Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Welcome back to Even Here, Even Now! I have been wanting to have this conversation for a while, and I am so glad Sammie Fleming finally made it onto the podcast. She tuned in from her beachside town in New Zealand, which meant we were on opposite ends of the world, me absolutely dripping sweat and her wrapped up against the cold with multiple coffees. Sammie is a coach for devoted space holders who are here to do deeply integrity-filled work in the world and want to do it with their whole heart. Over the past decade she has guided more than 1200 clients and facilitated hundreds of sacred circles, workshops, and retreats around the world. Her work is about helping space holders cultivate grounded confidence and rise into the next evolution of their soul work in full alignment with their values.Our conversation was organic in the most wonderful way. We began with the very real and unglamorous reality of meeting your needs when you have small children and a full business and broken sleep, and what it looks like when the big stretch is carving out seven minutes to lie on the floor of your office and listen to a song before going back inside to your family.And then we got into the tension between a big life and a soft life. Can those things can coexist?! What does it means to swap the word "or" for "and" and let both things be true at the same time? Sammie's answer is pancake mornings and big stretchy projects. Long slow Sundays and the call that will not leave you alone.We also talk what ambition actually is when you strip away what you were taught to want, how finding your thing completely changes your relationship to excellence, divine responsibility and what it means to be brave enough to follow the call even when it makes no logical sense, and what the next five years might look like when there is finally a little more breathing room.If Sammie's work is calling to you, her program Gather is open right now through July. It is a 12-month journey for devoted space holders who want to build extraordinary space holding practices and become extraordinary practitioners. You can find out more at sammiefleming.com/gather.xMaraMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!I am thrilled that today Carmen Spagnola is BACK on the podcast. (If you have not listened to it yet, last time we were talking about how to cultivate a small and delicious life in the face of collapse, how to sit with needs that cannot be met, and how to find hope and feel despair at the same time. It is a good one. Find it here!)This time we went deeper into the actual mechanics of connection, and specifically into Carmen's new book How to Connect and the framework at the heart of it: Contact nutrition.Contact nutrition is the how of secure attachment. The five physical, mammalian things we do that make another person feel seen and safe: kind eyes, vocal prosody (real emotional warmth in your voice), safe touch, shared rhythm, and ingestion behaviors like eating and drinking together. These are the micro-moments that either connect us or create distance.During this episode, Carmen and I talk about why these connective behaviors can be difficult to access in a culture shaped by oppression and chronic stress. We talk about how to figure out which of the five your own nervous system is most hungry for. We get into casting a wider net for getting your needs met, including why I love my Zumba crew for weekly contact nutrition!This powerful thing about the framework of contact nutrition in my experience is that it gave me language for something I had been quietly judging myself for needing.But, you, like me, are not too needy. You are under-nourished. There is a difference, and this episode is going to help you feel into it.About Carmen SpagnolaCarmen Spagnola is a somatic practitioner, attachment educator, clinical hypnotherapist, and an outspoken feminist witch. She teaches about attachment, contact nutrition, power dynamics, animism, folk magic, ritual, and ancestral knowledge related to land and seasons. Carmen's new book How to Connect: Build Strong Bonds and Deep Connections Through Contact Nutrition comes out November 4th, 2026 from 9th House Press. Pre-order it now at carmenspagnola.com. Pre-orders matter enormously for small independent publishers and this book is worth it!My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now.I am absolutely stoked to be joined today by tarot extraordinary and all around fabulous human, Lindsay Mack!Lindsay Mack (she/they) is an intuitive Tarot teacher, writer, death doula, and founder of Tarot for the Wild Soul, as well as the host of the popular podcast of the same name, which has been downloaded over 11 million times. Through their beloved workshops, retreats, and online Tarot courses, Lindsay has had the profound honor of teaching Soul Tarot to many tens of thousands of students from all around the world. Their first book, Tarot for the Wild Soul, and Tarot deck, The Soul Tarot Deck illustrated by Chelsea Granger will be released by Running Press on May 19th, 2026.I came to this conversation as someone who has had a complicated relationship with tarot, always reaching for it looking for a way out of the present moment rather than a way to deepen into it, and Lindsay completely cracked that open for me.We talk about what it actually looks like to use your deck as a tool for being with what is, not escaping it. We get into why so many of us believe we have to be spiritually prepared or emotionally cleaned up before we can access support and why that is not true and where that belief actually comes from. We talk about the nine of wands, bespoke nourishment, Little House on the Prairie reruns as medicine, and the idea that the mess is not something to get through before the real work begins. The mess is the medicine.Lindsay left us something we can ALL keep coming back to. You do not have to perform to access support. You can show up exactly as you are.Pre-order Tarot for the Wild Soul and The Soul Tarot Deck here. Find Lindsay's instagram here for book tour dates!xMaraMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now.I have been talking to clients all week. I have been hearing from friends. And I know that so many of us are in it right now.And I also know that when things get hard, most of us decide that our needs are the thing we can most afford to put on hold. We tell ourselves we will get back to ourselves when the to-do list is cleared, when things settle, when it gets easier. We tell ourselves we are fine.This episode is a little bit of tough love about that pattern and a lot of real, honest support for what it actually looks like to tend to yourself when everything is hard.I talk about why sitting in uncertainty is a skill we have to practice and how most of us have been using doing as a strategy to avoid feeling. I share the story of telling my nine-year-old she could bring her bad mood to the library, and what that has to do with you. And I get into the actual, practical, human-sized ways to show up for your most foundational needs when you are running on empty.Not a four course meal. Not a complete overhaul. Scrambled eggs. A glass of water. Putting yourself in the room.You are allowed to feel everything you are feeling and still show up for yourself. Those two things can be true at the same time. That is what we are talking about today.I am so glad you are here.xMaraEpisode Timestamps: 00:00 Why hard times are the exact moment we abandon ourselves most 02:21 The pattern of putting your needs on the other side of something more important 04:49 Using doing as a strategy to avoid the discomfort of feeling 06:58 Burnout, uncertainty, and why this skill matters so much right now 09:21 What happens in your body when your mental body exits the building 11:24 Coming back into your body: one step forward, just one 13:48 You are allowed to make mistakes and not have all the answers 16:21 Bring your bad mood to the library (a story about my daughter and also about you) 20:34 What tending to discomfort actually looks like in practice 25:18 Getting clear on what can be cleared away during a hard time 27:41 Human-sizing your expectations of yourself when the world is a lotMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend.This is the last public Daily Touch. After today these recordings are moving inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program, where they will be waiting for you every week alongside calls, community, and my full support.But I wanted to go out with something real.Because here is what I notice. So many of us go around all day saying we want things. We want to feel different. We want to feel