Secondhand Therapy

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____This week on Secondhand Therapy, we spiral through the chaos of modern dating, emotional wounds, and why so many of us confuse being chosen with actually choosing.What starts as a breakdown of Love Island turns into a deeper conversation about jealousy, codependency, attachment styles, rejection trauma, emotional accountability, toxic relationship patterns, and the psychology of needing validation. Lou and Michael unpack how childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships, why some people feel they have to earn love, and what happens when anger feels too dangerous to express.From dating red flags to emotional regulation, vulnerability, anxious attachment, self-worth, and healing old wounds—this episode blends therapy talk with comedy in the way only Secondhand Therapy can._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:[email protected] BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105Cover Art Design: Louie PaolettiTheme Music: Jamie FranksTopics include: dating anxiety, relationship advice, emotional intelligence, trauma bonding, people pleasing, abandonment wounds, men’s mental health, self-worth, attachment theory, love addiction, and healing from childhood trauma.

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the battle between logic vs emotion, and how living in your “wise mind” could change your relationships forever.We talk about: • The therapy concept of logical mind, emotional mind, and wise mind • Why partners are often opposites in relationships • The hidden ways control, anxiety, and people-pleasing show up • The difference between situational shame vs character shame • How childhood roles shape adult relationships • Why saying “no” and being authentic feels terrifying • The moment you realize you might be getting in your own wayPlus: awkward book signings, therapy homework, identity shifts, and the small moment that felt huge—returning a wallet instead of pretending to want it.If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, authenticity, fear of rejection, or being the version of yourself others need, this episode may ruin your day, Or help. Who knows.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Are you sabotaging your relationships without realizing it? In this hilarious and honest episode, we dive into avoidant attachment, fear of rejection, dating apps burnout, and the uncomfortable role ego plays in heartbreak.We talk about why the “spark” can be misleading, how perfectionism keeps you single, and the psychology behind ending relationships before you get hurt. Inspired by therapy conversations and the Matthew Perry memoir, we unpack attachment styles, vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the fear of not being “enough.”If you’ve ever: • Deleted and re-downloaded dating apps • Compared new partners to your ex • Felt afraid of commitment or intimacy • Wondered if you self-sabotage relationships • Struggled with breakup anxiety or closureThis episode will hit hard — and make you laugh while it does.Expect comedy, brutal honesty, and relatable mental health conversations about dating, relationships, therapy, anxiety, and personal growth.Perfect for fans of therapy podcasts, self-improvement, and comedic mental health content.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____What happens when you realize you don’t actually know your parents as people?In this episode, we talk about the moment adulthood hits and you suddenly see your mom as a human instead of just “Mom.” We get into parent–child relationships, emotional maturity, grief, family dynamics, divorce, childhood memories, and why so many adults feel regret about not asking their parents deeper questions sooner.We share the emotional experience of trying to intentionally connect with a parent, what changes as parents age, how becoming a grandparent can shift emotional openness, and the complicated feelings that come with realizing your parents had full lives before you.We also talk about:Losing a parent and the regret of never truly knowing themHow childhood shapes your adult relationshipsTherapy concepts like reframing, empathy, and emotional growthHow grief and healing change family relationshipsThe psychology of seeing your parents differently as an adultIf you’ve ever wondered: Why don’t we really know our parents? Why does time with family feel more meaningful as we get older? Why do adult children start asking deeper questions later in life?This episode is for you. Maybe. What do we know? We're not experts.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why do we sabotage ourselves right when life is going well? In this deeply honest and funny episode, we talk about self-sabotage, burnout, body image, ADHD overwhelm, emotional contagion, perfectionism, and the fear of slowing down.One host opens up about gaining weight and the shame spiral that followed, while the other calls out the real culprit: feeling defeated before even trying. From driving to Costco and leaving with In-N-Out instead of groceries, to the exhausting pressure of productivity and the inability to truly rest, this episode dives into the psychology of why change feels impossible when you’re already overwhelmed.We also explore: • Why burnout kills motivation • The hidden link between shame and self-sabotage • The pressure to always be “productive” • Why we struggle to feel content or fulfilled • Emotional contagion and childhood emotional patterns • The fear of stopping, slowing down, or “not running” anymoreThis episode blends mental health, comedy, therapy insights, and real conversations about anxiety, depression, motivation, and personal growth.If you’ve ever felt stuck, exhausted, or like you’re getting in your own way — this one will hit hard (and make you laugh).BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____What happens when childhood trauma meets therapy, neuroscience, and personal growth?In this episode, we sit down with David Sussillo, a tech leader and author who grew up in foster care, group homes, and institutional living to explore how early adversity shapes the brain, emotional regulation, confidence, and adult success. Together, we unpack the psychology of trauma, resilience, and the long-term impact of feeling unsafe as a child.We talk about: • Growing up in foster care and surviving a turbulent childhood • How trauma affects curiosity, intelligence, and risk-taking • Emotional regulation, anger, anxiety, and relationship patterns • Therapy, meditation, and learning to “observe” your thoughts • Addiction, family history, and breaking generational cycles • Religion, meaning, and the fear of nothing after death • Neuroscience, AI, and what makes humans consciousThis conversation blends mental health, psychology, neuroscience, and real lived experience to answer a big question: Can trauma hold you back—or help you grow?If you’re interested in therapy, healing, self-awareness, personal growth, childhood trauma, anxiety, depression, resilience, and the science of the mind, this episode is for you.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why are some people afraid to be happy? In this episode, we unpack the fear of happiness, losing your identity, and why suffering can feel tied to purpose. We talk about loneliness, the “sad identity,” and the belief that being happy makes you less relatable or useful to others.We dive into emotional immaturity, childhood conditioning, emotionally immature parents, gaslighting vs lying, codependency, people-pleasing, and the urge to help or control others. We explore how trauma, family dynamics, and early experiences shape your self-concept, relationships, and sense of worth.If you struggle with feeling undeserving of happiness, fear being seen as “better than others,” or feel stuck in a helper role, this conversation will feel deeply relatable.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why do we people-please? Why is having opinions so scary? And why do old memories and regrets stay with us for life?This episode dives deep into people pleasing, fear of abandonment, identity, childhood emotional development, and the pressure of expectations. We talk about why we struggle to disappoint others, why external validation feels safer than authenticity, and how regret and unresolved memories shape adulthood.We also unpack a short story about childhood friendship, curiosity, sexuality, nostalgia, and the emotional weight we carry from growing up.Topics include: • people pleasing & fawning response • fear of abandonment • identity & self-worth • regret & shame • childhood emotional development • nostalgia & memory • masculinity & emotional expression • therapy & personal growthIf you’ve ever struggled to say no, feared disappointing others, or wondered who you really are — this episode is for you.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we dive into dopamine detox, phone addiction, and what happens when you remove distractions from your life. One host quits his smartphone, switches to a Light Phone, ditches Bluetooth, and starts living with extreme intention—only to realize it’s way harder (and more uncomfortable) than expected.We talk about doomscrolling, online shopping addiction, constant comparison, and the feeling of always searching for something you can’t define. Is modern technology making us anxious, disconnected, and unhappy?We also get into family dynamics, political tension, overthinking, and the struggle with self-worth—especially when you assume people are judging you. Why do we spiral about what others think? And how do you stop?This episode is about slowing down, being present, and learning how to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it.Topics include:Dopamine detox & digital minimalismPhone addiction & social media habitsIntentional living & mindfulnessAnxiety, overthinking, and shameFamily conflict & emotional triggersSelf-worth and comparisonIf you’ve ever felt addicted to your phone, stuck in your thoughts, or unsure if you’re growing or just spiraling—this one’s for you.