The Overwhelmed Brain

If you have a history that you're not proud of, and you start a new relationship, should the new potential partner be advised of a past you regret? If you don't tell, will it bring consequences down the road? It's a question some people wrestle with.

Are old emotional wounds triggering you today? A woman reached out and shares her struggles about choices she made about a pregnancy and how her partner may have lied about his communication with his ex at the beginning of their relationship. Challenging topics to cover.

Can the on-off relationship work? What about long-distance relationships? I talk about that and also someone asked me if it's their social anxiety or someone's rude behavior that's to blame. It's a grab bag episode today.

Other people's insecurities should not make you change for them. If they can't handle who you are, is it on you to make them comfortable or should they just adjust, adapt, or leave you alone?

You're allowed to tell someone they're hurting you — and if you feel stuck because you avoid conflict or keep punishing with silence, I've been there and will show you how to say it plainly so you know whether they change or reveal who they really are.

People who threaten, belittle, or use "jokes" about violence are practicing control, and they will gaslight you into submission if you don't take their threats or "jokes" seriously. Don't reward coercion with compliance.

Are you a victim of your past choices forever? If the future feels impossible because the past is unavoidable, it might be time to put away the mirror and forge the path you want.

Some people have a progress bar that stops when things are no longer uncomfortable. That can work for some people. But for others who want more out of life, it could present an incompatibility that's hard to get past.

Someone who constantly blames and criticizes you may have something to hide. Someone who hurts you is hiding nothing at all... it's all very apparent. Don't ever think their behaviors are your fault.

You did bad... a long time ago, but you still have to pay for what you did every time someone brings it up. They just can't let it go and you're reaching the end of your rope. When will they move on?

Some of us can go through life without the answers to the most pertinent questions. Others, like me, feel like there's something missing if we don't get those answers. I do my best to answer a few of those burning questions in this episode.

What is the recipe of reciprocation in a friendship when it comes to keeping in touch. Is it always 1 to 1 (you call, they call, repeat)? Or, is it always just you calling them? Hmm... seems one-sided, doesn't it? But, is it? Good topic to talk about.

There's no end to what manipulation looks like. Some people have a gift for making you do what they want you to do. Victims of manipulation typically have something in common. Knowing what that is will keep you out of harm's way.

Are you really misunderstanding everything they say, or are they just trying to get away with being mean under the radar? I address that and also talk about when someone doesn't like a gift you've given them. If that sounds good, tune in!

It can be a struggle to be there for loved ones struggling. And the more empathetic you feel, the more you may feel yourself getting deeper into the same struggle with them. It can sometimes be a challenge to be there for someone without losing yourself in the process.

Some people accuse just to keep you busy defending yourself. Some do it because, perhaps, they like to see you suffer? That can't be true... can it? If you're constantly accused for things you didn't do, you might be a mirror more than a target.

If you were taught to believe you were anything less than lovable and worthy, it's time we had an important conversation.

Meaning, purpose, the pursuit of happiness... Just existing shouldn't be the only way to live. You are important - you just may not realize how much.

Don't get trapped in a cycle of blaming yourself for past decisions. What you did then isn't what you'll do next time. And what you did then doesn't say who you are today.

If you find yourself questioning whether it's okay to step back from a someone who is always playing the victim (and perhaps blaming you for almost everything wrong in their life), you need a way out and a way back to your sanity and well-being.

Are the beliefs and values that guide your life and relationships truly serving you? There are many myths that, if we don't question them, might be holding us back from happiness and fulfillment.

Is work, people, or other things getting you down? Is there a way out of that holding pattern? Holding out hope for change might not be the best way forward.

Years of mediocrity or even unhappiness can change... can't it? I think if you're wondering if that could ever be true, this episode is probably for you.

If you're caught in a heated moment with another person, do you know how to keep your cool and maintain control? In this episode, I read a message from someone who lost his patience with a passenger on his bus. He wants to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Sometimes all that's needed to enforce your boundaries in a situation or relationship is a simple phrase that changes everything. Otherwise, you could be stuck with what you got indefinitely.

A partner's ex is a partner's problem... or is it? What if they're trying to wiggle their way back to your partner? I address that concern from someone who says they feel unsafe with their partner's ex being in the picture.

Ever feel like you're the one always under fire, the scapegoat for every misstep? When you are under constant accusation for things you didn't do (but are being convinced you did), it's time to learn the truth about what's really happening here.