better. We want this to be easier. And then we talk about it with our friends, we listen to podcasts about it, we think about it into oblivion. And we tell ourselves that counts. That we are doing something.I love you and it does not count.Thinking about something is not the same as doing something. And I know that feels harsh but I also know that you already know this, which is probably why you are here.This Daily Touch is a tough love conversation about the gap between the life you say you want and the one tiny, unsexy, undramatic step you are actually willing to take in that direction today. Not a 37 point plan. Not a complete overhaul. One thing. Something small and doable and real.You are going to spend the energy either way. What if just a tiny dose of it went somewhere different?If you want to keep going, come inside Tend. The Spring cohort is enrolling now and doors close Sunday March 29th. I would love to have you: maraglatzel.com/tendSee you on the other side.xMaraMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Welcome back to the Daily Touch.I am going to tell you something that most people in my position would not say.When you start saying the true things, when you stop micromanaging everyone's perception of you, when you stop making yourself as easy as possible to love, things might fall apart. Some of them might... and I am not going to shellac over that.But here is what I know. If you have been routinely abandoning yourself in order to keep the peace and hold it all together, you do not have a steady foundation to fall back on when life gets hard. And life will get hard.The relationship you have with yourself is the only one you take with you everywhere, into every conversation, every board meeting, every relationship, from the day you are born until the day you die. It is your most longstanding relationship. And most of us are taking it completely for granted.That is what this Daily Touch is about. Building something inside yourself that nobody can take away. Even when the walls come down.If you want help building that, that is exactly what we do inside Tend. Doors close Sunday March 29th: maraglatzel.com/tendMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to the Daily Touch.Today we are talking about readiness.Specifically, the version of readiness most of us are waiting for. The hell yes. The moment when every single part of you is on board, confident, prepared, and certain. The moment when you finally feel ready.Here is what I know after fifteen years of working with clients through every kind of transition imaginable. That moment does not exist. I have never once seen it. What I have seen is people who are scared and uncertain and still take the step anyway.So if you have been hovering, waiting for the perfect sign that you are ready, this one is for you.51% is enough. An ounce more in the camp of yes than no. That is workable. That is enough to begin.If this is landing and you are sitting at 51% wondering about Tend, doors close Sunday March 29th. Join us here!xMaraMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome to something new.The Daily Touch is a short audio transmission I created for Tend, my 12-week group coaching program, and I am sharing it here because I think you need it too.If you are so burnt out that you cannot even ask yourself what you need, this one is for you. If you have been telling yourself you are too far gone, too exhausted, too behind to start, this one is for you. If you have been waiting for the perfect moment to finally get back to yourself, this one is especially for you.Because here is what I know. There will always be something to put your care on the other side of. The road to your radiant aliveness is not paved by one massive overhaul. It is paved by one small, doable thing. And then another. And then another.So that is your dare today. One thing. Under ten minutes. That is it.If this resonates and you want more of this kind of support, the doors to Tend are open through March 29th. Come do this work with me: maraglatzel.com/tendxxMaraMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now.I want to talk about the needy woman.You know her. She is the trope. The hungry ghost who wants and wants and wants and is never satisfied. The one who is a bummer to be in a relationship with. The one whose needs are framed as the problem.Here is what I know after more than a decade of doing this work: Your needs are not the problem. Your needs are the solution. And honestly? You might actually need to be a little needier.In this episode I am getting into why so many of us were conditioned from such an early age to divorce ourselves from our needs, what happens when we stuff all of that down for years (hint: it does not go away, it just waits behind a very full closet door), and what the tornado of unexpressed need actually is and where it comes from.I also share something really personal about my own journey. I used to be someone who left every party and immediately called a friend to ask, was I okay? I used to pick myself last. I used to white knuckle everything around me trying to create safety from the outside in.And I want to tell you what changed.Because getting into right relationship with your needs is not just about learning to ask for things. It is about becoming your own secure base. It is about reaching your hands into that tornado and holding the youngest part of yourself and saying, I am not afraid of you. I am not going anywhere.That is the work. And I am so glad we get to do it together.I also share something new I am adding to Tend this spring called the Daily Touch, and between now and when enrollment closes I will be releasing a daily audio transmission right here on the podcast so you can get a taste of what it feels like to be supported in this way.Come find me. I want to hear your yeah-buts. You can reach me at [email protected], on Instagram at @maraglatzel, or drop a comment on YouTube.MaraEPISODE TIMESTAMPS 💞00:00 The needy woman trope and why it is a lie 02:29 How we are taught from childhood to suppress our needs 04:51 What happens when you stuff your needs away for years 06:47 The tornado of unexpressed need and where it actually comes from 09:03 Why we need someone to reach in and hold us in that place 11:31 What happens when we have no role models for expressing needs 14:34 Becoming your own secure base and what that freedom actually feels like 16:45 The moment I could no longer make myself fine 20:31 Why people are afraid to do this work (and what I say to that) 24:42 The oldest sister problem and how deep the grooves of over-functioning go 29:20 Introducing the Daily Touch and what is coming this weekMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now.This episode is a follow-up to our last conversation about knowing your needs and what they have to do with your self-care and self-trust. And today I am getting into something I hear all the time.I know what I need. I even asked for it. And they said no.So what now?This is such a tender and real place to be. And I want to walk you through it honestly, starting with who is actually responsible for what when it comes to getting your needs met in any relationship.Here is the short version: it is your job to know what you need and to ask for it out loud. It is their job to assess their capacity and respond. And then it is your job to tolerate their response and figure out what to do next.I know. I know that is not the answer most of us want. I did not want that to be the answer either. I spent a long time waiting for someone to just figure out what I needed and deliver it. But taking responsibility for my own needs, really owning it, has been the most freeing thing I have ever done for myself.In this episode I get personal. I share my own experience with a really big, really vulnerable need for physical touch, what it looked like to stop being angry at other people for not meeting that need, and how I learned to get creative about meeting it myself. Including, yes, an electric blanket and a very beloved hot water bottle.I also talk about the dual list practice I use inside Tend: how to get a need met with others, and how to get that same need met by yourself, so you are never completely adrift when someone says no.This is the work. And I am so glad we get to do it together.If you want to go deeper, this is exactly what we work on inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program. Enrollment is open now through March 20th. I would love to have you. Learn more at maraglatzel.com/tendxMaraHot moments in this episode: 00:00 The question I hear all the time: I need it but they won't give it to me 02:22 Who is responsible for what when asking