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____ADHD burnout, perfectionism, EMDR therapy, anxiety, and deciding when you're ready to share your story._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____We called a psychic medium to talk to our dead loved ones… and it got real._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Codependency, people-pleasing, and losing yourself in love — how to break the cycle and build real intimacy._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Exploring dry drunk behavior, earned love, and why misery can feel safer than happiness._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______What would you do if the world was ending in 14 days?This week on Secondhand Therapy, we break down Seeking a Friend for the End of the World through a therapy lens — and it gets personal fast. We talk about attachment styles, fear of abandonment, self-sabotage, purpose, loneliness, and the urge to unblock your ex when mortality hits.Would you numb out with chaos… or search for connection? Would you end it with family, your partner, or alone? And why does control feel safer than vulnerability?This episode dives into:Anxious vs avoidant attachmentPreemptive abandonmentFear of being “too much”Existential anxiety & meaningWhy we sabotage love before it can hurt usIt’s funny. It’s uncomfortable. It’s deeply honest.If the clock were ticking — who would you choose?BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Why does happiness feel dangerous? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we break down fear, sadness, guilt, and the belief that joy invites punishment. Using the feelings wheel, therapy insights, and personal stories about grief, superstition, self-sabotage, and emotional isolation, we explore why letting your guard down can feel unsafe—and how protecting yourself might actually be keeping you stuck.This episode covers emotional programming, fear of success, pride vs. gratitude, inherited coping mechanisms, and why some of us feel more comfortable in misery than peace. Dark humor, honesty, and introspection—this is not therapy, but it is real.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Why do we avoid the things we know are good for us?In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack the frustrating loop of knowing the right choice—and still doing the opposite. From routines, gym habits, food decisions, and productivity, to deeper conversations about permission, self-worth, and why “doing the task” isn’t the same as experiencing it.We talk about:All-or-nothing thinking and overwhelmWhy productivity becomes identityPermission, avoidance, and self-sabotageTherapy insights on routine, ADHD, and motivationThe difference between function and joyWhy caring for yourself feels harder than it shouldThis is a raw, funny, and uncomfortable conversation about self-discipline, self-compassion, and why taking care of yourself isn’t as simple as “just doing it.”We’re not therapists. This is not professional advice.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______What does it mean when anxiety shows up with no trigger? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we talk about living with anxiety in the body, learning to stop fighting it, and the frustration of being told to “just calm down.”We unpack vulnerability, validation, and why some people need their feelings acknowledged out loud—while others don’t. The conversation turns to body image, weight gain, food guilt, perfectionism, and why moderation feels impossible for some people.We also explore parts work, routines vs survival mode, and the pressure of the “higher self” mindset—when motivation turns into self-shame.This episode is an honest, funny, and uncomfortable look at anxiety, mental health, food, and learning how (and when) to show up for yourself.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Why is it so hard to say “I don’t know”? Why does being liked feel like survival?In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack people-pleasing, fear of failure, and the invisible ways our parents shape our inner critic. One host shares what therapy is revealing about his need to be “nice,” his terror of messing up, and how his relationship with his mother quietly programmed his fear of rejection.We talk about:People-pleasing as a trauma responseFear of failure and perfectionismWhy being “nice” blocks real connectionFeelings vs facts (and the stories we tell ourselves)Productivity as a substitute for self-worthLearning to say no without guiltWanting your parent to be more — and turning that disappointment inwardThis episode explores how abandonment fear, emotional control, and self-worth get tangled together — and what it looks like to start unlearning those patterns in real time.We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking honestly about what we’re learning.If you struggle with people-pleasing, approval-seeking, fear of being disliked, or feeling like you’re never enough, this episode will hit close to home.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______When someone yells at your mom: anger, boundaries, emotional control, and doing the right thing.What do you do when you hear someone raise their voice at your mom — and everything in your body wants to explode?Today, we unpack a tense holiday moment that forces a deeper conversation about anger, boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional regulation. Louie shares a confrontation with his mother’s partner, before reflecting on how rage, fear, and protection instincts show up — even after years of therapy.We also talk about:Navigating a complicated relationship with your motherWhy “doing the right thing” can still feel awfulAnger vs. self-control and what emotional maturity actually looks likeLoneliness during the holidays and the push-pull of wanting connectionLearning to validate yourself instead of tearing yourself apartWhat it means to be proud of yourself for the first timeThis episode is about breaking old patterns, choosing accountability over aggression, and learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of acting them out.We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking through what we’re learning in real time.If you’re struggling with family conflict, holiday depression, anger issues, or feeling behind in life, this one’s for you. Thanks for being here... Secondhand Therapy.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Lou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything and hates it and loves it. Lou and Michael talk about whether we are alone in life. Sidenote: you can hear the extreme winds that spread fire across Los Angeles, throughout the episode. We did our best with the audio.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

