The Conscious Divorce

Divorce can disrupt your sleep, nutrition, movement, and mental health. Learn practical ways to care for your body, manage stress, rebuild healthy habits, and feel stronger during and after divorce.Divorce can affect far more than your emotions. It can disrupt your sleep, appetite, energy, routines, and overall health. In this conversation, Justin Milrad speaks with registered dietitian and wellness coach Meridan Zerner about how stress impacts the body and what you can do to recover. They explore five key pillars of health during divorce: sleep, nutrition, movement, stress regulation, and connection. You will also learn simple, realistic habits that can help you rebuild your strength, improve your mood, care for your children, and create a healthier life during and after divorce.0:00 — Rebuilding Your Health During Divorce4:32 — How Divorce Stress Affects the Body8:39 — Why Health Can’t Wait16:20 — From Victim Mindset to Triathlete21:01 — The Five Pillars of Divorce Recovery29:46 — Connection, Community, and Healing41:02 — Reclaim, Reboot, BecomeGoing through divorce can leave you feeling overwhelmed, reactive, and unsure of what to do next. Book a strategy session with Justin Milrad at reclaimandreboot.me/booking to get clear on your priorities, prepare for important decisions, and build a practical plan for moving forward. For personalized guidance on nutrition, energy, sleep, and sustainable health habits, connect with Meridan Zerner through MeridanZernerNutrition.com and learn how to care for your body during this demanding season.

Learn how to choose the right divorce attorney, avoid costly hiring mistakes, and control legal fees throughout the divorce processDownload the free guide: https://reclaimandreboot.me/how-to-choose-the-right-divorce-lawyer/Free Consultation: https://reclaimandreboot.me/bookingChoosing the right divorce attorney can shape far more than the outcome of your case. it can affect your finances, your children, your privacy, and the next decade of your life. In this episode, Justin Milrad explains how to identify the type of lawyer your situation truly requires, compare different divorce processes, avoid costly hiring mistakes, understand legal fees, spot red and green flags, and ask the questions that reveal whether an attorney is the right fit. You’ll also learn how to prepare for consultations, evaluate financial complexity, protect co-parenting relationships, and build a coordinated support team so you can make clear, strategic decisions instead of choosing from fear.0:00 — The hidden cost of choosing the wrong divorce attorney1:34 — What the show is about and why this decision matters3:41 — Justin’s personal experience and the real cost of a drawn-out divorce8:28 — The eight roles your attorney needs to play10:37 — Why the right fit matters more than reputation12:47 — The four paths of divorce: uncontested, mediation, collaborative, and litigation17:41 — The biggest mistakes people make when hiring an attorney20:51 — Understanding legal fees and how to control the total cost25:44 — How to interview and compare attorneys30:34 — Digital hygiene and protecting yourself during divorce32:12 — Building the right support team around your case35:29 — What to plan for after the divorce is final37:40 — The core takeaway: play for the next decade, not the next hearing39:13 — Free guide, resources, and closing

Unlock the secrets to mastering your financial future before, during, and after divorce, even if numbers aren’t your thing. Divorce isn't just a legal process; it’s a strategic business deal that, if navigated right, can transform your life for the better. In this episode, Justin Milrad welcomes Sherry Herzberg, a seasoned divorce navigator with an MBA and 28 years of operational expertise, who reveals how to take control of your finances in one of life's most challenging transitions.00:00 - The importance of women getting involved before divorce strikes00:28 - Divorce as a financial audit: revealing hidden information01:23 - Why divorce is a strategic, project-management process03:55 - Sherry Herzberg's unique role in organizing post-divorce finances05:18 - Setting boundaries and understanding the importance of professional help06:57 - Divorce understanding as a business process, not just emotion09:58 - Access, comprehension, and execution of financial data in divorce12:33 - The most common financial blind spot for couples contemplating divorce13:14 - Gathering key documents: statements, tax returns, and more14:37 - The critical role of credit reports and digital footprints19:44 - What not to do: moving money and risky behaviors during the process21:27 - The importance of legal and financial professionals to protect assets23:30 - The misunderstood value of assets: worth, taxes, and liquidity24:02 - End-of-divorce financial steps: review, monitor, and monitor again28:13 - Handling the family home: debts, emotional value, and affordability32:21 - Preventing costly errors with retirement accounts and pensions36:25 - The significance of cash flow planning, child support, and alimony considerations40:14 - Why creditors’ claims matter and how to protect your credit43:19 - Navigating post-decree tasks and ongoing financial responsibilities47:03 - Rebuilding your financial literacy immediately after divorce48:45 - Social Security benefits and pension considerations53:12 - Quick tips: actions to take now if divorce seems inevitable57:29 - The mindset shift: turning financial literacy into a decision, not an aptitude

