Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex

In this episode, we unzip the recent Fifth Circuit Appeals Court ruling impacting access to mifepristone through telehealth and mail delivery, and why this fight is about so much more than one medication.We walk through what the ruling—and the drug maker’s appeal—means for people living under the Fifth Circuit and beyond. We emphasize why telehealth access matters, and how decisions like this ripple far beyond abortion care alone. Because when access to medication, providers, and healthcare delivery methods starts getting restricted, it rarely stops with just one issue.We also talk honestly about who carries the heaviest burden when healthcare becomes harder to access: women, people in rural communities, low-income families, and marginalized populations who are already navigating systems that were never built with them in mind to begin with.Throughout the conversation, we call attention to the fear-based narratives that often dominate these issues, the disconnect between policy and public opinion, and the bigger picture of bodily autonomy, healthcare access, and reproductive justice in the United States.And because staying informed matters now more than ever, we share a few ways listeners can take action—from contacting elected officials, to following reliable reporting like Jessica Valenti’s “ABORTION, EVERY DAY” to supporting organizations like The Brigid Alliance that help people access reproductive healthcare when barriers stand in the way.This is a timely, frustrated, deeply human conversation about what happens when healthcare becomes political—and why these conversations cannot stay taboo.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we unzip masturbation without the awkwardness, the myths, or the shame.In honor of International Masturbation Month, we take a candid look at one of the most common, and most misunderstood, forms of sexual expression. We talk about what masturbation actually is, why it shows up differently for everyone, and how it can be a powerful tool for stress relief, self-discovery, and connection with your own body.We break down the myths that have lingered for generations—from physical harm to relationship fears—and where those ideas actually come from. We also explore the real benefits, from improved sleep and mood to increased confidence and body awareness, along with how masturbation can play a role in relationships, healing, and self-care.Along the way, we talk about sex toys, generational shifts, and the reality that for many people, this topic still sits at the intersection of culture, religion, and personal values.At the end of the day, this isn’t about telling anyone what they should do, it’s about making space for informed, judgment-free conversations so you can decide what feels right for you.Because something this normal was never meant to be taboo in the first place.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

Lube is one of the most normal parts of sex play—and one of the least talked about.In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get practical about what actually matters when it comes to lubricants. We break down the three main types—water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based—and how to choose the right one based on your body, your needs, and the kind of sex you’re having.From pH balance and vaginal health to condom compatibility and allergic reactions, we unzip the details that often get overlooked—but can make all the difference in comfort and safety.We also get into the nuance—why not all lubes work the same for every body, how preferences like texture and feel play a role, and what to avoid when you’re in a pinch (because not everything in your bathroom belongs anywhere near your body).This is a candid, judgment-free conversation about making informed choices, asking better questions, and normalizing something that never needed to be taboo in the first place.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Prostate cancer is one of the most common cancers in men—and one of the easiest to ignore.In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we sit down with Dr. Arthur Burnett—Professor of Urology at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, Patrick C. Walsh Professor of Urology, and Director of the Male Consultation Clinic at Johns Hopkins Hospital—to unpack what men’s health conversations too often avoid.From what the prostate actually does to why prostate cancer can develop silently, we get clear on what every man—and everyone who loves one—should know.We talk about the reality that “no symptoms” doesn’t mean “no risk,” and why waiting for something to feel wrong can come at a cost. Dr. Burnett walks us through screening, who’s most at risk, and why factors like family history and race—particularly for Black men—matter more than many people realize.And this conversation goes beyond the clinical.We get into what happens after diagnosis—the treatment decisions, the impact on sexual function, and the often unspoken emotional weight men carry when their sense of identity and masculinity feels tied to their bodies in new ways. From medications to devices to surgical options, we unzip what support and recovery can actually look like—and why silence and stigma only make it harder.This is a candid conversation about advocacy, awareness, and showing up for your health before something forces you to.Because when it comes to prostate cancer, what you don’t feel can still matter—and what you don’t talk about can cost you.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here: ⁠⁠Show suggestions

Violence against women is shaped by the systems, language, and narratives we see every day.In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unpack how normalization happens in plain sight—through headlines that center victims instead of perpetrators, media that desensitize us to harm, and the silence that allows it all to continue. We examine how language shapes accountability, and how easily society shifts responsibility away from the men who violate women’s physical, emotional, and mental safety.This conversation is grounded in the reality of violence against women—stalking, physical violence, sexual assault—and the undercurrent of disbelief, stigma, and fear that keeps so much of it unreported and unspoken. Women are conditioned from childhood to be hypervigilant about our safety—and we carry that reality with us every single day.This isn’t just about awareness—it’s about responsibility.What does it look like to interrupt these patterns? Challenge harmful behavior, rethink the messages we pass down, and refuse to accept systems that were never built with women’s safety in mind. Because change happens in what we say, what we tolerate, and what we’re willing to confront.Because silence doesn’t just protect comfort—it protects the men responsible for this violence.If you’ve been a victim of sexual violence and need someone to talk to, RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline.You can also reach out to the National Domestic Violence hotline. Both hotlines are available  24/7.Check out one of the organizations working to change the culture of violence and harassment against women:  Hassl.UKIf you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we step into a messy, very public story to ask a much bigger question: what happens when someone’s private sexual expression is exposed without their consent?We’re not here for the headlines—we’re here for the ethics.Using the recent coverage surrounding Bryon Noem as a starting point, we unpack the tension between privacy and public curiosity in a digital world where “private” doesn’t always stay that way. We talk about what consent really means when it comes to sharing intimate content, why outing someone—regardless of who they are—crosses a line, and how quickly media can turn personal expression into spectacle.From there, we zoom out.How do gender expectations shape the way we react to what people do in private—especially when men step outside traditional norms? Why is femininity still used as a punchline? Why are some behaviors pathologized, while others are quietly ignored? And who gets protected… versus exposed?We also take a hard look at media framing—how women are often pulled into narratives about men’s behavior, how headlines shift accountability, and how easily bias hides in plain sight.This is a conversation about privacy, power, consent, and the stories we tell about gender. No shame. No clickbait. Just a candid look at what’s underneath it all—and an invitation to start noticing it in the world around you.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