We welcome Jenny Zigrino to discuss loss, coping, addictive behaviors, and disordered eating—and what real recovery looks like when you stop avoiding the pain underneath it all.An honest conversation about grief, relapse, shame, emotional regulation, and learning healthier ways to cope when life feels overwhelming.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______In this episode, we have an honest, unfiltered conversation about grief, coping mechanisms, addiction, recovery, and eating disorders—and how deeply connected they often are. We explore how unresolved grief can fuel addictive behaviors, disordered eating, emotional avoidance, and unhealthy coping strategies, and what recovery actually looks like beyond surface-level fixes.We talk about substance addiction, behavioral addiction, food addiction, binge eating, restriction, relapse, emotional regulation, trauma responses, and shame, and how these patterns show up in everyday life and relationships. The conversation also touches on mental health recovery, therapy, self-awareness, harm reduction, relapse prevention, and building healthier coping tools when life feels overwhelming.This episode is for anyone navigating loss, grief, addiction recovery, eating disorder recovery, mental health struggles, or the long, nonlinear process of healing. It’s raw, compassionate, and focused on understanding—not judgment.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Louie’s therapist tells him his “direct communication” is actually defensiveness — and it sends him into an identity spiral. We talk about fear, softness, control, relationship triggers, autism traits, wanting to be chosen, and why saying “I’m scared and sad” feels like death.We dig into the messy reality of defensiveness, vulnerability, emotional expression, fear, control, and communication patterns inside relationships. Louie shares how his therapist told him that his “direct communication” is actually a defense mechanism, and the conversation spirals into emotional avoidance, softness, and why saying “I’m scared and sad” feels impossible.We break down:Why “direct communication” can actually be emotional defensivenessHow vulnerability gets blocked by masculinity, shame & fearAutism traits, miscommunication, and not hearing what isn’t saidWanting to be chosen, fear of losing connection, and relationship insecurityControl vs. fear: trying to protect connection vs. micromanaging outcomesHow delivery affects emotional safety (soft vs. blunt communication)Why asking for comfort feels like weaknessEmotional funks, depression cycles, ADHD patterns & medication fearsRelationship honesty, lying, guilt, and the messy ethics of confessionIt’s raw, chaotic, vulnerable, funny, and painfully relatable — the perfect mix for a mental health, relationships, therapy talk podcast.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael talks about shutting down over Thanksgiving, emotional numbness, and the messy reality of grief. Louie breaks down triggers, embarrassment, childhood patterns, and why certain moments feel like personal attacks.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______In this week’s episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the complicated mix of grief, emotional numbness, triggers, anger, and childhood conditioning that still shapes adult reactions. Michael opens up about spending Thanksgiving in bed, feeling emotionally shut down, and exploring why certain moments hit harder than others. Louie challenges him on avoidance, grief processing, and the stories we tell ourselves when intense emotions show up.We also dive into:Why holiday grief hits unexpectedlyEmotional numbness vs. dissociationOrganizing grief so it stops overwhelming everythingHow embarrassment and shame block emotional releaseAnger, frustration, and “pretending” to be healedNervous system triggers and why they feel like aggressionChildhood patterns around attention and how they show up in adulthoodCustomer service, disappointment, and why small moments can activate big woundsThis is a raw, honest conversation about grief, emotional regulation, inner child responses, triggers, vulnerability, self-awareness, and healing,.