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Discover the differences between "Egypt Sexuality" and "Promised Land Sexuality" based on insights from Deuteronomy 11:10-12. You'll be challenged to trust God with your life instead of trying to control your life. This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, April 26, 2026 at the Husband Material Spring Retreat in Georgia. See upcoming retreats at husbandmaterial.com/retreatPrevious sermons from HM Retreats:You Are Not Too Much (Mark 6:30-56)Excluded & Emasculated (Acts 8:26-40)David's Sexual Story (2 Samuel 11-12)The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)How Jesus Reverses The Curse (John 21)Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Have you ever felt curious or confused about IFS (Internal Family Systems) and how it can help you outgrow porn? Patrick Cagle offers the perfect introduction: the 3 types of parts within you, the 9 Cs of your authentic self, and the highly practical 6 Fs to connect with a part of you that feels activated, triggered, or sexually tempted.Patrick Cagle is an IFS Level 2–trained therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) candidate, and a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). Based in Alabama, he serves as an associate-level counselor devoted to helping individuals find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors and supporting partners healing from betrayal trauma.With compassion, clarity, and a deep respect for each client’s inner world, Patrick integrates Internal Family Systems (IFS) to uncover and heal the underlying wounds that drive addiction. His approach helps clients move beyond shame, restore connection with their authentic self, and experience lasting recovery and transformation.Connect with Patrick at (334) 602-4112.Check out Patrick's Psychology Today Profile here.Join Patrick's drop-in discussion group: "Men's Internal Family Systems & Sexual Integrity" on Tuesdays at 10:00 AM Pacific Time here.Mentioned in this episode:The 9 C's of IFS (credit to Cece Sykes)The 6 F's of IFS by Dr. Richard SchwartzThe SIBAM Model by Dr. Peter Levine Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Are you tired of fighting a battle against yourself? Jenna Riemersma offers a remarkably powerful path to healing through the "Move Toward" approach, her simplified version of IFS (Internal Family Systems). You'll learn a practical three-step tool to transform unwanted behavior and outgrow porn through curiosity and compassion. Jenna Riemersma, LPC, is a leading authority in integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy with Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD) and betrayal trauma treatment. As a Certified IFS Therapist, IFS Clinical Consultant, IITAP teaching faculty, and CSAT Supervisor, she brings over a decade of specialized expertise to this critical therapeutic intersection. Jenna is also the developer of the innovative "Move Toward" IFS shorthand tool—a practical resource that helps therapists and clients efficiently access IFS parts work. Learn more at movetoward.comBuy Jenna's new book:Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of YouJenna is also the author of:Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems TherapyIFS Integration: A Comprehensive Guide toComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Learn the real reason why freedom from porn feels impossible with insights from one of my favorite movies, The Shawshank Redemption. “Your brain doesn’t want new things. It wants old things that it already knows how to survive.” —Chase HughesComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How can I revive the soul of my family? Whether you're a father, a husband, or a man preparing for those roles, listen to this. Dr. Joshua Straub presents a powerful picture of what it looks like to become emotionally safe, build intimacy with your spouse, enter your child's world, and protect your family in the spiritual realm.Joshua Straub is most renowned for his role as a husband and dad. A recovering human, he’s passionate about the ongoing journey of growth through coaching, community, and fitness. Alongside his wife, Christi, he leads Famous at Home, equipping leaders and organizations in emotional intelligence and healthy family systems. Josh is a speaker, author of seven books, marriage and relational intelligence coach, and podcast cohost. He’s had the privilege of coaching executives, entrepreneurs, entertainers, professional athletes, and nonprofit leaders, as well as serving military families across the country. At home, Josh and Christi are raising their three kids on a small homestead outside Nashville, TN, where life is full of family, faith, and a lot of fun.Learn more at joshuastraub.comBuy Joshua's book:Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Put Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for Your Time, Attention, and IdentityComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does being sexually betrayed affect men? Adam Nisenson explains the phenomenon of masculine betrayal trauma and what healing looks like.Adam Nisenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). He is known as The Betrayal Shrink, a pioneering voice in men’s mental health, and the first professional to define and name the phenomenon of Masculine Betrayal Trauma.Drawing from his own lived experience after his former spouse’s affair with her business partner over 12 years ago, Adam brings both personal understanding and clinical depth to every session, every book, and every word he shares.Resources by Adam Nisenson:A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal (book)A Man’s Guide to Trust