The Still Waters Podcast

In this episode of our series on abuse, Teri discusses caring for children in abusive environments, emphasizing that kids often internalize harm, blame themselves, and may even equate abuse with love. She addresses the unique challenges of co-parenting with an abusive parent. Practical guidance focuses on being an “anchor” through consistency, emotional safety, and repair after mistakes. The episode also teaches how to communicate truth without shaming. 00:00 Welcome 01:38 Inside a Childs Experience02:11 The Backpack Metaphor04:13 Signs of Hidden Trauma06:32 Co Parenting With Abuse10:06 Be the Anchor at Home10:43 Consistency Safety and Repair13:06 Truth Without Shame15:48 Sorting Truth With Love16:40 Closing Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this Still Waters Podcast episode airing April 23, 2026, Teri continues a series on abuse by explaining how abuse affects people during and after the experience, impacting the body, mind, inner life, and sometimes faith. The episode describes the nervous system’s “danger volume knob,” emphasizing that survivors’ reactions make sense in unsafe environments and often persist after danger ends through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn survival responses. It explores common aftermath effects including shame, anxiety, and depression. She also addresses spiritual confusion when abuse is connected to the church, clarifying that God is not aligned with abuse. 00:00 Welcome 00:49 Danger Volume Knob01:42 Survival Responses Explained03:08 When Survival Stays On04:05 Shame After Abuse05:23 Anxiety and Hypervigilance06:23 Depression and Shutdown07:14 Faith and Spiritual Confusion09:06 Parenting After Trauma11:58 Healing and Boundaries14:02 Closing Support Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

On this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri recaps a weekend at a Cincinnati homeschool conference where she ran a vendor booth for the AIM (Acknowledging Integrity Matters) sexual risk avoidance curriculum and launched a new level for ages 10–12. Teri also delivered a parent talk on pornography, reflecting on common beliefs she heard from parents. The episode explains how accidental exposure can happen through typos, algorithms, or friends, why kids often don’t disclose due to secrecy and embarrassment, and how pornography can shape beliefs about relationships and normality. Teri emphasizes preparation through ongoing conversations over protection alone, and invites listeners to reach out with questions about AIM and sexual risk prevention.00:00 Weekend Conference Recap01:09 Booth Conversations Begin01:49 Common Parent Assumptions02:17 Why Filters Aren't Enough03:30 The Battlefield Has Changed04:59 How Exposure Really Happens06:08 Secrecy and Silent Struggles07:02 Pornography Shapes Beliefs07:34 Innocence Through Preparation08:27 Building Kids From Within09:55 Hope Like a GPS11:28 Never Too Late to Talk12:12 Closing and Reach Out Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

On the newest episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri interviews Indianapolis-based nonprofit leader Katrina Terry, founder of Lion 195 Against Trafficking and Resilient Gemstones. Katrina shares her history of childhood kidnapping and sexual abuse, later assault in the military, and how healing through Jesus led her to help others. She describes work with trafficked children, including advocacy, policy efforts, and plans for trauma-informed ranches, citing claims of fewer than 300 U.S. beds for trafficked children and that many end up in foster care. The conversation covers trafficking warning signs, online/gaming risks intensified after COVID, practical parent monitoring, and how to support survivors by believing them, taking action, and providing resources, prayer, and safety checks.To learn more about the organizations mentioned in the episode, check out the following links:LION195 Website: www.lion195.orgLION195 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lion195orgLION195 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lion195org/All things Resilient Gemstones: https://linktr.ee/resilientgemstones 00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro00:47 Katrina Nonprofit Mission02:44 Her Trauma Journey05:01 From Healing to Calling05:59 Strip Club Outreach Insights06:53 The Bed Shortage Crisis08:34 Trafficking Myths and Foster Care11:19 Building Ranches and Advocacy12:43 Resilient Gemstones Explained15:31 Forgiveness and Self Forgiveness17:42 Altar Healing Testimony20:45 Letting Go of Control23:02 Spotting Trafficking Signs24:39 Behavioral Red Flags25:38 When to Make the Call27:27 Online Grooming Reality29:03 Monitoring Without Fear32:44 Digital Risk35:01 Supporting Survivors Well35:39 Why Belief Matters40:46 Shame and Repeated Trauma45:15 Hope and Healing Closing Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri welcomes Melissa Knight, a nurse and mentor who helps students complete their programs, especially in nursing cybersecurity and data analytics. Melissa discusses her background, her path to coaching, and earning an ICF credential. The conversation covers the differences between coaching, mentoring, and counseling, recognizing when to seek help, and breaking the stigma around mental health, with Melissa sharing her postpartum depression experience. They also discuss "church hurt" and trauma, particularly how churches can lack empathy toward women, illustrated by a single mother's story. 