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Louie shares a dream about his late partner that cracks open a huge conversation about grief, avoidance, triggers, and what it means to actually move forward. Michael challenges him, things get tense, and it turns into one of our most honest episodes yet.In this deeply personal episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack dreams, grief, unresolved emotions, and the complicated ways they show up in everyday life. Louie opens up about a dream involving his late partner and how it challenged his beliefs around meaning, symbolism, and emotional closure. Michael pushes back with questions about avoidance, grief processing, and what it means to “move forward” after loss.Together, we explore:How dreams connect to subconscious processingThe difference between honoring grief vs. being defined by itAvoidance, emotional triggers, and why they resurface years laterHow unresolved childhood and adult grief compoundsMoving forward without “leaving someone behind”What it looks like when grief unexpectedly “finds you”This episode is a vulnerable, honest look at grief, trauma, emotional regulation, subconscious processing, healing, and the messiness of being human—delivered with the same humor, tension, and real friendship you expect from this show.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Jeremy Lipkowitz breaks down porn addiction, how it affects your relationships, and why it’s more common than people think. He also talks about his time as a Buddhist monk and what that life taught him about discipline, desire, and mindfulness.Jeremy Lipkowitz joins us for a deep, honest conversation about porn addiction, how it develops, and the real ways it impacts mental health, relationships, intimacy, and self-worth. We explore what porn addiction actually is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so many people struggle with shame and secrecy around it.Jeremy also shares his powerful story of becoming a Buddhist monk, how mindfulness reshaped his relationship with desire, and what monastic life taught him about emotional regulation, discipline, and self-compassion.If you're curious about addiction, mindfulness, or the psychology behind our habits, this episode hits all the big questions.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Louie gets a wild text from his dad and things spiral into talk about cynicism, giving (and taking) compliments, and why we chase what we’re “missing out on.”Louie gets a surprising text from his dad—and it sparks a conversation about how we process emotion, self-worth, and connection. In this episode, we unpack why giving and receiving compliments can feel so uncomfortable, how cynicism masks vulnerability, and what “missing out” really means when it comes to FOMO. Michael opens up about his ongoing struggle with accountability—and Louie calls him out on it.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Louie and Michael answer a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability—diving into shame, repression, and the fear of emotional connection.Louie and Michael respond to a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability, emotional awareness, and connection. They dig into childhood conditioning, gender norms, and how shame and emotional repression keep men stuck in outdated ideas of strength. The conversation explores therapy, communication, emotional literacy, masculinity, and healing, asking what it would take for men to feel safe being seen. Equal parts funny and introspective, this episode is a breakdown of why men feel regressed in vulnerability—and how to change that.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet.Louie and Michael dive into fawning, trauma responses, people-pleasing, and emotional safety. Michael opens up about childhood conditioning, codependency, and realizing how much of his life has been guided by the need to feel safe. The two unpack how emotional immaturity in parents leads to adult people-pleasing, and how learning new therapeutic language can lead to awareness, growth, and healing. A vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about therapy, emotional regulation, recovery, and trauma.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______________Gina Martin joins to talk misogyny, feminism, and emotional healing—how patriarchy, trauma, and compassion shape identity, relationships, and recovery.Louie and Michael talk with author and activist Gina Martin about misogyny, feminism, gender roles, and emotional safety. Gina breaks down how patriarchy, trauma, and apathy shape men’s and women’s behavior, and what true compassion, forgiveness, and accountability look like in relationships. They explore how to raise boys, gendered social conditioning, and why understanding systems—not just individuals—matters for change. This episode dives deep into feminism, empathy, recovery, therapy, and identity, offering an unfiltered look at how culture shapes our emotional lives.Gina Martin she/her is a British gender equality activist, writer and facilitator known for her work fighting gender stereotypes, misogyny, sexual violence and the manosphere. Gina was responsible for making upskirting illegal in England and Wales (with 3 countries following suit), and changing discriminatory Instagram policy. She is also a writer, has published three books and has a best-selling Substack. Gina now works in schools across Australia running workshops for high schoolers on gender stereotypes.Gina's IG: https://www.instagram.com/ginamartin/?hl=enGina's Substack: https://ginamartin.substack.com/Gina's Latest Book: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/452339/no-offence-but-by-martin-gina/9781529177572BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______________Lou and Michael unpack wabi sabi, the beauty of imperfection—talking therapy, accountability, control, and what it means to be seen before you’re “fixed.”This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael dive into the Japanese philosophy of wabi sabi—the art of imperfection—and unpack what it means to be seen while you’re still in pieces. They talk accountability versus blame, how guilt and control intertwine, and why savoring small moments might be the real therapy. With stories from real life and a mix of humor, ego, and introspection, this episode explores the messy middle of growth, relationships, and being human.