Russian history and culture, re-imagining the story of two aristocratic sisters in the court of Tsar Nicholas II.Alongside her books, Edwards-Jones has written widely as a journalist, contributed to newspapers and magazines, and appeared frequently as a broadcaster. Her style—part investigative, part satirical—makes her a distinctive voice in contemporary British writing.She lives in London with her husband, television producer Kenton Allen, and their daughter, whose godmother is the Sex and the City author Candace Bushnell. Outside her professional work, she has a long-standing interest in the esoteric, counting herself as a member of London’s College of Psychic Studies, and she jokingly describes herself as an “honorary Cossack.”With a career spanning more than two decades, Imogen Edwards-Jones has carved out a niche as a storyteller who thrives on lifting the lid on closed worlds, whether glamorous, absurd, or deeply personal. The secret of a 27 year successful marriage.*Why ghostwriting is a learning curve each time.*How she can "spend months" working on a project for someone and they would not recognise her!*An odd hotel fact!*Some delicious naughty stories!*Some unfortunate things that happen on flights.*How she studied Russia and loved the contrast and starkness of it.*How she feels about Russia now.*How narcissism does not really exist in Russia.*How she was interviewed on Wogan.*More on a happy marriage and red flags to watch for.*A fascinating anecdote about Marylyn Monroe.All her books are on Amazon, and her website is here: www.imogenedwardsjones.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailKey points of the episode:Her big news announcement!How the environment affects the child in their future relationships.How all have the conflicts and disagreement, but tools to help and heal.Unconscious unspoken agreements.A surprising health statistic.And an even more surprising relationship statistic.How therapy is not an easy fix, but when stuck with will lead to stronger bonds eventually.How working through what you dislike shows commitment to that relationship - once no longer a secret.How the space of "hope" is always held- at least to make things conscious.How we are changing beings and we cannot put people in a box, as much as we think we know them.How whole new parts of ourselves are ready to be discovered! Exciting! -if you are willing to look."Still waters run deep"How being spontaneous is synonymous with well being and play.How the first born generally holds the unconscious expectations of the parents.Her work on "Married at First Sight" - the Israel version.Insta: @drkalanit Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailMiss Erica Storm, formerly Madam Storm, is a former International Dominatrix. Her infamous Mistress training was featured in a Louis Theroux documentary on channel 4, “Sex Actually” with Alice Levine, where she showcased her teaching and coaching of female empowerment using the art of BDSM to help women find their voice and be sexually liberated. Miss Erica has recently launched her Power of the Pussy Retreat and the “Yoni Circle”, both of which were featured in the Metro Newspaper, featured on the front page and interviewed by ELLE Magazine, BBC London, and currently being documented by Channel 5’s new show.Her work is constantly being documented as her style is unique, fun and liberating, featured in Timeout, Daily Star, The Sun, Chat Magazine, New Magazine, The Metro, BBC, and The Mirror, just to mention a few. Miss Erica has rebranded herself as she evolves to the next level of her career as a qualified Yoga teacher and Clinical Sex and Relationship Therapist; her new YouTube Channel “Ask Miss Erica” showcases her work as a qualified confidence coach and sex educator. Subscribers send or call in their questions, which range from how to introduce kink into your relationship to how to walk into a room and own it.Miss Erica Storm first hit our TV screens with her powerful “STRUT Masterclass”, which shows women how to walk correctly in their high heels, whilst owning their space. featured on the Channel 5 TV show, 10 years younger, helping the programme subject recapture her confidence and self-esteem.  