Faith & Feels

In this episode, I sit down with Joshua De La Cruz, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, to talk about what teens are really facing in today’s digital world. We explore everything from video game overuse to the deeper emotional needs underneath behavior, and how parents can show up with more curiosity, authenticity, and compassion. Josh shares practical insight on building stronger relationships with teens and creating spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. If you’d like to connect with Josh or learn more about his work, you can visit www.delacruztherapy.com.Takeaways:Joshua De La Cruz is passionate about supporting teens.Video game addiction is a common issue among teens.Building connections with youth requires compassion and curiosity.Understanding the underlying needs behind addiction is crucial.Parents often seek therapy out of desperation.Creating a safe space for teens to express themselves is vital.The importance of creativity in youth cannot be overlooked.Relationships with young clients can be deeply impactful.Parents should approach their teens with authenticity and humility.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith & Feels01:54 Meet Joshua De La Cruz: A Journey into Mental Health07:03 Understanding Teen Challenges in a Digital World11:17 The Impact of Video Game Addiction18:44 Building Compassionate Connections with Teens22:07 The Importance of Creativity in Youth27:14 Valuing Relationships with Young Clients35:47 Advice for Parents: Connecting with Teens*Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarostin" "In Plus Music"

In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Dr. Kervins Clement, CSAT, founder of Clement Counseling and Consulting who is trained in sex addiction, Gottman Method, EFT, and EMDR. We dive into a profound conversation about the intersections of trauma, sexuality, and healing. We talk about the concept of eroticized rage, the complexities of shame in sexual experiences, and the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey. Dr. Clement shares his insights on reclaiming sexual identity and intimacy, and we discuss the need for more open and honest conversations about sexuality within the church and beyond. We close the episode with encouragement for those in recovery, talking about the importance of doing the work for yourself and recognizing that healing is a continuous journey.Resources:https://www.youtube.com/@DrKervinsClementTakeaways:Today's episode includes sensitive topics around sexual health and trauma.Eroticized rage is when feelings of anger become intertwined with sexual arousal.The body responds to sensations without choosing what's right or wrong.Shame can complicate the understanding of sexual arousal in trauma survivors.Healing involves reclaiming one's sexual identity and desires.Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process.Conversations about sex should be normalized to reduce shame.Recovery requires hard work, accountability, and ownership.You are not your addiction; focus on your health and well-being.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Healing and Faith01:48 Meet Dr. Kervins Clement: Background and Expertise09:02 Understanding Eroticized Rage19:44 Navigating Shame and Trauma in Sexuality27:40 Reclaiming Sexual Identity and Intimacy39:25 The Importance of Self-Compassion46:22 Encouragement for Those in RecoveryPixabay Music : "In plus Music" "Viacheslavstarostin"

(*Fully Updated Version from Episode 44)In this eye opening and honest conversation, I’m joined by Kristen Whitmore and Pastor Wilson Wang from Renew Church on the SOLA Leaders Podcast to talk about a topic the Church often avoids — sex and love addiction.Together, we explore the reality that many believers silently struggle with pornography, shame, and relational brokenness, and why creating safe, grace-filled spaces for these conversations is essential for true healing. I share my personal journey into becoming a therapist and how my own story shaped my passion for integrated healing — where faith, emotional health, and relationships come together.In this episode, we unpack the difference between sexual addiction and love addiction, the deeper longing for connection and approval beneath these patterns, and the ripple effects pornography has on individuals, marriages, and mental health. We also talk about why accountability, community, and honest discipleship are key to recovery — and how the Church can move from silence to support.Most importantly, this conversation is a reminder that no one is beyond hope. Freedom, transformation, and wholeness are possible when we step out of isolation and into the light. If you’ve ever felt stuck in shame, longed for deeper healing, or wondered how the Church can respond with both truth and compassion, this episode is for you.*This episode belongs to Sola Network Leaders Podcast. For more info, visit www.sola.network.comRecommendations:www.joinrelay.appwww.sherecovery.orgwww.puredesireministries.orgwww.fightthenewdrug.comwww.sa.orgBooks:"Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" by Barna Report"Unwanted" by Jay Stringer"Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody*Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarrostin"Sound Bites:"This podcast is for those who love Jesus.""We talk about sex and love addiction in the church.""Sex addiction is a hidden and prevalent sin.""Love addiction stems from abandonment.""We want to normalize these conversations.""We need accountability to fight this fight.""The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it's connection.""There's hope, there's transformation available.""You are not alone in this struggle."Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields01:34 Exploring Sexual and Love Addiction02:57 Rika's Journey to Therapy11:12 Understanding Love Addiction13:54 Bringing Conversations to the Church16:46 Creating Safe Spaces for Women19:32 The Role of Accountability in Recovery23:21 Engaging in Conversations about Sexual Addiction28:09 Statistics on Sexual Addiction31:17 The Damaging Effects of Pornography34:11 The Importance of Connection in Recovery39:37 Words of Hope for Ministry Leaders

Happy New Year 2026 Everyone!This episode is just a casual conversation with me and my husband, Henry. We’re sharing a little about what life has been like lately, a goal we have for the new year, and some encouraging moments from our journey with therapy and God.Sit back, relax, and just hang out with us.I’ll be posting once a month now (with maybe an occasional surprise bonus episode). I’m hoping to preserve more energy for my personal relationships, my spiritual community, and a few side projects.Thank you for walking alongside me. I hope these conversations continue to bring you small doses of joy and encouragement.*Resources mentioned :www.fullyhealth.org"Run to the Father "Worship Song by Cody CarnesPixabay Music : "Calm Soft Music"

In this milestone 50th episode of Faith & Feels, I pause to reflect with gratitude on this journey and the community that has grown alongside it. As 2025 comes to a close, I share briefly how this year shaped me—through public speaking opportunities that stretched my confidence, a car accident that became a spiritual wake-up call, and deeper lessons about living intentionally rather than reactively.This episode is less about achievements and more about alignment—being rooted in Christ, tending to what matters most, and listening for God’s gentle guidance in the quiet moments. I also share why I’ll be shifting to monthly episodes in 2026, creating space for sustainability, deeper connection, and new creative expressions.Whether you’ve been here since the beginning or are just tuning in, this episode is an invitation to reflect, slow down, and consider what it means to live anchored in your identity in Christ while investing intentionally in the relationships and callings God has placed before you.Thank you for being part of this journey—truly.**Special shout out to all my guests for your generous time in sharing your heart, passion, and courage!! Many of you were so vulnerable in sharing your personal stories so thank you from the bottom of my heart for your bravery!!!God was and is glorified thru each of your testimony!!

In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Gina Kaye for an honest and courageous conversation about betrayal trauma and the role faith can play in the healing journey. Gina shares her story of discovering her ex-husband’s hidden struggles with addiction, walking through the pain of divorce, and slowly rebuilding her life after everything she thought was secure fell apart.Together, we talk about the deep impact of betrayal trauma, why specialized support and safe community are essential for healing, and how often faith spaces lack the language and structure to care well for those in crisis. Gina also speaks to the ways betrayal can shake one’s faith, especially for women who feel unseen or silenced in their pain.This conversation is for anyone who feels lost, overwhelmed, or unsure where to turn. Gina’s story is a reminder that healing takes time, help matters, and you deserve to find your voice. You are not alone—and there is hope.Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of betrayal trauma, addiction, and divorce, which may be activating for some listeners. Please take care of yourself and pause or skip this episode if needed.Resources:Gina's email address - [email protected] groups for partners of a porn/ sex addict - sanon.org/find-a-meeting/To get info on certified sex addiction therapists directory - www.iitap.comTo get info on Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional training - https://iitap.com/general/custom.asp?page=PSAP*Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Interesting Motivational"Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Feels Podcast01:45 Gina K's Journey Through Betrayal Trauma06:06 Understanding Addiction and Seeking Help10:45 The Importance of Specialized Support18:26 Navigating Divorce and Rebuilding Life22:12 Life After Divorce: Finding Purpose30:24 The Role of Faith in Healing32:07 Encouragement for Women in Pain34:01 Church's Role in Addressing Addiction39:19 The Complexity of Addiction and Recovery44:10 Finding God in the Mess50:41 Conclusion and Resources

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with spiritual director Joshua Mun to explore how spiritual direction can deepen our emotional and spiritual well-being. Together, we unpack the ancient roots of spiritual direction, how it differs from therapy, and how it helps us discern God’s presence—especially in seasons of anxiety, overwhelm, or transition. We also discuss using positive imagination in spiritual practices, navigating political and cultural conversations within faith communities, and creating safe spaces for honest reflection. The episode closes with a gentle prayer, inviting listeners to rest and reconnect with God. If you're interested in pursuing spiritual direction, please email Josh at [email protected]:-Spiritual direction helps individuals notice God's presence in their lives.-It differs from therapy by focusing on spiritual growth rather than diagnosing mental health issues.-Creating safe spaces for dialogue is essential in addressing difficult topics.-Spiritual direction can be a powerful tool for those struggling with mental health.-Honesty and humility are crucial in engaging with political conversations within the church.-Spiritual practices can help strengthen one's relationship with God.-The power of spiritual direction lies in pointing individuals back to God.-Spiritual direction is becoming increasingly popular in evangelical spaces.-Anger and other emotions can be explored in a spiritual context.-God delights in each individual and rejoices over them.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields02:02 Meet Josh Mun: A Journey into Spiritual Direction10:46 Understanding Spiritual Direction vs. Therapy19:23 Navigating Mental Health in Spiritual Direction29:07 Creating Safe Spaces for Difficult Conversations43:20 Closing Reflections and Prayer49:48 Conclusion and Invitation to Spiritual Direction*Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Worship Piano Instrumental"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with JJ Raymond for a heartfelt conversation about identity, culture, and calling within sports ministry. JJ shares his journey as a transracial adoptee and his work with Athletes in Action—Cru’s ministry that has been helping athletes find hope and purpose in Jesus for decades. As the Regional Director for the Pacific Southwest, he provides care and direction for staff across California, Arizona, and Hawaii, while his wife Carly disciples student athletes at UC Irvine.Together, we talk about the pressures student athletes face, the importance of discipleship and representation, and how embracing our cultural identity shapes the way we live out our faith. My hope is that this episode invites you to bring your whole self to God’s table and walk your own journey with grace and understanding.For more info on JJ's ministry, please visit www.raymondministy.comwww.athletesinaction.orgPixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Atmospheric Inspirational"Takeaways:-JJ Raymond shares his journey of faith and identity.-The importance of being seen and known by God.-Athletes in Action aims to reach student athletes with the gospel.-Student athletes face unique pressures and challenges.-Discipleship is crucial for spiritual growth in sports.-Cultural identity plays a significant role in personal fulfillment.-Stories of transformation highlight God's work in athletes' lives.-Navigating cultural differences is essential for Asian American athletes.-Encouragement for the next generation to embrace their identity.-The process of understanding truth is as important as the truth itself.

