All Episodes
I Said What I Said — 140 episodes
170. WayFinder Session 2: your mind needs a master
169. Suicide, Depression + how To make life Worth Living
165. WayFinder Session 1: the inner critic
164. Your Dream Life is CLOSER than you think, mama!!!
163. Life is a privilege and an honour!!! 5 things I’m taking into my new year
162. Wanna get coached by me? ⭐ Take a listen
158. Love is Blind S9: Ep12+Reunion - wealth gaps, naivety and outsourcing our intuition
157. Should you take Responsibility for your own Suffering? Manifestation, Fate, Fortune and Suffering
156. Love is Blind S9: Ep6-11: substance abuse, sexual coercion and breaking relational patterns (everyone’s getting slapped!!!)
155. Love is Blind S9: Ep1-5: racism, biohacking and arrested development
153. 'Materialists' movie review: love as the last uncolonized frontier
150. Love is Blind UK S2 - Ep10 & 11: self sabotage and the promise of happily ever after
149. Love is Blind UK S2 - Ep5-9: bro code, provider men and low self-esteem women
148. Love is Blind UK S2 - Ep1-4: spiritual bypassing, gender roles, attachment styles.
144. Laverne Cox: MAGA, intersectionality and living out our politics (including COMPASSION)
141. Race and identity politics are a scam and I am DONE!!!
140. Listener Question: How to strengthen your intuition
138. The limits of the Law of Attraction/Abraham Hicks
137. "Sinners" movie is a spiritual call to action. Will you answer?
136. Processing emotions like a big gworl: envy, embodiment, self trust
Girls and Gays for a Free Palestine 🍉 : donating Patreon proceeds
133. Lying is a form of masking and is ruining your self esteem
132. what shame and envy tell us about ourselves
129. Think Less, Feel More: presence and submitting to the undulations of life
128. Never been in a serious romantic relationship? Listen to this
127. Happy birthday to me! Reflections on emotionality and life being an algorithm
126. Making friends, challenging biases, keeping humble
125. astrological transits, fate vs. free will, surviving Trumpiana
124. ’Babygirl’ gets real about desire, power and gender dynamics
121. The Ultimatum Season 3 Ep7-10: Abstinence, betrayal and redemption arcs
120. Trump, Apartheid Clyde and personal power
119. 2025 ins and outs: no more windmilling in comment sections!!!
118. The Ultimatum Season 3: Ep4-6 - lies, sex and anger issues
117. Becoming a spiritual scientist(4): presenting 2024's findings
116. 2024 lessons in relationships: people pleasing, boundaries, reciprocation ft. Nyak
115. Pop culture round-up: "Violence isn’t the answer" - since when?! Luigi Mangione, UHC, social murder
114. Meeting your Higher Self: Breathwork, Channeling and Dream Interpretation
112. The Ultimatum Season 3: Ep1-3 - hate, hall passes and fetishization
111. People Pleasers to the front! A 101 on Boundaries
110: Boundaries! Cultivating a relationship with self, and culling toxicity
No Episode Today (postponed to next week)
109. Love is Blind DC Ep10-11: Tantrums, Lies and Demands for Sex
108. Love is Blind DC Ep6-9: Hidden children, Cheating & Condom-gate
107. Love is Blind DC Ep1-5: Trauma dumping, manipulation and the one drop rule
Back for October!
Hiatus: See you in 2025!
