Butterfly Days w Tami Jorden

A year ago, Tami Jorden hit record without knowing whether anyone would listen. Fifty five episodes and twenty three remarkable women later, she is not doing a highlight reel. She is handing you the map. In this first anniversary solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami names the five lodestars from year one: the fixed points of light that showed up in her solos and in every guest conversation, over and over. Earned wisdom is currency, and you are the most equipped you have ever been. Memento mori clarifies purpose, because a finite window is exactly what makes this chapter matter. Amor fati upgrades your experience the moment you stop grieving the life you thought you would get. Contribution compounds, because what feels effortless to you is remarkable to somebody else. And kinship sustains, because you were never meant to do any of this alone. Sister, if you have been waiting for permission to build something bold in your second half, this is it. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Memento mori. Remember that you will one day die. It sounds grim until you have sat in the room where it actually happens, and then it turns into the clearest instruction anybody ever gave you. In this one year anniversary mashup of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden pulls together what her favorite guests have taught her about living like the clock is real. Abbe Large explains the difference between a buffalo and a cow, and why it changes how you handle every hard conversation you have been avoiding. Aree Bly refuses to spend a single day feeling bad about being fifty three. Dr. Mary Alice Mina names the hamster wheel we run on when we are frightened of aging. Theo Boyd asks why we put a gag order on grief, and what stories people will tell when you are gone. Lindsey Goldstein says keep your eye on the prize. Christine Despres reminds us we can impact this life no matter the cards we're dealt. Erin Trier sagely observes the value of slowing down & focusing on what matters most. Anissa Hudak was frank to say we don't have to live just stay stuck, we've still years to rise! And Margaret Pasquesi, who brings live harp to the bedside of the dying, says the line Tami calls the spine of this entire show: our power is in our presence, not our productivity.   Sister, if you have been postponing the conversation, the apology, the trip, or the truth, this is the episode Tami says she would keep if she could keep only one. 🦋 Connect with Abbe Large: Lenox Advisors & LinkedIn 🦋 Connect with Aree Bly: Website, Book: The Sustainable Brain & LinkedIn 🦋 Connect with Lindsey Goldstein: Website, Book: Gap Year, Substack, Instagram & Threads 🦋 Connect with Erin Trier: Website, Empowered in Health Podcast, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋 Connect with Dr. Mary Alice Mina: Website, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn & The Skin Real App 🦋 Connect with Margaret Pasquesi: Website, LinkedIn, Facebook & Music-Thanatology Association International 🦋 Connect with Theo Boyd: Website, Book: My Grief Is Not Like Yours, Book: Hope All the Way, Podcast, Instagram & Facebook 🦋 Connect with Christine Despres: Website, Brain Health Quiz & Instagram 🦋 Connect with Anissa Hudak: Speaking, Phoenix Women Healing, LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram & Facebook 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋   🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Aging parents. Adult children who still need you. And you somewhere in the middle, holding all of it together. If that is your life right now, you already know that nobody handed you a manual. This is part of the one year anniversary of Butterfly Days, and it is the most practical hour this show has produced. Nicole J. Smith describes becoming a caregiver as learning four new languages at once, under duress, with life and death consequences. Kirsten Mau gives you the sentence that actually gets a parent to accept help. Abbe Large has a golden idea for how to think about dealing with parental finances & arrangements. Anna Giannone names what our children really need from us. And you will learn exactly what to say to a friend who is drowning in it, instead of the useless let me know if you need anything. And Lauren Bayne reminds us the power of honoring your parents.  Tami Jorden is a certified death doula, and she will tell you plainly what she sees at the end: the families who talk early are not spared the grief. They are spared the regret. Those are two different things, and only one of them is optional. Sister, if you are living the sandwich years right now, or you are about to be, this one is for you.   🦋 Connect with Nicole J. Smith: Website, Book, LinkedIn, Instagram & Daughterhood 🦋 🦋 Connect with Kirsten Mau: Website, Substack, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone: Website, Books, Instagram, LinkedIn & YouTube 🦋 🦋 Connect with Lauren Bayne: Website, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Abbe Large:  Lenox Advisors, Linked In   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

