it's not just you

girlssss, grab a cuppa and a sweet treat, this weeks pod episode is a juicy one. today we’re asking the question...should you date someone who’s not your type? can chemistry grow? is having a “type” actually holding us back from potential romantic prospects? join us for honest chats and personal stories as we dive into this weeks topic 🫶

in todays episode we reminisce on the 'good old days' and reflect about how friendships (and specifically friendship groups) change so much as life moves forward and the responsibilities of adult life take over. how do you 'do life' with your friends when you're in a 9-5 or when different groups from different parts of your life are demanding different things from you?😅

it's time for a big fat hen do debrief!!! in this episode we're telling you everything that happened at rach's hen. how did soph pull the weekend together?! what did we get up to? what are our biggest hen do top tips?! listen along for all the girly vibes as we prepare to get our rach married!

if you're in your 20s and surrounded by friends in long-term relationships or getting married, this episode is for you. we’re talking about the rollercoaster of emotions this comes with: joy, comparison, pressure. what do you do when you feel out of sync with the people around you? if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re “behind”, this is your reminder: you’re not alone, and you’re not late!

comforting a friend isn’t always easy, rightttt! so in this weeks episode, we dive into what it really means to show up for the people we care about.we talk about being the kind of friend who stays through the highs and the lows – being the one who listens without trying to fix everything, who sits in the uncomfortable hard moments, and who doesn’t walk away when the same struggles come up again and again. we all want friends like this in our life but what does it take to be one of these kind of friends to the people in our life? 🫂

getting into your first relationship after being single for so long can feel exciting.. & also a little overwhelming at times! in this episode we talk about going from being single to in a relationship and everything that comes with that change. how do you let someone love you when you're used to being independent?! what happens if you miss being single?! we're here to bring some light!

today we’re getting nostalgic thinking back to our younger years and the things we wish we had known sooner! we’re chatting about everything - from the deep, to the light hearted life lessons we wish we had a big sis to guide us through. what would you back and tell your younger self!?

it's not just you that wants to have friendships that go the distance. but lets be real guys, sometimes friendships can be haaaaard work 😅 but they are so so worth it, right 🥹 so how do we have friendships that withstand the test of time? the ups and downs, the awkward miscommunications and expectations unfulfilled – we're chatting about it allllll in todays episode.

rejection hurts. whether it’s the guy you like, the dream job you hoped for, or friends leaving you out, hearing 'I don’t want you' can sting. in this episode, we talk about how to face rejection without spiralling. how do we process it in a healthy way and move forward with confidence? rejection isn’t always the end, sometimes it’s the redirection that leads you somewhere better!

at the start of 2026 we took a HUGE risk and quit our 9-5 jobs to pursue this podcast, eeeeek! it's been a wild journey so far & today we're asking YOU: what are the little thoughts, passions or ‘what ifs’ lingering in the back of your head? maybe you want to learn to dance, to run a race, to start a business, to move city. how would it feel to reach the age 80 and think ‘why didn’t i do something about that dream?!’. listen along for some encouragement to be bold today 🤍

is natural beauty even natural anymore? in this episode, we’re talking about the way subtle 'micro' treatments, invisible filler, and “undetectable” tweaks have created a beauty standard that just feels unattainable. if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered why you don’t look as 'naturally beautiful as the girls on your feed, this is for you! we need to stop comparing the way we look to other people's 'best versions' of themselves.

we have a birthday to celebrate. yes our very own soph has turned 27!!! in this week’s episode, we have an honest, unfiltered chat about how soph is really feeling as she approaches her late 20's. the excitement, the pressure, the comparison, the quiet “am i behind?” thoughts that seem to get louder. we're addressing it allllll. so, to all the 1999 babies turning 27 this year, or anyone questioning life in their 20's – this one's for you. you're not behind, you're right where you need to be.

how do you know that the person you're with is the right person for you?! today we're hearing rach's story: how did she know she her fiancé was 'the one'? is there even such thing as 'the one'?! we're getting real and questioning whether 'romanticised' ways of thinking are always helpful or not.

let’s be honest, social media can often give us unrealistic expectations of what going to the gym looks like. from influencer lies, gym anxiety and the pressure to look like you know exactly what you’re doing, we’re sharing our completely unfiltered opinions on gym culture. if you’ve ever felt intimidated, or straight-up confused at the gym: this one’s for you!