Lately, I’ve been reminded how easy it is to feel guilty for slowing down or taking care of ourselves. After coming back from my trip and feeling jet-lagged, God gently reminded me that rest is actually an act of trust.In this episode, I talk about what self-care looks like through the lens of faith — how it’s not selfish, but stewardship. Even Jesus withdrew to rest and pray, and if He needed that space, so do we. I hope this conversation encourages you to release the guilt, embrace rest as worship, and remember that you don’t have to earn your worth or your rest. Hope this encourages you!Recommended Books:The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerMeeting God in Scripture by Jan JohnsonPixabay Music:"Exciting Day""Christian Instrumental"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Rachel Pun and Becca Sun to talk about something that’s often overlooked in the church—biblical sexuality, vulnerability, and the power of open conversations. We reflect on a recent workshop I led that addressed sexual brokenness, addiction, and God’s design for connection, especially within the Asian American faith community.Together, we share honestly about the challenges women face when it comes to talking about sexuality and shame, and why creating safe spaces for dialogue and support is so important. This conversation is about healing through community, courage, and vulnerability, and learning how to walk together toward freedom and wholeness in Christ.Recommended Sites:www.anchor.communityRecommended Resources:"What if Porn was Actually Satanic? An Honest Conversation with Ray Ortlund"www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbuM2vGgZOMWhat Drives Women to Porn Infographicwww.sherecovery.com/survey-infographic/www.barna.comwww.harvestusa.orgTakeaways:-The workshop focused on biblical sexuality and God's design.-Participants discussed the growing trend of pornography in the church.-Vulnerability and connection are essential for healing.-The Faster Scale is a practical tool for identifying addiction patterns.-Many women struggle with sexual addiction but feel isolated.-Normalizing conversations about sexuality is crucial in the church.-Statistics reveal a significant number of women view pornography.-The opposite of addiction is connection, not sobriety.-Creating safe spaces for dialogue can help break the cycle of shame. Community plays a crucial role in overcoming personal struggles.-Isolation can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and temptation.-Vulnerability is essential for building authentic connections.-Sharing struggles can lead to healing and support from others.-Connection is a powerful antidote to anxiety and loneliness.-Building relationships takes effort and initiative.-The church should address issues of sexuality openly and compassionately.-Everyone has a desire for connection and acceptance.It's important to remember one's identity in Christ amidst struggles.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields Podcast01:37 Exploring Biblical Sexuality Workshop02:50 Guest Introductions and Context08:42 Quotes on Sexuality and Vulnerability11:40 Understanding the Deeper Issues Behind Sexual Struggles16:50 The Importance of Community and Connection20:01 Statistics on Pornography in the Church23:52 Normalizing Conversations Around Sexuality28:35 The Role of Church Leadership in Addressing Sexuality34:45 Ongoing Conversations About Connection and Addiction37:09 The Power of Community in Struggles39:46 The Importance of Connection and Relationship40:05 Opening Up: The Journey to Vulnerability44:50 Navigating Temptations and Finding Support51:12 Encouragement for the Struggling Listener57:51 Building Connections and Overcoming Loneliness*Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" "Small Miracle" and "Mixaund Happiness"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I have the privilege to share in a special first-take conversation originally recorded for the SOLA Network leaders podcast with Pastor Wilson Wang and Renew Church staff member, Kristen Whitmore. Together, they unpack the often-hidden struggles of sexual addiction and love addiction—issues that leave many feeling isolated and weighed down by shame.The discussion highlights why accountability and connection are vital for healing, how church leaders can model vulnerability, and the importance of addressing underlying issues rather than avoiding them. This honest and hope-filled conversation offers encouragement, practical insight, and a reminder that transformation is possible when we walk together in community.You will surely be blessed by this conversation!Takeaways:Sexual addiction and love addiction are prevalent issues in the church.Shame and silence often prevent individuals from seeking help.Accountability and connection are crucial for recovery.The church must create safe spaces for open discussions about addiction.Statistics show a significant number of Christians struggle with porn addiction.Recovery is a journey that requires community support.The opposite of addiction is connection, not sobriety.Women face unique challenges in discussing their struggles with addiction.Practical tools and resources are essential for recovery.Healing begins when struggles are brought into the light.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the Conversation01:30 Understanding Sexual and Love Addiction09:29 The Prevalence of Addiction in the Church17:52 Recovery and Accountability in Addiction22:35 Addressing Addiction in Church Communities34:22 Practical Steps for Church Leaders39:03 Hope and Healing in CommunityRecommended Resources:www.renewchurchoc.comThe Same Boat Podcast, Episode 2.14-2.16 with Pastor Wilson Wang & Roy Kimwww.podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-same-boat/id11625280282.14 Mental Health : Sexual Addiction (Part 1)2.15 Mental Health : Sexual Addiction (Part 2)2.16 Mental Health : Sexual Addiction (Part 3)12 Steps SAA(Sex Addicts Anonymous Group) at Evergreen Baptist Church of Los Angeleswww.recovery102025.wixsite.com/recoverywww.joinrelay.appwww.sherecovery.orgwww.puredesireministries.orgwww.fightthenewdrug.comBooks :"Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" by Barna Report Partnered with Pure Desire Ministries"Unwanted" by Jay Stringer"Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody*Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Waterfall"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Aly Dearborn and Anastasia Sprout for an honest conversation about OnlyFans. We talk about how the platform is often glamorized as empowerment, but in reality involves deep issues of exploitation, coercion, and sexual objectification. Together, we unpack the psychological toll it takes, why the idea of sexual liberation can be misleading, and the need for healthier role models and stronger media literacy. This conversation is especially close to my heart as we highlight the importance of advocacy and creating real change within our communities.Recommended Sites:www.exoduscry.comwww.stacisprout.comwww.alydmft.comwww.fightthenewdrug.org/dangerous-quest-for-onlyfans-fame/Takeaways:OnlyFans is often framed as a platform for empowerment, but it can lead to exploitation.The narrative of sexual liberation can be misleading and harmful.Many women are groomed into the industry under false pretenses.Sexual objectification has significant psychological impacts on individuals.The recruitment tactics for platforms like OnlyFans can lead to deeper exploitation.Advocacy and education are crucial in combating the harms of platforms like OnlyFans.Healthy role models are essential for guiding young people in their understanding of sexuality.Media literacy is vital in recognizing the predatory nature of certain industries.The conversation around sex needs to be positive and informative.We must remember our inherent worth beyond societal standards. Chapters:00:00 Introduction to OnlyFans and Its Implications02:03 Understanding the Reality Behind OnlyFans04:18 The Illusion of Empowerment and Sexual Liberation10:54 The Psychological Impact of Sexual Objectification14:41 The Dangers of Quick Money and Exploitation20:02 Responses to Sexual Trauma and Control25:20 The Recruitment and Grooming Process30:24 Advocacy and Creating Change35:20 The Importance of Media Literacy and Inherent Worth40:13 Healthy Role Models and Positive Sexuality*Pixabay Music - "Exciting Day" & "Cold October"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, Rika Lopez sits down with Cindy Lee, a high school English teacher, former missionary, and current M.Div. student, to talk about the transformative power of education and faith.Cindy shares how her experience as a missionary shapes the way she teaches, emphasizing authentic relationships, supportive classroom culture, and engaging students in critical thinking through literature. She introduces the Harkness table method, which fosters respect, listening, and honoring of differing views and opinions—skills that shape students far beyond the classroom.With humility and deep care, Cindy even wrote a personal letter to each of her students before graduation, a gesture that reflected her heart as a servant-leader and her desire for each student to know they are seen and valued. From addressing mental health struggles to being an advisor for a school club called "Gentlemen’s of Tomorrow," Cindy demonstrates in tangible ways the love of Jesus as a teacher, mentor, and guide.She also encourages parents to connect with their teens through open communication and reminds us that being authentic and vulnerable, rooted in Christ’s love, is at the core of reaching the next generation.For more of Cindy's writings and reflections, you can visit her blog at https://thewildernesstable.comChapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields Podcast01:48 Cindy Lee: A Journey from Missionary to Teacher08:00 Understanding the Challenges of Today's Students12:33 Creating a Supportive Classroom Environment18:15 Building Authentic Relationships with Students24:45 The Harkness Table: Fostering Critical Thinking32:21 Leaving a Legacy Through Literature and Respect34:13 The Impact of Teaching Methods38:01 Mental Health Challenges in the Classroom42:21 Navigating Modern Relationships and Ethics49:35 Understanding Gen Z: Technology and Social Dynamics55:22 Teaching Values Through Literature01:00:14 Gentlemen of Tomorrow: A New Initiative01:04:06 Advice for Parents of Teens

