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Trauma Free Relationship — 144 episodes
The Fantasy Partner Versus the Real Partner
The Pain of Being Unseen: Understanding Empathic Failures
Why We Marry Our Emotional History
How To Validate Your Partner
Letting the Good Stuff In
The Hidden Power Dynamics In Every Relationship
Why Relationships Feel Uncertain Before They Transform
How Butterfly's Effect Your Relationship
How To Create 'Real' Transformation In Your Relationship
Why It's Hard To Trust Your Partner When They Say "I'm Sorry"
The Psychology Behind 'Why' Couples Trigger Each Other
The 'Hidden Benefits' of Negative Cycles
Why "Good Communication Skills" Can't Fix Bad Cycles
What You're REALLY Feeling Underneath Anger
What to Say Instead of Getting Defensive
The One Sentence That De-escalates Almost Any Argument
Why Every Fight Feels The Same
Your Partner Is Not The Problem...The Cycle Is
You Don't Need Better Communication...You Need Better Regulation
What Is Intergenerational Trauma?
Finding Solid Ground: Building a Secure Sense of Self for Disorganized Attachment
Lost Connection: Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment
Calming Together: Co-regulation for Avoidant Attachment
Listening Without Being Defensive
Moving Towards Secure Attachment as an Adult
Moving From Self-Blame to Self-Compassion
Why Healing Trauma Requires Relationships
Why Insight is Not Enough to Heal Trauma
Trauma vs. Incompatibility: How to Tell the Difference
How To Make Better Repair In Your Relationship
What Is Attachment Anxiety?
How Trauma Effects Communication Style
How To Change Your Partner
Trauma Bond Symptoms
Healing the Inner Child
Healing From Shame and Trauma
Mental Health & Trauma
How to Heal Trauma Through Mind Body Connection
How To Build Trust After Trauma
How To Be Vulnerable and Safe At The Same Time
10 Myths About Relational Trauma
Building Self-Trust
How To Overcome Self-Abandonment
Is It My Trauma, Or Is It The Relationship?
3 Words Trauma Survivors Struggle To Say In Relationships
How Not To Shut Down Emotionally In Your Relationship
5 Ways Relational Trauma Impacts Your Current Relationship
Stop Feeling Guilty For Setting Boundaries
How To Stop Choosing Emotionally Unsafe and Unavailable Partners
Trusting Yourself After Trauma
Seeing Ourselves: Attachment, Trauma, and Reflection
Misdirection in Communication, Or, How To Stay On Topic
Developing a Nurturing Internal Voice
How To Internalize the "Good Stuff" In Relationships
Emotionality Versus True Emotion in Anxious Attachment
Mindset of the Avoidantly Attached Partner
Mindset of the Anxiously Attached Partner
Is This Trauma, Or a Part of Me?
Healing Trauma Through Silence and Solitude
Healing Trauma: Top Down or Bottom Up
Healing Inner Conflict
4 Ways That Limit Healing Your Trauma
What Does Secure Attachment Look Like?
Helping My Partner Understand My Trauma
Supporting Your Partner's Attachment Style When Things Are Good
Couple Goal Setting
How To Manage A Flashback When It Is Happening
How Deescalating Cycles Rebuilds Trust
Resolving The Imaginary Fight
2 Obstacles In Affair Recovery
5 Ways To Cultivate Gratefulness
Surviving Versus Thriving In Your Relationship
Here It Comes Again: Dealing with Anniversary Dates
Mutual Influence in Relationships
Healing Abandonment Trauma
Best 3 Grounding Techniques for Emotion Regulation
A Better Me, Makes A Better We
Healing the Wounds of Shame
Feelings, Feelings, Feelings: Why Are Feelings So Important?
"Never Again:" What is an Attachment Injury?
How To Resolve Conflict With An Anxious Partner
The Importance of Play as a Couple
How To Resolve Conflict With An Avoidant Partner
How To Provide Your Partner A Corrective Emotional Experience
Trauma's Dilemma: Finding Your Way Back From Dissociation
Through the Looking Glass: How Trauma Shapes our Relationship Perceptions
Finding Your Zone: Understanding the Window of Tolerance
Woven Together: Emphasizing the Interconnectedness of Being Human
Beyond the Logic: Unlocking the Wisdom of Your Heart
The Trauma Effect: How Past Hurts Shape Your Present Love Life
Understanding Your Protectors: The Heroes Within
For A Healthy Relationship, Do This, Don't Do That
Tree of Life: Creating New Core Beliefs
The Zeigarnik Effect: Why Unresolved Issues Haunt Your Relationship
The Trust Toolbox: Practical Steps to Healing and Connection
The Anatomy of a Sincere Apology
The Cracks That Can't Be Filled: When Repairing Does More Harm
The Past in the Present: Exploring Transference and Attachment
The Taming of the Triggers: Understanding and Managing Your Emotional Response
You Defense is Talking: Messages Sent by Defensive Behavior
Close Enough to Cuddle, Far Enough to Breathe: Balancing Independence with Togetherness
Dim the Flame: Unmasking Gaslighting in Relationships
The Relationship Reflection: Exploring Present Process
How To Have Difficult Conversations
Can You Love Me In This Place?
What Does It Mean To Work On Yourself?
Behind the Mask: Understanding Narcissism in Relationships
Still Crazy After All These Years: Reflections on 23 Years of Marriage
The High Maintenance Relationship: Embracing the Drama (Together!)
Unscripted Love: How To Make Better Repair Statements
Validated & Alive: Fueling Your Relationship with Understanding
Get To The Root of The Problem
The Secret of Repairing Ruptures: Second Level Communication
Worlds of Meaning: When Couples Get Locked in Different Perspectives
Do you have emotional allergies?
What Happens When Both Partners Have Avoidant Attachment?
Rupture Repair Cycle: The #1 Issue for Couples
How To Live Happily Ever After: Goal Setting for Couples
How To Balance Different Attachment Needs
How To Recognize Your Attachment Needs
How To Protect Your Partner's Vulnerabilities
How To Build Trust After Trauma
How Couples Grow Together
Cultivating Gratitude at Thanksgiving
Am I Broken?
Navigating the Holidays with Trauma
Is it you, or is it me?
Avoidant Attachment Style
Anxious Attachment Style
Empathic Attunement: The Roots of Trust and Resilience
Trauma Triggers
Trauma Cycles
4 Common Questions for Relationships
4 Post Traumatic Growth Tools
Attachment Trauma
Anger Management
4 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
This Equation Will Save Your Relationship
6 Signs of Unresolved Trauma
Attachment Theory
History of Trauma Research
Defining Trauma's Impact on Your Relationship
5 Ways Trauma Impacts Your Relationship
Progressive Relaxation Audio