We’re unpacking the myths about college sex and relationships—what’s really happening, what’s exaggerated, and why everyone assumes the worst. Drawing on decades of research, surveys, and real conversations with students, we break down the facts, the media hype, and the social pressures that shape how young adults navigate sex, relationships, and their own values.We also explore the role of fear, expectations, and social norms, and why these misconceptions keep popping up across generations. Along the way, we share practical tips for parents on talking about consent, boundaries, and healthy relationships without shame or judgment. From understanding emotional connections to navigating tricky social situations, this episode offers honest, eye-opening insights and a fresh perspective on casual sex, helping us separate myth from reality and rethink the stories we hear about young adults’ sexual lives.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

Online dating can be thrilling—but it comes with new risks in a world full of apps, smart devices, and AI tricks. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we break down practical ways to stay safe while navigating the digital dating scene, from your first swipe to meeting someone in person.We dive into the evolving landscape of digital risks, including catfishing, scams, oversharing on dating apps, and the emerging threat of AI voice spoofing. Through real stories and practical examples, we share how to set boundaries, recognize red flags, and trust your instincts—so you can date confidently without letting fear take over.Along the way, we explore how technology is changing the way we connect, why awareness matters more than ever, and how simple habits and smart precautions can make online dating safer, more enjoyable, and more empowering. Whether you’re messaging, planning a date, or just curious about staying secure in the digital world, this episode gives you the tools to interact safely, confidently, and thoughtfully in today’s dating landscape.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Reproductive justice isn’t just about pregnancy. It’s about power, policy, and the conditions that shape people’s lives.This week, Unzipping Taboos is proud to participate in Podcasthon, a global movement uniting podcasts to spotlight organizations creating meaningful change. This year, we are honored to highlight SisterSong and their decades of leadership advancing reproductive justice.We talk with Shanti Moore, Birth Justice Training and Curriculum Coordinator at SisterSong, for a wide-ranging conversation about what reproductive justice truly means. Rooted in a framework developed by women of color, reproductive justice goes beyond healthcare — it examines how overlapping systems of oppression impact bodily autonomy, community safety, environmental conditions, voting access, and more.We discuss SisterSong’s RJ101 training, the evolution of their work since 1997, and the birth justice initiatives addressing disparities in maternal health outcomes for Black, Brown, and Indigenous communities. We also explore the vulnerability of pregnancy and postpartum care, the role of faith communities, and why implementing reproductive justice is a lifelong commitment grounded in education, grace, and collective action.As part of this year’s Podcasthon, we’re proud to amplify SisterSong’s mission — and we invite you to learn more, support their work, and join the ongoing effort to build systems where justice is not conditional, but guaranteed.  DONATE to SisterSong To learn more about SisterSong, check out these links: SisterSong.net SisterSong - Become a Member About SisterSong SisterSong RJ Training