00:00 Meet Melissa Knight00:36 From Southeast to Florida02:28 Nursing Career Journey03:19 What Is Nursing Cybersecurity04:16 Why Coaching with The Still Waters06:54 Coaching Vs Counseling08:14 Coaching Focus Areas09:17 Church Hurt and Healing12:46 A Painful Church Example15:39 Trauma on The Pew17:45 Easing Coaching Fears17:59 Breaking Shame Barriers18:36 When to Seek Support20:14 Faith and Mental Health21:22 Postpartum Help Story22:48 Church Hurt and Misjudgment23:56 Life Outside Work25:54 Simple Living and Planning27:41 Hagar and Healing Hope30:08 Contact and Closing Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

On The Still Waters Podcast, Teri and Julie shift from their abuse series to discuss child safety at summer camp, urging parents not to assume camps—especially church camps—are automatically safe. They advise investigating who camp directors report to, whether a board provides oversight, and whether the camp follows clear standards and mandatory reporting to law enforcement. They warn about sexual abuse risks, including “sexual exposure,” and criticize pornography-focused confession circles that prompt kids to share explicit experiences in groups. They stress that counselors and staff should receive safety training to prevent and recognize abuse, including emotional abuse and parental interference, and they highlight a case involving overnight interrogation, cover-ups, and a predator harming multiple boys. They also caution against private post-camp adult–minor communication and recommend teaching sexual integrity with hope and recovery.00:00 Morning Catch Up02:20 Why Talk About Camp03:27 Camp Memories07:49 When Camp Raises Flags11:10 Accountability Matters14:35 Porn Confession Risks17:45 Counselor Safety Training19:28 Safety Training Matters20:52 Emotional Abuse Stories24:15 When Adults Protect Predators27:45 Mandatory Reporting Red Flags29:49 Confession Circles Risks31:00 Porn Exposure Reality32:36 After Camp Contact Boundaries35:31 Integrity Curriculum And Hope38:26 Closing Resources And Farewell  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In episode 48 of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri addresses spiritual abuse—often experienced as “church hurt”—as a form of power and control that uses God, scripture, or spiritual authority to manipulate, silence, and trap people in churches, families, marriages, or dating relationships. The episode explains how scripture can be twisted as a weapon, including distorted teachings on submission that excuse harm, and how institutions may prioritize reputation over protecting victims, sometimes discouraging reporting or involving legal authorities. It also clarifies that forgiveness does not mean denying abuse or removing boundaries, and that accountability and forgiveness can coexist. Teri describes the lasting impact on identity and trust in God, contrasts unhealthy vs. healthy spiritual leadership, outlines healing steps and emphasizes the central truth: God never partners with oppression. 00:00 Welcome and Warning03:27 What Spiritual Abuse Is04:33 Scripture as a Weapon06:44 Submission Misused09:53 Protecting Reputation11:06 Forgiveness and Boundaries12:38 Damage to Faith15:14 Healthy Leadership16:46 Healing Steps18:48 God Never Oppresses19:20 Closing  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In the newest Still Waters Podcast episode, Teri issues a content warning and discusses sexual abuse amid renewed attention from the Epstein files. Citing recent CDC and advocacy data, the episode highlights the prevalence of sexual violence and outlines definitions and forms of abuse. She explains the difference between consent and coercion, reviews effects of trauma, and encourages healing through support and faith, inviting listeners to seek help.  00:00 Welcome and Trigger Warning 00:58 Why This Conversation Matters 02:17 The Stats on Sexual Violence 04:20 Breaking the Silence 06:12 Defining Sexual Abuse 08:54 Forms of Abuse and Grooming 10:58 Consent vs Coercion 15:58 Sexual Abuse in Marriage 17:45 Why It’s So Confusing 18:59 Trauma in the Body 21:42 Shame and the Healing Path 24:33 Neuroplasticity and New Pathways 27:08 Hope, Faith, and Next Steps  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

