Soften Up with Krystal Alexandria

This is an encouraging big sis' love note for the moments you need it most!Carving a new path for yourself is no joke. It can be easy to doubt that your dreams and desires are worth holding out for. I've been there more times than I can count. And...it is essential that you do not settle along the way, love.We have no idea how good things can get for us and holding space for our dreams can feel so daunting, especially when we don't have any signs that they can happen for us. In this episode, I share candidly with you about 3 times - in work, in lineage patterns, and in love - that I nearly settled in life-defining ways and I'M SO GRATEFUL I DIDN'T! I do not hold back in this episode and that's on purpose. These moments of clarity are raw and real and we need to share more about them more often!My hope is that you turn to this episode when you need a boost of inspiration, sacred reminders, and big sis' energy hug because your dreams are awaiting you. But first, you need to make room for them by believing you can have them. Enjoy your listen! Be sure to share with a friend who needs to hear it, too. Looking for aligned, magical community centering our soul dreams, connective community gab sessions, and getting back to our art?JOIN THE SOFTEN COLLECTIVE WAITLIST - We begin Saturday, June 20th, 2026!:https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/tscwaitlistSUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW for weekly Monday episode drops by season. :) So happy you're here! Happy Softening!Receive gentle, soulful, practical reminders of how to soften in real life! Join my SOFTEN LOVE LETTERS email community for FREE here: https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/softenupoptinCurious about anchoring your own sustainable, unique take on softening in your own life? Is soulful transformation knocking on your door asking you to align your life to what means the absolute most to you? Check out more info about MENTORING with me here:https://krystalalexandria.com/ease-mentoringFollow Krystal on Instagram for soften reminders, soulful life inspo, and big sis' mentoring wisdom: https://www.instagram.com/krystal.alexandria/

Today, we soften how we're thinking about our over consumption in a highly digitized world in favor of getting creating again!Your inner creative, artist, and visionary has the digital odds stacked against them. We wonder why we can't get over our phone addictions and get to creating. Your big sis', Krystal, is here to give some higher level perspective as to why that is happening and some ideas of what to do about it. We need to let go of the pressure that it's all on us to figure it out by ourselves -AND- remember that it's not our fault that this is happening in the first place!We're gonna talk about- How the phone addiction is real and very much not your fault- My definitive pattern interruption that shifted everything in breaking out of digital overconsumption into creating again - The anti-perfectionist meandering that is my new relationship with creating. Hint: It's so fun!- A very special idea for where we go from here when it comes to reclaiming your inner creator and artist!JOIN THE SOFTEN COLLECTIVE WAITLIST - We begin Saturday, June 20th, 2026!:https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/tscwaitlistSUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW for weekly Monday episode drops by season. :) So happy you're here! Happy Softening!Receive gentle, soulful, practical reminders of how to soften in real life! Join my SOFTEN LOVE LETTERS email community for FREE here: https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/softenupoptinCurious about anchoring your own unique and sustainable take on softening in your own life? Are you craving alignment with what means the absolute most to you? Check out more info about MENTORING with me here: https://krystalalexandria.com/ease-mentoring

We were all sold a very fanciful, grand gesture-laden (not to mention solely heterosexual) perception of romance. It's this dreamy “something” that only happened to the chosen few and we were dependent on some man out there to decide one day to make romance a reality for us who longed for love beyond the ending credits of our favorite rom-coms. I remember what an impossible scenario it felt like to have real-life romance. It turns out true, lasting romance looks hella different than I was sold.As a person who thought they had to work really hard for someone’s love and attention, it is deeply healing to not have to.In today's episode, I share about:- the arc from my rom-com-obsessed 20's to my love drenched 40's (oh boy, did romance look SO different in real life!)- unlocking my queerness from deep within and how it really leveled up the quality of dates I was going on- how my wife and I took our absolute favorite romantic date and immortalized it as our engagement story (it's so dang cute omg)- realizing that the most romantic moments are the simplest ones and I'm not shy on sharing examples of those sweet momentsNo matter who you love, I hope you know you’re worthy of real-deal romance in your life. Let yourself dream up what acts of love would feel so good to receive from someone else. Try not to talk yourself out of it or let doubt ruin the fun. Let yourself want it. Let yourself tuck it away in your heart. Before you know it, you’ll be so happy you did when it starts to arrive in your life. Want more? Check out my Substack article that this episode was inspired by (CUTE PHOTOS ALERT!) here: https://substack.com/@krystalalexandria/p-146303028SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW for weekly Monday episode drops by season. :) So happy you're here! Happy Softening!Receive gentle, soulful, practical reminders of how to soften in real life! Join my SOFTEN LOVE LETTERS email community for FREE here: https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/softenupoptinCurious about anchoring your own unique and sustainable take on softening in your own life? Are you craving alignment with what means the absolute most to you? Check out more info about MENTORING with me here: https://krystalalexandria.com/ease-mentoring