You can't make new old friends. Tami Jorden says it as a warning, not a poem, because the friendships that will carry you through your seventies and beyond are being built or neglected right now. And most of us are far too busy to notice. In this one year anniversary episode of Butterfly Days, Tami brings back the guests who taught her the most about finding your people. Florence Ann Romano, author of Build Your Village, hands you the six villagers every woman needs and shows you how to recast a friendship instead of ending it. Theo Boyd introduces her fairy blonde mothers, the women who appeared when her whole world came apart. And Anna Giannone shows what it looks like to build a family on purpose, including her husband's ex-wife. Loneliness is not a soft subject. For women who tend to outlive our partners, this is infrastructure. Sister, if your circle has gotten quiet and you have no idea where to start, this is the encouragement you need. 🦋 Connect with Florence Ann Romano: Website, Book, Instagram, Facebook & TikTok 🦋 🦋 Connect with Theo Boyd: Website, Book: My Grief Is Not Like Yours, Book: Hope All the Way, Podcast, Speaking, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok & Threads 🦋 🦋 Connect with Alison Nazarowski: Website, LinkedIn & Food for Thought 🦋 🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone: Website, Books, Instagram, LinkedIn & YouTube 🦋 🦋 Connect with Lauren Bayne: Website, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Lindsey Goldstein: Website, Book, Substack, Instagram & Threads 🦋 🦋 Connect with Lisa Copeland: Website, Free Guide: 35 First Date Questions, Book, YouTube, Facebook, Pinterest, LinkedIn & Instagram 🦋 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

A financial coach. A somatic healer. A therapist. A co-parenting expert. A dating coach. And a woman who teaches boundaries for a living. Different fields, different decades, same wound. In this one year anniversary episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden pulls together the moments from a full year of conversations where guest after guest said a version of the same thing: nobody taught me I was allowed to matter. She revisits where the doormat ended up, the gremlin voice that thinks it is protecting you, the rule book you never agreed to, and the gut check question to ask before you walk away from a one-sided relationship. This episode is about worth, and the boundaries that come from finally having some. Sister, if you have spent your whole life coming last on your own list, this one is for you. 🦋 Connect with Simone Knego: Website, Book, Podcast, Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Shawna Marie Bryant: Website, Book, Podcast, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Johanna Danaher: Website & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman: Website, Books, Instagram, Facebook & YouTube 🦋 🦋 Connect with Carla Calderas: Website, Book, Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Florence Ann Romano: Website, Book, Instagram, Facebook & TikTok 🦋 🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone: Website, Books, Instagram, LinkedIn & YouTube 🦋 🦋 Connect with Anissa Hudak: Speaking, Phoenix Women Healing, LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram, Threads, Facebook & X 🦋 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Ever catch your reflection and think you are the faded version of the girl you used to be? Copy of a copy of a copy, each one a little fainter than the last. That ache is real, and almost nobody says it out loud. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden takes apart the lie hiding inside it. Every version of you, the girl, the young woman figuring it out, the one who built the career and the family, the one who crashed and had to rise from the ashes, was a brand new original. A first edition, every single time. And there are versions of you still coming. Tami talks about the knapsack you have been packing your whole life, why the gifts that come easiest are the ones you have written off as nothing, and how knowing your time is finite is exactly what lets you build the next version on purpose instead of on autopilot. She tells the story of Ganna Walska, who chased a singing career that never played to her strengths, then bought a piece of California land at 54 and spent the next 43 years building one of the most extraordinary gardens in the world. And she tells the story of a friend, a retired accountant, who became a court appointed advocate (CASA) for a boy in foster care and changed the trajectory of his whole life. Sister, if you have been calling your best gift nothing, this is the episode that asks you to look again.   🦋 Mentioned in this episode: 🦋 Ganna Walska Lotusland, Montecito, California: https://www.lotusland.org/ 🦋 CASA, Court Appointed Special Advocates: https://nationalcasagal.org/ 🦋 The Richmeister, Rob Schneider's Saturday Night Live copy room sketch, 1991   🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

What happens after the part of your life you planned for is over? What comes next? Are we just done? For a year now, Tami Jorden has been asking women a version of that same question. Not one of them said we're over. This is the one year anniversary of Butterfly Days, and it is a mashup of the wisest things this show has learned. You will hear Simone Knego on the tiny word women use to shrink themselves. Aree Bly on why walking away from something you spent 25 years building is not the same as losing it. Alison Nazarowski, who left a judge's bench in her 40s because she could not survive another decade of it. And Dr. Julie Merriman, who calls her burnout scorched earth and then tells you what grows there. None of them found a shortcut. Every one of them went through something. And not one of them calls her choice brave. Alison says it never felt courageous at all, it just felt like survival. Sister, if you are standing at the end of the life you planned for and quietly wondering whether there is anything on the other side, this one is your answer.   🦋 Connect with Simone Knego at simoneknego.com and on LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Aree Bly on LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman at juliemerrimanphd.com 🦋 🦋 Connect with Alison Nazarowski [LINK TBD] 🦋 🦋Connect with Ashley Rogers  🦋Connect with Lindsey Goldstein  🦋Connect with Christine Depres  🦋Connect with Anissa Hudak  🦋Connect with Theo Boyd 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast

You know the conversation. The one about your parents' money, their care, what happens when they can no longer manage on their own. You have started it in your head a hundred times and never once out loud. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Abbe F. Large, CLU, CLTC, Abbe has spent nearly thirty years helping families protect what matters. Then her own father was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer, and she stopped being the expert and became the daughter. What she found on the other side of that is the reason this episode exists. Abbe makes the case for being a buffalo instead of a cow, explains why getting your affairs in order is an act of love and not a morbid chore, shows you how to open the money conversation with a parent without triggering their fear of losing independence, and walks through what to watch for as scammers get better at targeting our folks. Sister, if you are squeezed between aging parents and your own future and it all feels like too much, start here. 🦋 Connect with Abbe F. Large at Lenox Advisors and on LinkedIn Important Disclosure: The information discussed in this podcast is provided for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as investment, tax, legal, accounting, or insurance advice, nor as a recommendation to purchase or sell any financial product, security, or service. Any opinions expressed are those of the speaker as of the date of recording and are subject to change without notice. Abbe F. Large is a registered representative of and offers securities and investment advisory services through MML Investors Services, LLC. Member SIPC. 90 Park Ave, 18th Floor, New York, NY 10016, 212.536.8700.   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

You cannot eliminate difficulty. You can only try to navigate it well. And in midlife the hard seasons get specific: the house went quiet, a parent is slipping, your body has started renegotiating the terms, and you have begun burying people you love. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden refuses to tiptoe around any of it. She names what makes a hard season dangerous rather than simply sad, which is that it lies to you about the future and flattens the road ahead until it looks gray and endless. Then she makes the case for hope as medicine, not the cheaply gilded Hallmark version, but the kind that names the night first and still keeps a candle lit beside the grief. She hands you three tools you can use this week: gather your sources of strength on purpose before the storm arrives, keep two rooms inside you so grief gets a real room, and practice amor fati, the holy shift from "why me" to "this is my life, and what does loving it wholly ask of me?" Sister, if the losses have piled up and the future looks flat, this episode is for you. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Somewhere along the way, the part of you that used to make things went quiet. Most of us assume that is just what aging looks like. Ashley Rogers thought so too, until she was 75. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Ashley Rogers, a writer, award-winning documentary filmmaker, former network television producer, and real estate entrepreneur based in Cuenca, Ecuador. Ashley went looking for answers to life's biggest questions and found her creative spark instead. What came of it is Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot, a book of 64 questions about purpose, forgiveness, loneliness, grief, and why one sock always vanishes in the wash. She wrote it, illustrated it, self-published it, and built the website, calling herself a technical dummy the whole time. Ashley and Tami talk about what creativity looks like when it comes back after decades of being quiet, why so many women are sitting out this shift and what it is costing them, what AI gets right about grief and what it will never touch, and where the real dangers actually live. Sister, if something in you has gone quiet, this one is for you. 🦋 Connect with Ashley Rogers at soulstar.press and find Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot on Amazon. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

You knew something was wrong before you could explain it. You felt the room turn before a word was said. And when you spoke up, someone asked you to prove it, so you filed it away as being too emotional. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden makes the case that the read, the gut, the pattern you catch before you can name it, was never the lesser kind of intelligence. It was ranked that way, and the ranking was a decision, not a discovery.  She traces where the word hysteria came from, why the Mars and Venus era quietly handed our generation the same old hierarchy dressed up as science, and what researcher Gary Klein found when he studied fire commanders and ER nurses who knew before the monitors did. Here is the good news: embodied knowing does not decline at midlife. It peaks, right at the moment culture starts writing you off.  Tami closes with a three-rung ladder of exact words you can use the next time someone calls your knowing emotional, because a real boundary does not argue. It reclassifies and walks.   You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen https://www.amazon.com/You-Just-Dont-Understand-Conversation/dp/0060959622 Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray https://www.amazon.com/Men-Mars-Women-Venus-Understanding/dp/0060574216   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