Learn how to protect your money during divorce, avoid costly mistakes, divide assets wisely, and rebuild your financial future with confidence.In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, Justin Milrad speaks with divorce financial expert Leah Hadley about how to protect your money before, during, and after divorce. They explore how divorce affects people differently depending on age and life stage, why cash flow matters as much as the settlement itself, and how choices involving the family home, retirement accounts, Social Security, health insurance, and debt can shape your long-term financial future. Leah also explains which documents to gather, why equal-looking assets may have very different real values, how a QDRO works, and the practical steps needed to rebuild savings, reduce high-interest debt, and regain financial stability after divorce.00:00 Divorce and the financial reality03:20 Leah Hadley’s path into divorce finance06:39 How divorce affects younger families10:51 Gray divorce and retirement planning14:10 Health insurance after divorce17:44 Gaining clarity around your finances18:49 The emotional weight of money stress22:16 Financial documents to gather first25:33 Dividing assets, retirement accounts, and Social Security33:50 Beneficiaries and estate planning updates35:29 Deciding whether to keep the family home39:25 Rebuilding wealth after divorce44:25 Rapid-fire divorce finance questions48:14 Final takeaways and resourcesConnect With Leah HadleySchedule a consultation:https://www.greatlakesdfs.com/contact?kj_previewing=trueGet Leah’s book on Amazon:https://amzn.to/4fvEZsXJoin The Empowered Sisterhood:https://www.watchherthrive.co/empowered-sisterhoodConnect With Justin MilradBook a free divorce strategy consultation:https://reclaimandreboot.me/bookingExplore Justin’s divorce and co-parenting books:https://www.amazon.com/stores/Justin-Milrad/author/B0FB9FC6QCSubscribe to The Conscious Divorce Podcast for practical conversations about divorce strategy, finances, co-parenting, emotional recovery, and rebuilding your life.

Most people underestimate how complex and emotional divorce finances truly are, learn the step-by-step blueprint to protect your money during divorce.Most people think divorce is just about emotions but it’s also a silent crisis in your finances. If you’re navigating a breakup or widowhood, Donna Kendrick’s story will profoundly reshape how you see your financial future. From sudden loss at age 40 to rebuilding her life and helping others do the same, Donna reveals how confusion around money is costly and how you can turn chaos into clarity. In this eye-opening episode, Donna shares her personal journey from grief to financial empowerment, providing a blueprint for everyone facing the complex maze of divorce and major life transitions. You’ll discover the shocking pitfalls many overlook: failing to organize crucial documents, neglecting premarital assets, or misunderstanding the true worth of your retirement funds. Donna emphasizes that preparing financially isn’t greed, it’s survival. Using her own story, she exposes how a lack of foresight can cost women and men tens of thousands, or even millions, in future security.00:00 — Why divorce is a financial reorganization, not just an emotional event02:04 — Donna’s background and her personal connection to financial transitions03:14 — Why money feels so emotionally charged during divorce04:18 — Donna’s story: career sacrifice, sudden widowhood, and rebuilding10:57 — Getting your financial life organized after a major transition12:40 — First financial documents to gather before divorce16:06 — Marital vs. premarital assets, inheritance, and building a balance sheet22:14 — What to do when a spouse controls the finances or withholds information25:29 — A “fair” settlement versus one that is actually workable29:16 — Planning around your life stage, goals, income, and retirement34:55 — Tax considerations during divorce negotiations37:45 — Deciding whether keeping the house is sustainable42:09 — Child support, college, and overlooked parenting expenses46:06 — Retirement accounts, pensions, and costly settlement mistakes48:52 — Lightning round: essential financial priorities49:56 — Where to find Donna’s work and books

The Secret to Handling Divorce Expenses Without ConflictAre money fights and co-parenting conflict exhausting you? In this episode of The Conscious Divorce by Justin Milrad, we sit down with certified divorce coach Lisa Lisser to break down the "money talk" every divorced parent needs to have.It's not just about dollars and cents, it's about the hidden emotional triggers, control issues, and unresolved baggage that turn small expenses into major legal battles. Whether you’re worried about future college costs, car purchases, or handling unreasonable requests, this guide will help you reframe your co-parenting finances as a business-like investment in your children’s success.In this episode, we cover:00:00 🎙️ Intro: The Conscious Divorce Podcast00:43 💬 Why money fights escalate (The "Quinceañera" example)03:30 💰 Why it's never "just about the money"08:42 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 How children perceive parental conflict11:55 📝 Forecasting future expenses: College, tutoring, and more15:22 🚗 The "hidden" costs: Teenager car purchases and caps20:25 ⚖️ Reframing finances as a business relationship24:07 💡 Strategic curiosity: Finding resources and scholarships32:42 💔 Handling new partners and financial boundaries36:56 ⚡ Rapid-fire: What to do when your co-parent refuses to talk39:08 🔮 Proactive planning to avoid future crisisGuest: Lisa Lisser, CDC, Founder of LZL Coaching and Host of the Divorce Clarity Studio podcast.What is the biggest financial challenge you're currently facing in your co-parenting journey? Let us know in the comments below. we read every one.#divorce #coparenting #divorcefinances #consciousdivorce #divorcesupport #financialplanning #parentingagreement #coparentingtips