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III___________________________Michael and Lou unpack how childhood trauma fuels anxiety, codependency, and fear of abandonment. A raw mix of therapy insights, humor, and hard truths on boundaries, recovery, and self-worth.In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Michael and Lou dive deep into the messy intersections of childhood trauma, codependency, and the fear of abandonment. What starts as a simple conversation about space in friendship unravels into a raw exploration of why small conflicts can feel catastrophic, how anxiety distorts reality, and why it’s so hard to separate present struggles from old patterns.They talk candidly about boundaries, people-pleasing, and how growing up under constant fear leaves a permanent mark on self-worth. With sharp humor and unfiltered honesty, they reflect on therapy sessions, personal breakthroughs, and the exhausting cycle of trying to protect every relationship at the cost of their own peace.This is an episode for anyone who has wrestled with low self-esteem, overthinking, or the nagging belief that every disagreement might mean the end. Through laughter, vulnerability, and plenty of hard truths, Michael and Lou remind us that recovery is less about erasing the past and more about learning to live with it without letting it define us.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Codependency, boundaries, consent, and low self-esteem. Louie and Michael explore addiction, abandonment, and what it means to feel worthy of repair in relationships.In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Louie and Michael unpack codependency, boundaries, and emotional safety. Louie reflects on a moment with his partner that highlighted the importance of consent, nervous system responses, and accountability in relationships. Michael shares insights from Codependents Anonymous meetings, exploring how low self-esteem, people-pleasing, and fear of abandonment shape codependent patterns. Together they discuss family dynamics, addiction, conflict avoidance, and the struggle to feel worthy of repair after ruptures. This conversation dives deep into how childhood experiences with addiction and dysfunction inform adult relationships, self-worth, and emotional expression.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Brad Garrett joins Secondhand Therapy for a candid conversation on mental health, addiction, recovery, and relationships. Together we examine how codependency and family dynamics shape adulthood, and why masculinity often blocks men from showing vulnerability. Garrett reflects on the recovery process, the challenges of identity, and how performance and humor can function as coping strategies. The episode explores men’s mental health, the role of vulnerability in healing, and the importance of reframing connection and personal growth beyond old family patterns.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Michael faces breakup blues while Louie shares dating advice from therapy. They dive into grief, guilt, family dynamics, and how relational thinking shapes love and connection.Michael is in the middle of the breakup blues, and Louie brings fresh dating advice straight from his therapist.This week on Secondhand Therapy, Michael opens up about how grief impacts the brain in ways similar to addiction, while Louie reflects on the guilt he feels enjoying his partner’s family more than his own. They explore why talking politics with family rarely works, and what therapy teaches about boundaries, guilt, and connection.Michael also unpacks the difference between relational and non-relational thinking, and how those patterns affect the way we approach love, conflict, and family.It’s a vulnerable, funny, and deeply relatable conversation about breakups, grief, dating, family dynamics, and learning how to navigate relationships without losing yourself.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Abortion advocate Sophie Nir joins us to unpack stigma, misinformation, and advocacy — from “abortion positivity” to global rights, men’s roles, and why abortion must be seen as a social good.Abortion is one of the most stigmatized topics in society — and this conversation takes it head-on.In this episode, we sit down with abortion advocate Sophie Nir to explore the realities of abortion rights, stigma, and advocacy. Together, we unpack:How stigma and misinformation shape the abortion debateWhy shifting to “abortion positivity” changes the conversationThe role of partners and men in supporting reproductive rightsThe global landscape of abortion vs. the unique challenges in the U.S.How language, culture, and politics influence the way abortion is understoodWhy abortion should be recognized as a social good, not a source of shameWe also share personal perspectives on identity, political beliefs, and the intersections of