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Authentically You With The Himmers

by Himmer Institute

We are each hard wired to connect. When we don’t connect it hurts and when it hurts, too often we medicate in a fashion that brings about more pain. Authentically You is a breath of fresh air and in our 3rd year of sharing, we’re just scratching the surface. Instead of focusing on problems, Dr. Richard Himmer and his lovely bride, Cheri, focus on solution-based conversation. Listen to what 37+ years of a happy marriage sounds like. They have no problem with conflict; however, they don’t engage in contention. Conflict is a focus on what is right and is necessary for growth. Contention is a focus on who is right and is the primary source of discord, divorce, bullying, poor management, and dysfunctional relationships. Authentically You is the energy behind discovering happiness, joy, and well-being. When you know who you are, you are free to become your true self. Too many people want happiness without the necessary skills and understanding that support the lifestyle of being happy.

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Episodes

  1. 158 Emerging Adults Part 1

    Understanding the history and why's of emerging adults latency to launch into happiness.

  2. 157 ZONE OF PROXIMAL DEVELOPMENT, PART 3

    The theory of scaffolding, which is how the MKO (More Knowledgable Other) organizes and presents the learning process. Sometimes support is tapered off and other times it is enhanced.

  3. 156 ZONE OF PROXIMAL DEVELOPMENT, PART 2

    There are four distinct learning styles on the road to mastery. 1) Dabbler, 2) Obsessive, 3) Hacker, and 4) Paralyzed Perfectionist.

  4. 155 ZONE OF PROXIMAL DEVELOPMENT, PART 1

    ZPD is the distance between the actual development of a person and the potential learning capability under the guidance of a more knowledgable other (MKO). It is the difference between “knowing" and "knowing how."

  5. 154 CHRISTMAS ADAM - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 5

    What was the sign that led the Shepherds to baby Jesus? Hint: it wasn't the manger.

  6. 153 CHRISTMAS ADAM - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 4

    The Hebrew Wedding Ceremony, the Parable of the 10 Virgins, and how they are in the Christmas story

  7. 152 CHRISTMAS ADAM - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 3

    What role did Joseph play in the story and what was the impact of him accepting Mary as his wife when he discovered she was with child.

  8. 149 PRIMARY QUESTIONS VS SECONDARY QUESTIONS - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 4

    Moses is perplexed. He wants to understand the justice of God. Why do the wicked prosper and the righteous suffer? Moses gets his questions answered. When we know the answer to primary questions, we leave doubt behind, but we never stop asking questions.

  9. 148 PRIMARY QUESTIONS VS SECONDARY QUESTIONS - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 3

    Using Hebrew legend, we illustrate primary questions and the existence of God with an ancient story about Moses. We live in troubling times, political chaos, and broken families. Now, more than ever, we need a firm understanding of our faith. Does God exist? How does that firm belief sustain one…

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  10. 147 PRIMARY QUESTIONS VS SECONDARY QUESTIONS - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 2

    Have you ever wondered what’s wrong with a loved one and wished you knew how to fix them? Such questions mostly lead to more frustration and stress. Change the question, change the energy!

  11. 146 PRIMARY QUESTIONS VS SECONDARY QUESTIONS - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER PART 1

    Some questions are more important than others. In fact, some questions add to one’s misery, depression, and anxiety. Today we discuss the primary questions that lead to happiness, joy, and well-being.

  12. 145 LEARNED CLUELESSNESS - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER

    Do you live with or know someone who seems clueless to the world around them? This segment addresses the life of being clueless and those who deal with cluelessness.

  13. 144 A TRIBUTE TO CHERIS BEST FRIEND FLORENCE - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER

    Florence was/is Cheri's best friend. They were college roommates and I met them at the same time at a university dance. Florence passed away recently after 7 years fighting ovarian cancer. Cheri remembers Florence and her quest for happiness.

  14. 143 WHAT IS LOVE -DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER

    Is love a principle, application, or a result (feeling)? Once the principle is understood, one can develop and follow applications that are specifically designed for success. An application is personal and not meant for others.

  15. 142 PRINCIPLE VS APPLICATION - DR RICHARD AND CHERI HIMMER

    Living a principle-based life is admirable on the assumption that you know what a principle is. In this episode, we unzip the principle, application, and results of love. Love is universal, or is it?

  16. 141 USING SHADOW RECOGNITION TO COMBAT EATING DISORDERS

    Terresa Fagan James is our guest. She is Cheri’s health coach. She shares some challenges to weight loss and we collectively discuss how to address the challenges.