When someone you love is dying, nobody hands you a map. You are guessing about the medication. You are guessing about the restlessness. You are quietly terrified you are doing this wrong. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Margaret Pasquesi, a certified music-thanatologist, vocalist, and harpist who serves as president of the Music-Thanatology Association International.  Margaret brings live harp and voice to the bedside of the dying, not as a performance, but as a prescription tuned to a patient's breath, pulse, and temperature. She explains what actually happens in the final days, why so many loving families withhold the very medication that would bring their Person comfort, and how to know when the dying has started so the right people can be in the room.  Margaret also shares how a punk rock kid, child number seven of ten, followed a strange calling into one of the most unusual vocations in end of life care. Sister, if you are caring for a parent, sitting with a friend, or standing at your own empty nest wondering what comes next, this conversation is for you. 🦋 Connect with Margaret Pasquesi: Website: https://www.margaretpasquesi.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpasquesi/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MargaretPasquesi/ Music-Thanatology Association International: https://www.mtai.org/ Accorda Music-Thanatology Institute: https://accordaschool.org/ Tony Pederson Music Thanatologist  FootLeg22 Tiktok🦋 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

Nobody reaches the end of their life wishing they had pleased more people. Tami Jorden has spent hours in rooms with the dying, and what she hears instead, again and again, is this: I wish I had realized what actually mattered. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami unpacks the scorecard GenX and GenJones women were handed before they were old enough to question it.  She explains why it kept paying out just often enough to keep us playing for thirty years, why the thing we call a midlife crisis is really the reinforcement schedule breaking down, and why success is the very thing that hides the miscalculation.  Then she draws the line that changes everything: the difference between a life assigned to you and a life you author yourself. Tami introduces the second portfolio, the one nobody told us to build, with two holdings, contribution and kinship. Most women arrive at fifty five having never taken inventory of either. This is a clear-eyed, warm rally cry to put down the wrong instrument and start measuring what actually counts.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋   🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Your group chats are blowing up about aging parents. The house full of stuff. The car keys. The "maybe we need some help at home" conversation nobody wants to start. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Kirsten Mau, founder and creator of Who Gets the China?, the podcast, Substack, and website dedicated to helping sandwich generation women save their sanity while navigating life with aging parents. Kirsten shares the paradigm shifts that changed everything for her: asking what do you want to keep instead of what can we get rid of, getting real buy-in before you touch a single closet, and practicing radical acceptance when your parents simply are not ready. She and Tami get honest about the car keys conversation, how to offer in-home help as a gift to you rather than a verdict on them, the spoons theory, and why access to your parents' electronic health records is a must for anyone caregiving from a distance. If you are caring for parents while raising kids and trying to live your own life, Sister, this one is for you.   🦋 Connect with Kirsten Mau: Website: https://www.whogetsthechina.com/ Substack: https://whogetsthechina.substack.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstenmau/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/who-gets-the-china/id1823264326 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7h3w2YWQyhMxwFIeiBH2BN   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

If you are the one holding it all together for someone who cannot carry themselves right now, this episode was made for you. In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden draws on her hospice and vigil work to name the two traps waiting for midlife caregivers: the old one that turns selflessness into erasure, and the new one that dresses up desertion as protecting your peace. Tami walks through research on caregiving and menopause symptoms, the science of self-silencing and what it costs a woman's heart, and the real difference between the martyr and the wise caregiver. One disappears. One does not. She shares six practical ways to sacrifice wisely, from naming your limits out loud to scheduling respite like a medical appointment, plus a full list of caregiver support resources including Daughterhood, the Eldercare Locator, and respite programs. This is not permission to walk away. It is permission to stay whole while you stay.   🦋 Caregiver Resources Mentioned: Daughterhood (founded by Anne Tumlinson): https://daughterhood.org The Menopause Society clinician directory: https://menopause.org Eldercare Locator: 800-677-1116 Family Caregiver Alliance: https://www.caregiver.org Caregiver Action Network Help Desk: 855-227-3640 ARCH National Respite Locator: https://archrespite.org Alzheimer's Association 24/7 Helpline: 800-272-3900 VA Caregiver Support Line: 855-260-3274 Mental Health America screening tool: https://screening.mhanational.org In crisis? Call or text 988   Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

What would you do if your whole life blew up in 48 hours? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Lindsey Goldstein, author of the debut novel Gap Year. It tells the story of Jane, a 46 year old CPA whose daughter leaves for a year abroad, whose husband leaves her for another woman, and whose boss hands her an ultimatum, all within two days. Instead of staying stuck, Jane books a ticket to Ecuador to climb Cotopaxi, the volcano she dreamed of summiting in her twenties. Lindsey shares why she refused to make her heroine younger, how travel gives you license to change the script, why friendship is one of the most powerful longevity strategies we have, and the deathbed question that finally pushed her to write. If you are standing at your own pivot and wondering what is still in your tank, this conversation is for you.   🦋 Connect with Lindsey Goldstein at lindseygoldsteinauthor.com.    🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn,  Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

