Permission To Desire: Relationships, Sex, Love, and Liberation

Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

In this episode we're covering:How to spot when you're using "hints" to try to get what you want or make a change in your relationshipThe (understanable) reasons we use hintsThe hidden cost of hintsand then, of course, what to do instead!Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

You cannot make your partner change. You can’t make him want to have sex more often. Or make him be more comfortable with non-monogamy. Or talk about his feelings more openly.That’s a good thing, actually. It means you don’t have to wait for things to change because you do have control over yourself and how you show up in the relationship. In this casual conversation of an episode, I share with you what you CAN control and what you can do to make intimacy, honesty, vulnerability, and growth inevitable in your relationship. If you feel trapped because you want to fix your relationship but your partner doesn’t even think anything needs fixing… this is the episode for you.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Are you in a long-term relationship and finding yourself longing for more intimacy? You're not alone! In this episode, I dive into the common struggles many couples face when it comes to their sex lives.I share experiences from working with couples in my relationship coaching practice, shedding light on the challenges they've encountered and how to navigate through them. Whether you're the partner craving more connection or feeling uncertain about your desires, I've got practical advice for both of you.This episode is for you if you've ever said or thought:"I want sex more often than my partner does""My partner wants to have sex more than I do and I feel bad / weird / anxious / annoyed about it""We aren't having sex like we used to""I thought 'lesbian bed death' didn't happen to gay men?!""All the other gay couples I know are having way more sex than we are" (spoiler alert: they aren't!)"Our sex life is great... but I'd still like more or something different"Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Tired of feeling frustrated with your partner? Craving more sex? An easier time being open? The ability to freely kiss friends and strangers on the dance floor?If you've been "working on it" for awhile now, that doesn't mean you're stuck, it might mean you haven't tried the RIGHT things... which is a good thing, actually. It means the changes you want to see are yours for the taking, if you know what to talk about, what to try out, what to avoid, and where to put your energy to build a fuller, more exciting, more honest, more alive relationship and exotic.The challenges you're facing in your open / open-ish / monogam-ish / kinda-sorta-open relationship... they are figure-out-able.In this episode, I'm going to walk you through how. And then invite you to join me in Relationshift so you can get the support, simple actionable practices, and accountability to get you there faster and with less friction. Let's go!Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Maybe you're looking forward to a hook-up-filled gay getaway or hoping a vacation will finally reignite a stalled sex life.If you're feeling feral and ready to mingle this summer, let's make sure the thing you're most looking forward to this summer doesn't turn into the thing that frustrates and disappoints you.To get your open relationship summer ready, in this episode I’m going to share a new framework with you today and it’s called… SUMMER. It's six steps to make sure you make the most of your open relationship this summer AND that you're able to do it with comfort, confidence, and ease. No more waiting and hoping... let's make the fantasy a reality.If you listened to this episode and you recognized yourself somewhere in it, you are not alone. This is exactly the work I do all day every day and exactly what we’ll tackle together inside Relationshift.To make sure you're able to start your summer with a bang, if you sign-up by end of May—by May 31—I will make sure that you have your first private coaching call before your first summer trip or Pride weekend, even if that means having it before the group officially starts. Go to thisisbgm.com/group to grab your spot.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