The newest episode of The Still Waters Podcast continues a series on abuse by focusing on financial (economic) abuse—when money shifts from a shared tool to a weapon used for power and control. Research indicates financial abuse occurs in 99% of domestic violence cases and can include common tactics such as controlling access to accounts, requiring receipts or permission for necessities, shaming spending, sabotaging a partner’s ability to work, and creating debt in a victim’s name to damage their credit. The episode contrasts abuse with healthy financial imbalance and emphasizes warning signs and practical steps a person can take if they determine they are in this situation.  00:00 Welcome 00:48 What Is Financial Abuse03:22 Controlling Access to Money05:58 Real Life Stay at Home Example07:23 Sabotaging Work and Autonomy09:42 Debt and Credit Manipulation12:12 Traditional Roles and Authority14:05 Emotional Toll and Shame15:40 Teens and Dating Red Flags18:15 Why It’s Hard to Spot20:36 Imbalance Versus Abuse22:33 Self Check Questions24:47 Practical Steps to Prepare27:40 Key Takeaway 29:00 Closing  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

 In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, part of an ongoing series exploring abuse, Teri explains digital abuse as a pattern of technology-facilitated behaviors used for power and control, emphasizing that abuse is not only physical and that technology can make controlling patterns harder to detect. The episode describes resulting hypervigilance and erosion of self-trust, highlights warning signs in teens, and notes adults are also vulnerable. Practical steps include securing email first, reviewing location-sharing and social settings with safety in mind, documenting threats, strengthening offline support, and assessing whether the relationship feels free or fear-based, urging safety planning and seeking trained help if threats escalate.  00:00 Digital Abuse Intro 01:28 Location Sharing Red Flags 03:52 Password Pressure 06:03 Online Humiliation 09:01 Isolation and Control 11:47 Hypervigilance Effects 13:42 Parents and Hidden Abuse 15:16 Safety Planning Steps 21:43 Protecting Teens Respectfully 22:59 Closing  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

 This Still Waters Podcast episode examines physical abuse as a means of power and control, often starting before visible injuries. Referencing Darby Strickland’s definition, it addresses both overt harm (hitting, slapping, choking) and subtler intimidation tactics (threats, breaking objects, blocking exits, restraint, reckless driving, sleep deprivation). Teri discusses the escalation cycle and warns against dismissing abusive behaviors. Highlighting Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, the episode notes red flags in teen relationships and distinguishes physical abuse from accidents, consensual roughhousing, or mutual aggression. Listeners are encouraged to seek support, local resources, and make a safety plan.  00:00 Introduction 00:47 Excuses & Early Warning Signs 01:54 Defining Physical Abuse: Power & Safety 03:12 Examples: Choking, Reckless Driving 04:34 Intimidation Without Contact 06:45 Breaking Objects & Blocking Exits 09:49 Non-Visible Abuse: Restraint, Sleep Loss 12:17 Abuse Escalation Cycle 15:17 Real-Life Cases & Anger in Scripture 17:39 “Once” Claims & Teen Dating Red Flags 19:22 What Doesn't Count as Physical Abuse 20:36 Closing: Trusting Yourself & Seeking Help  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, host Teri White dives into the second part of a series on abuse, inspired by Darby A. Strickland's book, 'Is It Abuse?'. The episode emphasizes that abuse is not confined to physical acts but can also manifest in mental, verbal, and psychological forms. Teri highlights the subtle nature of emotional abuse, which often leaves no visible marks but deeply impacts a person's inner well-being. Various forms of emotional abuse such as name-calling, rejection, terrorizing, isolation, and threats are discussed. The episode also explores extreme neglect and gaslighting as significant forms of emotional abuse, citing examples from popular culture and scripture. The importance of recognizing and naming emotional abuse is underscored, with a reminder that seeking support is a sign of strength. The episode concludes with a hopeful note, encouraging listeners to acknowledge their experiences and reach out for help if needed. 00:00 Introduction 01:48 Understanding Emotional Abuse04:52 Identifying Emotional Abuse: Examples and Scenarios16:24 Extreme Neglect and Gaslighting24:30 Faith and Emotional Abuse25:41 Conclusion and Resources Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri introduces a series on abuse, inspired by Darby Strickland’s book 'Is It Abuse?'. She clarifies that abuse involves power and control, not just anger, and offers practical examples to help distinguish conflict from abuse. The episode provides questions for self-assessment, addresses challenges faced by people of faith, gives advice for parents about teen dating violence, and encourages listeners to trust their instincts. It highlights the importance of awareness and education in recognizing abuse and sets the stage for future episodes on specific types. 