for your needs 04:50 Your job is to tolerate their response and decide what to do next 07:15 Why so many of us are waiting to be rescued from our own needs 09:29 Why taking responsibility for yourself is actually the most freeing thing 11:50 My big personal example: a voracious need for physical touch 14:08 Getting creative about meeting your needs with and without others 16:31 The dual list practice: met with others vs. met by yourself 18:51 How warmth became my strategy (and why I am now a bath person) 23:32 Why insight is not enough and what actually has to changeMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!If you've been trying all the self-care things and still feel burnt out, depleted, or like the last person on your own list — this episode is for you.In this episode, I break down why prescriptive self-care (the bath, the walk, the list of 10 things) so often fails, and what it actually takes to build a life that nourishes you: identifying your real needs, unlearning the stories that told you those needs were too much, and learning to stay by your own side even when it's uncomfortable.Tune in to hear me jam about... Why burnout since 2020 has changed everything — and why one bath can't fix itThe 3-step process for building self-attunement, self-trust, and self-advocacyInner child work, emotional literacy, and why most of us were never taught this"Pancaking out" — what self-abandonment actually looks likeWhy doing this work in community changes everything"You cannot advocate for what you can't identify."This is the foundation of everything I teach. Whether you're new to my work or coming back to the beginning, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.Timestamps:00:00 Understanding Self-Care and Its Challenges03:39 The Importance of Identifying Needs06:40 Building Self-Trust and Advocacy09:55 Developing Skills for Self-Attunement12:37 Unlearning Cultural Conditioning15:32 Navigating Discomfort and Self-Advocacy18:54 Creating Community and Support21:39 Embracing Your Humanity and NeedsMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I unpack the online debate about “bare minimum” versus “princess treatment,” and why the tender, specific care I crave, like coffee made exactly how I like it and thoughtful acts of attention, can feel both necessary and out of reach. I explore why so many of us want our partners to meet our needs without being asked... pointing to burnout (especially for oldest daughters and lifelong caregivers), romcom-driven expectations that love means mind-reading, and cultural conditioning in a capitalist, colonial, white supremacist, patriarchal overculture that teaches people, especially women and those socialized as girls, to minimize their needs to stay safe and belong. Tune in to hear my own story of being a stranger to myself, chasing self-improvement plan after self-improvement plan, and feeling resentful when others did not “handle it” for me. And, ultimately, how I came to understanding that my needs are my responsibility and I do not have to earn the care that I have ached for. Anchored in my core philosophy, even here, even now, I focus on small, doable acts of self-attunement and bespoke self-care, and I explain how the being really-really-really good at for caring for others is a transferrable skill. (Meaning, you can learn how to give it to yourself, babe!) 00:00 Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment: The Internet Debate03:10 Why We Crave Mind-Reading Love (and Romcom Expectations)05:29 “Your Needs Are Your Responsibility" Even if you're a Burned-Out Caregiver10:27 Cultural Conditioning, Safety, and the Belief You’re Allowed to Have Needs13:28 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Knowing: My Burnout Story19:05 You Don’t Have to Earn Care: Even Here, Even Now22:43 How to Start Giving Yourself Bespoke Care (Small Daily Choices)23:38 Invitation to My Free 90-minute Workshop, Princess Treatment, on February 27th!25:30 Closing: You Deserve This Kind of Care 💞My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I dive into one of my favorite concepts concept -- 'return to sender.' Tune in to hear me discuss how we receive and internalize harmful messages from oppressive societal systems over the course of our lives, and emphasize the importance of prioritizing our own needs and authenticity as we reject the messages that do not align with how we *want* to be living.Highlighting the struggle of feeling guilt and shame in prioritizing self-care, I encourage you to recognize and send back toxic beliefs, advocating for a balanced life where self-nourishment supports sustained contributions to others.Timestamps00:42 Understanding the Over Culture02:01 Embracing Your (True) Needs, Wants & Beliefs04:16 The Concept of 'Return to Sender'06:09 Winter Camp: A Case Study08:25 Challenging Social Norms09:55 Personal Reflections and Socialization12:04 The Importance of Self-Care, especially during the winter seasonMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I jam about my *concerns* with traditional New Year's resolutions, examining how the overculture pushes us into setting unattainable goals and highlighting the importance of weaving self-compassion into our commitments. It is my deepest hope that this episode supports you in rethinking the winter season as a time of rest and nourishment rather than making drastic changes. You are not a problem to be fixed! You are a human being in deep need of restoration and tender care!Join me as I advocate for setting realistic, deeply rooted intentions based on genuine desires and needs, rather than societal pressures. This episode will provide insights about how to create sustainable, self-loving commitments for the year ahead.Timestamps:00:00 My Feelings About New Year's Resolutions 🤭01:37 Wintering and the Timing of Resolutions04:56 The Big Problem with Resolutions07:14 Granting Yourself a Fresh Start Anytime You Need it11:05 Toxic Productivity Culture18:55 Setting Doable CommitmentsMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode, I reflect on how the winter season and the phases of the moon teach me to embrace periods of rest and transformation. I share my personal journey through challenging times, including a shattered ankle injury that forced me to reconsider my self-worth beyond productivity and navigate the cultural pressures that tie our value to constant doing.The question is, who are YOU when you are not serving others or achieving visible results? Let's get into it :) There is incredible power to letting go, nourishing ourselves, and setting boundaries during the quieter months and invite you to use this season to set intentions and care for yourself in ways that support a vibrant, fulfilling year ahead.Timestamps 0:00 — I introduce the episode and the theme of reframing winter.1:54 — I celebrate the value of unseen, internal transformation.4:34 — I open up about my own “goo phase” and personal struggles.5:35 — I draw lessons from nature and the moon’s cycles.7:22 — Who am I when I’m not being productive?8:41 — I share the story of my ankle injury and its impact on my identity.11:15 — I examine how society links self-worth to doing, especially for women and those of us assigned female at birth or raised as girls.13:58 — I encourage finding community and support during introspective times.19:43 — I talk about committing to one supportive practice for the year24:21 — I discuss setting intentions for a nourished, vibrant year ahead.