Learn how divorce mediation creates better settlements, parenting plans, and financial solutions with Justin Milrad and Rebecca Miller.Divorce mediation can give couples something court often cannot: room to build creative, practical, human-centered solutions that actually work in real life.In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, Justin Milrad sits down with Rebecca Miller, a family law attorney and mediator with Cooper Coons in Las Vegas, Nevada, to talk about what mediation can really make possible during divorce.They discuss how mediation helps couples move beyond rigid positions and focus on the deeper interests underneath the conflict. Instead of fighting over the house, the schedule, the money, or the “principle” of the thing, mediation creates space to ask better questions: What does each person actually need? What will help the children feel stable? What financial arrangement can work long term? What agreement can both people live with after the papers are signed?This conversation covers creative divorce settlement options, parenting plans, holiday schedules, child support, spousal support, retirement accounts, tax considerations, high-conflict divorce, and when mediation may or may not be the right path. Justin and Rebecca also talk about the importance of preparation, emotional regulation, financial clarity, and building the right professional team before walking into mediation.Chapters:00:00 — Mediation vs arguing over positions01:10 — Human-centered solutions courtrooms can’t provide06:00 — Courts give a ruling, mediation gives a design14:07 — Position vs interest explained53:28 — Know your priorities54:36 — The goal is not to win the divorce55:62 — Mediation gives flexibility56:12 — You have more options than you thinkIf you are thinking about divorce, preparing for mediation, or trying to avoid a costly court battle, this episode will help you understand what is possible when divorce is approached with strategy, clarity, and the right support.Book a free strategy session with Reclaim & Reboot:https://www.reclaimandreboot.me/bookingLearn more about Reclaim & Reboot:https://www.reclaimandreboot.meConnect with Rebecca Miller at Cooper Coons:https://coopercoons.comEmail: [email protected]

Divorce and taxes can create expensive surprises if you only look at the numbers on the settlement page.In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast (The most trusted Divorce Podcast), Justin Milrad speaks with CPA and tax resolution expert Patrick Wanzer about the tax issues people often miss before, during, and after divorce.They discuss why a 50/50 asset split may not actually be equal after taxes, how filing status can change your outcome, what to know about capital gains on the marital home, how QDROs work, what happens with tax debt, and why IRS issues should be addressed before the divorce agreement is signed.You’ll learn what questions to ask your CPA, attorney, or divorce financial professional so you can make clearer decisions and avoid painful surprises later.Topics covered:00:00 Why a 50/50 divorce split may not be fair after taxes03:47 Why taxes are often ignored in divorce04:32 Why you need 3–5 years of tax returns08:36 Current-year tax projections before mediation11:48 Filing status during divorce14:57 Head of household filing while still married15:58 Child tax credits and parenting schedules19:17 Alimony and child support tax rules22:43 Why not all divorce assets are equal25:37 Thinking in after-tax dollars26:04 QDROs and retirement account transfers28:15 Pensions and divorce29:30 Trusts, estate planning, and divorce31:24 Updating beneficiaries after divorce32:53 529 plans and college savings35:25 Back taxes, unfiled returns, and IRS notices39:17 Why the IRS ignores your divorce agreement39:30 Innocent spouse relief and hidden tax bombs41:23 Divorce tax checklist43:11 IRS identity protection PIN43:41 How to contact Patrick Wanzer44:29 Final lessons on divorce tax strategyBook a free consultation with Justin: www.reclaimandreboot.me/bookingLearn more about Patrick Wanzer: www.breakthroughtaxresolution.com

Protect your assets, peace of mind and children: Get a divorce coach! Free consultation at www.reclaimandreboot.me/bookingLife after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when you are managing parenting, finances, housing, and a new daily routine all at once.Let's talk about Top Divorce Tips for Life After Divorce, financially preparing for divorce, and rebuilding stability after divorce with Ron Platt co-founder and CEO of NASDFIf you are looking for life after divorce guidance, single-parent support, or ways to rebuild stability after divorce, this conversation is a helpful place to start.

Divorce is already one of the hardest transitions a person can face. But when your spouse is struggling with unmanaged mental health symptoms, addiction, suicidal statements, rage, coercive control, or emotional instability, the process can become even more chaotic, unpredictable, and painful, especially for the children.In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, Justin Milrad, certified divorce coach, mental health advocate, divorced dad, and founder of Reclaim and Reboot Transformational Divorce Coaching, shares a compassionate but practical framework for navigating divorce when the other person cannot show up as a stable partner in the process.This episode is not about diagnosing, labeling, or weaponizing mental health. It is about recognizing patterns, protecting your children, documenting behavior, setting boundaries, and building the right professional team around you.You’ll learn:How to balance compassion with firm boundariesWhy “document, don’t diagnose” is so importantWhat to do when a spouse shuts down, escalates, threatens, or refuses treatmentHow addiction, rage, suicidal statements, and coercive control can change your divorce strategyHow to protect children from adult conflict, loyalty battles, and emotional caretakingWhen to involve attorneys, therapists, crisis professionals, child therapists, or domestic violence advocatesHow to build a crisis plan before things escalateWhy parallel parenting may be healthier than traditional co-parenting in high-conflict situationsYou can care about someone’s pain without allowing their instability to control your life, your decisions, or your children’s safety.Important disclaimer: This episode is for educational and coaching purposes only. It is not legal, medical, mental health, financial, or crisis advice. If you are dealing with danger, suicidal statements, threats, abuse, child safety concerns, substance abuse, or legal risk, contact qualified professionals immediately.Crisis Resources:988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988988 Lifeline Chat: 988Lifeline.orgEmergency Services: Call 911 for imminent dangerNational Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233Text START to 88788SAMHSA Treatment Locator: FindTreatment.govNAMI Family Support: NAMI.orgIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe to the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need support right now.Learn more about Reclaim and Reboot Transformational Divorce Coaching or book a free 30-minute consultation at:www.reclaimandreboot.meYou do not have to navigate this alone. Support exists. Treatment works. And asking for help is one of the strongest things you can do.