After Partner Betrayal (clinical workbook)No Man’s Land (guided journal)Listen to Adam's podcast,Men Get Cheated On Too! where he breaks the silence around male betrayal trauma and gives men a voice, language, and a path forward in a society that too often leaves them behind. His work blends depth psychology, trauma-informed care, emotional accountability, and masculine healing frameworks to help men confront betrayal without shame and emerge stronger than they were before.Learn more about masculine betrayal trauma and connect with Adam at betrayalshrink.comComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What if the very traits that got you hooked on porn—curiosity, childlike wonder, and awe—are actually keys to your freedom? As Jason Mellard explains, these qualities aren't bad; they are simply waiting to be reclaimed and redeemed. You'll learn about observation vs. obsession, building with vision vs. escaping into fantasy, and appreciating beauty vs. idolizing it...Bonus: Stay tuned for a spontaneous musical moment where Jason inspires Drew to burst into song—belting out lyrics from The Greatest Showman and sharing how it shaped his imagination for Husband Material.Jason Mellard is the founder of Own Your Identity, where he empowers men experiencing unwanted same-sex attraction to live the life they truly desire. Jason is a Certified High Performance Coach and Certified Husband Material Coach. He has experienced sexual abuse, same-sex attraction, and freedom from porn. Jason is committed to helping men live beyond their unwanted attractions and negative habits into a life of purpose and possibility through the power of Christ and for the glory of God.Listen to Jason's podcast, Own Your Identity, where he provides practical tools to bring clarity and hope to men navigating unwanted same-sex attraction.Jason is also the creator of SSAquiz.com. Take the quiz to discover how much same-sex attraction is impacting your life.Learn more about Jason at ownyouridentitynow.com.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What exactly is a glimmer? Why do glimmers matter for outgrowing porn? Learn 3 ways to get the most out of your glimmers—maximizing moments of joy, peace, and connection. Related episodes:Porn and Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer) Play, Awe, & Porn Addiction: A Polyvagal Perspective Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Where is God when we suffer? How does grief intensify sexual temptation? Why do we need to "run toward the roar" of triggers and traumas instead of avoiding them? Hear Davey Blackburn tell the heartbreaking story of how his wife of 7 years was murdered in their home during a break-in, leaving him as a single father to their 15-month-old son. Davey also describes how God has begun to write a beautiful redemption story of healing, forgiveness, and purpose where "nothing is wasted."Davey Blackburn (and his wife Kristi) founded Nothing is Wasted Ministries to help people partner with God to take back their story. Learn more at nothingiswasted.comStart here: nothingiswasted.com/starthereBuy Davey's book:Nothing Is Wasted: A True Story of Hope, Forgiveness, and Finding Purpose in Pain. Listen to Davey's podcast: nothingiswasted.com/podcastAre you a widower? Check out refugewidowers.comComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What if the desires you've been suppressing are not bad, but simply underdeveloped? In this episode, Jay Stringer explores five core longings that drive us—and why we need to welcome them rather than try to conquer them or shut them down. You'll hear how desire is shaped by childhood experiences, pornography, and other forces—as well as how desire can be reshaped and resurrected.Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor, researcher, and speaker who helps people uncover the unexpected meaning hidden in life’s hardest challenges. He is the award-winning author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing and lives in New York City with his wife, Heather, and their two children. Learn more at jay-stringer.comBuy Jay's new book:Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and GrowGuest interviews do not constitute an endorsement. We encourage discernment—grab what's good, drop the rest.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is redemptive risk? Why is it essential for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, you'll learn why and how to embrace redemptive risk, the difference between dirty pain and clean pain, and three steps to consider as you discern your next redemptive risk:Start with "why"Count the costOwn your strengthWhat redemptive risk(s) are you currently taking? Let us know in the Husband Material Community!Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Men need men. In this episode, Tom Zuniga champions the value of brotherhood and "chosen family"—especially in a culture where romantic marriage seems like the only place where intimacy is possible. Tom shares his story of growing up feeling lonely and different, experiencing same-sex attraction, and discovering the beauty of following Jesus in community with other men.Tom Zuniga is the Director of Your Other Brothers, a community where Christian men are navigating matters of faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Together. Check out their blogs and podcasts, or explore their retreats and other community offerings at yourotherbrothers.orgLearn more about the overarching nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family at yourotherfamily.org, as well as their new women’s community of Your Other Sisters at yourothersisters.orgHear Tom Zuniga interview Drew Boa at https://yourotherbrothers.org/convocast/yob-convocast-104-tom-amp-drew-boa-outgrow-porn-examine-fetishes-and-do-inner-child-workConnect with Tom at thomasmarkz.comDisclaimer: Tom and Your Other Family offer valuable perspectives and wonderful resources, and we're honored to introduce them to you. As with any content, we encourage you to take what helps you grow and leave the rest behind.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

