The Richard Nicholls Mental Health Podcast

Send us Fan MailToday I'm talking about a phrase that gets said to people all the time, usually by someone who loves them, and it's meant as a criticism even though it's usually evidence that something's gone RIGHT.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThis week I'm talking about compulsive lying, and why the picture most of us have of it, someone cold and calculating who's worked out exactly what story gets them what they want, is usually wrong. Most compulsive lying isn't strategic at all. It's automatic, it's fast, and often the person doing it couldn't tell you why they said it either.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailDoes venting your frustrations make you feel better?Turns out, not so much. No.So what we can we do instead?Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailIs laughter the best medicine?Maybe not, but it's better than nothing!Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailEmpty nest syndrome is one of those things people feel a bit embarrassed to admit to. Your child leaving home is meant to be a success story, so why does the house suddenly feel so wrong? In this episode I look at what's really going on when the nest empties, why it's grief rather than a disorder, what your attachment system is up to when you're still listening for the front door at 11pm, and why the research on what happens next is far more optimistic than you might expect.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailInfidelity is one of those topics that gets talked about constantly but almost never honestly. The public conversation tends to collapse into judgment or defence, and neither actually helps anyone understand what's going on.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailFollowing on from last week I'm going into why some neurodiversity isn't genetic. How childhood trauma can shape a brain in ways that look a lot like neurodivergence and why so many people get handed the wrong diagnosis.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailWhy is it so much easier to sort out a friend's messy cupboard than my own?This month I'm getting into overwhelm and executive dysfunction, specifically the pile that's been sat on the chair for 3 weeks, the drawer that only opens halfway, and the shame that builds up around it.I break down what executive function actually is, why clutter turns into hundreds of tiny decisions your brain just can't process when it's already running on empty, and the 4 reasons it's so much easier to be decisive with someone else's stuff than your own.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailDifferent brains aren't broken brains. They're just running on an operating system the world wasn't built to support. So this week I'm talking about why neurodivergence and mental health are more tangled together than most people realise, and what that actually means for the people carrying it.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThis week we're talking about bullying, and not just the playground kind. We dig into how being bullied as a child can leave a lasting mark on the nervous system, even when home life was safe and loving.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailAnger gets such a rough deal, doesn't it. People either think they've got too much of it and feel ashamed, or they reckon they never get angry and think that's something to be proud of. And honestly, both of those things are worth looking at.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThis week I’m talking about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT. A therapy model that sounds a bit like “just accept things” on the surface, but actually has a lot more depth to it than that.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailJumping into the time machine today, back to 1968 when a researcher built a paradise for mice. A place with unlimited food, total safety, nothing to fear, and watched the whole thing fall apart anyway.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailPeople often use the word panic to mean the same as anxiety. But in my world, the 2 are separated so as to ensure people get the right sort of therapy.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailAttention seeking gets used as an insult, doesn't it. But wanting to be noticed is one of the most fundamental human drives we have. Today I'm looking at why we got this so badly wrong, and what's actually going on when someone gets labelled that way.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailSelf forgiveness isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen, or letting ourselves off the hook. It’s about learning the difference between responsibility and punishment. Because you can’t hate yourself into becoming well.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailWhen we notice our mistakes or our inconsistencies, it's easy to label ourselves as a failure. But becoming the best we can be is a continual process, not a destination. Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailEver found yourself apologising for things that don’t really need an apology? Sorry for asking a question. Sorry for needing help. Sorry for simply existing in someone else’s eyeline.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailWho's responsible if we fall flat on our face and nothing goes right?More importantly, who's responsible if we don't pick ourselves up again?Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailIf resting feels wrong for you, that doesn’t mean you’re bad at relaxing. It might mean that your nervous system has learnt some harsh rules about usefulness, safety, and self worth.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailIf you're soaking up all the negative stuff that goes on in the world it can be really hard to feel safe ourselves unless we work hard to.Ignorance is bliss sometimes and you have nothing to feel guilty about by looking the other way when you have to.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThe world can feel quite stressful sometimes and it's really important to find ways of not making things worse for ourselves.One of those ways is to learn how to let go of some things and find the best ways to delegate.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThis week I’m talking about grounding techniques, those simple little ways we can bring ourselves back to the present when stress, anxiety, or overwhelm start pulling us in all sorts of directions.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailA bad attitude is like a flat car tyre.You're not going anywhere unless you change it.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailWhat if the parts of yourself you try hardest to hide are the very parts that need the most understanding? Today we're looking at the idea of the shadow side, the uncomfortable emotions and reactions we often judge, suppress, or avoid. Rather than seeing anger, jealousy, resentment, or insecurity as proof that something is wrong with you, it's good to approach them with curiosity and compassion. Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailDreams have fascinated us for thousands of years. From ancient prophecies to Freud’s theories about hidden desires, people have long believed that dreams must contain some deeper symbolic meaning. But what if they don’t?Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThis week’s episode looks at the tiny influences that shape the way we see ourselves and the world around us. Most people assume big life changes come from big events. Trauma, major decisions, life turning points. But in the therapy room what I often see is something much quieter than that. A slow drip of messages and expectations that build up over time.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailHave you ever caught yourself thinking, “I should be better than this” or “I mustn’t upset anyone” and wondered where that rule actually came from?This week, we're having a look at the psychology of introjects. The beliefs, attitudes and standards we unconsciously absorb from parents, teachers, partners and society. The invisible scripts that quietly shape our self esteem, anxiety, relationships and sense of worth.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailHappy Easter everyone,Spring has sprung, the rabbits are at it like, well, rabbits. And it got me thinking about love.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailThe rules of toxic masculinity suggest that to be a real man you should never lose, have no needs, suffer in silence, show no emotions except bravado and anger, be independent, show no weakness.It’s an impossible code to live by and it hurts everyone.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailBecause we're not born knowing how to do anything that comes naturally to us as adults, we're literally born to fail along the way.Whether that's learning to walk, talk or how to be calm in difficult situations. We have to learn. We have to practice. And the only way to do that is to get it wrong.Time to embrace our failures!Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailCall it a crush, call it new relationship energy, call it infatuation. But if it becomes an addiction, then you can easily become your own drug dealer by retreating into fantasy.That's when it starts to become a very serious problem.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailNot only is my house full left over Christmas chocolate but the supermarkets are already pushing Easter eggs onto me and there's only so much willpower we have to resist.But sometimes it's all a matter of perspective.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailUnderstanding a little bit about the effects of different parenting styles can really help us understand ourselves better. As well as help us to understand others.Let's have a peek into some of the basics shall we?Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailPhenomenology is a posh word that psychologists use to mean the idea of someone's subjective and individual experience.We could all have exactly the same experience but feel completely different about it and it's important we understand why.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailIf your sense of self is based around helping others and it's the only place where you get your self worth from. It might be worth checking that you don't make things worse.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailAccording to multiple studies, fear of judgement is the number one biggest fear, above dying.The author Elbert Hubbard once wrote, "Do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing, and you'll never be criticised." And that's probably the only way to avoid criticism, isn't it?Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailToday is International Relaxation Day. So I thought I'd do something different this week for my bonus episode and guide you through a 5 minute relaxation exercise.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailMost people think of boundaries as being like a physical thing as if there's a chalk outline on the ground everywhere you go and if someone steps into it it makes you upset. The thing is the only one that knows the boundary is there is you.Today is all about why boundaries are important, how to set them and how you know if someone's crossed the line.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailWhat's the difference between someone who has all the motivation and enthusiasm you could wish for and someone who, even though they don't have depression, still can't feel motivated? Well, in order to answer that I think it's worth looking at what motivation actually is.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailIt's Friday 13th, so today I've got a bonus episode for you about the psychology of superstition.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailYour brain has a remarkable ability to filter and remember important experiences while discarding the less significant ones. It does so by comparing new experiences with past ones and using emotional reactions to determine their importance.Let's look at how we can train it!Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailToday is all about Obsessive Compulsive Personality.OCD is talked about a lot because it's such a life destroying disorder, and so is quite obvious if someone has it. But when it's a personality trait people can often just get labelled as "difficult" and they don't seek help.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailBeing behind on your goals doesn't mean rushing to get everything finished, it doesn't mean disrespecting yourself and not looking after yourself.One of the most important factors in getting through a busy life with a healthy and happy mindset is the quality time that you put to one side just for you.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailEver heard of Sensory Processing Sensitivity?It's a neurological trait that means that one in 6 people have super duper processing abilities of all of their experiences. Sounds like a superpower doesn't it?Some with it don't always think so though.Take the testhttps://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailIt may be Valentine's Day this month, a day to remind someone that you love them, but I think we very often need to bring it closer to home.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailCognitive Distortions are the thinking traps where our mind convinces us of something that isn't actually true.Once habitual and almost a part of our personality, they can very often start the ball rolling for depression and anxiety.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailFor many, anxiety is all about being vulnerable to the possibility of rejection. It's normal for our brain to seek out what we fear and notice dangerous possibilities. But those with bad experiences may have been primed from an early age to expect rejection by default.Because of this, their brain is going to start perceiving rejection everywhere.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan MailKindness is often linked with better mental health. It helps us to feel connected to others, creates a sense of belonging and reduces isolation.But I say there's a time and a place for it, and it might not be now and it might start closer to home.Support the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls

Send us Fan Mail"Awe" tends to be defined as the emotion we experience when encountering something with such perceived vastness that our brain might find it hard to comprehend how it can exist.Being "awed" by an experience can have some surprisingly powerful, positive effects on us.Awesome LinksWatch All The Apple TV Aerial Video Screensavershttps://bzamayo.com/watch-all-the-apple-tv-aerial-video-screensaversElbow One Day Like This with the BBC Concert Orchestra and choir Chantage https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x2q7e5lSlow motion Droplet Collisionshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNI-LIVs-toMusharaf Asghar overcoming his stammer.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgZfLImT2gMStar Wars - Main Title. The Danish National Symphony Orchestra https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=we3VEI5pmqoSupport the showJoin the Patreon community https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSocial Media LinksBluesky https://bsky.app/profile/richardnicholls.netThreads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsrealInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthorX https://x.com/richardnicholls