Miss Erica is also a powerful Motivational Speaker; she has shared the stage with Mayor Sadiq Khan and worked with companies such as WeWork, Red Run, Meetup, Platform 9 and Ann Summers. She is regularly booked for her sexy, fun and empowering speaking style, appearing on panels for women's events, radio shows and podcast.Miss Erica was the face of  Ann Summers's Halloween campaign. Her role involved personal appearances and delivering her Masterclasses in their flagship stores, helping couples to introduce kink into their relationship and educating consumers on how to use BDSM toys correctly. She has gone on to work with several brands, such as LELO, Hot Octopuss and Killing Kittens, where she delivered her Sexual and Body Confidence Masterclass to their members. Miss Erica has written several blog pieces for brands, magazines and charities, sharing her expertise in sexual confidence and female empowerment; her work has been featured in Refinery 29, Galdem Magazine, and The Metro; more articles of her work can be found here https://www.missericastorm.co.uk/press.In January 2021, Miss Erica Storm launched her blog, “Power of The Pussy” she created her blog to educate and inspire women to become connected to their pussies and embark on a journey of sexual confidence; you will find stories of her life as a Dominatrix and saucy events with her lovers.Miss Erica believes every woman should feel sexy and confident; she continues to empower women one STRUT at a time, advocating  Pussy Power!For more information, please visit Miss Erica Storms' website www.missericastorm.co.uk.Key points of the episode:How to find your kink! Or use it for pleasure! And authenticity.How being a dominatrix helped her.How integrating and working with her shadow self helped her heal.The difference between independent and hyper indepedence.What true power is (not control).How she bacame the hero of her own story.What happens in a "Mistress Masterclass".The "Alchemy of Hurt" Masterclass.Why she went to 7 schools....(and how it served her)The spiritual experience of being a dominatrix.Her dating li Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailKey points of the episode:The root of the "Burned Haystack" methodHow women think online dating is going to be bad - and it's worse!Her lightbulb moment.How she is helping women.The science and application of "rhetorical patterns"How to mainly spot the toxic patterns, and avoiding self gaslighting.The "test and apologise" technique.How pre burned haystack most of her dates were a waste of time, and how less but better matches come when you follow the 10 "rules",Example: Rule#1 - The app is a tool not a place to live or a game.How and why men seem to mainky have a lot of spare time.How messaging is preferable to swiping and scrolling.The "Block to Burn" technique.The rest of the techniques overview.The biggest challenges women face.How men may well need to change.Get in touch to learn more: Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailBarbara Ayozie Fu Safira is a remarkable Italian-Nigerian creative powerhouse based in London. She is celebrated as a creative director, art director, costume designer, and fashion stylist, whose work spans across editorial, commercial, film, music, and more.  Her styling and creative direction have appeared in prestigious publications, including Vogue Italia, GQ, Elle, Glassbook, Metal, and Aesthetica. Her editorial work “Unfolded Love” was published in both Vogue Italia and Nataal. Key points of the episode:How they met and how people were taking pictures of her!How she is treated like a celebrity even though she is not really one!How she is of Nigerian origin but has never lived there.How living in London has helped her appreciate multiculturism.Her signature style.The first time she experienced avant-gardeHer parenting and her parents values.How iconagraphy and religion has influenced her work.How she broke into the industry of art direction.How she keeps focused and grounded.The things she had to negotiate being Italian/Nigerian first generation.Her time in Paris.Her future direction and dreams.Check her out!Insta: @fu_safiraWeb: www.barbarafusafira.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailWendy Holden, also sometimes known as Taylor Holden, is an experienced author and novelist with more than thirty books published, fifteen of which are bestsellers. She has also had numerous works transferred to radio and television, and four of her books have been optioned for film. A journalist for eighteen years, her first novel THE SENSE OF PAPER was published by Random House, New York, to widespread critical acclaim and has recently been released as an ebook. Her second novel THE CRUELTY OF BEAUTY has been published in English as an ebook and in Czech as a hardback. Her non-fiction titles have chiefly chronicled the lives of remarkable subjects, including the international bestseller BORN SURVIVORS which tells the true story of three young mothers who hid their pregnancies from the Nazis and gave birth in the concentration camps.TOMORROW WILL BE A GOOD DAY chronicles the amazing life story of Captain Sir Tom Moore, the 99-year-old war veteran who raised almost £40m for the NHS during the coronavirus pandemic. ONE HUNDRED MIRACLES tells the true story of the teenage piano prodigy Zuzana Ruzickova who survived three concentration camps to become one of the world’s foremost Baroque musicians.FIVE MINUTES OF AMAZING is the moving memoir of a young soldier with early onset Alzheimer’s and how he chose to deal with the hand Fate dealt him. Her other memoirs