In this episode, I’m taking a step away from structured topics and sharing one of My Random Rambling Reflections. These are moments where I let my heart speak a little more freely— sometimes simply about life, faith, or what God has been showing me in unexpected ways.This reflection is less about polished answers and more about honest processing, vulnerability, and connection. My hope is that as you listen, you’ll find encouragement for your own journey and be reminded that healing doesn’t happen in a straight line—it happens in the everyday reflections, wrestlings, and glimpses of grace.*Make sure to listen to the last poem called "Safe" by Paul David Tripp! You'll be blessed by it~Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields01:38 Personal Reflections on Trauma and Healing02:08 The Car Accident Experience10:06 Understanding Trauma Responses12:11 Processing Guilt and Shame14:34 The Role of Supportive Relationships18:09 Lessons on Control and Vulnerability24:00 Finding Comfort in Vulnerability29:27 Self-Compassion and Healing Practices32:01 Trusting God in Uncertainty34:23 Closing Thoughts and a PoemBook Recommendation: "My Heart Cries Out" by Paul David Tripp"Polyvagal Flip Chart" by Deb Dana, Author of "The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy"Dr.Peter Levine's Trauma Healing Resources:www.traumahealing.orgPixabay Music : "Exciting Day" "Christian Instrumental Piano"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with psychotherapist Aly Dearborn to explore the fascinating world of Polyvagal Theory and how it can guide us in healing from trauma. We talk about how understanding our nervous system can transform the way we experience safety, stress, and connection. Aly unpacks practical ways to navigate the different states of our nervous system, and why self-regulation, co-regulation, and befriending our bodies and emotions are so essential in the healing process. My hope is that this conversation leaves you feeling both informed and encouraged on your own journey.Recommended Resources:www.alydmft.com"Polyvagal Flip Chart" by Norton Series on Interpersonal NeurobiologyBooks by Dr.Stephen Porges:"Safe and Sound" "Polyvagal Perspectives""Polyvagal Theory" Takeaways:Polyvagal Theory offers a framework for understanding trauma responses.The nervous system's state influences our feelings and behaviors.Self-regulation and co-regulation are crucial for healing.Understanding bodily sensations can help depathologize mental health issues.Curiosity about our nervous system states can enhance self-awareness.Healing requires patience and kindness towards oneself.Environmental cues can impact our sense of safety.Befriending our bodies can lead to greater emotional regulation.Practical exercises can help integrate Polyvagal Theory into daily life.Healing is a journey that involves both body and mind.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory and Trauma Healing04:08 Understanding Polyvagal Theory12:08 The Connection Between Body and Mind21:58 Practical Applications of Polyvagal Theory29:52 Navigating Nervous System States40:01 Befriending Your Body and Emotions*Music by Pixabay: "Mixaund Happy" "Exciting Day" and "Waterfall"

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and fellow LMFT(Licensed Marriage Family Therapist) Susette Magana to explore the intersection of mental health and faith—specifically through the lens of peacemaking in relationships. We dive into how family systems, differentiation, and attachment theory all play a role in how we relate to others, and how God’s peace can be a grounding force in both our personal and relational healing.Susette shares from her own journey and offers practical tools like listening prayer and biblical reflection from Ephesians 4 that help foster genuine connection and transformation. We also talk about the power of boundaries, the grace we need in relationships, and why it’s so important for faith communities to engage in these mental health conversations.If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, conflict in your family, or feeling overwhelmed in relationships, this episode is for you.Recommended Sites:www.susettemagana.cominstagram.com/susette.magana.therapy/#podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-desire-line/id1296321072Takeaways:-Peacemaking involves moving towards wholeness with wisdom, grace, and truth.-Understanding family systems is crucial for effective peacemaking.-Ephesians 4 provides a biblical framework for living well together.-Practical exercises like listening prayer can help cultivate peace.-The Holy Spirit plays a vital role in regulating our emotions during conflicts.-Boundaries are essential for maintaining peace in relationships.-Trusting God can guide us in our next steps towards reconciliation.-Attachment theory emphasizes the importance of secure relationships.-Peacemaking is a messy process that requires patience and grace.-It's important to seek support from therapists who understand the complexities of relationships.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Peacemaking in Relationships08:00 Understanding Family Systems and Peacemaking20:38 Ephesians 4: The Foundation of Peacemaking28:08 Practical Exercises for Cultivating Peace39:12 The Role of the Holy Spirit in Peacemaking54:30 Final Thoughts on Trusting God in Relationships*Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Atmospheric Inspirational"

In today’s episode, I’m excited to introduce you to the Relay App, www.joinrelay.app a powerful recovery tool designed to support individuals struggling with compulsive behaviors—especially around pornography and sexual addiction. Founded by Chandler Rogers and Jace Kendrick, Relay offers a unique, team-based approach to healing. It combines daily emotional check-ins, structured accountability, and real community—because recovery doesn’t happen in isolation.I’ll be sharing three short intro videos by Chandler Rogers to help you get a feel for what Relay is all about and how it can support your journey (or the journey of someone you love).If you're interested in trying out the Relay App, I'm offering a 20% discount on subscriptions for my listeners. Just email me at [email protected], and I’ll be happy to send you the link. ✨ Please note: I do not receive any profit or commission for promoting Relay. I'm simply passionate about sharing helpful, practical resources with anyone navigating unwanted sexual behaviors.If you'd like to directly email Relay's customer service, email them at [email protected]🔒 Disclaimer: I do not claim ownership over any of the Relay content shared in this episode. All material belongs to the founders of Relay. Takeaways:-Faith in Feels aims to break the taboo around mental health and sexual brokenness.-The Relay App provides a supportive community for recovery from sexual addiction.-Understanding the emotional pain behind addiction is crucial for healing.-Connection is essential in overcoming isolation and addiction.-Relay offers a structured program with daily check-ins and accountability.-79% of users report improvement within four weeks of using Relay.-The app allows for personalized recovery plans based on individual needs.-Community support is vital for maintaining motivation in recovery.-The first week of using Relay is free, allowing users to explore without risk.-Healing involves addressing underlying wounds, not just stopping behaviors.*Chandler Rogers Intro Video:Intro Video 1 begins at 6'53Intro Video 2 begins at 11'24Intro Video 3 begins at 23'21Website Recommended : www.joinrelay.appPixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Delicate Reverie"

In this special episode of Faith and Feels, I’m sharing a recent seminar I gave at VAY (Vietnamese American Youth Leaders Christian Conference) on June 22nd, 2025. I spoke on the journey from brokenness to wholeness in relationships—covering topics like love addiction, trauma bonding, and the deep need for healing through Jesus.Together, we explore how our past wounds impact our present connections, and why knowing your identity in Christ is essential for freedom. I also introduce practical tools like the Faster Scale to help identify destructive patterns and encourage honest conversations with your accountability partners, mentors, and even God Himself. Whether you’re a youth leader, student, or just curious about how faith and psychology intersect, this episode is for you.*New episodes drop every other Monday starting in July—be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next!Recommended Resources:www.puredesire.orgwww.puredesire.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/faster-scale-check-in-2017-1.pdfwww.selfloverainbow.comwww.slaafws.org/40-questions/Book:"The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry" by John Mark ComerPixabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Delicate Reverie"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Dr. Esther Park, a board-certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist with over 20 years of outpatient clinical experience. Dr. Park shares her powerful journey from medical school to discovering her true calling in psychiatry, and how that shift led to the birth of something much bigger than herself.Together, we talk about her work as co-founder of Oak Health Center, a for-profit mental health clinic that accepts insurance, and the heart behind its nonprofit counterpart, Oak Health Foundation. Dr. Park unpacks how this Christian-based foundation is working to reduce mental health stigma, prevent suicide, and provide donor-funded care through its out-of-pocket clinic, Fully Health.I loved hearing how she integrates faith, mental health, and community outreach with a holistic, Christ-centered lens. Tune in to hear how Dr. Park is not only a psychiatrist but a visionary building bridges between clinical care and spiritual healing. Plus, you’ll get a glimpse into her personal joys—from hosting dinner parties to traveling the world.Recommended Resources:www.oakhealthfoundation.orgwww.oak.careFor info on FREE & VIRTUAL "Renew and Revive Spiritual Support Group":www.oakhealthfoundation.org/fullyhealth/resources/Takeaways:Dr. Esther Park is a child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist.Common issues in children include depression, anxiety, and ADHD.Medication can be a necessary part of treatment, even for faith-based families.Psychoeducation helps parents understand mental health better.The brain is an organ that can have medical issues just like the heart.It's important to treat mental health issues early to prevent chronic conditions.Dr. Park emphasizes the importance of hope and healing in her practice.The vision for Oak Health Center is to serve multiple communities.Renew and Revive is a spiritual support group that integrates psychology and faith.Seeking help for mental health is crucial and should not be done alone.Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" & "Mixaund Sunrays"

