Butterfly Days w Tami Jorden

What if the answers you've been searching for have been inside you all along? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Carla Calderas, counselor, healing coach, and author of Healing Is Within You, to talk about what it really means to heal in midlife. Carla brings together therapy, coaching, and her own lived experience to help women move from stuck and surviving to free and fully alive. She shares her past-present-future healing framework, explains why forgiveness is where we find freedom, and offers the one brave thing you can do this week to begin. If you've ever felt like it might be too late, Carla has something powerful to say to you.    🦋 Connect with Carla Calderas at her website. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

What if the most powerful thinking partner you've ever had has been waiting quietly on your phone this whole time? In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami gets real about AI, the anxiety surrounding it, and why GenX and GenJones women are not behind. They are exactly on time. She breaks down how AI actually works for real women in real life: from decoding medical lab results and building personalized meal plans, to processing big life decisions and finally showing up prepared in every professional room. This isn't about being trendy or technical. It's about refusing to let fear shrink your world. Because the women who figure this out now will have a quiet, significant advantage over those who don't. This episode is your permission to stop scrolling past AI and start using it like the power tool it actually is. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋  More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Have you ever wondered why you keep reaching for things that don't actually help? Why do the same patterns keep showing up no matter how many times you say you're done with them? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Lori Montry, somatic healing practitioner and author of You're Not the Problem, to talk about what's really driving your behavior and how to finally stop fighting yourself. Lori shares her Freedom Formula, a nervous system-based roadmap for sustainable change, and explains why willpower has nothing to do with it.    🦋 Connect with Lori Montry on her website.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Some friendships are worth fighting for. And some have simply run their natural course. Deep down, you already know it.  In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami gets real about the friendships that nourish us and the ones we've quietly outgrown, and why learning the difference is one of the wisest, most loving things a woman in midlife can do. She explores the concept of the "wish friendship," the power of reciprocity, and how to release what no longer fits with grace, not guilt. As a GenX woman and advocate for intentional living, she weaves in the science of longevity to remind us: the quality of your connections literally adds years to your life. This episode is a warm, honest rally cry to protect your energy, choose your people wisely, and pour into the friendships that truly matter.   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast   

In this honest and important episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Anissa Hudak, Founder and Director of the Phoenix Women Healing Institute. Anissa specializes in empowering women to heal from sexual trauma and reclaim their inner strength. In this conversation, Anissa explains how sexual trauma can resurface during perimenopause and menopause – and how women can begin to heal during this pivotal time.  🦋 Learn more about Phoenix Women Healing or book Anissa Hudak to speak 🦋 Connect with Anissa on LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram, Threads, Facebook, and X  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Change shows up everywhere in midlife. Sometimes, it can feel like that's the whole game for GenX and GenJones women. And while you might be good at adapting, it's exhausting. So on this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden shares a few grounded reminders – some small steps – to help you move through change without overwhelm. Sister, if you feel frozen or stalled out, this is the encouragement you need.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you've ever felt bone-deep exhaustion or burnt-out numbness, you're not alone. But life over 50 doesn't have to be this way. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden chats with Dr. Julie Merriman, a PhD, professor, and counselor who helps high-achieving women over 50 go from "emotionally done" to radiantly alive. Together, they discuss the sneaky reasons for burnout in women over 50, how to overcome it and start feeling like yourself again, and why this season might actually be your most powerful awakening yet.  🦋 Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman on her website, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Have you ever wondered why you see the world the way you do? Why certain expectations feel so natural – like they're baked into you – while others feel like pressure you never consciously agreed to? Your generation didn't just shape your life; it shaped what you were told to value, and that matters more than you think. On this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden clarifies what Gen Jones is, how your generation has affected your worldview, and what you can do today to take charge. This episode is the encouragement you need to take back your power and navigate a better future – for yourself and for our daughters. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