Divorce ends the marriage, not the parenting partnership. Learn how to reduce conflict, protect your kids, and co-parent with more clarity.Buy the book: The Co-Parenting Playbook: Proven Strategies for Navigating Divorce, Conflict, and Raising Thriving Kidshttps://a.co/d/0bdX5smJCo-parenting after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions are raw and communication is difficult. In this episode, Justin Milrad and Jill Kaufman share practical, research-informed strategies from their new book to help parents lower conflict, protect their children’s emotional well-being, and create more stability across two homes. They discuss how to communicate without escalating, when parallel parenting may be necessary, how to keep kids out of the middle, and why small changes in your approach can make a lasting difference for your family.01:03 The Reality of Co-Parenting05:04 Co-Parenting as a Business Partnership08:20 Impact of Parental Conflict on Children12:07 Research on Divorce and Family Conflict15:25 Benefits of Cooperative Co-Parenting18:33 Risks of High Conflict Co-Parenting21:15 Personal Health and Conflict26:03 Communication Tools: BIFF Method31:56 Consistency in Co-Parenting36:21 Handling Difficult Co-Parenting Situations39:50 Parallel Parenting Explained47:27 The Legal Resolution Ladder

Explore expert insights on divorce support and mediation. Our guest, Joy Hernandez, with over 15 years of experience, guides families through the complexities of divorce. Learn the role of mediators as neutral facilitators and discover the differences between mediation and legal proceedings. Gain valuable advice on parenting plans and decision-making processes to ensure a smoother transition during challenging times.03:23 - Role of a Mediator03:50 - Parenting Coordinator vs. Decision Maker05:23 - Court-Ordered Coordination08:42 - Mediation vs. Legal Solutions10:35 - Drafting Effective Parenting Plans16:20 - Developmental Stages in Parenting Plans20:24 - Flexibility in Parenting Plans26:51 - Importance of Co-Parenting Communication33:54 - Focus on Children's NeedsReady for additional support? Book a free consultationor check out our books on amazon

Discover TJ Shimeld’s inspiring journey of conscious divorce. A path of honesty and love. After coming out as gay, TJ and his wife transformed their separation into a model of civility, focusing on their daughter’s well-being and mutual respect. This episode explores TJ’s authenticity, from a life-changing accident to embracing his true self, and offers practical strategies for co-parenting and communication. Learn how setting boundaries and living authentically can turn divorce into a liberating journey. TJ, now a life coach in Spain, shares insights for anyone seeking change and self-acceptance.Life-Changing Accident & Coming Out - 4:23Honesty in Marriage: Coming Out - 11:11Collaborative Divorce & Co-Parenting - 19:23Authentic Life After Divorce - 39:18Advice for Coming Out & Divorce - 43:38

What does it really mean to “win” in divorce court?When divorce becomes a battle, both people can end up losing. Legal fees grow. Emotions run high. Children feel the stress. Co-parenting becomes harder. And the fight can take more than it gives.Watch the episode to learn why winning in divorce court is not always the same as winning in life, how to avoid unnecessary conflict, choose the right divorce support, and make decisions that protect your future.03:37 Part One: The Nuclear Truth About Divorce06:47 Part Two: The Neuroscience of Conflict, Your Brain on Divorce10:13 Part Three: The Financial Cost of Escalation12:13 Part Four: My Story Inside an Eight Day Jury Trial15:30 Part Five: Choosing Your Attorney, The Most Important Decision You Will Make21:14 Part Six: The Children, Collateral Damage, and the Hidden War27:06 Part Seven: Strategic Divorce Versus Emotional Divorce31:41 Part Eight: Healing Outside the CourtroomBook a free consultation: www.reclaimandreboot.me/booking

