Self Led Love with Bahia Miller

What if the key to raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids isn’t controlling behavior—but deepening connection?In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Miller is joined by parent coach and IFS practitioner Lisa Winer to explore a powerful blend of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Neufeld relational developmental approach. Together, they unpack how attachment, emotional safety, and understanding your own “parts” transform the way you parent—and partner.You’ll learn why behavior is never the real problem, how to work with your reactive parts, and what your child actually needs to thrive. This is especially powerful for parents navigating toddlers, big emotions, screen time, and different parenting styles in relationships.✨ Inside this episode: Why attachment—not behavior—is the foundation of development  How to work with the part of you that “loses it”  What “counterwill” is (and why your kid resists)  A nuanced take on screen time + emotional health Why play (even aggressive play) supports development  Navigating different parenting styles in partnershipThis episode will shift how you see your child—and yourself. Whether you’re parenting a toddler, teen, or your own inner child, this is a must-listen.🎧 Tune in to lead your family from Self.Connect with Lisa Winer: Website: https://www.lisaweiner.coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisaweiner.parentcoach Neufeld Institute: https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/Resources:Hold On to Your Kids – Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté If this resonated, share it with a parent who needs this reminder: connection comes first 💛✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

SELF LED LOVE episode 13 - Reflections from IFS Level 3 TrainingAfter completing the highest level of IFS training available directly from the IFS Institute, Bahia shares what's alive in her after a week of deep immersion — and what she's bringing back to her work with clients and couples.In this episode:- The round table visualization — Rather than asking parts to step back, a practice of inviting every part of the system into the circle. Managers, firefighters, exiles — all welcomed, all belonging.- Cultural legacy burdens — How do systemic forces like capitalism, patriarchy, and racism live in our parts? And how does that show up in partnerships where two people are reckoning with those burdens on different timelines?- Neurodiversity & the organized self — Bahia opens up about her own journey as a highly sensitive person and holds space for those wondering what neurodivergence means for their relationships and sense of self.- Grief as sacred frequency — Coming full circle to where her IFS journey began, Bahia reflects on grief not as a part to fix, but as a shared, human experience that deserves witnessing, containment, and community.- Spirituality in the model — A gentle exploration of what it means to connect with life itself — and an open invitation if that's a conversation you want to have.✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Do you and your partner keep having the same fight on repeat — different topic, same exhausting pattern? In this episode of Self-Led Love, host and certified IFS practitioner Bahia Miller breaks down exactly why couples get stuck in these cycles and offers a three-step framework for finally shifting them.Bahia walks you through the difference between the content of a conflict (what you're fighting about) and the process (how your protective parts are showing up) — and why the process is almost always what keeps you looping. She also shares a vulnerable, real-time example from her own marriage to bring this framework to life.In this episode:Why "same fight, different day" is actually a portal for growthHow to become a curious scientist of your relationship patternsContent vs. process: the layer most couples missHow protective parts and exiles drive recurring conflictA real example from Bahia's own relationship (and what she's learning from it)How to move from reactive to collaborative — and even playfulThe three-step process for dismantling recurring cyclesKeywords: relationship patterns, IFS couples, internal family systems relationships, recurring arguments, conscious relationship, couples communication, protective parts, self-led love, relationship growth, emotional responsibility, Bahia Miller podcast👉 Grab the Self-Led Love Checklist below to identify your work, your partner's work, and your shared responsibility in the relationship.✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