What if in midlife, you could ditch feeling like a doormat and start feeling like the precious diamond you are? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden has a heart-to-heart with Shawna Marie Bryant, a speaker, author, and podcaster who empowers women to step out of exhaustion and into freedom and fulfillment. Shawna shares her own story of saying "no more" to being a doormat, how boundaries changed her life, and what practical things you can say to start setting better boundaries.  🦋 Connect with Shawna Marie Bryant on her website or Instagram 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

We're going there – we're gonna talk about hospice. Before you click away or tense up, understand that the hospice conversation is not about dying. It's about how we care when caring matters most. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden explains what hospice is (and what it isn't), how it's different from traditional medical care, and how to know when it might be time to ask about hospice. If you have loved ones who might need hospice one day, this episode is the encouragement and honest advice you need.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you're in midlife, chances are you've found yourself part of the Sandwich Generation – the generation caring for both their kids and their parents. But things can get infinitely more complicated when one or more of your parents are diagnosed with dementia. This is a road that Nicole J. Smith has walked not once, but with three parents at once. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden interviews Nicole, a certified senior advisor, author, and advocate in the dementia and elder care planning space. Nicole shares practical ways to start conversations with parents about aging, the first steps to take after a dementia diagnosis, and how to help a friend who is a caregiver. This episode will give the encouragement you need to remember: you're not alone in caregiving. 🦋 Connect with Nicole J. Smith on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, and email her at [email protected]  🦋 Teepa Snow's website 🦋 Daughterhood.org  🦋 The Sandwich Club 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

"You are meant for connection. You are worthy of love. You deserve to belong."   These words from Florence Ann Romano hold a truth we often forget, especially in the later chapters of life. Florence Ann Romano, celebrated keynote speaker, author of Build Your Village, and popular media voice on creating community, joins Tami Jorden on Butterfly Days to explore what it means to intentionally build relationships that sustain us.     🦋 Order Florence Ann Romano's new book, Build Your Village 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website  

Behind every accomplished woman is a story – and Kristen Hartnagel, a keynote speaker and personal branding strategist, is no different. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Kristen shares the story of losing her parents and sister and how the grief shaped her. She talks about the healing power of music, how she takes joy seriously, and how she keeps imagination and creativity alive at age 60. Tune in to this episode for the encouragement to remember that life isn't over in midlife – it's just beginning, and it's whatever you want to make it! 🦋 Connect with Kristen Hartnagel on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and YouTube 🦋 Schedule a free coaching discovery call with Kristen Hartnagel 🦋 Learn more about the Threshold Choir 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Our culture constantly tells us that aging is shameful and must be avoided at all costs. But what if aging and menopause are not problems to be fixed, but something beautiful to embrace? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden challenges the shame, honors the complexity of menopause, and reframes what it really means to thrive in our 50s and beyond. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

How do you start dating again after 50? What does it take to attract the right person? And honestly, where have all the good ones gone? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden gets the scoop from Love Coach and Dating Expert Lisa Copeland on all things dating after 50 for women. From why you have to approach dating in your 50s differently from dating in your 20s, to what men over 50 are really looking for, Lisa covers it all to help GenX and Boomer Babes feel empowered to find love, confidence, and fulfillment.  🦋 35 Awesome 1st Date Questions + 9 Exit Strategies: Create instant connection, spot red flags faster, and know when to stay—or leave. Includes 35 first-date questions and 9 easy exit strategies. 🦋 Connect with Lisa Copeland on her website, YouTube, Facebook, Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Instagram     🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you're a GenX or Boomer woman who's part of the Sandwich Generation – the generation adjusting to an empty nest and caring for aging parents – this episode of Butterfly Days is for you. Tami Jorden gets real about this bittersweet time juggling caregiving and dealing with shifting parenting roles – while also giving a call to reframe the journey as beautiful and sacred. Tune in to hear her encouragement and practical advice for moving forward with grace, wisdom, and intention. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you're a mom of an estranged adult child, you might have felt the loneliness and shame that can come with family estrangement. But there is hope for reconciliation. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Sally Harris, expert and coach for moms of estranged adult children, to discuss what can cause child estrangement, how to know if you're in the cycle of rejection, and why there's always hope for reconciliation. Even if you're not a parent or someone dealing with family estrangement, you'll be blessed and encouraged by Sally's wisdom. 🦋 Watch Sally Harris Coaching on YouTube 🦋 Connect with Sally Harris on her website, Instagram, and Facebook 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