include that of the only woman in the French Foreign Legion in TOMORROW TO BE BRAVE (soon to be a film), the mother of a woman killed after marrying a Sudanese warlord in TILL THE SUN GROWS COLD, A LOTUS GROWS IN THE MUD the memoir of actress Goldie Hawn and LADY BLUE EYES, the autobiography of Frank Sinatra’s widow Barbara – all of which were New York Times and Sunday Times bestsellers. Key points of the episode:How she became a journalist......and why she took a big leap to become an author.Her incredible (yet terrible) historical knowledge garnered from the research for her latest book, "The Teacher of Auschwitz".How her father is an incredible inspiration.How she ended up with PTSD....and the surprising experience of it.How "Born Survivors" was the first book in 70 years that chronicled babies being born in the holocaust... and survived....and how she discovered the story.Her new incredible project on someone who's true character has never been truly shown, even though there are over 1000 books about her.What she does to relax.Her experience of "flow"Her life philosophy.www.wendyholden.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom her website:I don't just study longevity — I've lived the cost of ignoring it.After 25 years in medicine, leadership, and entrepreneurship, I've seen firsthand what relentless drive can do to a body.But I’ve also seen what precision, strategy, and lifestyle mastery can rebuild.My journey began at the University of London, Guys and St Thomas’, where I earned my MBBS in medicine and surgery.A fascination with the body and brain led me to deepen my expertise further — gaining advanced qualifications in lifestyle medicine, functional medicine, coaching, therapy, gynaecology, obstetrics, and dermatology.But true mastery comes not just from study, it comes from lived experience.A hospital bed became my greatest teacher — not knowing whether I would see my three children again. That was when I finally realised: success means nothing without sustainable health.Since that day, I've devoted my career to helping ambitious individuals secure the energy, clarity, and resilience their future demands. Using data-backed biohacking and personalised longevity strategies, I put tour healthspan potential back in your hands.What if you could have the vitality of 20, 30, 40 years ago??It's feasable.Key points of the episode:Living longer, fitter, better, healthier.Redefining "old" and "aging"How an optimist can add 7 years to their lives.How lifespam is determined by lifestyle.The importance of purpose.The "LQ" - Longevity Quotient.How to blend mindset and physical actions to optimise health - using leading edge technology.The AHEAD acronym.How self care should be bespoke to the individual and fun!The Million Hour Club - and what it is.How what we do in this decade determines the next one..."Sniper alley" - What is it and is it a thing?"Inflammaging" - what is it?How to take control of your own health and how the choice is yours.The incredible opportunities to thrive that exist as you read this. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailHelen Margaret Lederer (born 24 September 1954 is a British comedian, writer and actress who emerged as part of the alternative comedy boom at the beginning of the 1980s. Among her television credits are the BBC2 sketch series Naked Video and BBC One's Absolutely Fabulous, in which she played the role of Catriona.In 2015, her comedy novel Losing It was published by Pan Macmillan It was nominated for the P.G. Wodehouse Comedy Literary Award and the Edinburgh Book Festival First Book Award.She recently released a biography,  " Not That I'm Bitter" she wanted people to connect with her experiences in a humourous way. At the time of writing she is in a run starring in the stage version of Fawlty Towers.In 2018, Lederer launched a new literary prize for comic fiction written by women. The 2019 published winner of the CWIP award was The Exact Opposite of Okay by Lauren Steven- Kirsty Eyre was the inaugural winner of the unpublished prize with her comic novel, Cow Girl, which was published in 2020. The 2020 awards added a humorous graphic novel prize.The award was created because of dissatisfaction with the Bollinger Everyman Wodehouse Prize , which was not awarded in 2018 and had up to that point only been won by a woman three times.Key points of this episode:How writing her book gave her a second confidence,,How people were not mean about woman in comedy back then as such, but it was simply a different time.How she "accidentally" stole someones comedy partner for a year!Her thoughts on comedy, connection with an audience and performance.What can make an audiance angry.Her book - "Not that I'm bitter"Her run being on the stage version of Fawlty Towers.Her appearance on "The Pilgrimage"You can see more about this talented lady here:@helenlederer on X and