Selfie
by Kristen Howerton
Let’s talk self-care and mental health. Kristen Howerton, writer and psychotherapist, is joined by her longtime pal Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, side-eye aficionado, and dog dad, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Can self-care be for everyone? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s in this face mask? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Matthias are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should. Like that 6pm deadline butting up against 6:30pm soccer practice.
Episodes
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Caleb Wilde: WHAT A MORTICIAN CAN TEACH US ABOUT LIVING | Selfie Episode 244
Can embracing our mortality help us living more fully? Caleb Wilde, author of Confessions of a Funeral Director, shares with us some of his insights about facing death and what we can learn from loss. Check out his latest book All the Ways Our Dead Still Speak: A Funeral Director on Life, Death,...
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Karen Walrond on Cultivating Healthy Friendships | Selfie Podcast Episode 243
We chat with author Karen Walrond on how to cultivate friendships and create healthy boundaries. Check out Karen Walrond’s podcast Make Light and her book The Lightmaker's Manifesto: How to Work for Change without Losing Your Joy. .
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Dr. Nisha Jackson on Avoiding Burnout | Selfie Podcast Episode 242
Stress can wreak havoc on every aspect of our health. We talk with Dr. Nisha Jackson about burnout, what it can do to our body, and how to avoid it. In this episode we also talked about: Brilliant Burnout Atomic Habits
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CHRISTINE KOH ON INTROVERSION AND SELF-CARE | SELFIE EPISODE 241
Kristen and Christine put on their therapist hats to talk about introversion and self-care. Christine Koh is a former music and brain neuroscientist turned author and blogger. She co-hosts the Edit Your Life Podcast and co-wrote the book Minimalist Parenting.
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SELF-CARE AS A TRANS PERSON: AN INTERVIEW WITH CASEY BROWN | SELFIE EPISODE 240
Casey Brown shares vulnerably about the realities of self-care as a trans person, from being misgendered to the struggle of public bathrooms, as well as some of the unique learnings about skincare, shaving, and more as they began hormone therapy last year. We learned a lot from Casey and hope you...
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LATASHA MORRISON ON RACIAL JUSTICE AND MOVING FROM OUTRAGE TO ACTION | SELFIE EPISODE 239
We are chatting with Latasha Morrison, author of Be the Bridge, about racial justice, and specifically about Ahmaud Arbery and how we can take our outrage and push towards action.
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Lisa Damour on Raising Preteens/Teens | Selfie Episode 238
I’m talking with fellow therapist Lisa Damour about raising preteens and teens, how to promote empathy and self-esteem while also promoting resilience, and what the pandemic is doing to an already stressed-out generation. Lisa is the author of the books Under Pressure and Untangled.
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DRINKING AS A COPING SKILL: KERRY COHEN ON HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH | SELFIE EPISODE 237
We’re talking about drinking and when to know when it’s a problem with Kerry Cohen, author of Lush: A Memoir. Many of us like a glass of wine or two to wind down at the end of the day, and there is a preponderance of cultural references to women and drinking as a kind of social contract. Kerry...
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MELANIE SHANKLE ON PARENTING TEENS AND THE MIDDLE SPACE | SELFIE PODCAST 236
We are talking with author Melanie Shankle on raising teenagers, finding our own sense of self as a mom, and being in the weird middle place of life. Melanie is the co-host of the Big Boo Podcast and author of On the Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love, and Being True to Yourself as well…
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SLAYING THE VALIDATION-SEEKING WITH TIFFANY REESE | SELFIE PODCAST EPISODE 235
Today I am talking with Tiffany Reese, the podcaster behind Something Was Wrong and author of Strong Women Rising. Tiffany and I talk about the ongoing journey of letting go of the need for validation from others, how we’ve worked to let go of perfectionism, and how we are trying to teach these...
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REDEFINING “PERFECT” WITH GLENNON DOYLE | SELFIE EPISODE 234
We are revisiting a conversation with author and speaker Glennon Doyle about letting go of expectations and redefining “perfect”, and her new book Untamed. We love Ritual vitamins, but did you know they have a new probiotic product? Ritual’s Synbiotic+ is science-backed and research-stacked.…
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The Peacemakers: Talking Enneagram Type 9 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Sarah Bessey | Selfie Podcast Episode 233
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 9, and we revisit a conversation with Sarah Bessey, author of Jesus Feminist and A Rhythm of Prayer. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you...