January is always a great time to look forward and choose a word that will characterize your new year. For Tami Jorden in 2026, that word is Mastery. This is the year she'll stop hesitating and asking for permission, and instead start considering herself worthy and living what she knows. It's time for you to do the same. Tune in to lean into mastery and fully show up as yourself in 2026. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

For too long, our system has told women what wellness plans they should follow: how to eat, what exercise regiments to obey, and what new fads to try for optimum health (looking at you, HRT, peptides, and GLP-1). But what if the answer to long-term health involved slowing down and taking a big picture look at the body? Today on Butterfly Days, expert women's wellness and empowerment coach Erin Trier shares why today's one-size-fits-all approach doesn't work as you age, how gut health and emotional health are connected, and why functional health could be the key to taking control of your wellness. 🦋 Set up a free coaching session with Erin Trier through her website  🦋 Follow Erin Trier on Instagram  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

With compassion and clarity, Tami Jorden walks through the realities many women face as they age – longer life expectancy, financial vulnerability, widowhood, and the rising tide of gray divorce. These aren't fear-based facts – they're invitations to wake up, to prepare, and to take loving responsibility for our future selves. We don't have to fear later life. This episode of Butterfly Days is a gentle but powerful reminder that asking for help to take control of your retirement doesn't diminish your power – it restores it. Whether you're married, divorced, widowed, or quietly uncertain about what comes next, this conversation encourages you to take one small, brave step toward clarity, confidence, and intentional living. You got this! 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

Today's topic is one of those uncomfortable subjects that can make your stomach clench: financial enmeshment with adult children. It's that place where love and money intertwine, and boundaries start to blur – bringing a range of complicated emotions and destructive patterns. But today's guest, Hanna Morrell, is a trauma-informed financial coach, and she's here to help you find the wisdom to navigate your way through it. Tune in to hear how to recognize if you're stuck in financial enmeshment, and your first steps to break free from it. 🦋 Connect with Hanna Morrell to learn more about financial enmeshment

Have you ever looked back on something you didn't get – a job, a relationship, a dream – and realized it was one of the best things that never happened? In this tender and witty reflection, Tami Jorden takes us back to her twenties, to heartbreak, a bad perm, and a job interview gone sideways. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami reminds us that wisdom isn't born from getting what we want – it's shaped through loss, laughter, and the grace of hindsight. Tune in to celebrate the grit it takes to keep standing, even when doors close and plans crumble. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

In this uplifting episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden invites Gen X (and anyone cruising through midlife) to laugh, reflect, and gently roll their eyes at the cultural nonsense we were sold-that our worth was based on status, possessions, and other "externals"–rather than what's on the inside. With warmth and wit, she shares ten soul-fortifying truths about love, work, kindness, curiosity, and the unexpected magic of aging. It's a breezy reminder that midlife isn't a crisis: it's a chrysalis. Spread those wings, y'all. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

There's something sacred about stepping away from routine, about shaking loose the patterns that keep us stuck on autopilot. When we challenge ourselves to see the world differently, we wake up the beautiful muscle of curiosity – and that's the secret to staying alive inside, no matter our age. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jarden shares how you can break patterns and upgrade your story – the one you tell yourself about who you are and what's happened to you. Midlife offers a prime invitation to look back with fresh eyes, to give grace where we once held judgment, and to rewrite any narratives that keep us small.  Maybe it's time to forgive yourself. Maybe it's time to release the shame. Maybe in midlife it's time to see you are stronger than you know – you've always had the power within you. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