What are you carrying just because it was handed to you? What baggage could you ditch at this age? And do you have room left for what matters to you? In this solo quickie episode of Butterfly Days, Tami asks the questions that might be the most useful ones you ask yourself all year. She gets honest about the loads midlife women carry without ever choosing them: the family peacemaking, the office mom role, the friendship where you give and never get.  Tami draws the line between the sacred weight that love asks of you and the weight that got set in your arms out of habit, guilt, or because you are the one who never says no. She exposes the praise trap, those compliments that always come with a job attached, and shares the three gates to run every hard conversation through before you speak. This episode is your permission slip to ask one brave question: Is this mine to carry? Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ Website: https://tamijorden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Have you ever wondered if it is too late to start protecting your brain? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Christine Despres, a registered nurse of over 30 years and founder of The Wellness Navigator, to talk about why midlife is actually the most powerful window you will ever have to transform your brain health. Christine shares her own story of discovering she carries the APOE4 gene linked to Alzheimer's risk, the midlife career pivot that took her from hospice nursing to brain health coaching, and the small, doable habits that protect your mind for decades to come.    Connect with Christine Despres at thewellnessnavigator.com.  🦋    🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack,  visit her website,  and follow her on LinkedIn,  Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

Wellness culture is everywhere. Optimize your body, extend your life, chase the protocol. But what if midlife is asking us a completely different question? In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami gets real about the wellness and longevity industrial complex and what it quietly sells to women in midlife: the idea that aging is a problem to solve. She makes the case for ikigai, the Japanese concept of a reason to get up in the morning, and the Stoic practice of amor fati, love of your fate, as the two things that actually deliver what every supplement stack promises and cannot deliver. This episode is a warm but bold rally cry to stop optimizing your body and start inhabiting your life.   Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋    More from Butterfly Days:  Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Are you tired of the hot girl hamster wheel? The endless products, the procedures you heard about from a friend, the serum you bought because an influencer said so? And still not loving what you see in the mirror? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Dr. Mary Alice Mina, a Harvard-trained, double board-certified dermatologist and host of the globally ranked podcast The Skin Real, to get honest about what actually works for our skin in midlife and why true skin health starts from the inside out.  Connect with Dr. Mina at theskinreal.com.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website,  and follow her on LinkedIn,  Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋  

What would you do if you knew exactly how much time you had left? What would you finally say? What would you stop tolerating and what would you stop postponing? In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami draws on a decade of hospice volunteer work to ask the one question that has the power to cut through all the noise. She explores what the Stoics knew about facing mortality, why the dying teach us more about living than anything else, and how to use this season of your life as a compass toward what actually matters. This is not dark. This is clarity.    🦋 If you want to learn about hospice care for yourself or for someone you love, resources are linked in the show notes on Substack, Apple, and YouTube. Want more information on Hospice or Palliative Care?  These are excellent to begin or reach out to me via contacts below;  Caring Info Resources, HospiceFoundation.org, What is Palliative Care?, for our friends abroad but great info generally HospiceUK, & this is chockfull of good info The Conversation Project.     Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋  More from Butterfly Days:  Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Have you spent decades producing, achieving, and saying yes to everything and everyone except yourself? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Johanna Danaher, founder of Anchor to Aspire and former 25-year corporate leader at Pfizer, to talk about the pivot that so many midlife women are standing at right now. Johanna shares how to grieve what you are leaving behind, rediscover who you actually are, and move from burnout and stuck to energized and alive. She talks about the inner gremlin that holds us back, the power of the pause, and why filling your cup to overflow is not self-indulgent. It is essential. If you are in the middle of a career transition, a caregiving season, or a quiet wondering of what comes next, this conversation is for you. 🦋  Connect with Johanna Danaher at anchortoaspire.com for coaching or as a speaker.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website,  and follow her on LinkedIn,  Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

You asked, and I listened. After Episode 36, AI Is Not the Enemy, the response floored me. Women came back in droves with questions, concerns, and stories of trying AI for the very first time. In this follow-up solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami tackles the three biggest concerns head-on, including the tough one about energy and land use, and then keeps moving because your time is valuable. She breaks down exactly how to access AI, shares what her listeners are already using it for, and opens up a whole new list of practical, meaningful ways to put it to work for your life. From money and legacy planning to caregiving, travel, grief, and finally starting that thing you've been putting off, this is your Part Two. Links for AI tools in Show Notes 🦋  Resources Mentioned Claude — https://claude.ai Perplexity — https://www.perplexity.ai Gemini — https://gemini.google.com ChatGPT — https://chatgpt.com Grok — https://grok.com All free to start. No excuses. Just pick one and try it.   Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋  More from Butterfly Days:  Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast

What if the answers you've been searching for have been inside you all along? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Carla Calderas, counselor, healing coach, and author of Healing Is Within You, to talk about what it really means to heal in midlife. Carla brings together therapy, coaching, and her own lived experience to help women move from stuck and surviving to free and fully alive. She shares her past-present-future healing framework, explains why forgiveness is where we find freedom, and offers the one brave thing you can do this week to begin. If you've ever felt like it might be too late, Carla has something powerful to say to you.    🦋 Connect with Carla Calderas at her website. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

What if the most powerful thinking partner you've ever had has been waiting quietly on your phone this whole time? In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami gets real about AI, the anxiety surrounding it, and why GenX and GenJones women are not behind. They are exactly on time. She breaks down how AI actually works for real women in real life: from decoding medical lab results and building personalized meal plans, to processing big life decisions and finally showing up prepared in every professional room. This isn't about being trendy or technical. It's about refusing to let fear shrink your world. Because the women who figure this out now will have a quiet, significant advantage over those who don't. This episode is your permission to stop scrolling past AI and start using it like the power tool it actually is. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋  More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast  

Have you ever wondered why you keep reaching for things that don't actually help? Why do the same patterns keep showing up no matter how many times you say you're done with them? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Lori Montry, somatic healing practitioner and author of You're Not the Problem, to talk about what's really driving your behavior and how to finally stop fighting yourself. Lori shares her Freedom Formula, a nervous system-based roadmap for sustainable change, and explains why willpower has nothing to do with it.    🦋 Connect with Lori Montry on her website.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Some friendships are worth fighting for. And some have simply run their natural course. Deep down, you already know it.  In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami gets real about the friendships that nourish us and the ones we've quietly outgrown, and why learning the difference is one of the wisest, most loving things a woman in midlife can do. She explores the concept of the "wish friendship," the power of reciprocity, and how to release what no longer fits with grace, not guilt. As a GenX woman and advocate for intentional living, she weaves in the science of longevity to remind us: the quality of your connections literally adds years to your life. This episode is a warm, honest rally cry to protect your energy, choose your people wisely, and pour into the friendships that truly matter.   🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/  Website: https://tamijorden.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast   

In this honest and important episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Anissa Hudak, Founder and Director of the Phoenix Women Healing Institute. Anissa specializes in empowering women to heal from sexual trauma and reclaim their inner strength. In this conversation, Anissa explains how sexual trauma can resurface during perimenopause and menopause – and how women can begin to heal during this pivotal time.  🦋 Learn more about Phoenix Women Healing or book Anissa Hudak to speak 🦋 Connect with Anissa on LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram, Threads, Facebook, and X  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Change shows up everywhere in midlife. Sometimes, it can feel like that's the whole game for GenX and GenJones women. And while you might be good at adapting, it's exhausting. So on this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden shares a few grounded reminders – some small steps – to help you move through change without overwhelm. Sister, if you feel frozen or stalled out, this is the encouragement you need.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you've ever felt bone-deep exhaustion or burnt-out numbness, you're not alone. But life over 50 doesn't have to be this way. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden chats with Dr. Julie Merriman, a PhD, professor, and counselor who helps high-achieving women over 50 go from "emotionally done" to radiantly alive. Together, they discuss the sneaky reasons for burnout in women over 50, how to overcome it and start feeling like yourself again, and why this season might actually be your most powerful awakening yet.  🦋 Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman on her website, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Have you ever wondered why you see the world the way you do? Why certain expectations feel so natural – like they're baked into you – while others feel like pressure you never consciously agreed to? Your generation didn't just shape your life; it shaped what you were told to value, and that matters more than you think. On this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden clarifies what Gen Jones is, how your generation has affected your worldview, and what you can do today to take charge. This episode is the encouragement you need to take back your power and navigate a better future – for yourself and for our daughters. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

What if in midlife, you could ditch feeling like a doormat and start feeling like the precious diamond you are? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden has a heart-to-heart with Shawna Marie Bryant, a speaker, author, and podcaster who empowers women to step out of exhaustion and into freedom and fulfillment. Shawna shares her own story of saying "no more" to being a doormat, how boundaries changed her life, and what practical things you can say to start setting better boundaries.  🦋 Connect with Shawna Marie Bryant on her website or Instagram 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