00:00 Introduction to the Series on Abuse02:06 Understanding the Complexity of Abuse08:06 Illustrations of Abuse in Everyday Life11:06 Faith and Abuse: A Complex Intersection12:59 Recognizing Trauma Responses16:27 Advice for Parents and Young People19:25 Final Thoughts  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, the topic of perfectionism is thoroughly explored. The discussion begins by defining perfectionism and differentiating it from simply caring deeply or trying one's best. It then delves into the subtle ways perfectionism manifests and its psychological and physiological impacts, often rooted in past trauma. The conversation highlights why perfectionism is unhealthy and contrasts it with the concept of progress, offering practical advice on how to shift from a perfectionist mindset to one focused on progress. Biblical examples are used to illustrate the value of progress and faithfulness over flawlessness. The episode concludes with strategies to foster self-compassion and encourage continuous healing.00:00 Introduction to Perfectionism00:22 Understanding Perfectionism03:00 The Impact of Perfectionism05:19 Origins of Perfectionism06:57 Perfectionism and Trauma11:16 Biblical Perspectives on Perfectionism13:44 Embracing Progress Over Perfection18:20 Practical Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism21:04 Conclusion and Encouragement Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, hosts Julie and Teri explore the exciting introduction of a new tool on the Still Waters website called Digital Alibi. This tool allows individuals to report abuse, harassment, or other unethical conduct anonymously and safely. The discussion covers how Digital Alibi can be utilized by various individuals including those dealing with domestic violence, workplace harassment, or teens facing abuse. They emphasize the importance of a safe reporting environment and provide an in-depth explanation of how the tool operates and ensures user protection. The episode highlights the necessity for such a tool in providing support and encouraging transparency and accountability in various settings, including family, church, and work environments. 00:00 Introduction 00:28 Introducing the New Abuse Reporting Widget02:40 How Digital Alibi Works03:19 Example Scenario: Mrs. Jones07:19 Steps and Support for Reporting Abuse08:55 Handling Anonymous Reports12:20 Reporting in Different Contexts16:15 Addressing Concerns for Teens18:30 Navigating School Support Systems19:32 The Role of Mandatory Reporting20:27 Anonymous Reporting and Telehealth Insights23:21 Understanding Different Types of Abuse24:33 Addressing Parental Concerns27:37 Ensuring Professionalism and Credibility30:00 The Importance of Mandatory Reporting32:08 Conclusion Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri White explores the concept of emotional safety, emphasizing its importance in our overall well-being. She discusses how emotional safety can be compromised in various relationships, including those with friends, family, coworkers, and even within our own thoughts. The episode outlines practical steps to build emotional safety: setting healthy boundaries, building self-awareness, choosing safe relationships, practicing self-compassion, and creating predictable routines. Teri also highlights the impact of emotional abuse on one's sense of safety and provides strategies for healing and reclaiming one's voice. The episode aims to offer listeners actionable tools to create a secure and supportive environment for themselves. 00:00 Introduction and Opening Question01:18 Understanding Emotional Safety02:34 Recognizing Emotional Safety and Its Absence08:10 Impact of Emotional Abuse on Safety11:39 Practical Steps to Create Emotional Safety20:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri and Rudy delve into the often conflated concepts of resolutions and goals, clarifying the distinctions between them. A resolution is characterized as a promise to oneself without a specific timeframe, while a goal has a defined outcome and timeframe, requiring a structured plan. The discussion explores the emotional and psychological responses to goal-setting, how to approach clients struggling with this process, and the importance of writing and visualizing goals for increased success. The hosts also share strategies to combat procrastination and emphasize the need for accountability. Practical advice is offered, such as starting with small steps and being flexible with goals as circumstances change. The episode concludes with a reminder that seeking external help and pushing past fear are crucial steps in achieving one's aspirations.  00:00 Introduction 00:46 Defining Resolutions vs. Goals 01:48 The Formality of Goals 02:38 Client Reactions to Goals 05:02 Writing and Visualizing Goals 09:05 Steps to Achieve Goals 13:43 Overcoming Procrastination 17:36 Fear of Success and Self-Criticism 23:07 Final Thoughts  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, the focus is on helping parents shift from making vague New Year's resolutions to setting intentional, specific goals regarding teaching their children about sexual risk avoidance. The discussion emphasizes the importance of ongoing conversations, building relationships, and equipping children and teens with the skills to navigate peer pressure and make healthy decisions. The podcast clarifies misconceptions about sexual risk avoidance education, highlighting its broader goals beyond just preventing early sexual activity. Key takeaways include the significance of clarity, consistency, open communication, and modeling respectful relationships. 