global conflicts — including Israel–Palestine — with conversations around justice, autonomy, and control of women’s bodies.It’s a raw, informative, and deeply personal discussion about reproductive rights, stigma, advocacy, and the urgent need for a cultural shift in how we talk about abortion.https://www.abortionpositivity.com/http://instagram.com/abortionpositivityhttp://tiktok.com/@abortionpositivityBUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredMichael admits failure embarrasses him. Louie confesses to a codependent moment. Together they explore imperfection, relationships, and what growth really looks like.In this episode, he shares how failure feels embarrassing, why imperfection is so uncomfortable, and what it means to be okay with being seen as flawed. Louie and Michael debate the phrase “figure it out” — is it tough love or secretly insulting?Michael opens up about practicing reliance and verbal processing with the people in his life, while Louie reflects on a recent codependent moment that sparks tension between them.It’s a vulnerable and funny conversation about trying new things, embracing failure, communication in relationships, and the messy process of personal growth.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Louie reflects on radical acceptance, family wounds, and whether he truly desires a connection with his father.This week, Louie and Michael unpack the idea of fatherhood — from the hypothetical qualities they wish they’d had in a dad, to what it means to grow up without a father figure. Louie challenges Michael’s story of not having one, and shares his perspective on who carries the responsibility for repairing parent–child relationships.Michael opens up about how codependency and avoidance have shaped his romantic life, especially in a long-distance relationship. He shares the painful reality of emotional whiplash — the push–pull, yo-yo effect — and how it impacts intimacy, trust, and connection.It’s a vulnerable and raw conversation about fathers, family dynamics, codependency, and the difficult process of learning to accept people as they are while still protecting your own emotional health.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Louie has a bone to pick with the audience over last week’s episode — and his therapist has thoughts.This week, Louie unpacks why being “hard to argue with” might be hurting his relationships, and what it really means to meet people where they are without losing yourself. Michael shares a fresh example of Louie’s dismissive side and opens up about the possibility of having Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).Louie reflects on a recent conversation with his mom that stirred unexpected discomfort, while Michael shares lessons from his CODA (Codependents Anonymous) meetings about boundaries, connection, and self-awareness.It’s an honest, funny, and vulnerable conversation about communication, self-growth, family dynamics, and the messy process of trying to show up authentically in relationships.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Michael and Louie get real about boundaries, control, and what it takes to accept people — especially family — as they are.This week, Louie opens up about deciding to accept his mom for who she is, letting go of the hope for a deeper emotional connection, and navigating the grief that comes with a more shallow relationship. Michael shares how childhood neglect, acts of service, and the loss of key family support have shaped the way he gives and receives love. Together, they unpack emotional walls (“the bricks”), codependency, the need for validation, and how old wounds show up in adult relationships. And then we get into a fight over communication. Autism vs ADHD: the Showdown.It’s raw, unfiltered, and sometimes hilarious — a deep dive into family dynamics, attachment, emotional boundaries, and why some conversations feel like battles.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Louie’s new therapist introduced him to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — and it’s already getting personal.In what early listeners have called our "most beautiful episode yet"... Louie brings EFT-style attachment questions to the pod, exploring what he and Michael learned from their families about vulnerability, emotional safety, and connection. They reflect on how their mothers shaped their ability (or inability) to express feelings, the emotional roles they were expected to play, and what it means to unlearn emotional avoidance as adults.If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why is vulnerability so hard for me?” — this one’s for you.topics: emotionally focused therapy, EFT, therapy podcast, attachment styles, emotional vulnerability, childhood trauma, family dynamics, inner child healing, men’s mental health, emotional avoidance, healing relationships, therapy questions, how to be vulnerable, funny therapy podcastBUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Michael has a new therapist — again — and session one gets heavy fast.In this episode, Michael opens up about his childhood introduction to pornography, the grief of losing his mom, and how he's been (literally) conjuring her in his mind. He shares his fears around trying new things, the weight of codependency, and the haunting voice of his inner critic… which sounds a lot like his mother. Louie joins in to reflect on