106. Love is Blind UK Ep10-11 + reunion: ambition, cultural clashes and white woman tears
105. Love is Blind UK Ep7-9: bullies, immigrant mums and astrology
104. Love is Blind UK Ep1-6: Intuition, Manipulation, and Beauty Standards
103. Becoming a Spiritual Scientist (3): Presenting my findings
102. When autism & Spirituality intersect ft. Brown Intuitive
100. Becoming A Spiritual Scientist (1): Is Manifestation Real?
99. How to recover from ennui
98. A Spiritual guide to sustainable activism
97. The Process of Building Self-Esteem
96. Hope, Burnout and Depression
95. "The Ultimatum South Africa" Ep 6-9 and Reunion
93. Yoh! The "Ultimatum South Africa" Review (Ep1-5)
91. Amorality, Suffering and Manifestation (Part 1) ft. Jaliessa Sipress
90. People Pleasing Causes More Conflict than it Resolves
81. Leave Amanda Seales alone! Black Autistic Women are Targets
80. The will to live amidst societal collapse
79. Hey Girls and Gays, We're Back! (and mostly on Patreon)
78. 2020 in review: intuition, self development and manifestation
77. Belief Systems, Personal Power and Radical Pleasure in the face of white supremacy
76. Should our friendships inspire us? ft. Bobos Void
75. Holding Space: Is wanting to fix other people's issues compassionate or selfish?
74. Bodies under quarantine: boundaries, beauty and elusive weight loss
73. Ironic but true: your dreams are holding you back
72. Would you join a cult?
71. Wait, what day is it? shifting efforts in relationships under lockdown
70. Destructive Hookup Styles, Botched Boundaries & Vulnerability Sweats
69. Is Authenticity Overrated? Leaning into Perception and Determining your Value Add
68. Are you too old to be special?
67. The Future of Personal Finances, Career & Trigger Warnings under COVID-19
66. Love In A Time of Corona virus - conspiracy theories, social isolation and unrequited love
65. Corona virus frenzy, financial freedom and workplace scams
64. Love is Blind until its not: on preference, prejudice and fantasy
63. Is Gwyneth Paltrow trying to Kill You?
62. Why be ambitious when the world is ending?
61. Mum, Dad - I've outgrown you: hard conversations, constructive conflict and power dynamics
59. Celebrating 1 Year of ISWIS with a hectic Q&A
58. Dear White People - on navigating racial dynamics with POC
57. How To Communicate Better in 2020
56. Can we hold our Depressed friends accountable?
55. Are some Friendships too much work? Emotional labour, boundaries and pity friendships
54. Family Dynamics: To Fight or Not to Fight? That is the Question
53. Should Sex feel like this? Vaginismus and Gym Orgasms
52. Cannibalism, anyone? Survival, Morality and Body Autonomy
51. Exercise, clean eating trends and the new face of diet culture
50. Is the Pursuit of Happiness the greatest scam ever?
49. Noisy headspace, Psychics and Accent Wars
48. Clout as Currency ft. Bobo & Flex / Flex Mami
47. Friendship Dilemmas: Breakups, Money and Attraction
46. Working is the Ghetto, Sexual Fantasies, are you Lucky or Privileged?
45. The Cost of Sugar: the rise of blesser culture and its unseen labour
44. Growing Pains: managing life transitions and relinquishing control
43. I'm Mediocre, Now What? On Excellence, Realism and the Law Of Attraction
42. Are you Ugly? Neutrality, Positivity and Body Image Propaganda
41. Serial Dating, Self Worth and Saying NO to the Romance Agenda
40. Trigger Warnings and Bums on Mars
39. Toxic Self-Preservation: you're isolating yourself and it shows!
38. Dating while Bitter/Better - desire, energy and resistance (Part 2)
37. Dating while Bitter/Better - Are Woke Men Born or Built? (Part 1)
36. Dunking on Self Dev: the duality of therapy, diagnoses and western medicine
35. Clocking out: Creating meaning and value beyond Career
34. Mid Year Musings - growth, glow ups and what we're leaving behind
33. The Friendship Audit - the results of facilitating theoretical conflict
32. The Friendship Grind Part 2: hard decisions, priorities and performativity
31. The Friendship Grind Part 1: Transitions, Loyalty, and Complacency
30. Do You Boo: Internet Activism, Tangible impact and Retweet Complacency
29. Envy? I don't Know Her! Comparison and the in\ability to Fulfil our Dreams (Part 2)
28. Envy and Comparison: I Met My Tethered and She's THRIVING! (Part 1)
27. Is your sexual pleasure worth prioritising?
26. Throw her in the trash? On bending vs. breaking friendships
25. "Forever After" (and other scams) ft. Retha
24. Cute or Concerning? Social Media Stalking and Transparency
23. Social Media flexing and Tapdancing for the D - ft Abolade
22. Suicide, Life And Death Q&A ft. Ushbah (Part 2)
21. Would You Date Yourself? ft. Nunu & Abolade
20. Polyamory vs. Romantic Longevity - ft. Nunu
19. Suicide, Life and Death ft. Ushbah (Part 1)
18: The Beauty Myth: Shifting beauty trends in women
17. Fast Money & Motivation: is wealth karmic?
16. Dating in Denial: looking for love in all the wrong places
15. Ageing Anxiety: On Comparison, Purpose And TeamNoSleep - ft Retha
14. The Irony Of Conflict Avoidance
13. Parents and the Pursuit of Respect - ft. Lethabo
12. Sexcetera:(Life Before)Celibacy Ft. Mica
11. #FupaMustFall: on the collective fear of Fatness
10. Seasons of friendship: lean in or let go?
9. Gender Wars: Men Are from Mars, Period! - Ft. Boris
8. Should We Respect Boundaries We Don't Agree with?
7. Dating while Fat, Black And Picky ft. Retha
6. Who wins in Cancel Culture? Ft. Tloukie
5. 2018 Year Review: A Scam or A Success?
4. Why did you ghost me?! A postmortem discussion with my Ex
3. Is Romance Realistic? Ft. Bobos Void
2. Surprise! YOU are the Toxic friend
1. Fight Me: does conflict make or break friendships?