00:00 Introduction 00:19 New Year's Resolutions vs. Goal Setting03:52 The Importance of Sexual Risk Avoidance Education06:15 Reframing Resolutions into Goals10:45 Building Skills and Handling Peer Pressure13:17 Modeling Respect and Boundaries14:19 Final Thoughts Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, the team – Julie, Rufus, Abrielle, and Teri – gather to discuss their experiences from the year 2025 as counselors and coaches. They touch upon the fragmentation within families, sexual abuse, dysfunction, and identity crises among young people. The conversation delves into the necessity of continuous education, the impact of patient care, and the importance of creating safe spaces for clients. The team also reflects on the struggles of balancing work and personal life, the challenges of dealing with younger clients, and the need for a stronger focus on mental health in schools. They express concerns about the lack of mental health awareness in the church and broader society and share their insights on dealing with complex issues like faith questioning and gender identity among clients. The episode concludes with an appreciation for the trust clients place in them and a commitment to continuous improvement in their profession. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:53 Julie Reflects on the Year03:52 Challenges in Counseling10:44 Balancing Work and Personal Life22:44 The Importance of Mental Health in Schools24:48 Lessons Learned from Clients32:47 Addressing Faith and Identity Issues38:59 Final Thoughts and Looking Ahead Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri and Abrielle discuss the growing issue of loneliness and social disconnection. They explore the emotional intricacies of loneliness, how it can affect both extroverts and introverts differently, and the contributing factors such as personality types and social media. They also examine the differences in how loneliness manifests in children versus adults and the social structures that can perpetuate feelings of isolation. Practical solutions for addressing loneliness in families, schools, and individual lives are offered, emphasizing the importance of genuine connections and intentional actions. 00:00 Introduction to The Still Waters Podcast00:57 Understanding Loneliness: Definitions and Perspectives02:51 Personality Types and Loneliness05:57 The Impact of Social Media on Loneliness07:42 Loneliness in Children vs. Adults10:55 Signs of Loneliness in Children14:37 Addressing Loneliness in Adults19:58 Creating Supportive Environments25:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, host Teri White addresses a comment from a parent regarding the harmful effects of purity culture, particularly on girls, and introduces the 'Acknowledging Integrity Matters' (AIM) program. Exploring the roots and repercussions of purity culture, Teri discusses how AIM provides a healthier, research-based, and biblically grounded approach to sexual risk avoidance education. The episode emphasizes emotional intelligence, boundaries, and healthy relationship skills, advocating for a parenting style based on wisdom and compassion rather than fear and shame. Listeners are encouraged to transform their approach to parenting and help their children grow emotionally and spiritually healthy.  00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 01:17 Defining Purity Culture 02:01 Impact of Purity Culture on Girls 04:00 Impact of Purity Culture on Boys 05:38 The Role of Pornography in Purity Culture 07:21 Sexual Risk Avoidance Education 08:50 Critique of Joshua Harris's Book 12:16 Modern Parenting Challenges 13:03 How AIM is Different 18:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Navigating Holiday Stress and Family Dynamics In this episode, Teri delves into the common experience of holiday stress and the family dynamics that often exacerbate it. She explores why the holiday season feels so intense, touches on classic family roles that resurface, and provides practical advice on managing triggers and setting boundaries. Teri shares strategies such as mental preparation, building in breaks, and establishing new traditions to help listeners maintain their peace and enjoy a more relaxed holiday season. 00:00 Introduction to Holiday Stress 00:50 Why Holidays Feel Intense 02:44 Classic Family Roles During Holidays 05:31 Understanding Triggers and Preparation 09:38 Setting Boundaries and Handling Conflict 14:06 Creating a Stress-Free Holiday 17:53 Final Thoughts and Tips  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In PART 2 of our podcast with Brett Hogland, we delve into a discussion on domestic abuse, highlighting that it encompasses more than just physical violence and includes emotional, sexual, economic, psychological, and technological abuse. The conversation addresses the misconceptions around the right of self-preservation, underlining the need for local churches to intervene in cases of abuse before they escalate. Furthermore, it differentiates between common marital disputes and abuse, stresses the importance of repentance and trust in the forgiveness process, and advocates for increased education among church elders about abuse and personality disorders. Practical advice for victims and those aware of abuse situations is provided, urging immediate action and offering resources for support. 