Trauma Free Relationship

In this episode we discuss 'why' couples trigger each other. You will learn how the nervous system reacts, the unmet attachment needs that go unnoticed, and the stories you tell yourself that become self-fulfilling prophecies. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCycle Reset:If you are interested in learning more about our Cycle Reset program, click on the link below and sign up for an Exploratory Call to see if you are a good fit. No obligation necessary.Sign up for a Exploratory Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss the hidden benefits of negative cycles. You will learn why cycle may have hidden benefits, and how to uncover them so you can get your 'real' needs met. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCycle Reset Program:If you want to learn more about our Cycle Reset program you can sign up for an Exploratory Call and we would be happy to walk you through the program to see if you are a fit. Sign up for a Exploratory Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how even the best communicators cannot fix a bad cycles. In fact, cycles break down communication. Find out why? Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/Download our FREE "Get to the Root of the Problem eBook:https://traumafreerelationship.com/getting-to-the-root-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCycle Reset Program:If you are interested in learning more about our Cycle Rest program you can schedule a Clarity Call at the link below and we can discuss if you are a good fit. Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss, 1) Why anger is not the primary emotion, 2) What anger is really masking, and 3) How anger fuels cycles that keep couples stuck. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCycle Reset Program:We help couples break their painful patterns that keep them stuck so they can communicate better, repair more quickly, and stay connected longer. If you are interested in learning more about how we can help, I invite you to sign up for a Clarity Call and see if you are a good fit for our program. Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss what to say instead of getting defensive, as well as the 3 defensive ways to derail a conversation. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpRelationship Cycle ResetIf you are interested in learning more about how to break the painful cycles that keep you stuck in your relationship. You can book a clarity call and find out more. There is not obligation. Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

Learn the exact script that can de-escalate almost any argument and prevent cycles from occurring. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss why the painful patterns keep reoccurring in your relationship and why they all look the same. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilp

In this episode we discuss how the cycle can take over the relationship and break down communication and connection. We often want to blame our partner, but the true culprit is the cycle. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss one of the major issues couples deal with, which is dysregulation. When communication breaks down it's because one or both partners have been trigger. The key to better communication is better regulation. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/Find us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

Intergenerational trauma is trauma that didn't start with you. We explore this and much more as we dive into what intergenerational trauma looks like in your life and relationships. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFREE Couple Guide on "Getting to the Root of the Problem"https://traumafreerelationship.com/getting-to-the-root-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode, we will discuss the challenges of disorganized attachment from within the perspective of those who identify with this pattern, as well as those who may be in a relationship with someone who fall into this category. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFREE Get to the Root of the Problem eBookhttps://traumafreerelationship.com/getting-to-the-root-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpWork with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how to self-soothe when feeling like connection is lost between you and your partner. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss the greatest challenge for avoidant attachment - co-regulation. Learn what causes avoidant attachment and practical steps to learn how to reach out for others in times of need. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/Find us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how to listen without being defensive, and how to notice when others are. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/Find us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how to move toward a secure attachment as an adult, knowing that it is a practice, not a destination. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/Find us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how to move from a inner critic of self-blame, to a more compassion sense of self. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideWork with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

Join us in this episode to discover why trauma requires relationships. Spoiler alert, we are talking about healing, corrective relationships that help us co-regulate. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFollow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpWork with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss the limits of insight to heal trauma and what really works. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss the difference between trauma creeping to the relationship, versus true incompatibility. FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideWork with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:  https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we ask 4 questions that need to be answered in order to make better repairs in your relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we are going to discuss attachment anxiety. Like a smoke alarm that is too sensitive, our attachment anxiety can detect danger even when we don't want it too. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

Your communication style is directly affected by the way you learned to adapt to your environment. In this episode you will learn how your attachment style developed and how to shift to a more secure style of communication. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how to change your partner by changing the system. If you react differently, it forces your partner to respond differently, thereby changing the pattern. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode you will learn what a trauma bond is, how it forms to an insecure attachment, and safe steps to begin healing from a trauma bond. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode you will learn to recognize the inner child, how the attachment environment shapes the inner child, and the 3 steps necessary to start working on healing the inner child. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode you will discover why you experience shame from your trauma, how it shows up in your relationship, and safe techniques to help you heal from shame that was created from your relational trauma. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode we discuss how trauma impacts our general mental health. By the end you will understand how trauma impacts our relational, emotional, physical, and cognitive health. You will also get some safe ways to improve your mental health whether you are working on your trauma or not. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly with me to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, secure relationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out a customized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call:   https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

In this episode you will learn how the body stores trauma, how your nervous system shapes attachment patterns, and how reconnecting to your body helps rebuild trust and safety in your relationship. If you want to build more trust in yourself and others after suffering from attachment trauma, this channel will provide you with actionable strategies and tactics to help you build a more safe and secure relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. Hehas spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolvetheir relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more securerelationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment: https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guideCheck out our Weekly Podcast:Trauma Free Relationship Podcast on Apple Podcast: https://shorturl.at/myobbTrauma Free Relationship Podcast on Spotify: https://shorturl.at/BwaDPFind us on Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationshipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/Follow Us on YouTube:YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilpCoaching Program:Work with me privately – If you’d like to work directly withme to regain trust in yourself and others and create a more safe, securerelationship, just schedule your free Clarity Call so we can map out acustomized 3-step action plan to start you on your healing journey.Sign up for a Clarity Call: https://shorturl.at/ar01k

In this episode we outline how to build trust after trauma by targeting two systems: the defensive/protective system and the attachment system. By the end of this podcast you will learn how both work to help and protect you, and some safe tips on how to lead more with your attachment drive to build safe and trusting relationships.

