College Is Fine, Everything's Fine

Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Shreya Hessler, a psychologist and professor who created a college course called Digital Detox: Doing Nothing and Doing Well. Together, we explore how constant phone and social media use impacts attention, relationships, and self-worth—especially for Gen Z.Dr. Hessler shares what happens when students unplug completely during class, and how learning to tolerate boredom and discomfort can lead to stronger connections, better focus, and more intentional choices. Rather than promoting total avoidance of technology, this conversation focuses on building awareness and creating a healthier relationship with it.We also discuss practical strategies you can try right away, like naming your phone use out loud, delaying the urge to scroll, and running small “experiments” to better understand your habits.Dr. Hessler's private practice:https://mindsetcenter.com/shreya-hessler-psy-d/Ted Talk:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zxa2xgXPJc&themeRefresh=1Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

What does it really feel like to be a queer athlete — to show up every day in a sport you love while wondering if your teammates truly have your back? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Tess Kilwein, a clinical sports psychologist based in Nashville, to dig into a side of athlete mental health we don't talk about nearly enough.Dr. Kilwein works with elite athletes across the country, specializing in creating trauma-informed, identity-affirming environments — especially for LGBTQ+ athletes and others who've experienced marginalization in sport. She breaks down what minority stress theory actually means for athletes, why locker room culture matters more than people think, and what coaches, parents, and teammates can do — starting today — to make a real difference.This one is packed with practical takeaways, honest conversation, and a powerful message for every athlete who has ever felt like they had to hide a part of themselves to earn their place on a team.Resources for athletes:Athlete AllyYou Can PlayBlack Student-Athlete SummitWomen's Sports FoundationAbout Dr. Tess KilweinDr. Kilwein is a board-certified clinical and sport psychologist who works with elite athletes and performers across the United States. They support athletes of all ages, identities, and competitive levels in navigating concerns ranging from mental health challenges to performance optimization. Dr. Kilwein specializes in creating performance environments that are trauma-informed care and identity-affirming, with particular expertise in working with LGBTQ+ athletes and performers. Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex BannerWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

What if confidence isn’t the key to peak performance?In this episode of College Is Fine Podcast, Sarah and Liz sit down with sports psychologist Dr. Mitchell A. Greene to unpack one of the biggest myths in athletics: that you need to feel confident to perform well.From college athletes to Olympians, Dr. Greene shares what’s actually happening inside the minds of high performers—and why the most driven, prepared athletes are often the ones struggling the most.What We Cover:Why high performers feel the most pressure Performance anxiety isn’t a sign of weakness—it often shows up because athletes care deeply and have put in the work.The truth about “mind chatter” Dr. Greene introduces his concept of mind chatter—the doubts, second-guessing, and mental noise that show up in high-stakes moments.Confidence myth Many athletes are taught they need confidence to succeed—but chasing confidence can actually make things worse.Outcome goals vs. action goalsWhy shifting your focus from outcome goals to action goals can actually improve your performance📚 Resources & LinksLearn more about his work at Greene Psych (sports psychology & performance coaching) https://greenepsych.com/our-team/mitchell-greene-ph-d/ Dr. Mitchell A. Greene's Book https://www.amazon.com/Courage-over-Confidence-Managing-Chatter/dp/B0BYC2NQVT/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=185685790705&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SG07gzxNmvxFoo6K9q9gH60Xo1kKs8xcPeNEOMNwJgVmAG4grN97nlAk4Li4gwS5oIArR6q8ma-PlG4kSeOb86vdpMHCMzgyK8MrZkmCn_mFlrxX90XFRoX25t-YtHCrvv0bdebYwWkiLLVKX2OUNTlxUFJsQVcp49BaWnpkS6bpzkMod1rngsLa9llDXJgh8sB3Co2TQyFncbfXxwm2CbuPRquwkvg2eECe-d7T7XE.emcDsyvEh66B6kPsLdFMYtj0URTd68-aX4y6dpTeXbk&dib_tag=se&hvadid=779570049283&hvdev=c&hvexpln=0&hvlocphy=9001853&hvnetw=g&hvocijid=4570656352206099733--&hvqmt=e&hvrand=4570656352206099733&hvtargid=kwd-1849565868624&hydadcr=20366_13322219_2282818&keywords=courage+over+confidence&mcid=17ea770aa9053e41bf4d618457019844&qid=1773859643&sr=8-1Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Every athlete plays two games — the sport on the field, and the mental game happening in their head. In this episode, we sit down with two experts who work with college athletes every day: Carrie Potoff, a licensed clinical social worker at Sasko River Center in Darien, and Rhodie Lorenz, a mental performance coach who works with college and high school athletes. Together, they break down what it really takes to perform well — not just physically, but mentally.What We Cover:Why the mental side of sports is just as trainable as the physical sideHow negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy — and how to interrupt itThe difference between "useful" and "not useful" thoughts (hint: it's not always about positive vs. negative)What "process goals" actually look like in real lifeA simple two-column exercise to help athletes focus on what they can controlHow burnout shows up in college athletes — and how to help them fall back in love with their sportThe "Side Game" tool: a powerful technique for helping athletes rediscover their "why"How team culture and shared vulnerability can elevate individual performanceResources Mentioned:Saugatuck Mind and Sports Lab — Carrie and Rhodie's organization working to shift the culture around outcome fixation in youth and college sportsMike Vrabel's "4 H's": History, Heroes, Heartbreak and Hopehttps://www.espn.com/video/clip/_/id/47580019Key Quotes:"The mind doesn't believe what is true — it believes what is repeated." — Rhodie Lorenz"You can't perform at your highest level and endure this level of pain if it's not attached to something beyond yourself." — Rhodie LorenzAbout Our Guests:Carrie Potoff, LCSW works out of Sasko River Center in Darien and specializes in working with athletes navigating the emotional and psychological demands of competitive sports.Rhodie Lorenz is a mental performance coach with a background in education and fitness. She works primarily with college-level athletes, helping them build the mental tools they need to thrive under pressure.Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Meditation is supposed to calm you down… right?In this episode, Sarah and Liz talk with journalist Ginger Koehler about what happened when she tried meditating every morning for a week for an article for Her Campus—and instead of feeling peaceful, she ended up having a full-on emotional crash out.Ginger shares how sitting alone with her thoughts during a major post-grad life transition brought up feelings she didn’t expect. What started as a simple wellness experiment turned into a deeper realization about loneliness, life after college, and the pressure to “have it all figured out.”Together, they unpack some of the biggest myths about meditation and mindfulness, including the idea that meditation automatically makes you relaxed. Instead, it can sometimes make your thoughts louder before things get clearer.The conversation explores how meditation isn’t one-size-fits-all—and how practices like gratitude, stretching, walking, or quiet moments without technology can still bring mindfulness into everyday life.In this episode, we discuss:Why meditation doesn’t always feel calming (especially at first)The difference between mindfulness and meditationWhat happens when you finally slow down and hear your thoughtsPost-grad loneliness and identity shifts after collegeWhy meditation is a skill—not something you're automatically “good at”Finding a mindfulness practice that actually fits your personalityMindfulness Apps- https://www.headspace.com/studentplanhttps://www.calm.com/app/class/calm-for-studentsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