If you think you might want an open relationship—or to change how you structure your open relationship—you’re probably trying to figure out exactly when and how to talk to your partner about that. I get it. That was me 16 years ago. And I was terrified. But if I hadn’t gathered the courage to have that first conversation, none of the past 16 years would be possible. In this episode, I’m going to teach you how.You’ll learn the 4 Ws and an H of asking to opening up: Why, When, Where, How, and What.Yes, it’s a different order than the usual “5 Ws and an H” — you’ll see why in the episode ;)If you’re considering opening up or navigating an open (or open-ish) relationship and you want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand your sex life, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life, then I want to invite you to enroll in Relationshift—we start June 15. This 9-week program is designed to fast track your desires—getting you talking easier, fighting less, fucking more, and overall having a fuller, more alive, more honest relationship and erotic life. You’ll have support every step of the way so that “someday” can become “today.” Registration is now open and spots are limited. Grab yours at thisisbgm.com/groupEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Y'all are thirsty—and I say that with full love and zero judgment.I've gotten a lot of questions lately about whether it's OK to send sexy pics when you're getting to know someone, and honestly, my default answer is always "you do you, boo." But there's more to it than that, so in this episode I'm diving into the when, why, and how of Snapchat, sexting, and sending nudes—whether you're single, dating, or already coupled up.In this episode:Why "who would buy the cow when the milk is free" is absolute BS—and what your sexuality actually is (and isn't)Questions to ask yourself before hitting sendHow to lead with the energy you're actually looking for (whether that's hot sex, a real connection, or both)A word of caution if you're in a relationshipHow to bring that off-the-charts erotic charge back with a long-term partnerResources mentioned:Commitment Clarity Checklist (free download): thisisbgm.com/clarityRelationshift group coaching program, starting June 15: thisisbgm.com/groupEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Is fighting a sign of a failing relationship? Not necessarily!Conflict is a natural and normal part of every relationship, what matters is how you approach conflict and how you feel during it.If you find yourself battling with your partner--you know the feeling: butting heads, making arguments, poking holes, getting defensive, or if you find yourself making "compromises" that feel more like surrendering, then this episode is for you.In this episode, you'll how to spot if conflict is turning into an unproductive and unhealthy fight and then Brian will walk you through a powerful way to reframe your fighting.You are going to want different things than your partner, or have different opinions, or otherwise bump into each other, but after listening to this episode, you'll be able to do that in a way that brings you closer together rather than pushes your further apart.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Do you have rules for your open relationship or are you looking to set some? If so, you probably want open relationship rules to protect your relationship, keep yourselves safe, and to avoid any uncomfortable feelings like jealousy or insecurity. Makes sense!A lot of couples in open relationships reach for a rulebook — no sleepovers, no feelings, always get permission first. And there's a reason: rules feel like a promise that jealousy and insecurity won't happen.But here's what I see time and again: rules work... until they stop working. Whether you're thinking about how to setup rules in your open relationship or have some rules that stopped working, this episode is for you.I'm pulling back the curtain on what I've learned from working with nearly 100 couples, triads, and quads on what does work so that you can structure your relationship in a way that is safe, secure, and still sexy.In this episode, you'll learn.why couples set rules for their open relationship in the first place. Some examples of common, but ultimately unhelpful rules for you to avoid. Some examples of starter rules that you can use as you begin to open your relationshipHow to craft your own relationship rules—what works and what doesn't3 tools to take your rules to the next level. (I've got something else that you can try instead or in addition.)Mentioned in the episode:How to set personal boundariesEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

"Boundaries" pack a lot of promise: from personal protection to being the key to a successful relationship.Personal boundaries are important in a relationship. But sometimes saying that is either than setting them. Or maybe you've had the language of boundaries weaponized against you when trying to advocate for yourself or your own needs.In this episode, Brian breaks down what a boundary actually is (and what it isn't), why some people are accidentally using boundaries as a tool for control, and how getting clear on your own real, personal limits puts you back in control no matter what your partner does.You'll learn how to tell the difference between a boundary, a preference, and a request — and why knowing the difference is key actually getting what you want and need in a relationship.At the end of the day, whether you call them boundaries, rules, guidelines, requests, or needs... we want you to have all the tools you need for a healthy and thriving relationship.This episode will be another tool in your relationship toolbox.And if you want support getting clear on your limits, improving communication, and getting more of what you actually want in your relationship, apply for coaching with Brian at thisisbgm.com/apply.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

In this episode, Brian G. Murphy explores the importance of embracing uncomfortable feelings in open and polyamorous relationships.If you're in an open or polyamorous relationship and you feel overwhelmed, jealous, frustrated, or insecure, there's nothing wrong with you. And you aren't "bad" for feeling that way.So where do you go from there?Push down those feelings and try to make them go away?Abandon non-monogamy and try to go back to monogamy? (or end the relationship?!)There's another path. One that doesn't ask you to ignore your feelings nor to drastically change a relationship structure that has the potential to be meaningful (and fun) for everyone involved.In this episode, you'll get some practical advice on how to acknowledge and work uncomfortable feelings to build stronger, more authentic connections.These feelings you're most afraid of?They are doorways to even more strength, commitment, and confidence in your relationship if you learn how to listen to them and take care of each other.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