What if your sexual self is already whole and complete? IFS-informed sex therapist Patricia Rich joins host Bahia Miller to explore self-led sexuality, the Six S's framework, internal consent, and how couples — especially parents — can reconnect.If sex feels complicated, confusing, or somewhere you've just stopped going — this episode is for you.This week, Bahia welcomes Patricia Rich, LCSW, CST-S — certified Level 3 IFS therapist, approved consultant, and AACT certified sex therapist — for a deeply honest conversation about what it means to bring Internal Family Systems into our most intimate spaces.Together they explore why talking about sex feels so vulnerable, how our parts shape (and sometimes block) our sexual experience, and how Patricia's original framework — the Six S's of Sexual Self-Energy — can serve as both a roadmap and a coming-home.You'll Learn:- Why sexuality is such a tender, complex trailhead in IFS work — and why that's completely normal- The Six S's of Sexual Self-Energy — and how to use them as parts detectors and positive trailheads- What internal consent is, why it matters, and how it's different from interpersonal consent- How parts-led vs. self-led sexuality actually feels different in the body- Why parents especially lose the thread of sexual connection — and simple, self-led ways to find it againConnect with  Patricia:www.patriciarich.comSelf-Led in Bed PodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/patriciarichconsulting/Join the Self-Led Sexuality Free Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfleds3xualitywithpatriciarichSign up for Patricia’s email list and get the free The Six S's of Sexual Self-Energy Infographic.✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

A Three-Part Framework for Walking Through the Fire with Courage, Clarity & CareIn this solo episode, Bahia Miller offers a practical, parts-informed road map for having the difficult conversations that matter — not to win, not to blame, but to be truly known and to truly know another.Because here's the truth: avoiding the conversation has a cost too. And more often than not, it's a bigger one.You'll learn:Why difficult conversations are actually an act of self-love, not just relational courageThe critical first step: getting clear on what you actually need to say (and which parts are in the way)How to have a "conversation about the conversation" to ease reactivity before you even beginBrené Brown's powerful reframe of putting the issue across the table — so you're on the same teamHow to use a parts map as a communication tool with your partnerSubtle communication shifts that will change the trajectory of the conversation. ✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Learning to speak FOR Parts, FROM Self — rather than from a reactive part — can transform the way we communicate in relationships. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller explores the difference between speaking for your parts vs. speaking from your parts, why our impulses to make others change often backfire, and how taking a pause — a U-turn — can help us respond with clarity, compassion, and accountability. She shares practical ways to slow down, understand what’s happening inside, and communicate vulnerably and courageously.Reflection: Next time you feel triggered, notice what parts of you are activated. How can you slow down and come into relationship with your parts before sharing with your partner?Free resources:Transform Your Triggers Unblending Meditation: www.bahiamiller.com/unblendSelf-Led Love Checklist: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistExplore more from Bahia: www.bahiamiller.comWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASTbahiamiller.com/repair-workshop✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

What if you could transform your most important relationships — not through big dramatic changes, but through 1% shifts in how you show up?In this episode, host Bahia Miller leads you through a guided IFS-inspired meditation using the Five Ps of Self Energy: Presence, Patience, Perspective, Playfulness, and Persistence. Like the well-known Eight Cs, these five qualities live within all of us — and our parts, when activated, can block them from shining through.You'll be guided to choose one relationship in your life and gently explore how each of these qualities shows up (or gets blocked) in that dynamic — and what even a tiny increase might offer you both.In this episode, you'll explore:The Five Ps of IFS and how they differ from the Eight Cs of Self EnergyA full guided meditation to explore your relational patterns with one person in your lifeHow to identify the parts that block presence, patience, perspective, playfulness, and persistenceWhy "1% more" is a powerful, sustainable lens for relationship growthHow to bring your partner into this conversation as a shared practiceThis episode is for you if:You're doing IFS work and want to apply it directly to your relationshipsYou feel stuck in certain relational patterns and want a fresh, embodied perspectiveYou're curious about how your parts show up with the people you love most⚠️ Please note: This episode contains a guided meditation. Do not listen while driving. You may want a pen and paper nearby.Mentioned in this episode:The Unblending Meditation https://bahiamiller.com/unblend✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Join Seth for his signature Points of Light meditation.  You will be invited to circulate love and light throughout your whole system between parts + self.  This meditation can provide a boost of connection and coherence to your system.  Enjoy! About Seth KopaldSeth Kopald, PhD is a certified Level 3 IFS practitioner and presenter, training program assistant for IFS Levels 1, 2, and 3, and a longtime member of Dick Schwartz's retreat staff. He holds a PhD in organizational management and a master's in education. Seth is the author of Self-Led and specializes in spirituality and the mystical dimensions of IFS, exquisite attunement, self-led parenting, and communication coaching.🌐 sethkopald.com — free videos, podcast episodes, and his book Self-Led✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