In this episode, we unzip the idea of love languages—where it came from, why it resonates with so many people, and where it falls short.We take a closer look at The 5 Love Languages, introduced by Gary Chapman, exploring both its appeal and its limitations. We talk about how the framework can offer couples a shared vocabulary, encourage self-reflection, and open the door to more intentional conversations about care and connection. At the same time, we examine the lack of scientific grounding behind the concept and the ways it can oversimplify complex emotional and relational needs.We also discuss how turning intimacy into quizzes, categories, or checklists can miss the point of real relationships—where needs shift over time, communication is ongoing, and understanding requires adaptability, not labels. From the Platinum Rule (doing unto others as they would like done unto them) to the realities of neurodivergence, aging, illness, and changing capacities for things like touch, we explore why no single framework can fully capture how humans give and receive love.This conversation isn’t about throwing love languages out entirely—it’s about putting them in their place. As a starting point, not a rulebook. A tool, not a truth. And always secondary to curiosity, listening, and the willingness to keep learning your partner—again and again.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this episode, we unzip ball busting—a kink Dr. Sue gets asked about regularly through Hey Dr. Sue, and one that’s often surrounded by judgment, confusion, assumptions, and quiet shame. We talk plainly about what ball busting is and why having accurate language can make these conversations feel less awkward and a lot more human. We focus on what actually matters when it comes to any consensual kink—communication, consent, and safety—covering boundaries, safe words, check-ins, and aftercare, while also clearing up common misconceptions about fetishes along the way. Above all, if you’re curious about or enjoy ball busting, there’s nothing wrong with you.This episode is about answering real questions with care and without judgment. It’s about making space for curiosity, normalizing honest conversations, and reminding listeners that kink—like all aspects of sexuality—can be explored responsibly, safely, and without shame.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we unzip how the menstrual cycle actually works, what influences the likelihood of pregnancy, and why real bodies don’t operate on neat, predictable timelines. We explore how stress, medication, and everyday life can affect cycle timing, while clarifying common misconceptions about ovulation, fertilization, pre-ejaculate, and STI risk.We also talk about emergency contraception, breaking down what options exist, how and when they work best, and why effectiveness can vary from person to person. Along the way, we highlight the importance of access, accurate information, and autonomy when making time-sensitive reproductive health decisions. Our conversation addresses the very real issue of period poverty, highlighting it as a systemic issue connected to education, infrastructure, and dignity—and underscoring why comprehensive menstrual health education matters at every stage of life.This episode offers clarity where there’s often confusion, replacing silence and stigma with practical knowledge and compassion.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we focus on the myths about men’s sexual health and sex, from the idea that men always want sex to assumptions about performance, size, and desire.We unzip male sexual health myths around STI testing, HPV vaccination for men, and why being asymptomatic doesn’t mean you’re in the clear. We also talk about breast health in men, masturbation, “blue balls,” orgasm versus ejaculation, and the belief that certain sexual behaviors define sexual orientation.Along the way, we challenge cultural scripts that say men don’t need seduction, shouldn’t struggle with arousal, and must always initiate sex. No macho myths, no scare tactics—just candid conversation, myth-busting, and permission to let men be full humans with bodies, boundaries, and needs.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we pause.In response to recent current events, we made the intentional choice to set aside what we had planned and instead focus on care for anyone feeling heavy, activated, or emotionally overwhelmed right now. This is a conversation about how moments like this can land in our bodies, not just our thoughts.We talk about why repeated exposure to stories of sexual violence can be destabilizing, and why being compassionate doesn’t require taking in every detail. We discuss the importance of boundaries—around media, around sharing personal experiences, and around the quiet pressure survivors often feel to explain themselves. Protecting your mental health isn’t avoidance; it’s an act of care.We also sit with the anger and grief that can surface when harm feels ongoing and unresolved. Rather than trying to fix or rush past those feelings, we talk about how to make space for them without being consumed—through limits, support, and gentleness with ourselves.This episode isn’t about analysis or answers. It’s about slowing down, breathing, and remembering that you’re allowed to step back, ask for help, and take care of yourself. If you’re struggling, you’re not broken. You don’t have to carry it alone.If you need someone to talk to, RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline is available 24/7 by chat and phone 24/7.If you’re looking for an online support group, try some of the resources from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this episode, we unpack some of the most common myths you’ve probably heard—and maybe even believed—about sex and sexual health. From not being able to get pregnant on your period, to sperm surviving in hot tubs, we unzip many of these ideas to get to the truth of the matter.We talk about misconceptions around condoms, withdrawal, lubrication, oral sex, and STI testing, and explore how myths can lead to confusion, awkward conversations, and risky assumptions.We also challenge familiar narratives about gendered sex drives, virginity and hymens, and the idea that having an STI makes someone undesirable. No scare tactics, no shame—just candid conversation, shared responsibility, and the space and permission to ask better questions.If you’ve ever wondered whether what you were taught about sex is myth or fact, this episode invites you to laugh, rethink a few things, and keep unzipping those taboos.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