  17. 140 SHADOWS AND TACTICAL PROCESSING

    Once you’ve practiced and become skilled at naming behavior, recognizing your body brains, and noticing the energy associated with maladaptive behavior, you use the “What if…” process to bypass the critical faculty and create the foundation for change. This is the integration of the upstairs and...

  18. 139 RECOGNIZING YOUR SHADOWS

    There are three areas of behavior to start your behavior research. Cognitive distortions, the Drama Triangle, and Rules of Engagement. Become the Sherlock Holmes of social interactions. Self-awareness leads to self-regulation.

  19. 138 SIN VS SHADOW PART 2

    What drives false narratives? What is epigenetics? How to name behavior. Using research to increase self-awareness and develop a system for healing.

  20. 137 SIN VS SHADOW PART 1

    I grew up being guilt-leveraged (shame based parenting, teaching etc.) and most everything I did seemed like it was a sin according to the adults in my life. What if focusing on the sin is dysfunctional and not productive? For every sin there is a cause. You address the cause you stop the sin....

  21. 136 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 7

    Conclusion of trigger buster. Being aware of sounds, smells, words, phrases, people, positions, etc. Cheri practices a trigger busting protocol in mindfulness.

  22. 135 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 6

    How to better understand the role of expectations in our triggers and addictions. Using two case studies, one about Cheri's mom, who was a human time vacuum, and the story of the toilet seat. Why are men always wrong when it comes to the toilet seat?

  23. 134 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 5

    Full review of addiction, trigger-reaction-consequence vs. cue-respond-reward, immaculate perception and the trigger busting process

  24. 133 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 4

    Expectations are a guaranteed pathway to frustration, especially when they are based on how you want things to be (Expectation B) instead of how things have always been (Expectation A). After you discern the difference, you practice acceptance for perceived dysfunctional behavior.

  25. 132 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 3

    How to change your position from reactive (trigger to flooded) to responsive (cue’d to reward) in three steps. It’s time to preplan going into fight or flight. In other words, how to preplan being a jerk and then not being a jerk.

  26. 131 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 2

    While in isolation, cloistered in the darkness of his room and skipping dinner, Bobby gets a phone call from Brenda excited to see him, having just woken up for a needed nap. Whoops! Bobby’s journey from being triggered to flooded has created unnecessary anxiety and family drama.

  27. 130 TRIGGER BUSTERS PART 1

    Bobby’s girl friend, Brenda, has found another love. OR has she? Is it possible that Bobby is making up something that doesn’t exist because he’s flooded and his immaculate perception has created multiple prediction errors?

  28. 129 THE INTERVENTION WITH BUCK PART 3

    Jillian’s intervention with Buck and her challenges to the team and to Buck.

  29. 128 THE TOXIC LEADER AND THE PROFILE OF AN ACCIDENTAL BULLY PART 2

    The profile of an accidental bully. How to use emotional intelligence with your co-workers.

  30. 127 ONE SOLUTION TO DEAL WITH A TOXIC LEADER PART 1

    Three challenges for management, 1) the perception that it’s important to wield a heavy hand, 2) myth that the title endows greater intelligence, 3) the reality that we are all hard wired to connect.

  31. 126 ONE SOLUTION TO HEAL A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP AT HOME PART 2

    Understanding the importance of paradoxical behaviors (i.e. tough vs. love). The principle of creating safe space and Dr. Himmer’s 24-hour challenge.

  32. 125 ONE SOLUTION TO HEAL A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP AT HOME PART 1

    It seemed that no matter what Lori did, it didn’t work. Cheri reflects on her mother, father, and parents as a team.

  33. 124 THE SELF-PERCEPTION RULE

    What if…I can be happy, have a successful marriage, or get a good job? The self-perception rule is thinking, acting, and then feeling. It trumps depression, anxiety, and bridges the upstairs with the downstairs brains. As you repeat habits, you build a habitat that makes good decisions for you.

  34. 123 MISSION AWARE VS MISSION BLIND

    Setting a goal in insufficient for accomplishing the goal. Most of us are Mission Blind in life. Listen to Dr. Himmer’s experience of being Mission Blind in the first years of his marriage and riding the STP in 2000.

  35. 122 MINDFULNESS EXPERIENCED

    We go through a guided mindfulness experience and explain how to maximize your experience.

  36. 121 THE ART AND SCIENCE OF MINDFULNESS

    Supporting research on the effectiveness of mindfulness. Mindfulness is simply being yourself and knowing something about who that is. It is about coming to the realization that you are on a path whether you like it or not, and that path is your life.

