Life, Dilemmas & Dad Stuff
by Tommy Kende
Tommy dives into the stuff most people avoid — awkward moments, emotional tornadoes, doubts and dilemmas — and turns them into chats that feel surprisingly normal. He doesn’t pretend he’s got life sorted. He shares his own mess so you don’t feel alone. He’s also a dad, which means half his clarity comes from deep inner work… and the other half from trying to raise a kid in a crazy world while juggling weekly meltdowns and moments of epic self-sabotage. For 20 years he’s helped people through mentoring, yoga, breathwork, energy work, music and straight-up honesty — but the real growth happens here, in the bare truths and unfiltered conversations he’d usually keep to himself. Expect at least one nugget that shifts something — and a laugh at how seriously we all take life. It’s honest. It’s human. It hits home. Powered by DADEO.
Episodes
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Are We Becoming Robots? The Art of Being Present
Ever feel like your mind just won't shut the fuck up? One minute you're in flow, getting shit done and feeling unstoppable. The next, you're stuck in your own head, overwhelmed and wondering why everything suddenly feels so hard. In this episode of Life, Dilemmas & Dad Stuff, I dive into…
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When Your Income Starts Fucking With Your Self-Worth
I’ve declared September and October my money months. Underneath the goal to earn more, there’s something much more personal going on. My income has started fucking with the way I see myself. In this episode, I talk honestly about moving from financial independence to becoming a stay-at-home dad...
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Nobody’s Coming to Save You
The nanny’s back, which means the podcast is back. After two weeks of full-time dad mode, I started thinking about how quickly life fills every available space and how easy it is to blame your circumstances when you’re not moving towards what you say you want. This episode is about the difference...
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The Parts of Yourself You Lose in Parenthood
Becoming a dad has been one of the greatest experiences of my life. It’s also challenged my identity, career, freedom, friendships, relationship and sense of purpose. In Episode 12 of Life, Dilemmas & Dad Stuff, I talk honestly about loving fatherhood while still missing parts of my old life. I...
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Stop Waiting for the Right Time
We've all done it. We wait until all the conditions are perfect before making a decision. We tell ourselves we'll know when the timing is right, when we have more money, more confidence or more certainty. The problem is, that moment rarely comes. In this episode, I explore why waiting for…
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Making Sh*t Up As You Go
One of the biggest myths we buy into is that we need to have it all figured out before we take the next step. I don't think that's how life works. In this episode, I dive into what I mean by "making shit up." It's not about pretending or guessing. It's about having the courage to follow what…
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You're Not Broken. You're Tangled.
Most of us spend our lives trying to fix ourselves. We think we're broken. That we need more confidence, more motivation, or another strategy to finally feel at peace. What if you've simply become tangled up in stories, beliefs and expectations that were never really yours? In this episode, I...
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What If Anxiety Was Actually Trying To Help You?
Do you ever wake up feeling anxious for absolutely no reason? I had one of those mornings this week. Instead of trying to push the feeling away, I started asking myself a different question... What if anxiety isn't the enemy? What if it's actually trying to tell us something? In this episode I…
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Being Shit at Something Is Where the Magic Starts
This week I share a lesson that smacked me right in the face during my yoga practice. For nearly 20 years I've avoided one pose. Every time it came up I'd find a way around it because it felt awkward, uncomfortable and honestly... pretty shit about how much I couldn't do it. Six months ago I made…
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42 Years of Friendship: What We Got Wrong About Life
This week I'm joined by my best mate Steve. We've known each other for 42 years. We sat down in Bali with no real plan, hit record, and ended up talking about life, friendship, getting older and some of the things we were completely wrong about. We chat about: • Why money doesn't solve as many...
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What Men Don't Say
Most dudes are carrying way more than they let on. Is it because they're trying to be tough or macho? I don't think that's the case. I believe it's because they often don't know how to say what they're actually feeling. Or who to say it to. In this episode I dive into some of the things I hear…
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Why Do We Care So Much What Other People Think?