Maybe it's a knowing you can't shake…Maybe intuitive signs are surfacing everywhere…Maybe you're sick of kicking your dreams down the road for “someday”… Having an inner nudge that you need to pivot something can bring up a lot. But if I may offer up a little big sis' advice: It's worth exploring it. Every time.Additionally, how do we navigate being "selfish" by putting ourselves first when life pivots happen? How do we deal with what others whom we love might think about it all? Today's Soften Up episode is a two part-er exploring: PART ONE: The Power of the Pivot is:- a gentle hug for you if you find yourself (or know someone) amidst transition or are considering it- filled with some practical examples of how my most helpful tool -- my intuition -- guides me through transformative times- reminding you of how amazing transitions and transformation can be even if it feels like anything but 🫣PART TWO: Should we consider others or be "selfish" includes practical tools for:- How to use your core values and personal priorities to help guide your next pivot steps- Keep at the forefront your own sovereignty and soul guidance- Relatable examples from my own life pivots that required me to be “selfish”- How your human design authority is a built-in, invaluable tool- Essential reminders that this is your precious life and why listening to yourself is necessaryWhen I look back on my life, I have my pivots to thank for sourcing my future books with endless adventures, tales, and naughty, bold, brazen life choices that make me look back and feel proud that I truly LIVED my life.I hope you find a gem in this one to fortify you as you ponder what else is possible in your life. <3 SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW for weekly Monday episode drops by season. :) So happy you're here! Happy Softening!Receive gentle, soulful, practical reminders of how to soften in real life! Join my SOFTEN LOVE LETTERS email community for FREE here: https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/softenupoptinCurious about anchoring your own unique and sustainable take on softening in your own life? Are you craving alignment with what means the absolute most to you? Check out more info about MENTORING with me here: https://krystalalexandria.com/ease-mentoring

When you imagine a future world you feel PROUD to be a part of co-creating, what do you see? What do you envision? What do you want to feel on the daily?As a creative, intuitive, and natural leader, do you realize you're a part of where we go from here?We are the VIBE MAKERS, in fact. Vibes are more than woo woo. Our entire world is created from frequency vibrations. Energy. Do you know that you're a powerful part of setting the tone in the spaces you inhabit? In this episode of Soften Up, I share with you my TOP 7 cornerstones for what sets us up for raising the vibe of any room we're in. I have a feeling you're really gonna vibe with them. See what I did there? ;)The best part? These are just mine! What are yours? What are the cornerstones for how you show up in the world that help contribute to shifting the vibe in the direction that you want to see in our shared collective future?SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW for weekly Monday episode drops by season. :) So happy you're here! Happy Softening!Receive gentle, soulful, practical reminders of how to soften in real life! Join my SOFTEN LOVE LETTERS email community for FREE here: https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/softenupoptinCurious about anchoring your own unique and sustainable take on softening in your own life? Are you craving alignment with what means the absolute most to you? Check out more info about MENTORING with me here: https://krystalalexandria.com/ease-mentoring

Ever feel like something ends in your life, but it feels...unresolved? Heavy. Emotional. Stressful. Like it's long over with but anytime you think about it, you feel some kind of way about it?ENTER: The open energy loop.An open energy loop is something that began but didn’t properly finish. Think of it as an invisible energy (like a phone app running in the background) that’s taking up space in your life simply by it not being completed or finished.They can be big ones (like feelings related to a trauma that got activated by something a close friend said) or smaller ones (like filing your taxes or cleaning out your car).They are the real life “dot, dot, dot.”THE THING IS...while open energy loops are unseen, they are not un-felt. We feel them every day.In today's episode of Soften Up, I give you a highly effective, simple-to-follow process to help you close out your own open loops so you can take back your energy, power, and keep you more present in your life. Because some things are meant to stay in the past!Want more on open energy loops? This conversation is inspired by a Substack article I wrote that lays out this entire process step by step. Follow me on Substack and find it here: https://substack.com/@krystalalexandria/p-142692352SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW for weekly Monday episode drops by season. :) So happy you're here! Happy Softening!