  37. 120 SEVEN DAY REBOOT DAILY ROUTINE

    Each day’s assignment is broken down. What to pay attention to, what thought to ponder with the goal of elevating your conversations and thoughts to a “great mind” level.

  38. 119 THE SEVEN DAY REBOOT PROTOCAL

    How to break feelings of depression, anxiety, and stress. The seven-day reboot is designed to provide emotional balance in your life. Learn to deliberately practice habits that will create a new habitat, one exercise at a time.

  39. 118 COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS AND THE NEWS MEDIA

    How cognitive distortions are used and a tip on how to use them to discover your false narratives. Learn how to watch the news, TV, or movies looking for cognitive distortions and use the process of naming them so you can tame them. Use the technique to avoid getting sucked into their biased...

  40. 117 TRIGGER BUSTERS IN CLOSE ENCOUNTERS OF THE CORONA KIND

    How do deal with loved ones who move from triggered to flooded during stressful times, such as the corona virus. Stories of clients working through challenges and some tools that help to navigate the stormy waters.

  41. 116 DRAMA QUEEN VS ENGINEER MINDSET - ONE IN THE SAME

    Imagine a drama queen and an engineer getting married. It’s like a bi-polar extravaganza. Today we discuss the importance of knowing yourself and approaching the light so your shadows are clearly visible.

  42. 115 REPENTANCE AND CROSSING FROM 1ST HALF TO 2ND HALF IN LIFE

    Learning how to bridge to the 2nd half of life is critical to shadow work. Using a parable from Luke 15, we explore an inviting definition of repentance in the Parable of the Lost Sheep.

  43. 114 WHY SHOULD I TRY TO BE FRIENDLY

    If no one cares about me, why should I care about them? How would you answer this?

  44. 113 AWARENESS JOURNAL IN PRACTICE

    Examples of how to practice keeping an Awareness Journal. The awareness leads to habits and growth.

  45. 112 THE PURPOSE OF AN AWARENESS JOURNAL

    What is the purpose behind journaling? Today we explore the four sentences in the Awareness Journal and the role it plays in moving from your 1st half of life container to the principles needed for a healthy 2nd half of life Foxhole.

  46. 111 NO PERSUASION-MANIPULATION - RULES OF ENGAGEMENT PART 3

    Today we define specific maladaptive behavior and examples of how they play out in real life. Dr. Himmer challenges you to practice avoiding the Big 4 (criticism, sarcasm, relating, judging). The meaning of empathy and the challenge to understand without the drive to be understood.

  47. 110 SAFE SPACE - RULES OF ENGAGEMENT PART 2

    Imagine a conversation with a new colleague where no unsolicited opinions, criticism, sarcasm, judging, or relating transpires. Since we are hardwired to connect, it is collusionary to criticize, judge, relate etc., yet we are normed to such maladaptive behavior.

  48. 109 THE FOXHOLE - RULES OF ENGAGEMENT PART 1

    In order to maximize one’s happiness, joy, and well-being, one must create an environment that is principle-based. Today we start the conversation on how to create Rules of Engagement

  49. 108 PERSONAL GROWTH PROTOCOL PART 4 of 4

    More in depth discussion on the difference between shadow and sin. Rigid organizations (church, family) often compromise the recognition of shadow because of an over focus on the sin and the sinner.

  50. 107 PERSONAL GROWTH PROTOCOL PART 3 of 4

    Our first half of life’s container was created by our parents. Our second half of life is self built based on principles that allow us to achieve our Conditions of Satisfaction. In this segment we define persona and the difference between shadow and sin.

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

We are each hard wired to connect. When we don’t connect it hurts and when it hurts, too often we medicate in a fashion that brings about more pain. Authentically You is a breath of fresh air and in our 3rd year of sharing, we’re just scratching the surface. Instead of focusing on problems, Dr. Richard Himmer and his lovely bride, Cheri, focus on solution-based conversation. Listen to what 37+ years of a happy marriage sounds like. They have no problem with conflict; however, they don’t engage in contention. Conflict is a focus on what is right and is necessary for growth. Contention is a focus on who is right and is the primary source of discord, divorce, bullying, poor management, and dysfunctional relationships. Authentically You is the energy behind discovering happiness, joy, and well-being. When you know who you are, you are free to become your true self. Too many people want happiness without the necessary skills and understanding that support the lifestyle of being happy.

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