Sometimes, life hands you a season that tests every ounce of your heart. You don't plan for it – you just wake up one day and find yourself in the middle of it. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jarden talks with Lauren Bayne, founder of Your Chief Brand Officer, to talk about how she walked through taking care of her aging parents, through dementia and cancer. Plus, she shares how she pivoted her career at age 48 to bring meaning and intention to her work. Tune in to hear Lauren's inspiring story of resilience, faith, and the sacred work of showing up. 🦋 Connect with Lauren Bayne on her website

Join Tami Jorden in this episode of Butterfly Days as she shares her journey of finding purpose and connection through service and community. From bedside vigils with the dying to creating the Legacy 22 Women's Circle, Tami explores the transformative power of intuition and intention. Discover how midlife can be a time of joy and fulfillment, as we navigate life's challenges with grit and grace. Tune in for inspiring stories and wisdom that light the path for women over 45. Don't miss this episode that encourages you to embrace your unique journey and soar.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn Watch on Tami Jorden YouTube.  Can't wait to see you there! 🦋

Albert Einstein once said, "No problem can be solved by the level of consciousness that created it." This week's guest lives that truth every day in her work as a co-parenting expert. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Anna Giannone, author of Co-Parenting in Harmony, shares her inspiring story of successfully co-parenting in harmony, and how you can co-parent in a way that puts the kids first. Sisters, whether you're co-parenting, grandparenting, or simply walking through your own midlife metamorphosis, this episode will warm your heart and give you the encouragement you need. 🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone and order her book on her website

What makes friendship one of the best investments a woman can make? Tami celebrates the joy, depth, and healing that come from ride-or-die sisterhoods. From Harvard data proving friendship's role in healthy aging to real talk on "Reason, Season, and Lifetime" friends, she shares how deep, mutual investment can be as important as your 401k or a healthy diet. GenX and Boomer women, if you've ever wondered how to build lasting bonds—or protect the ones you have—this episode is your love letter and your playbook. Because true friendship isn't decorative—it's life-giving. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

In this heartfelt episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden welcomes acclaimed author Theo Boyd, who shares her poignant journey through unimaginable loss and the profound lessons learned along the way. Theo, author of My Grief Is Not Like Your Grief, opens up about the tragic events that reshaped her life, including the loss of her parents and the end of her marriage. Through candid conversation, Theo reveals how she found hope and healing, emphasizing the power of community, faith, and the enduring strength of love. This episode is a testament to resilience and the transformative power of sharing one's story. 🦋 Connect with Theo Boyd on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Threads  🦋 Book Theo to speak at your event, pre-order her new book, and tune into the Think Theo Podcast

Wanna stop a party cold? Tell someone you're a death doula. In this thought-provoking episode, Tami pulls back the curtain on what it really means to companion someone at the end of life—and what it's taught her about how to truly live. With wit, wisdom, and zero sugarcoating, she explores why dying isn't the scariest thing—it's regret. GenX and Boomer women, this is your call to stop waiting, start living, and shape a legacy that feels true to you. Because when you give your breath back, may it be with honor, not unfinished business. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

Join Tamara Jorden as she sits down with Aree Bly, a retired actuary turned coach and speaker, to explore the journey of sustainable success and personal growth. Aree shares her insights on transitioning careers, the importance of aligning with one's core values, and the power of experimentation in finding fulfillment after 50. Discover how Aree's experiences and wisdom can inspire you to embrace new chapters with intention and curiosity. Whether you're considering a career shift or seeking deeper meaning in your current path, this episode offers valuable perspectives for women navigating their second acts. 🦋 Connect with Aree Bly on her website and LinkedIn

What if your next chapter is already whispering to you—and all you have to do is listen? In this soulful episode, Tami explores the power of intuition in midlife and why now is the time to trust your inner compass. She unpacks how decades of responsibility, people-pleasing, and pressure often silence that quiet voice within—and how reconnecting with it can lead to clarity, courage, and even reinvention. GenX and Boomer women, you're not over the hill—you're at the top. This is your invitation to tune in, trust yourself, and follow what lights you up. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