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this podcast episode, I delve into my life-long journey of transforming my relationship with the winter season. Once dreading the cold and darkness, I have learned to reframe this time of year as as an opportunity for deep self-connection by asking myself the question "what is this season BEST for?" Tune in to hear me reflect on my past, including my struggles with childhood fears and postpartum experiences of grappling with fear of the dark. I emphasize the importance of how meeting ourselves in the dark fosters self-trust. Towards the end of the episode, I share my own delightfully practical ways to enjoy winter, such as taking a social media break, engaging in cozy activities, and reconnecting with my inner light. The episode encourages YOU to reconsider their approach to winter and find joy and meaning in this quieter, darker time of year.00:17 Reimagining the Winter Season01:33 Winter Camp: Meeting Yourself the Dark02:09 Personal Journey with Darkness05:14 The Winter Solstice and Seasonal Reflections06:33 Cultural Expectations vs. Natural Rhythms09:35 Winter as a Time for Self-Connection13:13 Practical Tips for a Cozy Winter19:10 Reconnecting with Inner Light and Warmth22:13 Invitation to ReflectMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. I’m Mara, your host, and today’s episode is a deeply personal reflection on how we navigate overwhelming times, hold space for grief, and find our unique role in the world. I share my own struggles, insights, and the ongoing journey of learning to care for myself while showing up for my community. If you’re someone who feels the weight of responsibility, this episode is for you. (Ahem, eldest sisters to the front.)Timestamps & Highlights:0:00 – Opening thoughts: waking up to grim news and emotional overwhelm3:38 – Crying in the driveway. Maybe you need to cry too?6:41 – The pressure to minimize our needs in the face of the overwhelming need of the people around us10:55 – The “group project” fear: why it's really hard to trust others to do their part 😬13:51 – Learning to be honest about our capacity if we want to be in community17:24 – The unreasonable expectation to be good at everything, and how to let that go21:04 – My journey into local activism: choosing affordable housing as my “corner” of the work24:36 – Using my voice and skills to make an impact, and letting go of what isn’t mine to carry (I know, yikes and ugh)29:13 – The power of doing your one thing: how doing less can actually mean doing more (and more sustainably)Thank you for listening and for being part of this space. Remember, you don’t have to do everything—just your one thing matters.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I (Mara Glatzel) am joined by the incredible Beatriz Victoria Albina—functional medicine nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified somatic life coach, host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and author of the forthcoming book End Emotional Outsourcing.We dive deep into the concept of emotional outsourcing—a term Beatriz created to describe the intersection of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. We talk about how so many of us habitually look outside ourselves for safety, worth, and belonging, and the toll that takes on our authenticity and agency. Beatriz shares personal stories and practical examples of how these patterns show up in everyday life, from over-apologizing and avoiding conflict to feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions.We explore the roots of these behaviors, tracing them back to childhood survival strategies and the impact of larger systems like patriarchy and capitalism. Beatriz offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing approach, encouraging us to meet ourselves with tenderness and understanding rather than blame.She introduces her BRAVE framework for reclaiming self-trust and presence: Body first, Recognize the outsourcing, Ask what I want, Voice a small act of self-loyalty, and Encourage yourself like a best friend. We discuss the challenges and discomfort that come with setting boundaries and prioritizing our own needs, and how to support ourselves through those moments.We also talk about Beatriz’s new book, the importance of pre-orders, and the joy of celebrating even the tiniest steps toward self-connection. This conversation is full of warmth, humor, and actionable wisdom for anyone ready to move from emotional outsourcing to anchored selfhood.Interesting Points of Conversation:0:00 — Introduction and why this Bea's work resonates so deeply with me2:00 — Beatriz introduces herself and her (amazing) work3:45 — What is emotional outsourcing? Why Beatriz coined the term5:30 — The cost of sourcing worth, safety, and belonging from outside ourselves8:00 — Real-life examples of emotional outsourcing in relationships and at work13:45 — The seesaw of resentment and self-neglect; taking on the therapist role17:00 — The roots of these patterns in childhood survival strategies22:00 — The impact of societal systems (patriarchy, capitalism) on our sense of self25:20 — The BRAVE framework for reclaiming self-trust and presence30:00 — How to support yourself through the discomfort of setting boundaries35:00 — The importance of self-compassion, celebration, and tiny “kitten steps"47:45 — Details about Beatriz’s new book, pre-order bonuses, and where to find more of her workMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode, I’m diving deep into what it really means to trust ourselves—like, truly, deeply, in a way that you can feel in your bones. I talk about how self-trust isn’t just a nice idea, but the foundation for knowing when to push forward and when to give yourself a break. I share my own struggles with consistency (and how it’s definitely not about being perfect), and why honoring our human needs matters so much, especially in a world that’s always pushing us to do more.We’ll get into the messy, beautiful reality of self-care—how sometimes we only let ourselves rest when we’ve hit a wall, and how we can start to change that. I’ll also talk about the cycles of energy and capacity we all go through, and why it’s totally normal not to be “on” all the time.Plus, I’ll share why it’s so powerful to let others in on what you need, and how community can help us all show up as our fullest selves. My hope is that you’ll walk away from this episode feeling a little more seen, a little more trusting of yourself, and a lot more willing to center your own well-being.Here are some moments you might want to jump to:0:00 Why I call this “soft animal anarchy” and what’s changing for me2:10 The tension between productivity and honoring our bodies5:28 The cycle of burnout and “emergency self-care”8:15 My lifelong struggle with consistency (& why it’s not about perfection)13:29 How to cooperate with your body instead of fighting it16:29 Why honesty about your capacity is a radical act21:09 The real meaning of self-trust and how it changes everything25:20  How our needs and capacity ebb and flow (& that’s okay)30:20 Centering this work in your life and communityxoMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I explore the concept of changing your life through a framework of radical self-responsibility and self-love. Fresh from a wild sales call experience where I was dumped for not being "driven" enough when I expressed a great love for my life as it is now (even as there were aspects that I'm working on), I reflect on the problematic nature of sales techniques that prey on our pain points and instead advocate for a more compassionate approach to self-improvement. I dive into the importance of having 'change conversations' with ourselves to identify what isn’t working and to align actions with our personal desires and capacities. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, I aim to guide you in making meaningful changes in your life from a place of deep trust and care.If there is one thing I know it's that you can love your life and want to change something, without beating yourself up or reverting to using shame as a motivator to get where you want to go.00:14 The Sales Call Experience 🤭02:20 Understanding Change Conversations03:21 The Roost Change Framework06:09 Personal Reflections on Change11:20 Next up for me: Pouring more energy into my busines19:48 Concluding Thoughts on Self-Trust and ChangeMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of the newly rebranded 'Even Here, Even Now' podcast, host Mara Glatzel shares her thoughts on the importance of radical self-responsibility and reconnecting with one's needs, especially in the current socio-political climate. She discusses the shift from focusing on the 'Needy Podcast' to embracing a more present and empowered approach towards self-responsibility and community care. Mara emphasizes the need for nurturing one's inner ecosystem to be able to contribute meaningfully to broader societal change. 