Syncing your life to your cycle is such a liberating and beautiful way to work WITH your body's natural rhythms instead of against it. It's honestly been one of the biggest breakthroughs I've had over the last five years! I feel more in tune, more effective with my time, and more allowing of where my body is in trusting her to know best with what she needs. Making space to listen to our bodies is a an act of rebellion against systems that keep us overriding what our body's need in order to keep up. It can be so exhausting to keep up with capitalistic priorities so taking a softened approach to working with our bodies is as revolutionary as it is ancient.Cycle syncing can be applied to everyday things like:- Tracking your cycle- Designing your weekly calendar- Selecting workouts - Shifting food choices - Creative projects- & so much more! (It's up to you!)I share super practical strategies for how to work WITH your cycle. Give these a try and let me know how you feel!Designing your everyday life in alignment with where you are in your cycle can soften how you relate to the needs of your body. Rather than it be a downer (although sometimes it's gonna be), working with your cycle can help you to feel more YOU throughout the month, even when hormones are doing their thing (hello, perimenopause!). WANT MORE CYCLE SYNCING GOODNESS? Check out my free Substack article called "Cycle Syncing My Sanity: How syncing up with my cycle is seriously revolutionizing my life" [AUDIO INCLUDED] Join my SOFTEN LOVE LETTERS email community for FREE HERECurious about MENTORING with me? MORE INFO HERE

Getting your creative inspirations out of your head and into the world is one thing. But what if the tools you're using…well…suck. A lot. The TOOLS may need to change, not you!This shows up in all kinds of areas. Believe me when I say, it is so frustrating when I have an idea to go create, paint, or write something and then I go to use the tool I normally use and all of a sudden, I'm stuck all over again!Today, I talk about tangible examples where I realized the tool needed to change and once it did, the creative floodgates opened again and I was on my way. Sweet relief!If you're really working on boosting your creativity this year, this video may save you some headache by softening your perspective on the tools that may be holding you back. This episode holds within it a powerful mindset shift that can help keep you in creative action. We've got this!Join my Soften Love Letters email community for free here: https://krystalalexandria.myflodesk.com/softenupoptinCurious about mentoring with me? More info here: https://krystalalexandria.com/ease-mentoring25% off Flodesk (affiliate link): https://flodesk.com/c/9RYKQN

Gentle Content Warning: Mention of body image, body dysmorphia, GLP-1s, healing body relationships, subpar experiences with the US medical system, & we do swear occasionally as well. Please take good care of yourself. If today is not the day to tune in, you can save this video and come back to it whenever you'd like! :)***Welcome to "Soften Sisters", a segment on Soften Up Podcast where I bring soul sisters on - in this case my real sister! - to jam together on juicy topics like...Is a SOFT BELLY really so bad?It's a loaded, yet powerful question that cuts to the heart of so many reasons we're told not to love our bodies just as they are.We get into all kinds of things like:- Healing body image after growing up with mixed messages- Weight hasn't been the problem, inflammation is- Our candid experiences about GLP1s including how we came to our decisions to take it (totally different from each other), how it's gone (think: rollercoaster), and the real confusion around it- The blessings of the body positive movement, how things have changed in recent years (not always for the better), and the gnarly trappings that come with it- F*CK THE BMI. That it. That's the message.May we all know, value, and learn to love these amazing bodies that carry us through this life! And may we learn to love, love, love our sweet, soft bellies.SUBSCRIBE for new episode drops on Mondays! This is a self-funded channel so the subscribes, comments, likes, and shares mean the world and go such a long way! Thanks for being here, love.MORE FROM TASHA:⁨@Tash.InRealLife⁩ on [email protected]_ on IGMORE FROM KRYSTAL:@krystal.alexandria on [email protected] on IGhttps://krystalalexandria.com

We know we need to protect our peace from time to time, but do you know where to find it in the first place? Today we talk about where to find your "peace places", those corners of the world where we come back to ourselves in a noisy world. The best part is, we don't need to wait 'til the shit hits the fan to find them either.I open up with you about where my most tender, sacred places are across the world - physical places, people, and things alike. They've held me, know me deeply, and call to me often. If you want to boost your self-wisdom to know where to find your places of respite no matter what's going on in the world, this episode is for you, love.Find me on my Substack called "Ease is My Compass" for more topics like these! https://substack.com/@krystalalexandriaThanks for listening and be sure to SUBSCRIBE - FOLLOW - SHARE with your inner circle who would LOVE to know conversations and tools like this exist.self care, peace, balance, nature time, rituals, self care practices, substack, writer, author, soften, soften up, soften up podcast, podcast, wellness, mental health, millennials

The irony: Imperfection is one of those things we have in common right out the gate. So why do we fight against it so hard?Today we talk about flipping imperfection on its head entirely. Imperfection...is HOLY? Let's talk about it!I share about:- How perfectionism was literally making me suffer by disconnecting me from my creativity- The gluttonous habit we're all in these days- How the Universal Law of Balance seeped its way into straightening my crown again- What I say to myself when I catch myself wormholing into how I didn't do something perfectlyAfter so much wrestling with my own perfectionism, I'm here to share my sacred reframes which I hope keep you in as much creative motion as I now have in my life!Thanks for listening and be sure to SUBSCRIBE - FOLLOW - SHARE with your inner circle who would LOVE to know conversations and tools like this exist. Remember: Softening your edges is a superpower.soften, soften up, creativity, sacred rituals, perfectionism, perfectionist, imperfection, self care, creative action, imperfect action, balance, courage, creative courage