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The Challengers: Talking Enneagram 8 | Selfie Episode 232
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 8, and we revisit a conversation with an interview with blogger (and mom of 9) Heidi Weimer. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can…
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The Enthusiastic Visionary: Talking Enneagram Type 7 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Ryan Walton | Selfie Podcast Episode 231
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 7, and we revisit a conversation withWe also chat with Ryan Walton, writer at coach with DaringtoDad.com, about being an enneagram type 7. More enneagram resources: To take…
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The Loyal Skeptic: Talking Enneagram Type 6 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Carlee Lane | Selfie Podcast Episode 230
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 6, and we revisit a conversation with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this…
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The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 5 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kelley Nikondeha | Selfie Podcast Episode 229
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 5, and we revisit a conversation with Kelley Nikondeha , author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World, about some of the unique strengths and challenges…
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The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 4 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Holly Rankin Zaher | Selfie Epispde 228
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 4, and we revisit a conversation with Holly Rankin Zaher about being an Enneagram Type 4. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit...
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The Achievers: Talking Enneagram Type 3 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Sarah James | Selfie Epispde 227
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 3, and we revisit a conversation between Kristen and Sarah James about the experience of being type 3’s. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type,...
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The Caretakers: Talking Enneagram 2 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Meagan Francis | Selfie Episode 226
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 2, and we revisit a conversation with Meagen Francis of The Mom Hour who shares her personal experience as a type 2. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out…
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Talking Enneagram 1's with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kendra Adachi | Selfie Podcast Episode 225
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In this episode we are talking about enneagram type 1, followed by a previously recorded interview with Kendra…
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What can we learn from the Enneagram? A new series with Micky Scottbey Jones | Selfie Podcast Episode 22
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky Scottbey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In the following nine episodes we will be doing a deep dive into each type! In this episode we also talk about: The...
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The Effect of Anti-LGBTQ+ Legislation on Kids + Commercializing Celebrations | Selfie Episode 223
A listener asks how to help their queer kids as they continue to hear about sweeping anti-LGBTQ+ legislation. Plus, Matthias and Kristen talk about the commercialization of Pride and other celebrations. Kristen also shares an update from her ketamine therapy. Links + Resources: Bars Over Bottles...
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Relationship Anxiety + Supporting a Spouse with Depression | Selfie Episode 222
How do you support a spouse with depression? And why are there so many TV shows about people with personality disorders right now? Plus, Matthias shares his favorite resources for relationship anxiety and Kristen shares some show recommendations! Links + Resources Attachment Style Quiz Anxiously...
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Processing Tragedy When the Helpers Didn't Help + How Much Should We Follow our Feelings? : Selfie Podcast Episode 221
We are discussing the tragedy in Uvalde, and how to process the feelings of helplessness and despair around gun violence, paired with the shocking discoveries around law enforcement's failures that day. We follow up on our convo from last week around feelings and butterflies, and what to do when...
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My Husband Isn’t Helping Equally + Butterflies and True Love | Selfie Episode 220
A listener wonders, "what do I do if I feel like my husband isn’t helping equally?" Plus, Matthias and Kristen chat through why butterflies aren't always the most reliable indicator of true love. Links + Resources: Ninja Foodi Pressure Cooker + Air Fryer Sent Away Podcast Fair Play Cards Beyond...
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Anxiety About Roe v. Wade + Can You Be Friends With People You're Attracted To? | Selfie Episode 219
Kristen and Matthias answer a listener who wonders if it's healthy to make friends with people you're attracted to while in a partnership. Then, they chat about anxiety around national events like the possible repeal of Roe v. Wade. Plus, Kristen shares what happened when she got in a fight with…
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Centering Practices for Anxiety + Personality Disorders 101 | Selfie Episode 218
A listener asks about quick centering practices to help in her busy and high anxiety life. Kristen and Matthias chat through a couple personality disorders that have been in the news a lot recently. Plus, Kristen explains the newest skincare treatment she's tried: sebaceous hyperplasia burning....