00:00 Welcome Back to the Podcast00:36 The Importance of Self-Work02:59 Introducing 'Even Here, Even Now'03:23 Personal Reflections on Needs and Self-Care06:38 Breaking the Pattern of Self-Neglect09:40 The Value of Self-Care Beyond Productivity12:32 The Interplay of Self and Community Care21:51 Radical Self-Responsibility23:30 Changes to the Podcast Format25:32 Engaging with YOU26:44 Invitation to ConnectMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!The Importance of Self Care That Actually WorksIn this episode of the Needy Podcast, I return after a year-long hiatus to discuss the essence of self-care that truly supports individual needs. I talk about my upcoming free workshop titled 'Self Care That Actually Works' scheduled for September 25th. I differentiate my approach to self-care from the prescriptive methods often sold online, emphasizing the need for responsive and present self-care practices. I share my personal journey of developing a self-care routine that helps me meet life's demands in a sustainable way, such as waking up early to watch the sunrise and engaging in varied physical activities. The discussion highlights the importance of creating routines that are adaptable to one's current emotional and physical state, ultimately aiming to provide a framework for showing up fully and compassionately for oneself.00:00 Welcome Back to the Needy Podcast01:46 Introducing the Self-Care Workshop02:31 Redefining Self-Care03:56 The Importance of Responsive Self-Care06:18 Personal Self-Care Practices10:42 Creating a Routine That Works15:09 The Why Behind My Self-Care Routine20:16 Final Thoughts and Workshop InvitationMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How can we untangle ourselves from productivity culture without leaving our big dreams, goals, and interests behind?In this episode, Dr. Kate Henry joins me to talk about slow productivity, an approach she learned and developed after being diagnosed with a chronic illness at a pivotal moment in her life.Dr. Kate Henry is a Productivity Coach who specializes in sustainable and well-being oriented productivity. She holds an MFA in creative writing and a PhD in rhetoric and composition. In addition to her work as a productivity coach, Dr. Henry is an independent researcher and author of the book Tend to It: A Holistic Guide to Intentional Productivity.Tune in to hear more about…The practice of untying worth from productivityThe grief around letting go of achievementThe Venn Diagram of slow productivityBody doubling and co-working as helpful productivity toolsKate’s favorite slow productivity tools & best practicesExperimenting with roles & boundaries that work for youHang out with KateVisit Kate’s WebsiteRead Kate’s Book Tend to It: A Holistic Guide to Intentional ProductivitySubscribe to Kate’s Substack TendingResourcesDownload the Finch AppLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How can we let stories from the past transform our relationship to the present?In this episode, I’m joined by Ronna Detrick for a thoughtful and moving conversation about the power of reclaiming sacred stories. We discuss her passion for writing, reinterpreting the Bible, and reconnecting with historical stories in a more meaningful and honest way.Ronna Detrick (she/her) left the church and its dogma nearly twenty years ago but took the stories of women with her. She has combined her love of writing with a diverse and winding career that has included coaching, spiritual direction, professional development training, corporate leadership, and entrepreneurship. She holds both a Master of Divinity degree and a Certificate in Spiritual Direction from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.Tune in to hear us discuss…Ronna’s current writing process & how it helps her connect with herself more deeplyThe surprising benefits of closing your eyes while typingThe house of cards that led to Ronna’s deconstructing her belief systemThe power in reclaiming the stories of women that have been misconstruedMary of Bethany & what she teaches us about prioritizing our needsHang out with RonnaVisit Ronna’s WebsiteFollow Ronna on InstagramFollow Ronna on FacebookPre-Order Ronna’s Book Rewriting Eve: Rescuing Women’s Stories from the Bible and Reclaiming Them As Our OwnGet the Intuitive Muse DeckBook a Sacred ReadingLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Is it possible to have a relationship with our children that is mutually respectful? How do we push against societal messages saying that being a parent means having no needs?In today’s episode, Jen Lumanlan, the founder of "Your Parenting Mojo," is here to share her wisdom on meeting our needs and those of our children. Together, we delve into the delicate balance between safety and autonomy as parents, exploring how to set boundaries that respect our own needs while honoring our children's independence.Jen is a researcher, parenting coach, and author. After becoming a parent, she went back to school for a masters in education and psychology focusing on child development to better understand why parents and children face the challenges they do. Her podcast (named the best research-based parenting podcast by LifeHacker) and new book, “Parenting Beyond Power” discuss the societal influences that make parenting hard and why we shouldn’t see problems as individual failings.Tune in to hear more about…How to communicate with our children and find solutions that truly benefit everyone involvedThe importance of involving the child in decision-makingThe exaggeration of safety risks and labeling things as safety issuesPerfectionism as a way of seeking love and acceptanceQuestioning perpetuation of harmful systems and seeking changeHang out with JenOrder Jen’s BookVisit Jen’s WebsiteFollow Jen on InstagramListen to Your Parenting Mojo on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyResources from this episodeTake Jen’s needs quiz to learn about your needs as a parentand my needs quiz if you want my support in learning how to nourish your needsLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Do you find yourself wanting to prioritize creativity but feeling like you don’t know where to start? How have societal structures and norms impacted your relationship with your wild creative self?In this episode, Shereen Sun (they/them) joins me to discuss the many reasons we disconnect from our creative selves and how they’re helping others reconnect to their radiant Wildhearts.Shereen is an artist, author, and acclaimed mentor who specializes in creativity and self-actualization. They have spent their life living on the margins, inviting the creative spirits of others to come out and play. They believe that everyone deserves access to the revolutionary healing power of the arts.Tune in to hear us discuss...Creativity as a wellness practiceThe myth of the wide open space for creativity and making space for play where we canThe importance of healing our childhood creative woundsShereen’s suggestions for creating a consistent creative practiceThe importance of focusing on the process rather than the end productHang out with Shereen...Visit Shereen’s WebsiteListen to Wildheart RadioOrder Radiant Wildheart: A Guide to Awaken Your Inner Artist and Live Your Creative MissionFollow Shereen on InstagramLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!It can be difficult to speak up for ourselves in relationships, especially when we've experienced heartache or lost friends in the past. But, as you’ll hear from today’s guest Katherine Sleadd, recognizing our needs and communicating them honestly can lead to deeper connections, even in the midst of conflict.Katherine is a trauma informed coach, currently pursuing her masters in counseling psychology. She is the author of How to Be a Bad Friend: The Hidden Life of Failed Relationships, a book all about friendship and friend breakups. Her work is focused on growing people’s capacity to understand and reconnect with their desire, like you would an old friend.Tune in to hear us discuss...How conflict is necessary for growth for ourselves and our relationshipsNoticing when we’re overworking in relationships and taking a break if neededRecognizing personal history and how it affects behavior in relationshipsNot ghosting yourself when you’ve been ghostedHang out with Katherine...Buy How to Be a Bad Friend: The Hidden Life of Failed RelationshipsVisit Katherine’s WebsiteFollow Katherine on InstagramLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Have you ever stayed up late for just one more Netflix episode, knowing it’s robbing you of the rest you need? Or abandoned your much-needed afternoon walk when a partner or colleague asked why you hadn’t taken it yet?In today’s episode, I welcome back Rosie Molinary for a heartfelt and deeply honest conversation about the ways we’ve sabotaged our chances of getting our needs met as a means of getting back at those who didn’t meet them.Rosie is an activist, author, speaker, and radical self-acceptance champion. She offers workshops and retreats, speaking on self-acceptance, body image, self-care, media literacy, the Latina experience, and intentional living. She also provides retreat facilitation and consultation to companies and brands that wish to provide a synergistic, empowered and soulful experience to their clients and employees as they serve the world.Tune in to hear us discuss...The power of a mental health walkDiscerning when delight needs to shift into careThe helpfulness of sharing your intentions with othersThe various reasons we abandon ourselves and our needsClaiming the needs we want to distance ourselves fromHang out with