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The Paradigm Shifts Podcast Network
by Kaila New York
Welcome to The Paradigm Shifts Podcast Network—Where Transformation Begins!Hi, I’m Kaila New York, and this is your space for unlocking new perspectives, embracing self-discovery, and navigating life with clarity and confidence. Through my network of podcasts, I provide insight, guidance, and real conversations on relationships, self-love, parenting, communication, and understanding the universe we live in.I apply powerful paradigm-shifting techniques that I’ve learned and developed—methods that haveThank you for being here, for tuning in, and for allowing me to be part of your journey
Episodes
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Know When a Relationship Is No Longer Worth the Price
Every relationship comes with some kind of emotional investment, but not every relationship is worth the price you're paying. In this clip, I'm talking about why becoming your own safe space gives you a baseline for recognizing healthy connections. When someone enters your life and adds to the...
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The Parent Who Stayed Isn't Always Your Safe Space
This message is for someone who grew up with one parent who left and another who stayed, but never really felt safe with the parent who remained. I'm challenging the idea that staying automatically makes someone a good parent. If your parent carried the responsibilities of two people and gave you...
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When Other People's Words Become Your Doubt
Have you ever questioned whether you were sabotaging yourself without considering where that doubt came from? In this class, I'm taking you deeper into something I've learned through my own experiences: the words we receive from other people can influence how we feel about ourselves, our goals…
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Power Is Never Given. It's Taken.
I had to face the fact that I wanted success, recognition, and growth, but I wasn't consistently putting in the work. I wasn't locked in. I also started recognizing a pattern when I shared my plans with certain people. Things would slow down, I would lose momentum, or I would start feeling...
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Stop Telling Everybody Your Business: Build First, Talk Later
I had to learn the difference between telling people what I was working on and showing them what I actually built. For a long time, I talked about my plans before they were ready. I shared what I wanted to accomplish, what I was creating, and what I thought was coming next. Then I changed my...
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WHEN HELP TURNS INTO ENTITLEMENT
Have you ever had someone act like everything they have done for you means they should be allowed to cross your boundaries? In this episode of Walks with Kaila, I’m talking about the difference between appreciation and obligation. I can appreciate what somebody did for me without giving them...
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I wasn’t planning to post this reading, but it was too good not to share.
I used my Inner Child Oracle deck and muscle-tested to find out what age of me wanted to speak. The answer was two. Then I pulled four cards: I Am Wanted, Spend Time in Nature, Speak to Yourself With Kindness, and It’s Okay to Be Misunderstood. What started as an oracle reading became a much…
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I’m learning how to let the people I love be not okay.
For most of my life, when someone I cared about was struggling, insecure, overwhelmed, or simply having a bad day, I felt like it was my responsibility to make them feel better. I thought that was what love looked like. But I’m realizing there is a difference between caring about someone and…
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What happens when you grow up believing that your ability to be okay depends on whether everyone around you is okay?
In this episode, I open up about an unspoken rule I learned very early in life: if the people around me weren’t okay, I wasn’t okay either. I talk about growing up around struggle, learning to read the room, feeling what other people were feeling, and how easily their emotional state became...
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Their Lack of Effort Was Never a Sign to Give More
For a long time, when I was not getting back what I needed in a relationship, I thought the problem was me. I thought maybe I had not done enough. So I gave more. I paid more attention. I remembered more. I showed up more. I tried harder. And what came back? A trickle. That is the part I had to...
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I Don’t Want a Receiving Era. I Want Reciprocity.
What happens when you realize you have spent years giving more whenever someone gave you less? In this episode, Kaila breaks down the difference between simply receiving and experiencing true reciprocity. From overgiving and breadcrumbing to the realization that you should not have to convince...
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Reprogramming Family: Choosing Who Gets to Stay
Who taught you what family was supposed to look like? That question sits at the center of this conversation. Kaila New York explores how childhood, television, movies, generational expectations, and repeated family dynamics can quietly program our ideas about love, conflict, siblings, loyalty…
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I’m Here Too: Love, Reciprocity, and Finding the Right Person
What does a healthy relationship look like when you stop confusing love with self-abandonment? In this conversation, Kaila New York talks about conflict, repair, reciprocity, people pleasing, lived experience, and what it means to choose relationships where both people remain fully present. The...
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How to Lose a Scorpio’s Trust Without Ever Lying to Them
Scorpios pay attention to patterns. We watch how you talk about your friends. We watch how you treat people when they are not in the room. We watch whether your face matches your words. Because if you have known somebody for twenty years and you are comfortable tearing them apart behind their…
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Divine Timing Sucks: When the Work Is Done but the Waiting Isn’t
Divine timing sounds peaceful until you are actually the person waiting. In this conversation, Kaila New York talks about both sides of the process. Sometimes there is still work to do. Healing. Clearing. Learning yourself. Becoming more aligned with what you say you want. Showing up for yourself...
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How to Put Yourself First Without Neglecting Everyone Else
Being driven, ambitious, self-focused, or even protective of your own needs does not automatically make you selfish. In this conversation, Kaila New York talks about the difference between healthy self-focus and unregulated self-centeredness, why over-attuning to everyone else can turn into...