In this episode, Tommy dives into one of the biggest things that holds people back from going after what they really want: The fear of what other people think. Whether it's starting a business, posting on social media, launching a podcast, changing careers, parenting differently, or simply…
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The Fine Line Between Truth & Ego (with a sprinkle of manipulation)
In this episode, Tommy dives into the subtle ways we manipulate the world around us in order to feel safer, more accepted, more comfortable, or more in control. From people pleasing and collusion, to trying to manage perception and avoid conflict, this episode explores the fine line between…
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Learning How To Regulate Yourself
Emotional regulation might be one of the most important life skills we never get taught. In this episode, I talk about: how quickly the stories in our head can spiral us emotionally why thoughts create emotional states that shape our experience of life catching yourself before you disappear down...
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How Pressure Changes People
Pressure changes people. Financial pressure. Relationship pressure. Parenthood. Trying to hold everything together while quietly feeling disconnected from yourself. In this episode, I talk about: what happens when pressure keeps building under the surface the danger of ignoring the little signs...
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Why I Disappeared… and What I’m Building Now
Hey guys, Have definitely been quiet for a while. Not because I didn’t have anything to say, but because I felt like I didn’t have my shit together. In this first episode back, I talk about: what the last couple of years have really been like becoming a dad and how much it actually changes you...
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Building Big & Staying Human – with Spinal Energetics founder Dr Sarah Jane Perri
Had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr Sarah Jane Perri—founder of "Spinal Energetics". She's just an all-round legend. We talked about the real side of building something massive, and what it’s like being a woman leading a powerful movement in a world that still doesn’t always get it....
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Kat John Interview - Laughs, Tears & Real Chats
In this raw-as-hell episode, I sit down with one of my soul sisters, Kat John, for a no-bullshit convo about life, friendship, relationships, parenting, and the shitstorms we’ve both waded through. We talk honestly—like, laugh-til-you-cry and then actually cry kind of honest—about our personal...
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Parenting, Self-Discovery, Life Transitions,
In this episode, Tommy shares his personal journey of becoming a parent, reflecting on the challenges and growth that come with it. He discusses the emotional transitions he has experienced, the impact of parenthood on his creativity, and the dynamics of his relationship with his partner. Tommy...
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Embracing A Life Of Twists & Turns
Hey gang, In this episode, I reflect on my experience as a new father and the changes it has brought to my life. I discuss the uncertainty I feel about the direction of where I'm heading in terms of career but also a deep yearning, and desire to find a path that aligns with my truth. I emphasise...
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Nicola Lally Interview - Pregnancy and Birth After Loss
My partner in crime Nicola Lally comes on the poddy for round 2. The first time she was on, was not a fun one. It was 4 days after we had a still birth at 38 weeks. This time is a very different story. Her tenacity, and belief in our end result of starting a family together is next level. The...
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Does The Path Forward Always Present Itself?
In this episode, Tommy discusses the path forward and how it reveals itself in the most intimate ways. He shares a personal experience from the ocean and draws parallels to decision-making and intuition. Tommy emphasises the importance of moving towards fear and uncertainty to reveal the path...
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Letting Go Of Worry
In this episode, Tommy discusses the futility of worrying and the importance of taking action. He emphasises the negative impact of worry on the physical body and encourages to focus on the present moment. He challenges listeners to identify three things they have been worrying about and make…
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3 No Brainers To Be The "How Come You're Always So Chilled?" Person
In this poddy, Tommy breaks down three super simple tricks that can turn you into the calm, cool, and collected person everyone's curious about. Ditch the drama and find your zen? Here's what's coming your way: 1. Check In With Your Feels: Ever feel like your emotions are all over the place?…
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Masha Gorodilova Interview - Come as you are, no questions asked!
Masha is one strong, humble, warrior, goddess woman. She is the founder of Within Retreat Yoga Studio in Melbourne, and has first-hand helped change the lives of countless people on and off the Yoga mat. From being thrown into deep uncertainty from a young age, she shares with us the golden…
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Emma Strembickyj Interview - What Can Pain & Suffering Teach Us?