I'm here to guide you through the complex dynamics of giving and taking in relationships, especially during divorce and co-parenting. In this episode, we'll explore how these patterns shape our interactions and impact our lives. I'll share insights into understanding these behaviors, their origins, and how you can navigate them for healthier relationships and personal growth. Whether you're going through a divorce or simply seeking to improve your relationships, this conversation is for you. Let's dive deep into the emotional landscapes that define us and learn how to transform challenges into opportunities for growth. Thank you for joining me on this journey.1:27 - Exploring the giver and taker dynamics3:05 - Attachment theory and its impact7:29 - Marriage dynamics and unmet needs11:51 - Co-parenting and its challenges16:14 - Parallel parenting as a solution20:07 - Healing resentment and moving forward22:22 - Practical principles for wise giving28:34 - Closing thoughts and call to action

Break Free from Co-Parenting ChaosDiscover how to transform conflict into calm control with effective boundary-setting. Discover why setting boundaries feels impossible and offers practical steps to regain your peace.Learn the difference between requests and boundaries, and how to craft scripts that hold your ground. Understand emotional flooding and how to manage it, plus explore the five levels of co-parenting and the boundaries needed at each stage.Whether you're in a cooperative or high-conflict situation, this episode provides tools to protect your peace and model emotional maturity for your kids. Boundaries aren't punishments, they're acts of self-respect. Start your transformation today. Understanding Boundaries - 03:19Emotional Flooding - 07:14Co-Parenting Levels - 10:52Enforcing Boundaries - 20:00Protecting Your Children - 30:00

Most conflicts don't destroy relationships; our habitual responses do. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling shape every connection, from marriage to parenting. Understanding and breaking these patterns can transform your relationships and life.In this episode, I unpack Dr. John Gottman's research, revealing how these "horsemen" kill intimacy and trust. Discover how sarcasm and criticism erode bonds and how contempt predicts divorce. Learn actionable strategies to replace destructive responses with genuine connection.We explore tactics like the "soft startup" for conversations, cultivating a "culture of fondness," and emotional self-awareness. These patterns affect marriage, work, parenting, and self-talk. Understand how childhood shapes these tendencies and how to rewire them for healthier connections.This episode is for those tired of repeating cycles, navigating divorce, or wanting to deepen emotional intelligence. You can unlearn destructive habits and build a connected, respectful life. Start today.00:00 Introduction to conflict patterns01:44 The Four Horsemen of relationships02:38 Welcome to the podcast03:28 Dr. John Gottman's research04:17 Criticism explained07:29 Soft startup technique07:58 Contempt as a predictor of divorce11:01 Building a culture of appreciation11:58 Defensiveness and its impact15:20 Stonewalling and withdrawal18:10 Psychological self-soothing19:01 Patterns beyond marriage22:11 Solutions for the Four Horsemen24:22 Importance of repair25:50 Awareness and change27:10 Final thoughts and encouragement

Discover how to transform co-parenting conflicts into cooperation with practical insights. Learn how simple strategies like the BIFF communication framework and predictable rituals can create a calm, child-focused environment.Explore the power of small adjustments in turning chaos into peace. Uncover the secrets to clear communication, the importance of emotional boundaries, and how parallel parenting can protect your kids from conflict.This episode is perfect for parents seeking to break free from reactive patterns and build a nurturing co-parenting dynamic.Unlock peace, clarity, and connection with these transformative insights. Start your journey today.

Discover the “preparation gap” in divorce. Learn to organize, document, and prepare emotionally to secure your future. Start now for peace tomorrow.02:27 The Preparation Gap05:11 Why Preparation Matters06:22 Strategic Thinking in Divorce08:15 Research on Divorce Outcomes11:14 Ari's Story14:05 Practical Steps for Preparation17:10 Importance of a Divorce Coach19:26 David's Story23:12 Mindset Reset24:46 Actionable Steps and Conclusion

Let’s explore the transformative realities of gray divorce, revealing why ending a long-term marriage can be the start of a powerful new chapter. If you're navigating or contemplating a divorce after 50, this is essential listening. I unpack the rise in gray divorce rates and explain how second and third marriages carry higher risks of dissolution. Discover how the stakes differ, from financial upheaval to identity shifts, and learn about overlooked opportunities like strategic gifting to secure your legacy. I share strategies for approaching gray divorce consciously, managing complex assets, and nurturing relationships with adult children. This episode empowers you with practical guidance to navigate the complexities with intention and confidence, proving that the most exciting chapters often lie just ahead.Introduction and Disclaimer: 0:00Imagining Life Post-Divorce: 0:56Understanding Gray Divorce: 1:32Divorce Rate Insights: 2:23Gray Divorce Statistics: 4:02Second Marriage Risks: 5:08Financial Stakes in Gray Divorce: 7:31Identity and Social Network Challenges: 8:42Financial Realities and Strategies: 10:31Impact on Adult Children: 15:54Health and Emotional Well-being: 25:35Conscious Approach to Gray Divorce: 28:06Reframing Gray Divorce: 31:53Conclusion and Call to Action: 33:30