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When It Stops Being a Coincidence
How many times does something have to happen before you stop dismissing it? In this conversation, Kaila New York shares how repeatedly noticing the same kinds of experiences led her to start documenting them instead of automatically calling them coincidences. From favorite places suddenly…
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How to Address a Pattern Without Attacking Someone’s Character
What happens when disagreement turns venomous? In this conversation, Kaila breaks down the difference between using past behavior to identify a legitimate pattern and using someone’s history, vulnerabilities, or insecurities as weapons during conflict. She also talks about choosing restraint,...
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Be Careful Who Counsels You: Victim Mindset vs. Victor Mindset
Who do you turn to for advice when your life is not going the way you want? And is that person counseling you from a victim mindset or a victor mindset? In this episode, I talk about why the source of your advice matters and how the people influencing your decisions can affect your personal…
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Stop Talking About Black Women’s Hair
Why does everybody have so much to say about Black women’s hair? In this full conversation, I’m talking about the constant commentary around our hair and why I believe we have reached the point where we should not have to keep explaining, defending, or justifying what we do with it. I share my…
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Stop Giving Trust on Credit
I learned this lesson the hard way: trust should not be handed out just because someone is in your life. In this conversation, I talk about the different ways we trust people, from our hearts and private information to business ideas, money, time, and everyday responsibilities. I also get into…
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When Someone Has Never Experienced Real, They May Question You Until Time Proves You Are
Why can honesty, consistency, and transparency still be difficult for someone to trust? In this conversation, I talk about what can happen when someone encounters a person who genuinely is who they say they are, but their past experiences keep telling them to question it. We get into why people...
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The Version of You Who Got Hurt Is Still Talking. Do You Know When It’s Them?
The Version of You Who Got Hurt Is Still Talking. Do You Know When It’s Her? What happens when your emotional reaction doesn’t match what’s actually happening in your life? In this conversation, I share what happened when putting away a collection of stuffed animals unexpectedly brought me to…
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WHY Are You So Drained After Working With People?
If you work with people’s emotions, problems, or energy and never clear yourself before or after, you may be carrying more than you think. You’re here too. Helping people is not supposed to leave you empty. This clip is only part of the conversation. You can find more clips from this conversation...
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HOW I Learned Energy Clearing Works for Me
I didn’t learn this from just reading a book or hearing someone talk about it. I’ve been practicing energy clearing for about eight years, and what I share comes from what I’ve personally experienced in my own life. This is not medical advice. I’m not telling anyone what they should do. I’m…
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Have You Ever Felt an Old Injury Flare Up Around Certain Energy?
I’ve noticed that sometimes energy seems to hit the exact places that were already hurt. Not because the energy is automatically bad, but because that area may already be carrying something. This is not medical advice. I’m sharing how I experience it. This clip is only part of the conversation.…
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Talking to Me or Talking at Me? Knowing When to Stay Out of the Conversation
I’m learning how to recognize when someone actually wants to have a conversation with me and when they’re simply thinking out loud, venting, or talking through decisions they’ve already made. For years, I treated almost every conversation like an open dialogue. I would jump in with advice,...
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Everybody Has a Mission. Get Yours.
In this episode, I talk about what happens when we spend too much time watching what somebody else is doing instead of figuring out what we are supposed to be doing ourselves. Everybody did not come here with the same gifts, the same opportunities, or the same assignment. Some people are building...
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The Levels of Scorpio: Scorpion, Eagle, Phoenix and Dove
Being a Scorpio is more than just being intense, intuitive, or secretive. There are levels to it. In this episode, I talk about the stages I believe Scorpios move through, from the Scorpion, to the Eagle, to the Phoenix, and then the Dove. Each level changes how you respond to people, how you...
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You’re in the Relationship Too
In this episode, Kaila New York breaks down the relationship lessons she wishes she had learned much earlier. From yelling and repeating herself to begging, negotiating, and trying to get water from a dry well, Kaila looks at the moments that finally taught her that another person’s choices are…
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5 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About People
Some lessons about relationships and people only make sense after life has already dragged you through them. In this episode, I’m sharing five things I wrote down in my ideas book that I wish somebody had explained to me earlier. We’re talking about why people who are always available may not be...
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What Happens When You’ve Changed, but Your New Life Hasn’t Arrived Yet?
What happens after the healing starts working? What happens when the chaos is gone, old systems begin falling away, and the person you used to be no longer makes sense, but you haven’t fully become the next version of yourself yet? In this episode, I’m talking from inside that space. The...
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Letting Go Means You Stop Trying to Fix What’s Already Leaving
What does letting go actually look like? In this episode, Kaila explores letting go as something much bigger than ending a relationship. It can mean releasing a job, habit, limiting belief, idea, addiction, or anything else that begins interfering with your creativity, peace, or direction. She...
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Listen to the Transmission, Not the Messenger
What happens when someone who taught you something valuable turns out to be flawed? Do you throw away the entire message? In this episode, I unpack why I stopped putting spiritual leaders, speakers, celebrities, and other public figures on pedestals. I talk about my own experience believing that…
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What If It Doesn’t Work Out? Keep Going Anyway.
