The Ashley Berges Show

Unhealthy Relationships have One Common Denominator…FEAR…Unhealthy, toxic, and challenging relationships often begin with love bombing, massive amounts of attention from the other person, codependency, and an over-active mind creating a "perfect life" narrative that makes us overlook the red flags and jump in head first. Often we get into serious relationships, unhealthy marriages, and have children with people that we should not be in a relationship with. We pushed ourselves into these relationships because of the fear of being alone, fear of dying alone, and old school triggers of being the only child, having no one, and being abandoned by parents or family. Having a child with someone is the biggest “contract” you will ever make with someone…Choose wisely! This latest podcast will enlighten you, bring you awareness, and save your ass. Don’t let fear rule your life. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

In this episode of The Ashley Berges Podcast: Who are you spending your time with? I'm exploring positivity, negativity, toxic positivity, and realist thinking today. How each way of thinking impacts your mindset, relationships, health, success rate, and overall well-being. I’m discussing how negativity drains energy, allows for victimhood, and creates mental and emotional roadblocks. Toxic positivity is something many people are not aware of and fall victim to criticism and negative judgment. Just as harmful as negativity is toxic positivity, where there is no empathy and full judgment if you are not rainbows and unicorns all the time. Listen to this short, under-thirty-minute podcast that will help to identify the energy you have, the energy of others, and how to protect yourself from people who are bringing you down.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Have you ever felt like you’re constantly cleaning up someone else’s mess, but nothing ever changes? In this episode of the Ashley Berges Podcast, I ask: Do the people in your lives really want help, or are they just putting on a show and dragging us into it? I'm breaking down the key indications that someone isn’t ready to change, from blaming others and refusing accountability to projecting their insecurities. I also go into deep explanation on how enabling others keep us stuck and why setting boundaries is essential to protect our energy and our self-worth. These relationships don’t just affect the person stuck in the chaos; they also take a toll on the people around them. As friends or family members, we often spend countless hours trying to fix, advise, or rescue someone, losing sight of our own needs and priorities. The stress, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion can quietly reshape your life, your relationships, and even your well-being. If you’ve poured your time and love into someone trapped in chaos, this episode will give you clarity and help you stop enabling. If you are currently in a relationship where you are dealing with chaos and drama on a daily basis you can't miss this podcast it will help you!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

You think you’re being supportive. You think you’re being loving. But what if you’re actually regulating everyone else’s emotions? In this podcast, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy emotional support and over-functioning. If you walk into a room and immediately scan for someone’s mood… if you soften your opinions to avoid conflict… if you feel responsible when someone else is upset… this podcast is for you. I'm addressing where this pattern originates, how it connects to codependent programming and trauma bonds, and why enabling can feel like love, even when it keeps you stuck. Most importantly, I’ll explain how to stop carrying emotional weight that was never yours to carry.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Have you ever tried to talk about something that hurt you, only to walk away feeling guilty, confused, or ashamed? That’s not conflict. It’s DARVO. In this episode, I break down how DARVO works, why it’s so damaging, and how blame gets reversed so the person who speaks up becomes the problem. You’ll learn how to recognize this manipulation pattern, stop gaslighting yourself, and begin trusting your own perceptions again. If every hard conversation ends with you apologizing, this episode is for you.#narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic #bordeline #borderlinepersonailtydisorder #Control #controlling #manipulation #manipulative #DARVO #argument #codependent #codependency #podcast #ashleybergesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you dealing with a lack of motivation, worried about what others think of you, not sure if you have the  the knowledge to be successful, and finding yourself operating more from a place of fear than anything else? It’s time to take a real look at the world and the stage you are on. Are you in your own play? How do you show up in your life? Are you self-sabotaging? Are you playing it safe but hurting yourself in the process? It’s time to ask yourself the deep questions: who’s influencing  your decisions? Are you aware of the inner voice in your head that holds you back and keeps you from self-acceptance? Have you truly examined what you are holding back from in your life and why? I want to keep you safe and sound from regret and this podcast will help you to see the truth and put you into a motivated state of mind. Listen to this podcast once, twice, or three times! It’s time to make positive waves in your life’s play. How does your play go? You are the main character, it’s up to you. How do you show up in your life? Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Do the holidays make you anxious because of one or several toxic family member who always stir things up? This episode is your guide to taking your power and peace back. I'm breaking down how to use the Yellow Rock method to stay calm, how to avoid getting triggered, and how to redirect conversations without revealing personal information that can be used against you. You’ll learn how to set boundaries, manage emotional triggers, know when to walk away, and leave the gathering on a high note. These powerful tools will help protect your energy, enjoy the people who actually support you, and reclaim a joyful holiday experience.#narcissism #narcissistic #narcissist #toxicrelationships #holiday #gaslighting #manipulation #greyrock #control #yellowrock #podcast #christmas #thanksgiving #familydynamicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you stuck in a relationship where giving feels endless and love feels conditional? In this episode, I explore how codependency, future faking, and patterns learned from our family dynamic can keep us trapped, and how alcohol, drugs, and distractions reinforce the cycle. Sobriety isn’t just about quitting substances; it’s about gaining clarity, recognizing your value, and understanding your relationships for what they truly are. When you remove the brain fog, you stop believing the lies, see through the future faking, identify the false hope, and see the manipulation for what it is.  When we are sober are able to stand up for ourselves in a more solid and consistent way, better at setting healthy boundaries, and we are able to gain confidence and a better overall self-esteem. #narcissisim #narcissistic #sobriety #toxicrelationships #clarity #futurefaking #falsehope #manipulation #gaslighting #borderline #covertnarcissist #malignantnarcississt Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Have you ever found yourself waiting for something that never materializes, perhaps a trip, a proposal, or a promise that keeps getting pushed back to someday? In today's podcast, I’m explaining what future faking really is and how it traps you in a cycle of false hope and emotional exhaustion. I’ll share how narcissists and emotionally unavailable people use this tactic to keep you hooked and how to see through the illusion, finally. It’s time to take your power back and stop waiting for others to change. #narcissistic #narcissism #malignantnarcissist #covertnarcissist #manipulation #deception #gaslighting #futurefaking #redflags #codependent #redflagsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