We feel so lucky to have a guest two-fer! On the last episode, you heard Ali and her daughter Emme bravely share their takes on the college application process. Lucky for us, Ali stuck around for more tips on managing the college transition. Whether it’s gearing up for application season, or starting to prep for freshman year, college planning can feel scattered: tutors here, advice there, dorm stuff somewhere else — and new headlines every day. Seeing all the headlines, the information overload, and the social media sensationalism around college, Ali started The College Corner so parents and students could have a trusted, one-stop-shop for all things college. We cover what Ali is seeing across the “college ecosystem” (from social media trends to major admissions shifts), why narrowing a list helps reduce chaos, and how families can keep perspective — especially when anxiety spikes as application season approaches.This episode ends with one of our favorite takeaways: it’s not just about where a student goes — it’s about who they’re becoming.What We Talk AboutThe origin story of The College & Dorm Corner (a “Knot.com” model for college planning)Curated campus travel guides made by college students: where to stay, eat, and visitWhy college advice feels fragmented — and what helps families feel less overwhelmedSocial media vs. real expertise: what gets sensationalized and what stays groundedThe admissions landscape as a constantly evolving story (and why that fuels stress)Ali’s “7 Steps to Choosing the Right College” and how lists can calm the chaosBuilding a college list: size, location, majors, and lifestyle factors (including sports culture)Why visiting a school can change everything (hello, “this speaks to me” moments)The “Dream School” mindset shift: fit > hypeParenting through application season: regulation, collaboration, and perspectiveThe reframe we want every parent to remember: college is four years; your relationship is for lifeTakeawaysIf you’re overwhelmed, a structured list can reduce decision fatigue — but don’t let it become rigid.Social media can be useful, but not all “expert” content is created equal.Students thrive most when they have agency and the school is a true fit.Parents: your steadiness is part of the intervention — zooming out can lower the temperature at home.About the GuestAli Dorfman is a former TV producer (CBS News, The Today Show, ABC) and founder of The College & Dorm Corner, a one-stop platform supporting families through the college planning journey — from test prep to dorm décor. Make sure to check out this amazing resource! https://www.thecollegecorner.com/about-us Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Junior year of high school is here — and the college process is officially real.In this special episode, we try something new: a “Newlywed Game”-style conversation between a mom and her daughter about their different takes on independence, stress, communication, and what the college process actually feels like inside one household.Ali Dorfman, former TV producer and founder of The College & Dorm Corner, joins us alongside her daughter Emme to share the parent and student perspective in real time.From ACT prep to Life360, from FOMO to family rules, this episode captures the nuanced dance between pushing, guiding, and letting go.In This Episode, We Discuss:When junior year suddenly makes college feel “real”The independence spectrum: How much should parents step in?Balancing grades, sports, extracurriculars, and test prepThe emotional climate inside a household during application seasonCommunication expectations once students leave for collegeWhich family rules may (or may not) retireThe role of social media in shaping college dreamsWhy passion > résumé paddingThe tension between parent aspirations and student interestsThe “marathon, not sprint” mindsetKey Takeaways:Junior year often feels like “buckle up” season.Independence in the college process is rarely all-or-nothing.Students need space to develop their own internal compass.Parents are navigating their own letting-go journey.The fun stuff (sports, campus life, dorm decor) can be motivating — but academics still dominate the mental load early on.Family communication expectations should be discussed before move-in day.About Our GuestAli Dorfman is a former TV producer (CBS News, The Today Show, ABC) and founder of The College & Dorm Corner, a one-stop platform supporting families through the college planning journey — from test prep to dorm décor. Make sure to check out this amazing resource! https://www.thecollegecorner.com/about-us And a special thank you to the brave, insightful and all-around rock star Emme who was willing to be our *first* Two Takes guest! Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Conflict on college campuses has changed—and not just because of roommates and group projects.In this episode of College Is Fine, Everything’s Fine, we’re joined by Bob Bordone, conflict and negotiation expert, former Harvard Law School professor, and author of Conflict Resilience, for a timely conversation about how students can navigate disagreement when the stakes feel personal, political, and deeply tied to identity.From classroom discussions and group chats to social media posts and friendships strained by global events, Bob helps us understand why conflict feels so overwhelming right now—and why avoidance has become the default coping strategy. He introduces the concept of conflict resilience, a skill that isn’t about “winning,” fixing, or resolving differences, but about staying present, authentic, and connected in the face of discomfort.Together, we explore:Why conflict avoidance feels safer—but costs us more in the long runHow polarization and social media amplify fear, reactivity, and disconnectionThe difference between aggression, assertion, and avoidanceWhat “disagreeing better” actually looks like in dorm rooms, classrooms, and relationshipsHow to raise hard topics without betraying your values—or yourselfWhy conflict resilience is a core leadership and life skill, not just a communication tacticBob also shares practical ways students can start building conflict resilience right now, including reframing conflict as a normal (and even connective) part of relationships and learning to sit with discomfort instead of immediately fleeing it.If you’ve ever felt anxious about speaking up, setting boundaries, or engaging with someone who sees the world very differently than you do, this episode offers a grounded, hopeful path forward.Links to Bob Bordone’s book Conflict Resilience and his work are below:https://www.bobbordone.com/https://www.bobbordone.com/booksWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Did last semester not go the way you hoped? You’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone.In this episode of College Is Fine, Everything’s Fine, we’re joined by college professor and executive-functioning expert Krisler Bailey to talk about how to actually bounce back after a tough semester. We cover why motivation fades (and what works instead), how unstructured time quietly wrecks your schedule, and why rereading notes and highlighting everything isn’t studying.This conversation is equal parts validating and practical. Whether you struggled academically, socially, or just felt overwhelmed, this episode will help you build a realistic reset plan—without perfectionism, shame, or all-or-nothing thinking.In this episode, we cover:Why everyone struggles in college (just in different ways)Why discipline beats motivation every timeHow unstructured time derails students—and how to fix itTime-blocking your day so you still have a lifeWhy your phne feels like an emotional support device (and what to do about it)How to reduce distractions without going cold turkeyWhat actually works for studying (hint: not rereading notes)How community—friends, classmates, professors—makes bouncing back possibleTakeaway: Last semester doesn’t define you. College is a skill set—and skills can be learned.🎧 Listen now and start your reset.Krisler Bailey is a college professor, college success coach, and functional medicine certified health coach. With over 20 years of experience supporting students through the transition to college and adulthood, Krisler helps students and families navigate the hidden curriculum of college while building routines that support both academic success and well-being. You can read more about Krisler and her coaching services here: https://coachingwithkrisler.com/Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction03:04 Understanding Student Struggles05:45 The Role of New Year's Resolutions08:58 Building a Supportive Community12:00 Strategies for Academic Success15:59 Time Management and Study Skills23:57 Engaging with Course Material29:00 Conclusion and ResourcesWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

