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PSYCHē Says | Therapists
by PSYCHē
Let's face it, most therapists won't say what they really think. We are a group of Psychologists and Licensed Counselors who have real lives and real opinions. We promise not to use cringy "woo-woo" catch-phrases or whispery soft voices when we talk about difficult topics like self-harm, suicide, parenting out-of-control teens, and more. We combine irreverent humor with information and believe in getting right to the point.
Episodes
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Something is wrong with my kid
Are you viewing your child (or yourself?!) from a "what is right" or "what is wrong" perspective? Although identifying potential barriers to emotional and psychological growth is important, ironically, it can get in the way and lead to significant damage to a child's self-esteem. Of course, this…
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It's Ok to "Fake It"
People wear clothes for a reason. We have the right to cover up so we feel comfortable and we cover out of courtesy what may be disturbing or disrespectful to others . The same goes for thoughts and emotions. If you want to be in a relationship, like it or not, there is an obligation to cover, or...
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No Explanation Required
In case you needed official permission, you actually aren't required to share your relationship (or other) decisions, even if it directly impacts a person you care about. Sometimes, it can even get in the way of the effectiveness of your objective. Telling someone you are going to pull back from...
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Stay Out of the "Twilight Zone"
When should you ignore a behavior and when should you address it? What if you don't want to reinforce it? Won't paying attention to it make it worse? In this episode, Sarah and Dr. Vaughn talk about situations when the "elephant in the room" goes unaddressed and it leads to problems such as...
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Ultimatums as Self-Care
Sometimes, you've gotta draw the line. In this episode, Dr. Vaughn and Sally discuss THE ULTIMATUM and challenge the negative reputation it carries in the world of relationships and communication. The fact is, some boundaries aren't flexible, and sharing what those are within a relationship is at...
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Is it Caring or is it Controlling?
If you have difficulty tolerating anyone being upset with you and find yourself working hard to keep others liking you, you may be engaging in controlling behavior. In short, other people have the right to feel absolutely any way that they do. Although they are not permitted to BEHAVE any way…
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Is This What You Really Want?
Communication in relationships is more about process than content. The specifics of what the conflict is about is never the real issue...it's how you talk to one another that makes a difference. In this episode, Dr. Vaughn explains a communication technique in which the speaker highlights what is...
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Dementia, Alzheimer's, or Something Else?
Not to freak anyone out or anything, but it’s not just Alzheimer’s you’ve got to worry about if you’re concerned about the effects of aging on your brain. Although Alzheimer’s type is the most common form of dementia, and the most familiar to the layperson, there are other reasons why a person of…
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Calculated Risk and Priorities During Covid-19
It’s not an “all or nothing.” Identifying your top priorities and taking calculated risks is essential in order to manage anxiety while still having a life during the pandemic.
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How Therapists Cope During Quarantine
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah share how they cope during quarantine.
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What Testing Can't Tell You
Psychological testing is a wonderful tool but it isn’t without flaws. Yes, just about anything can be addressed using psychological testing, but it doesn’t mean everything SHOULD be. Psychological testing isn’t a tarot card reading or a medical lab test. It doesn’t always provide the clear-cut...
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What is a Neuropsychologist?
Dr. Katie Spirko and Dr. Stephanie Vaughn discuss the differences between a Neuropsychologist and a Psychologist.
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6 Levels of Validation
To reiterate, validation is a skill that can be used for a variety of reasons—to deescalate emotions, to improve relationships, to increase trust and confidence, and to be the spoonful of sugar that helps the medicine of change go down. According to Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), there are 6...
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Reconciliation is NOT For Chumps
Reconciliation is not for the faint of heart. This podcast validates the difficulty in forgiving and offers advice to those who wish to do so.
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Why the Hell Would I Validate?
There are multiple reasons to validate. Yeah, one reason is to make to the other person feel better, but there are several other options as to why you might want to do it even when you don’t feel like it. Here are a few that might help you stomach the idea a little easier :
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When It's Difficult to Validate
Validation is a skill. I don’t care what that one angry lady from Vermont said at my DBT presentation a few years ago, validation is NOT “a way of life.” It is a skill we can use or not. Quick review on what validation is: Validation is a communication strategy that involves a stubborn refusal to...