shame, identity, and the early experiences that shaped them both.It’s an honest, funny, and deeply emotional conversation about therapy, loss, childhood trauma, and learning how to grow without the people who shaped us — for better or worse.Topics: mental health podcast, grief and loss, inner critic, codependency, childhood trauma, therapy session, pornography addiction, men’s mental health, self-discovery, healing journey, comedy and grief, emotional resilience, parent wound, unlicensed therapy podcastBUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie can’t stop wondering if his therapist is a Trump supporter. Louie talks about the early sessions of starting therapy, including opening up about his depression, anxiety, and trauma through intake surveys. He also shares why he’s on a mission to find a hobby — and how it could transform every relationship in his life. Michael has a theory about why Louie hates schedules, and opens up about his own identity struggles. Together, they ask a big, uncomfortable question: Who gets to decide what makes someone a good person?It’s a vulnerable, funny, and deeply honest conversation about starting therapy, navigating mental health, identity, and the awkwardness that comes with trying to grow.Topics: mental health podcast, starting therapy, depression and anxiety, trauma recovery, identity and self-worth, therapy for men, funny therapy podcast, personal growth, male friendship, comedy meets vulnerability.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie and Michael just had intake sessions with their new therapists—and the experiences couldn’t have been more different. Louie returns to working with a woman therapist and unpacks what it’s like doing virtual therapy from the intimacy of your own space. He opens up about childhood trauma, the emotional impact of therapy on Zoom, and why his new therapist has never used social media—and what that says about mental health today.Meanwhile, Michael is adjusting to a new relationship dynamic and facing fear in unexpected places—including a moment when his partner fell asleep and he felt too anxious to go for a walk. The two discuss how fear of abandonment, relational anxiety, and early trauma still show up—then dive into a classic role play that spirals in the most chaotic (and healing?) way.If you're into therapy, emotional processing, relationship dynamics, or navigating modern mental health—this episode is for you.Who doesn't love muffins, ya know.Topics:Virtual therapy vs in-person sessionsFear of abandonment & relationship anxietySocial media and mental healthFirst therapy sessions and trauma discoveryRole play therapy (with laughs and breakthroughs) BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions involving sexual assault. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/ponybearstudioshttp://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon for Exclusives MERCH - Shop Merch Follow us here:  http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comThis episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tension between processing emotions vs. taking action, explore their very different approaches to therapy, and debate what real growth actually looks like. The episode takes a deeper turn as they confront generational trauma, emotional triggers, and what it takes to break toxic family cycles. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael unpacks a vivid dream that stirred up old wounds, leading to a raw conversation about how he’s really processed his grief. He and Louie dive into what “showing emotion” actually means—especially for men—and why crying in front of people feels impossible. Louie opens up about a therapy exercise that triggered a full-blown panic attack, and the episode takes a deeper turn as they both reflect on their childhoods and how it shaped them. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:How can I talk to you better?" vs. "What can we do differently?" Selfless care vs. reputation management Guilt-driven repair vs. genuine accountabilityThey dissect what it means to feel dismissed, how panic can hijack your intention, and why changing how you speak to someone isn’t always love — sometimes it’s self-erasure. It’s funny, it’s chaotic, and Also featuring: – “You hit me with a baseball!” – Weaponized ‘I miss you’s – A fake breakup that feels a little too real – Love on the spectrum – And Michael finally realizing he’s never actually thought before speaking 🙃 BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comThis is probably our most uncomfortable conversation so far... This week, we dive into the messy beauty of personal growth, family trauma, and the illusion of progress. Michael spirals into thoughts about mortality and uncovers patterns passed down through his family—aka the “family curse.” He opens up about feeling stuck, avoiding discomfort, and calling it self-improvement. Louie isn’t having it. He calls out the loopholes, the fake growth, and the safety blanket of the comfort zone. There’s tension. There’s truth. There’s laughter in between the heavy stuff. If you’ve ever felt stuck, lied to yourself in the name of growth, or wondered if your trauma is inherited—this one’s for you. mental health, therapy, self-awareness, generational trauma, comfort zone, vulnerability, personal development, funny therapy podcast BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks