The Sabrina Zohar Show

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The Sabrina Zohar Show

The Sabrina Zohar Show is your no-BS guide to dating, relationships, and coming home to yourself. Hosted by @sabrina.zohar, this podcast dives deep into the realities of modern love, anxious attachment, and the personal growth it takes to build meaningful connections- not just with others, but with yourself.Formerly known as “Do The Work” the show is all about cutting through the noise. Whether you’re navigating dating burnout, relationship struggles, or learning how to stop overthinking every text, Sabrina brings raw, unfiltered conversations that challenge your patterns, shift your mindset, and help you reclaim your power.Because the real work isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the version of you that feels whole, secure, and unapologetically authentic.Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and watch on YouTube.A podcast on dating, anxiety, and doing the work to heal with <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sabri

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    203: Why You Keep Choosing The Same Person Over And Over W/ Thais Gibson

    We hurt in relationships, but we also heal in them. Sabrina sits down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to map out the actual stages of healing attachment wounds: core wounds from childhood, unmet needs, subconscious rewiring, anxious attachment patterns, somatic work, and nervous system regulation. No secure partner is going to fix you, and this episode breaks down exactly why. If you are stuck in the same dating cycles, doing all the personal growth content and wondering why nothing is sticking, this one is for you. Thais explains why self-awareness is not the same as healing, how to re-parent the unmet needs from your childhood, and the 21-day practice that patterns new beliefs into your subconscious mind. This conversation covers inner child work, attachment theory, and the deep reprogramming that actually changes how you show up in love. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Head to ⁠Greenchef.com/50sabrina⁠ and use code 50sabrina to get fifty percent off your first month, then twenty percent off for two months with free shipping. Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! Batch is offering 30% off sitewide. Go to hellobatch.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA at checkout. ============================= Chapters: 0:00 Hurt In Relationships, Heal In Them 6:21 Why Your Subconscious Runs Your Life 11:32 You Can't Outsource Your Healing 18:55 Rewire Core Wounds In 21 Days 24:55 Unmet Childhood Needs Explained 29:49 Nervous System Regulation Truth 34:08 Somatic Processing For Triggers 41:21 How To Communicate Needs Clearly 47:33 Setting Boundaries Without Guilt 53:04 Rewire Anger And Reactive Behavior Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    202: The Ick, Shadow Work, And Why You're Still Single

    If you keep getting the ick with every person you date, the problem might not actually be them. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks shadow work and the ick, breaking down how the parts of yourself you rejected long ago are running your dating life, your relationships, and the triggers that send you spiraling over something small. This is why you keep walking away from available, kind, emotionally present people and calling it intuition. Sabrina lays out the difference between shadow work, inner child work, attachment styles, and nervous system regulation, and why the healing work most people are doing only takes them so far. With neuroscience on projection, the amygdala, and unconscious self-perception, plus practical tools to track the charge underneath your reactions, this episode is for anyone ready to stop self-sabotaging in dating and finally build a secure, emotionally available relationship. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Download the Poshmark app and use code sabrina when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase, or shop now at Poshmark.com/sabrina and get $10 off your first purchase. Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Why You Get The Ick With Everyone 03:30 Inner Child Work vs Shadow Work 07:08 What Shadow Work Really Means 09:28 Parts You Reject In Yourself 12:29 The Ick Decoded In Dating 15:42 Masculine Feminine Polarity Myth 18:37 Triggers In Your Relationship 22:32 Projection In Love (Yale Study) 26:14 Neuroscience Of The Shadow 29:38 How To Do Shadow Work Daily Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    201: This Is What Happens When You Finally Choose Yourself

    In this raw birthday episode, Sabrina gets honest about the hidden cost of personal growth and what nobody warns you about when you actually start doing the work. From losing friends who only knew the old version of you, to grieving the identity you outgrew on purpose, to realizing success doesn't fix your insecurities or quiet your anxiety, this is the unfiltered truth about healing that the self-help world skips over. If you've ever wondered why your "best year ever" also feels like the loneliest, this episode explains exactly why, backed by Harvard research on identity loss during major life change. Tune in for an honest conversation about why healing isn't linear, why setting boundaries can push away people you love, why guilt shows up when you start choosing yourself, and how to sit in the uncomfortable in-between when your old life doesn't fit but your new one doesn't feel like yours yet. Plus, Sabrina shares a powerful Identity Inventory tool to track how far you've actually come, the "for now" reframe that interrupts catastrophic thinking, and why corrective experiences rewire your nervous system. Essential listening for anyone in their growth era, working through attachment patterns, navigating self-abandonment, or questioning whether they're doing this healing thing right. Sparkle outfit thanks to Hand Over Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/SABRINA — and using our link helps support the show. ============================= Chapters: 00:00 The Hidden Cost of Growth 04:25 Why Growth Is So Lonely 09:29 Grieving Old Versions of You 14:21 Why Success Doesn't Fix You 17:46 Anxiety in Healthy Relationships 19:46 The For Now Reframe 21:48 Boundaries Hurt People You Love 23:07 Why Healing Isn't Linear 25:21 Sitting in the In-Between 26:40 Identity Inventory Tool Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    200: Navigating Insecurities, Self-Worth And Believing In Yourself

    For the 200th episode, Sabrina tackles the question she gets asked more than anything: how do you actually believe you're enough? This one breaks down where insecurity really comes from, why "just have more confidence" is bullshit advice, and what social psychologist Mark Leary's sociometer theory reveals about self esteem, rejection, and why one mean comment drowns out a hundred compliments. If you grew up with conditional love, keep dating emotionally unavailable people, or can't stop missing someone who ran hot and cold, this episode is for you. Sabrina covers how to build real self trust, the difference between anxiety and intuition, why intermittent reinforcement feels like addiction, and the five source check questions that will show you exactly whose voice has been running your internal monologue. Plus the "for now" reframe that will change how you think about being single, stuck, or starting over. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Batch is offering 30% off sitewide. Go to hellobatch.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA at checkout. Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/SABRINA #Tumble #ad Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Why You Feel Like You're Not Enough 01:39 Self Worth Is Not Bubble Baths 04:40 Insecurity Is An Adaptation 06:21 Why Confidence Comes Before Action 10:36 The Sociometer Self Esteem Gauge 12:24 Why You Pick Emotionally Unavailable People 23:43 Building Self Trust In Dating 25:50 Anxiety Vs Intuition 28:40 Missing Someone Who Was Bad For You 32:17 Tool Of The Week: The Source Check Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    199:Can You Change Your Attachment Style? With Amir Levine

    The author of Attached, Amir Levine, M.D., is back with a new book called Secure and a whole new framework for understanding why your relationships feel the way they do. In this episode, we get into the biggest misconceptions about anxious and avoidant attachment, the truth about whether you can actually change your attachment style, why avoidants shut down instead of showing up, what a "closeness overdose" is and why it kills perfectly good relationships, and the five pillars of a secure life built around his CARP framework: consistent, available, responsive, reliable, and predictable. If you've ever been stuck in anxious hyper-vigilance, wondered how to build a secure relationship with someone more avoidant, struggled with limerence and obsessive attachment, or just wanted to stop letting your nervous system run the show, this episode gives you real, research-backed tools to start rewiring your brain toward earned secure attachment starting today. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! ============================= Chapters: 0:00 Intro: Amir Levine & Secure 2:17 From Attached to Secure 3:44 Biggest Attachment Myths Debunked 6:18 The Truth About Avoidant Attachment 7:47 What Is a Closeness Overdose 11:08 Anxious Avoidant Relationships 15:23 The CARP Framework Explained 22:46 Micro Interactions Rewire Your Brain 25:32 Anxious Attachment as a Superpower 35:22 Limerence and Obsessive Attachment Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    198: Listen To This If You Lose Yourself In Relationships | In The Trenches

    Are you so afraid of losing someone that you have already lost yourself? In this bonus episode, Sabrina answers listener questions about self-abandonment, emotionally unavailable partners, and why holding on to hope in a low-effort dynamic keeps you stuck in childhood core beliefs instead of building the healthy relationship you deserve. She breaks down dating with detachment, the difference between attention and intention, and how to stop performing for people who are not showing up for you. Sabrina also gets real about fear of rejection, chasing validation, and the mantras that changed her entire dating life. Plus, she reviews a listener's dating profile and shares exactly what makes a profile memorable versus forgettable. Whether you are navigating the apps, stuck in a situationship going nowhere, or struggling to use your voice and set standards, this episode will help you start choosing yourself first. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Go to ⁠IM8HEALTH.com/SABRINA⁠ and use code SABRINA for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order Head to ⁠Greenchef.com/50sabrina⁠ and use code 50sabrina to get fifty percent off your first month, then twenty percent off for two months with free shipping. ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Stop Losing Yourself in Dating 02:47 Red Flags You Keep Excusing 04:11 Attention vs Intention in Dating 06:16 Why You Hold On to Hope 10:26 Texting Is Not a Relationship 13:39 What Healthy Relationships Take 16:46 Fear of Losing People 18:08 How to Date With Detachment 23:53 Dating Profile Review With Ryan 31:10 Using Your Voice to Set Standards Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    197: Breaking Up With Green Flags

    What happens when you have to end a relationship with someone who did nothing wrong? This episode covers the breakup nobody prepares you for: leaving someone good, or being left by someone who simply "isn't feeling it." Sabrina breaks down why love and alignment are not the same thing, how to tell the difference between a rough patch and real incompatibility, and why these breakups can hurt more than the ones with an obvious reason. Whether you're carrying the guilt of leaving or the confusion of being left with no explanation that makes sense, this episode helps you stop internalizing someone else's feelings as a verdict on your worth. Sabrina shares her own story, the science of breakup recovery, and a tool of the week with journaling prompts for both sides. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?" If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets Download the Poshmark app and use code sabrina when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase, or shop now at Poshmark.com/sabrina and get $10 off your first purchase. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina ============================= Chapters: 00:00 The Breakup Nobody Talks About 01:54 When Nothing Is Wrong on Paper 06:46 Choosing Yourself Feels Scary 09:22 Why Love and Alignment Differ 15:30 The Brain Science of Heartbreak 21:15 Guilt vs Grief After a Breakup 23:23 Stop Outsourcing Your Validation 26:32 You Were Enough, It Was the Fit 28:17 How to Know If You Should Leave 31:27 Tool of the Week: 7 Day Journal Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    196: Closure, No Contact, And How To Get Over Someone

    Closure is a lie, and waiting for it is keeping you stuck. In this episode of the Hard Truth Series, we get into why closure doesn't come from another person, what your brain is actually doing after a breakup, and why the conversation you keep replaying in your head would never be enough even if you got it. We cover the neuroscience of heartbreak, why searching for "why" makes things worse, and how identity loss after a relationship ends is what's really driving your distress. If you can't stop thinking about your ex, feel like you need one more explanation to move on, or keep putting your life on hold waiting for them to come back, this one is for you. We break down the difference between processing and rumination, why no contact feels impossible, and how to actually grieve a breakup so you can stop outsourcing your healing to someone who already walked away. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?" If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Start your new morning ritual & get up to 43% off your @MUDWTR with code SABRINAZOHAR at mudwtr.com/SABRINAZOHAR! #mudwtrpod Unlock your best skin with @iRestorelaser and unlock exclusive savings on the iRestore Illumina Face Mask, use code SABRINA at irestore.com/SABRINA! #irestorepod ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Closure Doesn't Come From Them 03:15 Why Your Brain Craves an Explanation 06:30 Audience Questions: Stuck After a Breakup 09:45 The Neuroscience of Heartbreak 13:00 How to Actually Stop Thinking About Your Ex 16:15 Why Journaling Can Make It Worse 19:30 Identity Loss After a Breakup 22:45 What Grief Actually Looks Like 26:00 Reframing Closure as Grief 29:15 Tool of the Week: The Grief Inventory Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    195: Do You Want Love Or Do You Want to Be Picked So You Feel Worthy?

    If you've ever lost interest the moment someone became available, or stayed obsessed with someone who kept you at arm's length, this episode is for you. Part three of the Hard Truth Series breaks down the most common pattern nobody wants to admit: using relationships to collect proof of your worth instead of building real partnership. Backed by research on rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment, Sabrina unpacks why chasing external validation creates a cycle no amount of love can fix, how to tell if you are dating for connection or reassurance, and what it actually takes to stop performing and start showing up. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Sign up now and Acorns will boost your new account with a $5 bonus investment. Head to acorns.com/ZOHAR or download the Acorns app to get started. Right now, Momentous is offering our listeners up to 35% off your first order with promo code SABRINA. Head to livemomentous.com ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Dating for Validation vs Partnership 03:17 Why You're Not Ready for Real Love 07:00 Proof Seeking vs Building Partnership 10:37 Rejection and Self-Worth 15:00 Core Beliefs and the Validation Trap 19:00 Why External Validation Never Fills the Void 23:35 The Research Behind Approval Seeking 26:28 What Validation Dating Actually Costs You 29:21 Are You Performing or Showing Up 32:10 The Validation Check Tool of the Week Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    194: How To Actually Heal Your Nervous System And Change Your Life w/ Nicole LePera

    Why do you overreact in relationships when the situation doesn't match the emotion? Sabrina sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist, to break down inner child wounds, how your nervous system stores childhood trauma before you have words to process it, and why certain dating triggers send you spiraling. They dive into emotional attunement, generational trauma, shame, and anxious attachment patterns. Dr. Nicole shares reparenting tools from her new book, Reparenting The Inner Child, including how to regulate your nervous system and stop self-abandoning in relationships. If you've ever said "I had a great childhood" but still struggle with dating anxiety or abandonment fears, this one's for you. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. As an exclusive offer, my listeners can get their choice between organic ground beef, chicken breast or shrimp in every box for a year, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/SABRINA ============================= Chapters: 0:00 Your Reaction Doesn't Match Reality 1:24 Meet Dr. Nicole LePera 3:16 What Is Your Inner Child 5:07 "I Had a Perfect Childhood" 10:00 How Your Nervous System Stores Trauma 14:02 Nature vs Nurture in Attachment 17:32 Body Signals of Inner Child Wounds 19:59 Why Dating Triggers Hit So Hard 23:47 Shame and Self-Sabotage in Love 29:19 Recognizing Triggers in Real Time 36:15 What Reparenting Looks Like 40:44 Nervous System Regulation Tools 46:03 Inner Child Patterns in Relationships 53:24 Healing Is Not a Destination Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    193: Can You Get Someone To Be Emotionally Available?

    You've done the therapy, read the books, and know your attachment style... so why does nothing change? In part 2 of the Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you cannot heal your way out of incompatibility. Drawing on real research, she unpacks how to tell the difference between a wrong match and relationship anxiety, why therapy language can become a cage that keeps you stuck, and the line between actual growth and emotional gymnastics. If you've stayed way past the expiration date convinced the work would eventually pay off, this episode is for you. Sabrina covers the fear-of-being-single trap, why your anxiety isn't always an attachment wound, and introduces the Responsibility Audit. Some relationships don't fail because you're broken, they fail because two people want fundamentally different things. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! Go to IM8HEALTH.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/SABRINA #oneskinpod ============================= Chapters 00:00 Hard Truth Series Part 2 Intro 03:14 The Self-Improvement Trap 05:33 Anxiety or a Bad Match? 08:03 When Self-Work Becomes Self-Blame 11:40 Compatibility Is Not a Wound 17:16 What Doing the Work Can't Fix 24:32 When Therapy Speak Keeps You Stuck 26:42 Growth vs. Emotional Gymnastics 31:11 The Knowing vs. Leaving Gap 34:10 The Responsibility Audit Tool Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    192: How To Let Someone In Without Losing Yourself | In The Trenches

    Dating with an open heart sounds beautiful until your nervous system has other plans. In this solo In The Trenches audience Q&A episode, Sabrina answers your most raw questions about how to let someone in without losing yourself, how to date after grief, and what it actually looks like to stay present when fear or anxiety is running the show. From navigating new love after loss to the hard truth about anxious attachment and self-accountability, this episode covers the real work of building a healthy relationship: nervous system regulation, emotional ownership, and learning the difference between communicating and controlling. Want your question answered on a future episode? Send in your inquiries, stories, and dating profiles to [email protected] If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Text SABRINA to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply. ============================= Chapters 00:00 Dating Without Losing Yourself 03:06 Dating After Grief and Loss 05:02 How to Make Space for Grief While Dating 07:51 When and How to Share Your Grief 09:42 Dating with Courage After Hard Times 11:28 What Is Sapiosexuality in Dating 19:30 Nervous System and Emotional Intimacy 24:30 Anxious Attachment and Gaslighting 27:06 Codependency and Emotional Regulation 29:42 Anxious Attachment and Accountability Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  13. 191

    191: Why You Keep Falling For Their Potential Instead Of Who They Are

    Ever caught yourself saying "when it's good, it's so good"? In this first episode of the 4-part Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you keep falling in love with who someone could be instead of who they actually are — and why potential is just a placeholder for the grief you're avoiding. She dives into the neuroscience of the "prospective brain," the impact bias that keeps you chasing a fantasy, and the 13-year longitudinal study that explains why you lower your standards for the wrong people but can't appreciate the ones who actually show up. Sabrina gets vulnerable about her own patternsand gives you the exact reframe to stop confusing anxiety with connection. Plus, this week's tool: the Potential vs. Reality Audit, a two-column exercise to see whether you're in a relationship or a fantasy. If you've ever wondered why the available person feels boring or why you keep choosing people who need to become someone else for it to work, this one's for you. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 Hard Truth Series Part 1 01:50 Gratitude & Setting Boundaries 04:59 What "I See Potential" Really Means 08:00 The Pattern Is the Real Them 11:08 Real Potential vs Fantasy Potential 15:54 Neuroscience of Dating a Fantasy 20:36 3 Questions Keeping You Stuck 25:51 Are You a Partner or a Fixer 28:21 What If They Change For Someone Else 33:47 Tool: Potential vs Reality Audit Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    190: Money & Dating: The Conversations You're Avoiding That Will Make or Break Your Relationship W/ The Tiger Sisters

    Who pays on the first date? When should you talk about money in a relationship? How do you split finances with your partner — and what happens when you don't? Sabrina sits down with Jean and Cherie, the Tiger Sisters, to tackle every uncomfortable money question in dating and relationships — from first-date expectations and financial red flags to prenups, combining finances, and protecting yourself before marriage. If you've ever avoided "the money talk" with someone you're dating, this episode is your wake-up call. The Tiger Sisters bring their Wall Street, Silicon Valley, and business school backgrounds to break down the business side of love — why financial independence matters (especially for women), how to set boundaries around money without killing the romance, and why who you choose to marry is the single most important decision you'll ever make. Whether you're single, dating, or already in a relationship, this conversation will change how you think about love, money, and building a life with the right partner. Close the Loop: Mastering 2026 Dating Live Practice + Q&A with Sabrina Zohar I'm hosting a free live session on March 4, and this is the last one I'm planning for a long time. If dating keeps ending the same way and you can't figure out why, this is for you. 📅 March 4 🕘 4PM LA / 7PM NYC SAVE MY SPOT! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 Money & Dating: What No One Says 06:01 Should You Date a Coworker? 12:11 Date Like You're Hiring a CEO 15:24 Why Going Slow in Dating Works 20:53 Dating While Being a Successful Woman 26:20 Who Pays on the First Date? 36:08 Financial Independence for Women 42:30 When to Talk About Money & Debt 49:09 Moving In Together & Finances 54:23 Do You Need a Prenup? Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    189: Breadcrumbs and The Bare Minimum In Dating

    If someone keeps texting but never makes plans, says “we’ll see,” or gives just enough to keep you hooked, this episode is for you. We break down breadcrumbing and bare minimum dating, including mixed signals, strategic ambiguity, and future faking—and why inconsistency keeps your brain stuck chasing clarity instead of connection. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between someone who’s genuinely busy versus emotionally unavailable, and why ambiguity fuels anxiety and attachment loops. We also shift the focus back to you: why accepting breadcrumbs can feel familiar, how nervous system wiring and cognitive bias keep you stuck, and what actually helps you walk away without self-abandonment. This episode gives you clear language, practical scripts, and grounded tools to choose consistency over confusion in dating and relationships. Big announcement: For the first time ever, I'm hosting a live workshop and you're invited. If dating feels exhausting and you can't figure out why it keeps ending the same way, this is for you. You'll be the first to learn my new 3-step framework for understanding what's keeping you stuck and how to change it. Plus you get my implementation workbook. REGISTER HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina ============================= Chapters 00:00 Breadcrumbing vs Being Busy 03:50 What Bare Minimum Dating Is 07:20 Why Mixed Signals Create Attachment 11:20 Strategic Ambiguity in Dating 15:10 Future Faking Red Flags 19:00 Why Consistency Feels Boring 22:55 How Ambiguity Fuels Anxiety 26:50 When Waiting Is Self Abandonment 30:35 What To Say to a Breadcrumber 34:20 How to Stop the Breadcrumb Cycle Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  16. 188

    188: If You’re Losing Yourself in Relationships, This Episode Is For You

    In this episode, Sabrina breaks down self-abandonment in dating and relationships, why losing yourself often gets mislabeled as love, and how chronic people-pleasing, codependency, and anxious attachment actually form. Using psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory, she explains differentiation of self, emotional fusion, and how the nervous system drives self-betrayal, protest behavior, and fear of abandonment in romantic relationships. You’ll learn how to choose yourself without blowing up your relationship, stop outsourcing emotional regulation, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect to your intuition versus anxiety. This episode is essential for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety, overgiving, losing their voice in dating, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns. Big announcement: For the first time ever, I'm hosting a live workshop and you're invited. If dating feels exhausting and you can't figure out why it keeps ending the same way, this is for you. You'll be the first to learn my new 3-step framework for understanding what's keeping you stuck and how to change it. Plus you get my implementation workbook. REGISTER HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Are You Losing Yourself in Love? 03:05 – When “Compromise” Is Self-Betrayal 06:00 – Why You Fuse in Relationships 08:55 – Codependency Isn’t the Real Issue 11:55 – Anxiety vs Intuition in Dating 14:55 – Why Your Nervous System Panics 18:10 – How Self-Abandonment Shows Up 21:50 – Boundaries Without Losing Love 24:50 – How to Choose Yourself Safely 28:05 – The Fusion Check (Real-Time Tool) Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    187: Am I Falling For The Idea Of Them? W/ Damona Hoffman

    In this episode, Sabrina sits down with dating expert Damona Hoffman to unpack how fairy tales, rom-coms, and modern dating apps fuel obsession, fantasy, and anxious attachment. They break down why texting chemistry, dopamine loops, and “potential” keep people stuck in confusing dating dynamics—and how to shift from chasing sparks to choosing emotional safety, clarity, and real connection. If you’re tired of mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, situationships, or questioning someone’s attachment style, this conversation reframes dating through grounded psychology and nervous system awareness. You’ll learn how to stop romanticizing unavailable partners, identify emotional unavailability early, and date with intention instead of fantasy—so you can build a healthy, secure relationship rooted in reality, not wishful thinking. Want to have your submission appear on a future show? Send in your stories, questions, or dating profiles to [email protected] Get 'F the Fairy Tale' by Damona! If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Dating Myths & Fairy Tale Fantasy 04:18 – Obsessing Over Potential vs Reality 08:12 – Texting, Dopamine & False Intimacy 13:05 – Good Morning Texts & Anxiety Loops 18:02 – Why Sparks Don’t Equal Compatibility 23:11 – Emotional Unavailability Explained 28:07 – Mixed Signals & Hot-Cold Behavior 33:02 – Attachment Styles vs Real Behavior 38:06 – Emotional Intimacy & Secure Love 42:10 – Dating With Clarity, Not Fantasy Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  18. 186

    186: Is It Lovebombing? Or Were They Genuinely Interested?

    When someone comes on strong early, it can feel like intimacy—but it’s often just intensity. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down love bombing, future faking, and why fast-moving connections activate dopamine and attachment wounds rather than real emotional safety. She explains what’s actually happening in your brain when chemistry feels overwhelming and why those relationships tend to crash just as fast. You’ll learn the most common signs of love bombing, why stable connection can feel boring at first, and how anxious attachment keeps people hooked on the high. Sabrina also shares the Reality Check Pause, a practical tool to slow down, spot red flags early, and build relationships based on consistency, trust, and choice—not urgency or fear of being alone. If you’re struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 0:00 Love Bombing vs Real Intimacy 3:10 Intensity Feels Like Connection 6:05 Dopamine and Dating Chemistry 9:30 Why Fast Relationships Crash 12:40 Texting, Attention, and Control 16:05 Future Faking Red Flags 19:20 Intermittent Reinforcement Explained 23:10 Why Healthy Love Feels Boring 27:00 The Reality Check Pause Tool 31:00 How to Slow Down Without Losing Them Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  19. 185

    185: What Heartbreak Teaches You About Love

    Heartbreak can feel like the end of everything, but it’s often the beginning of healing. In this raw episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina shares the three biggest heartbreaks of her life and what they taught her about anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, limerence, and self-worth. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships and loss, this episode explores how heartbreak shapes our dating patterns and beliefs about love. If you’re struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 Heartbreak and Healing Journey 03:10 Childhood Trauma and Attachment 06:25 Emotional Neglect Core Wounds 09:40 How Trauma Shapes Dating Patterns 13:05 Limerence and Anxious Attachment 17:10 Toxic Relationships and Manipulation 21:45 Breakups, Grief, and No Contact 25:30 Losing Yourself in Relationships 29:00 Healing Core Beliefs and Self Worth 32:20 Choosing Emotionally Safe Love Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  20. 184

    184: If You Want To Change Your Life, You've Got To Do This

    Three years ago, Sabrina Zohar hit rock bottom after losing everything she thought defined her. In this raw anniversary episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, she reflects on the journey from heartbreak, identity collapse, and losing her sense of direction to rebuilding her life through self-trust, nervous system healing, and emotional growth. This episode explores grief, attachment patterns, worthiness, and what happens when the path you were certain about disappears. Joined by her partner (romantic and business) Ryan halfway through, Sabrina unpacks anxious and avoidant dynamics, boundaries, communication, and why healing doesn’t mean never being triggered again. If you’ve ever felt lost after a breakup, attached to outcomes, or afraid of being seen, this episode is a reminder that you’re not broken. You’re becoming. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – When Your Life Doesn’t Go the Way You Planned 03:12 – Losing Your Identity After a Breakup or Career Collapse 07:05 – Hitting Rock Bottom and Rebuilding From Scratch 10:48 – Why We Attach Our Worth to Relationships and Success 14:32 – Healthy Relationships Still Trigger Your Nervous System 18:10 – Anxious and Avoidant Attachment in Real Life 22:05 – Boundaries, Communication, and Emotional Safety 26:18 – Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem 30:12 – Letting Go of Control, Validation, and External Approval 34:40 – Healing Without Perfection or Constant Positivity 38:20 – Final Takeaways: Self-Trust, Growth, and Becoming Yourself Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    183: Lessons In Healing Anxious Attachment Style W/ Paige Homan

    In this deeply personal episode, Sabrina Zohar is joined by her longtime best friend Paige Homan to reflect on Sabrina’s growth journey from anxious attachment, dating anxiety, and emotional dysregulation to self-trust, nervous system regulation, and secure love. Through honest conversation and real-life reflection, they explore personal transformation, healing patterns in relationships, emotional maturity, and what it actually takes to evolve into a grounded, emotionally secure version of yourself over time. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Sabrina Zohar’s Anxious Dating Era and Why This Episode Matters 02:10 – Meet Paige: The Friend Who Witnessed Sabrina’s Growth Journey Firsthand 05:00 – What Sabrina Was Like During Her Anxious Attachment and Dating Anxiety Phase 08:40 – How Overthinking, Texting Anxiety, and Emotional Dysregulation Showed Up in Dating 12:30 – The Turning Point: When Sabrina Realized Her Dating Patterns Had to Change 16:15 – Childhood Trauma, Abandonment Wounds, and How They Shaped Relationships 20:10 – Nervous System Regulation, Slowing Down, and Learning Emotional Safety 25:00 – Healing vs Intellectualizing: Why Growth Only Happens in Real Relationships 30:05 – From Chaos to Self-Trust: What Secure Love Actually Looks Like Now 35:10 – The Role of Boundaries, Self-Awareness, and Accountability in Personal Growth 40:00 – What Sabrina Wishes She Could Tell Her Past Self About Healing and Love 45:10 – Proof That Change Is Possible: Reflections on Transformation and Growth Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  22. 182

    182: Help! Does My Crush Like Me? | In The Trenches

    In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn’t say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity. From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you’re stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone’s intentions, or struggling to trust yourself in dating, this episode is for you. Want to be featured on a future episode? Send in your question, your screenshots, or your dating profile to [email protected] If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Why You Don’t Trust Yourself in Dating 04:18 – In The Trenches: Mixed Signals With a Coworker 09:42 – Flirting at Work vs Real Romantic Interest 14:36 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Self-Abandonment 18:55 – Saying “I Love You” First and Rejection Sensitivity 23:44 – Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, and Fear of Loss 28:31 – Reconnecting With an Emotionally Unavailable Ex 34:52 – When Chemistry Isn’t Intention or Commitment 40:05 – Dating Apps, Bans, and Being Honest With a New Partner 44:05 – Final Takeaways: Clarity, Boundaries, and Self-Trust Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  23. 181

    181: How To Get The Relationship You Deserve

    Why do people who “try the hardest” in relationships often end up feeling unseen, resentful, or stuck in situationships? In this episode, Sabrina breaks down how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and anxious attachment patterns quietly sabotage intimacy. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and trauma research, she explains why fawning is not love but a nervous-system survival response, and how suppressing your needs leads to emotional disconnection, resentment, and unhealthy power dynamics in dating and relationships. This episode dives deep into boundaries, self-abandonment, and why being willing to walk away is the most underrated relationship skill no one teaches you. Sabrina explores how fear of abandonment, low self-worth, and childhood conditioning keep people stuck accepting breadcrumbs, avoiding conflict, and performing for love. If you’re struggling with anxious attachment, people-pleasing, situationships, or feeling lonely inside a relationship, this conversation offers neuroscience-backed insight and practical tools to help you stop losing yourself and start building secure, authentic connection. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 0:00 Why Being “Too Loving” Is Blocking Real Connection 2:10 People-Pleasing Isn’t Love, It’s a Trauma Response 5:10 Fawning, Anxious Attachment, and Self-Abandonment 8:20 Why the “Cool Girl / Easy Partner” Always Loses 11:30 Conflict Avoidance Is Quietly Killing Your Relationships 15:10 The Psychology of Power: Why Being Willing to Leave Matters 18:40 How Fear of Abandonment Keeps You Accepting Breadcrumbs 22:10 What Secure Relationships Actually Look Like (Repair Over Perfection) 26:00 How to Stop Self-Abandoning and Start Speaking Up 30:10 Tool of the Week: The Self-Abandonment Check-In Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    180: Repeating Patterns, Self Trust, and How Stop Abandoning Yourself

    A new year doesn’t change your dating life. Your patterns do. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down why New Year’s dating resolutions fail, why manifestation without behavior change keeps you stuck, and why “this is my year for love” doesn’t work if you keep showing up the same way. This episode focuses on shifting patterns, not chasing outcomes. We dive into anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable partners, self-abandonment, and what it actually means to be ready for a healthy relationship. If you’re tired of repeating the same cycles and want to start the year by showing up differently in dating and relationships, this episode is your reset. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get started with Stich Fix today at stitchfix.com/sabrina to get $20 off your first order—and they’ll waive your styling fee. Try out Rho Nutrition and get 20% off sitewide with my code SABRINA at: https://rhonutrition.com/discount/SABRINA ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Why a New Year Won’t Fix Your Dating Life 01:55 – The New Year Dating Lie Everyone Believes 04:30 – Outcome Goals vs Pattern Change in Dating 08:15 – Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners 12:20 – Wanting Love vs Being Ready for Love 16:30 – How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck 20:05 – Pick-Me Energy vs Choosing for Yourself 23:45 – What Healthy Relationships Actually Require 27:45 – The 3 Lists Exercise: Leave, Call In, Become 33:20 – Becoming Someone Who Can Keep Love Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    179: Situationships, 'Going With The Flow', and Why You're Still Single

    What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? In the final episode of the Clarity Series, Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety. You’ll learn the difference between dating with intention versus dating from control or fear, how to identify your real non-negotiables, why situationships persist, and what it actually looks like to stop auditioning for love and start choosing yourself. If you’re tired of waiting to be chosen, afraid of being “too much,” or stuck in cycles of undefined connections, this episode gives you the framework to leave self-abandonment behind and date with clarity, confidence, and self-trust. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Quiet Self-Abandonment 03:20 – The Clarity Series Recap: From Rumination to Intention 06:40 – Why We Suppress Our Needs to Avoid Being Left 10:05 – Situationships: How Ambiguity Keeps You Stuck 14:45 – Chemistry vs Availability (And Why We Choose Wrong) 18:55 – Intention vs Control in Dating 23:30 – Non-Negotiables: What You Actually Walk Away Over 27:10 – Limerence, Fantasy Relationships, and Dopamine Loops 31:45 – What to Leave Behind and What to Bring Into 2026 35:10 – Tool of the Week: Dating With Real Intention Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    178: Do You Need To Be Fully Healed To Date Again?

    Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey . This episode explores the difference between awareness and real change, healing alone versus healing in relationships, and how avoidance can masquerade as self-work. You’ll learn what “being ready to date” actually looks like, how to stop hiding behind healing, and how to build self-trust by responding differently when you’re triggered. If you struggle with anxious attachment, dating anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck despite therapy and self-work, this conversation will reframe how you approach dating, growth, and emotional safety moving forward. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 Do You Need to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship? 01:45 Why Healing Feels Like It Disappears When You Start Dating 04:10 The Myth of Being “Healed Enough” 07:00 Healing Alone vs Healing in Relationships 10:10 Why Feeling Fine When Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Ready 13:15 Awareness vs Real Change in Dating Patterns 16:05 When “Working on Yourself” Is Actually Avoidance 19:05 What Being Ready to Date Really Means 22:10 Why Triggers Are Information, Not Failure 25:00 How Secure Relationships Are Actually Built 28:00 How to Build Self-Trust While Dating 31:10 Final Takeaway: You’re Not Broken, You’re Human Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  27. 177

    177: What's Actually Happening In An Avoidant's Brain When They Pull Away W/ Chris Lee

    Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what’s really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers. We also get into emotional availability, communication during conflict, and how to create safety without overfunctioning. You’ll learn how to recognize your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and stop taking someone else’s regulation personally. Whether you’re dating or partnered, this conversation helps you understand connection with far more clarity. Learn more: https://www.drchrislee.com/ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  28. 176

    176: Mixed Signals, Friendzones, and Breadcrumbs | In The Trenches

    In this In The Trenches episode, we dig into the psychology of mixed signals, friendzones, breadcrumbing, and almost-relationships. From slow-burn connections that feel safe but confusing to flirty “friends” who keep you close for validation, we break down how to tell the difference between a secure slow build and self-friend-zoning. You’ll learn why some people want your emotional support without offering real intimacy, how to stop filling in the blanks with fantasy, and what mixed messages actually reveal about someone’s intentions.We also get into situationships with no clarity, avoidant communication, and the ego-hit that keeps you hoping things will change. You’ll learn the markers of genuine interest vs passive connection, how to initiate the conversations that create clarity, and how to stop outsourcing your worth to inconsistency. If you’re stuck in limbo, questioning the dynamic, or tired of reading between the lines, this episode gives you the tools to see the pattern and choose what actually serves you.Struggling in dating? Change the way you approach every potential match in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Healthy Dating Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  29. 175

    175: Do They Always Come Back?

    This episode breaks down why waiting for someone to come back feels so intoxicating — and why it keeps you stuck. We unpack the psychology behind ambiguous loss, ego-driven attachment, the fantasy loops your brain clings to, and the deeper wounds waiting protects you from. If you’re torn between “I hope they come back” and “God, I hope they don’t,” this will give you clarity you’ve never had.You’ll learn how to tell the difference between missing them vs. missing the validation, why waiting functions as avoidance, what “they always come back” actually means, and the exact questions to ask yourself if they do reappear.If you’re tired of living in the “maybe,” this episode will hit home.Struggling in dating? Change the way you approach every potential match in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Healthy Dating Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  30. 174

    174: Are You Ruminating Or Actually Processing?

    Getting over someone feels impossible when your mind keeps replaying the same moments on a loop. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down the difference between genuine emotional processing and rumination, explaining why your brain clings to old stories and how to finally create real movement instead of spiraling. If you’re tired of feeling stuck in your thoughts or carrying heartbreak into a new year, this episode is your reset point.Struggling in dating? Change the way you approach every potential match in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Healthy Dating Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  31. 173

    173: Four Ways Shame Turns Love Into Fear of Rejection

    In this episode, Sabrina explores the impact of shame on relationships and self-worth. She explains how shame rewires the brain, making us expect and even create rejection. Sabrina breaks down patterns like rejecting compliments and attracting emotionally unavailable people, while offering practical tools to release shame and rewire the nervous system.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  32. 172

    172: Why Your Brain Won’t Let You Move On

    In this week’s episode, Sabrina dives deep into the cycle of self-blame and shame, exploring why your brain keeps holding onto guilt, even when you logically know it’s not your fault. She uncovers the neuroscience behind how blame and shame get wired into your brain and explains how to break free from this harmful loop. Sabrina shares personal stories of overcoming the blame cycle and walks you through the tools she uses to stop self-punishment, regain control, and practice self-compassion. Tune in to learn how to stop blaming yourself for things outside your control and start showing yourself the grace you deserve.If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.Your body just learned that fast feels safe.The Art of Going Slow is my new 4-week live program starting November 20. Together, we’ll build the tools that help you stay calm, grounded, and connected while dating, without losing yourself in the process.Doors close November 18.🎟️ Learn more and join at https://slow.sabrinazohar.com/Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  33. 171

    171: Why You Create Stories in Your Head (and How to Stop) | In The Trenches

    We’re back in the trenches. This episode, Ryan joins Sabrina in the studio to unpack YOUR questions including “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups to what happens when your nervous system won’t let you relax in a healthy relationship. They talk about what it actually means to trust yourself, why so many of us self-sabotage when things feel good, and how to stop creating stories in your head every time they don’t text you back for a day.If you’ve ever said “I just feel blindsided,” or caught yourself scrolling back through screenshots trying to “decode” someone’s behavior… this one’s for you. Sabrina dives in on protest behavior, attachment styles, and that moment when you realize it’s not about them. It’s about your nervous system trying to protect you.If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.Your body just learned that fast feels safe.The Art of Going Slow is my new 4-week live program starting November 20. Together, we’ll build the tools that help you stay calm, grounded, and connected while dating, without losing yourself in the process.Doors close November 18.🎟️ Learn more and join at https://slow.sabrinazohar.com/Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  34. 170

    170: ⁠Is It Your Intuition or Anxiety? How to Tell the Difference & Trust Your Gut

    In this week’s episode, Sabrina breaks down how attachment wounds can disguise themselves as “gut feelings” and why instinct often gets drowned out by anxious urgency. Sabrina walks through real examples as she uncovers how familiar patterns can trick your nervous system into calling danger “love,” and unpacks how old trauma keeps you choosing pain over safety. Sabrina shares the tools she uses to slow the spiral, track the truth, and retrain her intuition so it actually protects her instead of sabotaging her.If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.Your body just learned that fast feels safe.The Art of Going Slow is my new 4-week live program starting November 20.Together, we’ll build the tools that help you stay calm, grounded, and connected while dating, without losing yourself in the process.Doors close November 18.🎟️ Learn more and join at https://slow.sabrinazohar.com/Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. LICENSE CERTIFICATE: Envato Elements Item ================================================= This license certificate documents a license to use the item listed below on a non-exclusive, commercial, worldwide and revokable basis, for one Single Use for this Registered Project. Item Title: Hip Hop Light Item URL: Item ID: MW6GXFZ Author Username: Trigubovich Licensee: Registered Project Name: Aaron Green License Date: October 21st, 2025 Item License Code: FSNA4R8KBZ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  35. 169

    169: Why Do You Feel Like You're Always Struggling?

    In this vulnerable and science-backed episode, Sabrina Zohar reveals a universal truth: everyone is struggling, and the people who seem to have it all figured out are just better at hiding it. She dismantles toxic positivity, explaining why fighting your emotions makes things worse and how acceptance can reduce their intensity by 50%. Sabrina provides practical tools like the "Paradox Prescription" for obsessive thoughts and the "72-Hour Reality Check" to identify trauma bonding. If you've ever felt alone in your pain, this is your powerful reminder that you are not broken—you are human. The cure isn't to stop struggling, but to stop hiding it.Your brain can’t tell the difference between rejection and getting punched in the face.That’s why when it takes them three hours to text back, your chest tightens.Why your palms get sweaty after you triple-text and instantly regret it.Why you tell yourself “I’m fine” but your body’s already spiraling.You’re not dramatic.You’re dysregulated.Your nervous system is reacting to the possibility of loss the same way it would to actual danger.If you’re ready to stop letting what happens on your phone decide how your day feels, join me on November 6th for a live masterclass: Texting Anxiety: How to Calm Your Body Before You Hit Send.We’ll unpack what’s really happening in your brain and body when you text someone you like, and I’ll teach you tools to get grounded fast, even in the middle of a spiral.🎟️ Save your seat for November 6th: https://masterclass.sabrinazohar.comYou don’t need to care less.You just need new tools for what your body’s been trying to protect you fromStuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  36. 168

    168: Why You Spiral When They Don’t Text Back

    In this week’s episode, Sabrina breaks down what your texting patterns reveal about your attachment style and emotional triggers in dating and relationships. Through her own past text exchanges, she shares how anxious thoughts, people-pleasing, and over-explaining once shaped her dating behavior, and how she learned to regulate her emotions instead of spiraling when someone didn’t respond. Sabrina explores how rejection, ghosting, and unmet expectations often trace back to deeper wounds around self-worth and safety.She also explains how healing doesn’t mean never feeling triggered; it means recognizing those triggers, staying grounded, and choosing not to self-abandon. If texting still sends you into a loop, this episode will help you understand why and how to finally break the cycle.Ever felt that rush of panic when someone takes hours to text back?The tight chest.The spinning thoughts.The sudden urge to delete your last three messages and throw your phone across the room.That isn’t you being “crazy.”That’s your nervous system reacting to what it thinks is danger.Because your brain can’t tell the difference between rejection and getting punched in the face.In this episode, we’re talking about texting anxiety, what’s really happening inside your body when you’re waiting, overanalyzing, or trying to say the “right” thing.And if you’re ready to take this deeper, join me live on November 6th for my masterclass: Texting Anxiety: How to Calm Your Body Before You Hit Send.You’ll learn how to work with your body instead of against it, and finally stop letting what happens on your phone control how you feel.🎟️ Save your seat at https://masterclass.sabrinazohar.comBecause you don’t need to care less.You just need the right tools to feel safe again.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  37. 167

    167: Why Your Body Can't Just Calm Down: The Science of Anxiety ft. Dr. Sara Szal

    In this episode, Sabrina Zohar sits down with Dr. Sara Szal to uncover the hidden physical roots of anxiety. From hormones and gut health to mold, blood sugar, and cortisol, they break down how your body can fuel emotional chaos even when your life feels “fine.” Sabrina opens up about her own misdiagnosis journey, being told her anxiety was just mental before discovering deeper physiological causes. Together, they explore how the nervous system, hormones, and environment intertwine, and how healing often starts in the body, not the mind. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I feel anxious when nothing’s wrong?”, this episode will change the way you understand yourself.Get a mold test: https://www.survivingmold.com/The Institute for Functional Medicine: https://www.ifm.org/Work with Dr. Torrie Thompson!Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA or use gift code SABRINA100 at sign-up to own your health.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE!Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  38. 166

    166: Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People | In The Trenches

    In this powerful and emotional "In The Trenches" episode, Sabrina Zohar tackles your toughest dating dilemmas with her signature no-nonsense yet compassionate approach. We dive into a listener's story about a man who re-entered her life only to pull away once more, and Sabrina breaks down exactly why we chase "unfinished business" and emotionally unavailable partners. She also answers a question from a woman stuck in a 2-year relationship with a partner who shuts down during conflict, offering crucial advice on when to fight for a connection and when to choose yourself. Plus, we get a profile review for someone re-entering the dating scene later in life and hear from a listener experiencing panic attacks in a new, healthy relationship. Sabrina normalizes dating anxiety and provides tangible tools to self-soothe and expand your window of tolerance. If you're struggling with mixed signals, self-abandonment, or the fear that you'll never find a secure partner, this episode is your guide to breaking the cycle.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  39. 165

    165: How to Break Your Unhealthy Dating & Relationship Patterns

    In the last episode of the Self Esteem Series, Sabrina Zohar unpacks the psychology and neuroscience behind why change feels so hard and how your brain is wired to keep you stuck. She explains the resistance mechanisms that make transformation uncomfortable and shares science-backed tools for creating real, lasting change. Sabrina dives into why motivation is a myth, why identity resists growth, and how small, consistent actions can rewire your self-concept. You’ll also learn about homeostasis, mirror neurons, and how your environment shapes your progress. If you’ve ever wondered why you know what to do but still can’t seem to do it, this episode will help you bridge the gap between awareness and action.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  40. 164