Let’s break down one of the most common and misunderstood questions: “When should I start dating again?” The answer isn’t about time, it’s about clarity, self-awareness, and emotional readiness.If you’ve ever felt the urge to download a dating app but weren’t sure why, this episode will help you understand what’s really driving that decision and how to avoid repeating the same relationship patterns.02:59 The Neuroscience of Grief and Dating04:24 Emotional Foundations in Post-Divorce Dating05:35 The Impact of Grief on Decision-Making07:18 Calm vs. Healed: Dating Readiness08:19 Legal and Emotional Aspects of Dating While Separated10:10 Attachment Styles and Post-Divorce Dating13:19 Pattern Gravity and Emotional Dynamics15:09 Repetition Compulsion in Relationships17:10 Using Past Relationships as Data20:01 Building a Non-Negotiables List24:34 Flexibles vs. Non-Negotiables in Dating27:01 Dating with Kids: Navigating Complexity29:13 Readiness and Dating Well After Divorce

The Smarter Divorce: Inside the Power of Mediation — Join Guest Caroline Melkonian, Certified Workplace and Family Mediator, together with Host Justin Milrad, MBA from Emory University, Certified Divorce Coach®, Financial Planner, author of You 2.0: Divorce; A Better Way Forward, and host of The Conscious Divorce Podcast. In this insightful episode of The Conscious Divorce, they explore how mediation can help couples navigate divorce with less conflict, clearer communication, and more collaborative solutions. Discover how mediation empowers families to make thoughtful decisions, protect relationships, and move forward with greater clarity and dignity.

This episode explores how small acts of grace in post-divorce relationships can shape your children's sense of safety and trust. You'll learn about the science behind kindness between ex-partners and its impact on child development. I also offer practical steps for showing up in meaningful ways without compromising boundaries. If you're navigating a difficult co-parenting relationship, this episode will challenge you to rethink ego and forgiveness. It's a reminder that genuine care builds a healthier family story. As my mom would say, just be good to each other. What story are you creating for your kids?The Role of My Ex-Wife - 1:12Understanding Co-Parenting - 1:32Podcast Introduction - 1:49The Impact of Co-Parenting on Kids - 5:06Lessons Learned - 5:53Research Insights on Co-Parenting - 8:09Practical Steps for Co-Parenting - 14:56The Importance of Precedent - 18:11Closing Thoughts - 20:13

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, we tackle asset division in divorce. Discover the Vitamix Principle, where small, sentimental items can cause big conflicts. Learn to separate sentimental from market value and address this early.We'll discuss everything from real estate to digital assets, with state-specific insights. I'll share practical solutions for non-divisible items and real-world stories, like resolving a Vitamix dispute with a mediator. Plus, get tips on financial discipline to avoid high attorney fees. Empower your negotiation and redesign your life post-divorce.Chapters:05:58 The Big Buckets of Property08:35 Marital Property vs Separate Property12:44 Divorce Flashpoints (Common fighting or turning points during asset division negotiations)24:23 Effective Division Methods for assets30:36 How to stop bleeding money and Attorney Costs31:31 Replace vs Fight: The Decision Rule35:20 Bring Your Emotional Grounding35:42 Red Flags: When to Bring in a Professional

In this episode, I want to talk to you about something important: how we often push ourselves too hard, feeling exhausted and barely getting by. What if the key to transforming your life is to treat yourself like a valuable racehorse? I'll share insights into the hidden barriers that keep you stuck and offer a simple plan to help you rebuild and find your purpose again.You'll learn how stress can drain your creativity and why negative self-talk can be more harmful than you think. I'll introduce you to the 'Racehorse Standard,' a 12-step approach to improve your body, mind, and relationships. Discover why sleep, exercise, and connecting with others are essential for your happiness and success.The Million Dollar Race Horse - 1:30The Story of Charismatic - 2:17The Importance of Self-Care - 4:20Seven Reasons You're Stuck - 8:23The Race Horse Standard - 17:15Category A: The Body - 18:00Category B: The Mind - 25:12Category C: The Herd - 32:36Category D: The Track - 40:05

Today we're diving into one of the most crucial conversations you'll have during your divorce journey: talking to your kids. We'll explore the psychological impacts of divorce on children, provide age-appropriate scripts, and share strategies to minimize trauma and build emotional security. Join me as we navigate this challenging transition with empathy, resilience, and love.02:24 Talking to Your Kids About Divorce04:21 Segment One: Psychological Impact by Age10:33 Segment Two: Preparing for the Conversation13:54 Expert Insight from Dr. Elena Ramirez16:03 Segment Three: Age-Appropriate Strategies25:35 Segment Four: Mitigation and Healing Strategies33:01 Segment Five: Listener Q&A and Real Stories