Instagram Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom her website:Since I could first hold a pencil I have been writing stories. It was my most enjoyable hobby and one I never expected would become a career in adulthood. I am so lucky to do something I adore and luckier still that you, my readers, enable me to do it. For that I am incredibly grateful.Over the last four decades my love of storytelling has never changed, the only thing that has changed is my audience (once only me), which now includes you! I hope to carry you away to sunnier shores, while at the same time to remind you of all that is wonderful about England. Above all, my novels are about love – not just romantic love, but Love with a capital L, because when you boil life down to its essence, love is what you’ll find. I hope to sweep you away, to make you laugh and cry in equal measure, but most of all to make it possible for you to escape for a while.Key Points of the Episode:How her extraordinary childhood spiritual experiences now influence her writing.The complex and enthralling (yet hard to plot) storyline of her new book.How we all lose (but can relatively easily regain) our psychic ability.How she was visited by her sister (who was not alive) - seriously!How people many times come round to the idea.Her ghastly book tours!How she came back from the ghastly book tours- and how you need to be a rock star to break America!How she never believed she would have 34 books in her!Her key to a 34 year marriage!www.santamontefiore.co.ukEmail through contact in website Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom the website:My determination to reduce my dementia risk grew out of my personal story.I spent 12 years caring for my mum, who had severe dementia. When she was diagnosed, I was 36 years old with a toddler, new born and a full-time job. My world was turned upside down – not only was I mum, wife, boss, I was now a carer too. What made this even harder to bear was that, as a teenager, I’d watched my mum going through the same thing with her mother. Now, I have two teenage daughters myself and I do everything I can to reduce the chance that they will have to look after me.I started researching everything I could about ageing well. I read a PhD paper, claiming that a healthy lifestyle at 50 reduces the risk of dementia, by up to 90%. This research is controversial – that’s a huge reduction – but at the time it felt like the sun bursting through some very dark clouds. Most importantly, it gave me a sense of purpose: an idea that I could change the way I age.  So I spent years studying scientific data on healthy ageing, Qualifying as a health coach and overhauling my own health. And guess what? I’ve found that as I’ve worked to do all I can to prevent dementia, I feel better than ever right now. And I want to share that with you.Key Points of the episode:How the greatest relationship you can have is with your brain.How to interpret the information without the hype...And how it can be applied to your life (especially as a busy working mum!)How her Mum was diagnosed with dementia at when Susan was 36.How suspected dementia is not always accurate and needs addressing differently.How she helps people with the 6 pillars of brain health.(eg bright coloured and crufiferous veg have been shown to lower dementia risk)...and strength training...How novelty and difficulty are really helpful.www.agewellproject.comhttp://www.susansaundershealth.comSee her 3 books available here.More group coaching coming soon. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom her website: Anne Sebba HistorianWelcome to 2025! Worries about Covid may have receded but war, brutality and uncertainty are still with us four years on. So it has seemed fitting that I have been researching a new book about a grim subject for grim times… the extraordinary story of the Women’s Orchestra of Auschwitz. It’s about female solidarity and the redemptive power of music as well as survival against the odds and will be published in March 2025 in the UK to commemorate the 80th anniversary of the liberation of the camps. there are various translations planned in the course of 2025 and 2026! watch this space.  2023 was the 70th anniversary of the execution of Ethel Rosenberg, electrocuted for for Conspiracy to Commit Espionage without any evidence against her, and I was very honoured that my biography of Ethel was published in France. Having spent years thinking about one woman in one prison, I am now contemplating the lives of hundreds of women in one of the most appalling prisons in history.  Living in isolation during Covid helped me a little in my understanding of the tragedy which befell Ethel.  