One of my soul sisters Emma Strembickyj comes on the podcast. She's a Yogi, an epic mum, a trauma informed specialist with a depth of wisdom only a few of us have amassed. She shares with us her own journey of being stuck in the depth of addiction, then what it's like on the other side. You'll...
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Lessons From The Dying - Andrew Gurman Interview
Andrew has worked and supported people that are nearing the end of their physical existence on earth. He is a bereavement and Palliative care specialist as well as an artist, and an incredible counsellor and coach assisting people to live life with meaning, truth and purpose. I was hoping to find...
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Steps To Connect Into The Quantum Field
After a little hiatus, i went into a nook of self-reflection and self study. I spent quite a bit of time connecting deeper into the worlds of the quantum. There's so much scientific evidence to show that there's this whole other world out there that can be tapped into (other than the material...
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3 Steps Towards Your Soul Truth
in this episode we discuss the importance of going towards your soul truth. This is different to destiny or fate etc. Your soul truth is deep within you and it wants to be explored. You have every right to do some digging, and give your truth the best opportunity to come to life, and for it to be...
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First Day Of The Rest of Your Life
How would life be for you if this was the first day of the rest of your life? This episode is an epic reminder for all of us to see life with a deeper level of curiosity and awe. We dive into the below concepts and relate it to how we can use it in every day life. Presence Innocence Courage Doing...
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Your Beliefs Could Be Messing Everything Up
Our core beliefs are inherently dysfunctional. But..... They are the drivers behind what we experience on a daily basis. In this episode you'll find tools on how to establish your core beliefs. Questions answered on where they come from, how they are built & developed, and tips to move into your...
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Tools for 2024 - What's Your Truth Really Telling You?
Is this the year for you? Could just be. A powerful few tools to integrate into your daily in this episode. Apparently.... Everything is energy. And whatever the energy is that we're putting out into the big wide world, is the same energy that smashes back into our lives and experiences. You can...
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3 Awesome Ways To Be Your Own Guru
Usually we seek help/assistance from the others when we think we don’t know what to do next, or how to deal with the inner turmoil. There's 2 things that could be going on; 1 - We know what to do, but we want someone else to tell us that it's right. or 2- We know what to do, but we want someone...
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3 Gates To Epic Communication
In this episode we explore Rumi's 3 gates of communication. Is it True? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Seems easy right? Well have a listen and make up your own mind. I've set myself on a communication challenge to practice passing through these 3 gates in my own communication with friends, lovers,...
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Cindy Cerecer Interview - Everything you wanted to know about Colonics
Cindy Cerecer comes on as a prized guest. She's like the Oprah of gut health and colonic irrigation / colonic hydrotherapy. Cindy has been involved in everything gut health for almost 20 years. She trains and certifies Colonic Hydrotherapists and has a wealth of knowledge and wisdom around poo's,...
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4 Steps To Pull Yourself - Out Of A Funk
Sometimes we can get all Negative Nelly. I believe the more you consciously pull yourself out of it, and shift your energy, the less frequent the funks become. In this episode I offer 4 easy to follow steps to shift your energy and perspective to match your highest good. We cover How you set...
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What's The Point?
This poddy takes a few twists and turns. I talk about the point of it all and how to get to a spot where you wake up and make it all worth while. I believe this starts with the subtle changes, and that's where really cool experiences are created from. But we have to start gently. Even if it just...
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Coach Jordan Interview - The Mind, Emotions and the Gut. What a combo.
I speak to Coach Jordan Briggs. What a passionate dude. We chat about all things health, emotions, and gut. When we've got these 3 things rockin, everything else seems easier. Jordan is incredibly passionate about helping people and spreading the message of how to get to the root cause of our...
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Lydia Lassila Interview - The Vision Of A True Champion
Lydia is an Olympic gold medallist, a Yogini, an Entrepreneur, Keynote Speaker, a Vision Seeker, and a lover of all things nature. She has a deep passion for helping people find their true zone. The flow zone. She does this through her business(es), Zone by Lydia, Body Ice & sharing the love to…
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Are You Fighting With Life? Let Go!