What were therapists really like in college?In this candid episode of College Is Fine, Everything’s Fine, we sit down with therapists for an unfiltered conversation about their actual college experiences—no polished bios, no clinical jargon, and absolutely no acronyms.From awkward roommate situations to academic struggles, bad decisions, and lessons learned the hard way, our guests share the truths they wish someone had told them as students. This episode is equal parts validating, surprising, and reassuring—especially if you’ve ever thought, “Everyone else has this figured out except me.”Whether you’re stressed about grades, doubting your major, or feeling behind, this episode is your reminder that becoming a therapist (or a functional adult) was never a straight line.Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this episode, Rae Jacobson, an expert on ADHD, shares her personal journey with ADHD and learning disabilities. She discusses the challenges she faced in college, the importance of finding the right educational environment, and the value of self-awareness and support systems for students with learning differences.Keywords:ADHD, learning disabilities, college, self-awareness, support systemsTakeaways:ADHD diagnosis can be life-changing.Finding the right college fit is crucial.Support systems are essential for success.Self-awareness helps in managing ADHD.Executive functioning skills are vital.College isn't a cure-all for learning issues.Peer support can be incredibly beneficial.Professors can be valuable resources.Mental health services are important.ADHD affects more than just academics.Rae Jacobson, MS, is the lead of insight at Understood and host of the podcast Hyperfocus with Rae Jacobson. She is a writer, ADHD expert, and former senior editor at the Child Mind Institute. Her work has appeared in New York Magazine, the Daily Beast, Rolling Stone, Parenting, American Girl, and more.To hear more from Rae, make sure to check out her podcast Hyperfocused, brought to you by Understood.org. Both are amazing resources for college students with learning differences. Link: https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/hyperfocus/welcome-to-hyperfocus-with-rae-jacobson Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

College can feel overwhelming. Going to office hours is one of the simplest ways to feel connected, supported, and confident—academically and emotionally. After hearing from high school seniors and college students who regret never building relationships with professors, we brought in someone who truly understands the other side of the desk: Dr. Danielle DeNigris, Associate Professor of Psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University. Dr. DeNigris breaks down what office hours actually are, why professors genuinely want you to come, and how these quick conversations can help you understand class material, fix study strategies, navigate confusing assignments, or—plot twist—build mentorships that matter long after the class ends.Whether you’re a first-gen student, someone who’s always worried about “bothering” your instructor, or someone who never knows what to say in an email, this episode has concrete tips, scripts, and college hacks that make showing up feel 100× less intimidating.Dr. DeNigris- https://www.fdu.edu/profiles/danielle911_denigris/UNC Office Hours Guide-https://learningcenter.unc.edu/tips-and-tools/using-office-hours-effectively/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Sleep: it’s the ultimate college luxury, the missing ingredient in most all-nighters, and—according to our guest—one of the biggest players in your mental health. In this episode, we catch some wisdom (and maybe a few zzz’s) with clinical psychologist Dr. Colleen Ehrnstrom, who unpacks why college students are chronically tired, what circadian rhythms actually do, and how to tell the difference between being fatigued and being sleepy (yes, they’re different!).We talk about everything from late-night scrolling to the myth of “catching up” on sleep, and Colleen helps us rethink what “good sleep hygiene” really means—spoiler: it’s not a one-size-fits-all checklist. She also sheds light on how substances like CBD and marijuana can mess with your REM cycles, and why flexibility (not perfection) might just be the secret to better sleep.Whether you’re a night owl, an over-caffeinated early riser, or somewhere in between, this episode is your wake-up call to take sleep seriously—and maybe, finally, make peace with your pillow.Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this episode, we chat with debut author Heather Coley about her darkly captivating campus novel The Gilded Butterfly Effect. We unpack the toxic dynamics of Greek life, the uphill battle for mental health resources in college, and how fiction can often hit closer to home than nonfiction. Heather also gets real about the writing process, social media pressures, and navigating rejection in the creative world. If you're a student—or just someone who’s been through the college grind—this one’s for you.Book Release Date: October 21, 2025Connect with HeatherInsta: @heathercolleyauthorTikTok: @phdwithpaigeWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