But entering imaginatively into the lives of women in Auschwitz is a far harder task and listening to their testimonies (thankfully there are hundreds of these online) does keep me awake at night. I never forget that as the great giant of biography Richard Holmes wrote, self identification with one’s subject is the first crime of the biographer, but it still is a kind of duty to try and help the women who survived as well as those who did not bear witness to what they saw. I tried to tell the story of an era through the story of a woman, Ethel Rosenberg, I shall try and do the same with the current book.Incidentally Ethel has a variety of titles – An American Tragedy in the US Ethel Rosenberg: A Cold War Tragedy in the UK and for the paperback it is called The Short life and Great betrayal of an American wife and mother.My previous book was published on July 14th 2016 – Bastille Day –  Les Parisiennes, about women in Paris from 1939-49, in US, UK, France, Czech Republic, China and other countries. There are stories in it about resisters, collaborators, spies, writers and actresses, couturiers and jewellery designers, housewives, concierges and prostitutes. It won a prize and is being turned into a multi-part screenplay for TV (watch this space!)  I have always been fascinated by French History and the reverberations from this period are still being felt in the country today. Although I loved writing the story of Wallis Simpson (and she even has a cameo role in this book) I wanted to write a book of history this time and move away from biography for a change.For two years of my research I was chair of the Management Committee of Britain’s Society of Authors, a great honour and privilege in  difficult and challenging times for authors as the Society fights for Authors’ rights in a number of areas and is desperately needed. I am now on the SOA Council. But when I am not busy reading or reviewing someone else’s book, I will be concentrating on talking about my books, including Les Parisiennes. As any writer will tell you, you never quite leave your old books behind. New material keeps coming your way and you are constantly re thinking your work!In 2011, I published That Woman: a life of Wallis Simpson Duchess of Windsor in the UK alongside a C4 television documentary based on my book and the new information I have unearthed. Publication by St Martin’s Press in the US followed in 2012 and the book became an international bestseller in the UK, US and Australia. Even after ten books, the thrill of holding the first copy of a new book with my name on the spine has not lessened.Most of my previous books have been about strong women who have carved out a life against the odds from Enid Bagnold,& Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailWELCOME TO SEASON 3!Sarah Rosemary Vine was born in Swansea, Wales on 16 April 1967.When she was five, the family moved to Italy, initially staying in Rome before moving to Frascati. After graduation, Vine worked in customer services for the retailer Hobbs Ltd. She then worked in a series of jobs within journalism, including TV listings sub at the Daily Mirror and features editor for the magazine Tatler before joining The Times. She was promoted to arts editor at that newspaper.And now, she ia an author and in this podcast you will understand why and perhaps have a shift in perception....Key points of the episode:Her new book, as the ex of Michael Gove, "How not to be a political wife"How being in those circles makes you very much having (if you'll pardon the pun)  -toe the party line.Her "Lady Macbeth" moment....and the fallout of that.What it feels like to have horrible things written about you in the paper.How she feels the need to "have a conversation" with the reader and share who she really is.Her parents, and how they have affected her.Her people pleasing tendencies.How she feels about her upcoming book tour. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this anonymous episode we talk to "Mary" who shares her experience of coercive control. **TRIGGER WARNING**How coercive control is hard to notice until you are out of it.How it tends to happen slowly.How, 30 years ago, the words "Coercive Control" wew not even in our lexicon.The stages of coercive control and how red flags can be innocently and easily missed.How she hated being married and how it started to go wrong in a year.How it lasted over two and a half decades.When the physical violence kicked in and how to the police at the time it was "just a domestic"The divorce process and avoiding manipulation.Her experience of gaslighting.How materially "on paper" she had everything, but was screaming inside.How she has recently- very very recently found her sensible side.The reasons why people stay - the rationale they use to stay.Her new, free life and what she most desires now.For obvious reasons there are no contact details here.We hope this podcast has helped and inspired you.If you have been affected by anything you have heard here - support and help can be found here:https://www.womensaid.org.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/