What happens when we start asking AI our most vulnerable questions about sex, sexuality, and sexual health? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we talk candidly about why so many people turn to tools like ChatGPT for answers they’re too embarrassed—or too afraid—to ask out loud, and why that makes digital literacy more important than ever. From biased or incomplete information to the loss of nuance, tone, and human context, we unpack where AI can help and where it falls short—especially around sensitive topics like sexual orientation, reproductive anatomy, and sexual health.We also explore why “trust but verify” needs to be the baseline when using AI for anything related to our bodies. Along the way, we look at real examples of inaccurate AI-generated anatomy, discuss why stigma drives people toward anonymous tech solutions, and share safer, more reliable ways to get accurate sex education.This episode isn’t anti-technology—but it is pro-critical thinking, pro-privacy, and firmly rooted in the belief that AI should supplement human expertise, not replace it. If you’ve ever wondered whether AI is a safe or reliable place to learn about sex, this conversation is for you.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we talk about consent as something that lives far beyond sex—and how often it gets missed in everyday interactions.We explore what consent looks like in friendships, workplaces, classrooms, healthcare settings, and long-term relationships, especially in moments where it’s easy to assume instead of ask. From scrolling through someone’s, to sharing private conversations, to touching someone casually, or continuing an argument when the other person is pulling away—we unpack how often boundaries are crossed without anyone naming it.We talk about implied consent, power dynamics, and why “I didn’t mean harm” isn’t the same thing as having consent. We dig into non-verbal cues, withdrawal, and the importance of taking a beat when someone goes quiet, steps back, or needs space—even when that feels uncomfortable. We also discuss consent in healthcare and elder care, where autonomy and privacy are often overlooked, and why consent still matters even when there’s a baseline duty of care.This conversation is about noticing patterns, unlearning habits, and practicing consent as an ongoing process—not a one-time checkbox. As we say, this isn’t about shame or judgement. It’s about awareness, responsibility, and learning how to respect boundaries in meaningful ways that build trust and connection.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we revisit the “male loneliness epidemic” and the so-called “mating crisis.” Since we first talked about it, something important has shifted: women are finding a voice in this conversation and… men are having a reaction.We talk about women naming their worth, setting clearer boundaries, and no longer organizing their lives around being chosen. We explore how that clarity is reshaping the landscape of relationships and exposing expectations that were long treated as invisible or inevitable.This isn’t an episode about dating tips or diagnosing loneliness. It’s about what happens when long-standing scripts start to break: women stop shrinking, expectations are named clearly, and men need to adapt to a changing landscape rather than be centered by it.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we’re joined by Dr. Karen Rayne, co-founder and Director of Education at UN|HUSHED, to unpack the realities of teaching sex ed without consistent standards or modern resources. We talk about why so many programs still lean on the classic “parenting” simulations (like caring for an egg, a bag of flour, or a crying doll) and how those exercises focus on logistics while missing the emotional, mental, and relational realities of parenting.We also get into what inclusive sex education really means, why accurate language matters, and how sex ed has slowly been pushed out of the home. Karen shares why parents — and other trusted adults — don’t need to be experts to advocate for better education or have meaningful conversations with kids.This conversation is about taking sex education seriously — not as a one-time unit or a box to check, but as real preparation for real life. It’s about moving past stand-ins and silence, and building education that actually reflects the emotional, relational, and human realities young people are navigating every day.Learn more about UN|HUSHED and the resources available for caregivers and professionals.To see your state policies around sex ed, check out the Guttmacher Institute.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this New Year’s Eve episode of Unzipping Taboos, we take a moment to look back on our first full calendar year of podcasting—and everything that’s shifted along the way. Highlighting how Unzipping Taboos has evolved into a show that meets the moment, engages with current events, and stays rooted in real-world experiences.We dig into what our Spotify Wrapped data actually tells us (and what it doesn’t), reflecting on why episodes like The Truth About Body Count, Sex and Aging, and our pelvic floor conversations continue to resonate and get shared. For us, the numbers matter less than what they represent: a growing audience that’s hungry for honest, accessible conversations about sexual health—without shame, sensationalism, or clickbait.We also talk openly about our own journeys into sex education and advocacy—why we do this work, how curiosity and resistance shape the show, and what it’s meant to stay authentic while tackling topics like men’s health, pelvic floor health, sexual trauma recovery, consent, and agency. Along the way, we reflect on how modeling boundaries, communication, and the power of consent has become part of the podcast itself.As we close out the year, we share our gratitude—for our listeners, our guests, our partners (including JackandJillAdult.com), and everyone who’s helped make this first year possible. We also look ahead to what’s coming next: continuing to use this space as one of learning, activism, and connection.Thank you for being part of our first year. We’re just getting started!If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the pressures of modern romance—like pickup lines, “the spark,” and all the ways we’re told it’s supposed to go. Spoiler alert: these expectations usually lead to awkward moments, not magical connections.We talk about why being yourself (instead of relying on memorized lines) is way more effective, and why respecting each other’s intentions—whether you’re looking for something casual or long-term—is so important. For most, authenticity over performance wins every time.Next, we unpack the spark—what it really means, why it’s often overrated, and how emotional and intellectual compatibility can be more important than initial attraction. We also dig into how past relationships can shape our present ones—and why it’s more important to like the person you're with than to chase after that initial rush.In the end, we remind ourselves—and our listeners—that real connections don’t need a script. No grand gestures, no perfect pickup lines—just authentic, respectful interactions. It’s about being true to yourself and letting things unfold naturally.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we’re digging into the world of digital intimidation — sextortion, deepfakes, and the non-consensual sharing of intimate content — and the sexual shame that allows these threats to take hold. We each share our own encounters with sextortion attempts and unpack how these messages are crafted to provoke panic, silence, and self-blame. The tech may be newer, but the tactic is familiar: it leverages the shame we’ve been conditioned to fear.We talk about how sexual curiosity and watching porn are still treated as something illicit, and how that judgment becomes the leverage behind digital coercion. We explore why the term “revenge porn” misses the point, what the new Take It Down Act means, and how deepfakes are creating a new layer of harm and confusion around consent and credibility. Throughout our conversation, we rebuke the idea that victims are responsible for what was done to them and highlight the importance of digital literacy and open, shame-free dialogue.At its core, this episode is about understanding how digital threats work and rejecting the shame they depend on. If you’ve ever felt fear around your digital footprint or worried about intimate content online, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a reminder that your sexuality isn’t the problem — the stigma is.If you received a sextortion email you can report it to the Federal Trade CommissionIf you need help getting out of a controlling relationship, you can visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You’ll find information on their page for how to chat, text or call if you need help. If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we had the honor of welcoming our friend and longtime listener, Timothy — a non-binary, queer human from rural Appalachia — for a deeply personal conversation about identity, belonging, and courage.They share what it was like to grow up in a small, deeply religious community where conversations about sex and queerness were kept behind closed doors, if they happened at all. From the confusion of realizing there were no visible examples of people like them to learning how to “blend in” for safety, their story paints an honest picture of what it means to navigate identity in isolation.We talk about the quiet survival skills queer kids develop — code-switching between accents, words, and worlds — and the constant calculation of how safe it is to show up authentically. Those early experiences have since shaped their work in academia, where they now advocate for inclusive spaces through small but powerful gestures of respect, like using preferred names.It’s a conversation that reminds us acceptance isn’t just an urban story — it’s one that needs to echo through every valley, every house of worship, and every family table.Whether you’re a parent, guardian, aunt, uncle, or chosen family, supporting a queer young person starts with connection and knowledge. Here are some trusted resources to help you learn, listen, and show up with love:PFLAG - ResourcesThe Trevor Project - ResourcesGLSEN - Resources  If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we’re unzipping the wild, confusing, and often misunderstood world of the adolescent brain — and what that can mean for risk-taking and decision-making between the ages of 13 and 25.Dr. Sue shares what decades of teaching teens, college students, and future educators have revealed about how young people actually think about risk, pressure, and identity. (Spoiler: they are thinking — just with a brain that’s wired differently than an adult’s.)We dig into why peers matter so much, why “bad decisions” often make developmental sense, and why adults tend to forget what it felt like to be in that stage themselves. We also unzip the mixed messages baked into our laws — from the variation in consent laws, driving at 16, joining the military at 18, renting a car at 25 — and how they fail to reflect what we now know about the developing brain.This episode is all about compassion, clarity, and cutting through the judgment. Adolescence is messy. It’s emotional. It’s confusing. And it’s a phase every single one of us survived — even if we’ve conveniently romanticized our way out of remembering how chaotic it really was.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