From TikTok videos of organizing and cleaning content to everyday “I’m so OCD” comments, the term gets tossed around a lot, but what does OCD actually mean? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. John Guerry, a licensed clinical psychologist, who helps us break down the difference between personal quirks, perfectionism, and a true Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) diagnosis. He explains how intrusive thoughts and compulsions create distressing cycles, why people with OCD often suffer in silence, and how symptoms can be hidden behind “high-functioning” appearances.In this episode we explore:Why intrusive thoughts are common for everyone—but stick differently for people with OCDHow compulsions bring short-term relief but reinforce the disorder over timeThe difference between OCD and OCPD (Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder)Lesser-known themes beyond contamination, like morality (“scrupulosity”), harm, or “just right” OCDWhy the college years can trigger worsening symptomsThe role of family, peers, and environment in either accommodating or unintentionally feeding OCDDr. Guerry also highlights why OCD tends to latch onto the things people value most—family, relationships, morality—and why people with OCD often have such “big hearts.”Resources Mentioned:International OCD Foundation – trusted information, screeners, and a directory for finding evidence-based OCD therapists.https://iocdf.orgAbout Our Guest:Dr. John Guerry is a clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety and OCD. He practices at Harbor, a group practice in the Philadelphia area, dedicated to treating anxiety disorders, OCD, and related conditions.https://www.harborpa.comWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this episode we explore the therapeutic power of humor with comedian Amber Autry and therapist Melanie Reese. From using laughter to cope with stress and grief, to understanding how comedy can complement traditional therapy, this conversation highlights how joy and mental health intersect in unexpected ways.Amber and Melanie share the origin of their podcast I’m Fine, It's Fine and how comedians often process deep emotions through humor. Melanie brings insight into how laughter impacts the nervous system, lowers stress hormones, and serves as a “reset button” for the brain. Together, they illustrate how humor can be both a coping strategy and a tool for connection.Key Takeaways:Humor can be both a therapeutic tool and a form of comic relief that helps process difficult emotions.Comedy and laughter positively impact the nervous system, lowering stress and promoting connection.Therapy doesn’t have to be traditional; activities like storytelling, creative expression, or laughing with others can provide meaningful healing.Life’s hardest moments and funniest moments often coexist, and embracing both can be therapeutic.Resources & Links:Amber Autry & Melanie Reese: I’m Fine Podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-fine-its-fine/id1664241532Melanie Reese, Trauma Therapy of Nashvillehttps://integrativetherapynashville.com/Amber Autry (comedian)https://www.amberautrycomedy.com/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Everyone procrastinates—especially in college—but what’s really going on when you keep pushing things off? In this episode, Dr. Shannon Bennett (Weill Cornell Medicine) joins us to unpack why procrastination is so common, how it connects to emotions like anxiety, self-doubt, and perfectionism, and what you can do to get unstuck.We cover:Why procrastination isn’t about lazinessThe emotional roots of putting things off (fear of failure, perfectionism, boredom, self-doubt)Why college is a perfect storm for procrastination (so much freedom, so many distractions)Simple but powerful strategies to get moving (breaking tasks into small steps, writing messy drafts, starting with “just one mark on the page”)How reflecting on your “why” can help you stay motivated when the work feels overwhelmingThis conversation is all about normalizing procrastination (you’re not alone!) while also giving you tools to shift your mindset and habits.Takeaways for StudentsProcrastination is usually about avoiding uncomfortable feelings—not laziness.Start small: sometimes just one sentence, one bullet point, or one messy draft is enough to get rolling.Connect your tasks to your values—remembering your “why” can turn busywork into meaningful steps toward your bigger goals.Pride and relief come after the work—cramming might get the grade, but it won’t give you that same long-term payoff.Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

College isn’t all highlight reels and coffee-fueled study sessions—it’s also about handling the hard stuff. From failing a test to making a social misstep, these moments can trigger strong emotional reactions and leave students feeling overwhelmed. In this episode, we break down how stress shows up in the body and mind, and how students can respond wisely instead of getting stuck. We review practical skills like P.O.I.S.E. and T.I.P.P., and break down how to cultivate more willingness when we get stuck through techniques such as the half-smile and willing hands. Lastly, we chat about the importance of knowing when and where to get help on campus. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How our natural stress responses (fight, flight, freeze) can backfireThe difference between willfulness (resisting reality) and willingness (accepting reality)Practical skills from DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) to help you cope, including:Willing Hands & Half-Smile – simple body-based shifts to open yourself up to acceptancePOISE – Pause, Observe, Inhale/Exhale, Stretch out your options, Engage in effective actionTIPP skills – quick ways to reset your body when emotions feel overwhelming:Temperature Intense exercisePaced breathing Progressive muscle relaxationFor more resources on mental fitness skills, as well as the other R.E.A.C.H. skills, head to our website: https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/tipsheetsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you.Insta: @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex BannerWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

The people you build connections with in college can be the difference between just surviving college and truly thriving. The episode delves into the importance of having a balanced friendship matrix, recognizing different roles friends can play, and the necessity of seeking out both emotional and practical support. Additionally, we discuss the often-overlooked value of building relationships with professors and mentors. Listeners will gain tips on attending office hours and the benefits of professional relationships in their academic journey. The episode wraps up with actionable advice on managing social and academic pressures effectively.What You’ll Learn:How to evaluate your friend groups using the “Friendship Matrix”The importance of editing and curating your social circle for happinessWhy building relationships with professors and mentors is crucialTips for navigating office hours, academic help, and professional connectionsReal stories from college students to illustrate what works and what doesn’tFor more resources on mental fitness skills, as well as the other R.E.A.C.H. skills, head to our website: https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/tipsheetsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you.Insta: @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex BannerWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

College life often feels like a tug-of-war between what we want to do and what we actually do.  In this episode, we learn about the “Act with Purpose” skill. We discuss how to identify your internal GPS, navigating where your values and goals intersect, and learning how to tell if you are on-track or veering off-ramp. Real-life student examples bring procrastination struggles into focus, while Sarah and Liz provide practical tools—like acting as if and gradual exposure—to help students move from avoidance to purposeful action.You'll learn: How to identify and act on your core values.How to recognize the difference between productive self-care and procrastination.Practical strategies to overcome procrastination and build motivation.How small, purposeful actions can improve confidence, social skills, and emotional regulation.Awareness tools for aligning your daily behaviors with long-term goals.For more resources on mental fitness skills, as well as the other R.E.A.C.H. skills, head to our website: https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/tipsheetsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this episode of the R.E.A.C.H. Toolkit series, we dive into the tricky triangle of college life—sleep, study, and socialize. Can you really balance all three? (Spoiler: yes, but it takes strategy!) We talk about building emotional resilience, setting healthy habits, and learning how to be flexible with your thoughts. From late-night study sessions to the pull of TikTok, we explore what it takes to keep your mind sharp and your mental health strong.What you’ll learn:Why “catching up” on sleep doesn’t really workHow to balance studying and social life without burning outTips for staying consistent with fitness and self-care routinesWhy thoughts are not facts (and how this mindset can change everything)Small daily habits that boost mental fitnessNow you're an expert on "E," elevating your mental fitness. For more resources on mental fitness skills, as well as the other R.E.A.C.H. skills, head to our website: https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/tipsheetsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this rebooted episode, we sit down with college students Patrick (Villanova), Ali (University of Richmond), and Paul (Providence College) to talk about the reality of transitioning into college life. Together, we unpack the gap between expectations and reality—covering everything from forming friendships to handling loneliness, navigating independence, and balancing academic and personal pressures.We also introduce the R.E.A.C.H. toolkit, which holds the key skills students need to survive and thrive in college:Realizing Your ValuesElevating Mental FitnessActing with PurposeCreating Healthy RelationshipsHandling Hard Things WiselyThis part one episode focuses on values—how they guide decisions, how they shift in college, and how you can use them to feel grounded through change.What You’ll Learn:Why it's normal for college to be different from your expectationsThe difference between values and “shoulds”How values can shift and grow during the college yearsPractical examples of staying true to values—even when it’s hardWant to do a values check-in? Check out our resources page, where you can find the "What's Your Why?" tip sheet and other R.E.A.C.H. resources. https://www.collegeisfinepodcast.com/worksheetsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In high school, college can feel like an exciting highlight reel—but what’s behind the Instagram posts and game-day photos? In this live episode, we sit down with three college students who get real about the highs, lows, and learning curves of transitioning from high school to campus life.We talk about what really helps during those ramen-fueled days and socially-overwhelming moments. From battling procrastination and navigating friend groups, to figuring out who you are and how to take care of your mental health, we cover it all with the help of our 5-point R.E.A.C.H. framework.Realize Your ValuesElevate Your Emotional FitnessAct with PurposeCreate Healthy RelationshipsHandle a Crisis WiselyWhether you’re a rising freshman, a concerned parent, or someone currently in the college trenches, this episode is packed with relatable stories, actionable tips, and a reminder that it’s okay to not have it all figured out on day one.This episode is a special collaboration with Wave Strong, a foundation with a mission to improve mental health awareness and resources within their community of Darien, CT. We are so lucky they hosted us for this live event, and we are incredibly grateful to the recent graduates of Darien High School for sharing stories about their transition to college, the challenges they faced, and how they navigated them.  Wave Strong Foundation: https://wavestrong.org/If you prefer video (hint: easier to see the slides that way!): https://youtu.be/H8Xze_27-7E And last but not least, here's a link to the tip sheets we shared: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGpfz8GYYY/ibIWbRNjS9k8cyFlqmkIrQ/edit?utm_content=DAGpfz8GYYY&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