The word narcissist and the concept of narcissism is brought constantly in our society. However, narcissism isn’t one size fits all, there are different types of narcissism. The five common types of narcissism are overt, covert, vulnerable, communal, antagonistic, and malignant. The most dangerous form of narcissism is malignant narcissism.  Malignant narcissism and sociopaths, antisocial personality disorder, have a lot of signs in common. These types of people thrive on control, creating fear, and emotional manipulating and gaslighting their victims. . These types of relationships often begin with love bombing and charm before gradually turning into uncertainty, loneliness, and confusion. This episode will give you a clear perspective if you've ever had to walk on eggshells, kept quiet to maintain peace, or doubted your own reality. I'll explain the tactics used by malignant narcissists and sociopaths, such as gaslighting, love bombing, and emotional blackmail, and why it can be so difficult to escape their cycle. You'll learn how to recognize their toxic patterns, how to work on maintaining composure, and how to reclaim your sense of identity. Once you understand what is really happening, you can stop trying to fix them and start focusing on healing yourself.  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Losing a pet to death of their body is painful and you may feel lonely because others don’t understand the bond and connection. They don’t understand the love and connection you had with this being. People say things like, they were ready to go, and other say it was just their time, they think they are being accurate and helpful but neither one of the comments bare any truth. The truth is that their body failed them, whether it be environmental, food, or organ failure, their body stopped working. Whether it was medicine, poor dietary value, breed specific issue, etc, your dog or cat was not wanting to leave you. Much like the elderly grandmother of 90 years old who loves playing with her grandkids, she doesn’t just stop wanting to see her grandkids and say well I am ready to go. No, she was pulled from her life because of her body failure just like our dogs and cats are pulled from their life. If you see your dog or cat or pig as your best friend, a kindred spirit, and your soul family you can’t miss this podcast. This podcast will fuel your heart and remind you or awaken you to the truth within your heart and spirit. I recorded this podcast the day after Buddy's body failed him on August 22, 2025.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

The loss of a pet to some people is just that, a loss of a pet. But for some of us the loss of a pet is the loss of a child. When you don’t have children, your dog or cat is your child. The connection and bond is strong and takes work, consistency, and dedication. Buddy has been with me for 15 years, he is my child. I have friends that have children and they do love their dogs but not to the same degree. The love for them is strong but not nearly as strong when they are your children. Many people don’t understand the bond, they have never experienced this type of bond with an animal. When a dog is your child and they pass to the spirit realm, it is like putting your first born in the grave. It is not like a mere passing of a nonhuman being. There is something that still exists within our society that deems dogs and cats as pets not our beloved family. Buddy’s body stopped working on August 22, 2025 and in this podcast I discuss my truth, emotions, and the feelings of losing Buddy. It’s time to have the real discussion of love and bond with our dog or cat. This podcast was recorded the morning after his body stopped working.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you dealing with challenging people in your life? Trying to understand specific relationship dynamics? Wanting to choose wisely when it comes to friendships, romantic relationships, and business partnerships? In today’s podcast, Ashley deep dives into the concept of discernment, what it means, and why it’s not the same as judgment. When we cultivate discernment in our life we safeguard ourself from chaos in friendships, business partnerships, and in our personal life. Relax and listen while I explain how discernment helps you to navigate complex people and situations, especially when dealing with narcissists, emotionally unavailable partners, toxic friendships, and or business partners with hidden agendas. You’ll learn how to distinguish truth from manipulation, care from control, and authentic connection from falsehood.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