There comes a moment when the work we once believed in no longer sustains us. For Alison Nazarowski, that moment came after decades of serving as a family law attorney and later as a Superior Court judge in Atlanta. Burnout set in, and Alison knew she couldn't ignore it any longer.   She could have stayed. She could have played it safe. Instead, she chose to listen to the whispers of her soul, even when the path wasn't clear. Tune in to hear Alison's story and be inspired to take the leap into the life you're meant to live.   🦋 Connect with Alison Nazarowski on her website 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website

You gotta be you, baby! In this powerful episode, Tami takes a bold look at ageism, self-talk, and the quiet revolution happening among GenX and Boomer women. She shares how midlife cracked open the door to freedom—not by chasing youth, but by rewriting the inner narrative and reclaiming power. With humor, grace, and grit, Tami explores how reframing our past, challenging old assumptions, and daring to think differently keeps us vital. It's time to live as the artist of your own life and break free from outdated beliefs. Because, Sister—nobody puts Baby in a corner. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website

"You are meant for connection. You are worthy of love. You deserve to belong."   These words from Florence Ann Romano hold a truth we often forget, especially in the later chapters of life. Florence Ann Romano, celebrated keynote speaker, author of Build Your Village, and popular media voice on creating community, joins Tami Jorden on Butterfly Days to explore what it means to intentionally build relationships that sustain us.     🦋 Order Florence Ann Romano's new book, Build Your Village 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website

You gotta love you, baby!   Tami shares the journey from self-criticism to self-compassion, revealing how the harsh inner voice of her younger years gave way to a wiser, more loving one in her 50s. She explores the impact of people-pleasing, the power of rewriting our inner story & the quiet strength found in finally trusting ourselves. As a death doula & proud GenX woman, she offers a fresh take on legacy—not as a business concept, but as the lived wisdom we pass on through our choices. This episode is a rally cry for midlife women to love themselves fiercely, show up with grace, and embrace the creative joy and purpose that still lies ahead.   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website

Welcome to today's episode, where we dive into the extraordinary journey of Simone Knego. From climbing Mount Kilimanjaro to gracing TEDx stages, Simone has redefined what it means to live life without limits. Join us as we explore her insights on self-respect, overcoming personal challenges, and the power of embracing failures. Whether you're seeking inspiration or practical advice on building confidence, Simone's wisdom is sure to resonate and empower. Let's get started! 🦋 Connect with Simone Knego on her website  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website

Welcome to Butterfly Days, a podcast about harnessing the wisdom, strength, and extraordinary potential you already have—so you can step fully into your next chapter with purpose and confidence. Each week, host Tami Jorden, a certified death doula and passionate advocate for meaningful living, explores navigating midlife with confidence, reinventing yourself after 50, and embracing aging with strength and wisdom. She shares insights, personal stories, and expert advice to help YOU step into this season of life with clarity, self-trust, and a renewed sense of purpose. From thriving in menopause and beyond to letting go of people-pleasing and perfectionism, Butterfly Days tackles the big questions and everyday struggles of midlife with honesty and warmth. Tami dives into overcoming midlife imposter syndrome, building community and friendships in midlife, and finding purpose in midlife and beyond—all while keeping things real and relatable. Because life isn't over at 45 (or 55 or 65)—you're on top of the hill, not over it! In addition to personal insights and practical guidance, Tami spotlights inspiring women who are thriving in their Butterfly Days, sharing their hard-earned wisdom and best-kept secrets for creating a meaningful legacy on your terms. She also offers real talk on caring for aging parents without losing yourself and how to prepare for what's next without fear or overwhelm. If you're ready to step fully into this season with confidence, find support from like-minded women, and refine a life filled with purpose, you're in the right place. No more waiting. No more holding back. Let's spread our wings—join me for Butterfly Days, because I'm rooting for you!   Join my Substack or visit my website to learn how you can work with me!