In this episode, longtime friend of the podcast and author Sathiya Sam shares why porn recovery can literally save lives, what true freedom looks like (eternal, internal, and external) and practical advice on how to find purpose beyond porn.Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean Coaching, helps men overcome pornography addiction, inspired by his own 15-year journey. Author of The Last Relapse and host of The Man Within, he has guided thousands of men to freedom. Learn more at sathiyasam.comTo celebrate 10 years of freedom from porn and 1 million podcast downloads, Sathiya is hosting a giveaway. Enter here: deepcleancoaching.com/giveaway"You don't set people free just so they can say they're free; you set people free so they can fly." —Sathiya SamComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Do you know what it's like to feel numb, drained, and disconnected? This is the most common precursor to watching porn: the "flop" reaction. In this episode, you'll learn what the flop reaction is, why it's not necessarily bad, and three ways to navigate low-energy moments without crashing into a relapse. Strategy #1: Flop with a purposeStrategy #2: Flop with a friendStrategy #3: Flop with your bodyComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does physical fitness support sexual and spiritual health? In this episode, Alex VanHouten describes what it looks like to faithfully care for your body. You'll learn about the twin pitfalls of pride/envy and gluttony/sloth, how working out can help you process emotions and sexual urges, and what fitness is ultimately about: reclaiming the territory of your body for the kingdom of God.Alex VanHouten is an exercise scientist, health coach, and the founder of Faithful Fitness. With over 20 years of experience in fitness coaching, he has empowered individuals to transform their health through intelligent, science-based training, all while grounding his approach in the hope of the gospel. As the host of the Faithful Fitness Podcast and leader of the Faithful Fitness community, Coach Alex provides valuable tools to help people steward their bodies well for God’s glory. Learn more at faithfulfitness.coBuy Alex's new book:Faithful Fitness: A 40-Day Devotional for Christian Health and StewardshipComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

If you're in a season of depression, darkness, or difficulty, please listen to this episode. Justin McRoberts and Scott Erickson offer deep wisdom on how to welcome all that is within you (yes, even that). This interview is punctuated by powerful poems and prayers for whatever "low" you might be going through.Justin McRoberts is the author of 8 books, including In The Low: Honest Prayers For Dark Seasons. He lives in Martinez, CA and talks with his mom every day. Connect with Justin at justinmcroberts.com or on Instagram @justinmcroberts.Scott Erickson is an artist, author, and performance speaker creating a visual vocabulary for the spiritual journey. Connect with Scott at scottericksonart.com or on Instagram @scottthepainter.Buy Justin and Scott's new book:In The Low: Honest Prayers For Dark SeasonsComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What are HMA Triads? What makes them different from accountability groups? Why is joining a small group essential for outgrowing porn? Rich Savoy explains everything you need to know about HMA Triads, what makes them different than porn accountability groups, and why you should consider joining one. Join HMA by January 18, 2026 at joinHMA.com.Rich Savoy is HMA's Director Of Small Groups. He is also a board member of Husband Material Ministries and an international speaker on emotional intelligence with Global Leadership Partners. Contact Rich inside the Husband Material Community.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

God designed your brain to heal itself under the right conditions. How can we understand self-healing from a Christian perspective? What are the optimal conditions for self-healing? How can self-healing accelerate the process of outgrowing porn? In this episode, you'll not only get answers to these questions—you'll witness a powerful demonstration of Brainspotting with Drew Boa and Mike Chapman.This episode was recorded at the 2026 Porn Free Man Conference sponsored by Husband Material Academy (HMA). Join HMA now at joinHMA.comComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is Brainspotting? How can it help men heal and outgrow porn? Find out from Dr. David Grand himself! In this episode, you'll learn how Brainspotting works, why it's unique, and how it accelerates recovery from porn/sex addiction.David Grand, PhD is the developer of Brainspotting, the groundbreaking relational brain-body, mindfulness-based method. He is the author of Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change and the co-author of This is Your Brain on Sports. Dr. Grand has been widely featured in the media, including The New York Times, NBC National News, The Discovery Channel, CNN, MSNBC, Sports Illustrated, and Sirius Radio. Curious about Brainspotting?Read the book by David GrandFind a Brainspotter near you on the international directoryWork with Mike Chapman, Dr. Doug Carpenter, or Drew Boa (who are all Brainspotting Practitioners and Certified Husband Material Coaches).Join HMA to witness the power of Brainspotting (and maybe even try it out yourself) at Fantasy Fridays.