In today’s episode of The Ashley Berges Show, I’m deep diving into something we don’t talk about enough: how we only understand ourselves. We have people in our lives, such as partners, parents, siblings, and best friends, but even they can only interpret what they think we say or feel. They can’t fully grasp what we’re going through internally. I’m exploring what it means to truly know yourself, how we continue to learn about who we are, and why outside perspectives, even well-meaning ones, often fall short.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Welcome to The Ashley Berges Show. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s more relevant than ever: gaslighting. It’s showing up everywhere, in our personal lives, professional environments, and across the media. In this episode, I examine how constant manipulation affects us, particularly when it begins at home and resonates throughout every other aspect of life. I break down what gaslighting means, how to recognize it, and why it’s crucial to call it out. Additionally, I explore the various types of gaslighting, enabling you to be able to identify the patterns and safeguard your well-being. Don’t miss this important podcast that can help you reclaim your voice and your reality.           Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

On today’s episode of The Ashley Berges Show, I invite you to shift your focus from society’s distractions to real sources of peace, joy, and freedom. Are you overwhelmed by the news, social media, and life's personal pressures? Join me as I explore how our so-called small things may hold the deepest value, and how to reconnect with them. We’ll also take a closer look at the people and situations that bring unnecessary drama into your life. Once you start experiencing drama-free days and nights, you’ll realize just how good life can truly feel. Listen now for simple tools to practice gratitude, gain clarity, and create a more grounded, joyful, and drama-free life. It’s time to stop chasing what doesn’t matter and start embracing what truly does.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

In order to safeguard yourself, you must be able to identify malignant narcissists that are in your personal life, family dynamic, work environment, and people you may listen to on the news, on social media, and in politics. A malignant narcissist believes they are above you and everyone else. They will say anything and do anything to you no matter the pain and suffering you will endure. They have no remorse and no empathy for your pain and suffering. For some listeners of this podcast, you will realize that you may be living with or have a family member or friend who fits this description in every way. We see malignant narcissists post on social media constantly. A recent example is the “8647” post by former FBI director James Comey. He put the post out and then deleted it after people called him on it. Then he lies about not knowing what it meantYou may have a malignant narcissist in your life who says anything they want to you, in order to safeguard yourself, you need to know the level of narcissist you are involved with in your life. This podcast is straightforward and covers all symptoms and signs of a malignant narcissist.  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

What happens when Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder overlap? Many of us understand narcissism and some of us understand borderline. However, what do you do when you find yourself in a relationship with a person who exhibits both narcissistic and borderline signs and symptoms? These relationships began very different than they present currently. When you are dealing with straight boilerplate BPD and the person is working on self-awareness, it can be manageable and easier to understand their responses and reactions. However, when we put narcissism in the mix which includes manipulation, a lack of empathy, exploitation of others, being demeaning towards others, and having entitlement, it changes things. Many people with codependency tendencies find themselves in these relationships. Sadly due to the stress of these relationships most people feel as though they lose their identities and they are forever trying to get the approval of the other person and coming up short. Listen to this podcast to obtain a better understanding of the combination of the two, how it presents, and how it makes you feel. For more information on my work and coaching practice go to my website: www.ashleyberges.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

It's time to stop your brain from talking you out of what really happened, what was really said, and what events actually transpired that day in your life. It’s interesting how we create narratives in our minds as to what happened in a given situation, we change and augment those events to better align with keeping our current situation to offset the feelings of fear or uncertainty. We allow this reality augmentation to occur when it comes to current overwhelming events, phenomena without logical answers, and in our interpersonal relationships. In this podcast, I am offering you solutions to remember things as they happened and how to put an end to the unhealthy loop of accepting manipulation and gaslighting. These techniques will empower you and help you to get out of the matrix of codependency and stop waisting your time in exhausting relationships loops.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