This week on Unzipping Taboos, we unzip the myths around the so-called “sexual revolution.” When one hears “sexual revolution” they tend to picture flower crowns, free love, and a big cultural exhale—but underneath all that was a much deeper fight for bodily autonomy, women’s rights, and freedom from patriarchal control.Our conversation explores how the 1960s and 70s reshaped everything from access to birth control to who could open a credit card—and how, decades later, those same battles are still being fought in new forms. We unzip how power shows up in the way we talk about sex: who’s allowed to speak, who gets blamed, and how “morality” is often used to police women and marginalized groups.We examine how controlling the story means controlling the truth—from how data on maternal health and STIs gets reported (or not reported) to the way headlines frame social change as “moral decline.” The result? A fascinating look at how progress and backlash are intertwined—and why allyship, curiosity, and critical thinking matter now more than ever.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

“Stranger danger” has long been the go-to phrase for teaching kids about safety—but it’s outdated and misleading in many ways. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we talk about what really protects children—teaching them consent, trust, and situational awareness.We talk about why giving children the correct names for their anatomy matters, how to create space for curiosity without shame, and what it looks like to empower kids with confidence rather than fear. Just as importantly, we explore how danger isn’t always about faceless strangers, but can come from people children know — which makes it even more critical that adults listen to kids when they say something feels off.At the heart of this conversation is a shift from fear-based warnings to respect-based trust. Because when we empower kids to name their bodies, trust their instincts, and know they’ll be believed, we’re doing more than keeping them safe — we’re teaching them that their boundaries and voices matter.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this post-election episode, we take a breath—and a moment to celebrate. After the November elections, we found ourselves feeling something we hadn’t in a while: optimism. In this episode, we talk about what it means to hold onto that feeling and how to turn it into action.We talk about the power of showing up and how to move from celebration to sustained action.  From reproductive rights to education, equality, and justice, we explore how real progress depends on everyday engagement, not just election cycles. Highlighting that inclusive education and community care, and everyday actions—big and small—can shift the conversation and create lasting change.Hope isn’t passive—it’s a practice. And keeping it alive means continuing to question, challenge, and participate in shaping the world we want to live in.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Not every parent or guardian has a Dr. Sue in their back pocket when questions about sex or sex health. And yet, kids are curious, their questions are valid, and the way adults respond can shape how they understand bodies, consent, and relationships for years to come.In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we call in both compassion and responsibility: What does it mean to give children honest, age-appropriate answers without shame? How do we dismantle outdated, fear-based approaches and replace them with respect, trust, and curiosity? We explore how parents or caregivers can step into the role of safe, trusted guides—even if they never got this kind of guidance themselves.We also share practical tools and resources—like amaze.org and state-by-state curriculum guides—to help parents prepare for conversations that may happen anywhere, anytime: at the dinner table, in the car, or while watching TV together. At the heart of it all, we emphasize honesty, boundaries, and respect—because kids don’t just need facts, they need adults willing to listen and talk without shame.To find out how your state scores on sex education, check out the SIECUS State Profiles If you want to see an overview for the requirements for sex education for your state, including requirements for parental notification check out Guttmacher’s State Laws and PoliciesFor resources for parents/caregivers to learn how to talk to kids about sex, check out amaze’s websiteIf you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

We’ve all seen it on TV, in movies or porn: two people lock eyes, clothes fly off, and somehow it’s perfect. But here’s the truth—spontaneous sex might make for great entertainment, yet for most people (especially in long-term relationships), it’s not the everyday reality.In this episode, we unzip the myth of spontaneous sex and explore the very real, very valid world of responsive desire—the kind that grows with connection, communication, and consent. We talk about how media and porn often set impossible expectations for instant passion, why those narratives can leave couples feeling “less than,” and how planned intimacy can be just as sexy—sometimes even more so—than in-the-moment encounters.We share our thoughts on building emotional closeness, practicing empathy, and navigating changing sexual dynamics over time. The takeaway? Great sex isn’t about chasing camera-worthy moments—it’s about intention, understanding, and choosing each other, over and over again.If you want to read more about different levels of arousal, check out the article that we talk about in the show: Giddy articleIf you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the intersection of respect, chivalry, and consent in our everyday interactions. We unpack how cultural expectations shape our understanding of respect, particularly through common gestures like holding doors open and using titles like "ma'am". We discuss the importance of honoring individual preferences when addressing others and explore how actions rooted in chivalry, while often intended as acts of kindness, can perpetuate power dynamics if they lack true mutual respect and consent.Our conversation examines the delicate balance between chivalry and genuine respect, highlighting how even polite actions can sometimes be tied to outdated gender norms or cultural expectations. As we continue to challenge these norms, we emphasize the need for mutual understanding and communication in all interactions. Ultimately, it’s about respecting personal boundaries, preferences, and choices—no matter how big or small the gesture, and no matter who the gesture is directed towards.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