What if being truly understood by your partner feels almost identical to being loved? In this rich conversation, host Bahia Miller sits down with Seth Kopald — Certified Level 3 IFS practitioner and author of Self-Led — to explore what it really means to let your inner parts make room for love.Seth and Bahia unpack the subtle but profound shift from parts-driven reactivity to self-led connection in intimate partnership. Whether you're deep in your IFS journey or just beginning, this episode will give you language, tools, and a fresh lens for the hardest and most human work there is: learning to love and be loved.In This Episode- Why being understood and feeling loved are almost indistinguishable — and what that means for how we communicate- What it means to have a "team within" — and how to get your parts to let Self lead the conversation- The secret unspoken contracts we bring into relationships (and why they always backfire)- How to get consent before a hard conversation — and why it changes everything- The difference between speaking from a part versus speaking for a part- Why forgiveness isn't about letting someone off the hook — it's about releasing the poison from your own system- Practical unblending strategies you can use in the moment and before hard conversations- A guided meditation to connect with the self-energy already living inside your partsAbout Seth KopaldSeth Kopald, PhD is a certified Level 3 IFS practitioner and presenter, training program assistant for IFS Levels 1, 2, and 3, and a longtime member of Dick Schwartz's retreat staff. He holds a PhD in organizational management and a master's in education. Seth is the author of Self-Led and specializes in spirituality and the mystical dimensions of IFS, exquisite attunement, self-led parenting, and communication coaching.🌐 sethkopald.com — free videos, podcast episodes, and his book Self-LedResources MentionedSelf-Led by Seth KopaldInternal Family Systems (IFS) — developed by Richard SchwartzImago Relationship Therapy (Harville Hendrix)No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert GloverThich Nhat Hanh — Being Peacewww.bahiamiller.com book a discovery call today!✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Struggling with recurring fights in your relationship? Wondering how to rebuild emotional safety after disconnection?In this episode of Self-Led Love, I break down the most important relationship skill for long-term intimacy: repair.Using a real story from my own marriage (yes, the dinner where I kept interrupting my husband’s storytelling), I model what healthy conflict repair actually looks like in practice.You’ll learn the three essential components of effective relationship repair:Accountability – Taking responsibility for your part in the conflict.Validation – Understanding the emotional impact of your behavior.Creating a New Reality – Changing patterns to build trust and safety.If you care about conscious partnership, emotional maturity, attachment healing, or applying Internal Family Systems (IFS) to relationships, this episode will give you practical tools for conflict resolution and deeper intimacy.Repair isn’t just an apology. It’s how couples rebuild trust. It’s how communication improves. It’s how love becomes safer over time.Want a step-by-step framework? My workshop Repair for Relationship Resilience offers a complete roadmap. Podcast listeners can access it for $22 with code PODCAST.www.bahiamiller.com/repair-workshopSubscribe for weekly episodes on relationship growth, IFS, emotional intelligence, and Self-Led Love.✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