An imbalanced relationship is a relationship where one of the two people in the relationship is held to a higher standard than the other. In these relationships, one person creates a set of rules for the relationship but the person that creates the rules doesn’t follow them. This creates a double standard within the relationship and puts one person in control and the other being controlled. This double standard leaves one feeling confused, used, and resentful. In the podcast, we examine what it feels like to be in this kind of relationship, positively identifying the signs and symptoms, and helping you understand what’s truly happening in this relationship dynamic.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you being manipulated or controlled mentally and emotionally by another person? Do you feel as though you can’t make your own choices and that everything you do is questioned and put under the microscope? When we identify manipulative and controlling behaviors in others, it helps us to understand what is taking place in our personal and professional relationships. In this podcast, I’m deep diving into the signs and symptoms of manipulative behavior, specific types of manipulation, specific patterns of behavior we see people display when manipulated others, how it affects us emotionally and mentally, and what you can do to safeguard yourself from the manipulation and mind control.  #manipulation #narcissism #control #BPD #manipulativebehavior #narcissistic #controlling #gaslightingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you feeling more codependent in your personal relationship than ever before? Do you feel that you are being taken advantage of and feeling as though you are loosing your identity? Some relationships begin in a whirlwind style -fast and furious and then when the dust settles you begin to observe the ups and downs. You begin to see the extremes in the other person’s actions, attitudes, responses, and general attitude towards you. You may be on top of the pedestal one day and the very next day the worst person on the planet. They may be asking you for help or need your assistance with their latest problem. Whether it’s the sob stories that keep you engaged or giving you the silent treatment to trip you up, either way you feel as though you have a second job, and that job is this current relationship. If you have wanted out but can’t seem to get out of your current relationship, and you are feeling taken advantage of and stuck, you need to listen to this podcast. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Many of us suffer or have previously suffered with self-limiting beliefs holding us back throughout our lives. As adults we either realize those beliefs exist or are unaware of their existence. We develop these self-limiting beliefs throughout childhood and they carry into our teen and adult lives impacting us daily.  Ashley is joined on the podcast by children’s author and hypnotherapist Jo Galloway. Jo realizes the impact self-limiting beliefs have on us as adults and she wants to stop them in their tracks for children. Jo is passionate about helping children break free from limiting beliefs by promoting positivity, mindfulness, and self-awareness. Together, they discuss the benefits of meditation for young children and the impact of negative self-talk on self-image. They also explore the importance of stopping these negative thoughts, something many adults wish they had learned as children. Jo shares her own true-life story with Ashley. Jo was raised in a good home, but false beliefs caused her to choose tough romantic relationships as an adult. While in a relationship with a malignant narcissist, Jo realized she deserved better. She left the relationship and took the time to understand herself and reprogram her false beliefs. Join Ashley and Jo as they explore ways to nurture a strong, positive mindset in children, fostering lifelong mental well-being. Jo's Official Website: www.LittleBlueZen.com  Facebook: @LittleBlueZen Instagram: @Little.Blue.Zen  YouTube channel @LittleBlueZenBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Processing and understanding our emotions and seeing our inherent value are two things we strive to achieve in our lifetime. Some of us are still struggling to master one or both of these goals. As adults many of us aren’t taught this by our family or parental unit because they were not taught it by their parents. The younger we are able to grasp these concepts and implement them the happier we will be with ourselves and in life. Joining me on today’s show is Sharmilla Fassbender, counselor, mother of four, and children’s author. Sharmilla has written three inspiring children's books, each carrying a meaningful lesson to help kids navigate life’s challenges. Through her storytelling, she empowers children to embrace growth and resilience. Her latest book, Fantastically Me!, encourages kids to embrace their uniqueness, while her upcoming release, Angry? That’s Ok!, teaches kids that anger is an emotion, but also explores healthy ways to express and manage it. Sharmilla’s books offer valuable insights not just for children but for adults as well. Tune in as we discuss her work and the powerful lessons it imparts.You can find Sharmila's books and information belowWebsite: www.bfgminds.com Amazon:https://a.co/d/1QMKGXiInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/bfgminds?igsh=MXI4bzNqbmM3bmdwFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18yiupna1c/  Empowering Kids Through Stories: Sharmilla Fassbender’s Inspiring BooksLife Lessons for Kids: Sharmilla Fassbender on Emotions, Growth, and StrengthBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Many of us suffer with some type of ailment. And many of us don’t want to take a pill or live in pain. What if you could solve the problem with no side effects? I came across a life-changing device that I wear everyday since May of 2024. After experiencing positive effects on a daily basis, I decided it was time to interview the creator of this life-changing device. Are you ready to embrace a healthier, more balanced way of living? The WAVwatch uses the power of sound therapy, sending frequencies through your body to realign your energy naturally. Several famous scientists including Royal Raymond Rife and Nikola Tesla have developed and experimented with frequency reseting and healing. WAVwatch founder and creator Linda Bamber Olson joins me on today's show. Linda is a teacher, speaker, writer, and nutritionist, and has a B.S. in Food Science & Nutrition with an N.D. certification. Linda found there was a need for an easier way to protect and help heal people with many common health issues. Whether you’re suffering with PTSD, anxiety, ADD, lower back pain, and the list goes on, this watch can help you. Worn on your wrist, the WAVwatch provides customized frequencies based on your symptoms or diagnosis, offering a natural alternative to traditional treatments. Tune in to today’s podcast to learn more about the WAVwatch and what it can do for your health and wellness. Go online today and order your WAVwatch: https://buy.wavwatch.com/?ref=ashley100 Be sure the coupon code of Ashley100 appears in the coupon code area! I wear my watch everyday. (I did not receive any money for gifts for this interview- this product works!) Experience Wellness in a Whole New FrequencyHealing Through Frequencies: Meet the WAVewatch Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