    164: Overexplaining, Overthinking, Overtexting? Here’s Why

    In the 4th episode of the Self Esteem Series, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into the emotional patterns that sabotage relationships, specifically protest behavior. She explains how certain behaviors like excessive texting, withdrawal, and people-pleasing are often unconscious responses to fear of abandonment or disconnection. Sabrina shares raw personal stories and offers insights on how to break these patterns, set healthy boundaries, and foster genuine connection. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional escalation, over-explaining, or testing your partner's commitment, this episode is for you. Tune in to understand why these behaviors emerge and how you can move toward healthier, more secure relationships.$300 off your first Prenuvo scan at https://prenuvo.com/?discount=SABRINAStuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  41. 163

    163: ⁠The Psychology Behind Black-and-White Thinking

    Do you ever think, "If they don't text back, they're not interested"? Or assume one awkward moment means you have no chemistry? Your brain might be sabotaging your love life with faulty logic.In Part 3 of our 5-part series, we're diving into the meat and potatoes of self-sabotage: the thinking errors that turn normal dating situations into full-blown crises. Today, we're breaking down the three main culprits—Black & White Thinking, Catastrophizing, and Mental Filtering—and why your brain uses these outdated shortcuts. I’ll even share a wild personal story (my "Prison Bae" saga) that perfectly illustrates how we create fantasies to escape our pain.$300 off your first Prenuvo scan at https://prenuvo.com/?discount=SABRINAStuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    162: The Power of Detachment with Sabrina Bendory

    Detachment isn’t about being cold or not caring. It’s about knowing your worth and letting go of outcomes you can’t control. In this episode, Sabrina Zohar and guest Sabrina Bendory break down what healthy detachment really looks like, why obsession is just a story you tell yourself, and how to self-source your worth instead of outsourcing it. If you’re tired of spiraling over texts or feeling stuck on someone who isn’t right for you, this conversation gives you the tools to finally reclaim your power.Get Sabrina Bendory's book, "Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible"Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    161: Why You Overthink Love and Assume the Worst

    Why do you spiral when a text takes too long, when someone says “okay” instead of “okay!” or when plans change? That’s your brain writing rejection stories to protect you. The problem? Those stories create anxiety, sabotage connection, and keep you stuck.In the 2nd episode of the Self Esteem Series, Sabrina Zohar explains the 3 biggest story patterns: rejection, mind reading, and timelines. She also breaks down why your nervous system jumps to the worst-case scenario. You’ll learn the neuroscience behind why wrong stories feel so real, how confirmation bias fuels your fears, and simple tools to separate fact from fiction.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.$300 off your first Prenuvo scan at https://prenuvo.com/?discount=SABRINAGet Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    160: Why You Keep Sabotaging Love Without Realizing It | In The Trenches

    Are you actually seeing red flags, or are your insecurities making you spiral? In this week's episode of In the Trenches, Sabrina Zohar unpacks why so many of us sabotage good relationships by searching for problems that aren’t there. You’ll learn how timing and distance can trigger feelings of abandonment, what it really means when you feel ‘not enough,’ and how to tell the difference between your intuition and old fears. Sabrina also shares personal stories, practical tools for calming anxiety, and thoughts on having honest conversations about your needs. If you’re tired of second-guessing love and want to start showing up with confidence, this video will give you clarity, compassion, and a reminder that you are already enough.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.$300 off your first Prenuvo scan at https://prenuvo.com/?discount=SABRINAGet Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    159: How to Rewire Your Core Beliefs & Attract Healthy Love

    Do you ever feel unlovable, undeserving of good love, or just “too much”? These aren’t facts, they’re core beliefs running the show. In this episode, Sabrina Zohar explains how these beliefs form, why your brain clings to rejection, and how to reframe the stories you tell yourself. You’ll learn practical tools to reparent yourself, release old programming, and finally step into the love you’re worthy of.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    158: The Truth About the Slow Burn of Dating

    Are they genuinely taking things slow or just stringing you along? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down how to tell the difference between healthy pacing and someone wasting your time. You’ll learn why consistency matters, what science says about early relationship timelines, and the red flags of stagnation. Sabrina also shares personal stories, practical scripts for communicating boundaries, and tools to stop overanalyzing and start trusting yourself. If you’re tired of the "go with the flow" trap, this video gives you clarity and confidence in dating.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    157: Why You Obsess Over Your Ex & How to Stop

    Why does heartbreak feel like the end of the world while your ex seems fine? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain gets stuck on your ex, why nothing feels enjoyable anymore, and why closure is a myth.You’ll learn the three brain systems that keep you looping, along with practical tools to rewire your mind, stop obsessing, and finally move forward.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    156: When Your Partner Shuts Down Emotionally, DO THIS!

    In this episode, Sabrina dives deep into one of the toughest relationship struggles—emotional shutdowns. She breaks down how to recognize silent treament or stonewalling, why it happens, and how to reclaim your power when you're left emotionally abandoned. Learn how to set boundaries and communicate your needs without enabling unhealthy patterns.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Enrollment for The Self Love Course, The Nervous System Course, and The Break Up Course is now closed. For your continued education and growth, please explore The Foundation Course, which is currently available.Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    155: Why Won’t They Let You In? REAL Avoidant Attachment Truths | In the Trenches with Tom Stroud

    In this episode, Sabrina sits down with Tom Stroud from Love Is Blind UK to tackle your biggest dating dilemmas—avoidant attachment, emotional intelligence, and why modern dating feels so polarized. They debunk myths like "if he wanted to, he would", discuss texting anxiety, and share personal stories of growth from avoidance to security.Want to submit your questions or profile to the show? Send in your text threads, your profile screenshots, or anything else to [email protected] for a chance to be featured on a future episode.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    154: What You NEED To Know About Being Friends with An Ex, FWB and Dating A Friend

    In this episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina explores the complexities of non-platonic friendships, diving into the truth behind friends with benefits, situationships, and the challenges of dating a close friend. Sabrina shares her personal experiences, backed by research and psychology, to give you practical advice on navigating these relationship dynamics. Tune in to learn how to navigate these complex relationships with confidence and clarity.Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

The Sabrina Zohar Show is your no-BS guide to dating, relationships, and coming home to yourself. Hosted by @sabrina.zohar, this podcast dives deep into the realities of modern love, anxious attachment, and the personal growth it takes to build meaningful connections- not just with others, but with yourself.Formerly known as “Do The Work” the show is all about cutting through the noise. Whether you’re navigating dating burnout, relationship struggles, or learning how to stop overthinking every text, Sabrina brings raw, unfiltered conversations that challenge your patterns, shift your mindset, and help you reclaim your power.Because the real work isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the version of you that feels whole, secure, and unapologetically authentic.Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and watch on YouTube.A podcast on dating, anxiety, and doing the work to heal with <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sabri

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