Divorce can feel like a battle over custody, finances, and who was “right.” But in this episode, I challenge the idea that winning in court means winning in life. I break down research on high-conflict divorce, co-parenting outcomes, children’s long-term wellbeing, mental health during divorce, and the financial mistakes many people make during litigation.If you’re going through divorce or navigating separation, I share a strategic framework to help you think beyond short-term victories and focus on emotional stability, financial security, and rebuilding your identity. The goal isn’t to win the divorce. It’s to win your future.01:50 The Illusion of Winning: What Does Victory Mean?02:46 Act One: The Illusion of Winning04:08 The Real Cost of High-Conflict Divorce05:02 The Legal Process vs. The Life Process06:18 Research Insights: Long-Term Effects of Conflict08:04 The Five-Year Filter: A Tool for Decision Making10:16 Act Two: The Architecture of Winning the Future10:35 Pillar One: Emotional and Mental Health11:59 Pillar Two: Co-Parenting and Children's Wellbeing13:30 Pillar Three: Financial Stability14:23 Pillar Four: Identity Reconstruction15:57 Pillar Five: Long-Term Peace and Resilience17:18 Act Three: Becoming You 2.018:46 Real Stories of Transformation22:21 Conclusion: Winning Your Life, Not Just the Case

Most people don't realize Valentine’s Day is less a cause of relationship problems and more a mirror revealing what's already broken. If you’re navigating heartbreak, separation, or divorce this episode helps you decode what Valentine’s Day exposes about your relationship and your emotional state and how to turn it into an opportunity for growth.00:00 Introduction: Valentine's Day and Relationship Breakdowns01:14 Episode Overview: Roses, Reality, and Ruptures02:03 Valentine's Day: The Super Bowl of Expectations04:56 Emotional Accelerator: Valentine's Day Reveals, Not Causes06:15 Emotional Audit: Questions to Ask Yourself08:03 Divorce Season: Why Breakups Spike08:59 Three Valentine's Day Experiences: Celebration, Disappointment, Aftermath11:56 Cognitive Dissonance and Deadline Effects15:02 Surviving Valentine's Day: Principles for Singles and Divorced19:35 Valentine's Day and Co-Parenting23:00 Reframe: Valentine's Day as a Mirror, Not a Measure24:58 Valentine's Day as a Data Point in Personal Growth27:55 Self-Leadership: How to Navigate Valentine's Day28:52 Conclusion: Reclaim and Reboot Divorce Coaching

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I dive deep into the challenges and strategies of protecting kids through divorce. As a parent, navigating co-parenting with a narcissist co-parent can be daunting, but it's crucial to focus on what's best for the children. I share insights on how to manage parental alienation and ensure your kids thrive despite the circumstances. Join me as I explore evidence-based strategies to create a nurturing environment for your children, even in the face of adversity.Chapters:00:00 Introduction03:15 Protecting Kids Through Divorce06:45 Co-Parenting Strategies10:30 Dealing with a Narcissist Co-Parent14:00 Understanding Parental Alienation18:00 Conclusion

In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Connie Howard, founder of What If Wealth, to talk about how real financial modeling helps people make confident decisions during divorce and major life transitions.We explore why “even” settlements aren’t always equal, the true cost of keeping the family home, how inflation quietly erodes spousal support, and why cash flow matters just as much as net worth. Most importantly, we talk about how seeing your numbers clearly can replace fear with confidence before mediation or settlement.If you’re navigating divorce and asking yourself, “Am I going to be okay?” this conversation brings clarity.00:00 Introduction to Spousal Support and Inflation18:53 Preparing for Mediation01:17:59 The Human Side of Financial Decisions09:08:02 What If Wealth's Approach17:53:53 The Importance of Visualizing Financial Data30:48:08 Final Advice and Giveaway

In this episode, I delve into the transformative journey of 'winning the future' beyond the confines of divorce battles. Through compelling stories and research, I emphasize the significance of focusing on long-term goals, emotional health, and effective co-parenting. I share strategies for rebuilding identity, achieving financial stability, and fostering peace post-divorce. This episode highlights the pivotal role of divorce coaching in making strategic decisions that align with one's future aspirations.00:00 Introduction to Winning the Future01:47 The Importance of Long-Term Goals06:47 Emotional Health and Co-Parenting13:04 Financial Stability and Identity Reconstruction16:02 Peace, Resilience, and Daily Choices

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I delve into the transformative power of divorce mediation. If you're at a crossroads, contemplating divorce, or seeking a path that prioritizes your children's well-being and your financial future, this episode is for you. I share insights from my years in the mental health field, guiding you through the mediation process, its benefits over litigation, and how to prepare strategically. Discover how mediation can offer control, cost-effectiveness, and a cooperative approach to divorce. Join me as we explore how to navigate this challenging transition with clarity and confidence. Your future starts here. #DivorceMediation #ConsciousDivorce #FamilyWellbeing00:00 Introduction to Divorce Mediation01:49 The Benefits of Mediation Over Litigation04:00 Preparing for Mediation: Key Steps06:35 Understanding the Mediation Process09:52 Short-term, Medium-term, and Long-term Planning13:12 Financial Clarity and Legal Guidance15:52 Emotional Regulation and Support18:25 Crafting Creative Solutions in Mediation24:08 Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them26:18 When Mediation Isn't Appropriate28:45 Implementing Agreements in Real Life31:35 Conclusion and Next StepsTakeawaysDivorce mediation empowers individuals to negotiate terms themselves, regain control, and craft creative solutions that serve their unique circumstances.Strategic preparation, financial clarity, and a focus on long-term well-being are essential for successful divorce mediation.