In this poignant episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Pastor Curtis and Carol Lowe to hear their powerful story of calling, ministry, marriage, and faith. Married for over 40 years, Pastor Curtis and Carol reflect on the journey God has taken them on—through seasons of parenting, ministry, cultural bridge-building, and deep spiritual growth. Pastor Curtis shares his journey from seminary to earning his Doctor of Ministry in Spiritual Formation, and how becoming a certified spiritual director has shaped his heart for walking with others. With years of experience pastoring in diverse, multicultural churches—including Asian American congregations—he reflects on the deep spiritual and cultural lessons he’s learned along the way.Carol shares her upbringing in Los Angeles, her career in IT at Jet Propulsion Lab and Boeing, and how she made the decision to stay home and raise their children during years of active ministry. But what makes this episode especially powerful is what they share about their 17th year of marriage—when everything came to a breaking point. They vulnerably talk about the suffering they faced with their mental illness (bipolar disorder, ocd, and depression), and how God’s agape love met them in the deepest places of pain. The simple phrase, “we’re working on it,” became a lifeline—anchored in forgiveness, mercy, and the grace of Jesus.I encourage you to listen all the way through—you don’t want to miss their moving testimony of how God rebuilds, renews, and resurrects even what feels beyond repair. This is a conversation filled with hope.Recommended Resources:Pastor Curtis and Carol's Websitewww.enlightenmentalhealth.orgMarriage/Couple Supportwww.familylife.comwww.familylife.com/learn/courses/art-of-marriage/www.familylife.com/weekend-to-rememberwww.focusonthefamily.comwww.lesandleslie.comwww.youandmeforever.orgBooks:"Meaning of Marriage" by Timothy Keller"You and Me Forever" by Francis and Lisa Chan*Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Mixaund Happiness"Takeaways:Pastor Curtis and Carol share their journey through marriage and mental illness.The importance of mentorship in the church community.Forgiveness is a crucial aspect of maintaining a healthy marriage.Communication styles can differ greatly between partners.The 17th year of marriage marked a significant turning point for the couple.Community support is vital for couples facing challenges.It's essential to seek help when dealing with marital issues.Agape love is the foundation of a Christ-centered marriage.Couples should remember their wedding vows during tough times.Marriage requires ongoing effort and commitment.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields and Guests06:01 Purpose of the Marriage Seminar12:06 Mentorship and Community Engagement19:14 Struggles in Marriage: Forgiveness and Communication27:39 The 17th Year: A Turning Point in Marriage43:51 Encouragement for Couples in Crisis57:56 Conclusion and Reflection on Agape Love

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Jean Yan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is pursuing her Ph.D in Clinical Sexology. She is also trained in the Gottman Method and Hypnotherapy. We talk about why it’s so important to have honest conversations around sexual health and intimacy—especially within the Asian American faith-based community.Jean shares her journey into the field of clinical sexology, and we dive into the role of sexual education, the silence many women experience around their sexual health, and how faith and mental health intersect with our understanding of sexuality.This episode is all about breaking shame, building awareness, and making space for healing conversations we don’t often hear in church.(*For Mandarin Speaking Listeners, tune into her encouragement in Mandarin at 35 minutes 33 seconds!)Recommended Resources:Jean Yan's Website www.healthiercouples.comBook suggested "Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life" by Emily NagoskiMarriage/Couples support. www.gottman.comPixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Waterfall"Takeaways:Jean Yan is a licensed marriage family therapist who is pursuing clinical sexology.Clinical sexology focuses on healthy sexual behavior and health.Many therapists avoid discussing sexual issues with clients.Sex education is crucial for both children and adults.Intimacy encompasses more than just sexual intercourse.Women often feel embarrassed to discuss their sexual health.Creating safe spaces for conversations about sexuality is essential.Cultural barriers can hinder discussions about sexual health.Advocating for oneself is important in seeking help.Faith can play a significant role in addressing sexual health issues.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields and Guest Introduction02:47 Exploring Clinical Sexology and Its Importance06:11 Understanding Sexual Health and Therapy09:07 Personal Experiences and Aha Moments in Therapy12:04 The Impact of Sexual Abuse and Trauma14:55 The Significance of Sexual Education17:51 Advocating for Sexual Health in the Asian Community20:47 Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations23:59 Encouragement for Women in Their 50s26:51 Closing Thoughts and Resources

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Bree Brasher, a college student in her fourth year at Whittier College studying social work and psychology, with dreams of pursuing law. Bree shares her powerful story of being adopted at three years old, growing up in a Christian home, and navigating the challenges of identity, toxic relationships, sexual brokenness and shame during her college years.With honesty and depth, Bree opens up about how her faith was tested—and ultimately transformed—through heartbreak, community, and the healing power of God’s love. She talks about learning to surrender control, the importance of support systems, and how she found freedom from guilt and emotional pain.Whether you're a college student, someone healing from broken relationships, or simply exploring how faith intersects with personal pain, this episode offers encouragement, hope, and a reminder that God can redeem even the most painful parts of our story.Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Small Miracles"Takeaways:Bree's journey reflects the struggle of finding faith amidst personal challenges.Toxic relationships can lead to a loss of identity and faith.The importance of community and support in healing from trauma.Understanding the impact of early life experiences on adult relationships.Surrendering to God's will can lead to personal freedom and healing.Navigating the complexities of faith and relationships in college.The significance of accountability in maintaining faith and values.Recognizing the difference between love and lust in relationships.The journey of healing often involves confronting painful truths.God's grace is present even in our lowest moments. It's important for individuals to know Jesus for themselves, not just through others.Going to church for someone else can lead to resentment.Treasure your single season and focus on personal growth.Relationships can sometimes be a way to fill emotional voids.Not every relationship is meant to lead to marriage.Timing and readiness are crucial in relationships.Community and support are vital for spiritual growth.Addressing struggles with sexuality requires openness and honesty.Surrendering to God is essential for healing and purity.Understanding God's love can transform one's perspective on past mistakes.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith and Healing Conversations01:31 Bree's Background and Faith Journey05:26 The Impact of Early Life Experiences09:21 Navigating Toxic Relationships20:02 Breaking Free from Idolatry in Relationships27:13 Finding Redemption and Healing29:31 The Journey of Faith and Relationships31:52 Navigating New Relationships and Expectations34:39 Understanding the Purpose of Dating36:54 The Importance of Timing and Readiness39:44 Finding Freedom in Singleness42:36 Building Community and Spiritual Growth45:58 Addressing Struggles with Sexuality and Sin49:42 Surrendering to God and Seeking Purity53:57 The Transformative Power of God's Love

In this episode, I started off sharing about my brief experience at the IITAP Symposium 2025 but later realized that there were some tech errors that did not record the whole mid section so I will re-record that for another time. I just take it as an external force beyond me that wanted today's latter recording to be the highlight of this episode so here it goes! Some personal ramblings of mine that will dive right into a heartfelt vulnerable sharing. Hope you are blessed by it!Recommended Resources:"Meeting God in Scripture" Book by Jan Johnsonwww.companionsforyourjourney.comwww.iitap.comThe following exercise/meditation from Chapter 1 of "Meeting God in Scripture":1 Corinthians 13:4–7 from the New International Version (NIV):4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (NIV) with “God” substituted for “Love” and “It”, as God is the very embodiment of love (1 John 4:8):4 God is patient, God is kind. God does not envy, God does not boast, God is not proud. 5 God does not dishonor others, God is not self-seeking, God is not easily angered, God keeps no record of wrongs. 6 God does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 God always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (NIV) with blanks in place of “God,” and the first blank labeled “Your Name” to personalize it:4 (Your Name) is patient, ___ is kind. ___ does not envy, ___ does not boast, ___ is not proud. 5 ___ does not dishonor others, ___ is not self-seeking, ___ is not easily angered, ___ keeps no record of wrongs. 6 ___ does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 ___ always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" & "Seek Ye First"

In today's episode, I am excited to introduce Yuki Shida, an LMFT who is passionate about supporting Asian American children of immigrants, particularly those dealing with anxiety and childhood trauma. A second-generation Japanese American, Yuki was raised by a single mother as the eldest daughter and grew up speaking Japanese as her first language. She has lived in Tokyo, the Bay Area, Los Angeles, and Orange County—experiences that deeply inform her bicultural and trauma-informed work.Yuki holds a B.A. in Ethnomusicology from the University of California, Los Angeles (2012) and an M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Hope International University (2017). Over the past eight years, she has specialized in trauma work, couples therapy, and the clinical supervision of pre-licensed therapists. She is EMDR Certified through EMDRIA and trained in Gottman Method Level 2.In her practice, Yuki helps clients reframe shame and pain as signs of courage and resilience. She believes everyone deserves to live a rich, full life—regardless of their past—and that nothing is too far broken to be healed. Her work centers on helping people recognize they are in the driver’s seat of their mental and emotional wellness.Yuki is a proud wife of 12 years and a mom of two. Her faith is an important part of her life and often finds expression through music. In her free time, she enjoys doing 1000-piece puzzles, baking, and traveling to Japan to visit relatives.You can find more about Yuki's background by visiting the following sites:www.therapywithyuki.comEmail : [email protected]: instagram.com/therapy_with_yuki/PIxabay Music: "Exciting Day" & "Happy Days"

In this episode, I dive into the deeper layers of pornography—not just the behavior, but the emotional and spiritual stories behind it. I reflect on a personal journey of Jay Stringer, a pastor, therapist and author of the bestselling book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. I will also explore how the specific content people are drawn to often reveals deeper wounds, unmet needs, and even buried gifts.What if some of your greatest struggles are actually connected to your greatest gifts—gifts the enemy would love to cover in shame and keep from being used for God's glory? This conversation invites you into deeper self-reflection and healing, moving from shame to integrity and wholeness in Christ.This episode draws from Jay Stringer's story in the Christian Sexuality curriculum—an incredible online resource created by Dr. Preston Sprinkle and Jason Soucinek, featuring voices like Jay Stringer himself, Francis Chan, and Jackie Hill Perry. I highly recommend it for Christian leaders, students, and anyone looking to grow in sexual integrity and emotional awareness.Recommended Resources:www.jay-stringer.comwww.christian-sexuality.com"Unwanted : How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing" book by Jay Stringerwww.fightthenewdrug.comPixabay Music : "Inspirational Story" and "Exciting Day"

In this episode, my guests and I will be diving into the wide range of pornography genres—from the more “mainstream” to the deeply disturbing. This is not an easy conversation, but it’s one I believe is absolutely necessary for us as educators, parents, professionals, and people in recovery.I’m joined by three courageous women—Anastasia Sprout, Aly Dearborn, and Lacy Bentley—members of my FSLA (Female Sex Love Addiction) Consultation group. Together, we unpack how curiosity can quickly spiral into exposure to content that is shocking, degrading, and harmful, and why we need to be aware of what’s really out there.⚠️ Content Warning: This episode includes explicit references to pornographic genres. Please listen with care and make sure children are not within earshot.Background info of my guests:-Anastasia Sprout is the author of "Naked in Public" and also a coach,speaker, and psychotherapist. www.stacisprout.com-Aly Dearborn is an LMFT/CSAT and an expert in trauma informed polyvagal guided psychotherapy. She also wrote a paper to the United Nations Rapporteur's along with Anastasia Sprout and Lacy Bentley on the topic of prostitution and violence against women and girls. www.alydmft.com-Lacy Bentley is the author of "Addicted to Love" and "Going Deeper for Women" and also a recovery mentor and coach for women struggling with love and sex addiction. She is a featured guest on the Addicted Mind podcast. https://theaddictedmind.com/320-addicted-to-love-with-lacy-bentley/Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "FSM Team Positive"Takeaways:Awareness is crucial in protecting loved ones from harmful content.Pornography affects everyone, not just men; it's a human issue.The normalization of violence in pornography is alarming.Children are particularly vulnerable to the effects of pornography.Parents must actively monitor and discuss media consumption with their children.The porn industry often targets children through deceptive marketing.Desensitization to violence and deviance can occur through exposure to pornography.Open conversations about sexuality and healthy relationships are essential.Educators and parents should be informed about the various genres of pornography.Legislation is being considered to combat harmful pornography targeting children.