Feel like you might mess up your kids because you haven't improved or healed your own stuff yet? Is it possible to raise kids to be less dysfunctional than ourselves? I certainly hope so! Sounds like a good topic to cover.

If you've ever felt like you're holding back in love because of past fears, it's probably affecting your current relationship. If you're worried you might be hurt, you may just prevent love from reaching its fullest potential.

If someone's passive-aggressive remarks are making you question your own self-worth, how can you take back control? There are ways to handle toxic interactions and keep your power.

I think the phrase, "Lovers for a moment, friends for a lifetime" is very true in many cases. Sometimes a friendship can develop into something more. Other times a development could end what was already great as-is. Does love conquer all?

What is your level of toleration, and how long will you endure behavior that crosses your boundaries before you've had enough? It might be time to dole out accountability and make hard decisions.

Self-esteem and confidence come naturally to some. For others, the bridge to confidence is long, full of obstacles, and not worth the trip. There's one important question to ask yourself to be able to cross that bridge. That's today's topic.

A woman shares her struggle about getting married, feeling as if she isn't special because her partner has been married in the past. What is making her feel this way? Can this be overcome?

A mom doesn't want to sit next to her abusive ex during her child's wedding but doesn't want to come across as selfish. Is it selfish to make healthy choices that will keep you happy and safe? Important discussion today.

If you feel like an outsider in a world that seems unrelatable, could it be because you're yearning for authenticity in your connections? I know I am. Making friendships and romantic relationships can sometimes seem like a lesson in futility.

If you find yourself constantly being blamed for everything going wrong, it's time to question whether you're being manipulated into believing what may be a deflection. In this episode, I tackle the sometimes tricky dynamics of responsibility and blame.

If returning to your childhood hometown stirs up memories you'd rather leave behind, does that mean you're not ready to face them? I'll dive into this area with a heartfelt question from someone seeking closure from past trauma, wondering if revisiting their roots could be the key to healing and rediscovering their lost self.

If you're struggling with the feeling of emptiness after a breakup or loss, is it really about them, or something deeper within you? I'll share my own experiences with heartbreak and loneliness, and why understanding our emotional dependencies might just be the key to healing and building healthier relationships.

How long will you wait for someone to make changes to treat you better? At what point do you decide enough is enough and move on without them in your life? And is there anything you can do if change seems impossible?

A list of ten life lessons to help you achieve a happier, more fulfilling life... perhaps. Some lessons are scary to implement. Some are a must if you find that you can never quite achieve fulfillment.

How do you know when your heart is ready to embrace love again after weathering the storm of a toxic relationship? What should you be prepared for at the start of a new relationship? I talk about that and the draining effects of toxic relationships in this episode.

If you've ever felt like you're trapped in a time loop of bad relationships or self-destructive patterns, you're not alone. Why do we sometimes stay in situations that don't serve us? And were those situations a huge waste of time or something else?

Do I change my career? Do I move? Do I wait? If I change, will I be happy or sad? Never let life's hard decisions stop you from making decisions that are right for you?

Sure, some partners are toxic or dysfunctional. But what if they're not that at all but just not that bright? What if you are trying to squeeze something out of a partner that simply doesn't exist? Does that make automatic incompatibility? I go through deep exploration of that in today's episode.

This episode is about a pedophile grooming a woman's daughter. If you're a parent who listens with their child(ren), I wanted you to be aware of this before you played the show. There are no graphic details, but be aware that your children may ask questions if they listen with you.

If you get close to someone, they see the most vulnerable, deeper part of you. That can be a scary thing, especially if you've been hurt before. And sometimes we feel the need to protect ourself from such scary things.

Some people seem to have a toxic gravitational pull that affects everyone around them. And whether you're with them or not, they are either on your mind or in your space. Getting away from their influence can feel impossible.

If you've ever wondered how to keep toxic people out of your life or if you're questioning the role of personal boundaries in shaping your reality, this episode is for you. I share insights on why the words you choose matter, how to express your boundaries clearly, and why some relationships require you to be as steadfast as a lighthouse in a storm.

If your partner seems uninterested in your family, does that signal a deeper issue? I'll dive into this area with a specific question from an upset husband wanting to wrap his head around the realization that his wife doesn't seem at all interested in his family's health situation.