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Avoidance and Control
by Monique Gomez
Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable? Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.
Episodes
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Why Chaos Feels Familiar with Kristen Constantino
You weren’t born believing you had to earn love. Somewhere along the way, you learned it. You learned to mistake chaos for chemistry, overgiving for love, and emotional pain for emotional connection. So what happens when you stop asking, “Why do I keep attracting this?” and start asking, “Why…
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Just What You Do:The Life You're Supposed To Want
What if some of the things you think you want were never actually your desires—they were expectations you learned so early that they started to feel like your identity? In this conversation with Madisen, we’re unpacking the messages women receive about being “good,” being desirable, getting...
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3 Reasons I Won't Go Back to Mental Health Therapy
This episode is brought to you by my reminders of therapeutic burnout after visiting a therapist community gathering. Iam no longer burnt out, even when I went back this year as a Behavior Coach for kids. I learned to maintain my nervous system and keep my own life outside work. Hi, I am Monique...
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They Told Me I Needed This Medication for the Rest of My Life...
What happens when you’re given a diagnosis, told what your future will look like, and expected to trust the system without questioning it? Her hyperthyroidism story takes us through fertility fears, suicide, self-forgiveness, lifestyle and environmental changes, and the conversations that…
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I Kept Sabotaging My Money-Until I Stopped Blaming Myself
"You never self-sabotage," my partner said, right before I fell back into an old story. Even after 3-4 years of consistently working on my money story; in calm of my weeks I started to not feel like I am enough, wanting more, seeking to rid the money I was making. Monique Gomez is an Integrative...
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Two Tools to Help You Process Emotions
That feeling in your body that something is wrong, "I don't feel like myself," is often something that can be solved with these tools. In this episode: personal story of grief processing Science-backed evidence encouragement to use the information your body is giving you Monique Gomez is an...
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What If You're Answers Aren't In Fixing Yourself? - but in Learning How to Live?
In 38 minutes, we go way beyond the Inner Critic. We talk about getting regulated, discovering what you actually want, creating passion and joy, and learning to “fight for peace” until peace becomes easier. The theme was Inner Critic solutions, but we unpack victim mode—not as something to shame,...
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What is The Empowerment Timeline & Why I Use It?
If you've never seen strength and growth in your history, you want to try this therapy in a group setting. The Empowerment Timeline is a group experience that is Salutogenic, meaning I help you use your story to see growth, truth, and inner knowing you didn't know existed. While training with Dr....
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The Terrible Thing That Almost Killed Me Was a Positive: Timeline Demonstration with Kristen Searcy
What if you’ve spent years trying to change your body, earn approval, or become the version of yourself you think other people will accept? In This Coaching Experience: we unpack body image identity outside approval the unexpected turns that can become part of our healing. **Warning this episode...
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Freeing The Good Girl: A SAFNET Demonstration with Amanda Clark
After years of emotional distance, avoided conversations, and fragile boundaries, one final timeline reveals what happens when truth is spoken—not to repair the past, but to honor the self. In this episode, you will hear the therapeutic exposure timeline Monique uses in her HEAL Model for…
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The Perimenopause Power Shift: Advocacy & Empowerment t
What happens when millions of women are experiencing a major biological transition, yet many medical professionals receive little training on how to recognize or treat it? Today, we're talking about perimenopause, medical advocacy, and why so many women leave doctors' appointments feeling…
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Patterns Part2: When You Don't Know Patterns Are Destroying You
Sometimes the biggest problem isn’t the conflict, the breakup, the burnout, or the dissatisfaction with your life. The biggest problem is not realizing that your patterns are creating the chaos. In this Episode: How defense Mechanisms act as personality What an Overwhelmed Nervous System Can Do...
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Perfectionism Is Protection: Where It Comes From & 3 Tools to Finally Let Go
I didn't know I was a perfectionist until I began feeling safe in my body and stopped trying to control the uncontrollable. Introducing the biggest failure of my life and how I used the tools I teach my clients to rewrite and learn to love themselves. In this Episode: where Perfectionism/...