Stealthing—it sounds like something out of a spy movie, but in reality, it’s a serious violation of consent. In this episode, we unzip what stealthing really is: when someone removes a condom during sex without their partner’s knowledge or consent. It’s a practice that crosses every ethical line, yet it’s still only legally recognized as sexual assault in one state (California).Together with our guest Dr. Jenn Evans, we dig into the legal gaps, the cultural double standards around contraception, and the toxic influence of “red pill” ideology that excuses men’s harmful actions while blaming women. We talk about the human impact—how stealthing robs people of their bodily autonomy—and why shifting societal attitudes about consent is as important as changing the laws.This conversation also shines a light on broader gendered expectations: why women are still blamed for pregnancies despite using contraception, why men’s reproductive sabotage is minimized, and how harmful online communities groom young men into entitlement and misogyny.At the heart of it all, this episode is about consent, power, and respect. Because no matter what the law says, removing someone’s choice is never okay.If you or someone you know has experienced stealthing or any form of sexual assault, you are not alone—and support is available. You can reach out to RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline. They’re available by chat and phone 24/7.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

From Love Island to The Bachelor to Are You My First?, these types of reality shows turn love and sex into a competition. But what does that say about how we see relationships—and ourselves?In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the “gamification” of sex and relationships on reality TV. We unpack how these shows reinforce harmful beauty standards, perpetuate rigid gender roles, and normalize manipulation—all while being marketed as romance. We also explore the hypocrisy of a culture that politicizes marriage for some while turning it into a ratings game for others.At the same time, we talk about what responsible viewing can look like: understanding media literacy, treating contestants as human beings (not villains), and remembering that real relationships don’t look like staged drama on a tropical island. Whether you watch these shows for fun, critique, or guilty pleasure, this conversation unzips what it means to be a thoughtful consumer of relationship “entertainment.”If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

Why do people cheat? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip the messy realities of infidelity. From unmet needs and boredom to revenge, immaturity, or even unresolved trauma, we unpack the many reasons someone might stray — including situations where cheating happens despite a seemingly “happy” relationship.We also distinguish between cheating and consensual non-monogamy, explore the lasting impact on relationships, and ask what it really takes to heal if a couple chooses to stay together. Because at the end of the day, working through the “why” and the “what now” of infidelity comes down to communication, honesty, and self-awareness.Whether you’ve been cheated on, have cheated yourself, or just want to better understand the psychology behind it, this candid conversation shines a light on one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in relationships.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip the tangled narratives around birth control, emergency contraception, and abortion. Too often, political headlines and misinformation blur these terms together — leaving people confused, misinformed, or even shamed for making decisions about their own bodies.We break down the difference between preventing pregnancy and ending one, highlighting how methods like the pill, IUDs, and emergency contraception actually work — and how political rhetoric blurs those lines to push an agenda. We talk about why it matters that we get the science and terminology right, and we question why those who claim to be “pro-life” often fight against the very tools that prevent unplanned pregnancies like comprehensive sex ed and accessible contraception. Together, we call out the dangerous conflation of birth control and abortion, and emphasize the importance of accurate sex ed, and the importance of accountability from policymakers.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

“U.S. fertility rate hits an all-time low — less than 1.6 kids per woman…”  Sounds like an emergency that women are solely responsible for, right? Not so fast.In this episode, we unzip the nuance behind those sensationalist headlines, breaking down the difference between infertility and national fertility rates — ahem, birth rates — and why conflating the two isn’t just misleading, it’s harmful for everyone.We explore how the media often pins declining birth rates on women, while ignoring the real drivers behind reproductive decisions: restrictive laws, lack of parental leave, unaffordable childcare, rising maternal mortality, and — let’s be real — the fact that some people just don’t want kids And that’s valid.Join us as we unzip what a headline about “fertility rate” really means — and why it’s time to stop blaming women for a trend that reflects a much bigger, more complex pictureIf you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Pronouns are more than grammar—they’re about respect, identity, and creating safer spaces for everyone. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip the power of pronouns in conversations about sex, gender, and relationships. From understanding what they are (and aren’t), to why they matter so deeply, we break down the cultural tension and political pushback surrounding something that should be simple: calling people what they want to be called.We discuss the generational learning curves, how language evolves, and the dangers of forced disclosure policies. With our signature humor, honesty, and empathy, we  explore the harm of misgendering, the lifesaving impact of affirming language, and how we can all do better—even if we’re still learning. Because using the right pronoun isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being present.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

We’re back for Part 2 of our dive into men’s health — and this time, we’re going deeper into the quiet, often invisible pressures that men face around body image, masculinity, and emotional wellbeing.We continue to explore how the “man box” not only limits expression but also distorts how men see themselves — physically and emotionally. From six-pack abs to emotional stoicism, we break down the messages men are fed and how those expectations show up in relationships, mental health, and even doctor’s visits (or lack thereof).We unzip how these issues affect intimacy, how shame and silence keep men from seeking help, and why it’s time for all of us — men, women, partners, parents, providers — to stop mocking, start listening, and rewrite the scripts around masculinity.This episode is a call to shift from judgment to curiosity, from silence to support. Because unzipping men’s health means making space for vulnerability — and that benefits everyone.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