00:00 Definition of Domestic Violence00:41 The Right of Self-Preservation02:02 Churches' Role in Addressing Abuse03:28 Emotional Abuse and Power Dynamics03:57 Recognizing the Abuser08:22 Forgiveness and Repentance15:35 The Importance of Education and Awareness23:15 Final Thoughts and EncouragementLinks to Brett Hogland's Sermon Series: The Christians Responsibility Toward Domestic AbusePart 1https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/My_Introduction_To_Domestic_Abuse.mp3Part 2https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/The_Christains_Responsibility_Towards_Domestic_Abuse_Part_2.mp3Part 3https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_PT.3.mp3Part 4https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_Pt._4.mp3Part 5https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/08/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_Pt.5.mp3Part 6https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/08/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_Pt.6_2nd_recording.mp3 Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Breaking the Silence of Domestic Abuse in the Church: Insights from Brett Hogland  In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, Teri White and Julie Adams are joined by Brett Hogland, an evangelist and elder from the South Side Church of Christ in Blue Springs, Missouri. The discussion focuses on the often-overlooked issue of domestic abuse within faith communities. Brett shares his experience and challenges in bringing awareness to domestic abuse through his sermons. He emphasizes the importance of safety, transparency, and the need for victims to receive proper help, including seeking professional counseling. The episode highlights the broader definition of domestic violence beyond physical abuse, underscoring its various forms.  00:00 Introduction and Topic Overview 00:24 Meet Our Special Guest: Brett Hogland 02:00 Brett's Journey and Motivation 05:10 Challenges and Misconceptions in Addressing Abuse 12:46 Balancing Leadership and Support 17:59 Seeking External Help and Professional Guidance 23:17 Understanding Domestic Violence Beyond Physical Abuse To be continued.Links to Brett Hogland's Sermon Series: The Christians Responsibility Toward Domestic AbusePart 1https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/My_Introduction_To_Domestic_Abuse.mp3Part 2https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/The_Christains_Responsibility_Towards_Domestic_Abuse_Part_2.mp3Part 3https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_PT.3.mp3Part 4https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/10/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_Pt._4.mp3Part 5https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/08/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_Pt.5.mp3Part 6https://www.bluespringschurchofchrist.org/media/uploads/sermons/2025/08/The_Christians_Responsibility_Toward_Domestic_Abuse_Pt.6_2nd_recording.mp3 Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast we continue our conversation with Sadie Soliday, a courageous survivor of domestic violence.  Tune in to hear how she overcame an unthinkable near-fatal situation and how she's breaking her silence to use her experience and her voice for good! Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Surviving the UnthinkableIn this episode of the Still Waters Podcast, host Teri White welcomes Sadie Soliday, a courageous survivor of domestic violence. Sadie shares her harrowing journey from the early days of her relationship with her husband, through the escalating abuses she endured, to the drastic events leading up to and following a near-fatal assault. Speaking from her background in behavioral therapy, Sadie offers detailed insight into the progression of the abuse, her survival instincts, and the pivotal moment that changed everything. Throughout the conversation, Sadie provides strength and inspiration for others navigating their own paths to healing. This episode, recorded during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, aims to bring awareness and education to these critical issues.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:20 Sadie's Early Relationship and Marriage02:40 The Onset of Abuse04:23 Escalation and Realization05:24 Seeking Help and Confrontation06:07 The Breaking Point11:05 The Final Confrontation26:06 Aftermath and ReflectionNational Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE or text "START" to 88788 Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this follow-up to our previous episode, we dive deeper into OCD and scrupulosity.  