College is a critical period where students are exploring and solidifying their values and their identities. Polarizing social topics, like religion, politics, social justice, are often at the core of these developing identities. Now more than ever, polarization on these issues is worsening, and deeply impacts the lives of college students. Exploring these tensions on and off campus can feel daunting, and often leads students chronically swinging from avoidance to activism. We get it. There are so many tough conversations to be had with people we care about.  In this week’s episode we avoid avoiding, and discuss how you can develop a framework to find a balance between keeping relationships that are important to you, while also continuing to live in accordance to your values. What we will discuss in this episode:The importance of dialectics Why you should always assume you are assuming How to draw relationship boundaries Redefining goals within relationshipsHow to use the DBT FAST and GIVE skills to handle value differencesHow to gently pushback in conversations in a non-confrontational wayWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Put down that red Solo cup and listen in as we talk with Dr. James McOwen, clinical director of the Addiction Recovery Management Service at Massachusetts General Hospital. In this eye-opening chat, we dive into the real deal about college drinking and drug culture.What you'll learn in this episode:What percentage of college students drink, and when does it slip into a problem drinkingTips for partying smart if you do choose to drinkWhy pizza is your drinking allyIs drinking the same for men and women?Is drinking too much the only sign of a drinking problem?What do to if you’d like to cut back or take less risk when you’re drinkingIs switching to weed the better solution?Specific red flags that your drinking might be a problemPerfect for college students trying to navigate the drinking scene, parents worried about their kids, or anyone interested in the fascinating connection between mental health and substance use in young adults. This episode keeps it real while giving you practical advice you can actually use!RESOURCES:Thank you to Dr. McKowen for sharing these resources with us!https://www.campusdrugprevention.gov/resources/federal-nationalhttps://www.acha.org/college-health-topics/substance-use/https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/drug-addiction/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20365113 Questionnaires: https://nida.nih.gov/taps2/  (click “I’m a patient” at the bottom) https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/checkyourdrinking/index.html https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/10526/drug-abuse-screening-test-10-dast-10MORE ABOUT DR. McKOWEN:Dr. James McKowen is a licensed clinical child psychologist and an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Massachusetts General Hospital. He completed his post-doctoral training at MGH in addiction medicine and pediatric neuropsychology. He is currently the clinical director of the Addiction Recovery Management Service, an outpatient clinic specializing in the treatment of adolescents and young adults with substance use and comorbid mental health issues. He conducts research in youth addiction including neuropsychological predictors engagement, marijuana smoking and aggression in youth, and he developed a protocol for treating substance use in youth with autism. In addition, for the past several years, Dr. McKowen has been expanding his clinical and research interests in the impacts of climate change on youth mental health. He is co-chair of the MGH Climate and Mental Health Initiative, Associate at the MGH Center for Environmental and Health, Affiliate Faculty, Center for Climate, Health, and the Global Environment (C-CHANGE) Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health and member of the Climate Psychology Alliance – Youth Subcommittee.  He is trained in climate-aware therapy and conducts research on climate change related emotions and coping in youth. Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Up until college, a lot of our problems are solved for us.  Whether its the high school teacher who notices you are falling behind pulling you aside after class to offer help, or your parents cleaning your room for you when you're feeling overwhelmed. College is the first time our independent problem solving skills are put to the test.  Unfortunately, many students skip the problem-solving part and go straight to panic mode. If you are feeling overwhelmed and having a hard time approaching problems on campus, this microdose episode is your guide to trying to get your college life together.  In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Lindsay Tulchin, a Cognitive Behavioral therapist in NYC, who lays out the steps to tackle a problem effectively.  Dr. Tulchin walks us through a 5-step guide to problem solving.  DEFINE THE PROBLEMGet specific and focus on one problem at a timeGENERATE SOLUTIONSList all solutions you can think of without judgmentStart with "bad" solutionsInclude solutions you've already triedASSESS PROS & CONSShort or long term?Is this realistic? What are potential obstacles?How difficult will it be to implement?How likely is it to work?How might it affect others?PICK & PLAN When? At a specific time or in response to something?How do you need to prepare? How will you remember?EVALUATEDid it work?If not, why not and how can you tweak it?Or try another optionDr. Tulchin's Private Practice:https://www.lindsaytulchin.com/Dr. Tulchin's Group Private Practice:https://www.nycognitive.com/about-lindsay-tulchinWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Love coffee *and* looking for that next great job or internship? You're in luck. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the world of building important job connections with none other than Marc Reede, serial entrepreneur and author of The Coffee Code. If you’ve ever wondered what it takes to build a successful career, one conversation at a time, make sure to listen in as Marc shares:How to turn informal connections into job leadsWhere to find the great jobs (hint: It's not on LinkedIn)The importance of recognizing who's in your "court side seats"Why it's important to define and refine your interview storyTips for pausing, and then bouncing back, after rejectionA Sneak Peak:"The person that you wanna meet, you've already met. The person that's gonna help you the most already knows you. That person is already in your network. You just have to find that person." "You don't have to be Magic Johnson to have a court side, because there are individuals who've known you for years, there are your professors. There's, there's people that know you and know the success path that you're on right now, and they want to help you. "If you want more where that came from:Make sure to pre-order Marc's book: https://marcreede.com/coffee-code-book/Follow Marc on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcreede/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In today’s episode, we’re following up on our previous microdose episode on the G.I.V.E. skill and diving into its counterpart, the F.A.S.T. skill. The F.A.S.T. skill is designed to help you build strong relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries. It's a balancing act: You don’t want to burn yourself out by giving too much to others without considering your own needs. Here are the key letters of F.A.S.T.:F = Fairness: Be fair to yourself and others. Your perspective matters just as much as theirs. Make sure both parties are listening and valuing each other's needs.A = No Apologies: Avoid over-apologizing or under-apologizing. Respect yourself enough to not apologize for setting boundaries or asking for what you need. S = Stick to Your Values: Whether it’s kindness, achievement, or another core value, stick to your guns and ensure your values guide your actions, even when faced with anxiety or pressure.T = Truthful: Be truthful without exaggerating or making up excuses. A gentle "no" is much more authentic than a white lie. Setting boundaries truthfully helps preserve your self-respect.Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In this week's microdose episode, we sit down to discuss the G.I.V.E. skill from DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), which helps individuals build and maintain positive relationships. Whether you are navigating a conflict with your roommate, trying to make new friends, or wanting to build a better relationship with your parents, the G.I.V.E. skill can help increase the likelihood that others will view you positively after your interactions with them. The skill involves four key components:- being Gentle- acting Interested- being Validating- using an Easy MannerStay tuned for our next microdose episode on learning how to maintain your self-respect in relationships. Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Saying goodbye to your parents is often the last thing most college students are thinking about when they tackle their “to do” list before moving in on campus.  In an earlier episode, we sat down with college students who shared their experiences with relationship shifts at home.  In this week’s episode, we sit down with not one, but two expert psychologists to explore the challenges and growth opportunities that arise for the parent-child relationship when young adults head off to college. They provide valuable insights for both parents and students on how to maintain strong, supportive relationships during this transitional phase. In this episode we will touch on:Communication challenges between college students and parentsThe importance of discussing expectations early Navigating the balance between autonomy and dependency Tips for students and parents to communicate better, using strategies like DEAR MAN How to build support networks for parents during the college transitionResources:Drs. Annalise Caron and Suzanne Allen’s group private practice in Westport, CThttps://cbtwestport.com/The Parenting Pair Website:https://www.theparentingpair.com/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

