Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

Ever been in a conversation and had NO idea what to say next? This episode will help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

I woke up feeling down, and decided to record a podcast (that day) describing what I did in response. I thought this could be helpful since I’m a psychologist and you can see how I used to deal with it, and how I’ve learned to respond differently now. And by the way, I stuck to this system and my mood returned to baseline within a couple of days.  Remember, it’s okay to have down days. What’s important is how we respond to them.  For more on working with all the shame or low moods associated with social anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

Can your personality actually make you more physically attractive? I explore how certain traits can change how others see your looks, backed by surprising psychology and neuroscience findings. What key characteristics shift these perceptions, and why? Listen to learn how your interactions and behavior could enhance your attractiveness, without changing your appearance. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter:  https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

Download my "Worry Time Pocket Guide" here:  https://thomas-smithyman.mykajabi.com/worry-time-pocket-guide For more on psychology and anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Our phones are quietly undermining our social lives by pulling attention away from real human connection. In this episode, I explain the psychology behind how phones reduce happiness, weaken relationships, and block connection—and the small, practical changes that can help you level up. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  

Discover the evidence-based methods to staying positive even when your circumstances are difficult. I share my own story of how and why I had to learn all about this. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

As a clinical psychologist who met my wife on a dating app, I’ll share strategies to stop endless swiping and texting, and start making real connections. I want to help you actually meet someone without falling into the common traps most people face. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Download the full list of 15 ways I became more self-confident here: http://bit.ly/4nbjDUA To improve your social confidence, you can get my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

After years of working on overthinking--called "post-event rumination" to us psychologists--I've come up with a 4 step process that has been pretty successful for me. I lay that out for you in this episode. You can get more info on all these idea in my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Discovering who you truly are can transform your life. In this episode, I break down the science of self-concept clarity, a cornerstone of self-awareness, using the psychological research and my experience as a clinical psychologist. You’ll learn why understanding yourself matters, how it leads to greater happiness, purpose, and self-confidence, as well as actionable steps to build deeper self-awareness and self-fidelity. For more on psychology and personal growth, get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  

Have you ever stared at your reflection and thought, “If I could just fix this one thing, I’d finally feel confident”? This video aims to help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA If insecurity has held you back from connecting with others, this book might help: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Ever worry you’re too quiet to be charismatic? This video will help with that. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

Learn 4 psychology-backed pathways to actually recharge. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

I didn’t want to jump to conclusions, so I bought the book and here’s what I found. You can get my dating anxiety book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Or just have AI write one for you... Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

I read almost 100 science articles on flirtation. Here's what I figured out. There are 3 core principles that guide flirtation. When things go wrong, it's generally because we're breaking one of these unwritten rules of flirting.  I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  

This personal strategy has been a game-changer in social situations. Over the past 20 years, whenever I’ve found myself in a setting where I knew no one, this rule has been my lifeline. I’ll delve into how setting the right level of performance goals, focusing on factors within our control, and relying on fundamental social skills helps us. Plus, I’ll tell you why I believe basic introductions are the best way to meet new people. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Ever feel like your conversations could be more engaging or your social life more fulfilling? You might be lacking in a key ingredient: Social Curiosity. Don’t try to be interesting, focus on becoming INTERESTED. For those looking to dig deeper into this topic, check out my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.   📚 What You'll Learn: How curiosity can deepen your conversations and broaden your social horizons. The research-backed appeal of social curiosity and why it captivates people. Why and how social curiosity can help alleviate social anxiety. Practical techniques to cultivate social curiosity and elevate your interactions.