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Helping Versus Enabling: What's the Difference?
“Helping” someone involves doing (or not doing) something which improves the final outcome of a problem for another person. “Enabling” is any behavior that looks like help on the surface, but actually makes the problem worse in the long term.
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Non "Woo-Woo" Ways to Cope
Somehow, someway, the majority of people have coped with crises and bad feelings for centuries without essential oils, guided imagery, or inner childwork. They didn’t call a friend for support, cry on the shoulder of a loved one, or read self-help books on vulnerability. They did not just cope…
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Guilt Trips: The Holiday Edition
The holidays are a great thing AND they can be rough as hell. If that is confusing to you, just skip this blog…and thank your lucky stars for your current life circumstances. For the rest of us, there can be a love/hate relationship with “the most wonderful time of the year.” There are multiple...
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Validation Part I
It’s hard to talk about validation without considering what it is NOT. Hopefully you can immediately see that the statements above are examples of invalidation. Although we don’t need to validate everything (and in fact, it would be unwise to validate everything), we need to at least know HOW to...
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Why Don't More Men Go to Therapy?
I snarled as I scrolled past yet another one of those patronizing posts on Instagram from a therapy practice. You’ve seen something similar, I’m sure. There’s usually a mountain or some other form of nature background along with a silhouette of a person you are supposed to identify with who may…
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Are you a "Turtle Dove"?
As a psychotherapist, one of my absolute, favorite moves of all time is when I meet a new client who sheepishly admits that they want a romantic relationship in spite of believing that they shouldn’t: “So you’re a “Turtle Dove.” With this statement, my hope is that I begin to unravel the years of...
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When "Reaching Out" is Harmful
Sometimes feeling better in the short term is a trade for long term misery. There are a few reasons you might think twice about reaching out to someone when things are rough.
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There's No Such Thing as Suicide "Prevention"
September is "suicide prevention" month but Dr. Vaughn and Sarah take issue with the phrase after having worked with severely suicidal people for years. Why? For multiple reasons. Listen up to hear why.
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F*ck “Self-Care"
"Self-care" is an industry buzzword that gets associated with bath bombs, calming music, and journaling. But what about when traditional "self-care" isn't possible and what if you're the type who does it differently? Dr. Vaughn and Sarah want to put a stop to the shame that can come along with...
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You Gotta Be Tough If You're Gonna Be Stupid
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah discuss how to tell whether you are in a "toxic" relationship and what it means about you.
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Managing Conflict Between Adults
There is no manual on how to manage conflict. In fact, many people are raised to think “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah discuss and use DBT skills to help give tips on how to have productive conflict, which can be a positive thing. Take a...
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Spin Me Round Round Anxiety & Panic
Overcoming the idea that having a panic attack is TERRIBLE is the groundwork for not spiraling. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah simplify panic attacks and give some steps you can take to bring your anxiety level down. Take a listen today to learn more.
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Cringy Reassurance Seeking
What do you really want from these questions? Dr. Vaughn talks with relationship expert Sally Roesch about reassurance seeking. They discuss the origin of this behavior and more effective ways of communicating these feelings. Take a listen today to learn more.
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What is Residential Treatment?
When should you go to Residential Treatment? When should you stay home? Dr. Vaughn and Sarah break down expectations in the hopes of providing some clarity for those who need it. Take a listen today to learn more.
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Manipulation Isn't a Bad Thing
Manipulation has a bad reputation. But guess what? Everyone manipulates to get what they want and it’s not always a bad thing. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah break down this strategic behavior, take a listen today to learn more.
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Piggybacking
There is never a good time to bring up conflict. Unless someone else does? Dr. Vaughn and Sarah discuss the term "piggybacking" that can cause conflicts in relationships to spiral out of control. Take a listen today to learn more.
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How Does My Depression Affect My Child?
Nobody is a perfect parent. Although, your emotions do affect your child. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah have a conversation about when your emotions dictate situations and how that makes your child feel. Take a listen today if you would like to learn more.