In this episode on "My Random Rambling Reflections," I have a special surprise guest who I will keep unnamed for now so you'll have to tune in if you want to find out who it is!We will be chatting briefly on the topic of forgiveness and afterwards I will be sharing my reflections on the One who models grace and mercy constantly in our lives.What a gift to know personally the love of Jesus and the truth that we are no longer condemned but we are set free because of the price He paid on the cross.What a gift also to know that the kindness of Jesus leads each one of us to repentance.Be blessed!

In Part 2 of our poignant conversation with Bob Morita, we continue exploring the transformative depths of inner healing prayer. Bob shares how he guides others through Dr. Charles Kraft’s “Back to the Womb” exercise, a prayer practice that invites individuals to revisit their earliest experiences and encounter the love of Jesus even in the most hidden places of pain.He emphasizes the importance of asking three foundational questions during prayer:Do you agree that Jesus loves you?Do you agree that Jesus accepts you?Do you agree that Jesus always forgives you?These questions help open the door to receiving the truth of God’s love and breaking through the lies that often take root in wounded places.Bob also introduces the concept of Substitutional Repentance Prayer, where he stands in the gap between the prayee and the one who caused harm—offering an apology on their behalf, not to replace accountability, but to invite the Holy Spirit to bring healing, freedom, and restoration to the relationship between the individual and God the Father. In this sacred moment, Bob asks the question: “Will you give (the person who hurt you) to Jesus as the Judge?”The episode closes with a Spirit-led insight that deeply moves the heart—Bob invites the prayee to imagine Jesus stepping into their trauma, and then gently asks: “Will you allow Jesus to take your place?”These inner healing sessions can be incredibly emotional and weighty, but they are often where the deepest breakthroughs happen. Jesus cares for our whole being—mind, body, and soul—and desires to heal us emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This episode is a powerful reminder of His compassionate pursuit of our wholeness.Recommended Resources:www.heartssetfree.orgwww.pihop.comwww.heartsyncministries.orgBooks by Dr.Charles Kraft - "Deep Wounds, Deep Healing" and "Two Hours to Freedom"Email Bob Morita to schedule an inner healing appointment:[email protected]*Music by Pixabay: "Delicate Reverie" and "Mixaund Sunrays"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Bob Morita, a retired Boeing engineer who now serves in inner healing and deliverance ministry with Hearts Set Free alongside Dr.Charles Kraft and Judy Taber. Bob shares his incredible journey—from working in the technical world of engineering to stepping into the spiritual realm of healing emotional wounds. We talk about how inner healing is key to true transformation and becoming more Christ-like, and how the Holy Spirit plays an essential role in that process.Bob shares powerful stories of healing and forgiveness, showing how God can bring deep change to our lives and most of all, our hearts. Our conversation also touches on the importance of community, the reality of spiritual warfare, and what it means to seek God when we feel broken. I hope this episode encourages you to pursue a deeper relationship with Jesus and reminds you that healing is possible.Recommended Resources:www.heartssetfree.org/bobs-bio/www.pihop.com/healingwww.heartsyncministries.orgBooks: Deep Wounds, Deep Healing by Dr.Charles KraftTwo Hours to Freedom by Dr.Charles KraftTakeaways:Bob Morita transitioned from engineering to ministry to serve Jesus.Inner healing is about transformation and becoming more Christ-like.The Holy Spirit plays a crucial role in inner healing.Forgiveness is a commitment to let Jesus be the judge.Healing of the heart is often more impactful than physical healing.Community support is essential in the healing process.Jesus desires a relational connection with us.Inner healing addresses emotional wounds from childhood.The process of inner healing involves inviting the Holy Spirit.Seeking God's heart is more important than seeking His hand.

Use this "Slow Version" for the purpose of Meditation & Breathing exercises. You can be creative in the way you listen to this...-Get a yoga mat, lie down, breathe in thru your nose then out thru your mouth, do this with a slow and steady pace. You can even do some stretches as you do the breathing exercise. -Listen to this on your bed at night time as your last "self care" routine. You will feel relaxed and rested as your breathe in and breathe out. Place your hands on your abdomen and if. your belly rises and falls, you are doing the breathing correctly. You may even fall asleep, and if you do,..mission accomplished!-You can go for a stroll in your neighborhood, at a park, or next to the ocean. Use all of your senses(taste, touch, hear, see, feel) to connect with your surrounding and your body.-Tune in while you're driving and take an especially long deep breath at the red light. -Are you folding clothes for your entire family? Play this in the background and remember the Father's deep love for you!After the letter reading portion ends, there is an unhurried time of instrumental music playing. During this time, bring yourself to the throne of HIs grace. -Are there words of gratitude you want to express to Him?-What words or phrases in the Father's Love Letter struck you or resonated the most with you?-Share a few minutes adoring Him, revering Him, and worshipping HIm. -If there are things you are wrestling with in your heart, even those things He cares about so lay them down at His feet. Be honest and direct with God. He loves your honesty and transparency. He will be honored that you took that step to open up to Him.*There's no hard and fast rule in tuning into this episode! The point is to create an intentional space in your environment to slow down and receive from God. May you be nourished, embraced, and poured into... by His tender love and care. He wants you to prioritize all of you....mind, body, soul! Be blessed!All credit goes to...www.fathersloveletter.com(fun fact : I just listened to this at night with my eldest son lying down on his bed, hugging side by side, and it was such a sweet and tender moment we shared together. After the letter reading portion ended, I said a short prayer over him affirming him of God's love and promises over him and his identity in Christ. My hope is that my son will recall these promises in the years to come as He draws himself closer to the heart of the Father where his faith will be not on sinking sand but on solid ground.)

Father's Love Letter was created by Fathers Heart Communications (founded by Barry & Anneliese Adams in 2000). Their vision was to spread God's love everywhere around the world. Since 1999, Father's Love Letter has been translated in over 125 languages. This letter has been instrumental in my spiritual walk personally and for friends, family, church community, clients and beyond. Please pass this on to anyone whom God puts on your heart to share it with!www.fathersloveletter.comIn today's episode, I am reading the Father's Love Letter which is a little over 5 minutes. I leave an extra 4 minutes after the reading to provide listeners for a time of personal reflection and prayer. May these words of truth seep into your heart as the Holy Spirit reminds you of your identity in Him as sons and daughters of the Most High who is the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, Prince of Peace, Immanuel. 2 Corinthians 10:5 "....we take captive every thoughts to make it obedient to Christ."Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things."Be blessed and encouraged as you ground and center yourself in Him! We easily forget "whose" we are depending on our circumstances and our swayed "emotions" so all the more, we must be vigilant and intentional in filling our minds and head space with God's truth and promises. You are deeply loved and immensely treasured my friends.

In this episode, I sit down with Pastor Deborah Flanagan for a deeply honest and grace-filled conversation about love and sex addiction, compulsive masturbation, and the hope we can find in recovery. We explore the powerful role that childhood wounds, trauma, and shame play in shaping our sexuality—and how compassion, vulnerability, and spiritual tools can guide us toward healing.Deborah brings both pastoral wisdom and lived experience to this conversation. She’s a leader at Pure Desire Ministries, an organization that walks with individuals and churches through the journey of healing from sexual brokenness. As someone who’s walked the path of recovery herself, Deborah offers insight on how the FASTER Scale helps identify emotional states that precede relapse, and how true healing requires presence, community, and grace.We also talk about the tension between love addiction and love avoidance, parenting with acceptance, the holiness of sex and marriage, and what it means to be fully known without shame.If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of fantasy, secrecy, or emotional disconnection—or you’re supporting someone who is—this episode offers encouragement, practical tools, and the reminder that you’re not alone.Topics include:Childhood experiences and their impact on sexualityThe role of trauma, shame, and convictionNavigating gray areas of sin and personal beliefsThe holiness of sex and marriageLove addiction, intimacy disorders, and relational dynamicsConflict resolution, emotional awareness, and vulnerabilityThe FASTER Scale and breaking the addiction cycleRecommended Resources:www.puredesire.orgwww.youtube.com/@PureDesireMinistries"Unraveled Kit" by Pure Desire Ministries, a curriculum online to help manage love, sex, and relationship addiction.www.iitap.comwww.sexhelp.comPIxabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Team Positive Day"

In this episode, I sit down with Annie Finch, LMFT, CSAT, and CADC, a therapist at Riviera Therapy in Santa Barbara,CA who specializes in working with individuals navigating betrayal trauma, especially in the context of addiction. Annie shares her background and breaks down what betrayal trauma is, how it impacts people, and why group therapy can be such a meaningful part of the healing journey.We also talk about cultural dynamics around shame, how therapeutic approaches like EMDR can help, and what recovery can look like for those walking through deep emotional pain. This conversation is full of wisdom, hope, and reminders that healing and transformation are truly possible—even after betrayal. May you walk away with more insight and clarity on how to navigate thru betrayal trauma, whether this is your story or someone else whom you deeply care for.Recommended sites:www.rivieratherapy.comwww.michellemays.comwww.kristensnowden.comwww.drgaboremate.comRecommended books:"The Myth of Normal" by Gabor Mate"Moving Beyond Betrayal" by Vicki Palmer*Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Team Positive Day"Takeaways:Betrayal trauma can start as early as childhood.Addiction often stems from underlying trauma.Group therapy provides a safe space for healing.Cultural backgrounds can influence the experience of betrayal.Shame is a common response to betrayal, especially in certain cultures.Therapeutic approaches like EMDR can aid in recovery.Healing can occur with or without the partner's involvement.Betrayal trauma can lead to questioning one's identity.Support groups can help individuals feel less alone.Recovery is a challenging but transformative process.