If you try hard to communicate well in your relationship,and you care deeply about your partner,and so you try really hard to fix any problems in your relationship right when they come up...... that's understandable. It's even a loving and helpful impulse.BUT you might be skipping one important step and making a mistake that actually makes your conflict harder than it needs to be.In this episode, you'll learn:a big conflict mistake Brian sees in his coaching clients (and has dealt with himself, too)how Brian approached conflict in the past—and why that didn't serve him wellhow to spot this conflict mistake in your own relationshiptools to approach conflict differently so you can handle conflict more productively (and with less frustration!)Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

In between "monogamy" and an "open relationship," there’s a grey area… you’re technically monogamous anymore but “open” isn’t really accurate either.This ish space can be fun and fulfilling or it can be stressful and unsatisfying. It depends on which ish you’re in.In this episode you'll learn the difference between monogamish (a term coined by Dan Savage) and open-ish — a term Brian uses to describe couples who are in transition, in a blurry in between, or not-quite-monogamous circumstances you've sorta sumbled intowho a monogamish relationship is right forhow to spot if you're in an open-ish relationshipWhat makes an open-ish relationship work well (vs wha will make it feel miserable)4 steps you need to get unstuck from an open-ish relationship that isn't serving youWhether monogamish is your happy place or you're ready to move toward something more open (or back toward monogamy entirely), our goal is the same: helping you stop gritting your teeth in your relationship and get back to enjoying it even more.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Whether you're considering opening up your relationship, already in an open relationship and wondering "maybe this is just how its supposed to be?," or new dating match say he's polyamorous... you may or may not have some ideas about what it means to be open or polyamorous and they may or may not be accurate.In this episode, Brian G Murphy busts many of the common nonmonogamy myths and shares with you what it's really like to be in an open relationship.If your open relationship isn't working the way you'd like—or you're considering opening up and want to make sure do it well—Relationshift private coaching is your guide to a right-fit relationship and satisfying sex life. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply Links to resources referenced in this episode:"Good" vs "Bad" Feelings In A Relationship - YouTube7 Tips for Dealing With Uncomfortable Feelings In A Relationship - YouTubeThe Ethical Slut - BookshopDo you know what "cheating" means in your relationship? - podcastThe State of Affairs - Amazon | Bookshop Have a question about non-monogamy for Brian? Ask him by sending a message on Instagram (@ThisIsBGM) or by email to [email protected] for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Is watching porn cheating? What about dancing with a stranger? or sexting with a friend? Whatever your answer is, I know that there is someone out there equally confident that the opposite is true.In my work as a relationship coach, nearly every person I talk to has a different idea about what would "count" as cheating—and sometimes partners even have different definitions!In this episode, I want to help you avoid the accidental cheating trap, get clear on what commitment means to you, and build a thriving relationship on your own terms.Whether you're monogamous, open, polyamorous, or in the process of figuring that out right now, it's important that you and your partner are on the same page about what the structure of your relationship and what everyone involved is comfortable with.This is especially important if you're considering opening up or in the process of opening up! I know you may be excited to jump into the fun, but breaches of trust based on misunderstands will only complicate the process. So let's get you some clarity!If you want a short, simple guide to walk you through the process of clarifying what the agreements of your relationship are right now, download the free Commitment Clarity Checklist at thisisbgm.com/clarityEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

If you're thinking about opening up your relationship—or have opened it partway already—you may think that if you just go slow enough, everything will work out. While it's important to go at a slow and steady pace, there are 3 major pitfalls I see when partners are starting to open their relationship. In this episode, Brian shares what those are so you can avoid unnecessary stress, conflict, fear, or resentment as well as changes you can make to the process to make opening up (or deciding not to open up) smoother.Opening up can bring you closer together if you do it well. This episode will help you do just that.Resources mentioned in this episode:Commitment Clarity Checklist - thisisbbm.com/clarityWeekly Sync Session workbook and training - thisisbgm.com/syncPrivate support to make opening up feel smooth, safe, and secure: thisisbgm.com/applyEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