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What can the movie "K-Pop Demon Hunters" teach us about shame, hiding, and healing through vulnerability and connection? In this extended episode, Drew and his friend Andy offer an in-depth analysis of the film—addressing theological concerns, highlighting takeaways for sexual recovery, and tracing each character's redemptive journey. Enjoy!Drew and Andy became friends at Wheaton College, serving together in college, church, and summer camp ministries. Andy has degrees in Christian theology and adventure-based experiential learning, and has been a participant and collaborator with Husband Material since 2023.K-Pop Demon Hunters is available on Netflix. We recommend watching the "Sing-along" version.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

In this incredibly vulnerable episode, Nate Larkin tells the story of how he returned to lying, hiding, binge drinking, and destructive sexual behavior while leading a sexual recovery organization. You'll also hear Nate's wisdom on how to be vulnerable as a leader and the importance of telling the truth.Nate Larkin is the founder of the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery. Learn more at samsonsociety.comBuy Nate's book: Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men To Authentic BrotherhoodComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What’s next for Husband Material? In this episode, you’ll hear the exciting new vision for how we want to help the next generation of young men and couples change their brains, heal their hearts, and save their relationships. Here’s how you can be part of it:Pray: husbandmaterial.com/prayGive: husbandmaterial.com/giveComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How can technology help you connect, heal, and outgrow porn? In this episode, Chandler Rogers tells his story of finding freedom through connection with others (even online) and shares what he has learned from overseeing hundreds of online groups. You'll find out what you're missing out on if you track your sobriety without tracking your recovery—and what healthy, shame-free accountability looks like.Chandler Rogers is the CEO and co-founder of Relay, a group-based program to break free from the unhealthy system of addiction and find lasting freedom.Join Relay at joinrelay.app (App)Listen to Beyond Sexual Brokenness (Podcast)Download The Official Guide To Overcoming Pornography (PDF)Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you'll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, and deprivation) and how we use addiction to avoid intimacy ("into messy"). Along the way, you'll also find out why recovery is not a "don't touch your penis" program and how the skill of "tension holding" can transform your relationships. Great conversation!Chris Chandler (LMHC, LPCC, EMDR, CSAT-S) is a licensed therapist, coach, and Clinical Advisor at Relay Health. He is also the founder of Christian Recovery Groups LLC, a national program helping men and women heal from compulsive and addictive behaviors through faith, community, and neuroscience-informed recovery practices. Over the past 20 years, Chris has led thousands through individual and group recovery experiences. His mission is simple: to restore people to wholeness by integrating clinical insight with authentic, Spirit-filled community because true recovery happens in relationship.Schedule a 30-minute consultation with Chris here.Andrew Engstrom is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with Seattle Christian Counseling, where he helps individuals and couples heal by understanding themselves better first. Andrew is certified in MDFT (a holistic approach to counseling treatment) and uses PREPARE/ENRICH in pre-marital and marital counseling. He offers support and insight for overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of forming lasting, fulfilling relationships with others and God.Learn more and connect with Andrew here.See a preview of Chris and Andrew's intensives here.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to change your life? Do you ever feel like a hero, as if you have to succeed because the whole world is depending on you? Today, we’re talking about how to see yourself accurately and understand yourself better through three lenses: your villain story, your victim story, and your hero story. These categories are inspired by “The Karpman Drama Triangle” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman. The original drama triangle describes common patterns in dysfunctional relationships. I’ve adapted it for the context of story work for men outgrowing porn.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

In this episode, Doug and Drew explain their powerful, unique approach to psychodrama: DIRECT. You'll learn how this powerful modality can help you experience deeper healing and freedom from porn.D.I.R.E.C.T. = Dynamic, Intuitive, Redemptive, Embodied, Communal Transformation.Come experience D.I.R.E.C.T. at a Husband Material Healing Weekend!  See all upcoming healing weekends and retreats at husbandmaterial.com/retreatComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Why do adult men need sex education? What sexual changes do men's bodies go through as we get older? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains what men need to know about low testosterone, urinary flow, sperm production, and more. You'll learn about the importance of prostate exams, the truth about penis size, the difference between sex in porn vs. sex in marriage, and other common misconceptions men have about sex.Join us for sex education in person at the next Husband Material Retreat! husbandmaterial.com/retreatDr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist, author, and founding board member of Husband Material Ministries. Learn more at douglascarpenter.comBuy Doug's books:Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual DevelopmentChildhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male: Gender Role Conflict, Toxic Shame, and Complex Trauma: Finding Hope, Clarity, Healing, and ChangeComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