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I dive into the powerful insights shared at the Betrayal Healing Conference 2025, featuring Dr. Peter Levine and Tammy Gustafson. Dr. Levine is a biophysicist and founder of Somatic Experiencing and Gustafson is a betrayal trauma coach, writer, and speaker. Drawing from their discussion and The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, we explore the impact of betrayal trauma on the body and mind.I discuss Dr. Levine’s suggestion of meditating on a childhood memory as a tool for healing—how reconnecting with our past can guide us toward restoration. To close, I lead a guided meditation designed to activate your parasympathetic nervous system, helping you cultivate safety, regulation, and a deeper connection to your healing journey.There are tons of helpful resources and materials for those who work with betrayal trauma or perhaps you yourself are going thru this very issue in your life currently. Help and support is available! Keep looking and you'll find the tools you've been waiting for!Recommended Books & Sites:"Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma" and "An Autobiography of Trauma : A Healing Journey" By Dr. Peter Levinewww.somaticexperiencing.comwww.instagram.com/drpeteralevine/www.betrayalhealing.comPixabay Music :"Exciting Day" "Worship Piano" "Atmospheric Inspirational"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with therapist, speaker, and author Heather Cronemiller to explore the often-overlooked struggles of love and sex addiction among women. Heather opens up about her personal journey of recovery, the emotional triggers behind these patterns, and the importance of reparenting the inner child. We also discuss the role of fantasy in love addiction and the essential coping skills needed for healing.If you've ever felt stuck in toxic relationship cycles, struggled with obsessive love, or used relationships to fill a deeper void, this conversation is for you. I hope it brings you insight, encouragement, and practical steps toward healing. Heather is the author of "Going Deeper For Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love & Sex Addiction"For info on her practice and background, log onto www.cronemillercounseling.comwww.boldjourney.com/meet-heather-cronemiller/Heather was also a featured guest on Youtube Channel "Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships" on December 14, 2024, interviewed by a panel of therapists, Tim Stein, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone, and Wendy Conquest.Music by Pixabay "Exciting Day" and "Mixaund Happiness"Takeaways:Heather shares her personal experience with love addiction.The importance of identifying core emotional triggers in recovery.Healthy sexuality should enhance life, not detract from it.Support groups are crucial for those struggling with addiction.Mindfulness techniques can help ground individuals in the present.Reparenting the inner child is a key aspect of healing.Secrets keep us sick; sharing is vital for recovery.Coping skills and replacement behaviors are essential in recovery.The role of relationships can significantly impact recovery.There is hope for those struggling with love and sex addiction.

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I’m joined by Hiroko Hsieh, a trauma-informed therapist who helps people break free from the effects of trauma and life’s challenges. Hiroko shares how she uses approaches like parts work and brainspotting to access the subcortical brain—where past experiences and trauma are stored—to create deep and lasting healing.We dive into the power of curiosity in therapy, how our symptoms are often adaptations to our environment, and why true healing happens when we create a safe space to process emotions without judgment. Hiroko also brings a unique perspective on cultural identity, faith, and mental health, drawing from her international background and personal experiences.Whether you're feeling stuck, struggling with past wounds, or simply curious about how trauma-informed therapy works, this conversation is full of wisdom and hope. You don't want to miss this episode!For more info on Hiroko Hsieh's background and experience, log onto www.restingsheep.comRecommended sites:www.brainspotting.comwww.theembodylab.comwww.therapywisdom.com(Janina Fisher's Part's Modality)www.drdansiegel.com/hand-model-of-the-brain/www.jennariemersma.comRecommended books:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der KolkThe Whole Brain Child by Dan SiegelAltogether You by Jenna Riemersma*Music by Pixabay: "Exciting Day Inspiring Piano" "Atmospheric Inspirational"Takeaways:Hiroko has a unique background as a Japanese Christian therapist.The journey into mental health often starts with personal experiences.Trauma can be defined as how we adapt to overwhelming experiences.Emotional needs unmet in childhood can lead to trauma.Brain spotting is an innovative therapy for trauma treatment.Therapists often play a role in helping clients feel safe again.Understanding trauma requires a relational perspective.Physiological responses can indicate trauma processing.Curiosity and trust in the therapeutic process are essential.Healing involves recognizing and processing implicit memories. Healing from trauma is a gradual process that requires practice.Brain spotting helps individuals connect with feelings of safety and joy.Implicit memories shape our perceptions and responses to the world.Self-loathing can be addressed through curiosity and compassion.Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps us understand different parts of ourselves.Rewiring neural networks is essential for healing trauma.Compassion is crucial in overcoming self-criticism and negative thoughts.Finding a kinder way to speak to ourselves is vital for healing.Inviting Jesus into our healing journey can provide comfort and acceptance.The healing journey can be less scary when approached with kindness.

In this Part 2 episode, I continue my conversation with Sam Louie, a psychotherapist, motivational speaker, author, and spoken word poet, who shares deeper into his journey in recovery and the power of community such as a support group. He also shares how his faith in God helped him to challenge his thinking especially thru the lens of grace and acceptance towards himself. An episode you don't want to miss, along with a personal spoken word presented towards the end. Join us for an insightful conversation on breaking shame, embracing vulnerability, and finding hope in recovery.To learn more about Sam Louie's background and expertise, please log onto www.louieassociates.comwww.samlouiespeaks.comBooks recommended:"Passport to Shame: From Asian Immigrant to American Addict" by Sam Louie"Spoken Not Broken: Healing thru Poetry" by Sam Louie"Asian Shame and Addiction: Suffering in Silence" by Sam Louie"Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend"Inside Out" by Larry CrabbMusic by Pixabay : "A Small Miracle"

In this Part 1 episode, I sit down with Sam Louie, a psychotherapist, motivational speaker, author, and spoken word poet, who shares his journey as a first-generation Chinese American navigating cultural identity, internalized racism, and addiction. Sam opens up about his struggles with pornography addiction, navigating the challenges of divorce, the impact of family dynamics, and the transformative power of therapy and community support. We discuss his transition from journalism to becoming a certified sex addiction therapist, the role of faith in healing, and how group therapy fosters emotional authenticity. Join us for an insightful conversation on breaking shame, embracing vulnerability, and finding hope in recovery.To learn more about Sam Louie's background and expertise, please log onto www.louieassociates.comwww.samlouiespeaks.comBooks recommended:"Passport to Shame: From Asian Immigrant to American Addict" by Sam Louie"Spoken Not Broken: Healing thru Poetry" by Sam Louie"Asian Shame and Addiction: Suffering in Silence" by Sam Louie"Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend"Inside Out" by Larry CrabbMusic by Pixabay: "Delicate Reverie"Takeaways:Sam Louie's journey reflects the complexities of cultural identity.Internal racism can lead to self-hatred and denial of one's heritage.Finding community can help individuals embrace their cultural identity.Role models play a crucial role in shaping aspirations and possibilities.Transitioning careers can stem from personal struggles and realizations.Understanding sex addiction requires addressing underlying issues and shame.Cultural background influences professional choices and paths.The journey to self-acceptance is often fraught with challenges.Therapy can provide a safe space for exploring difficult emotions.Personal experiences can inform and enhance therapeutic practices. The initial acknowledgment of addiction can be a painful process.Family dynamics play a crucial role in understanding addiction.Therapy and support groups are essential for recovery.Cultural influences can affect emotional expression and healing.Transitioning careers can lead to personal growth and fulfillment.Humor can be a coping mechanism for deeper emotional issues.

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I’m sharing a seminar I led at the CRU/EPIC Conference on January 19, 2025. This college ministry conference brought together nearly 1,000 students at the Hyatt in Garden Grove, CA, where I had the privilege of leading a breakout session on Loneliness and Anxiety. With only 45 minutes to present, I covered key insights on navigating these struggles from both a mental health and faith-based perspective. I hope this session encourages and blesses you!*Research quoted: Based on Harvard Grad School of Education (Loneliness Article on Oct 2024) 21 % of respondents (national survey) reported suffering serious loneliness. Based on American Psychiatric Association, 30% of adults experienced loneliness in early 2024*Books recommended:"Find Your People" by Jennie Allen, "Deep Wounds, Deep Healing" by Charles Kraft, "The 7 Desires of Every Heart" by Mark and Debbie Lasser"Polyvagal Theory" by Stephen Porges"Emotionally Healthy Spirituality" by Peter Scazzero (*Correct Tagline of book - "It's impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature" my apologies for quoting incorrect tagline in the seminar)*Resource used during closing meditation: Fathersloveletter.com*App recommended : Soul Time Christian Meditation App*Spiritual Direction recommended: www.companionsforyourjourney.com*Retreat Center recommended: www.materdolorosa.org(Unfortunately the havenoc retreat center mentioned in the seminar is closed currently)www.thehavenoc.com *Few Seminar Feedback from CRU/EPIC College Students:"This was extremely helpful to me! I have suffered from depression and anxiety for a couple years now and always felt that it was in my head and just pushed it away. But now I see that God wants us to be open and honest with him and others close to us to heal!" - Student A"Loved the breathing exercise" -Student B"Great! I feel less anxious LOL" -Student C

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I change things up a bit by sharing a "lighter" content of my recent reflections on embracing vulnerability, the importance of emotions, and the journey of healing. I talk about how my podcasting journey has helped me relinquish control and find freedom in expressing my feelings. I emphasize the significance of listening to God's voice, being reflective, and connecting with my heart and soul. I also encourage you to open your eyes to the beauty around you and seek God's presence in your life. Enjoy my "Random Rambling Reflections" of connecting with myself and recent convos with dear friends and sisters in Christ. (I will share my RRR's periodically to just mix things up in a "bite size" fashion, heh!)