What do you do when you don’t have access to someone like Dr. Sue? For many people, the answer is: Dr. Google.In this episode, we’re unzipping the pros and cons of turning to online searches, AI tools, and social media for answers to sex and health questions. We unzip why people turn to the internet—often out of necessity—and how it can be both empowering and problematic. We talk about the convenience, anonymity, and access online platforms can offer, especially for those without trusted providers or inclusive care. But we also explore the risks: misinformation, shame-driven algorithms, biased sources, and search results shaped by politics and profit.From privacy concerns and symptom checkers, to Reddit rabbit holes and the need for critical thinking, this conversation is for anyone who’s ever typed a vulnerable question into a search bar and hoped for something close to the truth.Because sometimes the internet is the best option—and we think you deserve better than a vague blog post or sponsored ad.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

We made it to 50 episodes—and for the first time ever, you can watch us talk about sex (and all the things that come with it). That’s right: Unzipping Taboos is officially a video podcast! Whether you're tuning in on Spotify or YouTube, welcome to our faces.In this milestone episode, we reflect on how far we've come—from a humble Q&A idea to a full-blown show committed to candid, inclusive, and often-censored conversations about sexuality. We talk about what’s changed, what we’re still fighting for (hello, shadowbanning), the feedback that fuels us, and the big dreams we have for what’s next.Join us as we celebrate this moment, say thank you, and unzip a little behind-the-scenes honesty about what it really takes to make sex ed happen.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In Part 1 of this 2 part conversation, we begin to unzip the disconnect between what we know about men’s health and what actually gets talked about (or acted on). We look at how the cultural expectations of masculinity shape how men see their bodies, their emotions, and their healthcare decisions.We talk about why so many men avoid the doctor, the toll of untreated mental health issues, the reality behind sexual health gaps, and how gender norms quietly influence everything from check-ups to suicide rates. If you’ve ever wondered why men’s health feels like an afterthought — or if you’ve tried to support a man who’s resistant to going to therapy or the doctor — this conversation offers a human, judgment-free lens on a very real public health issue.Check out A Call to Men and the important work they do around education and community to transform the social expectations of masculinity. To learn more about “The Man Box” check out: What is The Man Box and Tony Porter’s Ted TalkIf you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Why is the United States—one of the wealthiest nations in the world—leading in maternal deaths among high-income countries? And why are Black women three times more likely to die from pregnancy-related causes than white women?In this episode, we unzip the urgent and often-overlooked crisis of maternal mortality in the U.S. We dig into how systemic racism, lack of access to quality healthcare for everyone, abortion restrictions, and profit-driven medical systems contribute to hundreds of preventable deaths each year. Highlighting that this isn’t a “new” problem, but one that has been allowed to persist in the shadows—especially for women of color.We also talk about the human cost of recent abortion bans, the chilling effect on healthcare providers, and the hypocrisy in the "pro-life" movement, while doing so little to protect people throughout pregnancy, during childbirth, and through post-partum. This conversation is a call to stop looking away and start giving a damn.Whether you’re someone who’s planning a pregnancy, supporting someone through one, or simply believe in human rights—this episode is for you.Because birth shouldn’t be a death sentence. And staying silent? That’s not an option.To learn more about the important work and information Black Mamas Matter does, click here: https://blackmamasmatter.org Click here to find the article Dr. Sue talked about, you can find that here: https://blackmamasmatter.org/our-work/key-readings/To learn more about this and find ways you can become involved - check out The Center for Reproductive Rights: https://reproductiverights.org/our-regions/united-states/If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Pelvic floor therapy isn't just about Kegels—and it isn’t just for women. In this follow-up episode with pelvic health physical therapist Dr. Cara, we go deeper into what it really means to treat the whole person through the pelvic floor. From bowel issues to sexual pain to emotional trauma, this conversation reveals the wide-ranging impact pelvic health has on everyday life, and why so many patients—especially men—aren’t getting the care they need.Together, we tackle misconceptions about chronic pain and the very real risks of following advice like “just do Kegel exercises.” They also explore how emotional wellness, professional collaboration, and inclusive communication shape better outcomes for patients of all genders and backgrounds.Whether you're curious about how pelvic therapy works, frustrated by misdiagnosis, or simply want to feel seen in your health journey, this episode makes space for all of it—with honesty, heart, and humor.Want to learn more about Dr. Cara and how pelvic floor physical therapy can support your health? Explore her Patient Education page for approachable, helpful info on the many conditions it can help treat—and how to get started.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

What do leaking, libido, and lower back pain have in common? More than you might think. In this episode, we sit down with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Cara to talk all things pelvic health—from the muscles you didn’t know you had to the intimate connections between pain, pleasure, and pelvic function.We dive into what a pelvic floor physical therapy evaluation actually looks like, what your nervous system has to do with your pelvic muscles, and why pelvic PT is still so misunderstood—even by medical professionals. Dr. Cara shares personal insights, professional tips, and candid truths about working in a healthcare system that doesn’t always make room for whole-person care.This episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever had sex, plans to, or simply wants to feel more at home in their body. Whether you’re dealing with pain, curious about your anatomy, or just want to know what your pelvic floor has been up to all these years—we’ve got you.Want to learn more about Dr. Cara and how pelvic floor physical therapy can support your health? Explore her Patient Education page for approachable, helpful info on the many conditions it can help treat—and how to get started.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