Rosie...Visit Rosie’s WebsiteOrder Rosie’s BooksFollow Rosie on InstagramLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do you show up in times of contraction? Do you question why you’re tired or not feeling something? Do you try to force yourself to work the same ways you do in times of expansion?In this solo episode, I share how I’m feeling after three expansive years of writing, editing, promoting, and launching my book. And I reflect on how I’m learning to manage the necessary period of contraction that has followed.If you struggle to give yourself permission to embrace ease after times of great effort, this episode is for you.Tune in to hear more about...Examining how we show up when “it don’t come easy”Cutting ourselves some slack as we expand and contractFocusing on what’s coming easily and working well at the momentMeeting ourselves where we are in times of contractionGiving ourselves permission to say difficult things out loud and in the presence of other peopleResources...Order my book Needy from your favorite indie bookstore or from AmazonLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!If you’re struggling to connect with your authentic self and prioritize what you need most, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.Today, I’m talking with Vasavi Kumar. Vasavi is a therapist, podcast host, and author of the book Say It Out Loud. As a first generation Indian immigrant raised in Long Island, New York, she has relentlessly searched to find her own voice, access the freedom of her creative spirit and help others along the way.Together, we have a conversation that flows from Vasavi’s tough day and illustrates how important it is to say the thing you need to say out loud.Tune in to hear us discuss...Putting yourself and your needs first, even when you feel selfishThe comfort in being able to fall back on the power of your own voice when making hard decisionsProtecting your energy by showing up authenticallySpeaking out loud to ourselves as a way to recognize how we feel about the situations we’re inHang out with Devon...Pre-Order Vasavi’s Book Say It Out LoudVisit Vasavi’s WebsiteFollow Vasavi on InstagramListen to the Say It Out Loud PodcastResources...The Feelings WheelLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do we engage with our feelings without being overwhelmed by the multitude of our emotions?In this episode, I’m joined by Devon Loftus, an author and writer who finds inspiration in the human experience. She believes that emotions are important messengers, a universal language of humanity that connects us to ourselves and others.Together, we have a heartfelt conversation about processing our feelings in new and expansive ways. And Devon shares how she names, sits with, and says goodbye to her emotions.Tune in to hear us discuss...Unpacking how we “should” feel vs how we actually feelDevon’s favorite emotionsThe power in using our voices in a true & authentic wayBreaking down the often catch-all term of “tired”What it means to “say goodbye” to our emotions when we’re tempted to over-identify with themHang out with Devon...Order Devon’s New Book DwellFollow Devon on InstagramVisit Devon’s WebsiteRead More from Devon with Her Newsletter on SubstackLearn More About Moon Cycle BakeryResources...Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan CainLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Taking time away, especially time away abroad, can feel impossible when we consider our busy, demanding lives. But if all we are is busy and in-demand, are we really experiencing life?Today, I’m joined by Jane Reeves, and we discuss the importance of taking time away to have real, uninhibited, guiltless fun in a place where you can step away from the stressors of your daily life.Jane is an international retreat leader, author, yoga and meditation teacher. She is also the founder of Radiant Jane retreats. She and her team lead retreats to Italy where guests experience restoration through the culture of Italy, art history, cuisine, self love, pleasure, laughter, connection, yoga and meditation while being surrounded by beauty.Tune in to hear us discuss...How stepping away can show us how much support we really haveHow Jane has seen people change post-pandemicFood as a healing community experienceA bit about the experiences we’ll have on the Italy tripRe-learning to receive and create retreat in our daily livesHang out with Jane...Join us on the Italy Retreat!Buy Jane’s Book A Heart of GoldVisit Jane’s WebsiteFollow Jane on InstagramLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!So much responsibility is placed on caregivers, including the heaviness of carrying the mental load. But you don’t have to be resigned to the overwhelm of domestic labor, and your family can be full of equitable relationships.Today, I’m joined by Laura Danger for a long overdue conversation about the burden of being the default parent, the challenge of meeting your needs while caring for others, and how to handle renegotiating household norms.Laura is a licensed educator coach, content creator, and certified Fair Play facilitator who has been facilitating and educating in Chicago for over 12 years. Laura facilitates workshops and retreats, coaches individuals and couples, and creates educational content in an effort to create a more equitable world.Tune in to hear us discuss...Routine as a foundation for taking care of yourselfBoundaries as relationship saviorsHow not asking is giving yourself a “no”Why both partners are responsible for the home, even if only one works outside itThe CIPE methodHang out with Laura...Visit Laura’s WebsiteFollow Laura on InstagramLaura's favorite resources...Nedra Tawwab’s book Set Boundaries, Find PeaceFollow Nedra Tawwab on InstagramFair Play Life — Website, Books, Documentary, and moreMother Brain by Chelsea CanaboyHow We Show Up by Mia BirdsongThe Mom Room podcast with Rene ReinaLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!It can be tempting to lean solely on ourselves when we’re struggling and to hide what we’re going through from the world. But what if that’s the opposite of what we need? And connection is the medicine necessary for healing?Today, I’m joined by best-selling author Laura McKowen. Together we discuss how being honest about her needs helped her embrace sobriety and re-build her life.Laura is the founder of The Luckiest Club, an international sobriety support community. She has been published in the New York Times and her work has been featured in The Atlantic, the Wall Street Journal, The Today Show, and more. Her second book, Push Off from Here: Nine Essential Truths to Get You Through Sobriety and Everything Else releases on March 7.Join us as we discuss...How connection can help us work through addictionHow neediness can reflect back to us the truth of what we areBeing the piece of shit at the center of the universeThe strength in saying “I need you”Laura’s upcoming book and how it felt to write it with her needs in mindHang out with Laura...Visit Laura’s WebsiteFollow Laura on Instagram Pre-order Push Off from Here: Nine Essential Truths to Get You Through Sobriety and Everything ElseLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Today’s episode is a little different than usual… To celebrate the upcoming release of my book, Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs & Claim Your Sovereignty, I’m stepping into the interviewee seat! And my friend Jennie Alexis joins us as interviewer to ask me questions about needs and wants, writing my book, parenting, and more. Jennie Alexis is a marketing strategist and podcast host who works with trailblazers, leaders and creative entrepreneurs by helping them share, promote and talk about their business in a way that honors their humanity before anything else.Join us as we discuss...How to accept compliments & offers of supportWhere the desire to write Needy came fromOur histories of suppressing needs to avoid rejectionThe importance of wants in relation to needsThe issues with idyllic self-careQuestioning why being “needy” is considered embarrassingWhere to start if you want to begin tending to your needsHow guts, hormones & glucose are teaching me about my needs latelyRaising needy childrenResources: Pre-order Needy hereFollow Mara on InstagramHang out with Jennie Alexis: Visit Jennie’s websiteListen to Jennie’s podcast, This is Jennie AlexisFollow Jennie on InstagramLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Understanding our needs, especially the need for safety, can be challenging. So in today’s episode, I am talking with Jake Ernst about the personal and social experiences of our needs, safety, and more.Jake is a therapist, writer, educator, and