What if the life you’re building doesn’t unfold exactly the way you pictured it? In this episode, I work through that question in real time and realize that preparing for a different outcome does not mean I’ve stopped believing. We get into failure, resilience, trying different paths, divine...
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I Lost My Shit Today
This is not a perfectly packaged conversation about healing. It’s what happened when my body said no, the responsibilities kept piling up, and I finally reached my limit. I talk about overwhelm, parenting without another active parent, feeling unseen, carrying too much, problems that refuse to…
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My Body Literally Went on Strike
I could not get out of bed. Not at four. Not at five. Not at six. Not at seven. Not at eight. My body was done. And when I finally listened, I realized why. All we were doing was working. Build. Organize. Work. Repeat. No fun. No real break. No room to actually live. My body was basically telling...
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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
What happens when you realize the standard you’ve spent your life trying to meet may never have been yours? In this episode, I talk about perfectionism, childhood programming, parenting, the television that shaped how I saw life, listening to my spirit squad, understanding frequency, creativity,...
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When the Mask Slips, Believe What You’re Seeing
What happens when someone you trusted begins showing you a completely different side of themselves? In this episode, I talk about the pain of realizing that someone may not have changed at all. They may simply have become comfortable enough for the mask to start slipping. I share what I learned...
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Maybe You Were Never “Too Sensitive.” Maybe You Were Team Mission Critical.
Some of you have been doing this since childhood. Grown people told you their problems. You could walk into a room and feel something was wrong before anybody said a word. You knew when something was going to happen. You felt people’s emotions even when their words said something completely...
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How to Stop Setting Unrealistic Expectations for Yourself
Sometimes the problem isn’t that your goals are too high. The standard of execution you expect from yourself may be too high for the level you’re currently on. I spent years trying to live up to what everybody else expected from me. Then when I finally started defining life for myself, the…
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Dear Men: Understanding Women and Building Better Relationships
In this conversation, I talk about why I want to help men better understand women, relationships, communication, and choosing the right partner. I also talk about standards, family, money, conflict resolution, and some of the lessons I learned from my own relationships. This is not men versus...
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You Can Be Right and Still Handle It Wrong
In this episode, I talk about what it means to truly know your value and what changes when you finally stop giving unlimited access to people who do not respect your space. For years, I allowed myself to sit in conversations where I felt ignored, overlooked, or talked past. Eventually, I stopped.…
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The Radar: Trusting Your Intuition Without Fighting Every Battle
What happens when you can sense what people are not saying? In this conversation, Kaila New York explores what she calls “the radar,” the ability to recognize when someone’s words, emotions, or outward presentation do not match what is happening underneath. She reflects on the times she ignored...
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Do the Damn Thing
Kaila New York reflects on what it means to truly go after something you want. Instead of getting trapped in questions about whether it will work or whether the outcome will match your expectations, she encourages you to move toward it, experience it, learn from it, and adjust along the way....
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Find the Age That Haunts You
What if the age you keep talking about is trying to show you something? In this episode, Kaila New York explores the idea that unresolved experiences can create what she calls a “kink in the line,” affecting the way we experience relationships, emotions, choices, and present-day life. Kaila…
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The Relationship Pattern I Couldn’t See Until I Saw Myself
What happens when you realize the common denominator in your relationship history is not simply the people you chose, but the pattern you were carrying with you? In this episode, Kaila New York reflects on years of relationships where she became the helper, fixer, supporter, and person…
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MORE UNWRITTEN NYC RULES YOU NEED TO KNOW 😭😂
New York City has a code. If your bag hits somebody, SAY SORRY. If the train is crowded, take the backpack off. If somebody is making you uncomfortable, use your words. If there is a bus line, GET IN THE LINE. And please stop acting like everybody standing in the rain was just there for fun. 😭😂...
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THE UNWRITTEN RULES OF NEW YORK CITY 😭😂
Coming to New York? Then somebody needs to tell you the rules nobody actually writes down. Sidewalks have lanes. Do NOT stop in the middle. If you cut somebody off, KEEP MOVING. If people are getting off the bus or train, MOVE OUT THE WAY. And if that backpack keeps hitting somebody, you need to...
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I Was Wrong About My Son: Bad Days, High Standards, and Seeing the Full Picture
After finally getting Dylan’s weekday aide in place, I expected to spend the day making sure everything went smoothly. Instead, I learned something about my own son. I asked Jaeden to train the new aide, and what I heard completely changed my perspective. Jaeden explained Dylan’s routines,...
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Welcome to The Paradigm Shifts Podcast Network—Where Transformation Begins!Hi, I’m Kaila New York, and this is your space for unlocking new perspectives, embracing self-discovery, and navigating life with clarity and confidence. Through my network of podcasts, I provide insight, guidance, and real conversations on relationships, self-love, parenting, communication, and understanding the universe we live in.I apply powerful paradigm-shifting techniques that I’ve learned and developed—methods that haveThank you for being here, for tuning in, and for allowing me to be part of your journey
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