as you may know, soph just got into her first relationship at 26..and her and her boyfriend live in different cities. so come along for the ride as we chat about the realities of medium-distance dating: the hard bits, and the unexpected positives. because honestly… it’s not all bad. welcome to season five of the it's not just you podcast!

to wrap up season 4 we play a good old game of 'would you rather'. we chat about having access to each other's camera rolls or messages, boyfriends who are bad at gifts or bad at compliments, turning up overdressed or underdressed for an event and more. stay tuned for a *big life update* at the end of the podcast too ahead of january 2026! we love you guys ❤️

yep. you read correctly. our very own soph is no longer a single queen!!!! 26 and getting into a relationship for the FIRST time. HOW did this happen?!? what's it like to start dating when you're 26?! listen a long for a good old story time!

we relay our university fresher experiences: the good, the bad and the ugly. freshers gets hyped up a lot, but the reality doesn’t always match the expectations. for some, it’s the best week ever, for others it’s not so much. whatever your university experience, we're here to remind you: it's not just you.

at the ripe old age of 26 we feel like we’ve learnt a couple of things about being in your twenties. does the change ever stop? what do you when new opportunities come your way but you still feel like you’re 15 years old? how are you supposed to juggle staying fit, having a social life, progressing your career and getting enough sleep? come and join us as we chat all things twenties!

she’s a fianceeeeee !!!!! guys, todays ep is a little bit of a different one because our very own rach is gonna be a wife 🤯 we’re giving you a full debrief on the whole engagement story, start to finish - from both perspectives! so buckle up, get comfy, grab a cup of tea and lock in for the next 35 mins of engagement goodness.

it's always weird when two of your friends decide they suddenly fancy each other. one day you're a trio, the next you're a third wheel & in this episode we discuss the shift that happens when your friends start dating each other. what do you do when you miss how things used to be? how do you deal with feeling left out? we're here to tell you it's not just you.

whether you're single or dating, people getting engaged can bring up weird feelings. sometimes jealousy, sometimes sadness at the idea of change, sometimes annoyance that you weren't involved in the proposal! feeling these things is pretty normal, it's how you push through these feelings and show up for your friends that matters.

there was a time when your best mates lived five steps away, plans were made in the kitchen at 11pm, and your wardrobe was basically communal. now... everyone’s busy, plans need two weeks’ notice, and borrowing a top isn’t just casual anymore – it actually requires asking. in this episode, we’re talking about the weird grief of post-uni friendship and all the things we miss, it's not just you that wishes you could go back and relive it all.

it’s time to chat about amber flags in friendships. would you share your mates toothbrush? pants? hold their hand? is having your friends on ‘find my friends’ normal or weird? this episode is a laugh as we contemplate the things people do with their friends that either feel normal or slightly concerning to us

we're back with a fan favourite, a follow up from an old episode 'i'm 24 and I've never had a boyfriend' – two years later and she's still living the single life 🤯 soph discusses why she's never been in a relationship and we conclude it's really not that strange. it's not just you who's wondered if you're the only one who's never dated or if there's something wrong with you because you've never had a boyfriend?!

we know comparison is the thief of joy but what happens when you can’t stop comparing yourself to your best friend? in this episode soph opens up about a difficult season of our friendship where she felt like every aspect of her life was falling short next to rach’s. from relationships, to friendships, to career, it felt all consuming. if you’ve ever felt like you're measuring yourself against someone you love, this one’s for you!

ever struggled to feel content in the season you’re in? or felt like you have big dreams but have no idea how to pursue them? you’re not alone! today we’re joined by our visionary of a friend, connie. she shares her story, including the way she went from being made redundant to moving to london and getting a dream job in the creative industry with steven bartlett.

letting people love you can be hard sometimes. don’t get us wrong, it’s such an amazing gift to have people in your life who are kind and generous, but sometimes it can be hard to receive their love as a gift without feeling guilty. it’s important to learn how to do this 🫶

ever feel like you're competing with the people in your friendship group? ever feel like everyone knows each other better than you do? friendship groups can be full of weird dynamics and today we want to chat about them! hopefully you can relate and and take comfort in knowing it’s not just you.

today we’re discussing close friendship. as adults, creating and building close friendships can be difficult. how do you meet new people? what do you do when you move to a brand new city?! join us as we share some of our friendship story, including we went from being total strangers at uni to the closest of friends!

find celebrating your birthday lowkey stressful? feel pressure to have the best day of your year? it's not just you! from choosing a way to celebrate, to deciding who to invite, to making sure everyone has a good time, birthday's can be a lot!