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From Reactivity to Regulation: Rewriting Co-Parenting with Sol Kennedy
From high-conflict divorce to healing—how one founder built an AI tool to help parents regulate, reconnect, and co-parent with clarity. In this episode, we sit down with Sol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, the AI-powered co-parenting app transforming how high-conflict families communicate. Once…
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The Parenting Program That Actually Changes Behavior
Burnout. Behavior issues. Stress. These are challenges so many families face—and there’s a powerful, evidence-based solution that helps. 8-week evidence-based curriculum that actually changes how you parent to read your child's behavior and meet their needs. Presale on NOW DM [email protected]…
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Somatic Healing Through Divorce with Madisen Rose
Explore somatic healing through divorce with Madisen Rose—nervous system tools for grief, rupture, anger, and rebuilding self-trust from within. Madisen Rose is a somatic practitioner and founder of Better Half to Whole, a platform dedicated to supporting individuals through the renegotiation of...
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Resentment is Draining You: The Healing Power of Forgiveness with Stephen Tolfree
What happens when resentment from workplace conflict follows you long after the situation ends? Many people carry anger, betrayal, or injustice from toxic work environments, and those emotions can quietly erode mental health, self-esteem, and hope. In this episode, Monique Gomez speaks with...
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The Neurodivergent Brain: Lifestyle Awareness for Better Regulation with Carla Padilla
Neurodivergence is a word that’s becoming more common, but many people still wonder what it really means and how it shows up in everyday life. In this episode, we explore neurodivergence through a lifestyle and nervous system lens, focusing on awareness, regulation, and practical understanding.…
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Why Some Apologies Never Work (And What Actually Releases Resentment) with Jon Bui
How much discomfort do you need to feel in order to speak or acknowledge hurt? So many of us wait until the pressure builds—until the guilt, tension, or emotional weight becomes impossible to ignore—before we finally say something. In this episode, we explore in a Part2 Episode with Jon Bui…
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Breaking the Cycle of Abuse with Kristen Searcy, LCSW
Abuse doesn’t just hurt—it disorients.Isolation grows. Agency shrinks. Self-trust erodes. In Part 3 of this series, Kristen Searcy of A Desert In Bloom Therapy walks us through the common themes across abusive patterns—including progressive loss of autonomy and the reality that confusion is the...
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Reducing the Stigma of Suicide with Janet West
We all can end up in what I like to call "The Deep Dark", a deep depression that suffocates our system to believing we need what our brain feels is the only way out. Join me and my friend Janet as we discuss the reasoning behind suicide ideation and what brings people to make such a decision.…
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Burnout to Inviting More Peace with Rachel Richards
Burnout doesn’t just show up as exhaustion—it creeps into our nervous system, our finances, our confidence, and even our ability to breathe through daily life. In this honest and grounding conversation, I’m joined by my dear friend and talented photographer, Rachel Richards, as we unpack the…
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Boundaries without Guilt: The Swinging Door Analogy
Want to stop going back to people who hurt you or make you "feel" crazy? Then use the Swinging door as the fairy Godmother of boundaries. I get it you are a recovering people pleaser and putting a boundary in place like; saying no, or that you cannot, or simply not responding to someones upset......
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Chaotic Identity Driven Cycle of Abuse By Kristen Searcy
True intimacy is hard to find and build upon, especially when our own identity starts to erode. Licensed Clinical Social Worker Kristen Searcey shares her female-pronged cycle of abuse in this Part 2 Episode. The episode is designed to help you see behaviors in yourself and others and seek…
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Journal Reflection: Evaluating Attachment & Healing Old Wounds
Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship—romantic, friendship, or even professional—where you keep giving, hoping they’ll change, and wondering why you feel so responsible for their healing? This appears with my clients -alot. We are stuck in the old abandonment story or wound. I actuallyt just...