What if your sex life wasn't a distraction from everything going on in the world right now but actually one of your most powerful responses to it?In this episode, Brian shares how your sex life is political. He breaks down how sex shame has been used as a tool of control, why it's important to feed your own sexual pleasure as a way to tend to your relationship (even when doing so feels scary), and what it actually means to claim sex and pleasure as an act of defiance in a political moment designed to make you feel small.This one is equal parts liberation theory and practical invitation. We need you fully alive and sex is part of that.If you're ready to stop putting your desire on hold and build a fuller, more alive erotic life, Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Your next step is to schedule a free Next Steps Call. Apply at thisisbgm.com/apply.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

In this episode, Brian G. Murphy talks with Jonah Wheeler (@ShowOffJonah) about finding community and meaning in group sex. Tune in if you're curious to give group sex try or wanting to feel more comfortable, less nervous, more confident, and less ashamed about the sex you're already having.This is one part how-to and best practices and another part about how to see group experiences not as something scandalous, secretive, or shameful but rather as fun, sexy, and even meaningful experiences.You'll learn some practical tips on cruising and consent, hear personal stories about two of Jonah's group experiences, and explore how to find confidence, connection, and community in group spaces.If you want more when it comes to sex—more confidence, more connection, more meaning, or just more of it... Relationshift private coaching with Brian will get you there. Interested? Your next step is to schedule a decision making call so Brian can do a deep dive into your desires and challenges, share all the details about coaching, and answer any questions you have. Apply here.This interview conversation was recorded as part of preparation for Brian's book Love Beyond Monogamy which is available everywhere books are sold. If you want to find even more connections sex, relationships, and spirituality (and hear even gems from Jonah), pick up a copy today!There's a part-two of this interview coming in a few weeks so make sure you're subscribed to get it when it drops!Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

There are lots of reasons you may consider an open relationship—or consider opening up more than you already are. I’ve been there myself and I’ve helped a ton of people answer that question for themselves. Whatever your reasons for asking yourself that question, I’m gonna help you figure it out. Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

The very things that Matt and Dylan were doing that they thought were being helpful and kind ended up being the very things that hurt each other the most. When Matt and Dylan started working with me, they described their relationship as nearing rock bottom. Now, they've bought their first home together and are at "our strongest point."In this episode, you'll learn about some traps that couple can fall into (so you can avoid them), what really goes into strengthening a relationship, and how to make commitment work for the long-term.I hope you'll be inspired by Matt & Dylan's relationship!Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Everyone wants a healthy relationship but the sad truth is, a staggering amount of them aren’t. Between lying, cheating, neglect, crappy communication, bad sex, and more unhealthy relationships take many forms. And because conflict makes for good television and music, we unfortunately don’t get as many examples of happy, healthy relationships. To help you figure out if you’re in a healthy relationship, I put together 6 signs to look for. Links from the episode:Relationship Conflict & Communication Skills video playlistBrian's YouTube channelEnrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

How do you know if shame is holding you back from the best version of your relationship or sex life? The tricky thing about shame is that it sneaks in and disguises itself as truth. Regardless of how long you've been dating and hooking up, no matter how long you've identified as kinky or queer, whether you've had 1 partner or 100 ... it's possible that there is another level of shame hiding out and sabotaging you.In this episode, Brian highlights some common signs that sex shame might still have a hold on you and equips you with tools to move from shame to sexual liberation.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

What if wanting more wasn’t selfish, but sacred?Permission to Want is a podcast for the curious, the courageous, the quirky, and consciously nontraditional. Hosted by author and certified relationship coach Brian G. Murphy, this show explores what it means to build fuller, more alive relationships and erotic lives and paints a picture of what’s possible when you find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want and say goodbye to shame or “shoulds.”Grounded in the wisdom of polyamory and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy, you’ll hear real-life stories and actionable insights that can enrich every relationship type: monogamous, open, polyamorous, single, or solo. Whether you're hoping to rekindle passion in a long-term relationship, healing from sexual shame, considering opening up, or just craving more intention in how you live and love, this is your permission slip.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)