ADHD can impact partnerships in all sorts of ways.  And without both partners doing the U-Turn to connect with their own parts... resentment builds... and the spark dwindles.  In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Miller is joined by Dr. Carol Shilliday—clinical psychologist, IFS assistant trainer, and longtime ADHD specialist—for a grounded, compassionate conversation about how ADHD shows up in intimate relationships.Together, we explore ADHD not as a character flaw, but as neurodivergent wiring that deeply affects executive functioning, dopamine, emotional regulation, and follow-through—and how, without understanding, it often turns into shame, resentment, parent/child dynamics, and disconnection in partnership.We talk about why ADHD is linked to higher divorce rates, how symptoms get misinterpreted as moral failures, and why both partners often end up feeling unseen and unloved.You’ll hear:Practical ADHD support strategies—without turning into controlthe subtle perspective shifts that empower ADHD partnershow critical acceptance, education and creativity are for ADHD partnershipsWe also explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps ADHD couples by working with parts, unblending from shame and criticism, and restoring self-leadership on both sides of the relationship.This episode is an invitation to move from blame to understanding—and from managing each other to partnering together.✨If this episode resonated, share it with a partner or friend—and consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help Self-Led Love reach more couples ready for repair. ✨Connect with Dr. Carol ShillidayEmail: [email protected]://www.drshillidaytherapy.com/PRE ORDER THE BOOK INSIDE ADHD HERE✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Understanding how our parts show up in relationships can transform the way we connect with ourselves and our partners. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller breaks down the different types of parts — managers, firefighters, and exiles — and how they influence patterns, conflicts, and intimacy in partnership. She explores the protective roles these parts take on, why they sometimes cause friction, and how bringing awareness to them can create space for healing and deeper connection.Reflection:What are the dominant parts showing up in your relationships? As you listen, notice what your exiles might be carrying underneath and how your protectors are trying to help.Free resources:Self-led Love Checklist: bahiamiller.com/checklistTransform Your Triggers Unblending Meditation: bahiamiller.com/unblendWork with Bahia:If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.Want to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASTbahiamiller.com/repair-workshop✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Motherhood changes everything — including which parts of us are in the forefront. In this episode, Bahia Miller is joined by Jessica Tomich Sorci for an honest and tender conversation about the profound identity shifts that occur when a woman becomes a mother.Together, they explore the reconfiguration of our inner parts, the emergence of “mom parts,” and the challenging emotions that come with this season of life. They discuss the impact of new parenthood on partnership, the pressure many parents feel to be cycle-breakers, and why community support, vulnerability, and asking for help are not luxuries — but necessities.Reflection:As you listen, notice which parts of you feel most present in your experience of motherhood (or parenthood). What do they need right now?Connect with Jessica Tomich Sorci: Mom Parts Community: momparts.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicatomichsorci/?hl=enPre-Order her book here: https://www.jessicatomichsorci.com/when-good-moms-feel-badFree resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.comWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community: Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22 Use code PODCAST✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Discover how triggers in relationships can actually be gifts for growth. Bahia Miller guides you in noticing your emotional, mental, and physical reactions, turning inward to understand your parts, and practicing curiosity instead of blame. Learn how to pause, reflect, and respond skillfully to build self-sovereignty and healthier connections.Free ResourcesSelf-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblendWork with Bahia:If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.Want to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASTbahiamiller.com/repair-workshop✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Bahia Miller explores three foundational strategies for approaching the question “Can this relationship be saved?”—especially when things have been hard for a long time.In this episode, you’ll learn about:Why detaching from a specific outcome can restore clarity and choiceHow turning toward your pain (and resentment) reveals powerful inner lessonsWhat it looks like to embody your inner work in real relationshipThe difference between saving a relationship and saving your relationship to yourselfHow to discern whether your partner has the capacity to grow with youA gentle invitation: As you listen, notice where you may be choosing attachment over authenticity—or where your inner parts are asking for more honesty, care, or responsibility.Free Resources:Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblendWork with Bahia:If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.Want to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Bahia Miller defines SELF LED LOVE and the importance & nuance of taking responsibility for your parts, building trust with yourself, and showing up consciously in relationships. Learn how noticing and tending to your inner parts can reduce reactivity, deepen connection, and transform relationship cycles. Self-led love is about awareness, repair, and growth—not perfection.Free Resources:Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblendWork with Bahia:If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.Want to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...

Bahia Miller introduces Self-Led Love and her mission to support others in learning to meet triggers with compassion, take responsibility for their parts, and build love rooted in self-leadership and emotional intimacy. Free Resources:Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unblendWork with Bahia:If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.Want to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASTbahiamiller.com/repair-workshop✨ Follow on IG: @bahiamiller🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblendThe Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklistwww.bahiamiller.com🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlistWant to go deeper into the work?🎧 For our podcast community:Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22Use code PODCASThttps://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...