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Unpacking the Modern Cycle of Abuse: Power, Control, and Human Patterns
The old narratives about abuse don’t always fit what we see today. This week, I’m joined by Kristen Searcy, whose revolutionary Model of Abuse challenges everything we think we know about violence and control. We’re talking about how real change begins when we focus on consistent behaviors, not...
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What is Abuse: A Salutogenic Perspective
Welcome to Season 4 of the Avoidance and Control podcast. Enjoy this warm-up episode to get your brain thinking opposite of the "fix it Model" Humans don't need to be "fixed", we need logic, inner knowing, and regulation. In This Episode: - 3 tips for stepping out of the Old story (trauma/Abuse/...
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Healing Beyond Psychotherapy with Annamarie Green
How do you feel about diagnoses—do they help you understand yourself or make you feel stuck? In this powerful finale, Annamarie Green explores why true healing starts with your energy, not just a label. If you’ve ever felt like there’s more to healing than managing symptoms, this one’s for you.…
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The Healing Power of Breathwork with Janet Bonner West
You know those moments in life when everything feels like it's crumbling—finances, emotions, even your sense of self? I've been there. And so has my dear friend, former coaching client, and now incredible somatic breathwork practitioner, Janet Bonner West. Janet went from feeling broke, stuck…
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Do Your Research: Quality of Life with PTSD featuring Christina Lombardo
What if your quality of life starts with what's on your plate? While those with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) have protective skills, but this episode reminds us that the first step in standing up for your health is making sure you have a good quality of life. In This Episode: Christina...
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Triggers and Truth: The Power of Acknowledgement with Brittany Smith
"Have you ever felt a sudden shift in your mood, an unexpected wave of frustration, sadness, or anxiety—but couldn’t quite understand why? In this episode: What is Trigger Control How to Identify Them Sweeping Upset Under the Rug Keeps you Stuck Brittany Smith is a Holistic Aesthetic Nurse and...
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Beyond Stigma: Finding Support You Need-- Coaching or Therapy?
I get so incredibly excited to help people on consultation calls-- let this episode help you make a decision. also DM me or leave a comment or Review if you'd like to get an episode on How to Interview your Helper. Monique Gomez is a Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, former Mental Health…
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Throwback: What is Trauma?
Another Throwback Tuesday from Season 1: What is. Trauma? while so many Pop Psych Influencers and plain old Tik Tokers like to explain what they believe to be trauma and what is not trauma, this episode breaks down the Truth. If this episode Resonates I'd love for you to check out our Upcoming...
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Thriving In Your Circles with Brittany Smith
Are your relationships helping you thrive, or are they quietly draining your energy? In This Episode: Why your relationships directly impact your health and happiness. How to identify three key relationship types: nurturers, neutral supporters, and energy vampires. The role of boundaries and…
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Compassion Over Guilt: People Pleasers in Hurt Cycles (Part2)
Have you felt like you are a victim of a Narcissist or a person who is crazy selfish? This episode has been a long time coming, as these are common questions and responses I speak to my clients about. Majority of my clients who want to get out of these old patterns and stories are people…
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Survival Mode and Grief with Andrea Turnbow
Have you ever felt like you're stuck in doing, ignoring your pain just to make it through the day? In this episode we'll dive into the survival mode that keeps us resisting pain and grief. Andrea is the founder of The Grief Nook, a comfortable space to creatively grieve in community. Through her...