When you're triggered or tempted to watch porn, you cannot not regulate. What you can do is choose how you will regulate. In this episode, you'll learn ten powerful grounding techniques to regulate your brain and body without porn:Deep Breathing: Diaphragmatic (image)Power Breathing: Wim Hof Method (video)External Observation: 5-4-3-2-1 (image)Internal Observation: How We Feel (app)Ten Befriending Questions (PDF)Imagination: Visualize your inner worldCreativity: Be a creator, not a consumerMovement: Be proactive, not passiveIdentity: Remember who you are (PDF)Co-regulation: Do any of these with a friend!Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does sex trafficking affect boys and men (not just girls and women) and what does healing look like? Hear Mike Chapman's incredible story. This episode is a taken from Mike's recent presentation, "Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking of Young Boys: One Survivor's Healing Journey" at the International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference.Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and family-controlled sex trafficking, and a survivor of sexual assault by clergy as a young adult. In his spiritual journey to recovery, Mike has had to battle anger, PTSD, anxiety, codependency, and addictive behaviors, including porn addiction. Mike is also a Full-Time Sign Language Interpreter and a Part-Time Santa Claus Portrayal Artist. He’s been happily married to his wife Beth for over 35 years, and they have 2 adult children – Lizzy and Mac. He and Beth live in Hubert, NC. Mike is currently a part-time Recovery Life Coach for both Polar Life Consulting and Husband Material. To find out more or to contact Mike, email him at [email protected] out Mike's own podcast:Healing for Male Survivors with Mike ChapmanJoin Mike and Drew at the next Husband Material Retreat at husbandmaterial.com/retreatComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does living in a drugified world affect our brains, and what can we about it? Renowned psychiatrist Anna Lembke vulnerably shares her own story of addiction to romance novels and erotica, how digital media hijacks our brains, and what freedom practically looks like. Along the way, you'll learn the meaning of dopamine fasting, self-binding strategies, and prosocial shame. Take notes!Dr. Anna Lembke is professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. A clinician scholar, she has published more than a hundred peer-reviewed papers, book chapters, and commentaries. She sits on the board of several state and national addiction-focused organizations, has testified before various committees in the United States House of Representatives and Senate, keeps an active speaking calendar, and maintains a thriving clinical practice.Buy Anna's books:Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of IndulgenceThe Official Dopamine Nation Workbook: A Practical Guide to Finding Balance in the Age of IndulgenceDrug Dealer, MD: How Doctors Were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to StopLearn more about Anna at annalembke.comComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Have you ever wondered if certain sexual behaviors are okay? How do you decide what to believe and how to behave? In this episode, you'll learn 3 foundational principles of sexual ethics: integrity, intimacy, and impact.Looking for a safe place to talk about sensitive topics?Ask your questions in the Husband Material Community!Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Why do we sexualize our emotions, and how can we process our emotions without sexualizing them? In this episode, Jonathan Hernandez answers these questions in English. Check out the Spanish version of this episode here.Jonathan Hernandez is a newly Certified Husband Material Coach with over a year of experience as a Certified Connection Codes Coach. He completed three years at Bethel’s School of Supernatural Ministry and is passionate about helping couples build deeper connection and guiding men into healthy and fulfilling sexuality.Connect with Jonathan here:rueda.jonnythecoach.com/englishComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

¿Por qué sexualizamos nuestras emociones y cómo podemos procesarlas sin sexualizarlas? Jonathan Hernández responde a estas preguntas en el primer episodio de Husband Material en Español. Aquí tienes la versión en inglés: https://podcast.husbandmaterial.com/713910/episodes/17963054-how-to-process-sexualized-emotions-with-jonathan-hernandezJonathan Hernández es nuevo coach de Husband Material. Cuenta con más de un año de experiencia como coach certificado de Connection Codes. Estudió tres años en la Escuela de Ministerio Sobrenatural de Bethel y tiene una gran pasión por ayudar a las parejas a vivir más conectadas y a los hombres a experimentar una sexualidad sana y plena.Guía gratuita de la Rueda de emociones:rueda.jonnythecoach.com/rueda-794076Guía de las emociones/template diario:rueda.jonnythecoach.com/guia-103093Curso de los fundamentos:rueda.jonnythecoach.com/cursoAplicación para Sesión de Claridad:rueda.jonnythecoach.com/formulario_sesion_claridadComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is connection? What causes disconnection? How can we reconnect? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill explain the core components of relational connection—especially for couples.Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are the founders of Connection Codes, a life-changing framework that has helped thousands of couples and families around the world experience deeper intimacy, safety, and joy. Married for over four decades, Glenn and Phyllis know firsthand what it’s like to feel disconnected and stuck in painful cycles. Their own struggles led Glenn to return to school, earning a doctorate in Clinical Sexology and a master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy. Together, they discovered simple, powerful tools that restored their marriage and now equip others to thrive. Today, they travel globally, teaching couples, churches, and leaders how to process emotions, resolve conflict, and build relationships that reflect the love of Christ. Glenn and Phyllis are passionate about helping people discover that emotions aren’t a problem to fix, but a God-given tool to master—so that homes can be healed, marriages strengthened, and communities transformed.Get the Core Emotion Wheel and learn to regulate your emotions at connectioncodes.co/drew-boaBuy the book: The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave, by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis HillComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Have you ever felt like you're too much? In Mark 6:30-56, we see that nothing and no one is too much for Jesus. This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, September 7, 2025 at the Husband Material Retreat in Colorado.Learn more about our 2026 retreats here.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How can physical fitness help you find lasting freedom from porn? Frank Rich explains how rebuilding your body accelerates recovery—especially rebuilding your beliefs about yourself. Along the way, you'll learn the importance of gut health and a simple plan you can use to start training today.Frank Rich is a renowned bodybuilder, entrepreneur, men’s health coach, and host of The Super Human Life Podcast. After struggling for years with addiction, depression, and anxiety, Frank rebuilt his life through faith and fitness. Now, he’s helping other men do the same. Learn more at rebuiltrecovery.comJoin the 7-Day Porn Reset at therebuiltman.com/7dayresetConnect with Frank: Podcast: thesuperhumanlifepodcast.com  Instagram: @thesuperhumanlifepodcast Youtube: @thesuperhumanlifepodcastComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Male sexually betrayed partners are often unseen, overlooked, and underresourced. Hear Ben Wilson's story of being the betrayed and the betrayer in his marriage. Ben is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 25+ years of experience. He is trained in EMDR for trauma and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couple’s counseling. Ben co-authored Betrayed and Betrayer: Rescuing Your Marriage After The Affair out of his own broken and restored marriage. Learn more about intensive counseling with Ben at restoringthesoul.com.Read Ben's free blog with 444 posts on healing infidelity here.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

If you want lasting freedom from porn, consider reading one of these 10 books: Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy, by Jenna RiemersmaGoing Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction, by Eddie CapparucciIntimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal, by Sheri KefferNo Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction, by Marnie FerreeOutgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle—A Man's Guide to Healing, by Drew BoaSetting Us Free: An Unexpected Journey of Grace, by Nick StumboThe Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality, by Sam JolmanSurfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle, by Michael John Cusick Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, by Jay StringerWired For Intimacy: How Porn Hijacks the Male Brain, by William StruthersAlso mentioned in this episode: Boundaries For Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies, by Alison Cook and Kim MillerRedeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions for Healing and Transformation in Community, by Andrew A. Boa (Drew)Buy the Outgrow Porn bundle (paperback, ebook, workbook, and free online companion course) here.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Dr. Eddie Capparucci interviews Drew Boa about his new book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle—A Man's Guide to Healing. You'll learn the importance of understanding sexual fantasies, processing emotions, "surfing" sexual urges, and healing the inner child. Outgrow Porn is available now!Buy the book directly from Drew at outgrowporn.comBuy the book on Amazon with Drew's affiliate link at amzn.to/4lPkpEVBuy the Outgrow Porn Workbook at outgrowpornworkbook.comFree resources for you:Download the first chapter PDF at drewboa.com/outgrow-porn-chapter-1Get the online companion course at drewboa.com/outgrowpornDownload and share Outgrow Porn social media images here.Let's celebrate and spread the word!Drew Boa is the founder and CEO of Husband Material Ministries, where he helps men outgrow porn. He is the author of Outgrow Porn and Redeemed Sexuality—and the host of the Husband Material podcast and YouTube channel. Drew is passionate about changing brains, healing hearts, and saving relationships affected by porn. In 2015, Drew