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Parents, Get a Life!
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah, who are both mothers themselves, have a conversation about why it’s so important to have your own identity outside of your child. Vice versa, your child needs to find their own identity and make their own decisions. Give a listen to this podcast to get valuable insight into...
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Taking a Ride on the Guilt Trip Train
Find yourself getting guilted into situations you don’t want to be in? We’re calling that “taking a ride on the guilt trip train”. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah break this down further and give advice on how to set necessary boundaries in your relationships. Take a listen today!
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Trust vs Risk
“I don’t trust you” is a bold statement that could be causing more damage to a relationship than you think. Dr. Vaughn and Stephanie give advice on how to shift your perspective from trust to risk, so you can take accountability for your own emotions. Want to learn more? Take a listen today.
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Is it Medical or Psychological?
Before you pick a therapist or even decide if you need therapy, there are some medical issues you need to have ruled out. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah discuss the difference between medical and psychological issues and symptoms that often overlap with depression and anxiety.
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Do I Need Therapy?
With therapy becoming more and more common, it’s completely normal to be wondering if it’s time for you to seek therapy too. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah break down expectations and discuss scenarios in which a therapist may be beneficial and also when it could be disadvantageous. Are you unsure whether...
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How to Pick a Therapist
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah discuss the often daunting search that people go through to find an effective therapist for themselves or a loved one. They provide insight on ways to narrow down your search, differentiate therapists, and find important goals that you and your therapist should share. Are you...
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Don't Ask Why
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah have a conversation about the effects of constantly searching for the why behind your problems. Do you find yourself constantly asking why? Take a listen today to help better understand when it is okay to be asking yourself "why" and better methods for when it's not.
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The Eeyore Syndrome
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah have a conversation about self-deprecation, affectionately referred to as “The Eeyore Syndrome.” Do you know anyone who is constantly talking negatively about themselves? Do you find yourself doing so when given a compliment? Take a listen today to help better understand…
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Do It Now
Dr. Vaughn and Sarah discuss how we are all masters of our own fate. Each one of us could potentially alter the course of our lives RIGHT NOW if we chose to do so. Is there something that you have been avoiding that needs to be done? How can you take one step toward accomplishing that task now?...
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"Sunday Scaries"
The term "Sunday Scaries" refers to a sense of dread, anxiety, and general blah that happens on Monday Eve when they sense the new week approaching. Dr. Vaughn and Sarah Kmita, LPC-MHSP discuss how conditioning principles contribute to the feeling and what to do about it.
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Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT)
Intensively trained RO therapist Sally Roesch, M.E.d. answers questions about RO-DBT and the differences between RO and standard therapy.
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When It's Too Much
Sarah and Dr. Vaughn discuss when it’s time to challenge yourself versus when to stop pushing so hard. Sometimes you step into the pain and remember that just because it’s uncomfortable doesn’t make it harmful. But there are definitely times when it’s just too much and the focus needs to be on…
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But My Kid is Depressed!
Is it safe to implement consequences when a child is depressed? What if the child isn't defiant or "bad," they are "just depressed?" Sarah and Dr. Vaughn discuss how sticking to the rules is EVEN MORE important when your child is suffering from mental health issues.
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Sleep Hygiene (Ugh...)
There are so many things that impact mood, but sleep happens to be one of the "biggies." The term "sleep hygiene" is familiar to therapists, but maybe not so much to the lay public. Listen up to hear what the term means and what some of the bottom line tips and tricks for maximizing yours and…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Let's face it, most therapists won't say what they really think. We are a group of Psychologists and Licensed Counselors who have real lives and real opinions. We promise not to use cringy "woo-woo" catch-phrases or whispery soft voices when we talk about difficult topics like self-harm, suicide, parenting out-of-control teens, and more. We combine irreverent humor with information and believe in getting right to the point.
HOSTED BY
PSYCHē
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Let's face it, most therapists won't say what they really think. We are a group of Psychologists and Licensed Counselors who have real lives and real opinions. We promise not to use cringy "woo-woo" catch-phrases or whispery soft voices when we talk about difficult topics like self-harm, suicide,...
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