We're going there – we're gonna talk about hospice. Before you click away or tense up, understand that the hospice conversation is not about dying. It's about how we care when caring matters most. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden explains what hospice is (and what it isn't), how it's different from traditional medical care, and how to know when it might be time to ask about hospice. If you have loved ones who might need hospice one day, this episode is the encouragement and honest advice you need.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you're in midlife, chances are you've found yourself part of the Sandwich Generation – the generation caring for both their kids and their parents. But things can get infinitely more complicated when one or more of your parents are diagnosed with dementia. This is a road that Nicole J. Smith has walked not once, but with three parents at once. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden interviews Nicole, a certified senior advisor, author, and advocate in the dementia and elder care planning space. Nicole shares practical ways to start conversations with parents about aging, the first steps to take after a dementia diagnosis, and how to help a friend who is a caregiver. This episode will give the encouragement you need to remember: you're not alone in caregiving. 🦋 Connect with Nicole J. Smith on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, and email her at [email protected]  🦋 Teepa Snow's website 🦋 Daughterhood.org  🦋 The Sandwich Club 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

"You are meant for connection. You are worthy of love. You deserve to belong."   These words from Florence Ann Romano hold a truth we often forget, especially in the later chapters of life. Florence Ann Romano, celebrated keynote speaker, author of Build Your Village, and popular media voice on creating community, joins Tami Jorden on Butterfly Days to explore what it means to intentionally build relationships that sustain us.     🦋 Order Florence Ann Romano's new book, Build Your Village 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack and visit her website  

Behind every accomplished woman is a story – and Kristen Hartnagel, a keynote speaker and personal branding strategist, is no different. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Kristen shares the story of losing her parents and sister and how the grief shaped her. She talks about the healing power of music, how she takes joy seriously, and how she keeps imagination and creativity alive at age 60. Tune in to this episode for the encouragement to remember that life isn't over in midlife – it's just beginning, and it's whatever you want to make it! 🦋 Connect with Kristen Hartnagel on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and YouTube 🦋 Schedule a free coaching discovery call with Kristen Hartnagel 🦋 Learn more about the Threshold Choir 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

Our culture constantly tells us that aging is shameful and must be avoided at all costs. But what if aging and menopause are not problems to be fixed, but something beautiful to embrace? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden challenges the shame, honors the complexity of menopause, and reframes what it really means to thrive in our 50s and beyond. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

How do you start dating again after 50? What does it take to attract the right person? And honestly, where have all the good ones gone? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden gets the scoop from Love Coach and Dating Expert Lisa Copeland on all things dating after 50 for women. From why you have to approach dating in your 50s differently from dating in your 20s, to what men over 50 are really looking for, Lisa covers it all to help GenX and Boomer Babes feel empowered to find love, confidence, and fulfillment.  🦋 35 Awesome 1st Date Questions + 9 Exit Strategies: Create instant connection, spot red flags faster, and know when to stay—or leave. Includes 35 first-date questions and 9 easy exit strategies. 🦋 Connect with Lisa Copeland on her website, YouTube, Facebook, Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Instagram     🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you're a GenX or Boomer woman who's part of the Sandwich Generation – the generation adjusting to an empty nest and caring for aging parents – this episode of Butterfly Days is for you. Tami Jorden gets real about this bittersweet time juggling caregiving and dealing with shifting parenting roles – while also giving a call to reframe the journey as beautiful and sacred. Tune in to hear her encouragement and practical advice for moving forward with grace, wisdom, and intention. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube & Instagram 🦋

If you're a mom of an estranged adult child, you might have felt the loneliness and shame that can come with family estrangement. But there is hope for reconciliation. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Sally Harris, expert and coach for moms of estranged adult children, to discuss what can cause child estrangement, how to know if you're in the cycle of rejection, and why there's always hope for reconciliation. Even if you're not a parent or someone dealing with family estrangement, you'll be blessed and encouraged by Sally's wisdom. 🦋 Watch Sally Harris Coaching on YouTube 🦋 Connect with Sally Harris on her website, Instagram, and Facebook 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

January is always a great time to look forward and choose a word that will characterize your new year. For Tami Jorden in 2026, that word is Mastery. This is the year she'll stop hesitating and asking for permission, and instead start considering herself worthy and living what she knows. It's time for you to do the same. Tune in to lean into mastery and fully show up as yourself in 2026. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

For too long, our system has told women what wellness plans they should follow: how to eat, what exercise regiments to obey, and what new fads to try for optimum health (looking at you, HRT, peptides, and GLP-1). But what if the answer to long-term health involved slowing down and taking a big picture look at the body? Today on Butterfly Days, expert women's wellness and empowerment coach Erin Trier shares why today's one-size-fits-all approach doesn't work as you age, how gut health and emotional health are connected, and why functional health could be the key to taking control of your wellness. 🦋 Set up a free coaching session with Erin Trier through her website  🦋 Follow Erin Trier on Instagram  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

With compassion and clarity, Tami Jorden walks through the realities many women face as they age – longer life expectancy, financial vulnerability, widowhood, and the rising tide of gray divorce. These aren't fear-based facts – they're invitations to wake up, to prepare, and to take loving responsibility for our future selves. We don't have to fear later life. This episode of Butterfly Days is a gentle but powerful reminder that asking for help to take control of your retirement doesn't diminish your power – it restores it. Whether you're married, divorced, widowed, or quietly uncertain about what comes next, this conversation encourages you to take one small, brave step toward clarity, confidence, and intentional living. You got this! 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram 🦋

Today's topic is one of those uncomfortable subjects that can make your stomach clench: financial enmeshment with adult children. It's that place where love and money intertwine, and boundaries start to blur – bringing a range of complicated emotions and destructive patterns. But today's guest, Hanna Morrell, is a trauma-informed financial coach, and she's here to help you find the wisdom to navigate your way through it. Tune in to hear how to recognize if you're stuck in financial enmeshment, and your first steps to break free from it. 🦋 Connect with Hanna Morrell to learn more about financial enmeshment

Have you ever looked back on something you didn't get – a job, a relationship, a dream – and realized it was one of the best things that never happened? In this tender and witty reflection, Tami Jorden takes us back to her twenties, to heartbreak, a bad perm, and a job interview gone sideways. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami reminds us that wisdom isn't born from getting what we want – it's shaped through loss, laughter, and the grace of hindsight. Tune in to celebrate the grit it takes to keep standing, even when doors close and plans crumble. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

In this uplifting episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden invites Gen X (and anyone cruising through midlife) to laugh, reflect, and gently roll their eyes at the cultural nonsense we were sold-that our worth was based on status, possessions, and other "externals"–rather than what's on the inside. With warmth and wit, she shares ten soul-fortifying truths about love, work, kindness, curiosity, and the unexpected magic of aging. It's a breezy reminder that midlife isn't a crisis: it's a chrysalis. Spread those wings, y'all. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

There's something sacred about stepping away from routine, about shaking loose the patterns that keep us stuck on autopilot. When we challenge ourselves to see the world differently, we wake up the beautiful muscle of curiosity – and that's the secret to staying alive inside, no matter our age. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jarden shares how you can break patterns and upgrade your story – the one you tell yourself about who you are and what's happened to you. Midlife offers a prime invitation to look back with fresh eyes, to give grace where we once held judgment, and to rewrite any narratives that keep us small.  Maybe it's time to forgive yourself. Maybe it's time to release the shame. Maybe in midlife it's time to see you are stronger than you know – you've always had the power within you. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn

Sometimes, life hands you a season that tests every ounce of your heart. You don't plan for it – you just wake up one day and find yourself in the middle of it. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jarden talks with Lauren Bayne, founder of Your Chief Brand Officer, to talk about how she walked through taking care of her aging parents, through dementia and cancer. Plus, she shares how she pivoted her career at age 48 to bring meaning and intention to her work. Tune in to hear Lauren's inspiring story of resilience, faith, and the sacred work of showing up. 🦋 Connect with Lauren Bayne on her website

Join Tami Jorden in this episode of Butterfly Days as she shares her journey of finding purpose and connection through service and community. From bedside vigils with the dying to creating the Legacy 22 Women's Circle, Tami explores the transformative power of intuition and intention. Discover how midlife can be a time of joy and fulfillment, as we navigate life's challenges with grit and grace. Tune in for inspiring stories and wisdom that light the path for women over 45. Don't miss this episode that encourages you to embrace your unique journey and soar.  🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack, visit her website, and follow her on LinkedIn Watch on Tami Jorden YouTube.  Can't wait to see you there! 🦋

Albert Einstein once said, "No problem can be solved by the level of consciousness that created it." This week's guest lives that truth every day in her work as a co-parenting expert. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Anna Giannone, author of Co-Parenting in Harmony, shares her inspiring story of successfully co-parenting in harmony, and how you can co-parent in a way that puts the kids first. Sisters, whether you're co-parenting, grandparenting, or simply walking through your own midlife metamorphosis, this episode will warm your heart and give you the encouragement you need. 🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone and order her book on her website