The term sex positive is everywhere—on social media, in classrooms, even in dating profiles. But is it as inclusive and liberating as it claims to be?In this episode, we dig into the unintended consequences of a term that's often used as a shorthand for open-mindedness, but can actually create new forms of judgment and exclusion. We share personal stories and lived experiences that reveal how the label can oversimplify complex truths, alienate those who’ve experienced harm, and silence voices that don’t fit a certain narrative. What happens when a term meant to fight shame ends up reinforcing it? And what if a better framework is sexual freedom—a more nuanced, inclusive way to talk about consent, pleasure, boundaries, and autonomy without expecting everyone to perform sexuality a certain way?This is a conversation for anyone who's ever felt out of place in “sex positive” spaces, questioned what empowerment really means, or wondered whether it's time to rethink the words we use and the assumptions we make about what being open about sex should look like.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsTo read Dr. Sue’s take on sex positivity check out this Medium article

In this episode, we team up with Annette Benedetti, host of Talk Sex with Annette, to do a deep dive into the controversial notion of “sex addiction.” We unpack why sex addiction is not recognized as a legitimate diagnosis and explore how the term is often misused, perpetuating myths that can shame and stigmatize people’s sexuality. Together, we challenge the narratives pushed by the treatment center industry and offer a more nuanced understanding of sexual behavior and challenges.We invite you to rethink common assumptions about sexual compulsivity, recognize the harm that pathologizing sexual desire can cause, and embrace a more compassionate, realistic approach to sexual health. This episode encourages open, judgment-free conversations that honor individual experiences without relying on misleading labels.If you haven’t listened to Annette’s podcast yet, we encourage you to check out Talk Sex with Annette.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

Porn isn’t always just a solo activity—it can carry a lot of weight in relationships. In this episode, we dive into the tricky, often unspoken space where porn and partnership intersect. What does it mean if your partner watches porn? When does it cross a boundary? And why does it feel so personal when it might not be?We talk about the emotional complexity behind discovering a partner’s porn use, the assumptions made about what it means, and how those assumptions are shaped by culture, shame, and our own sexual self-understanding. We talk about consent, communication, and why early, honest conversations about porn are important. Whether you’re struggling to bring it up, feeling judged for what you watch, or just trying to understand how porn fits into your relationship, this episode offers a thoughtful and nonjudgmental starting point.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we unzip what porn literacy actually is. Spoiler: it’s not about whether you watch porn—it’s about how you understand it. From awkward anatomy to unrealistic expectations, we explore how porn shapes our ideas about sex, bodies, and pleasure—and why it’s time to start talking about it without shame.We break down the difference between fantasy and reality, what ethical porn can offer, and how media literacy (yes, even for porn) is a critical part of sexual health. Whether you’re a curious viewer, a confused partner, or just someone trying to make sense of the messages we get about sex, this conversation is about thinking more clearly—and more compassionately—about the role porn plays in our lives.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions

In this follow-up to Healing Out Loud: Sex, Survival, and the Path Back to Your Body, we continue unzipping what healing after sexual trauma really looks like—messy, non-linear, and deeply personal. Together, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and physical layers of recovery—from the weight of societal expectations to the quiet, powerful moments of reclaiming pleasure.We explore the many ways trauma can surface, how it’s often misunderstood, and why healing isn’t about “getting over it”—it’s about coming home to yourself. We reflect on what it means to feel safe in your body again, how pleasure can become a powerful act of reclamation, and why these conversations are essential.If you haven’t listened to Annette’s podcast yet, we encourage you to check out Talk Sex with Annette.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this deeply moving and empowering episode, we sit down with Annette Benedetti, sex and intimacy coach, survivor of sexual assault, and host of the podcast Talk Sex with Annette. Together we talk about what it means to reclaim your body, your pleasure, and your desire after trauma. Annette shares her story of surviving rape as a teenager and the long, non-linear process of coming home to herself—through self-love, and joyful exploration.We talk candidly about the messy middle: the cultural myths around being a "perfect victim," and the pressure women face to perform or recover in tidy timelines. We also explore how healing can be tender, playful, embodied, and even sexy.Whether you’ve experienced trauma or love someone who has, this conversation reminds us that pleasure is a birthright—and reconnecting with it is an act of self-trust and power.If you need support check out the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE) or RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)If you want to learn more about the work Annette does, check out her website or listen to her podcastIf you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsIf you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

In this episode, we’re taking a fresh look at sexual milestones—the kind that don’t revolve around “losing your virginity.” That term? It’s vague, outdated, and honestly, we’re not fans of that term. So instead of centering one arbitrary moment in your sexual journey, we’re celebrating all the deeply personal “firsts” that shape our sexual lives: the first time you had an orgasm, the first time you got tested for STIs, the first time you tried a sex toy, or talked about a kink with a partner.These moments may not get talked about much, but they matter. A lot.We talk about the emotional weight of these experiences, especially if you are healing from trauma, navigating body changes, or just trying something new later in life. We even touch on milestones like choosing to end a relationship that is no longer right for you—a powerful act of self-care that deserves recognition too.It’s all about curiosity, compassion, and shifting the narrative around what it means to grow sexually. No matter your history or where you are in your journey, we hope this conversation helps you embrace your own timeline and feel seen in the “firsts” that you’re excited about.If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestionsTake a listen to Dr Sue talk about virginity on Talk Sex With Annette here: Virginity is a scam!