received his MA in Christian Formation & Ministry from Wheaton College Graduate School. Since then, he has completed training as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP), Certified Brainspotting Practitioner (BSP), Unwanted Guide, and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew offers support and guidance to outgrow porn through coaching, leading groups, hosting retreats, and speaking. Drew enjoys living in Colorado and going on adventures with his wife and kids. Connect with Drew at drewboa.comDr. Eddie Capparucci is a licensed professional counselor certified in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors. He is the creator of the Inner Child Model™ for treating Addictive Behaviors, a unique approach that focuses on identifying unresolved childhood pain points and teaching individuals how to process emotional distress in healthy ways. He is the author of six books, including Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction and Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots. His latest book is Going Deeper for Betrayed Partners: Discovering Healing Through Your Inner Child.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How did Marco Casanova go from addiction to gay porn while studying to be a Catholic priest to a life of chastity, healing, marriage, and fatherhood? This is a great story. Along the way, you'll get a beautiful introduction to Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body—particularly what Marco has learned about the dignity of women and what it means to be a man.Marco Casanova, M.Div., serves as Associate Director of Desert Stream Ministries. His journey with the Living Waters program began during his seminary years, when he sought healing from his own experience of sexual brokenness. After eight years in priestly formation, Marco discerned a new call to join the Desert Stream team. Today, he oversees Living Waters USA, equipping lay leaders to establish and lead effective healing groups within their church communities. Marco lives in Kansas City, MO, with his wife, Ania, and their daughter, Marianna.More from Desert Stream Ministries:Website: desertstream.orgYouTube: youtube.com/@DesertStreamMinistriesMore on Theology of the Body:theologyofthebody.nettobinstitute.orgComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is sex tech? How is artificial intelligence (AI) changing the way people experience porn? Dr. Marianne Brandon explains how emerging technology is rapidly rewriting the script of how humans approach sex and relationships. You'll hear all about the dangers and opportunities (mostly dangers) of these trends and why imperfect human intimacy still irreplaceable. Everyone should hear this episode!Dr. Marianne Brandon is a clinical psychologist, diplomat in sex therapy, author, and lecturer. She writes a popular Psychology Today blog, The Future of Intimacy, and co-hosts a podcast with her urologist husband, The Sex Doctors.  Dr. Brandon is the author of Monogamy: The Untold Story; and Unlocking the Sexy in Surrender: Using the Neuroscience of Power to Recharge Your Sex Life.  She co-authored Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido. You can learn more about her work at www.drbrandon.netArticle mentioned in the episode:Why Men May Gravitate To Sex Tech More resources from Dr. Marianne Brandon:Blog - psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-future-intimacy Podcast - thesexdoctorspodcast.com Books - drbrandon.net/books/Website - drbrandon.netComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does your story shape your sexual arousal template? Therapist Rick Manabat shares eye-opening examples of how specific sexual fantasies and porn preferences are subconsciously shaped by our stories. This is truly mind-blowing!Rick Manabat is the owner and founder of Pneuma Therapeutic Services, with locations in Chicago and Colorado Springs. He has a Master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Trinity International University. Rick is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who is also trained in EMDR. He has been married to his best friend for almost 13 years, and they have three children. Learn more and connect with Rick at pneumachicago.com/rick-manabatPneuma Counseling - ChicagoPneuma Counseling - Colorado SpringsComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What parts of yourself do you hide, repress, or deny? Whatever is in your "shadow" can subconsciously drive everything you do. Roy Wooten unpacks the concept of the shadow, how it works, and what his healing journey has looked like—from not feeling lovable as a boy, to surviving sexual abuse, to breaking free through embodied healing experiences at The Crucible Project.Roy Wooten serves as the Executive Director of The Crucible Project. With decades of experience as a counselor and ministry leader, Roy is deeply committed to personal transformation, relational health, and spiritual growth. He is best known for helping thousands of people improve their relationships through retreats, seminars, and coaching sessions. Learn more at thecrucibleproject.org/roywootenMore resources from Roy Wooten and The Crucible Project:Unstuck: 7 Steps to Break Free and Live Courageously (free eBook)Sign up for a Christian Men's Retreat (initial weekend)Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