content creator. He's the Clinical Director of Straight Up Health, a mental health clinic for young people and their families. He's also the host of his own podcast called This Isn't Therapy.Together, we have a deeply insightful and honest conversation about what’s happening in our brains as we move through our lives every day.Tune in to hear us also discuss:Mapping our brains as it relates to various levels of needsThe myth that everything needs to be solvedThe hard work of clarifying what’s true from the past and what’s true in the presentThe eight routes to safetyBalancing the competing needs of safety and stretchThe things we will always carry with usThe system-strengthening power of breath workLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Hang out with Jake:Visit Jake’s WebsiteFollow Jake @mswjake on InstagramListen to the This Isn’t Therapy PodcastJoin Lately.Learn More About Straight Up HealthMy BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!What are the things we do to feel safe that ultimately don’t serve our true selves?Today, I'm sharing my 2023 intention: It is safe to be who & how I am. And I’m reflecting on how often I’ve weaponized my competence to make myself indispensable to others. As well as how doing that disavows my own worth and reinforces the idea that I can make myself “safe” by earning my way into relationships.Tune in to hear more about...Weaponized incompetence & the things we pretend we can’t doWeaponized competence & the many ways we wield our strengths to earn social capitalThe illusion of earning “safety” by being goodThe experience that forced me to receive without givingHow our competence robs us of levity & joyThe “shoulds” that came up in my book writing processReleasing our fear that we’re not good enough as we areLearning to feel safe enough, even amidst discomfortLinks:Preorder my book Needy & claim your delicious bonusesLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Living in step with what our bodies are trying to tell us can be a difficult thing to learn. How do we trust the feelings in our body? And how can we practice tracking those sensations and be present with the language our body is speaking?Today, I’m joined by writer and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, Molly Caro May. Together, we discuss how to tune in to ourselves, so we can commit to the things that excite us most and leave the things that don’t behind.Molly is the author of two books, teacher, and the holder of space for 13 plus years. She has facilitated personal story workshops for more than hundreds of people across the globe. She is trained in somatic experiencing and focuses on where language and voice and the animal body meet each other. Her mission is to democratize expression and explore in good company the healing alchemy between story and nervous system.Tune in to hear more about...The growth edge of uncomfortable but tolerableHaving a working understanding of yourselfThe stories we carry about our needsBalancing the consequences of divesting from grind cultureDelighting in your own pace and timingHang out with Molly...Visit Molly’s WebsiteOrder Body Full of Stars and The Map of EnoughJoin Molly’s Bi-Monthly NewsletterJoin Molly’s Membership, The LoamLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!What does it look like to live collaboratively with the world around us? And how do we get in touch with our inner magic?Today, I’m joined by Mimi Young for our final guest episode of 2022. Mimi is an Animist Spirit Medium and owner of Ceremonie, a brand focused on intuition and spirit connection, reawakening us to embodied living with the visible and invisible. She offers a variety of courses, readings, and products with a focus on increasing one’s understanding of and connection to psychic language.Together, Mimi and I discuss animism, spiritual healing, being rather than doing, how we invite our children to live more collaboratively, and even a bit about Mimi’s muggle home. Tune in to remember how to rebuild your relationship with yourself and why our inner and outer worlds are deeply interconnected. Tune in to hear more about...Searching for safety in quiet, solitude, and natureRebuilding relationship with ourselvesCultivating a rich inner worldThe beautiful basics of animismKnowing yourself, getting lost, and finding yourself againLearning to trust the intangibleNeeds as alliesHang out with Mimi...Visit the Ceremonie WebsiteSign Up for Mimi’s Mailing ListFollow Ceremonie on InstagramLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do we stay connected to what we want to create and what we need to take care of?Today, I'm continuing to pull back the curtain on how we hold dreams, make decisions, and move forward with a nod - always - to our own capacity.Join me as I discuss what I’ve learned about maintaining a sustainable life, and giving myself what I need in order to fulfill my inner desires. Tune in to hear more about...The importance of role models for this kind of thinkingGetting clear about what we want and need by building a robust relationship with ourselvesPrioritizing by desire & circumstanceSaying “yes” with sustainability in mindThe story behind the creation of my enjoyment-focused Tuscany RetreatIntroducing my new course, Roost, and what inspired its conceptionDeciding what your life is actually forLinks:Retreat with me in TuscanyJoin me for Roost in 2023 Check out my other coursesLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Some days it feels like we’ve been collectively burnt out since 2020. So how do we find our way back to ourselves after more than two years of distraction and dissociation? And how do we create under these conditions?Asha Frost is an Indigenous (Ojibwe) Medicine Woman, and a member of the Chippewas of Nawash First Nation. She is the bestselling author of You Are the Medicine and has guided thousands of people through profound and lasting transformation. She is from the Crane Clan, the totem of leadership, and believes in holding space from vision and heart as an energy healer, homeopath and mentor.In today’s episode, Asha joins me to discuss collective and individual care in the face of capitalism, colonialism and everything that pulls us away from ourselves. She also shares how she cultivates creativity under less-than-ideal conditions, and why she returns to the medicine wheel to learn to flow with the cycles of creation.Tune In to Hear More About:The grounding practice of a daily walkThe damage residential schools have on Indigenous children & their familiesFlowing with the cycle of creationFinding beauty in the death & rest phases of the cycle of creationThe challenge of knowing when to say “yes” and “no” to thingsHow to listen to our bodies when they tell us enough is enough Hang Out with Asha:Visit Asha’s WebsitePre-order the Sacred Medicine Oracle DeckFollow Asha on Instagram @asha.frostOrder You Are the MedicineLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!We live in a world that doesn’t respect cyclical energy rhythms. And that makes it so hard to sit with the natural contractions that come after periods of expansion.In today’s episode, I talk about how I’m slowing down to process my current contraction & what happens when we try to override these cycles in our lives.Tune in to hear me explore…Macro & micro cyclesExpansion & creating sustainable, titrated momentumContraction & honoring your need to slow downSigns that we’re trying to override our natural cyclesTethering practices to ground you through hard timesThis episode is great for anyone who’s ever experienced burnout. Listen in if you want support feeling safe & trusting yourself while slowing down.LINKS Preorder my book Needy from your favorite indie bookstore or from AmazonLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do you feel about setting boundaries? Are you worried it may alienate you from friends, family, or loved ones?In today’s episode, Melissa Urban joins me to discuss her journey with boundaries, from learning what they really are to setting them with her close connections. Together, we also unpack how boundaries are kind (not selfish) and make us more (not less) free.Melissa Urban is the Whole30 Co-Founder and CEO, a recovered addict, New York Times best-selling author, mother, podcast host, nature churchgoer, and boundary wizard—in a nutshell. Her latest work, “The Book of Boundaries”, is available for pre-order on her website (linked below).Join us as we discuss:What boundaries really are and how they show kindness to our close connectionsThe importance of setting boundaries with yourself as an act of self-loveNavigating conflict with healthy boundariesAttachment styles in