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I dive into the transformative journey of navigating divorce with intention and awareness. We explore how to approach this life transition not as an ending, but as a launch pad for the life you're meant to live. Join me as I discuss the financial wake-up call that everyone considering divorce should hear before taking action.01:53 The Importance of Financial Preparation03:46 What Goes Wrong in Divorce Preparation06:43 Practical Steps for Divorce Preparation11:32 Understanding Marital vs. Separate Property20:40 The Need for Two Budgets: During and After Divorce25:22 Budgeting vs. Financial Planning37:52 Updating Documents Post-DivorceThroughout the episode, I am joined by Hirsh from Lifecycle Financial, who shares his expertise on the financial complexities of divorce. We cover everything from gathering essential documents to understanding the nuances of asset division. Whether you're considering divorce or already in the process, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your financial power and clarity.

Most New Year’s resolutions fail, not because you lack discipline, but because the system is broken.In this episode, let's explore why traditional goal setting doesn’t work and shares a proven, science-backed approach to building habits that actually stick. You’ll learn how identity-based habits, emotional regulation, and simple systems can help you create sustainable change in your health, career, relationships, and personal life.Whether you’re rebuilding after divorce or simply ready for a life reset, this episode offers a practical roadmap for creating long-term growth without relying on motivation or willpower.

Join Justin Milrad and Jill Kaufman as they delve into the emotional complexities of navigating the holiday season post-divorce. Discover actionable strategies to transform this challenging time into an opportunity for growth and connection. Whether you're facing your first holiday alone or seeking to redefine family traditions, this episode offers insights on self-work, co-parenting, and finding joy amidst change. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation that encourages healing and thriving beyond survival.04:24 Emotional Challenges of Divorce10:04 Self-Work and Moving Forward12:30 Co-Parenting Strategies During Holidays26:27 Finding Joy and Perspective32:23 Thriving Through Divorce

When I went through my divorce, I made a painful mistake: I focused on lawyers, paperwork and logistics, and I told myself I would deal with the emotional fallout later. In this episode, I share why that choice cost me time, money and peace of mind, and why your first call in divorce should be to a divorce coach, not a lawyer. I talk about how a divorce coach helps you think clearly, avoid costly mistakes, protect your kids, navigate the financial landmines, and start the inner work that leads to You 2.0, a stronger and more authentic version of yourself. If you are thinking about divorce, in the middle of it, or trying to rebuild after, this conversation will help you slow down, get grounded, and make decisions that support your future, not just your feelings in the moment.

The holidays can feel overwhelming after a separation or divorce, but they don’t have to be. In this episode, I sit down with co-parenting coach Jeanne Drake Ward to talk about how we can navigate holiday stress, communicate more effectively, support our kids, and create new traditions that actually bring joy.We talk about:✨ Managing emotions during the holidays✨ Common co-parenting mistakes to avoid✨ What to do when you don’t have your kids✨ Gift-giving challenges when emotions or finances are tight✨ Protecting your kids without overprotecting✨ Why self-compassion matters more than ever

In this episode, let's discuss the common mistakes people make during divorce, emphasizing that these errors are human rather than gendered.

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, host Justin Milrad delves into the transformative journey of divorce, challenging societal norms that equate marriage with success and divorce with failure. Through personal stories and professional insights, Justin explores how divorce can be a courageous step towards self-discovery and growth. He shares the concept of "You 2.0," a framework for embracing change and building a life that aligns with your true self. Whether you're contemplating divorce or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a fresh perspective on navigating one of life's toughest transitions. Tune in to discover how endings can become new beginnings.

SummaryIn this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, host Justin Milrad and guest Lisa Lisser discuss the critical transition from marriage to co-parenting after divorce. They explore how parents can redefine their partnership in raising children, emphasizing the importance of focusing on the children's well-being and creating a functional co-parenting relationship. Lisa shares insights on navigating emotions, finding common ground, and establishing a shared mission for the benefit of the children.

SummaryIn this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I share my personal journey through divorce, exploring the complexities and societal perceptions surrounding it. Let's talk about the identity shift after divorce going from "we" to "me"

Ever feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough? In this episode, we explore the “Gap vs. Gain” mindset, a powerful shift that transforms how you measure progress, success, and self-worth.Join us as we dive into the true story of a triathlete who learned that peace and performance both come from looking back, not ahead. Discover how “measuring backward” reduces stress, rewires your brain for gratitude, and makes growth visible in your health, relationships, and healing journey after divorce.You’ll learn how to break free from the endless chase of perfection and finally recognize how far you’ve come. Because when you stop chasing the horizon and start celebrating the ground you’ve covered, progress feels lighter and life starts to move forward naturally.Key takeaways:The difference between the Gap and the Gain mindsetsHow backward measurement rewires stress and boosts confidenceReal-life tools to track personal progress and feel itA weekly ritual to keep you grounded, grateful, and growingStop racing the horizon. Start celebrating the journey.