A quarter-life crisis typically occurs in your 20s or 30s, bringing feelings of uncertainty and questioning the path your life is taking. This crisis affects a lot of people. Many factors go into why people have this crisis in their lives. It’s a common experience influenced by various factors, with comparison being significant. Many young adults find themselves measuring their progress against others, often leading to feelings of inadequacy or incompleteness. Today, we’re joined by Erica Connor our resident specialist, on quarter-life crises, mid-life crises, and the challenges of growing adults who struggle to gain independence from their parents. Together, Erica and I will explore the concept of a quarter-life crisis, how to better understand it, and ways to create positive change, whether for yourself or to help your kids to avoid its pitfalls. You can schedule a session with Ericka, myself, and our other therapists at https://www.ashleyberges.com/.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

We hear the term narcissist thrown around a lot in daily discussion. However not all narcissism and narcissists are created equal. Some people possess a few narcissistic tendencies while others seem to display all signs and symptoms. However their is a more extreme form of narcissism that makes the regular brand of narcissism look like child’s play. A Malignant Narcissist is a narcissist that demonstrates others signs and symptoms that an overt or covert narcissist does not. This type of narcissism goes far beyond being self-absorbed or grandiosity. Under the surface, their thoughts and actions can have a calculated and sinister approach, causing significant hurt and pain to those around them. Understanding the malignant narcissist is crucial for setting boundaries and safeguarding ourselves. By identifying their traits and gaining a deeper understanding of their behavior, we empower ourselves to navigate these challenging relationships. When it comes to the malignant narcissist, knowledge truly is power.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Empathy is a wonderful personal quality, caring for others goes hand-and-hand, and giving others the benefit of the doubt goes a long way with respect to specific situations and circumstances. We can acknowledge other people's pain and life stressors. However at what point does making excuses for others actions and choices become unhealthy? Are we unintentionally enabling unhealthy behaviors? During this podcast, I fully discuss and explain when making excuses crosses the line into unhealthy territory. Recognizing when these excuses hold us back from doing what’s best for us or doing what is best for someone else. The more we stop making excuses for our actions, the less likely we are to make excuses for others. There's a fine line when excusing specific behavior becomes unhealthy, both for the people in our lives and in our own life. It’s also important to remember that we cannot judge others’ behavior without first looking at our own. Understanding this balance allows us to maintain healthier relationships and live more authentically. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

There is no better time than right now! We need to think about the value of the present moment and how important that is to all of us. It's time to get off the couch and get moving. Joining me today is children’s author Russ Rogers. Russ has written a new children’s book series called, The Today Series. Russell’s inspiration comes from being outdoors and experiencing life in the moment. He emphasizes that movement is not only physical but mental. Russ’ books are for parents wanting to make a change in their own lives and their children’s lives. His books are about connecting families, getting outside, moving, and doing things together. Russ Rogers Website- www.movetoday365.comFollow Russ on Instagram @movetoday365 Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

As one of the youngest philanthropists in the country and children’s author, ten-year-old Amelie Anastasia is chasing her dreams and accomplishing things most adults have only dreamt about. Amelie wrote her first book at the age of eight and now has just released her third book, Wolf Tales. Amelie enjoys writing books about friendship, courage, and preserving our natural world. All of the earnings from her books go to supporting animal welfare programs and wildlife conservation efforts.  Listen in today as this amazing young change-maker, Amelie joins me to talk about what it is like to be a change-maker, her three books, and her desire to make things right in the world.  Amelie Anastasia's Official Website: www.amelieanastasia.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you feeling New Year’s Eve FOMO creeping in? Every year, all the pomp and circumstance leading up to New Year's celebrations can make us feel like we are missing out. Some of us love the evening, and others deplore it. Perhaps you used to love it, but as time has gone on, you have realized that it’s over-hyped and just another night in the books. Maybe you have been jaded by a previous experience and do not want to repeat it. Listen to this podcast to get real how-to ways to get over disappointment past NYE events, avoid falling for all the New Year’s Eve hype, be able to stop overvaluing this one night a year, and learn how to put all of this into perspective to better your life. Join me today as I discuss what you can do to not get let down by New Year’s Eve and start the first day of the New Year on a positive note.  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Self-Limiting beliefs hold us back, creating life obstacles that impair our ability to cultivate healthy relationships, pose a barrier to understanding and embracing our true identity, and stands in the way of our personal success. Our self-limiting beliefs lead to patterns of self-sabotage that keep us from enjoying our life. It’s important to understand where these beliefs come from and learn techniques on how to reprogram them. Lea Fisher joins me on Live Your True Life Perspectives to discuss self-limiting beliefs, how to successfully work with the inner child, and how to effectively reprogram the beliefs that are holding us down. Lea is a therapist and professional artist who works with me at the Live Your True Life Institute. If you feel it is the right time to address, explore, and eliminate your self-limiting beliefs, you can set up a session with Lea online at https://www.ashleyberges.com/coaching/ Once we work to eliminate our self-limiting beliefs, life becomes more fulfilling and less difficult. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

False hope makes you more vulnerable to manipulation and emotional triggers from a narcissist. Understanding how false hope works is crucial otherwise, it often leads us to lose our identity and life goals. The narcissist will use future faking in an attempt to manipulate and control you, making promises that will never be fulfilled. Once we can recognize what is happening, we can then safeguard ourselves and move forward in a healthier life and direction. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Being in a toxic relationship is painful but even more painful is trying to free yourself from the relationship and move on with your life. Telling your friends and family about the relationship can be helpful until they begin to question why you are still in the relationship. They have heard you speak of the lying, the cheating, the screaming, and anything else that has taken place that is less than healthy and wonder why you are still exposing yourself to the situation. If you’re in one of these types of relationships that began with intense love bombing, you have seen the best of the relationship and afterwards how things augment. Whether you are dealing with full on manipulation, gaslighting, lying, cheating, and more, this podcast will help you to hear a true life situation and how this person is mentally and emotionally working to overcome a relationship that has taken over his life.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Narcissists have a unique ability to manipulate and trigger you to get the supply they crave, often without you even realizing it's happening. This powerful form of manipulation can leave you feeling out of control, as they repeatedly push your buttons and bait you into doing things you would not normally do. This narcissistic tactic is used to control and find fault with you. In today’s episode, we’ll dive deep into narcissistic manipulation and emotional abuse and explore steps you can take to recognize it and overcome it.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Reconnecting with your Inner child, overcoming personal fears, putting yourself out there, helping children to express their feelings, and the Adventures of Snuggs. On today’s show, I’m thrilled to speak with author Ashley Donegan. Ashley has recently published her book, Adventures of Snuggs, Ashley draws motivation from her love for animals to create delightful and heartwarming stories. Teaming up with her daughter, her creative partner, and her greatest inspiration, Ashley combines her storytelling talent and art to bring these stories to life. Many of us had or still have our favorite blankey, I did! This show is not just about the book, it's about an author that has overcome extreme obstacles, and created a story that will touch all of our hearts.With several more children’s books planned for the future, Ashley hopes to inspire parents and children to embrace and openly share their emotions. She believes that these types of conversations will make a positive impact on the world.Ashley Donegan's Official Website: www.OneMamasHeart.com Follow Ashley Donegan On Social Media:Instagram: @OneMamasHeartFacebook: @OneMamasHeartBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

On today’s show, we will dive into the concept of trauma bonds, exploring what they are and how to understand them. We’ll break down the seven stages of trauma bonding and learn how to distinguish a trauma bond from real love. Additionally, we’ll examine why some individuals are more vulnerable to forming trauma bonds than others. Many people are unaware of the extreme emotional pain that comes with ending a trauma bond relationship. Understanding this dynamic is essential to protect yourself and avoid extreme heartache.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Are you the black sheep or the golden child of your family? Your role within the family can significantly shape your experiences and relationships. What parental dynamics led to this structure?  As we age, how does this dynamic change? As young children, we often don’t realize whether we are the golden child or the black sheep, but over time, the division between siblings grows, along with feelings of resentment. The parents create this division to make them look better in front of others, bragging about the golden child's accolades. Join me as I discuss the lasting impacts of being labeled the black sheep or the golden child and how painful this can be, especially for those stuck in between, as well as what happens when the black sheep becomes more successful than the golden child.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Our thoughts often revolve around where we are, what we're facing, and the uncertainties of the future. We may wonder what will happen to us, our friends, or our aging parents. Fear of the unknown can creep in, especially if we're an only child or only responsible adult child with all of these responsibilities. It can feel overwhelming. How do we navigate these challenges? How do we process and respond to them? There are no right or wrong answers, there are no directions. We’re all just trying to figure it out as we go, hoping for the best. In today’s show, I want to discuss how we process these situations, compartmentalize our emotions, and move forward when a parent, family member, or friend isn’t listening to us or considering our thoughts and opinions. What can we do to put things back into perspective when we are trying to help our aging parents, family members, or friends and they don’t want to take our advice? We need to learn to be okay with that. We can offer guidance and support but can't force anyone to see things our way.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Love bombing and real love are two completely different things. The scariest part of being love bombed is that most of us don't know we're being love bombed. On this episode of the podcast, I’ll address what is love bombing, the phases of love bombing, the signs and symptoms of being a victim of love bombing, the relationship patterns of a love bomber, and why we fall into the trap of believing this is true love and a perfect relationship. In the beginning, of a relationship that begins with love bombing, we believe we have found the ultimate relationship. We get caught up in the whirlwind of the “romance,” believing we have found the love that is only seen in romantic films. I want to help you to identify love bombing before you get extremely hurt mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Listen through to the end of this podcast episode to properly educate and self-guard yourself from emotional pain and suffering.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

When we are raised in an environment with a parent who has the signs and symptoms of BPD, we do not realize the impact that it has on our daily lives. As children, we often had no idea what was going on with mom or dad. One minute everything seemed great and the next minute it felt as though we were living amid an emotional roller coaster.  It was always confusing, wondering which version of them we would get on any particular day. As children, this is a very difficult situation to live with, no one explained to us what was going on. In the process, it felt like we had lost our childhood to their emotions, constantly trying to change into what we thought they wanted us to be. On today’s show, I am going to talk about what it is like to be raised by a parent who has signs and symptoms of BPD. What it is like to deal with this as an adult. What does it do to us, how does it affect us, and our choices based on these situations?  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Many of us feel let down by others. Being let down seems to happen more than not in today’s society.  They tell us they are going to do something and they don’t. What do we do about this? How do we handle it? How do we move on? On Today’s show, we are going to take a deep dive as to why we are let down, understand the process that takes place, and enable us to look at our own lives. This will allow us to figure out why this happens to us and what we can do to move on.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

On today’s show, I am talking about adjacent stress. Adjacent stress is the stress that others have and its impact on your life. It is other people’s stress and because of our relationship with them, it affects our lives. This stress can come from our spouse, our children, parents, best friend, family, and other friendships. Some people do not feel this stress, while others are highly impacted by it. If you are dealing with someone’s adjacent stress, this is the podcast for you. We need to understand adjacent stress and how to deal with it. It is great to care, but it can be difficult when we are dealing with our stress and taking on adjacent stress as well.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Stress, stress, and more stress! Many of us are under an immense amount of stress every day. This stress can come from our career, our home life, lifestyle, situations, family, relationships, regrets, and the state of the world. When we think of stress, how do we define it and how do we deal with it? We need to take a look at the choices that we have made and choices that we have not made in our lives that have created havoc and stress for us. Join me today as I take a deep dive into stress, where it is coming from, and what we can do right now to make changes In our lives to offset some of our stress.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Today’s show will discuss science and keeping our children up to date on the most innovative ways to obtain accurate information for them to learn. Joining me is Dr Penny Norman. Dr. Norman has a Ph.D. in Biophysics from UC Berkeley. Dr. Penny is dedicated not only to children but also to education. She has written more than 20 Science STEM books for elementary-aged children over the last 20 years. A number of these STEM books have sold millions of copies. These titles are based on years of work with children in the classroom and in after-school programs. She and her editor Ann Einstein have tested these materials and books over many years. Some projects work. Some do not. Some engage children. Others do not. It is only through years of “watching their faces” that activities have been sourced and selected.Her books and kits have received numerous awards, including Family Choice Award 2018 – GOLD MEDAL, Multiple Creative Child Magazine Awards, Scientific American’s Young Reader’s Book Awards, Good Morning American’s Top Ten Children’s Toys, multiple National Parenting Magazine Awards, The Parent’s Choice Seal of Approval, PUZZLE of the YEAR from Games Magazine, and a Modern Library Award. See ScienceWiz.com for an almost complete list of her titles.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

On Today’s show, we will identify the people in our lives that we pay to be in our lives. Our doctors, lawyers, accountants, and therapists are just a few examples of the people we pay to be in our lives. We pay these people to help us in our lives. We need to identify who these people are and be confident that they have our best interests in mind, often we lose sight of this. We need to make sure that the people we are paying and giving power to in our lives are there for us and give us the best possible care, advice, and interest in our lives. We need to understand why we chose these people to help us, and what it is that causes us to stick with them when they may not be the best choice for us. We give them power and hope they do the right thing. We must find people that share some of our values.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

Have you ever found yourself offering a suggestion, only to be quickly turned down? The feeling of being shut down can be very disheartening. Today I want to talk about a group of society that tends to gravitate toward individuals who think they know it all. However, the reality is that very few know it all. This same type of person also seems to gravitate toward others who are narcissistic in nature. The heart of the matter lies in the issue that they only take advice from supposed know-it-alls without wanting to consider input from anyone else. This behavior most likely comes from their upbringing and family dynamics. This behavior seems to work for these individuals because it is something they are accustomed to. What works for them is very frustrating to the rest of us who care about them. The frustration is evident when the responsibility of caring for these individuals falls on our shoulders, and they refuse to take advice from anyone outside of their chosen know-it-alls.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

On today’s show, I dive into the complicated relationship where one minute they love you and the next they don’t. This leaves us never knowing what is going to happen next. The uncertainty that goes along with this type of relationship has an impact on our daily lives leaving us stressed, overwhelmed, and unable to focus. Often, we find ourselves losing our sense of self, fearing being left, having our partner get angry at us, or blaming us for everything wrong. There is a lack of responsibility on their part, expecting everyone else to be responsible but them. A big part of our journey is to recognize and realize what we are dealing with. We need to ask ourselves if this relationship is worth saving. Are we both doing the work necessary to have this relationship move forward? Also, do we deserve this type of person in our lives? We cannot let their behavior rub off on us, we need to set boundaries and make sure those boundaries are respected. Are we willing to walk on eggshells our whole life with them or are we ready to take a stand for our well-being?Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

As children, we all wanted to be the popular kid. We wanted everyone to like us. We wanted to be the kid chosen first for the team. However, no matter what we may have done there was always one or two kids who did not like us. What happens when we are adults and this desire to be liked by everyone continues in our lives? What about us causes us to want to be liked by everyone? On today's show, I am going to be talking about why we want to be liked so badly. I am going to examine the roots of our desire for popularity and how it shapes us as adults. Are you a people-pleaser, or can you be authentically yourself without needing outside validation? It is important to understand the difference between people-pleasing and being an authentic person. We need to take a deeper look into if our childhood is triggering us. Understanding why we do things, why we make certain choices, and why some things really impact us is key to our seeing who we are. We need to uncover the reasons why being liked by everyone still impacts our lives as adults.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.

What does it mean to be authentic? On today’s show, we are going to be talking about authenticity. Authenticity is something we strive for in our lives. We must learn how to do this for ourselves and other people in our lives. The founder of Bridging Worlds Behavioral Service, creator of Heart-Centered Revolutions, and author of his latest book, Authenticity: The Immense Power to be Yourself, Adam Bulbulia joins us today. Adam is dedicated to showing us how being authentic is powerful and life-changing.You can find information about Adam Bulbulia by following the links below:[https://bridgingworldsbehavioralservices.com](https://bridgingworldsbehavioralservices.com/)https://www.amazon.com/Inspired-Authenticity-Power-Yourself-World/dp/B0B55D8M67[https://heartcenteredrevolutions.org](https://heartcenteredrevolutions.org/)https://www.instagram.com/heartcenteredrevolutions/https://www.facebook.com/heartcenteredrevolutionsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.