In this podcast we are going to talk about how to regain a sense of vulnerability with your partner, AND maintain a sense of safety as well. By the end you will be able to know what vulnerability looks like, what a safe partner looks like, and practical tips to practice both.

In this episode we will debunk 10 myths around relational trauma. By the end you will have more compassion for your healing journey, and begin to see that growth is really possible when we let go of some of the beliefs that surround trauma.

Join us in this episode where we explore how to build self-trust after trauma. By the end you will learn what destroys self-trust, what it looks like in your relationship, and safe tips to begin building self-trust.

In this episode we discuss how to overcome self-abandonment. This coping strategy is learned when others reject or abandon us in our moment of need. As a result we learn to ignore our needs at the expense of the needs of others. Be sure and listen to till the end where we explore ways to stay grounded in our self.

In this episode we tease apart how to understand if your trauma is impacting the relationship, or whether the relationship is the problem. Knowing what to look for and how to ask the right questions can be half the battle. Join us!

Join us in this episode as we reveal the 3 words trauma survivors struggle to say in their relationships. "No," "Help," and "Sorry," are often difficult words so say. Why? Because they come from a place where the trauma survivor was adapting to a maladaptive environment, so these words are associated with more danger than safety.

In this episode we discuss how to prevent from shutting down emotionally in your relationship. We outline where this protective strategy came from, how it shows up, and more importantly ways we can create more flexibility in this style of coping.

In this episode we break down the 5 most common ways past relational trauma can impact your current relationship. These include: Difficulty trusting self and other, emotion disregulation, unhealthy attachment patterns, exaggerated fears of abandonment and rejection, and inability to repair disruption when it occurs. Don't miss this episode!

In this episode we unpack why the fawn response, or people pleasing has become a coping strategy, and how your nervous system learned to use this strategy to keep you safe. We also outline action steps to challenge this pattern so you can feel free to say "no" without the guilt.

In this episode we unpack how to stop the trauma cycle of choosing emotionally unsafe and unavailable partners. We break down this cycles to understand each link in the chain, and more importantly, we walk through how to break this cycle.

Join us in this episode where we discuss ways to regain trust in oneself after relational/attachment trauma. We explore the emotional landscape, as well as the mindset of the trauma survivor and what they have to deal with on a daily basis, then outline science backed strategies to help regain trust. A can't miss episode!

Join us in this episode where we explore the concept of reflection and its importance in relationships. The reflective function deepens intimacy and connection by better understanding each other's internal world, allows for increased communication, helps co-regulate, and protects against trauma triggers in each partner.

Join us in this episode, were we discover the different ways misdirection moves couples away from their intended topic and down rabbit holes. This is one of the trickiest issues for couples with trauma; they get caught in communication patterns that limit their ability to stay on topic, and miss the opportunity to resolve issues and problems together.

Attachment trauma often creates a negative internal voice that can rob the trauma survivor of a more peaceful existence. Developing a nurturing internal voice is part of healing trauma. Voices such as: "I deserve this," "It was my fault," "I should be over this by now," can actually prolong the traumatic hold on the individual. Join us as we learn to create a more compassionate, loving internal self-talk.

Being able to take in or internalize the "good stuff" in your relationship is just as important as being able to know your triggers and regulate your emotions. Internalizing love, care, compassion, and empathy from your partner helps to reverse trauma and helps build a new, more positive core belief about yourself. We break down what blocks the ability to internalize the "good stuff" and discuss ways to build this important capacity.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the difference between emotionality versus true emotion in the anxious attachment style. True emotion provides valuable information and has action tendencies that allow the anxiously attached person to reach their goals. Where as emotionality is usually a combination of high anxiety that is defensive in nature and is used to avoid the more vulnerable emotions of fear and abandonment.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the mindset (Internal Working Model) of the avoidantly attached partner. Not trusting that others will be there for them, led them to turn off their longing for connection. They value their own independence and autonomy and are great at self-soothing. To rework their IWM, they need to learn to reach out to others and trust that other can be a dependable resource of comfort and soothing.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the mindset of an anxiously attached partner. This mindset, or Internal Working Model, in attachment terms, is where the individual is sensitive to fear of rejection or abandonment, and as a result needs lots of reassurance in their relationship. We discuss how this mindset comes about, and how to begin changing the anxious attachment style.

Join us in this episode where we discuss when trauma becomes part of who we are and how we see ourselves, or a part of our history. Oftentimes we can have parts of our personality that may be rooted in trauma, but overtime it becomes a part of our personality. In this episode we discuss ways to identify which is which and what to do about it.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the health benefits of cultivating more silence and solitude into our lives. Trauma survivors often struggle with silence and solitude, in part, because it can be triggering for their trauma. Instead of avoiding, they are confronted with the feelings, sensations, thoughts, and images that may emerge. Put into practice, more silence and solitude can be a gift of healing where we become more comfortable in our own body.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the different approaches to treating trauma. The bottom up approach works through the body up to the cognitive center of the brain. Whereas the top down approach works from the cognitive center down through the body. Both approaches are important in the treatment of trauma and both approach have their strengths and weaknesses.