That's a big question isn't it? If you're fighting with life, you'll know about it. There'll be pockets in your life where you feel like you're in a battle. We tackle the difference between being a Future/Past Tripper, and allowing yourself to let go into current circumstance. It's a goodie,...
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3 Sneaky WTF’s that show up when you’re about to get what you want.
There's some tell-tail signs when what you desire is about to land on your doorstep. However, these signs can be deceiving as they are super sneaky WTF's. Here they are: 1 - It looks like everything is about to go to shit, and other “mundane” things seem to be getting in the way. A job, or a new...
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Deb Langley Interview - A Life By Design
We have Deb Langley as our prized guest this week. Deb is a proper "Life Liver" as I like to call it. Life livers are people that speak from experience and heart- felt knowledge. When they speak, you can hear the resonance of truth behind their words. Deb is definitely one those special people. I...
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3 No-Brainers To Embody Confidence In Your “Out There” Ideas.
Listen to this episode and give yourself and your creative ideas the boost to come into reality. I've heard a bunch of incredible ideas from clients as of late. These ideas are epic and makes me sad when they potentially don't go anywhere. We've been working through these blocks in our sessions,...
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5 Steps To A Kick-Arse Relationship - With Yourself
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. On that note, let's explore 5 key steps to get there. 1 - Love the shit out of yourself 2 - Make time to grow and expand 3 - Give back to your body, mind & spirit 4 - Get sexy with yourself 5 - Reflect & Realign...
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3 Modalities to Feel Sane in an Insane World
If you're finding the world a little insane right now, you're on point. Lot of us seem to be running around like headless chooks going from one thing to the next. That feeling when you feel like you've had a super busy day, but you're not sure what you've actually achieved. You are meant to...
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Balancing The Body, Mind & Spirit
There's a fine line between going too far, or doing nothing at all. I believe that finding true balance is different for every individual. In this episode I question whether it's a one size fits all situation when it comes to mastering these different aspects - our body, mind, and spirit. We...
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From Little Things Big Things Grow
In this episode Tommy shares with us his an example from his own life on how from little things big things can grow. We discuss; Following the no brainer, obvious How to build something from nothing When it's time to take action and make the obvious moves Using your network Intuitively following...
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All Things Relationships W/ JAH Academy Founder Simi Gosling
I speak to relationship expert Simi Gosling. She lays it on the line with things to look out for when we're "relationshipping". Whether you're single, dating, committed or anything in-between, you'll get a few tips on what to do, and what not to do. We spend too much time playing games with our...
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Reclaiming Ownership Over Our Emotions
Hey Gang, Great to be back. In episode 120, we explore the concept of emotional ownership and its impact on our personal growth. Acknowledging and accepting our emotions, both positive and negative, empowers us to navigate life's challenges effectively. Ultimately, whether we like it or not we…
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The Danger Of Leaving Things Too Late
Gang, Have you left it all too late? The answer is a massive NO!! It's never too late for anything. In this episode I discuss the common reasons for leaving things too late, including fear of failure, perfectionism, and just being a plain lazy arse. Missed opportunities, increased stress, and...
About this show
Tommy dives into the stuff most people avoid — awkward moments, emotional tornadoes, doubts and dilemmas — and turns them into chats that feel surprisingly normal.
He doesn’t pretend he’s got life sorted. He shares his own mess so you don’t feel alone.
He’s also a dad, which means half his clarity comes from deep inner work… and the other half from trying to raise a kid in a crazy world while juggling weekly meltdowns and moments of epic self-sabotage.
For 20 years he’s helped people through mentoring, yoga, breathwork, energy work, music and straight-up honesty — but the real growth happens here, in the bare truths and unfiltered conversations he’d usually keep to himself.
Expect at least one nugget that shifts something — and a laugh at how seriously we all take life.
It’s honest. It’s human. It hits home.
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