In today’s microdose episode, we dive deep into one of the most powerful tools in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) – the DEAR MAN skill. We welcome Dr. Sameena Groves, a clinical psychologist and DBT expert, to explore how this assertiveness technique can help navigate tough conversations, set boundaries, and communicate effectively during your college years (and beyond).Dr. Groves walks us through the steps of DEAR MAN, which is an acronym for:Describe: Lay out the facts without judgment.Express: Share how the situation impacts you emotionally.Assert: Ask for what you want or say no to something you don’t want.Reinforce: Explain why the other person might benefit from meeting your request.Mindful: Stay focused on the issue at hand, without being swayed by distractions or defensive responses.Appear Confident: Deliver your request with a calm, firm, and neutral tone, even if you're not feeling 100% confident.Dr. Sameena Groves is a cognitive-behavioral therapist in private practice in New York City, Westchester and the Zoomsphere. She helps Type A adolescents, college students and adults develop new ways to strive for a great life while doing (slightly) less, practicing self-kindness, and questioning the code of hustle culture. She believes that good therapy consists of teamwork, trying things outside of your comfort zone, being kind to yourself, and enjoying the bumpy process of personal growth. She takes her cues from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy, two approaches favored by the team at College is Fine. Fun Fact: Dr. Groves and Dr. Olivo met during postdoctoral training at the NYU Child Study Center and built a private practice together over a decade ago! Dr. Sameena Grove's private practice: https://www.cityandcountrycbt.com/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

So much of childhood education is about learning academic skills to get into college and very little is on the personal and social skills required to thrive in college.  In this week’s episode we sit down with Dr. Ifeanyi Onyejiji, founder of Onye Speaks.  Dr. Onye shares about his work developing a motivational and culturally relevant curriculum aimed  to help students learn the “soft skills” that are often missing in K-12 education.  Dr. Onye’s holistic approach highlights the importance of the development of self-advocacy, career self-efficacy, and self-awareness skills in order to help students feel more confident and capable as they navigate college and young adulthood.  Whether you are applying to college, or are already on a college campus, this episode is a must listen.  Dr. Onye’s website:https://www.onyespeaks.com/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

College can be a tough transition for many reasons; you’re on your own for the first time, have to find a new circle of friends, and you have an enormous amount of freedom that comes with being an adult. One thing that often is not thought about enough, though, is how being at college can cause shifts in your relationships off campus.  Balancing personal growth and navigating relationship changes at home can become a source of tension and stress.  In this week’s episode, we sit down with three college students who explore the complex relationship changes that happen as students transition to college life. Our guests reflect on their own journeys through these transitions and share their insights on:Managing expectations with parents (e.g., frequency of communication)Setting personal boundaries Defining and adopting new values Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

With Thanksgiving around the corner, most of us are gearing up for our annual “attitude of gratitude.” And while many of us appreciate and experience this seasonal thankfulness, we often forget the *daily* power of gratitude and how it can help shift our moods. In this microdose episode, we discuss the science behind gratitude, share simple ways to incorporate daily gratitude practices to keep your mood afloat, and talk about how to use this practice when the going gets tough. Resources: https://www.calm.com/blog/gratitude-exercisesWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

By the time you have gotten to college, you have probably been exposed to metaphors.  Whether you are telling your friends "you are drowning in work" or you're sitting in an English 101 class, metaphors are literally everywhere. In this week's microdose episode, we discuss how metaphors can be important life shortcuts.  We sit down and share some of our favorites and how they're powerful tools that can help us learn and grow. Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

College makes it very easy to find friends. You’ve got loads of time, your pick of social events, party ready dorm rooms, and hard classes to bond over. But for many students, finding friends isn’t the problem. The challenge is finding quality friendships. Introducing the “Friendship Matrix,” a lifehack to help you build healthy and fun friendships in a new, fun way. Make sure to listen to this episode if you want to:Find out whether you believe in the friendship myth about what a “good friend” meansDiscover how different friend “vibes” meet different needs, from reliable “anchors” to fun, outgoing “adventurers.”Explore the importance of give-and-take in friendships and how to spot imbalances in your social circle.Learn why it’s valuable to step outside of your comfort zone and explore friendships with different types of people.Reflect on your role in your friendships—are you giving or taking more, and how can you bring more balance?And ok, should we have created a podcast episode that is very dependent on a visual? Maybe not. Did we figure that out mid-recording? We did! If you want a visual while you watch, we’ve shared it in our socials, and you can go straight to it here: https://tr.ee/kD3SabhgonOr let’s be real, just watch our clips on TikTok :) Happy listening!Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

If your school has Greek Life, at some point you have asked yourself is rushing worth it? From movies to family and friends, there are A LOT of opinions about rushing. And although rushing is exciting, it's also incredibly stressful and daunting. We know it is an important decision freshmen are often trying to make, especially when you are trying to make friends and find a community on campus. In this week's episode, we hear from college students who have got their letters already or are currently rushing on their college campuses. We will break down what factors to consider as you weigh the pros and cons of whether or not the Greek-life scene is for you:Perception vs. realityAm I cut out for it – introvert, don’t fit the moldSocial burnoutToll now (cost, time commitment) vs. long-term gainsWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

So long sweet summer... by now many of you are back on campus. Some of you may be thrilled, others may be terrified. Whether you are a freshman or a returning student, being mindful of how your mindset may influence your academic year is a critical tool to get you off to a healthy start. To launch our podcast return, we thought it would be helpful to re-air one of our most downloaded episodes on the expectations versus realities of campus life.  Transitioning into the semester after summer can leave us feeling unfocused and unsure. In this episode you will hear from our guests on how cultivating a "beginner's mindset" can help bring us to a more balanced and useful way of viewing our expectations for the fall. Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you.Insta: @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastVoice memo: (929) 500-2231Email: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex BannerWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

By now most of your finals are over, and hopefully you are making plans for a fun summer.  We wanted to end this season with a microdose episode that will get you through any tough moments you may have over the summer and to keep in your mind when you get back on campus in the fall.  Whether you are going through a break-up, disappointed with your semester grades or confused about your future career, using effective coping skills will help you weather any emotional storm. You might not be in control of the tough times, but you have a choice in how they impact the way you feel. In this microdose episode we introduce the P.O.I.S.E. skill to your toolkit for when things get challenging: PauseObserve your thoughts, feelings, and action urgesInhale and exhaleStretch out your optionsEffective action replaces emotional reaction Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Whether you are finishing your finals or are a HS senior getting ready to transition to college, we wanted to end this year’s season with two microdose episodes with tips on how to manage college stress.  When you are burned out, overwhelmed, and feel like the wheels have really fallen off, you can really feel like a M.E.S.S. While we can’t guarantee a stress-free college experience, we can guarantee that paying attention to these 4 letters will keep your head above the emotional waters.   In this microdose episode, we share four areas that are key to keeping your body *and* emotions in rhythm:Moving your bodyEating in a balanced waySleeping 7-9 hours a nightSpace from social media Which letter do you need to pay more attention to so that you don’t become a M.E.S.S.?Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Once again we got so lucky to have today’s guest, Dr. Jessica Stern, a psychologist, advisor and consultant for Wondermind, Doctor Radio, and SELF Magazine. It’s pretty clear that she not only teaches ways to be more productive in your life, but she also practices some of these tricks herself because this woman is crazy productive!This week’s episode is for you if you:*Feel like your hustling but never feel like your work is finished*Want to learn why you procrastinate*Need ways to declutter your mental *and* your physical space to feel more productive*Could use some guidance on when to take breaks and when to keep grinding through school workListen in as Dr. Stern shares tips on how to maximize your efforts and minimize your burnout!You can find Dr. Jessica Stern and her Productivity Powerkit here:https://www.drjessicabstern.com/shop/p/productivity-powerkitAnd check out Wondermind athttps://www.wondermind.com/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

“I don’t belong here.”“Everyone else knows what to do.”“When will people figure out I’m an imposter?”This is the third episode in our shame series, and it helps answer one of the questions we get asked most. “Am I the only one who feels like an imposter at college?”Well, we brought out a real heavy hitter when we interviewed Dr. Jill Stoddard, veteran psychologist, podcaster and author of Imposter No More. I mean, did we nail it or what? Tune in if you:Have ever wondered “Do I belong here?”Work hard to make sure people don’t find out you’re an “imposter” on campusWant to know what kind of imposter you are (pssst, Sarah is a Super-Human Imposter)Are interested in hearing ways to beat this mindset and live a “full-sized” lifeMake sure to take Jill's quiz to get started on your "beat imposterism" journey!RESOURCES:Quiz: What kind of imposter are you?https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in-feee68ba-7225-4e3c-9139-2dbfc8a057a7For more about Dr. Stoddard and her book Imposter No More: Overcome Self-Doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career:https://jillstoddard.com/jillsbooksWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

We’ve all been there. The hot-headed comment to a friend, the accidental text to the wrong group, a late-night DM sent under less than sober circumstances…The shame and embarrassment that can happen when we’ve made these kinds of mistakes can make you want to hide in your room for the rest of the semester. But Dr. Colleen Lang is here with some good news and essential how-tos when it comes to bouncing back from those “social suicide” moments. Listen in as Dr. Lang shares:Common thinking traps that occur after social mistakesEffective responses when shame is unjustifiedHow to face the music when shame is justifiedWhy you should experience mistakes on purpose RESOURCES:Colleen Lang, Ph.D., is the founder and director of a group private practice in Manhattan and Brooklyn specializing in CBT and DBT for youth, families and adults.  She is also a Clinical Supervisor of doctoral students learning CBT and DBT at Teacher's College of Columbia University.  https://behavioralwellnessnyc.com/colleen-langWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Out of all the emotions we have, shame (and its cousin, embarrassment) tends to feel the worst. And since it feels the worst, it often makes us act in some ugly and super unhelpful ways. We tend to yell, hide, blame and injure - both ourselves and people we care about - when we feel shame. This microdose episode kicks off our “Shame Series,” where we describe:what the emotions of shame and embarrassment are, when we tend to feel these emotions,how we can tell whether our emotions “fit the facts” of the situation, and which skills you can use to move past shame stuck points. Make sure to stay tuned (and subscribe!) so that you have first access to our upcoming episodes, where we’ll talk about how to overcome social mistakes, manage heartbreak, and fight imposter syndrome. Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Busy schedules, late nights, and erratic sleeping patterns often lead to inconsistent eating habits in college. A diet of ramen, pizza, and endless supplies of coffee is the norm on many campuses. We know that taking care of your body is just as important as getting a 4.0 (and maybe the key to getting one), but college life often makes it difficult to avoid bad eating habits. As two former college students who may have not made the wisest dining choices, we knew we had to find an expert on nutrition for this episode.  This week we sat down with Rena Bruckman, MS, RD-N, a registered dietitian/nutritionist specializing in the treatment of weight and disordered eating.  Rena helps lay out a different approach to making more nourishing, intentional choices in the dining hall.  From how to handle your dining hall phobia, to what snacks to stock in your dorm room, this episode will help map out a college meal plan that is both delicious and nutritious.RESOURCES:Rena’s Practicehttps://ctthrive.com/about/team/rena/JED Foundation’s Tips for Eating Well in Collegehttps://jedfoundation.org/resource/tips-for-eating-well-at-college/Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Social media gets a bad wrap, and sometimes that’s fair (hello “Text Neck Syndrome” and ties to loneliness, depression and body image issues). But social media isn’t going anywhere, and we think it’s time for a more balanced discussion. There is no one better to guide us than Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Growing Up in Public. She has researched this topic relentlessly, drawing on hundreds of interviews with not only parents and educators, but kids, teenagers and young adults. Dr. Heitner isn’t here to shake her finger but to instead provide a roadmap for how to grow up with constant cameras, posts and likes. We know the choices you’re facing are complicated, and we want you to have some gentle guidance as you face them. So put on DND for a few minutes and listen to Dr. Heitner share:Common misunderstandings between college students and parents regarding digital mediaRules of thumb for knowing what to post onlineTips for safe sextingHow to decide when/whether to post about controversial topicsOops posts - what to do nextResources:Dr. Devorah Heitner's Websitehttps://devorahheitner.com/Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World https://www.amazon.com/Growing-Up-Public-Coming-Digital/dp/0593420969#:~:text=Devorah%20Heitner%20is%20the%20author,with%20kids%20can%20be%20overwhelming.If you want some specific tips on how to navigate current events:https://www.stltoday.com/news/local/column/aisha-sultan/sultan-what-can-college-students-post-about-war/article_5b388588-88f9-11ee-995a-b70d52953e24.htmlWant to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Happy 2024! We couldn’t be more excited to have @drpatriceberry help us start the new year. Dr. Patrice Berry is a psychologist, author, and all around kick-ass person who has brought her smarts to social media. She’s *so* good at giving quick and sound advice on Tik Tok that Harvard School of Public Health #HarvardChan selected her as one of the top mental health content creators IN THE COUNTRY.So yes, she has some pretty snazzy credentials, but what we really love about her is the quality, integrity and warmth behind her advice. Listen up as she talks about:Skillfully managing life’s hassles, big and small  Finding clarity and strength in the hard timesUsing the power of social media for goodIf you need more Dr. Berry after this episode, you can check out her book and find her on instagram and Tik Tok @drpatriceberry and on You Tube as Dr. Berry: Psychologist Responds. Resources: Dr. Patrice Berry’s Practicehttps://www.fourriverspsych.com/NYT Article Social Media and Mental Health https://www.nytimes.com/2023/10/16/health/mental-health-tiktok-harvard.htmlDr. Berry’s Book: Turning Crisis Into Clarity: How To Survive or Thrive in the Midst of Adversity https://www.amazon.com/Turning-Crisis-Into-Clarity-uncertainty/dp/1949840026Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

Hi crew! We did something a little different this week. In Sarah's "other life," she runs Lumate Academy, the training and education department for Lumate Health. (Check it out! LumateHealth.com) She recently sat down with veteran child and adolescent psychologist Dr. Anne Marie Albano to share tips with parents on how navigate their college freshman's first long visit home. If you're about head back and think your parents/caregivers could use some tips, make sure to share this episode with them!To get a "gist sheet" of the topics discussed:https://lumatehealth.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Lumate-Family-Balance-Tip-sheet-1.pdfTo watch the full webinar:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZioQubLZBYFOR THE PARENTS:Are you a parent anticipating your teenager’s return home from college? There are plenty of resources about navigating your teen’s transition to college. But what about the other transition – coming back? The holiday season is a time for family togetherness, but it can also bring unexpected surprises due to your teenager’s newfound independence.   You might wonder, "Are the house rules the same? Did they struggle during their first semester? Should I ask questions about it? Can I handle the answers?” With years of clinical experience working with teenagers and young adults, Anne Marie and Sarah have advised hundreds of students and families through holiday reunions. In short, they’ve seen it all. Join them live to learn: The most common reunion challenges families encounter  Strategies to balance conflicting parent and teen priorities Advice for effective communication and support if problems arise Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner

The S word. No, not the one that adds a dollar to Sarah’s swear jar, the other one: sex. A topic drilled into our heads in health class with catchy phrases like “no means no.” But beyond one unit in a single semester course, sex probably hasn’t been mentioned by any adults in any great detail ever again (except maybe your parents, eww…). Don’t worry, in this episode we are not going to bore you with biology or anything close to that. Instead we want to talk about a topic we all have mixed feelings and numerous questions about: hooking up. There is a pressure on college campuses to hookup, but it seems to be a lose-lose situation. You don’t want to be labeled desperate for hooking up too much, but you also don’t want to be labeled prudish or old fashioned. Maybe you love hooking-up, maybe you hate it, and maybe you have mixed feelings about it. If you're experiencing any of these emotions don’t worry, you are not alone, and it’s also not your fault. Sarah sits down with Dr. Lisa Wade, Author of American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus, who clarifies the difference between a hookup (great if consensual!) and hookup culture (not so great). Tune in if you want to hear about how normal it is to be excited, confused, and frustrated by sex culture on your campus, and what you can do about it. Resources:American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by Dr. Lisa Wade https://lisa-wade.com/american-hookup/ (includes other fantastic resourTces!)One Love Foundationhttps://www.joinonelove.org/If you want to find out more about how respectful love should look like, this is the site for you.Want to share your story, give us feedback or offer up an episode idea? Reach out! We'd love to hear from you. Insta:  @collegeisfinepodcastTik Tok: @collegeisfinepodcastEmail: [email protected] is Deadbeats by Rex Banner