In this episode, I reflect on my conversation with Paul Ho, diving into the complex realities of healing, trauma, and human trafficking. Together, we discuss the nonlinear journey of healing and the vital role of community support. I also explore God's justice and its profound reach, the importance of recognizing human dignity through the Imago Dei, and how confronting painful truths can lead to lasting transformation. We touch on the collective responsibility of educating ourselves and others about the impact of pornography and trafficking, and why empowerment often brings more change than rescue. Join me for a heartfelt discussion on how awareness, faith, and hope can pave the way for meaningful change.Recommended Resources:www.27million.comwww.elpozodevida.orgwww.protectyoungeyes.comwww.jennariemersma.comwww.fightthenewdrug.comBooks: "Painful Miracles" by Benny Yu"Altogether You" by Jenna RiemersmaPixabay Music: "Relaxing Piano" and "A Small Miracle"One Listener's Response to Episode 13 Interview with Paul Ho:"I was so blessed by the podcast with Paul Ho. It was a powerful testimony of God’s compassion and mercy. What struck me most was Paul’s humility - in his own journey of healing as well as the way he ministers to others and confronts human trafficking."Second Listener's Response to Episode 13 Interview with Paul Ho:"What was convicting? What Paul said about the Imago Dei, everyone bears God's image as His creation. For me it's easy to think of those women that way, but that applies to Paul, too, even when he was consuming pornography. And God has transformed him into his better/best self that better reflects God's character. This principle was first planted in me when I listened to the episode with Sawyer and Jordan when they said that during their mission trip in Mexico City they had a street party in El Pozo including these women as well as the pimps. Everyone, absolutely everyone, bears God's image. What was shocking? Many things were shocking to me since I had no idea...that even as young as one year olds are being abused this way, and that women who experienced this abuse, this way of slavery, even for one year, don't live long as Paul mentioned the ministry in Africa where the head of that ministry said the average longevity of the women in her ministry is 40! Also the fact that pornography is tied to human trafficking or other kinds of crime. Paul mentioned a case where people's images were exposed without their consent. How did God speak to me? I was compelled to intercede for the people caught in this kind of slavery and for ministries that work with them. I can't imagine the emotional strength (as well as physical) that is required for this sort of ministry day in and day out. I prayed for regular rest and restoration for Paul and his team. I'm also wondering if God is taking me deeper into believing the truth of His goodness. How can one still believe God is good when faced with such depth and width of evil day in and day out? "*Thank you for sharing your responses, Listeners! Let's keep educating ourselves and others around us!

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Paul Ho, the team care coordinator for El Pozo de Vida, an anti-human trafficking organization in Mexico. Paul shares his transformative journey from a life impacted by pornography and shame to one dedicated to helping survivors of trafficking.We dive into the importance of community, how triggers can lead to personal growth, and the concept of Imago Dei—that every person is made in the image of God. Our conversation touches on the challenges and hope found in the fight against human trafficking and the healing power of God.Paul and I also explore the themes of shame, healing, and the complexities surrounding pornography and trafficking. We talk about the need to overcome shame, the importance of supportive approaches rather than empowerment, and the dark realities of the pornography industry. This episode highlights the necessity of open discussions about these topics, especially for parents and educators, to foster understanding and healing.Paul's blog:www.alifeintentionallylived.wordpress.comEl Pozo De Vida, Anti Human Trafficking Organization site:www.27million.comUnderstanding Porn's Impact: www.fightthenewdrug.orgBooks Recommended:"Unwanted" by Jay Stringer, "Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der KolkMusic by Pixabay:"Exciting Day" "Piano Sonata" and "Mixaund Dreamers"Takeaways:Paul's journey illustrates the power of redemption and transformation.Shame often precedes the consumption of pornography and can hinder healing.Community support is essential for overcoming personal struggles.Triggers can serve as invitations for deeper healing and growth.The concept of Imago Dei emphasizes the inherent value of every individual.Working in anti-trafficking reveals the harsh realities of human suffering.Healing is a process that requires time, support, and God's intervention.Understanding the roots of addiction can lead to more effective healing.The fight against human trafficking is complex and requires a holistic approach.Hope exists even in the darkest situations, and God is always present. Shame is a tool used by the enemy to isolate individuals.God desires healing and restoration for everyone.Empowerment should be about walking alongside individuals, not above them.Trafficking and pornography are deeply interconnected issues.Open conversations about pornography are essential for education and prevention.The average age of first exposure to pornography is decreasing.Healthy sexual behavior discussions are crucial for youth.Parents need to address their own struggles to guide their children.Understanding the trauma behind behaviors is key to healing.Awareness and education can combat the normalization of pornography.

In this episode, I sit down with Pastor Wilson Wang to have an honest and vulnerable conversation about porn addiction and its impact within the church. Pastor Wilson shares his personal journey, including how childhood "unmet needs" shaped his struggles, and the transformative power of breaking the silence and seeking help.We dive into what it means to create a supportive church community where vulnerability and accountability are encouraged, and why authenticity in leadership is so vital. Pastor Wilson also opens up about the challenges pastors face when sharing their struggles and the crucial role of therapy, accountability groups, and community in the healing process.Some of the takeaways from this conversation include:Why addressing porn addiction openly is key to healing.How supportive church communities can help us feel less alone.The power of authenticity in leadership to inspire openness.The importance of healing from childhood trauma and embracing our identity as children of God.How recovery is an ongoing journey that should be shared with others.This conversation reminds us that God works not only in the resolution but in the struggle itself. I hope this episode encourages you, wherever you are on your journey.*Recommended Resources:Pastor Wilson Wang and Roy Kim's Podcast, "The Same Boat" Season 2 Episode 14, 15, 16 on "Sexual Addiction"Pastor Wilson Wang's Sermon on "Bringing Light to Sexual Addiction and Purity" on April 17,2024 (streaming on "Renew Church OC Podcast" and "Renew Church OC Facebook Page")For more info on the church, visit www.renewchurchoc.comFor info on the "Adulting Journal" and Children's Books created by Pastor Wilson Wang and his wife Nina Wang, log onto https://theadultingjournal.com/For those interested in Roy Kim's "Self Guided Curriculum" please visit www.newlegacycounseling.comPixabay Music : "Atmospheric Inspirational" and "Exciting Day"

Happy New Year! In this episode, I invite you to join me in a time of reflection and meditation on the past year of 2024. If you’ve already done a year-end reflection, feel free to share this episode with a friend. But if this is new for you or something you haven’t gotten to yet, you’re in for a meaningful experience.I’ll guide you through prompts inspired by my spiritual director, Grace Cooper, Founder of "Companions for Your Journey" (Spiritual Direction Ministry) to help you review the year one quarter at a time. Together, we’ll reflect on God’s movements in your life, moments of gratitude, loss, self-discovery, and His invitations for the year ahead.This is your time to slow down, connect with your heart, and listen for what God has to share with you. Grab a journal, a pen, and a quiet spot, and let’s walk through this time of reflection together.May this practice bless you and bring clarity as you step into 2025 with fresh hope and purpose.For more info on Grace Cooper and her spiritual direction team, please click the following link:https://www.companionsforyourjourney.com/"Companions for Your Journey" offers Individual Spiritual Direction sessions, Group Spiritual Direction, Children's Spiritual Direction, Retreats, Training Workshops, and Spiritual Exercises of St.Ignatius.What is Spiritual Direction?"The purpose of spiritual direction is to invite the person being directed into a greater awareness of the movement of God in their own life and can be described as a conversation of three. The director, the directee, and the Holy Spirit who is the true guide, enter into a conversation together with a desire for deeper intimacy between the directee and the Lord. We believe that God is always pursuing us, always wanting to connect with us, and as we give Him space, He speaks and invites us to draw closer. Spiritual direction focuses on your personal journey with God and what is happening in the current season of your life with Him. This is not therapy or counseling. The director will not be diagnosing and will not give advice. Our directors are not licensed therapists or counselors. If things come up in a session that are beyond the scope of a trained spiritual director, you will be encouraged to seek a professional for therapy or counseling." (from Companions for Your Journey Website)Pixabay Music : "What a Friend we have in Jesus" "Worship Piano" "Seek Ye First"

In this deeply moving episode, Jenn Hsu shares her courageous journey of breaking free from an abusive ex-spouse with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Jenn opens up about the challenges she faced during her first marriage, the difficult decisions she had to make as a single mom, and how she found healing, hope, and freedom through her faith and resilience.Now remarried and leading a divorce support ministry with her husband Roy, Jenn has a deep passion for helping women recognize their worth, set boundaries, and step into the fullness of life God has for them. She also runs Home Neat Home, a professional organizing business, empowering families to create order and peace in their homes.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating abuse, singleness, or divorce. Jenn’s story reminds us that healing is possible and that you are never alone.Jenn's "Home Neat Home" Professional Cleaning & Organizing Business:www.homeneathome.orgIG:www.instagram.com/homeneathome_ig/"Life and Work Article" on Voyage LA with Jenn Hsuwww.voyagela.com/interview/life-work-with-jenn-hsu/Book Recommendation:"The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists" by Eleanor D. Payson"Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Paul T. Mason"Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD" by Linda HillDivorce Recovery Program Info:www.divorcecare.orgRAINN (National Sexual Assault Hotline)www.rainn.orgNational Domestic Violence Hotlinewww.thehotline.org Toll Free : 1800.799.7233*Pixabay music : "Exciting Day" "Autumn Relaxing" "Calm Piano"*If anyone has specific questions for therapist referral, support groups, and resources, please reach out to Rika at [email protected]:Jen found joy in organizing, viewing it as a puzzle.Community support is crucial for healing after divorce.Therapy played a significant role in Jen's recovery.Recognizing emotional abuse is essential for healing.Self-worth is vital in overcoming past trauma.God's presence can be felt in moments of despair.Women should not feel guilty for standing up for themselves.Healing takes time and is a personal journey.It's important to share your story with trusted individuals.A supportive community can make a significant difference.