conflictThe importance of re-evaluating boundaries regularly as your life and situations changeHang Out with Melissa:Order Melissa’s Book on BoundariesVisit Melissa’s WebsiteFind Melissa on InstagramFollow Melissa on TwitterLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do you feel about “quiet quitting”? I love it. And I’ve been encouraging people to quietly quit for years, so I’m happy to see this work make it to the mainstream.In today’s episode, I unpack how to quietly quit your work, your relationships, and your constant attempts at self-improvement.Tune in to hear more about…Why we should rebrand “quiet quitting” as sustainable livingHow to recognize when your work is unsustainableWhy you should quit performing perfection for yourself or other peopleHow to release unrealistic expectationsWhy you don’t need “self-improvement”My wishlist of everything I wish we could all quiet quit right nowThis episode is great for overachievers, perfectionists and people-pleasers. Listen in if you want support quiet-quitting anything or anyone in your life.LINKSPreorder my book Needy from your favorite indie bookstore or from AmazonLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Why do we deny ourselves the grace we offer others? What makes us so “special” that we don’t deserve it, too?In today’s episode, I open up about the depths of my struggle with perfectionism. And I share how I’ve unpacked my ideas of “good work” and “success” to keep doing my work, even when its not perfect.Tune in to hear more about…The idea of “terminal specialness” and why we deny ourselves the grace we offer othersHow perfectionism becomes interwoven with professionalismMy personal Bad Place scenario that’s forced me to reevaluate what “good work” means to meWhy burnout is not a moral failingThe audacity & authenticity of showing up imperfectlyThis episode is great for anyone who feels pressure to be perfect. Listen in if you want support releasing perfectionism and giving yourself permission to be who and how you actually are.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do we balance hope and despair, expansion and collapse, survival and rest?In today’s episode, Carmen Spagnola joins me to discuss how she cultivates a small and delicious life in the face of collapse. Together we explore the realities of not being able to meet all our needs, what happens when we’re under-resourced (and what happens when we’re ecologically resourced), and the paradigm shifts we need around needs.Carmen Spagnola is a Le Cordon Bleu-trained chef turned trauma recovery practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist, and kitchen witch. As a chef, author, and facilitator, Carmen holds space for renewal amidst turmoil. Her work is an invitation to re-enchantment, soul nourishment, and a deeper and more animistic relationship to the natural world. She provides frameworks and skills to create cultures of collective care in precarious times.Tune in to hear more about…Sitting with your needs when they can’t be metFinding hope & feeling despair in our collapsing worldTaking care of ourselves in survival momentsAttachment theory and how we approach our needsRecognizing yourself as part of an ecosystemHang with Carmen...Find Carmen on InstagramVisit Carmen’s websiteListen to Carmen’s podcast, The Numinous PodcastBuy Carmen’s book, The Spirited Kitchen: Recipes & Rituals for the Wheel of the YearLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!I recently received an email from a Needy listener who wrote, “We’re taught that being mean to ourselves will make it better. But it hasn’t worked. One day we’ll unlearn it…maybe.”So in today’s episode, I’m talking about our combative relationships with ourselves, and how we can unlearn being mean to ourselves by practicing self-trust.Tune in to hear more about…Why being mean to ourselves doesn’t help us growWhy self-trust is the antidote to self-crueltyMy new vision for trustworthiness, where we don’t compare ourselves to machinesHow to develop a relationship with yourself that allows your humanity in, rather than holding your humanity at bayWhy failure is important for developing self-trustMaking space for the grief that comes when you unlearn what you’ve been taughtThis is a tender episode that’s great for anyone who struggles with their inner critic. Listen in if you want support unlearning negative self-talk, turning toward yourself with grace, and accepting your needs.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do we find our way forward when we don’t have role models or road maps?In today’s episode, Nicole Antoinette joins me to discuss how she cultivates a perpetual conversation with herself. Together we explore the pressure to conform our creativity & our careers to societal expectations, the guilt that arises around meeting our needs, and the release of letting something end.Nicole Antoinette is totally obsessed with the question of how we close the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do—without being assholes to ourselves along the way. She works as a community-funded writer (Wild Letters) and podcast host (The Pop-Up Pod), and facilitates a variety of retreats and co-working groups. Offline you can probably find Nicole in the mountains—she's a long-distance hiker with 4,700 miles of experience who loves nothing more than sitting in the dirt and eating her favorite snacks after a full day of putting one foot in front of the other.Tune in to hear more about…Cultivating community and digital intimacyStruggling to find role models for honoring desire and working differentlyHaving honest conversations with ourselvesLearning to quit negotiating with our needsAccepting how our needs shift and changeChampioning more graceful endingsHang with Nicole:Find Nicole on InstagramVisit Nicole’s websiteListen to Nicole’s podcast, The Pop-Up PodBuy Nicole’s new trail journal, What We Owe to OurselvesLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How can we have energy for the things we want to prioritize without burning out because we’ve prioritized too many things?In today’s episode, I talk about making sustainable commitments and how to decide what to devote your precious resources to. This is an invitation to say no more often, and a lesson in how to identify your priorities so saying yes feels better than ever.I also get really honest about why I re-committed to the Needy podcast after a year-long hiatus, and how I’m applying these lessons to the return of the show so it can be sustainable now and in the future.Tune in to hear more about…Three signs that a commitment is unsustainableHow to figure out what to say no to & what to say yes toThe magical thinking that we can do everything (hint: we can’t)Identifying what you need to make good on your commitmentsThe Needy podcast hiatus & our recent comeback (now with more support!)Your invitation to join The Needy Podcast Inner Circle!This episode also marks the launch of The Needy Podcast Inner Circle! If you love this show and want to support me in producing it sustainably, please consider making a one-time or monthly donation of any amount to join the Needy Inner Circle. You’ll get delicious treats, discounts for future offerings, quarterly Q&As with me, and more as thanks for your support. Join now and receive instant access to the recording of my beloved workshop, Your To-Do List Makeover. Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Where are you in the journey from maiden to mother to mature feminine? How do you know where you are or want to be?In today’s episode, Sarah Durham Wilson joins me to unpack her evolution from maiden to mother and share how she tends to her needs as she creates rites of passage for women all over the world.Sarah Durham Wilson is a women’s Rites of Passage Leader and Writer. Her offerings are rooted in Archetypal Mother work and resurrecting the Rite of Passage from Maiden to Mother. She has taught courses and led retreats for thousands of women over the past decade and works with private clients. Her first book, Maiden to Mother is out with Sounds True Publishing in June 2022.Tune in to hear more about…Longing for the rest and the play of mysteryMothering & re-mothering our children, our creations & our selvesRites for passage for moving from Maiden to Mother to Mature FeminineMara’s affirmation “I am the woman for the job”Honoring your capacity as a human and a motherThe challenges of the book-writing process & the music that nurtured our booksControl & spontaneity in our daily routinesMeeting our needs to heal our woundsLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.My BEST tools, matched to exactly what you need. Take the [free] needs quiz: needsquiz.com