Join Teri as she continues the conversation with Jady Copeland, expanding on what they started discussing in Part 1.  Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of the Still Waters Podcast, Teri interviews Jady Copeland, an evangelist at Lakeview Church of Christ in Columbus, Indiana. Jady shares his journey with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), specifically focusing on his subtype called scrupulosity, which involves obsessive concerns around moral and religious issues. He discusses the difficulties of managing OCD, the impact it had on his personal and professional life, and how he overcame many challenges with the help of specialized therapy. Jady also highlights the importance of proper diagnosis and treatment and shares how he now assists others struggling with similar issues. This insightful conversation aims to raise awareness and understanding of OCD and its profound effects. 00:00 Introduction to The Still Waters Podcast00:24 Meet Jady Copeland: An Evangelist's Journey with OCD01:10 Understanding OCD: Definitions and Misconceptions03:24 Jady's Personal Experience with OCD04:48 Scrupulosity: A Deeper Dive into Religious OCD10:01 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life and Relationships16:31 Finding Help and Healing19:59 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of The Still Waters Podcast, hosts Teri White and Rufus Meriwether share their experiences and key takeaways from the American Association of Christian Counselors Conference. They discuss various workshops on substance abuse, addiction, psychotherapy, and the integration of faith in mental health counseling. Key topics include the evolving nature of substance abuse, the importance of focusing on the person rather than the problem in coaching and understanding spiritual abuse. The episode emphasizes the significance of forgiveness, mental health awareness, and the unique challenges faced by individuals in today's society.00:00 Introduction to the Stillwaters Podcast00:20 Reflections on the AACC Conference03:09 Substance Abuse and Modern Challenges04:46 Addiction Beyond Substances07:36 Practical Tools and Coaching Insights10:32 The Role of Forgiveness in Mental Health17:51 Challenges Facing Young People Today19:06 Narcissistic Abuse and Spiritual Impact24:48 Final Thoughts and Future DirectionsFor more information about American Association of Christian Counselors, check out their website at: www.aacc.net Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

 In this episode of the Stillwaters Podcast, Teri engages in a heartfelt conversation with Barb Winters, a former homeschooling mom who faced the challenge of dealing with her son's exposure to pornography. Barb and Teri discuss their homeschooling experiences, the discovery of Barb's son's struggle, and the steps she took to help him, including implementing filters, enhancing accountability, and fostering open communication. They emphasize the importance of starting early conversations about sensitive issues and maintaining trust within the family. Barb shares insights and encourages other parents who are facing similar challenges, offering hope and practical advice for navigating this tough subject. 00:00 Introduction to the Stillwaters Podcast 01:23 Meet Barb Winters 03:16 Discovering the Struggle: A Family's Encounter with Pornography 06:04 The Impact on Family Dynamics 08:36 Steps Taken to Support and Protect 18:08 Rebuilding Trust and Communication 22:43 Advice for Parents Facing Similar Challenges 29:41 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Resources:https://hopefulmom.net/"Sexpectations: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships" can be purchased on Amazon. www.fightthenewdrug.orgContact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Just us today for part 2 of a discussion with Tracey Pike, executive director of Ascend, a national nonprofit dedicated to promoting sexual risk avoidance (SRA) education. In this part of our discussion we will have a conversation about the damaging effects of pornography and how it impacts  young people.www.weascend.orgPART 100:00 Introduction to the Still Waters Podcast00:16 Meet Tracy Pike: A Leader in Youth Mentorship01:17 Understanding Ascend and Sexual Risk Avoidance01:46 Tracy's Journey into Sexual Risk Avoidance Education07:02 The Role of Ascend in National Health Education15:11 Holistic Health and Youth Development19:25 The Importance of Holistic Approaches in EducationPART 227:32 The Role of Guest Speakers in Education29:05 Challenges and Opportunities in Homeschooling30:56 Parents as the Primary Educators31:29 Holistic Approach to Sex Education37:06 The Impact of Pornography on Youth40:42 Addressing Pornography in Education47:01 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of the Still Waters Podcast, Teri welcomes Tracy Pike, executive director of Ascend, a national nonprofit dedicated to promoting sexual risk avoidance (SRA) education. Tracy shares her journey into the SRA field, starting from her unexpected