In this reflective episode, I invite you to join me in a time of stillness and contemplation during this Advent season. Together, we’ll explore the beauty of Jesus' role as a servant, drawing from insights in John Piper's Advent readings. I'll share how Jesus' coming to serve humanity brings comfort and reassurance, especially in our struggles. What a great reminder that God is Immanuel, always present with us. During the latter part of the episode, I share a heartfelt reflection on a story that moved me deeply to tears, inviting you to reflect on Jesus' love and presence in your life. May you be encouraged and uplifted in spirit today, that you truly are not alone. Books referenced : "The Dawning of Indestructible Joy" by John PiperPixabay Music : "Inspirational Story" " Christian Instrumental" "Calm Bird"

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with Roy Kim, a former pastor turned certified sex addiction therapist, to discuss the crucial work of addressing sex and porn addiction within the church. Roy shares his expertise in leading individual therapy and group sessions for men, including pastors and church leaders, who are battling these hidden struggles.We explore the realities of addiction, the stigma surrounding it in faith communities, and the hope for healing through accountability and intentional recovery. Roy also highlights the resources available on his website, newlegacycounseling.com, including a self-guided sobriety curriculum designed for those ready to take control of their journey to freedom.Roy is also the host of two impactful podcasts:SA Speakeasy, which delves into topics of sex addiction recovery with expert interviews and practical insights.The Same Boat, a Christian podcast that openly addresses messy, real-life topics like divorce, abortion, and anger toward God, providing a safe space for honest conversations.Whether you or someone you know is struggling with sex or porn addiction, this episode offers valuable insights, encouragement, and practical steps toward recovery. Don’t miss this powerful conversation!Resources Mentioned:Roy Kim’s website: newlegacycounseling.comChurch in Culture Podcast: How to Recover from a Dark Divorce and AftermathPrivate Practice Skills YouTube: How to Find Your Specialty as a Therapistiitap.com*Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Small Miracle"Takeaways from This Episode:Roy Kim transitioned from being a pastor to a certified sex addiction therapist.There is a significant need for therapy focused on sex addiction within the church.Most of Roy's clients dealing with sex addiction are male.Empowerment in recovery often comes from acknowledging the need for hard work.Integrity in recovery means being whole and not fragmented.Love addiction shares similarities with sex addiction, focusing on false attachments.Self-guided sobriety work can provide structure and accountability for recovery.A target of 90 days of sobriety is crucial for brain healing and recovery.Guided meditation can help reset the brain and promote recovery.The church needs to create a safe space for discussing sexual addiction.Sound Bites:"The church needs to talk about it more.""You have to put in a lot of work.""Recovery work needs to be central in your life.""Integrity comes from being whole in yourself.""It's a great place to start.""The brain can change its shape.""You're not the only one.""God works with us."

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I dive into the complexities of sex addiction, also known as Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD). I’ll walk you through the diagnostic criteria for CSBD and share how sex addiction impacts the brain—from the role of dopamine in forming addictive patterns to how neural pathways reinforce compulsive behaviors. I’ll also discuss the cycle of addiction, the emotional toll it takes, and the hope for healing through an objective lens. I’ll highlight the importance of taking an assessment to better understand your struggles and seeking help through therapy or a support group. Whether you’re navigating this yourself or supporting someone you care about, this episode is here to provide insight, compassion, and hope.*Books referenced - "Out of the Shadows" by Patrick Carnes, "Soul of Shame" by Curt Thompson*Resources recommended -(Click on "Am I A Sex Addict" and scroll down for SAST Assessment) www.sexhelp.com(For the iitap site, scroll down to SDMI to learn about the porn assessment, SDI for sexual dependency or sex addiction)www.iitap.com/page/assessment_toolswww.sa.orgwww.puredesire.orgwww.sexandrelationshiphealing.com(Youtube Video : "Road to Brighton" by Paula Hall)*Pixabay Music - "Delicate Reverie" "Fsm Team Positive Day" "Exciting Day"Takeaways:Compulsive sexual behavior disorder is now recognized by the WHO.The addiction cycle includes stages like preoccupation and despair.Dopamine plays a crucial role in reinforcing addictive behaviors.Neural pathways formed by repeated behaviors can become automatic responses.Recovery requires forming new healthy neural pathways.Shame and guilt often perpetuate the cycle of addiction.Self-control is impaired due to chronic activation of the reward system.Understanding addiction as a brain disease fosters compassion.Assessments can help individuals understand their level of addiction.There is always hope for healing and restoration.Sound Bites:"The emotional pain triggers another round of preoccupation.""Sex addiction is understood as a brain disease.""The brain's reward system becomes desensitized over time.""Recovery involves rewiring the brain with new pathways.""Shame has no oxygen to breathe in love.""There's always hope for restoration."Chapters:00:00 Understanding Sex Addiction: An Overview06:35 The Addiction Cycle: Stages of Compulsive Behavior12:42 Assessing Sex Addiction: Tools and Resources17:25 The Neuroscience of Sex Addiction25:55 Healing and Recovery: Rewiring the Brain

In this episode of Faith and Feels, I take time to reflect on the transformative experiences shared by Jordan and Sawyer, two college students who served at El Pozo De Vida, an anti-human trafficking organization in Mexico. I dive into themes of vulnerability, healing, and the importance of community support, while also addressing the battles of spiritual warfare.Through this reflection, I emphasize the need for empathy toward those who are broken and share the importance of displaying the heart of Jesus. I also encourage the power of inner healing as a path to finding freedom and wholeness in your own journey.*Books referenced - "Deep Wounds, Deep Healing" by Dr. Charles Kraft, "The Polyvagal Theory" by Dr. Stephen Porges, "The Screwtape Letters" by C.S. Lewis*For more info on Inner healing ministries, visit www.pihop.com and www.heartsyncministries.org*Pixabay Music - "Inspirational Background" "Calm Solo Piano" "Calm Bird" "Relaxing Piano" "Exciting Day"Takeaways:Vulnerability is essential for healing and connection.We need to lean on one another for support.Confession and accountability are critical in our faith journey.Spiritual warfare is a real and ongoing battle.Demons often remain hidden, influencing us without our awareness.Empathy allows us to understand our own brokenness and that of others.Jesus sympathizes with our weaknesses and offers us grace.Inner healing can help us process past trauma and pain.Forgiveness is necessary for experiencing God's healing.God's kindness leads us to repentance and transformation.Chapters:00:00 Reflecting on Transformative Experiences01:24 The Power of Vulnerability and Healing04:35 Finding Support and Accountability07:56 Understanding Spiritual Warfare12:14 The Existence of Demons and Spiritual Battles17:20 Empathy and Understanding Brokenness21:09 The Heart of Jesus for the Broken27:48 Exploring Inner Healing Ministry

This Thanksgiving week on Faith and Feels, I’m so grateful to bring you a heartfelt conversation with two special guests, Jordan and Sawyer. These college students share their transformative experiences serving at El Pozo De Vida, an anti-human trafficking organization in Mexico.In this episode, they open up about the joy and hope they found in working with sexually trafficked minors, their personal struggles with vulnerability and shame, and the profound impact of inner healing through faith. We also talk about the importance of seeing others through God’s eyes, cultivating empathy toward everyone involved in human trafficking—including the johns and pimps—and the incredible power of community and vulnerability in the healing process.As we reflect on gratitude and healing this Thanksgiving, Jordan and Sawyer’s stories are a reminder to embrace our brokenness and seek the freedom and restoration that only Jesus can bring. I hope this conversation encourages and inspires you in this season of gratitude.*Find out more about El Pozo De Vida by visiting ⁠https://27million.com/⁠⁠and follow their IG at ⁠https://www.instagram.com/pozodevida.us/⁠*Pixabay Music - "Small Miracle" "Calm Solo" "Mixaund Dreamers" "Calm Piano" "Fsm Team Happy Days" "Exciting Day"Takeaways:El Pozo de Vida focuses on prevention, intervention, and restoration.Serving at El Pozo de Vida was both challenging and joyful.Vulnerability is key to experiencing God's healing.The mission trip changed their perspective on human trafficking.Joy can be found even in the darkest situations.Seeing others through God's eyes fosters empathy.Inner healing can lead to profound breakthroughs.Everyone has a story of brokenness and redemption.The church should be a refuge for the broken.Healing is possible for everyone, regardless of their past.Sound Bites:"The church needs to be a place where people see it as a refuge.""Freedom for all, including the pimps and Johns.""We are all broken, we all have that sin.""God can take this person and use them for His kingdom.""Trauma is when you have no one to talk to.""You are never too broken for Jesus to use.""The enemy came to steal, kill, and destroy.""There is healing and hope in vulnerability.""Bring your troubles and pains to light.""Jesus is with you in your brokenness."Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields and Guests03:06 Understanding El Pozo de Vida05:58 Daily Life on the Mission Trip08:53 Personal Struggles and Vulnerability11:48 Joy and Hope in Serving15:08 Seeing with God's Eyes18:00 Empathy for All: Victims and Perpetrators20:56 Impactful Moments and Key Figures23:56 Spiritual Warfare and Inner Healing30:03 The Power of Inner Healing Ministry34:56 Never Too Broken to Be Healed40:09 Encouragement for Young Men44:58 Conclusion and Reflections