In this powerful live demo, John Kilmer guides Drew Boa in parts work focused on Drew's addiction to screens. This episode is an example of Manly Monday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this week only at joinHMA.com.John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus who is passionate about men's inner healing work. Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is shame? How does evil use shame against us, and what does healing look like? Dr. Curt Thompson explores shame through the lens of Scripture, neuroscience, and spiritual formation in community. Stay until the end to hear how Jesus meets us in our shame. What a beautiful conversation!Dr. Curt Thompson is a compassionate psychiatrist who weaves together an understanding of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and a Christian view of what it means to be human. Through Curt's workshops, books, private clinical practice, and other platforms, he helps people fully experience our deepest longing: to be known. Learn more at curtthompsonmd.comMore resources by Curt Thompson:The Being Known PodcastConfessional CommunitiesThe Soul Of Shame (book)All books by Curt ThompsonComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Are you afraid that processing your sexual fantasies might lead to a relapse? Do you have concerns based on your understanding of the Bible? Does your wife have concerns? In this episode, you'll hear three reasons why processing your sexual fantasies can feel threatening, and what it looks like to do this work safely.Register now for the Sexual Fantasy Workshop: HMA In A Day (Saturday, July 12) at husbandmaterial.com/workshopExamples of safely processing sexual fantasies:Unburdening Sexual Arousal (Dr. Peter Malinoski working with Drew Boa)The Guy In The Locker Room (Drew Boa working with Jordan Castille)How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (Drew Boa and Dr. Doug Carpenter working with each other)The insights on how to support your spouse's individual recovery and protect your marriage came from Stephen Thomas Consulting.Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Do you find yourself more susceptible to sexual temptation while traveling? Jake Kastleman helps you prepare to for the challenges of trips, vacations, and other disruptions to your daily routine—especially during the summer. You'll get tips on setting healthy expectations, creating structure while letting go of perfectionism, and preventing relapse.Jake Kastleman is a porn addiction recovery coach and the founder of No More Desire. He holds a degree in Psychology from Utah Valley University. Now over 10 years sober from porn, Jake coaches men one-on-one across the world using a multi-dimensional approach rooted in neuroscience, psychology, parts work, emotional mindfulness, and spiritual growth. His work helps men not just quit porn, but overcome the root causes of cravings and reclaim their purpose and connection to what matters most.Learn more and connect with Jake:No More Desire (Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery)The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn (Free Workshop)10 Quick Mental Techniques to Stop Porn Cravings (Free eBook)Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

When one person has a history of same-sex attraction and another has a history of relying on porn, how is a Christ-centered marriage possible? Christy and Mark Summers tell their incredible story, both individually and as a couple.Christy and Mark Summers are the co-founders of Redeemed Seasons Ministries, where they care for and support Christian men and women seeking healing and wholeness through Jesus in their relationships, their identity, and their sexuality. Christy and Mark offer one-on-one and couple-to-couple soul care and spiritual direction. They also facilitate support groups for family and friends of LGBTQ-identified loved ones. Learn more at redeemedseasons.orgResources from Redeemed Seasons:Rescue & Restoring (free 12-week healing & discipleship course)At My Right Hand (support group for family & friends of LGBTQ loved ones)Spiritual Direction (request an appointment)Other ministries mentioned in this episode:Restored Hope NetworkLiving Waters (Desert Stream Ministries)Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Do you feel confused or overwhelmed by trying to understand unwanted sexual attraction from a Christian perspective? In this episode, you'll hear the strengths and limitations of Side A, Side B, Side X, Side Y—and a new perspective on unwanted sexual attraction: the Sexual Development Model (SDM).Download the Sexual Development Model chart at https://husbandmaterial.com/sdmReferenced in this episode:Differing Views on Christian Doctrine, Identity, and Homosexuality by Jason Thompson (chart)The 5 Streams: Differing Responses To LGBTQ by Linda Seilor (chart)How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time (podcast) by Drew BoaHealthy vs. Unhealthy Sexual Development (DVD) by Clifford and Joyce PennerComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is breathwork and how can it help you outgrow porn? Burke Atkerson masterfully explains the value of breathwork by drawing from Christian spirituality, neuroscience, and powerful personal experiences.  If you stay until the end, you'll learn an extremely effective breathing technique called the physiological sigh. I loved this episode and I know you will, too.Burke Atkerson is the founder of Fire Nights and Men Fully Alive. He is an author, coach, and breathwork instructor—as well as a recovering addict, a failed missionary, and an undeserving husband and a grateful father of six.Buy Burke's book, Fire Nights: Forging Brotherhood That Heals.Learn more and connect with Burke at menfullyalive.com.Register now for the Husband Material Retreat at https://husbandmaterial.com/retreat!Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026:The Same-Sex Connection™ ConferenceRegister now at samesexconnection.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!