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Teen Sleepovers + Different Genders Rooming Together at College | Selfie Episode 217
A listener asks about their college age kid rooming together with someone of a different gender, Matthias and Kristen discuss this alongside the complexity of teen sleepovers with different genders and sexual orientations. Plus, the Amber Heard/Johnny Depp trial and the reality that domestic...
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Healthy Habits vs. Meds + Psychedelic-Assisted Therapies | Selfie Episode 216
Psychedelics are at the cutting edge of mental-health research right now. Kristen talks about how she's about to try ketamine therapy for her depression and chats with Matthias about his experience in psychedelic-assisted therapy. Then, a listener asks about trying meds for her depression or...
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ADHD and Kids | Selfie Episode 215
This week, Kristen and Matthias are talking about all things ADHD and kids. A listener wonders, how do you know when to seek an ADHD diagnosis for young school age kids? Then, they discuss the ways TikTok is enabling predatory ADHD advertisers to target young users. Plus, a mental health check in...
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When A Teen's Friend Is Negatively Impacting Their Mental Health | Selfie Episode 214
This week, a listener asks what to do when their teenager's friends are negatively affecting their mental health. Kristen and Matthias discuss birthdays as adults and a new kind of face mask Kristen is using. Plus, former TikTok content moderators filed a lawsuit over ‘psychological trauma’ --...
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Why Don't Good Therapists Take Insurance? | Selfie Episode 213
This week, Kristen and Matthias chat about how difficult it is to find a therapist who takes insurance. Why is that? Kristen also shares about a new type of therapy for chronic pain she's having success with. Plus, with the recent news of more suicides at Stanford, Matthias and Kristen talk about...
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All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep with Andre Henry | Selfie Episode 212
Kristen chats with author Andre Henry about his new book All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep: Hope-and Hard Pills to Swallow-About Fighting for Black Lives. But first, Matthias and Kristen check in on how their weeks are going and share their new favorite kitchen gadgets...plus an easy dinner...
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Helping Someone During a Panic Attack + What's Up With These Fraud Schemes? | Selfie Episode 211
A listener wonders: "How can I help my teen when they're having a panic attack?" Kristen and Matthias share tips that will help during any panic attack. Plus, with so many new TV shows dramatizing high-profile fraud schemes (Inventing Anna, The Tinder Swindler, The Drop Out) Matthias and Kristen...
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Working for Change Without Losing Your Joy with Karen Walrond | Selfie Episode 210
This week, Kristen chats with Karen Walrond about her new book The Lightmaker's Manifesto: How to Work for Change Without Losing Your Joy. But first, Matthias and Kristen check in on the week and share some thumbs up on books and tv shows....and some thumbs down. Links + Resources Karen Walrond's...
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Feeling Guilty While People Are Suffering + Should I Let My Teen Watch Euphoria? | Selfie Episode 209
Listener note: this episode gets a bit explicit. Kristen and Matthias discuss feeling guilty for being okay while people are suffering. Then, they answer a listener question about whether parents should let their teens watch Euphoria. Plus, a new study suggests that men are viewed as being more...
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Making Decisions With No Sense of Direction + Are People Who Worship Celebrities Less Intelligent? | Selfie Episode 208
This week, a listener asks "how do I make decisions when I constantly don't have any sense of direction?" Plus, a new study suggests that people who worship celebrities might be less intelligent? Kristen and Matthias discuss. Links + Resources: Home Run Inn Frozen Pizza Remrise Sleep Powder…
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Let's Talk About Race with Dr. Nancy Dome | Selfie Episode 207
Today, Kristen is chatting with Dr. Nancy Dome about her new book Let's Talk About Race (And Other Hard Things): A Framework for Having Conversations That Build Bridges, Strengthen Relationships, and Set Clear Boundaries. Plus, Matthias and Kristen check in on their mental health and Two Thumbs…
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Is Parenting Toddlers or Teens Harder? + Should My Teen Go To Parties With Alcohol? | Selfie Episode 206
Kristen and Matthias discuss the trend of parents hosting parties for teens with alcohol. Should your teen be allowed to go? Plus, they discuss new research that seems to answer the decades old question: is parenting toddlers or teens harder? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Jessica about...