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Rooted in Nature and Support with Brittny Johnson
Winter Skin, super dry? We chat with Brittny Owner of Trades of Brit to discuss nature, family and faith. In This Episode: Pregnancy and Tuning into your Body Grief and Remembering our Loved ones Faith and Social Supports Brittny owns Trades of Brit, a natural skincare company, rooted in nature…
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Compassion Over Perfection: Thriving When Systems Break Down with Dr. Veronica
Sometimes we let our impulsive nature push us further away from our goals. Quick reactions we have with our money, our time or even the tasks we wish to complete. Dr. Veronica Schiltz is a mama of two kids under three, a wife, a Christ follower and a licensed chiropractor and certified health…
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Rewire ADHD Symptoms with Mercedes Collins
Do you have ADHD and tired of the symptoms? Or do you want to learn how to adapt when Ego gets in the way? In this episode, we chat about Brain Balancing with Neurofeedback then a well-executed tangent on the following: Knowing Yourself and Communicating Clearly: Understand who you are, speak...
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Throwback: What is Fawning/ People Pleasing with Allie Andrews
Have you been called a People Pleaser? If you often put others' needs before your own, then you might be in this natural Nervous System Reaction. In This Episode: Examples of Fawning/People Pleasing Boundaries and Compassion Listening to Your Needs Allie helps individuals and couples have better...
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Do Your Research: Examine All Your Parts with Natalie Barnett
Do you ever feel like you are Self-sabotaging your Success? In all areas of life, work, or business, our Subconscious Mind can interfere with our wants. Natalie and I went deep into her recent battle with Self Sabotage. Natalie is a Board Accredited and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, EFT...
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Authentic Relationships with Niko Arapakiles
Why does authenticity feel so rare in a world full of curated images and perfected profiles? In this episode my new friend Niko gets vulnerable with me as we discuss topics like: Branding Navigating Relationship Challenges Rejection You will explore how staying true to yourself can transform your...
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Ignite Your Inner Fire with Tish The Shakti Coach
Starting your healing journey can feel overwhelming, but with guidance from The Shakti Coach’s first three steps, you'll have a clear path to begin transforming your mental and emotional well-being. In This Episode: Releasing is the first step and other ways to explore this Forgiveness as…
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Why Self Care Isn't Working Anymore
Over the last five years, the world has gone all-in on self-care, with influencers and experts alike swearing by routines and rituals to boost mental health. But what if you've been doing it all and still feel...stuck? In this episode, we dive into the hidden reasons why traditional self-care…
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Root Cause with Foot Zone Trainer Maleah Gordon
Ever wonder why Healing feels like it takes forever? Wer dive into why healing is not a check list with Foot Zone Trainer Maleah Gordon. Maleah Gordon loves people and is passionate about sharing the hopeful message of holistic healing. She is the founder of A.NEW, an organization dedicated to...
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Journal Series: Self Compassion Letter
This journal feels WAY More needed than the Future Self Letter, but they definitely share some components. This is for all your "failures", the hurt/pain of your Expectations not being met. Quick and easy but most efficient when you read to Yourself in the Mirror. Resources: Image Resources...
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Journal Series: Belief Exercise
Are you ready to get unstuck? These three Journal Prompts help me and my clients stop overwhelm, examine beliefs keeping us stuck, and build quick confidence and encouragement to get through any problem or life transition. In this Episode: why you need to examine beliefs why your mindset work is...
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Journal Series: Pause/Stuck Journal
Are you ready to get unstuck? These three Journal Prompts help me and my clients stop overwhelm, examine beliefs keeping us stuck, and build quick confidence and encouragement to get through any problem or life transition. In This Episode: Stop overwhelmed in 9 Minutes How to Let That Shit Go...
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Navigating Relationship Ruptures with Repair featuring Allie Andrews
Do you often sweep hurt feelings or misunderstandings under the rug never to be heard from again? Do you run away or feel attacked when someone explains how they feel? Then this episode is for you. Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves...
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Money Matters & Building Your Legacy with Erica Schrock
Does your family also avoid the topic of money? or is money a common topic of tension in your life? Not surprised, money is the most popular topic we humans like to avoid. Erica is a top notch financial planner who does everything for the love and impact of others. With an upbringing in finance…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable? Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.
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