rach shares about the challenges in her long distance relationship. how did you get through it? how do you show someone you love them when you're far apart? how do you navigate communication across different lives, routines and maybe even time zones?! even though it's hard, there's loaads you learn from doing long distance and loads you gain!

ever felt totally and utterly STUCK when it comes to buying skincare products? same. today’s episode is essentially a half hour rant about the world of skincare. why are there thousands of the same product? why do we all feel the pressure to have a 10 step skincare routine? how does anyone know what to buy? looking after our skin is important but also surely there are more pressing things to focus our attention on?!

are you one of the only single people in your friendship group, circles, work place or maybe even family? we talk about some of the frustrating realities of being single when everyone around you is in a relationship (or maybe even married) with the hope of reminding anyone who needs it that they're not alone!

it's not just you who struggles at the beginning of a new year. christmas is over, it's freezing cold and sometimes you're just not feeling attempting 5 *unrealistic* new goals. listen along as we chat about times we've struggled in the new year and things that have helped us get through january!

what’s the bravest thing you did this year? who poured into you that you’d like to thank? we asked each other five interesting questions about 2024 and let’s just say this episode got emotional. how was your 2024? use these five questions to get conversation flowing with your friends or fam! ❤️

we're having a bit of a laff in todays ep, as we totally expose ourselves with some of the embarrassing things we wouldn't DREAM of doing in front of the guy we liked. this one feels pretty vulnerable, so pleaseeee drop us a like and comment if you #relate.

we’re getting vulnerable today as we chat about how our friendship has had to change over the last year. ever realised your friendship with your close mate has become lowkey unhealthy?! we have! join us as we chat through the boundaries we had to put in place to keep our friendship thriving!

sometimes someone is your type on paper but in reality you just don’t vibe. sometimes someone couldn’t be further from the kinda guy you’re usually attracted to but you just hit it off. when do you know if you actually fancy someone? if you’re getting the ick every other minute maybe they just aren’t the person for you!

why can it be SO difficult to organise a group holiday?! different budgets, accommodation ideas, availability, will your holiday EVER make it out the group chat? join us for a real laff as we analyse and reminisce on some of our group holibobs experiences!

navigating your relationship with your parents can be kinda complex right?! as you grow older, you have a moment where you realise your parents are humans just like you and this can be difficult at times. how do you disagree well? how do you love them when it’s hard?

today we're joined by our first ever MALE podcast guest. he brings the 'it's not just you' topic and shares about his struggle in asking for help. why do we avoid asking others to help us? how can shift our perspectives when approaching friends, family or colleagues in moments of need? after all, a problem shared is a problem halved!

it's not just you that tries to impress boys with the way you look. hands up if you've ever spent a little too long planning an outfit, redoing you hair for the 100th time or trying to achieve the perfect 'no-makeup makeup' look for a certain someone. today we’re here to tell you you’re not alone!

tricky conversations is the topic today! whether it's a partner, friend, colleague or neighbour, difficult chats are part of life. so let's not shy away from them – if you hate conflict or confrontation we hope this episode gives you some help navigating those 'crucial' conversations.

have you ever heard someone else call YOUR best friend THEIR best friend!!!??? in this episode we talk about those defensive, territorial feelings that creep up on you when your friend suddenly appears to have another close mate. whatever the situation, we talk about the reality of competing for a friend and how to stop feeling the need to prove yourself.

this episode is a bit of a different one as we talk about the pressures around drinking. whether you're teetotal or love a drink we hope this episode encourages you reflect on your relationship with alcohol!

a new relationship can come with all sorts of things to navigate but today we're specifically talking about how to balance your boyfriend with your bestie. join us as we share the ins and outs of having to work through this new season of friendship and how we've adapted to the change.

anyone else struggle to find clothes they feel confident in? today we’re discussing fashion fails, the struggle to find clothes that fit well and our own personal style journeys. whether you're an absolute fashionista or you couldn't care less, sit back and enjoy!

it’s not just you who can struggle to connect with a friend's significant other. sometimes it's a clash of personalities, sometimes they’re not treating your mate well & sometimes you just find them straight up annoying! if you relate to any of the above then this conversation is for you.

anyone else feel like it's impossible to keep up with the ever changing beauty standards for women? it’s exhausting to try and keep track of what’s ‘trending’ and match what the media says we 'should' look like. join us for an honest conversation with zo ross–waddell where we share our personal battles and discuss the way we need to learn to accept our appearance. who we are is more important than what we look like!