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My Teen Wants Snapchat + Why Can't We Stop Scrolling? | Selfie Episode 205
A listener wonders about letting their teenager have Snapchat. Plus, Matthias and Kristen talk about new research that helps explain our scrolling addictions and their favorite non-alcoholic drink options! Links + Resources: Athletic Brewing Company Non-Alcoholic Beer Seedlip Non-Alcoholic…
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When Your Coparent Wants to be a Friend Instead of a Parent + Why is Joe Rogan so Popular? | Selfie Episode 204
Today, a listener asks about coparenting with a parent who wants to be a friend instead of a parent. Kristen and Matthias chat about why they think Joe Rogan and other men like him are so popular. And...composting! Today's What I Want You To Know is from Jennifer about not regretting her…
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Our Wordle Obsession + Dating During the Pandemic | Selfie Episode 203
Wordle has swept the internet! Matthias and Kristen discuss the reason the game is so popular. Plus, a listener wonders about dating during the pandemic, and Kristen shares her new self-care tool she doesn't want to leave lying around the house. Today's What I Want You To Know is from Kari about...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: When We've Already Failed Our Resolutions | Selfie Podcast Episode 202
What do we do when we've already failed our New Year's resolutions? Plus, with the new season of Dexter + the onslaught of true crime documentaries, what's up with the fascination with serial killers? And...are low-rise jeans making a comeback? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Angela…
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: Grieving Celebrity Deaths + Finding Alone Time for Yourself | Selfie Podcast Episode 201
Kristen and Matthias talk about the strangeness and difficulty of grieving celebrity deaths. Plus, a listener asks: "my kids are staying up until 11ish and I can’t relax until they’re asleep, how do I get alone time?" Links + Resources Travel Purse Philo TV Nutrafol has helped thousands of women...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: COVID Guilt + Talking About Parental Estrangement | Selfie Podcast Episode 200
Happy New Year! This week Kristen and Matthias are discussing the particular kind of guilt people are feeling when they get COVID after months and years of trying to be as safe as possible. Plus, a listener question about talking to kids about parental estrangement. Links + Resources Boox Tablet...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: Finding Time for Yourself + the Rise of "Therapy Speak" | Selfie Podcast Episode 199
Today, a listener asks "how do I find time for myself between homeschooling young kids and my husband working a lot." Plus, Kristen and Matthias discuss the rise of "therapy speak" in regular conversations...and Matthias shares his favorite pretzel recipe! Today's What I Want You To Know is from...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: Pandemic Stress + Setting Boundaries with Non-Toxic People | Selfie Podcast Episode 198
We're all feeling a bit more pandemic stress in the midst of the holidays + the new omicron variant. Kristen and Matthias discuss research that shows memes might be there to help? Plus, what does it look like to set boundaries with kind/loving parents and non-toxic people? Today's What I Want You...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: Is Coaching the New MLM? | Selfie Podcast Episode 197
It seems so many people are becoming coaches or coaches to coaches, Kristen and Matthias discuss the trend. Plus, a listener's husband is getting on her nerves because of his "concerns" about getting a vasectomy, what should she do? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Christine Sicinski about...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: How Much Do I Share With My Teen About My Teenage Years? | Selfie Podcast Episode 196
This week, Kristen and Matthias chat through how much is appropriate to share with teens about our own teenage years. Plus, are active shooter drills in schools helpful or harmful? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Beth McCormack about delivering a child with a congenital heart defect and...
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Selfie Presents The Cardigan: Revenge Procrastination, Britney Spears, and What I Want You to Know | Selfie Podcast Episode 195
This week, Kristen and Matthias introduce a new series called “What I Want You to Know” featuring stories from Selfie listeners. Plus, revenge procrastination: what is it and how do we stop staying up so late? And, Britney Spears is finally free! What is a conservatorship and what does her new...
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Let’s talk self-care and mental health. Kristen Howerton, writer and psychotherapist, is joined by her longtime pal Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, side-eye aficionado, and dog dad, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Can self-care be for everyone? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s in this face mask? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Matthias are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should. Like that 6pm deadline butting up against 6:30pm soccer practice.
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