Unseen energies make the world go 'round - Wifi, gravity, weather patterns, and...energy!Knowing how to clear, connect, and tend to your energy and aura is truly a superpower AND a tech of the times. Just like we reach for apps to serve to accomplish different tasks, we also have energy tools that help us show up to what matters to us. Today, I share about:- How our aura and energy field is very real and far from "woo Woo"- Some helpful context from amazing teachers on why tending to our energy is self-care, too- I share five of my go to energy tools that I use to connect to myself and also to reset my energy field - You can use them anytime!Thanks for listening and be sure to SUBSCRIBE - FOLLOW - SHARE with your inner circle who would LOVE to know conversations and tools like this exist.energy tools, energy work, grounding, grounding practices, self-care, self care ,self development, softening, softness, resistance, self help, millennial lifestyle, lifestyle, self care, rituals, self help podcast, millennial, mindset, witchy, rituals

Talking about perimenopause on the internet? Oh yes we are! :) Little did I know that so many shifts and changes happening over the last several years were none other than perimenopause! I sure wish someone would've told me ahead of time, which is why were jumping in together.Today on Soften Up, I share candidly about:- The way I learned to connect-the-dots about the symptoms I was experiencing- How hormone replacement therapy came into the picture, at 40 no less! - The rollercoaster of hormonal shifts is very real and we also don't have to settle for suffering through it- The profound impact generationally of convos like this becoming more normalized (thank goodness!)Dr. Mary Claire Haver's podcast called UnPaused:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unpaused-with-dr-mary-claire-haver/id1846701533Curious about Functional Medicine? Check out Dr. Jen Dufala at Foundations Functional Medicine (telemedicine): https://www.foundationsfunctionalmedicine.comI'm so grateful you're here! Thanks for listening and be sure to SUBSCRIBE - FOLLOW - SHARE with your inner circle who would LOVE to know conversations like this exist.

What if we consider…softer?What if softening can be a part of it all?What if it’s our very nature, too?What else becomes possible then?Welcome to Soften Up with Krystal Alexandria! Today, we explore softening as a way of approaching these transformative times and softness as a tool for resistance.Listen in to explore:(1) Necessary context for softening as a tool for resistance and why I'm hooked on it the idea(2) Why nature is a forever home base and teacher of softening (3) Invigorating words from artists, spiritual teachers, and thought leaders that I align with - Think: Pema Chödrön, Tricia Hersey, Andrea Gibson, & more(4) Is Resistance antithetical to softening?SUBSCRIBE - FOLLOW - SHARE with your inner circle who would LOVE to know conversations like this exist. Thanks for being here, love!

If you're curious about what "Soften Up" means, you're in the right place! Welcome to Soften Up with Krystal Alexandria. :) I'm really glad you're here.Today we'll dive into: - What "Soften Up" means. how it came about, and how my brain still grapples with it here and there - Why our body's armoring response is absolutely necessary and a highly intelligent tool to allow softening to happen in the first place- Examples of what softening looks like on a personal everyday level and also a grander societal level I'll leave you with some questions to ponder, tinker over, journal on, and consider in these transformative times.Thanks for listening and be sure to SUBSCRIBE - FOLLOW - SHARE with your inner circle who would LOVE to know conversations like this exist.Soften Up Pod, Vulnerability, PersonalGrowth, Visionary, Emotional Wellness, Self Discovery, Transformation, Personal Development, Millennial Wellness, Spirituality, Self Care

We're told to lighten up, but what else is possible if we SOFTEN UP instead? Join long-time Mentor, Artist, & Big Sis’, Krystal Alexandria, for Soften Up, a soulful hub for exploring the ideas, perspectives, and conversations that make us EXHALE instead of harden (like most other things going on in the world). Soften Up is a soft place to land for the revolution, a cozy corner to rest, and a bright spot to delight in high-quality connection, reflection, and delicious nourishment on a soul level. We'll go deep. We'll get witchy with it. And we'll enjoy quality time together. We're tipping the scale to more of our waking hours being spent exploring the power of what softened edges can unlock for our leadership, personal power, our voice, and most of all, the unique magic we each bring. Tune in every Monday for new episodes and SUBSCRIBE NOW to start your week with Soften Up with Krystal Alexandria!