encounter with a local nonprofit and leading to her significant role at Ascend. She explains their mission, which includes setting high standards for SRA programming and working alongside educators and legislators. Tracy emphasizes the importance of holistic health in youth education, discussing how mental, emotional, social, and ethical aspects are interconnected with physical health. The conversation also covers the damaging effects of pornography on youth and the importance of proactive parental involvement in educating children about healthy relationships and sexual decision-making. https://weascend.orgPART 100:00 Introduction to the Still Waters Podcast00:16 Meet Tracy Pike: A Leader in Youth Mentorship01:17 Understanding Ascend and Sexual Risk Avoidance01:46 Tracy's Journey into Sexual Risk Avoidance Education07:02 The Role of Ascend in National Health Education15:11 Holistic Health and Youth Development19:25 The Importance of Holistic Approaches in EducationPART 227:32 The Role of Guest Speakers in Education29:05 Challenges and Opportunities in Homeschooling30:56 Parents as the Primary Educators31:29 Holistic Approach to Sex Education37:06 The Impact of Pornography on Youth40:42 Addressing Pornography in Education47:01 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of the Still Waters Podcast, Julie and Teri discuss the intricacies of codependency, a topic often misunderstood. They share personal stories and delve into the definition and dynamics of codependent relationships, highlighting the differences between healthy and codependent interactions. The conversation offers practical advice for those who may recognize these unhealthy dynamics in their own lives.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/codependency00:00 Introduction 02:21 Discussing Codependency03:29 Defining Codependency12:16 Personal Experiences with Codependency14:49 Generational Codependency20:41 Recognizing and Addressing Codependency27:56 Conclusion Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

From Homeschooling Mom to Sexual Risk Avoidance EducatorAfter more than 20 years of homeschooling her children and steering clear of the traditional education system, Teri returned to the classroom to teach sexual risk avoidance education. In this episode, Rudy and Teri switch roles—Rudy takes the lead with questions that he and others have about AIM and SRA Education, while Teri provides the answers. Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of the Still Waters Podcast, we introduce the newest team member, Abrielle Davis, who hails from Texas and brings extensive experience in both educational and clinical mental health work. Abrielle shares her background, motivation for entering the mental health field, and how she balances faith-based and practical counseling.  Abrielle also offers a core message of perseverance and finding peace amidst life's challenges. .Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode of the Still Waters Podcast, the team explores insights gained from working with individuals experiencing deep pain and trauma. They discuss common misconceptions about counseling/coaching, the importance of non-judgmental listening, and practical tools for healing. The conversation also touches on issues of betrayal, trust, and the significance of self-care for counselors. Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Modesty: more than a dress code. Tune in to the latest Stillwaters Podcast for a deep dive into how modesty ties into our identity and self-worth.  Julie joins Teri  to discuss the way we perceive and practice modesty in today’s world. Modesty is more than just hemlines, it's  about our hearts. #StillwatersPodcast #Modesty #Dresscode #StillwaterslifeContact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode we tackle men's mental health head-on with the insightful Rufus Meriwether. Whether you're a man navigating life's hurdles or know someone who is, this episode is a must-listen. Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Trauma! A overused buzzword in current times, but also something that is real and impacts many people. Listen in as Julie interviews Teri about Trauma Informed Care, what it is and why it's an important perspective in our modern day.Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

In this episode Julie and Teri  discuss some myths and truths of mental health awareness.Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Join Teri and Rufus as they dive into a discussion surrounding the importance of recognizing and maintaining our mental health.Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Join us as the entire Still Waters team discusses Sexual Assault Awareness Month and Domestic Violence.Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.

Rudy and Teri discuss the importance of active listing and how important it is for this to take place in healthy relationships.Contact The Still Waters Team www.stillwaterslife.comEmail us at:[email protected]@[email protected]@stillwaterslife.comLet us help you find healing and wellness at The Still Waters.